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multiplicity-positivity · 9 months

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This might be kind of out of your wheelhouse, but I am really struggling w conveying something to my therapist and was wondering if u might have any resources that could help. My therapist continues to use parts language and views the others in my system as just "parts" when I've repeatedly expressed that that language does not encompass our experience. It's making it really hard to talk to her about anything system related. I am her first client w DID so I know she is still learning and I think most "surface literature" insists that system members are just parts and should not be validated as anything else. But my therapist has been really receptive and understanding to disagreements I have w medical literature in the past, so I do think I can talk to her about this and get her to change at least in the context of our sessions together. My problem is, and what I need help with, I'm autistic and really struggle with finding the right words to convey what I'm trying to say. Having resources and other things to support my discussions has always been really helpful. So I was wondering, do you know of any resources I could share with my therapist that might help me explain why I see and want her ro treat our system members as individual people w their own parts and complexity, not just parts of one person? I am also looking for any resources that talk about multiplicity beyond just DID/OSDD but thats not rlly my main concern rn. Rn I just really am struggling to find resources for DID that talk about alters as more than just parts of one, and I would really appreciate if u shared anything u know or have that combats that rhetoric. Thank you ! And if this isnt something u have any info for pls feel free to disregard this :))

Hi! We’re sorry to hear you’re going through something like this with your therapist. We actually went through something similar with our own therapist when we first started discussing our system in therapy! Our therapist would call us “parts of you” (you being the host of our system) when we did not view our system that way at all.

At the time, we did not want to be called parts. We each felt like separate people and wanted to be addressed as such. For us, it just took explaining this to our therapist to get him to start referring to us as individuals. We’ve since come back around, though, and actually prefer to be called parts or alters rather than separate people!

We think it’s most common in DID resources and literature for alters to be referred to as parts! Whether parts of a whole or parts of a team, most professionals who work with DID patients likely use parts language to treat them. We don’t actually have any resources on hand that express parts language as hurtful or damaging to those with DID (likely because that’s something that happens on a case by case basis, and usually earlier on in recovery).

But here is the NAMI Michigan DID fact sheet, which demonstrates how different alters may often act, feel, and believe they are different people.

And here’s an article on common misconceptions about DID from Beauty after Bruises. The author does use parts language, but they demonstrate that alters have depth, with varied tastes, interests, orientations, emotional responses, and other things that differentiate us as people.

Perhaps you could write a note before therapy which you could then give to your therapist explaining how each member of your system views personhood, and why you feel parts language is not beneficial for you. This way, you won’t be scrambling to find the words in your actual session, and can just pass the message along and try to answer questions afterwards. We often have to write things down before therapy so we don’t get flustered or confused or forget to bring them to our therapist’s attention!

Finally, as a system who does use parts language, we’d like to say that calling alters parts doesn’t mean denying their complexity, their individuality, or necessarily their personhood. We use parts language, but we and our therapist fully understand that each alter in our system is unique, with different wants, needs, emotional responses, and ideas about the world. Our alters are still treated as individuals, at this stage in our treatment, even though we do use parts language. We’re not saying this to convince you to be accepting of parts language - rather, we’re contradicting the assumption that parts language always means treating alters as flat, one-sided pieces of a human being. Our therapist doesn’t use parts language in this way!

It’s important in therapy for a therapist to use language that helps their patients feel comfortable, safe, and heard in their struggles and experiences. We hope that you’ll be able to effectively convey to your therapist how parts language is affecting your system! I’m sorry we didn’t have any better advice or resources for you… but we wish you the very best of luck with this!

🌸 Margo and 💫 Parker

#parts language #therapy #long post

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pageofheartdj · 9 months

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Hi! Autistic aroace anon from before! I saw your post abt ace Donnie and aro Leo (which btw, I LOVE how their colors are basically their flags? But in Leo’s case it’s his green tone)

And I totally agree!! Donnie seems to have somewhat interest in romance, like the innuendo at the Bearnardo “why I always like the cute and mean ones” and with Atomic Lass. But a teen flirty normal level (thank god, I also agree with you at the “pls they dont care yet, its hormones. Pls focus family and friends), than to actually have smth not rlly, and the arosexual part? I may be projecting a lil here. But he always seemed more interested in the flirt part than anything else.

With Leo, he liked to flirt, but more to charm the person to gain their favor than actually flirt, like in Donnie’s case. He always seemed averse, but not against it, just “yuck”. I felt that was also a normal teen reaction like “I don’t wanna get strings attached” but with smth more, a “yeah, rlly not for me” thing. I can totally see him being gray/demi aro (again projecting? I’m gray/demi aroace), since with some stuff he seems fine but with others, more exaggerated or “honeyed” ones, he gets uncomfortable. But I could understand if ppl put him on sex-repulsed full Aro in the spectrum.

It’s totally wild and funny to me how the fandom is rlly 8/80. The dynamics of both of them being switched in the fandom to fit the box idea that they created for these two is wild to me. “Oh, Donnie’s autistic and 10% of the time, specially in stressful situations, he doesn’t want to be touched? And also a genius nerd? Nah, he’s a goofy goober which the idea of relationships is totally alien and foreign to him, he totally runs from it and has 0 experience of it”. “Oh, Leo’s has narcissistic tendencies and flirted to gain favors before in specific and numbered occasions? He’s totally a flirt, believing everyone wants to date him and he’s a heartbreaker, he totally loves that attention, not uncomfortable at all”

So yeah, sorry for my lil rant, but I rlly do feel whatchu said in that post a whole lot!!

Speaking of colors, he is blue and wore that orange uniform in Air Turtles so yaknow XD

The thing is, the turtles are teens, PLUS they lived an isolated way of life. They had NO way of acting on their interests no matter if they had or didn't have any.

And also. Attraction and relationships are not connected whatsoever! They can. But they don't have to! So the allo person might not want any relationships and aspec person can want and be in one. The relationship status says NOTHING of their identity xD

And moving on to Donnie. He has crushes on fictional character and makes sense, again, no people around. But he also used this his type on Strawberry who are very real and in the moment and is very cute and is very mean to him xD Donnie has a type with real girls too. What he wants to do with this attraction and if he has any sexual attraction is unknown and obviously, it's a kid's cartoon and romance is basically a non-existant part of it(thank god xD). And anyone can hc almost any queer and not queer identity on him, because all of them can and will work xD

Same with Leo, we have some canon moments with him, but it can work for so many queer identities. He is aro as a very direct conclusion. He is grey or demi and his repulsiveness tones down if he falls for someone, etc xD He can also be just a teen who is not into romance but now it extra disgusts him. Anything can work and as long as we are not forcing our hcs on others, it's all good xD

I also hc Donnie a quick developer, he had his plastron developed first, he instalearned his mystics. He could get into the whole romance territory earlier than Leo too xD Leo might not be that enthusiastic the way Donnie is, but still!

Although Mikey doesn't seem to mind and Raph is a big supporter as a comparison xD

And yeeeeeeah I am not a fan(although I can VERY much understand) of latching on this one trait, no matter if it's a rare one or not, and making it the whole personality. Donnie is autistic and very rarely is not 100% excited for a touch? He is touch repulsed autistic. He has canon romantic interests? Nah he is aroace. (Which I LOVE aroace hcs. But I've noticed that in fandoms aroace hcs 99% mean NO romance and NO sex NEVER, even though aspec has SO much variation). With Leo he has these few sad moments and BOOM he is a 100% 24/7 sad boy that was born depressed and all that. Despite the fact that he is very joyful and very confident and very cocky most of the time. YES he copes with jokes, this doesn't mean ALL his jokes are just cover ups. Donnie's copes with collecting data, doesn't mean he doesn't do it on regular just cause he likes it. HECK both of them tend to cope with the thing they like, so they would feel better. Donnie likes data collecting so he copes with it. Leo likes joking so he copes with it.

I love your rants🤝

#rottmnt #rottmnt donnie #rottmnt leo #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rise leo #rise donnie

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baladric · 11 months

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hey sorry if this totally out of line but I think you've talked on here about being both adhd & autistic? do you happen to have any resources or recommendations of people to follow or sth etc about that? I'm increasingly thinking that that's me and a lot of the stuff I'm finding is only about one or the other and i dont quite relate to it or else it's flat out ableist bullshit -- id really just like to be able to see more from people who are kinda similar ish

omggg, hello, friend!!!!!

i personally don't have any resources except my psychiatrist, who corroborated my hunches from the jump and periodically has things to say about the absolutely bonkers overlap b/t adhd, the autism spectrum, and (a much less discussed thing) ocd. it's all neurodivergence, which means the paths our brains tread sometimes share patterns (esp sensory issues b/t adhd & autism, and a desperate need for set routines b/t autism & ocd, etc) and comorbid a whole lot more than we really discuss. my suspicion is there just hadn't been enough serious research (unbiased double-blinds and such) into neurodivergence as whole, and so it's not quite understood how exactly they all overlap, and where the borders are between them (and even if there really are borders)

the few sort of. idk, things that helped me recognize myself were videos my best friend sent me on tiktok, and i famously loathe tiktok and am not on there but if you find the right ones they're actually super super helpful. largely bc it's real people relating their lived experiences, and also bc sometimes it's like people on the forefront of neuropsychology or presently in school for it, talking about stuff.

i will say, if it helps at all, that my path has been an extremely wonky one that i think has a whole lot to do with alexithymia (inability to name your emotions) where i never identified with the really simplistic language of autistic and adhd symptoms, bc like. for example, i had never thought hard enough about how loud sudden sounds effect me to realize that yes, it is the experience of physical pain that's described as part of neurodivergent sensory issues—a phraseology that i really did not identify with the first hundred times i read about it, because i just don't think abt myself in simple concepts like pain. and on and on like that.

i haven't sought formal diagnosis for a few reasons, but imo "diagnosis" is a weird bar to set. i know several deeply ND people who tested negative for adhd, and one negative for autism, and like man, i personally escaped any concern from teachers or family for my entire life, despite the lens of hindsight i have now that so so loudly says that was an autistic adhd child in egregious amounts of daily distress—because i speak well (one teacher called me "silver-tongued" in a disciplinary meeting in college, which was like Damn Okay, You Beethoven-Lookin Walnut) so it's all extremely weird and hazy!

