The Three LOVES THEORY by Roxie Nafousi
There’s a theory that throughout our lifetime, we will fall in love three times, at three different stages of our lives. Each love feels totally unique from the other and teaches us something different that shapes the person that we becoming. The three types of love are the first love, the intense love, and the unconditional love. Ahead, we’re breaking down the meaning of each and what you typically learn from each stage of love.
The First Love
This love feels like a fairy tale. It’s that all-consuming puppy love and one that, at the time, you think will last forever. Often we experience our first love in high school, and usually it ends because the two people either grow apart or because of some trivial argument that the relationship simply isn’t strong enough to withstand.
This love is usually more surface level, with more importance placed on how the relationship might look to others. While it certainly feels like true love at the time, it’s not usually the deep, raw love that you’ll experience later on. The heartbreak can feel immense, initially, but you usually recover from it quickly.
What We Learn: That falling in love is the most incredible feeling in the world, but that not all relationships last forever, and they certainly aren’t always like they appear to be in the movies.
The Intense Love
This is the second love, and it’s usually the one that turns our world upside down. As we fall into this intense love story, the relationship becomes a mirror into our soul: we see all our insecurities, our needs, and our desires staring back at us. In this relationship, we may experience jealousy, fear, and self-doubt that we’ve never felt before. The relationship comes with massive highs and dramatic lows. We often try to mold the other half into our perfect partner, and we try to mold ourselves to become theirs. This is the love that feels like a rollercoaster and the one that can leave us feeling guarded, distrusting, and hurt.
The heartbreak from this relationship can be indescribably painful, but it is also through this heartbreak that we really grow, change, and evolve while finding the inner strength and resilience we didn’t know we had.
What We Learn: What we do want from love, and what we don’t.
The Unconditional Love
After we’ve recovered from the heartbreak of the intense love and we’ve begun to heal and cultivate self-love, then comes the unexpected love. The one that comes from nowhere and feels just completely and utterly right. There are no games, and when you are with them you simply feel like you are home. You embrace all that they are, all their imperfections, and all their nuances. You feel more yourself with them than you ever have before, and you constantly inspire each other to be the best versions of yourselves. When you face an obstacle or a challenge in the relationship, you work together to overcome it because you are both committed to your future. This is the unconditional love that marks the beginning of forever, and you thank the universe every day for bringing them into your world.
What We Learn: That true love does exist and that it is possible to feel completely safe, protected, and adored by another human.
Roxie Nafousi - The Three Loves Theory
Mimi's note
Right now we're between the second and third. Both Crowley and Aziraphale need to recover and cultivate self-love before they can embrace all that they are, Aziraphale all the dark gray shades of Crowley and Crowley all the light gray shades of Aziraphale.
I have no doubt that their love will become unconditional love (it already is, but they don't know it and being apart will allow them to see it).
I trust Neil and Terry and will hold on to these words, "Everything will be okay."
insp (x)
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Know what I just thought about?
Jobu Tupaki Joy going into the bagel wouldn’t have killed every Joy, just her. We see in the other universes that Joy is still there after going into the bagel so it wasn’t the fate of every Joy at stake, just that one
Which just makes the ending more emotional. Just like the Evelyn we follow is the “worst” Evelyn, this Joy is arguably the “worst” Joy given the nihilism and murder and such
We hear Evelyn earlier ask isn’t it ok to lose some universes, and say all she wants is “her” Joy back, aka her version of Joy in this universe
But by the end she goes through everything to save this one Joy, the “worst” Joy, who is not “her” Joy, because she doesn’t want to lose a single Joy no matter what version of her she is
Just the idea of unconditional love that says “I would not get rid of any piece of you, not even the worst parts, not even the parts you could argue should be gotten rid of, because they’re still you and I love them as much as the best parts”
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