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babey-lewis · 4 months

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You are still a regressor if...

💓 You don't regress often

💙 You are usually the caregiver

🤍 You only regress to sleep

💙 You use diapers

💓 You swear when little

💙 You smoke while little

💓 You don't have a "little voice"

🤍 You are fat

💓 You are disabled

💙 You use mobility aids

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dadzawa004 · 22 days

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I'm a disabled caregiver

And

Today we took our irl friend (who's an age regressor) toy shopping and for the first time managed to walk with our cane. We were able to walk around for more than 20-30 minutes without it without pain. I'm glad that they, (our friend) was understanding when we requested to get our cane from their car. It feels nice to know we weren't judged for being disabled and also being able to take care of a little one <3

#age regression caregiver #agere community #age regression #agere caregiver #sfw caregiver #system caregiver #aizawa speaks #disabled caregiver

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miraculous-icons · 2 months

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Lego Batman Disabled Age Regressor, Pet Regressor, and Caregiver icons

flags: (left to right) disabled agere flag + disabled petre flag + disabled carer flag

character: Lego Robin, Lego Batman, Lego Joker

Source: Lego Batman Movie

please like or reblog if you use!

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bunnelbaby · 3 months

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✨🧸 Disabled Age Regressor, Caregiver, Flip and Babysitter flag heart edits (please reblog if you save)! 🧸✨

#age regression #sfw agere #agere #disabled agere #disabled regressor #disabled caregiver #disabled flip #disabled babysitter #agere edit

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agere-me · 3 months

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Shoutout to the littles who

❥ curse

❥ don’t have a bedtime

❥ don’t have rules/don’t want them

❥ can take care of themselves

❥ big age is 35+

❥ feel like they don’t fit into the cutesy/pure regression

❥ are physically disabled

❥ are mentally disabled

❥ don’t want a cg

❥ don’t like calling their cg mommy/daddy (or any parental name)

❥ doesn’t have any little gear/doesn’t want it

And so so much more, you’re all valid

#age regression #age regressor #agere #safe agere #sfw agere #autistic agere #boy agere #agere little boy #disabled agere #agere positivity #agere little #agere community #agere blog #agere caregiver #sfw cglre #sfw little community #sfw little

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chronicallycouchbound · 8 months

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I feel like people often don’t talk about the experiences of disabled people who have caretakers because so much of the conversation is about us—not including us.

I receive in home care for 30 hours a week (+ 4 hours/week for respite). This is paid for by Medicaid (state insurance). Outside of paid hours, my primary caretakers care for me unpaid and assist me most of the time. I’m very rarely left alone due to my high support needs. Often, when I am left alone, I am completely bedridden or at minimum housebound. I have frequent emergency life threatening health problems, falls, and serious injuries even with support in place, and these things significantly increase when I’m on my own.

I’m extremely lucky that my paid caretakers are my partner, my sister (the only family member I have regular contact with, I’m estranged from the rest of my immediate family and most of my extended family) and my best friend.

I used to have agency staffing which was horrible for me and borderline traumatic. At several points, before doing the self directed care option (which allows me to choose my own staff, hire and train them myself and dictate hours for them), I opted to not have any staffing. I was regularly in the emergency room. I can’t drive, so I was having to walk and if I was lucky enough to be able to take the bus on occasion or get a ride from a Facebook acquaintance, they were few and far in between. I don’t have family support, and even my sister who is supportive wasn’t living in the state at the time and doesn’t have a car most of the time.

And before I could even choose which staffing option, even though medically it had been deemed essential for me to have in home care, even though my insurance covered it, I had to wait several years (I was 18 when I was approved) until I was 21 to qualify to start. The reason why: I was legally an “adult disabled child” because of my high support needs (which is funny because I STILL don’t have SSI at age 24) and thus legally unable to consent to my own care plan. I needed a blood relative to consent, and that same blood relative (who had to have proof of such!) couldn’t care for me. At the time, my sister was the only person who could’ve been my caregiver and also she is the only verifiable blood relative I have contact with for safety reasons, and my only relative on this side of the USA.

The first business day after my 21st birthday I immediately got things set up to get in home care.

This is out of date, I get assistance with more than just these highlighted ADL (activities of daily living) tasks now.

In short: my day-to-day life is entirely dependent on others.

And there’s power imbalances that exist between me and my caregivers, even with my current caregivers being amazing and anti-ableist. They will always exist. We talk about the power dynamics of me being dependent on them for my survival, and how heavy that weight can be for each of us.