bc i'm bad at compiling resources myself, my (deeply virgo) best friend has a few suggestions!

blog post of resources for autism, ADHD, and AuDHD (this is GOLD)

generally searching "AuDHD" on tiktok turns up some good first-hand/lived experience resources (lots of talk about stimming that we don't necessarily recognize as stimming, which helped me SO much bc oh shit i am actually constantly stimming huh????)

a few folks on twitter: Structured Success (whose handle is StructuredSucc which is just.... so incredible that i have to lie down now.......), AutisticCallum_, and AutisticCoach_

i'm sure there's ppl on tumblr talking about audhd too, so if any of my followers have those, pls comment and i'll add them in!!! (and follow them myself ;akdfjalwdj)

i hope this was helpful at all, and if you have any questions or anything i'm very open to talking about this!! honestly i would love for more of us to learn this shit abt ourselves earlier in life than i did, bc my lack of understanding of how my brain works instilled so, so much shame in me. this was ofc because of the rhetoric teachers & family members threw at me while i was growing up (didn't do homework despite being "gifted"? Laziness. never cleaned room? Slob/Lazy. very subtle tantrums from overstim that i repressed so hard they looked like sullenness from the outside? Ungrateful or Rude. couldn't ever make friends? Shy, Awkward, Boring, Weird, Cold, Unfriendly, Unaccomodating.) and, you know. the shit ppl say in your formative years has a tendency to stick lmfaoooo so i'm still rooting that poison out, you know? so please, please ask me—and i'll say, much like transness, if you're wondering about this? probably the answer is yes, and that's honestly a wonderful fucking thing, 100% fully believe that. understanding myself in this way has saved my life, bc i know myself now and can now hold grace for myself and advocate for my needs.

this is SO long i'm sorry anyway hey anon if you got through this monster of a post, i LOVE you, you're doing so so good and i am handing you and orange and one of the very happy zinnias from my front yard <3 <3 <3

#audhd #autism #adhd #neurodivergence #aj answers #anonymous ask #ask

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daz4i · 2 years

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Bestie. Bestie. I know I've already sent him for a character meme before, but that was a long time ago and also this one is ~detailed~ so. Takuto, if you'll indulge me? :3

Also! If I may, I'm sending Akechi too 'cause we all want to talk about our blorbos ^^ <3

mwah thank you bestie 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

takuto:

What I like about them: he’s genuinely such an interesting character. his role in the story is generally such a sexy one (anti-villains are p rare from my experience so it’s so cool to see one). i love his confidant and even his class questions and his presence is genuinely very calming

What I dislike about them: why are you me. i’m me

Favourite moment: that one scream after the fist fight. you know the one

Least favourite moment: hmmmmm not sure if i have one i particularly dislike but ig while they’re very plot and character important, his one on one conversations with the thieves can be a bit slow and at times even uncomfortable to watch bc of second hand embarrassment lmao

A situation with this character that I want to see explored more: i really wanna know what happens to him in his reality! we see him basically become a nobody, the thieves don’t recognize him, and i assume it’s his doing? so i’m curious, once everyone’s happiness is actualized, what does he have left to do?? what does he do??? pls i need answers

An interesting AU for this character: curious to think abt how thing’s would’ve gone if he told akira from the start he knows they’re the pt and abt the metaverse and cogpsi. like, how would the thieves react? would they be more guarded around him, or more open? would he become a confidant to them all? idk it’s interesting!!!! idek if it counts as an au bc it’s more canon divergence but eh.

A crossover: i’m ngl my brain is flat out of ideas. fuck it. the bible. biggest crossover of the year. ig it’s technically already canon but anyway

OTP: takuto x you u3u

Other ships?: takurumi ofc! and i think his ship with zenkichi is cute!

BROTP: shibusawa true bro xx

NOTP: whatever his ship with akira is called. for obvious reasons

An assortment of headcanons! (but this post is long enough as is so i’m limiting myself to one): that man lives in the lamest ass apartment you’ve seen in your life. he does NOT get paid enough to afford more. rip king

goro:

What I like about them: the mental illness(es) and everything else also

What I dislike about them: uuuuuuuh ig he’s got some moments that give me second hand embarrassment?? esp in his detective persona. i’m sorry goro you posted cringe you’re gonna lose subscriber

Favourite moment: any time he’s being unhinged during the third semester 😍 but esp as a navi

Least favourite moment: genuinely can’t choose bc any moment that may be cringe is just so funny or i’m simply too happy he’s there that i can’t bring myself to dislike it. ig in his original confidant some of the ranks were a bit boring? so just pick one of those rank ups where he just says how interesting it is to talk to akira despite us never seeing them talk

A situation with this character that I want to see explored more: you know that deleted content from royal where he’s in a rehab center? yeah i wanna know what’s up with that and have more information and see how he heals and how he is afterwards

An interesting AU for this character: actual detective goro........ him solving crimes he didn’t commit himself.......... solving mysteries........... connecting dots and following leads...... perhaps with a trusty partner who looks great in drag called watso- *gets shot*

A crossover: i’m making him besties with dimitri fire emblem even if it’s the last thing i do

OTP: my special little polycule of goro x akira x haru x yusuke. but also just akeshu

Other ships?: akekita, akeharu, ryugoro

BROTP: futago and anngoro!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NOTP: recently found out some ppl actually ship him with shido and well. i’m not here to police anyone’s ships but Keep That Shit Away From Me

Extra headcanon: autistic king. masking expert and hyperaware of people’s perception of him due to years of trauma. his special interest is featherman. stims by fiddling with his gloves. i’m right about this

send some characters?

#long post

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bellasgreensweater · 3 years

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✨Why I Think Bella Swan Is On The Autism Spectrum ✨

In this post I’m going to talk about why I personally believe that Bella Swan is autistic. As an autistic person myself, I really relate to Bella and I see a lot of autistic traits in her.

Disclaimer: This is just a headcanon- I don’t think Stephenie Meyer intentionally wrote Bella as autistic, and she or the movie producers never confirmed it, so I’m not saying to everyone that she is CONFIRMED to be autistic and that every one has to see her that way, I’m just saying that I personally think she is, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Autistic people hardly have any representation in the media, and with the representation that we do have, it is almost always stereotypical, inaccurate and offensive. You do not have to agree with me on this, but just please be respectful in the comments and don’t hate :)

Ok let’s go:

1. She always felt different from everyone/she felt like nobody truly understood her and that she never really understood anyone either: this is what basically all autistic people feel, myself included. Feeling like nobody understands the way your brain works and the way you see the world. (And this is true, because autistic people do see the world differently than non- autistic people and autistic peoples brains are wired differently from non- autistic brains). Bella mentions this multiple times in the books and movies, at one point in the first book in the car with Edward, she tells him that she thinks he can’t read her mind because they’re a probably a glitch in her brain and that it’s not like other people’s. There is also this quote from the 1st chapter of twilight which sums up how she feels: “ Facing my pallid reflection in the mirror, I was forced to admit that I was lying to myself. It wasn’t just physically that I’d never fit in. And if I couldn’t find a niche in a school with three thousand people, what were my chances here? I didn’t relate well to people my age. Maybe the truth was that I didn’t relate well to people, period. Even my mother, who I was closer to than anyone else on the planet, was never in harmony with me, never on exactly the same page. Sometimes I wondered if I was seeing the same things through my eyes that the rest of the world was seeing through theirs. Maybe there was a glitch in my brain”.

2. Her motor skills: She’s constantly tripping over her own feet, has bad balance, doesn’t realize that she’s walking into things, constantly dropping things ect, a common thing for autistic people is to have poor motor skills and find it hard to navigate their body.

Another disclaimer about autism: not ever autistic person is the exact same, every autistic person expresses their autism in a slightly different way, for example, some autistic people are overly sensitive to sound, and some are under-sensitive to it, these are just the specific things I’ve noticed for Bella in this post, it’s not supposed to be a generalization of autism in any way! :)

3. Social disinterest and difficultly: all throughout her childhood and her time in forks, she wasn’t very interested in making friends or hanging out or going to parties, and she found that she could never make friends with someone easily, she just never fully clicked with someone. She did have some very nice friends in forks, however she never related to them too well or was very attached to them.

4. Dresses for comfort and not fashion: Bella typically dresses in what feels most comfortable for her, not what is the most fashionable thing, this is a common thing with autism. A lot of autistic people like myself are quite sensitive to clothing and fabric and will not tolerate uncomfortable clothing.

5. Limited interests/special interests: Bella doesn’t really have many interests, but the ones she does have, she’s very passionate about. A special interest is an autism-specific term used to describe interests and hobbies that autistic people have that are very important to them. They help regulate emotions, calm people down, provide escapism ect. Autistic people can hyper fixate on these interests for hours and hours and not get bored, they can get so engrossed that they forget to do basic tasks to take care of themselves like drinking or going to the bathroom. These interests can last for years, sometimes a lifetime and they are very important to autistics. Bella swans special interests would be reading, wuthering heights, and vampires. Bella says in midnight sun that she has loved reading all her life and it is one of the few things that bring her intense joy. She said she could read for hours at a time and would try to sneak books into her lessons and read any chance she could get. Bella says that her favorite book is wuthering heights and she has read it so many times that it is beaten up beyond repair and the spine is so cracked that the book lays flat. This would clearly be her special interest. Her other special interest is clearly vampires.

6. Burnouts and meltdowns when Edward leaves: when Edward left in new moon, Bella obviously fell into a huge depression, but I also think she fell into an autistic burnout (if you don’t know what that is pls research or ask me cause this post is already too goddamn long). And in eclipse, when Edward leaves to go home in the afternoon or to go hunting, she can barely focus without him and gets very anxious (this is obviously because she loves him and is literally obsessed with him lol, but I also think it could be a meltdown from separation anxiety and also a change in routine (a lot of autistics get very upset when their usual routine is disrupted or changed))

7. Sensitive to sounds: In the book, often Bella cannot concentrate or fall asleep because of little sounds like the rain, sometimes it takes ages for her to sleep because the rain or tapping is too distracting. (This is a common autistic struggle).

