Traumagenic-only community blogs : a masterlist

For anyone who feels uncomfortable having to share community spaces with endogenic systems, a masterlist might useful.

If you know of other blogs, let us know and we'll had them to the list !

Last updated on: 14.04.2024

Culture

@pluralcultureis @polyfragcultureis @narccultureis

Community

@sys-polls @anti-endo-safe-space @system-hottakes @tales-from-systok @tales-from-sysblr @tales-from-syscord @demonized-infodumps @anti-endo-haven

Vent

@sys-confessions @antiendovents @system-vent @fictive-confesses

Positivity

@cdd-joy @positivitycombopack @syspositivity

Templates, userboxes and flags

@crows-templets @zero-templates @electricalstemplates @sysboxes @systemuserboxes @antiendo-sysboxes @systemtermz @antiendosystemterms @flagsandtags @hydra-creates @sysgraphics @obscure-introject-sources @system-userbox-generator @cdd-system-terms

Resources

@atlas-duo @thesyscode

A very special thanks to @the-hydra-sys who helped us so much in making this masterlist.

anyway, never listen to what antis have to say about "DID isn't quirky and fun!!!" because DID/OSDD or not, traumagenic or not, you are allowed to love your system. you are allowed to have a good relationship with your headmates and to enjoy being plural and to embrace yourself as a system. suffering is not a requirement of plurality, and being miserable is not required to be a more valid system.

EVERY SYSTEM HAS THESE:

the british one

a little that is in some way a furry or furry-adjacent

scary corpse

middle aged man who is also a scaredgirl

guy who chugs a whole carton of almond milk for fun

in system abuse should be taken more seriously. and if you suffer from that you shouldn’t feel ashamed for it.

Y'know how weird it is to watch an actor in their character's costume/setting, acting as themself rather than the character that you're used to?

(ie Misha Collins in The French Mistake, Tom Holland in Peter Parker garb talking in his actual accent, or even Thomas Sanders in his Sanders Sides bloopers)

That's kind of how I imagine it feels for our friends to watch another alter front in the body, when they know me (the host) better than the others.

Like it looks like an entirely different person, but still in a familiar way, rather than the "scary" way that "acting like a different person" is often described.

Anyone else think of it like this, or have another view of it?

the brain was rotting as usual over octonauts during class today and we were about to play a team game we’re super confident in and as i was thinking “explore, rescue, protect!” drew was thinking “aw hell yeah we’re going to fucking destroy them” and so what everyone in headspace heard was “destroy. rescue. protect.” LMAO -sey

OMFG LMAO “DESTROY, FUCK, PROTECT: ✨OCTONAUTS✨” HELP LMFAO IM FUCKING WHEEZING -drew

Having an introject from a piece of media that hardly anyone knows about/is aware of is so funny. "Hey, do you know of this one book/game/movie/show from a few years ago about [insert thing here] called [insert name]? No? Alright, well-" [proceeds to ramble about said media because you have almost nobody else to talk to about it]

True story

i wanna draw!!! give me things to draw pretty please!!!

-kenny!! 🐕💛

Amnesia doing its thing

You go girl

It's weird not having my own friends. Like I don't hate the hosts friends or anything but I just feel like I'd have a different group if it was just my life ya know? Idk it's been weird since we broke up with our old bf because now it's like I don't really have anybody to talk to who like knows me as me. It'd be easier if we weren't a system. Like if we were all just one person that'd be a lot easier. But eh what are you gonna do.

do you think it’s possible to fuse with the brain through dormancy? alters can’t die ofc but hypothetically if an alter goes dormant and they seemingly never resurface do ya think they’ve just fused into the brain?

On systems and the collective name;

I recently saw a post talking about how the OP considers using the collective name of a system instead of every alter's individual name to be much like deadnaming trans people, and I don't agree for a variety of reasons– but going into depth about that feels like it wouldn't be productive, so instead I'd like to talk about collective names and why a system would change their collective name; plus how to go about it. Especially since a lot of these posts don't talk about the hurdles that come with living in current day society and the necessity of having a legal name to pen down in documents.