Having caregivers often means that accessibility is extra difficult— I’ve been told straight up multiple times that I can’t have assistance from my caregivers to help me change in a changing room when we’re out shopping. That they can’t go into the bathroom with me, that they can’t help me get un/dressed during appointments, that they can’t come into spaces with me.

I’ve been denied access to psychiatric care because I can’t do my daily living tasks (ADLs- the highlighted items) independently. And when I’m in a hospital or emergency room, I can’t have my in home workers be paid to care for me, there’s an expectation that the nursing staff at the hospital will do it. Even though my caregivers were specifically trained to learn my body and needs for weeks and have been working with me for years. I have severe cPTSD and showering in front of a stranger is something I cannot do. I would rather fall or faint or get injured or just not shower than deal with that. But I’m expected to just let anyone have access to my body just because I’m physically disabled and need support.

When I faint/fall/get injured/have life threatening health issues arise while I’m not clothed, or when I’m otherwise vulnerable, I’m supposed to let strangers just touch me however they want to. I have to show them my chest (for my cardiac care) and let them poke and examine me. I can’t object without losing access to vital care.

I have agency. I have rights. I have autonomy. I deserve to be able to exercise these things.

#chronically couchbound #disability #disabled #disabled pride #cripple punk #cripplepunk #disability pride #high support needs #ableism #professional caregiver #activities of daily living #ADL #medicaid #healthcare #in home care #home care #home care aids #nothing about us without us

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pixierainbows · 10 days

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🍓🍓🍰

caregiver help pixie baking

#baking #pixie baking #strawberries #cake #homemade #actually disabled #actually nonverbal #autism #severe autism #professional caregiver #helping

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puppys-tiny-space · 4 months

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🍜food tips for tiny's and big's🍜

food can be a hard topic for any number of reasons, these are some tips that help me when I struggle with eating whether it be amount, nutrient value or other. Especially around the holidays food can be hard so I hope this helps somebody!

🩷set your boundaries, don't be afraid to speak up for yourself if somebody hurts your feelings or crosses your boundaries, your feelings matter!🩷

🩵don't restrict yourself, especially when sensory issues make it hard for me to eat, I ignore what I should be eating, as long as I get nutrients in my body that's important🩵

🩷smooth it out, big sensory inputs can be scary and hard to manage so what I like to do is blend veggies I like taste wise in cream and then blend it until it's a smooth sauce, then I eat it with noodles and cheese🩷

🩵a full tummy is a happy tummy, it's okay to eat, when your tummy feels all full that is a good thing! It means your body gets the food it needs, remind yourself of that🩵

🩷reward yourself, if you struggle with eating too much or too little make a chart of an amount of meals per day and every time you reach the goal give yourself a sticker and at a certain point you can get a small reward like a plushie or toy🩷

🩵 accomidate yourself however you want, if it works for you it doesn't matter what other people say, don't let anyone make you feel bad about what you are eating or how and if they try to: remember point one🩵

🩷fun plates, use plates and other dishes or cutlery that bring you joy, wether it be something related to your regression, a spin or hyperfixation doesn't matter, making meal time fun makes it much easier🩷

🩵 entertainment, I like to watch shows, listen to podcasts or call with friends to eat so I can focus on something else then the food and reduce chances of intrusive thoughts and such getting in the way of my meal time🩵

🩷mind your regression, regressing during meal time makes eating much easier for me but for others it makes it harder, do whatever works for you and dont worry about what other people do/don't do🩷

Fun fact of the day: Samsung used to sell noodles

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clownrecess · 1 year

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I can not currently, nor will I ever, be able to live alone.

I have mid-high support needs, and they have lately been becoming higher and higher. I can not take care of myself. I can not make myself food. I can not do laundry. I can very rarely take care of my hygienic needs without lots of reminders. When I have meltdowns I am a risk to myself. I have put a small hole in my wall from a meltdown. I have severe sensory issues. I don't think I'll be able to hold most jobs.

I can not currently, nor will I ever, be able to live alone.

This is okay. There is nothing bad, or wrong, or shameful, or childish about this.

Everyone has different support needs, and if you need a caretaker or to live with people as a support, that is okay.