8. Stims & facial twitches & stuttering: in the movie, she is constantly stuttering over her words, and her face and body twitches a lot. She also stims a lot in the book by playing with her hair or sleeves or the zip of her jacket, or her hands or edwards hands. She also covers some of her face with her hair, this could be to do with sensory overload, seeing too much in her field of vision may be overwhelming for her, like a lot of autistics.

9. Trouble expressing feelings/ thoughts: bella struggles a lot sometimes with communication and telling people how she feels. You can see this in her relationship with Charlie. They both love eachother very much but they never say it and when they do it comes out very awkward and sometimes they use the wrong words. You can also see this when she is hesitant to tell Edward in eclipse when she doesn’t want him to leave for the fight, it takes her ages to work up to telling someone how she feels. She also tends to be quite private. This is common for some autistics to feel.

10. Sensory experiences: bella loves the sun and heat, she says that she loves feeling the sun seep into her skin- a lot of autistics feel the sensory world very strongly and love certain sensations and detest others. When Bella moves to forks, she hates the sudden change in weather and gets anxious and upset at the feel of the cold, and the rain against her skin. This links back to my other point where I was talking about how autistics fear sudden changes in routine. Bella is very relieved when there’s a sunny day in forks and goes and sits outside, savouring the weather which reminds her of home.

11. Not too concerned with how she looks: obviously not every autistic person is like this, but quite a few autistics don’t really focus on how they look/present and what they wear. They don’t really know about the social norms and what other people wear so they do what they want. This is something I often see in Bella in the books especially.

12. More quiet/ reserved and socially withdrawn and awkward: this is basically self explanatory. Bella is very well known for this. I touch a bit more on this in point 3.

If you made it this far then thank you so much! This took a long ass time to write and I’ve been thinking of making this post for months. There are more things that make me headcanon her as autistic, but these are just from the top of my head. When I re-read the series (for like the 100th time lol) later this year, I’ll annotate the book so that I can update this post in the future with more supporting this).

Again this is just my opinion and my personal headcanon, it is not factual (but I’d obviously want it to be canon) so please no hate :)

If you have any more things to add on then please do!! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

#twilight #twilight saga #bellaswan #twilightrenaissance #edwardcullen #bellaswanautistic #autism #autismawareness #actuallyautistic #autistic #neurodivergent #new moon #eclipse #breaking dawn #midnight sun #smeyer

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little-mariposa · 2 years

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{RULES}

Hi I'm Pancake! 23. He/Him only please. 10+ years rp experience, 8+ on tumblr. dm me here if you need to talk bout anything! If we’re mutuals, you can dm me for my discord!! Tone indicators would be appreciated for serious conversations pls!

• I'm a Semi-Selective OC friendly blog I will do better with Encanto based OCs but if I feel our characters will grow a good chemistry then I'm down for rp. I'm also open for crossover rp within reason lol

• I will rp with people only 17+ I don't feel comfortable with rping with anyone younger, sorry.

• NO NSFW. NO INCEST/PROSHIP It's very disheartening to say this, but I've seen how people act in this fandom. Tl;dr keep your nasty shit away from me. This includes other gross shit like r*pe. Just no. There might be some themes of violence and injury, potential gore and semi dark themes. Please plot with me first for an rp with stuff like this. Let me know if I need to tag something.

• Multiverse/Semi-Ship Blog Shipping isn’t my first priority when it comes to rping Mirabel, not to mention it’s already limited. I’m down to try if there seems to be chemistry. Prepare for a definite slow burn, tho. Multiverse is self explanatory.

• Replies may be slow I am a full time retail worker and I also am autistic/ADHD. Rp is my #1 hobby but sometimes I'm just one busy dude.

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• Please do not reblog threads you are not a part of. ESPECIALLY PERSONAL BLOGS

• I am not fluent in spanish. And therefore I use the yandex website oops. I am open to anyone correcting a translation or giving me a better trusted proper website to get my spanish from. I always make sure to research and look into the culture my characters have- and I am determined to do so for Mirabel

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littlx-songbxrd · 3 years

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Hey so I'm pretty sure it was you who told me to listen to a song from The Waitress but I couldn't remember which one so I just listened to a lot of them.

You matter to me is such a good Thomastair song!! It's so sweet and I was low key tearing up. It also kinda makes me think of kitty as well. I think that might have been the one you recommended.

I also really liked I didn't plan it. It's such an Alastair song if I ever heard one and it's honestly so relatable. It's how I would imagine Alastair going off on The Merry Thieves if he could.

Also side note, She used to be mine is the reason I am now sobbing because, short version, autistic childhood trauma, forced to mask, lost that innocent and cheerful version of myself yadda yadda yadda. You get the drill. I mean the pronouns are wrong but still.

Anyways thank you so much for the recommendation!/gen

So ummm I dont think you realize for the past few minutes I've just been staring at my phone grinning

YOU LISTENED TO WAITRESS AHHHHHHHHHHH

OK YES IT WAS ME! ITS ONE OF MY FAVORITE MUSICALS! I RECOMENDED YOU MATTER TO ME AS A THOMASTAIR SONG BUT AHH YOU LISTENED TO ALL OF IT YESSSSSSSSS *tries not to happy cry*

Okok so I can DEFINETLY see You matter to me as a kitty song and thats a whole other side of feels i am NOT ready to talk about rn cause "All of this time I've keeping my mind on the running away, but for the first time I might consider to stay" FOR KIT HERONDALE WILL KILL ME

But like Thomas saying "you matter to me, simple and plain and not much to ask from somebody" after Alastair literally CANONICALLY thinks caring or loving him is something unhealthy will equally be the death of me

I AM SO GLAD WE CAN ALL AGREE I DIDNT PLAN IT IS AN ALASTAIR SONG ABSOLUTELY

I've posted about it before but

"Go ahead, throw your rocks at me, from your little glass house and then take off running, youre no better than me, we've both made mistaked, havent we, I wont undue what Im doing to sit in judgement of what makes us human, I dont claim to be proud, but, my hesd wont be hung in shame"

IS SOMETHING I NEED ALASTAIR TO SAY TO THE MERRY THIEVES IN CANON

SCRATCH THAT

I WANT HIM TO SAY THIS STRAIGHT TO MATHEWS FACE WHEN HE INSULTS HIM AGAIN

He needs a scene like this fae Istg HE NEEDS IT

Also theres a phrase "I needed saving, and a good mistake needed making" that just

Reminds me Alastair was let down by every adult in his life and hes never been allowed to be a kid. To just make mistakes freely. I REALLY HOPE he gets a good scene where he does smth reckless and fun cause hes 19 for godsake let the kid have fun

Anyways

I love that song for him

Also I should have warned you about she used to be mine

First of all Im really sorry to hear that, you truly never deserves to experience any of that. I know my cant change anything, nor help, bit I am truly sorry you had to go through that

Althought, she used to be mine hits equally hard cause jaja ✨I feel like im dissapointing everyone being the person I am ✨ but like its fine I really just feel for the song

Its one of my favorites to belt out

ALSO

Since youre here

......I cant be the only one who really got major secret relationship Tholastair vibes from bad idea

Like I 100% wouldnt want it to happen in canon

HELL NAH THOMAS GO TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM AND HIG HIM PLS

But as a concept

Alastair and Thomas having to go to Paris on their own. Theres all this tension and Thomas tries to talk to him but Alastair just tells him its impossible, theres a huge discussion which and theres a part wbere Alastairs

"You'll regret it"

"Then allow me to figure that out for myself"

Alastair storms off and Thomas is like "shit I made it worse"

But instead of wsiting for Alastair to look back

He goes after him

Enter chorus

"Hearts keep raising lets make mistakes let us say so what and make worse what was already pretty bad"

JUST

Thomastair × bad idea makes me go FERAL

#you know I havent stopped smiling

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des-draws · 5 years

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it's officially July but I'm still on pride mode!!! can't stop won't stop

Here are my lgbt+/queer hcs for class 1(g)A(y)!!! Here's what they are in case you don't recognize all of the flags (bc let's be real before I started coloring this I wouldn't recognize at least a few of them either ;^; ), strap in bc it's going to get l o n g:

(also they’re listed in the order they’re shown in the deviantart post rather than this one oop)

