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p1utofairy · 2 months

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PICK A CARD: “when i look into your eyes, i know it's real.”

★ which romantic tropes will you and your fp embody?

DISCLAIMER: 18+ mature themes. take what resonates leave what doesn’t. this was such a cute idea – thanks for requesting this anon. 💞 i hope you all enjoy!

— PILE ONE.

tropes → star-crossed lovers, forbidden love & opposites attract.

there’s a distinct polarity in you and your fp’s personalities & backgrounds, pile 1. you’re more reserved, cautious and patient and they’re more free-spirited and spontaneous. they say whatever they want and deal with the consequences later; this isn’t in a bad way either, i’m more so picking up that they like to stand up and fight for what’s right. they could be an activist of some sort. they’re confident and brave, and you’re really going to admire that. as far as finances go, this person has MONEY, like big money! they either come from money or they are in a profession that pays extremely well and that’s where i see the forbidden love trope coming in to play.

remember how allie in ‘the notebook’ comes from a wealthy, privileged background, while noah is portrayed as more working-class? the contrast in their backgrounds and personalities added depth to their relationship and created a lot of tension and conflict, but ultimately it made their love story more compelling and dynamic – that’s what i see here with you and your fp. you’re tired of over-working yourself for low pay and working jobs that don’t fulfill you financially, mentally and emotionally. you feel stuck…wondering when things are going to change. i see someone looking out of a window in a house, there’s a strong sense of longing and their eyes look sad. they’re waiting for someone or something to arrive, but when? you’ve been telling yourself to keep going and keep pushing through, and then you will see progress and reward in the long run – very saturn/saturnian energy.

it’s interesting because you’re looking for a way out of your situation and your person is looking for an adventure. your fp is very comfortable financially, but they’re lacking in their love life. right now they’re very much single and they’re fine with that, but that fiery energy that burns inside them can’t be dimmed for long. when they cross paths with you they’re gonna be awestruck like “whoa! who is that?” lol. your fp might have some sagittarius/fire sign placements, or they just carry themselves very pompous and matter-of-fact, which might throw you off at first. that’s why i was also picking up on that opposites attract trope because princess belle & the beast from ‘beauty and the beast’ immediately came to mind. belle loved her books and independence, which was a stark contrast with the beast’s initial gruff and hot-tempered nature. you might think they’re a bit arrogant at first, but once you get to know them you’ll understand that there’s layers to them.

their family plays a big part in their life, which ties into the forbidden love trope because i’m ngl their family lowkey can be a lot to handle. as i said before, some of your fps come from money so some of their families might be a little snooty and strict like allie’s mom from ‘the notebook’ but i think with patience and time – you and your fp will learn to not give a f*ck what their family or anybody else thinks. this relationship is destined and you’re meant to show each other the different aspects/complexities of life and love. the energy is very reminiscent of mr. darcy and elizabeth from ‘pride and prejudice’ like remember how much longing and yearning it took for them to finally be together?! it was sooooooo worth it.

additional messages → wealthy, 2 years from now, ego, aries, very lowkey, the blackest day by lana del rey & cultural differences.

— PILE TWO.

tropes → second chance & age gap.

your fp is dominant af, pile 2. they possess everything within reach, and they’re admired by many. you may establish boundaries with them from the very beginning and they will respect that, they value you and wouldn’t dare do anything to hurt you. however, despite the love, passion, and devotion that will be present in this relationship, there will also be a need for compromise. it seems that this relationship will fulfill your hopes and dreams, but it will also come with its share of responsibilities. in the early stages, both you and your fp will feel a strong urge to make your relationship official and commit to each other. whatever you need or want – they will provide for you. you may not have expected to fall for them, but you couldn’t fight the obvious chemistry between you two. i picked up on the age gap trope mainly because they have provider energy. for some of you, they might already have a kid/kids? your energy feels a little bit more flighty and young. you like to be in your own personal space most of the time, and not everyone understands that, but your fp will.

actually, i think the idea of compromise i was picking up on earlier has to do with your personal space. you might be a bit of an introvert and the idea of constantly entertaining someone 24/7 and not having a moment for yourself is a bit jarring to you. now i’m not saying this person is taking your autonomy away, what i’m saying is that there has to be some sort of balance with the give and take in this connection. it’s reminding me of olivia pope and fitz from ‘scandal’ like one minute he’s showing her the house he had built for them in vermont and then the next scene she’s crying that she needs space and they can’t be together – like OLIVIA what’s it gonna be?! it’s like your heart is saying yes but your mind is saying no.

you’re gonna have to use your discernment and figure out if this is what you want – true commitment. it’s gonna take trust and dedication to make this work, pile 2. it might get to a point where y’all take a break and you choose to see someone else, and then you realize how much of a greater difference your fp makes in your life. they’re your home. that's the second chance trope coming into play. wow, pile 2. this is a very dynamic and complex relationship, but that’s what keeps you two going and loving each other through thick and thin.

additional messages → infrunami by steve lacy, you will meet through friends, extremely dedicated, workaholic, ass kisser, there’s someone in your inner circle you need to cut off, moving abroad, younger sibling & love drought by beyoncé.