#high support needs #mid support needs #mid high support needs #actually autistic #neurodivergent #aac user #nonspeaking autistic #autism #nonspeaking #aac device #aac users #situationally nonspeaking #disabled #disability #caregiver

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martyrbat · 10 months

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legends of the dark knight (2021) #6

[ID: Bruce Wayne entering Wayne Manor by his cave entrance. He's in his Batman costume and, frankly, looks like shit. He has a fresh, gaping bullet wound in his shoulder, he has blood around his mouth and is dripping from rain (and possibly sweat). His costume is battered and torn, exposing his cut and bloodied legs. He's bracing himself against the doorframe as Alfred cries out, “My word, Master Bruce! What have you done to yourself?!”

He rushes to support Bruce's weight, his arm wrapped around his back as he leads him down the corridor and away from the platter and cup of tea he was going to bring him—which is shattered on the ground because he dropped it in shock. Alfred repeats, “What have you done?” Bruce weakly and insufferably responds, “You... should see... the other guy...” Alfred responds, “Sir, the essence of comedy, is timing.” END ID]

#THEM....#disabled bruce #<- IT COUNTS!!!! HE NEEDS HIS CAREGIVER HE NEEDS SOMEONE TO HELP TAKE CARE OF HIM!!!#like its always framed as something laughable or shameful but no!!! hes a disabled hero!!!#he pushes himself again and again and needs that person to help ground him and to remind him of his bodily needs and care!!!!#but also god he's soooo annoying and unfortunately funny. dont tell him. itll go straight to his cowl ears.#c: legends of the dark knight (2021) i: 6 #crypt's panels #batman #bruce wayne #alfred pennyworth #alfred & bruce

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babey-lewis · 22 days

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I'd like to talk about something that's been on my mind a lot recently, and it's something that I've been meaning to bring up.

Littles! Stop taking advantage of CGs!

I'm tired of being taken advantage of by littles who only want someone to coo at them and say nice things and someone who they can dump their trauma on randomly (this is not in relation to my last post. I don't mind if people come to me for advice or for a place to vent, but I need them to ask first!). I want someone who wants a 3 dimensional relationship! Where we are friends first and then we move on to being in a agere relationship. But I get so many littles who claim to be looking for a caregiver, but they only ever want to talk while they are little, and aren't interested in taking it slow and building that very special relationship between carer and little.

I'm not some person who has infinite energy, I'm not some person who is a fanfic where I'm always ready to listen to your worries and anxieties, I'm not this flat, 1 dimensional person who can fit your fantasies of a cg.

I'm a human too, who wants a relationship with the littles I meet /p. Please, littles, please stop taking advantage of online cgs. We aren't your fictional story book that you can leave and come back when you feel like it. We have feelings too, and it's not fair that you play on our natural caring nature.

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dadzawa004 · 8 days

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Things I'd like to do with my little one ——————

— Wriothesley | a disabled caregiver | system alter 🐾

☆ - watching my kiddo sit in my lap while they play games on our 3DS / Nintendo switch/ ps4 / Xbox360

☆ - take them to parks and help them onto the swings

☆ - record cartoons so they can have unlimited TV time to watch whatever they'd like

☆ - (if they have any) comb their hair

☆ - unlimited forehead kisses

☆ - cook their favorite comfort foods

☆ - do outside activities (specifically chalk and trampoline things

☆ - give them 200 dollars to spend in a store of their choice and let them get whatever they want (as long as it's safe)

☆ - hand holding

☆ - small spinnies while they're in my wheelchair

☆ - matching clothes

☆ - pup/wolf themed onsies

☆ - bubble blowing

☆ - go to the beach

☆ - spoil them with things they like

☆- let them ramble

☆ - taking long naps together

Dni if: nsfw, kink blogs (even if ""sfw""), ddl/g and varieties, endo systems/pro endo/think non-traumatic systems are valid, anti-agere, ableism.

#age regression caregiver #agere community #age regression #agere caregiver #sfw caregiver #🐾answerz #agere blog #system caregiver #disabled caregiver

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abc04 · 4 months

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shoutout to all the regressors and caregivers that struggle with their headspaces. that have a hard time getting into their headspace when they want to. that want to do certain things when in their headspace but don't have the energy to, or lack the motivation, or struggle to follow through with their plans. who enter their headspace involuntarily. who want to have physical gear or relationships related to their headspace, but can't. shoutout to everyone who can't interact with their headspace in exactly the way they want to- we see you and love you. be kind to yourselves, it's ok- you have plenty of time to experience your regression/caregiving the way you want 💚