- Ojiro is trans!! I feel like he prefers being stealth but still celebrates with all his classmates because it's such a special occasion :') - Tooru is pan and a demigirl!!! It's her first pride and she's hyped!!!! And full of love!!!!! Love Is Stored In The Tooru!!! - Todoroki is a gay demiboy!! His trauma has made his experience with gender rather vague and blurry but he's still happy to have a label to somehow describe himself!! He's using End*vor's credit card to buy all of his friends pride merch!! - Midoriya is bi and trans!! He's been so happy to see his friends discover themselves and even more so to see them celebrating :') - Iida is bi!! As the second of the three members of the Rich Kids Club, he also wants to support and reaffirm his friends by buying them pride stuff!! - Kirishima is gay and trans!! I hc that he's been basically the class' go-to for gender identity/sexuality stuff bc he's been out-and-proud since Day 1 until pretty much everyone had a big coming-out ("I'm gay!" "Cool! I think I might be bi! :0c" "I...might...not be a girl???" "I'm pretty sure I'm [ace/genderfluid/etc.]" "What's that?" "Oh, it's [...]" "...might have to look into that. I think it might fit me too?" " :'D !!!!! " ) (he probably cried bc he was so proud of everyone) and then things calmed down a bit . He's a tinsy bit sad ppl no longer come to him for it but he pushes it down because he's just so!!!!!! happy to be surrounded by so many ppl like him!! - Bakugou is gay, trans and demisexual!! The last part was the hardest for him to figure out and he spent a lot of time being confused at other people, it was when Sero shared his own orientations that he thought maybe he wasn't as alone as he had thought :') - Uraraka is bi!! She's spent years thinking her crushes on girls were just her being jealous/wanting to be friends with them/not as important/stong as the crushes she's had on boys. She's getting over that internalized stuff now and I'm proud of her!! - Tsuyu is a trans girl and a lesbian!! She's been very open about wanting people to call her "Tsuyu-chan" because she chose that name herself!! And she's so happy that everyone here is supportive of her and each other!! - Yaomomo is also a lesbian!! This is her first pride, she's so excited to see all these people with different identities and experiences come together, and while she could easily create pride merch herself she much rather prefers supporing the indepentent LGBT+/Queer creators selling their own! (Hence why she bought two different variations of the lesbian flag for both her and Jirou!) (and probably many more of the stuff you see everyone wearing lol) - (Speaking of,) Jirou is also also a lesbian and also nonbinary!! Her only connection to girlhood is her love for other girls, but other than maybe updating her wardrobe a little she doesn't mind presenting femininely. - Sero is asexual, demiromantic and genderflux!! He's v. chill about everything, he probably found out and was like "Oh. Ok cool. I'm hungy" like he has a very laid-back attitude abt his identity/orientation but he Will defend his friends' to hell and back. Group mom heck yea - Kaminari is bi and nonbinary!! He was scared shitless to the point of losing sleep when he started figuring out that he miiiight like boys too, and even more so when he realised he might not even be a boy?? Thankfully being surrounded by so many supportive people (and having Kirishima as one of his closest and more trustworthy friends) helped him accept himself :') - Mina is pan and trans!! She's always been very open about being a Romantic™ but rather than being the Disaster Pan that gets flustered around everyone, she's the Disaster Pan that flirts shamelessly using Terrible pick up lines ("If we were dating...heh.....let's just say horses wouldn't be called horses anymore ;) " was the first ever thing she said to Kirishima, which earned her an extremely confused and somewhat flustered "I'm????ga y???? ???????" (it was the first time he'd admitted it out loud so he kinda thanks her for that) ) - Tokoyami is bi and trans!! A while back I read a fic that happened to have trans Tokoyami in it and was like "You know what. Yeah I can see it!" Emo culture is probably what helped him realize, with it playing around with and disregarding gender stereotypes and everything. - Aoyama is transmasculine, genderfluid and aromantic!! For the longest time he'd much rather have people mistake him for a feminine/gnc boy rather than a girl. It took him a while to come to terms with his aromanticism, since pretty much everyone expected him to be gay- he kinda expected it himself too, since he never liked girls that way, so?? But when he found out about the term "aromantic" it was like a weight lift off his shoulders. - Shoji is netrois and androsexual!! He knew he liked boys early but he's avoided dealing with figuring out his gender out of fear that he'd be disappointed- he's only ever seen nonbinary/genderqueer people depicted as androgynous and much smaller in stature than himself, so he thought he'd never fit. Seeing everyone else come out (especially the other nonbinary classmates of his), he stopped hesitating and starting working on coming to terms with himself!! - Satou is asexual and panromantic!! I don't really have much reasoning for this, I never really thought about it (or Satou himself) but when the time came to draw this I was like "Satou likes baking.....and puns are ace culture......FOOD PUNS!!! OF COURSE!!!" I'm sorry glkjhklhfdlkhj; - Koda is a trans boy!! He's had trouble recognizing it at the start because he's always been soft-spoken (almost nonverbal) and timid and kind, and """"those aren't traits of a boy""""" but he was so happy when he hit puberty and started growing So Much in stature due to his genes and people started "mistaking" him for a boy!! He came out to his parents almost immediately bc compassion and kindness seems to run in the family and he knew he'd be accepted even if they didn't completely understand!! He was more scared to come out to his classmates but when two, three, four of them come out and are accepted for being trans boys, he knows he'll be safe with them too. - And finally, last but not least, Aizawa is gay and trans!! He might act somewhat aloof about this stuff, but secretly he's very happy that his kids students all have eachother's support, and most of them their families'. Part of him is a little bitter and wishes he had the same kind of support system in their age, but he's going to be there for them if they need him nonetheless. He has his own support system now, and that matters a lot, too.

But wait!! There's M O R E !!!!! - I always love love LOVE how fanartists/editors give some of the characters more animal-like features, so I did that too!!! I went Full-on-Frog with Tsuyu (and I'm rather proud of how she came out (lol) ), but also I gave Mina some Sharp Chompers and a Fluffy lil' tail bc It's What She Deserves, and Ojiro a lil' toof poking out and ears that sharpen a lil bit at the tips? I hc that as he grows, other than his tail he'll start growing more animal features like that- sharper teeth, longer ears, claws and also, get ready.....pawbeans........the last ones give him Heck when they start growing out, and he needs his palms massaged at least once a day while they do :'( His legs get weird too and they end up looking more like a wolf's back legs :0c - I gave a lot of them freckles!!!! bc I Love Freckles!!!!!! also, as my sister very eloquently pointed out, I gave Uraraka "A R M S,,,,," bc. let's be honest. the girl got martial training she's not a twig - Sero is holding the polyamorous flag behind himself, Kaminari and Mina bc.. u guessed it,, they're all dating each other,,,,, lotsa smooches and cuddling and shenanigans bc there's only maybe one(1) braincell between the three of them and most of the time sero has it - Todoroki, Midoriya, Iida, Kirishima, Bakugou, Tsuyu, Yaomomo, Koda and Aizawa are also autistic. Yes all of them. No I won't explain. (unless you ask in good faith and want to share your own hcs pls ask me then I'll explain everything and you can expect it to be as long as this description!!!!!) (I might draw something about it when it's April again maybe *thinking emoji* ) - Oh!!! and Tooru, Kaminari and Mina are ADHD. Kirishima is also dyslexic. - Bakugou has been losing his hearing ever since he entered U.A.- sure he's always used his quirk but never freely to that extend and with so much power behind it, so getting into fight after fight with such close proximity to explosions that big really did a number on his ears. He can hear a little better with the right one than the left, so Kirishima has gotten used to walking by his right side before his custom hearing aids came in, and then just stuck to that. Bakugou's custom hearing aids block out any noise above a certain volume bc let's assume technology has advanced to do that. When he and Kirishima started thinking about working together as heroes even after they graduate, Bakugou requested custom ear protectors with similar block-out features as his hearing aids for Kirishima so his ears aren't damaged by working so close to Bakugou (Kirishima cried). - I'm actually quite flexible on which of the two I hc as trans, or if I hc both of them to be. The "both gay + demi Bkg" is pretty set in my interpretation of them, but I find it interesting how their friendship/relationship could manifest and grow somewhat differently depending on if both of them are trans or if only one of them (and depending on which one of them it is). They're still the same loud rowdy boyes we know and love but there's different conversations to have and difficulties to tackle between them based on that factor alone, and frankly? I Adore It.

Okay that's all!!!! I think. Thanks for reading, if you did!! And if not, I completely understand lol

I hope you had a great pride month!!

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Okay okay okay this is gonna come outta left field but like,, ur the first person that comes to mind for this

So: I’m trying to get a diagnosis for my autism now as an adult bc my parents refused to belive I was ND which is... hm. (my older brother is autistic so like, it would make sense, wouldn’t it?) I have all the calling cards or whatever but I’m unsure if it’s actually autism or adhd or simply me picking up traits from my brother bc we’ve always been super close. Anyways.

They want me to shell out $550aud for the evaluation, after a 10-12 month waiting list. I have to wait a year before I can get an Official Autism Test and even then I might not even have it! I’m :( rn bc I have $50 to my name and seeing as my parents never got me tested before, I highly doubt they’ll hand me the cash for it now :/ (main reason I want a diagnosis is so I can have help be more accessible in uni bc I’ve been struggling)

So, question! Is ur autism like, recognised in the eyes of the government, and if so was it as a child or did you have to figure it out for yourself when you were old enough to do so? Sorry if this is too invasive, you don’t have to answer anything you’re uncomfortable with! I’m just wondering if I could gain a bit of insight, thank you! (Sorry for ask length aaaa)

hey, it’s all good!

i’m sorry you’re having such a rough go about it ughhhhh. esp when it’s something that could make school more accessible for you. that’s gotta be pretty dang infuriating.

to answer your question, online i make a point to never say what conditions of mine are professional dx vs. self-dx, mostly because there is still a LOT of people on here who think one is more valid than the other, which of course is absurd. my autism is kind of the weird medium, tho--professionals constantly “suggested” to my parents i appeared autistic when i was growing up and my parents ignored it because they’re ableist and couldn’t comprehend that lol. eventually i had one of these professionals outright tell me “it’s important that you know you fit the criteria for autism so that you can better understand yourself, but i think a diagnosis probably wouldn’t benefit you at this time.” so i am not autistic on paper sdfgfgd.

i ended up agreeing with this (i’m scared of being turned down for jobs on grounds of disability, and most countries don’t accept disabled immigrants in case fascism ever gets bad in the US again and i need to flee) so i never sought out a diagnosis.

when i was a kid and they told me i looked autistic i was like “yeah right” because i didn’t understand autism, and then i ignored it pretty much until adulthood when my boyfriend at the time started exploring his own diagnosis. he’d do a thing and be like “oh. the autism...” and i was like huh thats the autism? [nat left at london voice] hahaha i do that

but these are just me! some people “appear” autistic at a young age but plenty of us will tell u that we feel more autistic as adults than we EVER did as kids. autism is also majorly skewed in diagnoses toward cis white boys/men--professionals fucking suck at evaluating POC & people of any other gender alignment, and until recently autism was considered a predominantly male disease (because marginalized people are better at Masking, soldiering on through our pain is what society breeds us to do.)

a diagnosis sounds like it’ll be good for you and i really hope you get yours so things can be a little bit easier. my purpose answering these questions is to let you know my own experiences, but overall keep in mind that the autistic community is SO diverse and there are so many unseen ways we exist that a lot of psychs don’t acknowledge and/or haven’t adopted yet.

if u have a donation post at all pls lmk so i can reblog it!!!

#Anonymous #wendy answers

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Been a while. Wonder if you're up for some Autistic!Elliot

I'm always up for some autistic Elliot, also known as canon Elliot, because fuck everyone else, I respect you.