— PILE THREE.

tropes → high school sweethearts & enemies to lovers.

your fp is the life of the party, pile 3…sometimes to a fault lol. they’re capable of being responsible and making good decisions, but sometimes they just say f*ck it and wild out. they can be impulsive and unpredictable at times which is quite the opposite from you. i’m picturing haley and nathan from ‘one tree hill’ and kat and patrick from ‘10 things i hate about you’ AND no by meghan trainer just randomly started playing in my head. i’m honestly so amused by this energy cause you’re like “nope! you’re not gonna fuck my life up.” being all dramatic 🤭 and they’re like “what?! me? i would never!” lol there’s gonna be a lot of witty banter between you both. your friends are gonna encourage you to just give them a chance, cause it’s obvious that you do like them — you just can’t stand how “friendly” they are.

your fp is extroverted as hell and loves a good social outing, whereas you on the other hand, rather curl up in bed with a good book or binge-watch your favorite shows/movies in the comfort of your own home. there’s this energy of “been there, done that.” the party scene just isn’t it for you anymore, and you’re content with that. this connection will really help your fp mature and get more in tune with their emotions, instead of masking them behind reckless behavior and nonchalance. that high school sweethearts trope really comes through strongly, not in the sense that y’all are actually in high school, but that nathan & haley vibe – that puppy love! once y’all are together, nobody can tell y’all shit. you and your fp will RIDE for each other.

nathan and haley definitely had their ups and downs, but they always found a way to make it work once they put their egos aside. haley brought out a side of nathan that nobody else got to experience but her. sometimes butting heads is necessary, it helps you confront things within yourself that you don’t always want to acknowledge. you’re so nurturing pile 3, you bring water to their fire. i don’t see you immediately jumping into this relationship, but that’s the beauty of it. that’s where the enemies to lovers trope kicks in, you’ll have to warm up to them first before you truly understand who they are at the core. your fp is used to fast-pace, hot n’ heavy, fleeting relationships but this is stable. this is pure. they’ll realize you can’t rush true love like this, it’s the journey and build-up that makes it so magical.

additional messages → 1st house placements, sagittarius, very soon, get out of your head, nice and slow by usher & family feud.

— PILE FOUR.

tropes → friends to lovers & forced proximity.

your fp has very high-energy, pile 4. i feel out of breath like i just got done doing 8 different tasks at once lol they might be very athletic or they just like to keep themselves busy. you and your fp are opposites, but the more you get to know each other, you will begin to realize that you have a lot in common – i’m hearing that you two will have a lot to talk about. sometimes you might find yourself holding back from saying things that you want to say in fear of judgement but with this person that anxiety goes out the window. they want to hear your thoughts and ideas, because they truly value your wisdom and knowledge on certain topics that they might not have been aware of. i’m hearing that they want to know your lore lol this is too cute. maybe you’re really into movies? marvel? fashion? idk there’s something very specific that you could go on and on about for hours and hours.

that’s why i picked up on that friends to lovers trope because i feel like they will show immediate interest in you and want to pursue something more, but you’ll be like WOAH hold it there…let’s build on this and see where it can go, no rush. i’m ngl pile 4 they might have a bit of a reputation or vibe of being a player…which will make you hesitant as to whether or not you want to take this seriously. i don’t even think you two normally run in the same circles – this is more like a chance meeting. yup here goes that forced proximity trope, you’ll probably meet them in some sort of unconventional way and be “forced” to spend time together.

you and your fp kind of remind me of holly and eric from ‘life as we know it’ which is a very underrated but amazing rom-com. i don’t think you’ll initially hate them per se, you’ll just be a bit cautious of them and wonder if they’re actually being genuine. however, by spending time with your fp, you will develop a deeper understanding and appreciation for them; which will then lead to you falling for them and establishing a close bond. you two might’ve gotten off on the wrong foot and then after a proper conversation with them you’ll be like: huh…you’re not so bad after all. there’s this flirty energy that comes in the form of sly/sarcastic remarks, and you’ll come to realize that it’s their own way of saying “i really like you.” it’s giving 2000s rom-com lol hot n cold by katy perry just came to mind.

the sexual tension between you two will be palpable, your friends will be like just f*ck already!!! this relationship will have it’s fair share of ups and downs, but that’s what will make it worth fighting for; nothing and no one is perfect and you will learn that in this relationship. no one could ever compare to you in your fp’s eyes – they will always have love for you even in the moments where you two don’t see eye to eye. the difference in you and your fp’s personalities will be what draws you two together even more.

additional messages → jealousy, jealousy by olivia rodrigo, lots of traveling, you manifested this, different lifestyles but we’ll make it work, your angel guides got your back & when one door closes, another one opens.

#pick a card #pac #pick a pile #tarot reading #p1utofairy

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icecreamkink · 2 years

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uther admitting he was wrong??

#well damn #aa morgana! :0 #its interesting how much more uther is willing to. show appreciation for morgana than arthur #despite the fact shes so difficult #is it 'shes actually My daughter' guilt #is it magic baby arthur prejudice #ok this was a Scene im ngl #merlin blogging

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luminarai · 4 months

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The virgin Mikio:

Got kicked out of the cool kids club. Couldn’t befriend a horse. Literally fought and killed his wife’s old mother then turned to her and said “I love you🥺”. Died from one blade to the gut. Left wife when she was being jumped by multiple people because she beat him in one ☝️ sparring session. Panics when wife shows an inch of manliness and pins him.

The Chad Taigen:

Went from poor kid to prized sword student. Overcame bullying prejudice. Protected enemy just so he could kill the enemy himself. Let enemy heal to have a fair fight. Got tortured for days on end and simply had the immunity of a cockroach. Childhood enemy disguised beats him in multiple battles and he eventually admits their skills are better than him. Got ‘really happy’ when who he thought was a man pinned him.