#tried to make this general!#but we've just been thinking about all the things we'd LIKE to do related to regression or even caregiving #but are unable to either because of our environment/safety or disability or just energy #so shoutout to everyone else that experiences that please go at your own pace and know that you have time #confluence.txt #agere positivity #sfw agere

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blackholemojis · 3 months

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request: text saying "need care" or "need caregiver" :]

You got it :) I also included one that just says “caregiver,” since I hadn’t made one yet

[ID: purple light mode word emojis reading:

caregiver

need care

need caregiver. /End ID]

[ID: purple dark mode word emojis reading:

caregiver

need care

need caregiver. /End ID]

#caregiver #adls #badls #accessibility #disabled #chronically ill #spoonie #blackholemojis basics #medium support needs #high support needs

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rebellum · 1 year

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I feel like... Perhaps... Arguing that transphobia is defined by murder and that anything other than murder doesn't even matter... May NOT be conducive to fighting for trans rights.

Like... people want the right to exist as they are. They want to have access to hrt and surgeries and prosthetics. People want access to clothes that fit them and reflect how they want to be seen. People want access to medical care (eg. Getting screened and treated for sex-based forms of cancer can be impossible if you have the "wrong" sex listed to receive those tests). People want to be respected and treated well. People want to not be sexually assaulted and beaten and abused. People want to have access to housing and jobs, and the protection to not lose those things for being trans. People want access to shelters for homeless people or survivors of domestic abuse. People want name changes.

Acting like all of those things don't matter because at least they weren't murderered by an individual (and instead die of suicide or state violence, or survive and suffer) isn't okay.

#'hey people are forcibly detransitioning you and raping and beating you and you lost your job and are going to be homeless and #probably die of infection from being stabbed for trying to go to the bathroom. but at least you arent part of a demographic that has a #higher murder victim rate! shhh just ignore that we dont actually have data on the murder rate of your group.'#do ppl like. forget state based violence exists. and that thats most violence minorities face.#idk man im just. mad about people on here acting like youre only oppressed if youre a perisex trans woman who was AMAB.#cause i exist at the intersection of multiple minorities and being told hey u experience violence but at least you wont be murdered by an #individual feels like a slap in the face.#like it doesnt matter if i have to mask my neurodivergent behaviour bc if people see they could assume im on drugs and call the police and #i could potentially be really hurt but not die but hey at least i wont die just be horrifically traumatized by police brutality!#there are millions of people with mental illnesses similar to my own around the world who are institutionalized and forcibly medicated or #living on the streets or dependant on horrifically abusive caregivers #but hey at least they arent being murdered!#like. the way the transphobia discussion on tumblr rn discusses (and doesnt discuss) race and ability and class and health makes me #feel very invisible.#like if people had to choose who to believe about my experiences between listening to me a black/mixed mentally ill maybe disabled (used to #be disabled) hella nd trans nonbinary person #or listen to a white middle class trans woman's take on my experiences that theyd choose her. its such a weird weird microcosm.#its like a monkeys paw like people are finally listening to trans fems and finally recognising the violence they experience and finally #actually caring about them but for some reason decide that in order to do that its necessary to throw every other minority under the bus #like fuck man have you seen how 'anti transandrophobia truthers' discuss race? its NOT okay #we all matter we all are so similar and are part of the same groups and same communities we need to stick together #stop using trans fems as a battering ram to hurt other minorities challenge #cause like. yes its some trans fems. but its mostly NOT?#like its non trans fems telling other non trans fems that they arent oppressed #and even when many trans fems are like what the fuck dude of course other trans ppl matter whats wrong with you #the group of like 80% non trans fems 20% trans fems are like 'hmm if you are defending other trans people you must not really be trans fem'#like. denying trans fems their identity bc they disagree with them?? dude someone doesnt stop being a trans fem cause they recognise #people other than trans fems matter and exist #its just all so WEIRD its a weird little tumblr microcosm #i wanna stress. for those of you who dont have access to other lgbtq+ communities. how much it seems to be primarily a tumblr thing. to

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orbee-paws · 11 days

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shoutout to regressors who:

have facial hair

have body hair

are men or masculine-aligned

regress to a teen or younger adult

arent “aesthetic”

dont fit beauty standards

cant or dont have gear

experience intrusive thoughts

dont like to be touched

cant form words when regressed

cant form words when big

experience flashbacks when regressed

regress to give themselves the past they never had

have dermatillomania or other compulsive disorders

experience joint pain

i see you, you are loved, you are as important as any other regressor. you deserve to express your regression and feel safe.

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