Elliot, shopping for groceries, minding his own business:

Rice bag:

Elliot:

Rice bag:

Elliot, raising his flat open palm: YOUR TIME HAS COME

Elliot, playing Pokemon: COLLECTION

Flipper: (breathes)

Elliot: I would die for you.

Flipper: Woof

Elliot, through tears, burying his face in Flipper's fur for The Feeling: Oh my God

Qwerty: (swims)

Elliot: (watches him swim for an hour straight because What Is Time?)

Someone: So... You like computers?

Elliot: (breathes in)

Elliot: BOI

Elliot: (buys like three weighted blankets even though he's constantly on the verge of going broke and wears his hoodie to bed because Comfy) Under Pressure

Telephone: (rings)

Elliot: No.

Angela: I really enjoyed the party last week, didn't you?

Elliot, who can't remember what he did yesterday: (sweats nervously) Oh yeah, totally.

Elliot: (develops emotional attachments to inanimate objects)

Elliot: (wakes up to see Flipper has rolled over during the night and fell the five inches off his bed to the floor) I am a terrible parent

The printer at work: KJSKSJKSJSKSJSK

Elliot, with tears in his eyes: Don't say that

The city: (is crowded)

Elliot, internally: I can do this I can do this I can do this I can do this

Angela: (scrapes her cutlery together and makes weird mouth sounds while eating, even so much as dares to fucking audibly breathe and breathe in Elliot's direction)

Elliot: I Am Sorry But I Must Leave

Elliot: (disocciates listening to Leon's voice because Leon is the one bitch he can stand)

Elliot: When I am around you my batteries recharge and my hands and head are happy.

Leon, starry eyed: Bro...

Elliot: (gets into an hour long discussion/info dump with Leon the bae)

Elliot, internally: Is this what true happiness feels like? A life without depression??

Elliot: Hello yes I would like to comfort you I just don't know how please forgive me I am trying my best

Elliot: (sees patterns other people can't because he's autistic and others aren't and saves the day because of it)

Neurotypicals, ableds, etc on social media: Lock down is driving me insane! I hate staying at home, I can't handle this!!

Elliot, depressed bastard autistic introvert homebody with chronic fatigue: That's rough, buddy.

Elliot: (experiences gender and figuring out his gender identity differently because he's autistic)

Elliot: (misses a joke and stays dead silent while everyone else in the room laughs)

Also Elliot: (gets extremely obscure reference and is looked at weirdly because of it)

Also Elliot: (takes a lot of things literally or doesn't recognize someone's tone or when they've made a joke with him)

Also Elliot: (is just discriminated against, ostracized, and treated bad in general because Neurotypicals/allistics suck major ass)

Elliot: Okay, first of all: fuck you guys,,

Autistic Speaks: pls, I'll do anything! uwu

Elliot, without missing a beat: Then perish.

Elliot: (is definitely more than willing to jam to an extremely diverse range of music but absolutely adores rock)

Elliot: (cannot stand buzzing electricity)

Elliot: (has trouble understanding other people but is still so fucking kind and helpful regardless)

Elliot: (has near/complete black and white morals and view of the world because when you're autistic you can't afford any leniency with other potentially dangerous bigoted people and honestly the world would be so much better off if the billionaires just up and died, how can everyone be so willingly blind and ignorant to the truth??)

Elliot: (is incredibly fucking smart and just wants to help people. No-one will ever suffer like he does if he can help it. Bad people will pay dearly for their atrocities)

Allistic fuck: Make eye contact!!

Elliot: Make contact with a moving subway train, buddy, and maybe then we will talk.

#ramimalekpan #mr robot #elliot alderson

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obeymematches · 4 years

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Obey Me matchup please?

Hello, how are you? Thank you for taking your time to do this for me!~

About me: I’m a hetero Female, 5'3" (161 cm), long dark blonde hair, blue eyes, pale, thin build, and wear glasses cause I’m blind af. I have a tomboyish sort of dress style. I like hoodies/jackets, don’t like to wear skirts/dresses or high heels. I almost never wear makeup unlike most girls. I have skin allergies so makeup makes me itchy. My MBTI is INFP and my enneagram is 4w5.

I’m a more quiet person, although I love memes and quoting things that make me laugh. I have a really immature sense of humor so sometimes simple potty humor is enough to get me going. It takes me a long time to fully trust someone. I have a lot of issues I don’t like to talk about, including the fact that I’m autistic (aspergers to be precise) as it’s something I really don’t like about myself. I’m extremely self conscious about my looks, I don’t think of myself as pretty or attractive. I hate it when people see me cry so if that happens I will hide and not come out till I’m ready. I have no confidence in myself, but I do have a willingness to learn. I can be sarcastic and will sometimes be a troll just for my own amusement. I consider myself more on the independent side so I’m not someone who needs constant attention. I like having my space and enjoying the silence when needed. I have a weakness for animals (especially cats, my cat is my baby) and Pokemon plush (hoarder). I’m into anime, manga, and video games. It’s pretty much what I’ve invested all of my time into. I’m really reclusive and only go outside to work or go grocery shopping, although it’s nice to get away from it all once in a while. I’m also a low energy person, so I enjoy a good siesta when I’m really tired.

I don’t know if I would consider myself touch starved, but I it’s hard for me to be cuddly/intimate even with my family members, despite us being close. Not sure if it has to do with my autism or not, touch for me with other people is just kinda weird. That said, I’d like to be more intimate with those I’m close to, just have to get around the awkward feeling it gives me. Oddly enough, I touch/kiss/hug animals like my cat just fine. With animals, there is no awkward feeling. I’m the oldest of 3 children, and my sister wants to be hugged often and while I love her deeply, I wish she wouldn’t hold onto me for so long. My brother is more like me, we love each other, but prefer to express our bond by talking about things nobody else really understands. It confuses our parents and strangers, but that just makes it the more entertaining for us.

What I want in a partner is someone who I can truly bond with. Like a twin flame/soulmate kind of thing. Someone who is not only my partner, but also my best friend. I want to be their one and only, their number one. And of course, I want to let my partner know that they’re my one and only too as well as my number one. I’m not the kind of person to cheat on my partner, and I would hope the same from them. I want us to be able to trust each other 100%, that we always have each others backs. I want us to be there for one another when one of us is going through a rough time. Being the introvert I am, I do not require constant attention from my partner. I would understand perfectly if my partner needed time to themselves or just wanted to hang with some friends. I like the idea of marrying my partner. I’m a low sex drive person so unless I’m sure it’s with the right person, I’d prefer sex after marriage. I’m not real big on the idea of children because I don’t think someone like me would be a good parent. However, I am open to changing my views on this. Looks to me aren’t as important as how we connect on a personal level. I do think physical attraction should be part of a relationship, but it should not be the main basis for said relationship.

As for a favorite character, to be honest I don’t really have one. I think each character is enjoyable in their own way, including the undateables. I guess if I had to choose one of the characters, I’d pick Levi. As for the undatables, I’d have to pick Simeon.

I hope this wasn’t too long. Thanks again for your time and I hope you have a good day. :)

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Hiii!!!!

Thank you for sending in a request!!!

I was pleasantly surprised when you mentioned that you like Levi the most, because he was exactly the one on my mind as I read your request.

So I hope you like the result!!

I match you with Leviathan!

So your fashion style is something worthy to consider as that’s something that gets others attention and says a few things about you even if you talk to a stranger. I think Levi wouldn’t mind at all that you prefer to be comfy! Honestly, he feels the same about this and he would never try to pressure you into wearing something you don’t like. (I mean you can expect him to cosplay with you at times, but thats more fun if you want it too.)

Having a sense of humour makes people more attractive. A sense of humour is usually each to their own, but I think Levi would get your jokes the most.

Levi doesn’t trust easily either, I mean first he has to figure out whether or not you’re normie, but even if you are not he still has to make sure that you are actually genuine. This probably comes from his low self-esteem.

When you are with him, you have to deal with him talking down on himself a lot and hopefully you are patient enough to handle that. (but also don’t let him use that against you to manipulate you, he is a demon afterall)

In return he would also help you with your insecurities, like i totally see him saying stuff like “so if you think you are ugly then i am much worse than ugly”

He would learn a lot from you and about you also. Like he would never tell you he is not interested when you want to rant about anything. Like your experiences, interests, opinions, anything. He knows he has a tendency to rant so the least he can do is listen to you when you want to talk about something.

The two of you could definitely troll social media as a bonding activity!!!

He has similar views on going out and independance, so the two of you understand and respect boundaries really well, which means theres no conflicts about that!

Oh pls don’t siesta with Belphie ever, it would make Levi so envious and he might think you’re cheating.

I think Levi is not too affectionate either, like touching him turns him into a mess. Good luck trying to talk to him after that for like 3 hours. But I think after he trusts you a bit more and after he believes that you are actually trustworthy, not just a nasty human normie, he will try to be intimate with you more often. His libido is much less than Asmo’s or Lucifer’s, so I think he can restain himself well enough for you to be okay and for him to not cross your boundaries. (in canon he is a virgin if i know right so he can wait a couple more years if that makes you comfortable.)

Levi would do his best to get along well with your siblings, though he is very socially anxious so pls be prepared to help him out in case he freezes. But I think after he gets used to them he would want to hang out more at your place - you don’t have as many siblings as he does so the place is more quiet, also your siblings are actually fun, unlike that loser Mammon.

I also think being best friends with your actual partner pays off at the long run, and Levi is a very good candidate for that. (as we can see in his phantom devilgram story). He may be a shut it but that doesn’t mean his life is boring or he does nothing at all. In canon he has several creative hobbies, like drawing, sculpturing, cosplaying, but he also reads, plays games and watches anime. So there are many things to do!!! He would be honored of you indulged in his hobbies and he would do his best to show you the ropes! In return he would do the same in case you pick up a hobby he never had before. Just a fun bonding experience, thats all

Trust, loyalty and honesty are the main values he looks for and he has them in himself as well. Tho as I mentioned he will take his time with trusting you.