Ngl, this made me scream cackle when I read it, 10/10 nonnie, I love you

But for real, the villain decay of Taigen is hilarious, it’s so good because during the first part of season one my samurai scale from ‘actually the worst’ to ‘my beloved can do no wrong’ looked like this

and then they introduced Mikio and the bottom of the scale immediately dropped out to this

#blue eye samurai #mizu blue eye samurai #mizu #taigen #taigen blue eye samurai #mikio #mikio blue eye samurai #blue eye samurai netflix #somebody who can do pixel art should absolutely recreate nonnies og message in meme form

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fuumiku · 29 days

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Chilcille huh... ngl I was a little suspicious. like why would you do that, huh... hope youre not mischaracterizing anyone in your weird and wacky ship. a little weird. but then you said they both had flat asses and you know what? I salute you and your perfect characterization

The fact you seem to think you managed to not make this ask insulting is baffling. What the hell. Fuck off.

If you actually care to be open minded about the ship, I talk about marchil on my sideblog 24/7. Funnily enough I’m currently 4k words deep into an analysis of their character arc together in canon, but that’ll take some more days to get done. Some notable posts:

Of course without counting the analyses of Chilchuck on his own I’ve made, like my masterpost on his family situation. Or better yet you could also read my fics for them, see how weird and wacky they are here.

Wanna talk about mischaracterisation? They’re literally a comedic duo who interacts 24/7. Marchil is crazy bc ppl are like "did those shipper read with their eyes CLOSED?? They have no chemistry!" Meanwhile canon is like: "She’s obsessed with knowing everything she can about him and she reads him like a book." In her eyes he’s like that extra rare and hard and shiny unlockable dating sim character, that brooding mysterious character trope that’s thrilling to crack open and typically is at the center of the plot. The wife roleplay???? "Hey, did you know his type is blondes. Hey did you know he likes his women pretty and blonde. Hey did you know he likes her hair. Hey did you know that he teases her 24/7 and it’s one of the few things that consistently gets him grinning because he finds her reactions cute." Like a schoolyard bully pulling on the pigtails of the girl he likes.

It’s not like they have any thematic narratives or relevance. It’s not like she’ll live to 1000 and has existential dread about it while he’s logically gonna be her next friend to die at 50 and wether it’s romantic or platonic it’ll terrify her to lose him. It’s not like it’s fear of death x fear of rejection so they’re both obsessed with the thought of loss looming, past and ongoing. It’s not like it’s half-elf x half-foot and there’s an inherent journey that was and still is to dispel prejudices and truly come to see each other. It’s not like he’s painfully real and raw and flawed but still a good man, that he’s not the figure of prince charming that she’s always dreamed of while still being virtuous and worth fighting for. Or you know, her hair being golden and it being the epitome of beauty to him, and his hair turning silver and it being Marcille’s worst nightmare.

Just a weird wacky ship who means nothing but shallow things to people who have weirdo reasons for liking it. Like can you not. If you’re not imaginative enough to think of reasons why this ship may have an appealing dynamic that’s not my issue. But yes, yes, they’re both flat asses to me, thanks.

#Dungeon meshi #Ask #Spoilers #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #Marcille donato #chilchuck tims #Marchil #You me the parking lot after i finish and post my arc analysis #Sobbing……… we’re 20 over here in the rarepair pit come on. Like do u not see how obsessed i am. Do u think they like. Mean nothing to me #Do u think it’s all incidental and i slipped and the 10 thousands of words I write for them had no thought or feelings behind them or #Their arc is so beautifuuuuul they come to see each other and her standards become more real while he allows hope and openness #Into his heart again 😭😭 not the way two of their scenes lowkey read as a proposal…#Anyways I hope this makes it clear I’ll fight to my dying breath for them.#I don’t want trouble and i imagine you don’t either so just don’t come shitting on my doorstep #In positive news my fic Grind Me Down Sweetly recently reached 100 likes and 1k hits <3 it can also be read as just platonic so if you like #Them as a duo even as friends give it a shot #Every time I see someone shitting on marchil I start making marchil content faster btw #Not art

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2goldensnitches · 17 days

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ngl since october i've been feeling very uneasy in fandom, like lots of other users in the ones im familiar in are propalestine which is fine until they start throwing dogwhistles around and reposting obvious misinformation about i/p and dehumanizing jews/israelis/zionists as if that does anything to help palestinians (meanwhile when politicians like biden actually try to help they're either ignored or accused of bizarre conspiracy theories that don't make sense with even basic knowledge about the conflict)

i was guilty of sliding down the rabbit hole myself bc i wasn't thinking critically, like oh, this blogger started reblogging some suspicious stuff like the "river to the sea" stuff but if i don't support it i'm Evil and Hate Palestinians so i reblogged it like the Good Tumblr User i wanted to be. i've had reservations about how weirdly people talk about israel, but they say its progressive and moral, and i fell for their words. in hindsight, i really should've known better than to take them at their word, and now i don't really reblog much about the conflict anymore bc holy shit people really showed themselves to be utterly vile about this conflict and i don't trust a lot of people here anymore

