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entropy-sea-system · 9 months

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As someone from a culture where arranged marriage is what is seen as the ideal, please remember that marriage being seen as mandatory is really NOT always the same as romance being seen as mandatory. In some places you will be persecuted for engaging in romance (even if you check all the societal privilege boxes) while still being told you have to get married in an arranged marriage.

Its important to talk about romance negativity and to really truly consider how amatonormativity and romance negativity and sex negativity all work differently in different cultures. Only focusing on the experiences of white people in the united states will not give you a complete picture of how any of these work.

#aromantic #aro #arospec #actually aromantic #desi #south asian #aspec #romance negativity #sex negativity #amatonormativity #arranged marriage

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saffigon · 2 years

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I know I'm the Loveless Heartless Badass Guy on aro tumblr, but we, as a community, must work on supporting the more romance favorable, the lovequeer and arolovic, the romoaro, the greyspec etc part of the community.

The recent shift in focus to lovelessness, heartlessness, repulsion has been great in giving representation to those that feel underrepresented, but it is ultimately coming with the cost of pushing out those that enjoy and enjoy experiencing romance and love. That's not to say that those that are favorable, lovequeer, romo aro, greyspec, etc cannot also be loveless, heartless, repulsed, etc. Nor is it to say we should now push the loveless, heartless, repulsed folks out of the community. Or that lovelessness, heartlessness, or repulsion doesn't also experience strife still.

It is instead to say: we as a community are fostering a space of romance negativity, and to a certain degree, love negativity. Treating romance or love as something evil, something weird or wrong, equating them to illnesses: these are all the examples of romance negativity seeping into our community.

Romance and love still have a place in our community just as much as not experiencing them do. The unique intersection of being arospec and experiencing romance; The unique intersection of being loveless and lovequeer; These experiences are so important to our community and ultimately enrich it. We as an aromantic community must do better.

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aroaceconfessions · 11 months

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As an aspec person acutely aware of amanormativity can I just say I’m becoming increasingly uncomfortable with how it is being discussed online. Like it’s really toeing the line into phobia in some instances. I get not wanting to see romance in media but seeing so many people shit on queer content made by allo queer folks is legit distressing.

People aren’t ‘pushing’ romance onto you if they feel it and want to express it in their own content. ‘But what about platonic love?’ For many aspec folks platonic love is largely or more important than any other. That’s great!

Make 👏 your 👏 own 👏 content 👏

Submitted May 22, 2023

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #arose #sex negativity #romance negativity #homophobia #queerphobia

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significantouther · 7 months

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Yes, repulsion and negativity aren't the same

But I've seen a trend within aspec spaces of clearly apholding sex/romance negative views and calling it sex/romance repulsion.

#sex negativity #sex repulsed #romance negativity #romance repulsed

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aroace-confessions · 26 days

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TW mentions of sex negativity and violence/murder Is anyone else kind of uncomfortable with the term romance negativity mirroring the term sex negativity? Like, sex negativity refers to a harmful belief(that's built into governments/institutions) that gets people ostracized, disowned, beaten, murdered and more. And then 'romance negativity' is like, when someone goes 'romance is evil' in a reddit reply with 3 downvotes or something.

I feel like the term romance negativity being made to mirror sex negativity puts it on a pedestal it doesn't deserve, yes there are some things about romance people say in the aro community that shouldn't be acceptable and that often alienates romance favorable aros, and I think it's fine to have a term for that, but can it not be romance negativity? It just isn't comparable to sex negativity in any way.

(btw, sex negativity is a feminist term and is not a synonym or related in any way to sex repulsion/aversion, try to be thorough in not confusing those terms)

Submitted 01/04/24

#sex negativity #romance negativity #tw violence #tw murder #aro #aromantic #romance favorable

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sillymcrandom · 6 months

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aspec community when sex negativity: 😇😇🙈🙈🙈

aspec community when “romance negativity” (which isn’t a thing): 🤬🤬🤬😡😡😡😡😡

#aromantic #aspec #not saying sex repulsion is inherently sex negativity btw bc theres ways to express that without being sex negative #theres just so much unchecked sex negativity in aspec spaces omg #sex negativity #romance negativity

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ziptie-bouquet · 11 months

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An addendum to my previous post about sex-negativity:

Romance-negativity seems to plague some aro-spec circles. I think I should also kill it with my bare hands.