My points would be coming from my own experiences as a traumagenic system, so they may not apply to nor represent endogenic systems – although they're welcome to consider these points if they find them helpful.

One might preemptively ask; why not use every alter's name as they switch in? And to that my answer would be – aside from my former note on the necessity of a legal name – do you seriously think I remember all of these guys' names? Personally, asking strangers who just met us to remember what we ourselves don't feels a bit like overkill, especially when we're not going from one name to another but from one to 20+. Again, remember to consider the external world in these discussions– if you want to go by multiple names how would you go around navigating it without discomfort or potential legal trouble? It's a hassle that I think is more of a burden on an already burdened system, as we all tend to be, and so we opted for a collective name instead.

We have experienced a fair amount of childhood trauma relating to our birth-name, but a good portion of that trauma did not "stay" in childhood. Leaving an abusive situation is an ongoing journey, and naturally we'd grown to be rather ambivalent on our collective name. A fair share of the system didn't mind having our birth-name stay as the collective name, while a cluster of alters preferred a different name – including the host, who exclusively uses that name to identify online. Another cluster aligned strongly with our birth-name, and were highly protective of it; so you can see how this can cause a fair share of friction.

So what did we do, in this situation– when we wanted a collective name but didn't agree on what to use? How did we minimize this friction for better functioning? The answer would be something along the lines of communicating, introspecting, and a whole lot of time. Not exclusive to those steps of course, but I touch on that later.

Firstly, we– or more accurately the host– thought about the collective name. Hypothetically you don't need to go on a deep, thoughtful dive about it– try to pin down the strongest feelings or ideas regarding it, then pen those feelings down. Communicate with your system members about it. Ask them if they share your feelings on the name, if they prefer this collective name or an alternative to it. Communication is where one can come to understanding and compromise, it's where your other system members learn about your feelings and can become more considerate of your feelings about it. This step can take a long, long time depending on how well your communication typically goes– we communicate via letter-like notes mostly, which makes our "conversations" weekly events. Time also plays a role here, although it varies from member to member. Remember to consider the real world in these discussions as well, even though it seems like a given we have fallen into that "who really cares if we're nameless" trap and then were given a rude awakening when we needed to fill out bank documents.

We then took the responses from that discussion and – in moderation and a safe environment – analyzed our trauma about the name, understanding what we felt about it and why. This ranged from it being used as an insult, to the name being symbolic of the removal of our autonomy, to it reminding us of our old environment, to variations of the name being used exclusively by abusers, to it not aligning with some members' gender expression, and so on. The list is pretty long, really, and I personally think we didn't get to the bottom of it yet, but you don't need to have an equally long list for your discomfort with your name to be valid. Sometimes a name just doesn't fit. Put forth suggestions on names, preferably ones you're already acquainted with if you struggle with amnesia – having a tendency to recognize these names can make the change much easier – or consider variations on the original collective name. Maybe nicknames as well, it could be anything. Don't be afraid to make compromises if needed, while I'm sure some systems would love to go by every member's names we unfortunately don't live in the ideal scenario. Some discomfort is necessary for healing, facing uncomfortable ideas and notions instead of avoiding them can help immensely in the future.

From here on out, it's a system-by-system situation. It's still an ongoing conversation even between our own members, so I can't give you a sure conclusion right now. I'd love to say "we did it, we solved collective name trauma! If you do these steps you'll definitely be 100% happy!" But things like that are unfortunately not fixed in a day, week or even year. We started this dialogue four years ago and are still divided over it. Now, for us, we go by two names and have considered a name change in the future to our host's name.

Maybe one could find that arrangement and our post in general helpful, maybe not, but we think it's a worthwhile dialogue to open between system members and systems online as well.

New to being consciously aware of the system. Anyone got tips to get to know all of us better? Good resources for a system just starting their communication? //Aaron they/them