then people i thought were trustworthy started getting really mask off. one semi popular fandom account i followed reblogged jvp as a reliable source, but i later learned from browsing jumblr posts that jvp is actually really antisemitic and basically autism speaks for jews. and in addition they also reblogged stuff about how israelis are all Evil and don't deserve any sympathy for 10/7, which is just cruel. i couldn't associate w/ them in good faith any more. other fandom accounts i used to follow started reblogging some really stomach churning (but concerningly popular) posts such as one about how hamas treated the hostages "so well" and another about houthis supposedly attacking ships for palestine's sake. this and looking beyond my usual fandom circles really opened my eyes to just how toxic and ass backwards this was becoming, and how this kind of vitriol is spilling over into the real world and hurting jews while doing nothing to help palestinians or muslims affected by the concurrent rise in islamophobia. it's so nervewracking. now whenever i see fandom blogs post propalestine stuff w/ "river to the sea" in big letters i feel very wary that they might be hiding more dangerous prejudices under the surface. even those who do try to be more aware about the surge in antisemitism still can't help but put down israelis, dabble in conspiracy theories, and/or condescend to jews or occasionally their allies

honestly kudos to you for staying strong in these times. you're a lot braver than me and you and the rest of jumblr deserve better than this horror show

Thank you for the ask. I would just like to say that i don’t care if people support palestine and i don’t give a shit about the israeli government—i just want them to be normal about israelis and jews and not treat an actual war like team sports and fandomise this. Ideally people should want peace instead of thinking about innocent people in terms of a team they can root for while watching a match on the telly. Unfortunately, while the insanity didn’t start on social media, the current nature of the internet facilitated a really shit union between “activism” and fandom where more people are concerned about fictional antisemitic goblins than they are with real flesh and blood people doxxing jews and forming actual lynch mobs. They sloganeer for actual terrorist groups while ignoring the lives of palestinians and yemenis and lebanese and syrians and iranians directly impacted by them. All we can do is sit tight and hope more people come to their senses at least; if they don’t, then we shouldn’t waste time lamenting them.

#asks #israel hamas war

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fernsnailz · 7 months

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Opinion on Robots (2005)(movie)? Personally it is my movie of all time.

dude i LOVE robots it was one of my favorite movies as a kid. i actually think robots does a pretty good job of showing issues of class disparity and how capitalism contributes to it, and takes a pretty clear stance about accessible healthcare - all within a fictional world! it's not perfect, they solve everything through a big robot action scene and have a dance party at the end, but i think robots holds up pretty well all things considered and avoids the pitfall of shitty worldbuilding justifying prejudice. rodney copperbottom is also gender goals ngl

#ROBOT.........#fernasks

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mamamittens · 11 months

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Platonic Yandere Arlong with AFAB Half human half fishman reader who was abandoned by her bio parents

Ngl, I'm not super familiar with Arlong's character, so take this with a grain of salt as it's powered by Vibe Check (TM). Also, I have no idea what the hell a hybrid would look like, so I'm assuming human enough to pass but obvious enough to need like, a scarf to cover gills and gloves or smt.

Okay, he strikes me as someone that would, in this situation, struggle in the early years with his hatred of humans. Ultimately, though, he'll settle for a strange mix of "You're the only exception and only, like, by half" and "You're cool cause I say you are but all other humans are trash". Does lean heavily into abandonment issues and encourages the reader to attach to him and seek his approval for everything. Don't get me wrong, he gives it pretty freely for a bastard, but he rewards the instant head turn to double check thing.

Violently explodes if anyone tries to start shit with HIS baby. Might prop them up as a cautious example of what Tiger King and Otohime were working for if anyone questions his racist ass actions. A real "I can't be racist AF, my adopted daughter is half human!" completely ignoring how angry he gets if she hides her fishman heritage for any reason other than extreme safety concerns. Not that she's likely to be allowed out and about without Top Men or Arlong himself.

If she's ever feeling self conscious for being a hybrid Arlong immediately wants to fight whoever inspired this feeling. He's not super good at consoling her so it mostly boils down to "You believe me, right? Then believe me when I say you're perfect exactly as you are. Be proud of your heritage" while lowkey propping up fishmen as the better half cause he's always hating at least a little. For good reason on his part, but he's worked astonishingly hard to ensure she never experiences it herself.

Not sure if he'll teach her to fight or just enough for him to get there and take care of business. Definitely anything involving fishmen heritage though. He really wants her first thought to be "I'm half fishman" rather than "I'm half human". Lowkey ignores anything specific to human heritage unless it's pressing. Does quietly shuffle her towards Nami for these issues so he doesn't have to learn for himself or confront his toxic ideas.

If her bio parents ever show up to insert themselves, he's quietly shuffling them to the side to either get rid of them or manufacture a situation where Reader will hate them and want nothing to do with them forever.

RIP anyone that tries to date her. Even fishmen will have to work very hard for his approval and, ironically, not hate humans. He doesn't want to risk his daughter in a relationship where her partner would hate literally any part of her.

I... genuinely can't remember if he's arrested or breaks out or what but in case he's indisposed for the future, he sends her to Jinbe, trusting that he can keep her safe (without any prejudice) or at least take her somewhere she will be until Arlong is free again.

#one piece #one piece arlong #platonic yandere #hope this was close to what you wanted!#Honestly not very sure about him #mittens answers

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stuffnonsenseandotherthings · 9 months

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Ngl but I'm beginning to feel like some people are missing the point of Pisaeng's mother and what what she's meant to represent... Yes, she is of an older generation and pretty much everything she says shows that she has a lots of entrenched misconceptions (and even unexplored and unrecognised prejudiced on her part) when it comes to how she should raise, support, and talk to and about her (queer) child. It is her biggest and most glaring flaw and we are meant to be uncomfortable and take issue with what she's saying, just as Pisaeng does.