You all, I beg you, don't use the logic people use to oppress us!!! Don't deem something morally neutral as evil and don't attack the people just living their lives without hurting others!!!

Please think critically and don't attack people for being in relationships and instead attack amatonormativity and the other actually morally bad things that make you feel frustration and isolation!

You can obviously voice your romance-repulsion, but seeing those two political stances even having a FOOTHOLD in my community makes me feel shame. Please stop.

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism #romance negativity #arospec

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lightros · 6 months

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aro culture is calling love a four-letter-word

#aro #aromantic #romance negativity #(just a little bit as a treat)#aro pond users are about to start tracking my queue length the number of times i turn what i say there into posts

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engravedlives · 1 month

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redysetdare · 8 months

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Hey if you're romance or sex repulsed just know that's is fine to be repulsed. You have the right to express your feelings. You have the right to take up space in the aro and ace communities. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not a morally bad person. You aren't spreading a stereotype or negativity by sharing your experience. You deserve to be here just as much as everyone else. You shouldn't have to silence yourself in favor of others.

You deserve support. You deserve representation. You deserve activism and protection. You deserve to be heard and seen.

#aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #DO NOT REPLY WITH 'just as long as youre not sex/romance negative'!!!! FUCK U IF U DO THAT!!!!#IN FACT YOU WILL BE BLOCKED IM NO LONGER BEING NICE!!!#LET THERE BE 1 REPULSED POSITIVITY POST THAT DOESNT CONFLATE IT WITH NEGATIVITY

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columboscreens · 3 months

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#columbo #season 4 #negative reaction #the three stages of romance

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entropy-sea-system · 8 months

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Romance negativity is REAL. Sorry your white american ass can't comprehend facing violence or abuse for engaging in romance I guess(while some of us are in cultures that literally do that to ppl)?? But even if it wasn't a societal thing it still doesn't make it okay to be romance negative. Being toxic about other peoples consensual actions doesn't make you progressive in the slightest FUCK YOU

#romance negativity #actually aromantic #aro #arospec #aromantic #romance #desi #actually desi

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saffigon · 2 years

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"Romance is just a panic attack" and "Romance is for idiots" and "Romance is gross" etc

They are all romance negativity; it is fine if you don't like romance or are repulsed by romance, but pushing those thoughts onto all of romance and putting down those that engage in it is inherently harmful, including to other aros

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #romance negativity #romance repulsion #loveless aro #loveless aromantic

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aroaceconfessions · 1 year

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Growing up as aro/ace and not knowing all that time made me kind of hostile towards romance and sex and it took so much energy to let go of that. All those years I desperately tried to make sense of it, to understand that it is something I can desire as a woman while in media I was mostly exposed to the negative, destructive and abusive sides of love and sex and struggling to understand why I'm supposed to want that… It's like I had allophobia or something wtf. Please, schools, educate about asexuality… :')

Submitted April 27, 2023

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #arose #sex negative #sex negativity #romance negative #romance negativity

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ciinamongrrl · 1 year

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it’s better to live as king of beasts. then as a lamb, scared a weak.

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aro-bird · 1 year

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Liking or disliking sex and/or romance should never be the litmus test that determines someone's intellect, morality, and value. Liking or disliking sex and/or romance is simply a neutral thing and should not determine what your worth is as a person.

You are allowed to like or dislike sex and/or romance as long as you don't shame others who hold a different opinion and as long as you're not forcing these things on people who had not given you consent.

The ability to pursue any romantic and/or sexual activity and relationship is inseparable to the ability to create boundaries for your own safety and vice versa.

Your actions should not trample on the rights of others and that includes forcing romantic and sexual acts on someone as well as forcing romantic and sex negative resistance against another person.

#mayaposts #sex positive #sex favorable #sex repulsed #sex negative #romance positive #romance favorable #romance repulsed #romance negative #aromantic #asexual #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aroace #aroacespec

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