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Robert Carlyle as Mr Gold The Serpent of Eden in Once Upon A Time 1x02 "The Thing You Love Most"

Pretty sure that lavender lemonade is the hot chocolate with cinnamon of season 7.

Early in season 1, Emma, Henry, and Mary-Margaret are shown to share a love of hot chocolate with cinnamon.

We the audience know that these three are related, even if they don't yet, so the drink serves to emphasize what's already known. Their shared taste for the beverage is framed as something that was inherited.

Season 7 has a lot of echoes of the first season. A lot of parallels. And I think that lavender lemonade could be considered as one of those parallels. The drink first appears for the first in the fifth episode, when Eudora brings Tiana a glass.

Tiana is upset, and the context and the tone of the moment imply that the lemonade was a comfort drink. Lavender lemonade shows up again in the ninth episode when we learned that it's Cecelia's favorite.

Note that, aside from Rapunzel poisoning Cecelia's drink, these are the only two times that lavender lemonade makes an appearance. And in both instances it's shown to be a favorite drink. Just like hot chocolate in season 1.

Cecelia also says that Rapunzel makes "the best lavender lemonade north of the bayou." And where is Eudora's and Tiana's palace located? In the middle of the bayou.

It could be entirely possible that Cecelia had, at some point in her life, tried Eudora's lemonade. Meaning, Eudora and Cecelia would've known one another in some capacity. Connecting these families years before Tiana and Ella had met.

ONCE UPON A TIME // THE THING YOU LOVE MOST // s1e2

inspired by this post, in which Damian does not know what Vine is

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

What harm would there have been if you told Regina where you got Henry?

I told her precisely what she needed to know, dearie. And that is more than you needed to.

various tango doodles

What do you like about the Diasomnia boys if I may ask?

I always love hearing about the different reasons people enjoy characters.

I mean, c'mon. he has split custody over Sebek okay

also, Lilia in particular has maybe the best timeskip character development of all time

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i cant get over the ball being so CLEARLY all for crowley i can't get over aziraphale trying to woo him with a WHOLE FUCKING BALL because that's what he knows that's what romance IS for him because he's been wanting to dance with crowley ever since dancing was invented and he's so stuck in time with the way he dresses and talks and he still thinks a dance is the high of romance AND HE MADE A WHOLE ENTIRE FUCKING BALL FOR CROWLEY JUST SO HE COULD DANCE WITH HIM like now it's so fucking obvious he gave away his BOOKS without a second thought and it was all for crowley he organised a whole JANE AUSTEN THEME BALL just so he could have an excuse to finally dance with the love of his life and i can't get over this i'm shaking my fists and pacing up and down he did not give a single fuck about anything other than dancing with crowley and HE BARELY TOUCHED OTHER PEOPLE'S HANDS WHILE HIS WHOLE FUCKING PALM WAS PRESSED TO CROWLEY'S AND i need to lie down

Holy crap this is like world record breaking pace guys

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