But she's not malicious.

She may be misinformed, she may hold a lot of misconceptions, she may be ignorant of many issues and how to talk about them to the point of causing harm and pain but she does love Pisaeng and she does want what's best for him, even if what she thinks that is is completely the wrong thing.

I spend a lot of time with adults like her, I spend a lot of time with parents like her, and treating them like they actually want to hurt their child is the best way to make sure they become even more entrenched and defensive in the view points they hold.

Pisaeng's mother completely deserves to be told she is wrong, to be challenged again and again and to be shown (as Pisaeng is showing her) how much pain she is causing and will continue to cause if she refuses to acknowledge how she is wrong and change, but she's not the villain. Sometimes the sharpest knife can be wielded by someone with good intentions and the best thing to do is point out that they are holding the knife rather than try to wrestle it from them.

On a side note, I find it very interesting that Pisaeng's mother seems to be the same generation as Moonlight Chicken's Uncle Jim and holds a lot of similar viewpoints points around queerness as he does. Her discussions with Pisaeng about him still being able to live a "normal" life and how, even though it doesn't matter to her, being openly queer could end up "hurting him" (especially if he stays in Thailand) sounds eerily similar to Jim asking Li Ming why he would "make his life harder by choosing to be gay".

It feels like both dramas are entering into a discussion, one about a generation who grew up in a world were they were taught being queer would only lead to pain and otherness and who are now living in a world where that absolutely does not hold true, one where the prejudices they never thought to challenge are now being actively fought against, and who are now having to relearn (and unlearn) how to be in that world.

#be my favorite series #be my favorite #thai bl

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tellme-o-muse · 2 months

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Look 👀 Anyone is free to disagree with me on this and give me their reasonings, but I’m pretty sure these three things can’t exist. One, misandry. Two, reverse-racism. Three, heterophobia. Why? Because for these to exist, an opressed class would have to hold systematic power over the opressor class. Gay people commenting how straights are eww because we’ve lived out lives overwhelmed with straight media and homophobia from straight people… is not compared to the gay panic law, nor homophobic hate crimes nor the deaths that have come about just because a person is gay.

The same thing with misandry. Women, all women, are the oppressed class. Some more than others, of course, because class, race, home and sexuality all come into play. However even the richest white woman in the US living in a red state is oppressed and has less body autonomy than men (via lack of abortion rights). Some questions to prove whether systematic misandry is real or not:

1. Can you name 1 country where the entire government is female?

2. Can you name 1 country in the world where women kill more than 3 men per week?

3. Can you name 1 female led country in the world where it is illegal for men to drive a car or have a driving licence because they are perceived as too stupid?

5. Can you name 1 female led country in the world where men are not allowed to leave their houses without a female chaperone?

6. Can you name 1 country in the world where females in power have legally dictated that men should cover their entire bodies at all times, not show their hair or faces, and punish men and boys who do show their skin?

7. Can you name 1 female led country or community in the world that has legally banned boys from getting an education or attending school?

8. Can you name 1 country where large groups of women publicly flog and beat men as a form of punishment for being seen out alone without a female chaperone?

9. Can you name 1 female led country where the child marriage of boys as young as 6 years old to adult women is widely encouraged or legally allowed?

10. Can you name 1 country where men are not allowed to take part in sports at all?

Those are ten out of 37, the original article has more but massive TW for sexual assault and abuse.

Since there isn’t systematic misandry anywhere in the world and we still live in a patriarchy, I don’t think misandry can exist. Any prejudice against men doesn’t have power over them, nor does it affect them in any way (besides maybe their feelings), so how can it be harmful?

My Mom could easily be discribed as a misandrist ngl. We were looking at flats for me and she had come choice comments that were gruesome and out of proportion for what would happen if I had mixed sex flats. However I don’t think it can count as misandry because she’s seen and experienced enough harm by men that it crosses from needlessly rude, to wary and overcautious. Harmful to her mental health? Yes. Harmful to men? No.

One can absolutely be rude, cruel and judgemental towards men… but that is all reactionary to lived experiece and read experience. Or at least that is how I see it.

*I do not by any means support being rude and cruel, violent or abusive, towards ANYONE. Men included. I dislike my Mom’s way of thinking and I do not seek to replicate it. This is just to prove that misandry is a term used by men’s rights activists to put down feminists and women.

Lastly:

wikipedia, beloved, on its page about misandry

#misandry #sexism #heterophobia #reverse racism #rambles

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farfromsugafanfic · 2 years

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SKZ As Your Plus One At A Wedding

Genre: fluff

Warnings: References to drinking

Author’s Note: I feel like this idea just shows how I old I am lmao. Do you have any ideas? They can be ~spicy~, fluffy, or angsty. Send me an ask!