Hmmmmmmm idk about his take on marriage though. Like i’m certain theres the demon equivalent for that and I think his opinion depends on their traditions. (or like if it’s a wedding with traditions of both worlds, idk how that would go because he is a demon so idk youd have to talk about the religious parts a lot. also he will not be able to handle the whole town being there because of the above mentioned anxiety) but like a private ceremony with just the two of you sounds good! (i mean he is just happy that one person somehow ended up in love with him, he wouldn’t really have any issues with commitment.)

I think you’d also be able to balance out his tendencies of being irrational at times, like when he talk down too much on himself or when he impulse bought something for the 17th time this week. and it’s only tuesday.

#obey me #obey me!#obey me shall we date #swd obey me #obey me swd #obey me leviathan #levi obey me!#obey me levi #om! levi #om! leviathan #levi obey me #obey me matchup #submission

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waitineedaname · 4 years

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For the ask game: Jon, Martin, Mordred, and/or Jonny D'ville?? (sorry thats a lot of characters GHDSKJFHDS)

dfjlskj that is a lot but I’ll do all of them!! under the cut bc it’ll be long

Jon

Sexuality Headcanon: CANON BI/PANROMANTIC ASEXUAL BABEY!!!! I also like demiromantic Jon because I can’t stop rubbing my grubby little aro hands all over everything

Gender Headcanon: nonbinary!! He doesn’t think about gender much but when he does, it’s just a series of question marks. I may be projecting my own gender issues onto him, but I feel like he probably goes about his day not really thinking about his gender and he presents in whatever way makes him comfortable, but the moment he is Perceived The Wrong Way he’s like ah. I would like to be consumed by the earth now.

A ship I have with said character: you already KNOW. Jonmartin Good. I love them so much. they deserve good things. I’m also fond of Jon/Georgie in a pre-canon context because I think they’re sweet but what I love even more is “couple who broke up but are still friends”

A BROTP I have with said character: SEASON ONE ARCHIVAL ASSISTANTS. I miss them so bad. Also Georgie and Daisy, and tbh I wish he’d gotten more of a chance to actually befriend Melanie because their bickering was amusing. I Just Want Him To Have Friends

A NOTP I have with said character: any of the gross ones, like Jon/Elias or Jon/Peter. pls don’t ship him with his awful old bosses.

A random headcanon: this bad boy can fit so much neurodivergency in him! I tend to go with autistic Jon bc I just Like It.

General Opinion over said character: he’s doing his BEST and I LOVE HIM. I will Not shut up about the character arcs in this show and his is FASCINATING as he becomes more of a monster while also becoming kinder to the people around him and ahh it’s so interesting

Martin

Sexuality Headcanon: gay! I could also be persuaded of gray-aro Martin if you catch me in a “everyone is arospec” mood

Gender Headcanon: trans man!! I love how popular this headcanon is holy shit

A ship I have with said character: jonmartin!!!!! ah!!!! pining FOOLS

A BROTP I have with said character: ALSO the s1 archival staff!! I just want the four of them to get into minor shenanigans and have board game nights and gossip!! is that too much to ask!!

A NOTP I have with said character: again, pls no awful old men. Martin/Elias and Martin/Peter are a big No Thanks from me

A random headcanon: in an “apocalypse didn’t happen” scenario, he goes back to school to complete his education and actually pursues his interests as opposed to just trying to get by. I think he goes into English, and he and Jon make up the same bickering English major duo that my roommate and I do, where one is really into the Old As Fuck Literature and Shakespeare (me and Jon), while the other is into the Romantics and modern literature and poetry (my roommate and Martin)

General Opinion over said character: I CARE HIM..... when people were first trying to get me into tma, everyone told me “you’ll love Martin, he’s exactly your type of character” and you know what? THEY WERE RIGHT. “sweetheart with good intentions but also a lot of anxiety that can be kind of bitchy but everyone kind of brushes it off” is somehow a character trope my faves keep falling into

Mordred

Sexuality Headcanon: hmm I haven’t really thought of one for Mordred!! I’m gonna say aroace because I can do what I want

Gender Headcanon: CANON TRANS MAN BABEY!!!

A ship I have with said character: considering the only other characters in the album are his dad, his dad’s wife, his dad’s husband, a dude who in Arthurian canon was both his cousin and half-brother (gross), and a crazed preacher, I’m going to say this doesn’t apply sdlkfjlksdjf

A BROTP I have with said character: I think he should hang out with Guinevere and Lancelot!! I don’t know if either of them are his birth parents but they’re still sort of his parents and I think they should get along

A NOTP I have with said character: see above sldjfklsdjf

A random headcanon: I think he probably tried a million different ways to subtly convince Arthur he was his son, and just about everyone figured it out except Arthur. this would be even funnier if he Looked A Lot Like Arthur and he still didn’t figure it out

General Opinion over said character: I can’t BELIEVE High Noon Over Camelot took this absolute Bastard, awful awful incest child whose primary goal is to Cause Problems On Purpose, and then made a version of him that I love dearly and made me cry. @ the Mechanisms, how do you do it. He just wanted peace and I respect him

Jonny D’Ville

Sexuality Headcanon: I have now decided on a whim that Jonny D’Ville is aroace. or maybe pan ace. I don’t know irl Jonny’s sexuality, but I’ve decided his characters are not allowed to fuck.

Gender Headcanon: bastard idk I haven’t really thought about it much! probably cis, though tbh I feel like if you’re immortal and chaotic, gender ceases to hold much meaning

A ship I have with said character: not to be a homestuck, but I think pitch Jonny and Tim would be hilarious. can you imagine a kismesissitude where you can kill each other with no repercussions. good lord.

A BROTP I have with said character: allll of the Mechs? I specifically enjoy him and Nastya being Kind Of Like Siblings, and I like his dynamic with Ashes and Tim bc I feel like the three of them are the ones who are best equipped to deal with his bullshit

A NOTP I have with said character: I don’t think I have one? Nastya I guess, considering she’s a lesbian and I like thinking of her being an adopted sister to him

A random headcanon: Jonny D’Ville would HATE Jon D’Archivist. all Jon’s anxiety about morals would be exhausting to him and Jonny would just shoot him as a scientific experiment to see How Immortal Is The Archivist

General Opinion over said character: bastard. awful little man. I love him so much, he’s so entertaining

#I HAVE HAD BLOOD AND WHISKEY STUCK IN MY HEAD FOR ALMOST 24 HOURS SEND HELP #anyway #I need to read some of the mechs' fiction #bc I Need More Jonny #he's awful and hilarious #bare1ythere #asks

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wildfangz · 5 years

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@liliithvatore tagged me in that simself thing thats been goin around DAYS ago but here it finally is! also thank you for the tag this was fun :-]

I tag @slythersim @thelurgoyf @seoulchii @weicyn @solitasims @daisydezem @raha-plays-the-sims if they want to do it & anyone that just wants to do it in general! message me and I’ll even @ u directly if u want.

anyway lets DO THIS shitload of questions under the cut u’ve been warned!!!

1. what is your name?

julian

2. what is your nickname?

jewel, jules

3. birthday?

oct 26th

4. what is your favorite book series?

percy jackson and the olympians will probably always own my heart & soul

5. do you believe in aliens or ghosts?

yes & yes. tho i do think a lot of alien sightings and conspiracy theories and what not are bullshit

6. who is your favorite author?

maggie stiefvater probably? also cornelia funke but its been years since ive read anything by her so i cant be sure BUT i loved inkheart & the thief lord so much

7. what is your favorite radio station?

ummm when i listen to the radio at all i kinda just switch between two rock stations and our popular music station.

8. what is your favorite flavor of anything?

blue raspberry !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! tasty and i love a blue tongue

9. what word would you use often to describe something great or wonderful?

cool. or bitchin’. i play it simple

10. what is your current favorite song?

hands like houses - revive

11. what is your favorite word?

roulette and inhibition which i never get to use either as much as i want !

12. what was the last song you listened to?

emarosa - givin’ up ! its a bop!

13. what tv show would you recommend for everybody to watch?

the new she-ra on netflix its so good. and gay

14. what is your favorite movie to watch when you’re feeling down?

moana. its also like the only movie i dont have trouble getting thru despite how many times ive already seen it

15. do you play video games?

16. what is your biggest fear?

idk... being inherently unlovable i guess n ending up alone? also spiders !

17. what is your best quality, in your opinion?

im fairly open-minded and laid back. Unless someones being like, purposely nasty or something I generally don’t get defensive or aggressive. also a lot of little quirks that piss others off dont bother me im very u do u as long as its not actually harming anyone and ive had people tell me this makes it easier to open up to me so thats probably my best quality....

18. what is your worst quality, in your opinion?

....at the same time though i do get very sensitive when faced w/ criticism even if its of the fair variety when its not phrased really gently for various reasons and i dont like that. especially since I have a tendency to not even talk to people about it. I’ll just immediately start distancing myself. also other than that i think overall I have a really high tolerance lvl but if you cross that line I hold a grudge like a motherfucker

9. do you like cats or dogs better?

cats! dogs are good too but cats are a lot easier for me to handle...and quieter generally but even when they’re loud cat sounds dont get to me quite as much as barks do

20. what is your favorite season?

autumn but im starting to really like summer for some reason? wack :/

21. are you in a relationship?

nope

22. what is something you miss from your childhood?

the lack of responsibility, probably. that sounds real bad lmao but for me its like...I know I’ve grown in various ways over the years but I also feel like so many of my experiences, my trauma, my mental health has held me back and I don’t think I’m mentally where I should be for my age. so all the responsibility of adulthood is just..really overwhelming for me sometimes, even though ive been given a pass from certain aspects of it and the rest is pretty simple its the idea!!!!

23. who is your best friend?

my ex

24. what is your eye color?

25. what is your hair color?

26. who is someone you love?

my mom

27. who is someone you trust?

not really anyone rn unfortunately...would like 2 work on that

28. who is someone you think about often?

are my OCs a fair answer because i am always thinking about my babies.....

29. are you currently excited about/for something?

my favorite webcomic (that also has two of my all time favorite characters in it) just came back!! the artist disappeared back in 2015 like the day after I binge-read the whole fucking thing & i was so disappointed but its BACK and 2018 has been redeemed

30. what is your biggest obsession?

sims probably! i could talk about anything relating to it for hours

31. what was your favorite tv show as a child?

there were so damn many its hard to even think and figure out the most notable ones...i really, really liked teen titans though?