Chan:

The best plus one ngl

Would come as a friend or significant other

He’s polite and extroverted so he has no problem fitting in, even if he knows no one at the wedding

Definitely the type to come as support for you if you’re anxious

Probably overdresses because he wants to make a good impression on your friends/family

May accidentally lose track of you because he’s so into another conversation

Excited about the food

Keeps his hand on you the whole time; whether it be a hand on your knee, holding your hand, or gently touching your back as you make your way through the crowd

Will look like he’s drunk on the dance floor even though he didn’t drink a drop

Encourages you to be part of the bouquet toss

Congratulates the newlyweds politely whether or not he knows them personally

If there’s karaoke, get ready for this man to perform the hell out of a love ballad

Minho:

On the quieter side unless he knows the couple, but even then he will probably stick to your side

WILL turn heads no matter what he is wearing and he is completely oblivious to it

You know in Pride & Prejudice how Mr. Darcy is standoffish and kinda rubs some people the wrong way initially? Yeah, that’s Lee Know. But, don’t worry, any bad impression will be short lived

Probably will only come with you if you’re extremely close or dating

Keeps close watch on you, especially if you’re more outgoing than him. As you flit around from table to table, he’ll admire your natural people skills and charisma. Otherwise, he’s there to make sure you’re comfortable and happy at ALL times

Happy to spend the reception drinking and dancing

Will somehow charm the grandma at the wedding. Probably by being polite when getting food or something

Outside wedding? He will find a cat

Even if there is dancing at the wedding, he will want to leave early

Speaking of dancing though, he will show off his skills before leaving ofc and will probably try to pull you in with him

Will slow dance with you and gently hold you as this is the one type of dance he’s not confident in, especially when its with you

Decent plus one, but will be more comfortable at a wedding where he knows more people than just you

Changbin:

He will pretend not to be upset that you might be taller than him in heels, BUT he also finds it insanely attractive

Ears go red when he sees you all dressed up

His shyer side comes out in a crowd, but if you’re also shy, he will be more than happy to take on a more social role

Polite and probably buys a gift even though you offered to put his name on yours

His surprising romantic side comes out, but does not tamper down his chaotic side as he pulls a flower out of one of the centerpieces for you towards the end of the night

Makes a good impression on everyone despite being a bit nervous about it

Insists on driving you to and from the wedding so you can have a good time without worry

You will probably have to force him to dance with you

Grabs your hand halfway through the ceremony cause he’s romantic like that

Stays to help clean up and definitely offers to take any leftovers

Goes to get you cake and comes back with the biggest possible slice and a wide grin

Pretty good overall and he will be a lot of fun

Hyunjin:

Shyyyyy

Unless he knows the couple, you might have to beg and/or act cute to get him to go with you

Might have a drink to help loosen up

Polite, but not overly talkative and does not let you leave him alone

Will dress to impress and likely will want to match you in some way; whether it be matching his tie to your dress or wearing complimentary pieces designed to go together this will be one facet of the wedding Hyunjin will take very seriously

You encourage him to talk more and be more social which he eventually does do as he gets comfortable

When the dance floor opens up is when he truly becomes comfortable and will definitely turn heads with his dancing

Will likely start being his goofy self more at this point

Becomes a bit cuddly and clingy towards the end of the night

Even though he didn’t want to come, the boy is a romantic and will be touched by the couple’s vows and the romantic atmosphere. It will make him feel even more in love with you as the night goes on

He’s a tad shy, but a good plus one

Jisung:

Poor Hannie is soooo anxious and shy cause of his social anxiety :( (it will be better if he’s familiar with the couple or several others at the wedding)

Still, he will go as long as it’s with/for you

Before you leave he will jokingly cover you with his jacket, but it’s his way of saying he thinks you look beautiful

Overly polite at times and may snack a lot to prevent himself from either embarrassing himself or you even though most people seem to find him friendly and charming

Will be relieved when the ceremony starts so that everyone goes quiet and he can just focus on you

Will probably focus on you more than the wedding tbh, he thinks you look so pretty and he’ll have to constantly stop himself from reaching up and fixing a loose curl or adjusting your bracelet

Excited about the cake and he uses that to get through the more social parts of the reception

Will probably dance with you, but might make you act cute for it

Secretly will love the slow dance and it may or may not inspire a new song

By the end, he is starting to enjoy himself more and has probably been accepted into your friend group and is making everyone laugh so hard that other tables begin looking your way

Idk why but I feel like he’s gonna want to stop at McDonald’s on the way home

Lets you fall asleep on him on the way home/to the hotel

Felix:

Very excited when you asked him to be your plus one

Will spend weeks fretting over what to wear and what to bring with you may have to help him calm down his anxious enthusiasm

Making a good impression on your friends/family is very important to him so he will be extremely polite and friendly. Basically, the king of small talk who keeps the conversation going through the lulls

Might cry during the ceremony, but it depends on the vows and if he knows the couple or not

But, he will bring tissues in case either of you end up tearing up

Will thoroughly enjoy the wedding and will have so much fun dancing and taking part in any and all reception activities

If there’s a photo booth, he’s going to pull you in and the two of you will take cute and funny photos together

As the night goes on and he becomes a little more worn out, he’ll become a little more romantic towards you. He might want to constantly hold your hand or may sneak a kiss on your cheek

Feeds you cake because he’s adorable like that and doesn’t care if others around him think it’s corny

Holds you close during a slow dance and may even softly sing in your ear

Leaves the wedding with more friends

Will make a photo of the two of you from the wedding his phone background for the next few months

Seungmin:

Agrees to go with you without hesitation even though he probably doesn’t want to go

Literally breathless when he sees you, but tries to hide it. Though, at some point, he will let it slip that he thinks you look gorgeous

Constantly looking out for you, especially because he notices others noticing you

Casual, friendly, and polite, but mostly keeps to himself

Offers to hold your purse outside the bathroom so that he doesn’t have to talk to strangers

A complete gentleman. He holds doors for you, gets your food and cake, carries your heels to the car after you got blisters from dancing.

May gently place his hand on your knee/thigh under the table both as a comfort to himself and as a way to show his affection as he worried others thought he didn’t care for you (literally no one thought that lol)

If an opportunity arises (or if you force him), he may get up and sing a love song

Will dance with you if you ask, but prefers to sit through the reception or do other things

Weirdly prepared, he has bandaids when a kid fell and scraped their knee and he somehow remembered to grab your lipstick so you could refresh it

Likely won’t drink beyond perhaps a class of champagne during the toast

Just happy to see you happy

Jeongin:

Happy to go with you, but worried about what others will think of him

Spends a lot of time getting ready and may even help you get ready too

Will actually give good advice when you’re stuck choosing between two dresses

Everyone is charmed by how sweet and cute he is, especially when he’s around you

Others will notice how he seems so smitten with you regardless of if you two are dating yet or not

Goes bright red when you ask him to dance and kicks himself for not being the one to ask

Probably arrives early enough to help set up and may stay late to help clean up

Will do his best to make you laugh during dinner which only endears him to the rest of the guests at your table

Watches over you if you drink and makes sure you don’t drink too much

Eagerly listens as you point out old friends and family and give him all the tea. Honestly, he couldn’t care less, but loves hearing you talk and seeing you laugh at old memories

As he grows more comfortable in the environment, his trademark brand of sarcastic humor will work its way out

Somehow, by the end of the night, the two of you will end up holding hands

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stillness138 · 2 months

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for the character ask game: Vernon Roche

i gotta think about this! thank you

first impression: i actually remember this pretty well because witcher 2 was my first exposure to the franchise. i think i felt pretty much what i was supposed to feel though; "this guy imprisoned me but seems more sensible than the goons he employs". i liked his matter-of-fact but clearly proud and protective attitude towards Ves and his putting the key on the table and walking away like 'surely Geralt will manage'.

impression now: i still like him! surprisingly, cdpr writes original characters with really commendable nuance. of course, if Iorveth is to be believed word for word, Roche is responsible for carrying out hate crimes (he doesn't deny the accusations Iorveth makes, so i think that's just fact), and yet he shows time and time again that he really is more sensible than most. compare him to Rayla - also a special forces leader - and see the difference. Roche lacks the outright bloodthirst or really even the prejudice; it seems to me that he does his job and obeys Foltest without objection because he sees it as doing something worthwhile with his life, considering how he grew up. he and Iorveth contrast and parallel each other in fascinating ways.

favorite thing about him: his relationship towards Ves, because he clearly values her as an employee and as a person. his relative level-headedness. and the unpacked daddy issues that are most definitely there even if he won't talk about it. that part of him is sadly the most relatable to me. i also enjoy his humor, whether intentional or not. "emhyr var emreis, spice merchant" bursting into the elven baths while Triss is trying her hardest to seduce Geralt, fucking comedy gold.

least favorite thing about him: apart from the hate crimes? i think most of my issues that relate to him are metatextual - because the entire political landscape and plotline of witcher 3 sucks ass. maybe he could've held back the cops that beat Geralt though ngl.

favorite line/scene: "And we did. For three days. Then they smashed us into splinters." again, as much as i dislike the politics in witcher 3, this bit stands out to me. maybe also because it's punctuated by a reprise of the second game's main theme, in 3's instrumentation and a much more somber mood. good scene. that and the funny bits. "Some professional you are..."

favorite interaction he has with another character: it should be mainly credited to Letho's absolutely hilarious one-liner, but their little reunion at Kaer Morhen always gets a chuckle out of me. the entire interrogation at the beginning of witcher 2 is up there too.

a character that i wish he would interact with more: in the second game, elves in general. he mostly proves he's not completely shit-headed in context, but it would've been interesting to see him have a conversation with someone like Cedric. third game should've had Iorveth, we all know that.

another character from another fandom that reminds me of him: i know 5 things, but if i had to make a comparison... general Tullius from Skyrim? both are very capable and dedicated servants of a government despite its obvious failures and both show a noticeable sensibility or even calm you perhaps wouldn't expect. both have a badass lady as their right-hand person, too.

a headcanon about him: he hates the smell of cheap alcohol. childhood reminder. i also think he has a notable appreciation for architecture. can't remember if he actually comments on Loc Muinne in any way but somehow it feels like a thing he'd do. and i think it's pretty much canon that his hair color is towards light brown? or have i been living with fanon for far too long. either way, yeah, dirty blonde or warm light brown, super short on the sides.

a song that reminds of him: Shadowplay by Joy Division, in a way. first verse about beginning to serve Foltest, second verse about Foltest's and Temeria's fall. "but i could only stare in disbelief as the crowds all left" versus "and we did, for three days, then they smashed us into splinters".

an unpopular opinion about him: i famously dislike shipping him with Iorveth and i'm actually yet to see a good Roche ship. but the real hot take is that he doesn't need one. did i just say aroace Vernon Roche? maybe.

favorite picture: i'm sorry, but it's gotta be this one. on a more serious note, i always liked this piece of fanart a lot too. he gets to be cool.

#thanks again!#ask game #shut up elis #the witcher

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ragecndybars · 9 months

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NGL I've been pretty steamed lately over how people feel this need to align every character they like with their own morals.

In broader fandom spaces, I see such widespread refusal to give any character a flaw which contrasts too strongly with the fan's sensibilities. Murderers are fair game, for example, because that's not something which personally impacts the fan, but someone being a little sexist, or needing to have XYZ queer identity explained to them instead of instantly recognizing and understanding the term, or even just asking a slightly insensitive question? That will suddenly get fans all up in arms accusing you of slandering the character in question.