32. who of the opposite gender can you tell anything to, if anyone?

my ex, again

33. are you superstitious?

not terribly so but somewhat. I take certain things as signs and I mean I do believe in astrology & such to a degree

34. do you have any unusual phobias?

i used to be afraid of mirrors but thats all i can think of and its not even a thing anymore...the only other thing is tornadoes but i dont think its unusual. but it definitely sucks for me ‘cause i live in tornado alley!

35. do you prefer to be in front of the camera or behind it?

behind it....like taking pretty pictures and dont like ppl capturing my image 2 film

36. what is your favorite hobby?

sims.....also singing!!! and drawing!!!! video editing!!!!!!!!! the works

37. what was the last book you read?

The Dream Thieves....havent finished it though because last time i went to read it a spider was lying in wait and im traumatized

38. what was the last movie you watched?

coco i think???

39. what musical instruments do you play, if any?

drums, various other percussion instruments, and violin mainly

40. what is your favorite animal?

ferrets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

41. what are your top 5 favorite tumblr blogs that you follow?

uhhhhh @bratsims @liliithvatore @cabsim @wildlyminiaturesandwich @keysims pls dont feel bad if i didnt include u these were just the first to pop into my head and ive been following some of them since I first made my blog!! and have kept up with their stories completely and enjoy them etc check them OUT !

42. what superpower do you wish you had?

shapeshifting!!! dysphoria? gone. ugliness? gone. want to morph into a fucked up clown and scare people when they realize all the classic clown features are a real actual part of my face? possible!

43. when and where do you feel most at peace?

chillin’ at the pool in summer during the part of the day when no ones there.... swimming is always relaxing 2 me then i love just resting under the sun and drying off afterwards especially since we have a little pond nearby and i can hear the water! its nice

44. what makes you smile?

always and without fail? interacting with anyone i have a crush on. i’ll look like a dope the whole time

45. what sports do you play, if any?

i used 2 play basketball a lot. Like not seriously but it was a thing

46. what is your favorite drink?

dr pepper and monster energy (original flavor) pumps through my veins at this point. we love a carbonated beverage

47. when was the last time you wrote a hand-written letter or note to somebody?

two years ago for my ex and I’s first year anniversary... I never got it mailed but I did at least take a picture of it (with included caption because my handwriting is atrocious). i was very up front about being a romantic and see heres the PROOF

48. are you afraid of heights?

nope! very excited by them actually

49. what is your biggest pet peeve?

i cant stand passive aggressive behavior. my stance is either get over it or quit acting like a bitch because otherwise im just going to ignore you thats the scorpio way (in all seriousness I really, really do recommend not putting up with it and ignoring it until they decide to be up front with you. it can be exhausting constantly reading into conversations and its not healthy for you or them. if they have something to say they need to learn to talk about it properly, and that lack of social skills is not ever on you)

50. have you ever been to a concert?

yep! i think about....six or so? i love them...which is really funny im autistic and EVERYTHING about them should freak me out and they do in other circumstances but at a show i just live for it

51. are you vegan/vegetarian?

nope! ive thought before id like to go vegetarian...but i couldnt do it with my health problems. also i love shrimp too much

52. when you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?

ive always wanted to do something creative! when i was rlly young I thought a lot about singing and acting and writing in particular...all things im still interested in.... also i wanted to be a dictator ages 4-7 because i told my mom i wanted to be president of the world and make people do what i say and she said “honey thats a dictator not a president”. i then made that known at school and that turned into a situation!

53. what fictional world would you like to live in?

pokemon universe or bust.

54. what is something you worry about?

never being able to do things i want to do or catching up with others because of my disabilities

55. are you scared of the dark?

yes but a reasonable amount i think

56. do you like to sing?

yes :]

57. have you ever skipped school?

yes i used to play sick a LOT and as my parents caught onto it id even go all out to convince them. i was good at school but i hated it so much

58. what is your favorite place on the planet?

dunno! malls maybe i love shopping and looking at material objects i wish to own

59. where would you like to live?

oregon! portland in particular thats been my dream for a few years now

60. do you have any pets?

a cat! he lives with my dad & grandma though...hes grown up there and likes going outside so I felt bad about taking him with me when i moved out but anyway this is him hes fat and stupid and i love him his name is coffee

61. are you more of an early bird or a night owl?

night owl because my rhythm is all fucked up but in my heart....an early bird...if i get a good nights sleep i’ll be up early yacking your ear off and so excited for the day

62. do you like sunrises or sunsets better?

sunsets are prettier...but sunrises feel more refreshing

63. do you know how to drive?

nope ! im gay !

64. do you prefer earbuds or headphones?

headphones. better sound quality also discourages people from talking to me slightly more

65. have you ever had braces?

nope! but i need them

66. what is your favorite genre of music?

post-hardcore maybe?

67. who is your hero?

every trans person living their truth and being open and loud about who they are past present & future. the worlds not particularly kind to us and our existence alone is considered a radical act, so its always given me hope to see others refusing to pretend to be someone they’re not in this environment and I’ll always have mad respect for that

68. do you read comic books?

i read manga and webcomics...ive always wanted to get into superhero comics but the amount of issues and different versions is ridiculous and makes it inaccessible 2 me

69. what makes you the most angry?

i mean its hard to pinpoint what makes me angry the MOST...but a contender is definitely how some people feel free to treat others with cruelty and think its their god given right to deny or attack someones existence in some way, & how acts of kindness, even the most basic are branded as liberal bullshit or whatever....it goes against everything i was taught growing up

70. do you prefer to read on an electronic device or with a real book?

real book! electronic device can be easier but....rough on the eyes after a while and nothing beats the real thing for me

71. what was your favorite subject in school?

language arts...at least when we did creative writing stuff

72. do you have any siblings?

two older sisters & an older brother that passed away years ago but. still my brother u kno

73. what was the last thing you bought?

mocha frappe baby!!!!!

74. how tall are you?

5′4″

75. can you cook?

a little bit....not as much as id like to though but im learning

76. what are three things that you love?

storms, cheesy breadsticks, and cat purrs

77. what are three things that you hate?

unnecessary rudeness, being talked down to or generally treated like im stupid, grapefruit which is the worst thing on this list

78. do you have more female friends or more male friends?

female i think?

79. what is your sexual orientation?

im the big bad promiscuous bisexual your parents warned you about

80. where do you currently live?

oklahoma. gofundme campaign to get me out

81. who was the last person you texted?

my friend jojo! just Now!

82. when was the last time you cried?

yesterday afternoon but im a changed man now thats behind me. i will cry about different things soon

83. who is your favorite youtuber?

the mcelroy brothers. also super best friends play. matt, pat & woolie are all great tbh

84. do you like to take selfies?

depends on whether i feel ugly or terribly dysphoric that day or not

85. what is your favorite app?

ummmm....love live school idol festival ive been playin for years its an addiction

86. what is your relationship with your parent(s) like?

dad = bad mom = okay. theres some issues that strain it but its not too bad

87. what is your favorite foreign accent?

i have no idea what the fuck australians are talking about half the time but i dig it anyway

88. what is a place that you’ve never been to, but you want to visit?

Italy, Greece, Germany, Japan, Mexico, various other states (ive only been out of state three times. twice to texas and then once to kansas. for five minutes)

89. what is your favorite number?

6!! 26 also

90. can you juggle?

ive always wanted to but alas.... :-[

91. are you religious?

i suppose...but im rlly not into organized religion

92. do you find outer space of the deep ocean to be more interesting?

space probably theres so fucking much of it man!

93. do you consider yourself to be a daredevil?

not to brag but sometimes i eat my mcdonalds hamburgers cold from the fridge so you can figure that one out yourself B)

94. are you allergic to anything?

pecans. not deathly allergic though so catch me eating turtle pie anyway!

95. can you curl your tongue?

nope :[

96. can you wiggle your ears?

nope :[

97. how often do you admit that you were wrong about something?

usually as soon as i realize....unless someones being real smug and annoying then i might be stubborn about it

98. do you prefer the forest or the beach?

ive never been to the beach but i love her!!!

99. what is your favorite piece of advice that anyone has ever given you?

probably that you have to look at your accomplishments differently when you’re disabled or just struggling, to not be so down on yourself because its a fact that what might be a mole hill to someone else is a mountain to you and you have to judge yourself accordingly. Like maybe you weren’t able to clean the whole house, but washing the dishes and tidying your desk doesn’t usually get done but you did it. That that should be celebrated because while it would also feel good if you did more, you still did something and thats great all things considered.

100. are you a good liar?

sometimes, really depends what im lying about and if im like....into it at all. If my guts against it for whatever reason I’ll have trouble

101. what is your hogwarts house?

i always get slytherin or hufflepuff! usually with like 1 point difference

102. do you talk to yourself?

i am talking to myself right now as i fill this out

103. are you an introvert or an extrovert?

extrovert mainly! i used to think i was more introverted but now i think a lot of exhaustion when theres any comes from me just going the extra mile and actively trying to read people and pick up on social ques.... if I just chill im fine

104. do you keep a journal/diary?

nope...ive tried but i just cant keep up with it so i do the next best thing. shouting into the void on the internet to a bunch of strangers

105. do you believe in second chances?

depends on what you did the first time. Some people just don’t deserve taking that risk imo...but i can be a little guarded so maybe thats a bit too harsh

106. if you found a wallet full of money on the ground, what would you do?

turn it in, unless there was no identifying things in it & it was found somewhere kinda random. Then I’d maybe hold onto it unless my gut challenged that

107. do you believe that people are capable of change?

absolutely. i mean thats all we do throughout our lives is change and evolve...that being said I think extremely drastic changes are maybe not entirely impossible, but extremely rare, and the residue of the former self usually sticks around in some form

108. are you ticklish?

yes, dangerously so

109. have you ever been on a plane?

nope

110. do you have any piercings?

one day hopefully!