Like, I'll write a fic or do a silly little edit where one character will say something ignorant or insensitive, or even just clearly showing that they're a little confused but they got the spirit (ie. that "His pronouns are they/them!!!" meme), and people will suddenly drop into my replies steaming out the ears because "THAT CHARACTER WOULD NOT SAY THAT!!!" As if I'm personally breaking into their house and calling them transphobic because I said their favorite character would mess up someone's pronouns by accident.

It feels very much related to the trend of taking characters and injecting them with an insane level of emotional maturity, such that they no longer resemble their initial character at all. Much has been said about fanfictions where every character talks like a therapist, but at least in those fics, it's usually just written that way because the author finds it satisfying, not because they think the characters have to be flawless communicators or else they're shitty people. At least, that's the vibe I usually get. But I feel like for at least several years, it's been completely taboo to even imply that a character might have some biases to work through -- even if said biases are clearly evident in the source material!! A character can say some truly horrific homophobic shit in their source material, but if you write a fic where they say "Dude, that's gay" suddenly you're a character assassin.

I dunno. I feel like I could tie this into a larger point about the reemerging obsession with a mythical "moral purity" and frantic disavowal of anything which taints that for fear of being seen as One Of The Bad Guys, but I think the biggest thing is just... acknowledging that characters can have flaws. Flaws that go beyond "a little obnoxious", and into the territory of "genuinely thoughtless in a way which can hurt people". Flaws which may actually make you uncomfortable, because people with those flaws may have been callous, cruel, or even outright abusive to you in real life. Those flaws can exist within fictional characters who are good and kind people, and it doesn't mean the character is being mischaracterized as shitty bigots. Because nice, good people can still have prejudices and biases -- or, hell, just be a little awkward or misspeak! (See again the "his pronouns are they/them" meme -- do we not all agree that the joke there isn't "X character is transphobic", it's "X character is trying so hard to be an ally but has no idea what they're doing"?)

Don't get me wrong -- I'm not saying you have to be "realistic" by writing characters you like as prejudiced or rude. If you wanna write your characters as completely accepting of every queer thing under the sun, do that! Do it regardless of "realism" or whatever the hell, and fuck anyone who tells you otherwise!!! But if someone else does examine the prejudices or rudeness of those characters, you can NOT be out here taking it personally, or extrapolating from that to decide that the author is prejudiced.

and if you can't stand to see characters you love being written as such?

block the author and move tf on with your life.

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deltahemm · 2 years

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what I love about this drama is that they don't shy away to show the harsh truth. and also by making sure that this drama isn't some overly the top with the kindness and happiness. this episode is another one for that.

we get to see how they lost the case. and how this seems to hit so close to home for young woo's current condition. and how Junho literally attacked his friend because of the prejudice on relationship with autistic people.

ngl I'm actually close to tears when I watch those scenes. like. leave them aloooooonee. let them love in peace smh. also when you piss of a nice guy like Junho. then you should be aware of how much of a bastard you really are.

#extraordinary attorney woo #kdrama #he was so scary when he threw his hands on that friend #the man did NOT hold back

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touchlikethesun · 2 months

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re my last reblog, some more thoughts: a lot of the people in the notes (at time of writing) seem to think that a lot of the negative feelings younger fans have towards older (mostly) women in fandom has to do with this idea that the kids don't think older women have/should have a sexuality. and i'm sure there are some young fans who do think like that, i won't deny that. however, i think it is unhelpful to think of any one group online either behaving as a monolith or acting with purposeful prejudice. i also think that, while things have not changed so much, i doubt any person active in fandom spaces over the age of 13 genuinely thinks older women don't have a sexuality, and behaving like they do is likely to only stall conversations and put people on the defensive. i have seen comments from younger fans to the effect of "what are you a mother of two doing writing slash fic" and of course i understand how that sounds like ageism and sexism - and it is, like that is an ageist and sexist thing to say - but i think acting like the kids just don't view you as a person so screw 'em is ngl equally ageist and misses what's at the root of the why, why younger fans feel and act the way they do. (and spoiler! it's not because they genuinely believe that older women don't have hobbies)

i already typed out a lot of me feelings on the why in the tags of my lrb and i don't feel like typing it out again, but basically it has more to do with problems with authority and perceived hierarchy (that older fans don't help when they get all Kids These Days and Respect Your Fandom Elders - not that everyone does get like that but enough people do don't lie to yourself) and with anti-culture pushing insane and contrived notions of purity

as a last point, i think older fans should try and remember what it was like to be 13/14/15 etc., how angsty you were how rude you were how pretentious you were, and think about why you acted the way that you acted. were you acting up because you were truly a spiteful person? or were you acting up because you were going thru a lot of difficult times and struggling to figure out who you were and your place in this world, with or without a true support system to rely on? i'm not saying we should all just lie down and let the kids walk all over us and dictate how fandom spaces should be run, but i think it would go a long way if everyone took a deep breath and recognised that nine times out of ten, someone acts the way they do because they are trying to protect themselves. the right way to react is not to get defensive, but to, without budging on your own principals and boundaries, show that the space they are in is a safe one.

#idk man fandom culture is just so off these days #but the kids aren't really the problem it comes from both sides #and i do personally think the adults should be modeling good behaviour instead of getting salty and snippy and defensive back #i'm not saying it's EASY #good lord knows i've blocked a lot of younger fans in particular that couldn't leave well enough alone #but things don't get better when we consistently believe the worst in others #idk idk idk #fandom culture #fandom #fandom problems #anti culture

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