111. what fictional character do you wish was real?

asra from the arcana.....even if he wasn’t my boyfriend thats just a dude u could chill and eat some pomegranates with u know. Before I downloaded the app my friends kept telling me he was made for me and he really was he ticks like everything on my Favorite Characters Feature List except villain but he has that particular allure & attitude i like so much in villains so thats not a single point off hes perfect

112. do you have any tattoos?

nope...one day! hopefully!

113. what is the best decision that you’ve made in your life so far?

accepting my genderqueerness and bisexuality definitely. Self Love hasn’t been perfected just yet but that was such a huge step in the right direction

114. do you believe in karma?

yes! she doesn’t get shit done as much as id like however

115. do you wear glasses or contacts?

glasses. not contacts yet because my eye doctor is a bitch

116. do you want children?

I do....just not sure if id be a good parent. Its really important to me if I had a child itd be for the right reason and I could raise them well in a healthy environment & be able to take care of all their needs yknow

117. who is the smartest person you know?

probably my friend jojo

118. what is your most embarrassing memory?

one time i looked outside and the sunset was really pretty and i wanted to get a photo of it so i walked out.....and stood like right by the street so there weren’t trees in my way...and then i realized mid-pic 1) i am not wearing pants & my shirt is full of holes 2) id been depressed for days so my hair was a tangled mess. I tailed it back inside so i didnt even get a nice pic it was blurry!

119. have you ever pulled an all-nighter?

120. what colour are most of you clothes?

black i didnt even have to think about that one

121. do you like adventures?

they are pretty swell

122. have you ever been on tv?

a few times when i was little. always photobombing the news reporters 4 what i thought would eventually lead 2 fame & fortune

123. how old are you?

124. what is your favorite movie quote?

this is technically lyrics to that lil song in moana at the end but

“ They have stolen the heart from inside you. But this does not define you.”

hits me hard every time! emotional impact? i know her

125. sweet or savory?

sweet!!!!!!!! gotta balance out my bitter somehow

#tag meme #about #srry if theres any weird grammar or spelling going on half of this was written when i had a monster headache #and was doing everything but laying down!!!!

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overexplainingautistic · 6 years

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Hi! My mum told me a while ago that I did ASD testing as a kid, and could have gotten a diagnosis then, but she didn't bother, and after a lot of research into it, I have concluded that I'm autistic, however I talked to my psych about it, and she told me that I'm not autistic enough because it doesn't impair my day to day life enough, but it does, very much so, I just couldn't word it right. I have another appointment with her on Friday. (can you pls tag this as queer lion asks so i can find it)

Hi! Sorry I haven’t seen this any sooner, I’m just glad it isn’t friday yet, so I’m not too late.

The criteria for a diagnosis that the psych is talking about is that you have to be autistic and have it cause significant impairments. As the DSM V says “Symptoms cause clinically significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas ofcurrent functioning.”

Basically, because she hasn’t taken it upon herself to actually see how you’re impaired, you’re now burdened with that task.

I would definitely spend all night writing down examples so you have something to bring with you in case you can’t remember how to say it all. I would also talk to other autistic people about things we’ve been surprised to realize weren’t normal, but actually coping strategies to work around deficits. I would even include that last time is an example, where your brain was (assuming this guess is correct, though if not, that’s fair too) overwhelmed with processing the new social context and trying to navigate that, and as a result had much fewer resources to allocate towards turning your experiences into words.

If you were ever bullied in school or such, that can be pointed to as well, to say that your social or other differences were significant enough where you were bullied for it.

I don’t know your specific experiences, but you do, and you can look at them all and identify things you have trouble with, then break each example down into the factors that make it a struggle. Once you break it down enough, you can probably find autistic reasons, such as auditory processing issues, or sensory processing disorder, or need for routine, or executive dysfunction (I wouldn’t use that term itself when talking to a professional, but communicating the specific examples of it is good) or whatever examples you have of social challenges.

I hope this helps, and I wish you luck for friday.

#queer lion asks #Anonymous #actuallyautistic

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freerangemartian · 5 years

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Pls to explain the “Martian” thing...

The Question:

“So, a Martian? Really? Have you actually come from another planet? Wouldn’t there be a lot of fuss about this when the Earthlings notice? How did you end up here? Do you still have access to your spacecraft, or did it break & that’s how you got stuck here? How come you can communicate with Earthlings if you’re a Martian?...

(What do you do about the rovers and things which land on Mars? Do you put a box over the top of them with landscapes painted on, so the rovers don’t spot your civilisation, or do you just follow along behind them so they can’t see you? Since your civilisation must be hidden underground, otherwise the Earthlings would be planning an invasion by now, do you just camouflage the entrances really well, or do you worry about the rovers accidentally crashing through your roof? Maybe you can steer them gently away from anything interesting, so they don’t bump into your door?! And when the Beagle craft vanished/failed, it was because it landed in someone’s backyard and that Martian didn’t like visitors, right?! That Martian has got it in a box somewhere for spares, haven’t they?!)

The Answers:

Ok! This may take a while!

The Martian thing comes from a joke within the Autistic communities - the idea of feeling so different, so alienated from the people around us, that we seem to have come from another planet. There’s the quote from Temple Grandin about feeling like “an anthropologist on Mars”, of her struggle to understand all these strange social rules and related things which make absolutely no sense whatsoever, and yet everyone else seemed to be perfectly fine with all those things.

Other Autistic people had thought about the ideas around being on the “wrong planet”, and perhaps feeling like anthropologists investigating a strange world, but many of us realised that for this metaphor to work, we would have to think about being “anthropologists *from* Mars”. We’re clearly surrounded by people who understand all this weird social stuff, so obviously, they must be Earthlings, who belong here, and we must be the aliens. It’s only logical!

It’s an idea that occurred multiple times within the communities - common enough to have been established as a joke. One of the best known Autistic forums and associated communities is called Wrong Planet, and it’s been going for many years. There are books aimed at parents of Autistic youngsters with titles like “Martian in the Playground”. It’s a generally recognised thing.

There have been some objections to the idea within the communities, however. Some people consider it dehumanising - this idea that we are literally aliens, so different from Normies that we “speak” (think) different languages and it’s difficult to understand each other. This concern is understandable - when Normies see a group of people as Different, this often doesn’t end well for that group. The traditional attitude of Normies towards Disabled people of any variety is that we are burdens who should be eliminated. If we cannot be forced into normality, we should be locked away (so that Normies are not reminded of our existence and humanity) and forgotten about, our potential as lost Normies mourned, and our deaths hastened as far as can be practicable - while pretending that’s not what they’re doing. The thing which must never be admitted is that we have value *just as we are*. Acknowledging that fact would mean recognising that the way we are usually regarded, the ways we have been treated, the callous inhumanity we have been subjected to, is, and always was, wrong.

Normies don’t like to admit that they got something so very wrong - especially something so big and important as the humanity of others. What if we somehow got the upper hand, and began treating Normies the way they’ve behaved towards us? That would be terrible! So they must pretend it never happened.

The Autistic people who are concerned about the Martian thing are worrying about the behaviour of Earthlings towards us all - worrying that they may see us as literal aliens - in the sense of “not fully human” and so not subject to considerations such as basic human rights, of empathy towards us, and so on. That’s a reasonable fear. After all, there’s substantial precedent for those concerns.

Why do I use it despite those reasonable concerns?

Well, it’s often a useful metaphor.

One of the factors of great use is that in speaking of Earthlings and Martians, it’s possible to avoid some of the prejudice that is associated with the idea of “Autism; the Disability”, and makes space for consideration of a different viewpoint.

Coming into a conversation about Autistic experience when not Autistic means that you’re missing a great deal of information - because it’s outside your experience - and quite possibly bringing in a large amount of misinformation - which has been told to you by other non-Autistics, who seem to have some very odd ideas about us - which gets in the way of your understanding.

By writing of Martians and Earthlings, a layer of confusion can be eliminated. You’re forced by the format to actually *listen* to what we’re saying, without bringing in all that extraneous rubbish and silly preconceptions about “the Autistic Experience” - or even worse, “the Experience of People With Autism Because You *MUST* Use Person-First Language Because Identity-Based Language is Somehow Bad and Wrong and is Therefore Unacceptable Because We Say So”.

That horribly awkward last sentence is there for a reason, y’know. There’s definitely a thing where Normies insist on “correcting” Disabled people who use Identity-based rather than Person-first language. It’s incredibly rude, but it’s amazing how many Normies can’t see that. The reason they’re in love with the idea of Person-first language is that they have this stupid idea about how “disability doesn’t define someone”, and it’s vital to see them as “a person first, not just the disability”, and similar foolishness. The problem is, we *know* we’re real people. We *know* that we’re not just walking/rolling labels. We already know that! The trouble seems to be that Normies apparently *don’t* understand that. It seems that they need the reminder that we’re actually real people, not just collections of symptoms/syndromes. It’s quite bizarre!

The key thing to take away from that paragraph is that you don’t get to “correct” someone using Identity-based language - I’m Autistic, not “a person with Autism”. I already know I’m a person! I had noticed!

The reason I use the “Martian” metaphor is that I like it. In some ways, it’s really that simple. Getting to choose my own labels sometimes is great - I’m not stuck with whatever stupid, wilfully ignorant descriptor that some thoughtless Normie has decided to slap onto me, without any consideration as to whether it’s useful, or even remotely accurate.

It also appeals to my sense of humour - however strange others might think it - and means that I get to consider all those odd things at the beginning of this piece about how Martians deal with rovers etc. landing in the neighbourhood.

If it doesn’t work for you, that’s fine. We’re all different, and respond to different ideas. If you’re still interested in Autistic perspectives, there are plenty of other people whose work you can follow. Because we’re all individuals, we have different experiences; especially those belonging to other marginalised groups. The overlap of other experiences is important in itself - we exist within many communities, and face those challenges we share with others, with the additional factor of being Autistic. It’s a good idea to read/watch/learn about those different communities as well, remembering that knowledge really can be power - the more you know about what people need, the better you can advocate for *all* of us on the Spectrum, including those of us with substantial support needs - the ones who often get forgotten because they are busy living their lives, not performing cool tricks or writing about “quirky” experiences...

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