"but aroaces can still feel lo-" shut up. it doesn't matter if we can feel love or not. why is this always your defense to why aroaces should be valid? it gets even worse with alloaces and alloaros. people constantly saying "aces can still have sex!!" and "aros can still have love and have partners!!" YES, they can, but you aren't bringing that up just to bring awareness towards aroaces. No, you are using that fact as a way to ignore and condemn the part that makes us aroace; the lack of attraction. I'm sick and tired of seeing aces and aros have to defend themselves by bringing up all the other ways they can love. Why can't we for once celebrate the parts of us that DON'T love?

"Love is what makes us human" Wrong, my ability to write poetry about the moon is what makes me human

Honestly BAFFLED that I was out on the internet as aro for almost three years and yet I learn about loveless aros just now. How could I not consider the possibility that some people don't even need or want platonic or familial or any other love, when the human experience is so endlessly vast and different?

Loveless aspecs, you are so valid and your experiences and voices are extremely important in the community, your takes on love and it's absence genuinely helped me broaden my views on this topic in general💚

I'm late, but shoutout to loveless aces, aplatonic aces [especially aplatonic alloaces], heartless aces, afamilial aces, and any asexual that doesn't love conventionally, doesn't feel one of the "universal" loves, or feels excluded by the broader asexual conversation. You are welcome and you are appreciated.

someone just asked me to look into a disorder & invalidated my identity as an aroace person. Um! Gross!

people need to stop equating lovelessness to being disordered and/or there’s something wrong with loveless aroaces.

“But!! If you don’t want to get married and have kids what else is there to do!!! That’s the only option!! You don’t want to die sad and alone do you?!?!?!!!” (Something I was actually told today)

Idk man, world domination? That’s an option /j

speak about sex or *gags* love in my house, you will be immediately vacuum sealed inside one of my pendants and i will carry you around and make you witness horrors beyond your allo comprehension and when i release you, you will also become aroace

the cursed delusions shall not be mentioned in my home

you are welcome <2

To all the people saying there is aroace rep out there

Where! Show it to me!

No, I mean this literally! I am desperate here!

unfortunately I wasn't able to change the text size so I could include like..better words?..

Anyway

(For some reason the hashtags didn't save 🤨)

being a loveless aroace and having a fascination for the concept of love is soooo funny........

Them: "Love is what makes us human!"

Me:

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"aroace people can still have relationships-" NOT ALL OF THEM CAN. YOU KNOW THAT RIGHT. WHY DO YOU WORD IT AS "aroaces can still be in relationships" AND NOT "some can have relationships, and others cannot."? WHY MUST YOU INSIST THAT WE STILL CAN LOVE IN SOME WAY. WHY DOES IT MATTER. WHY SHOULD WE HAVE TO LOVE. WHY, WHEN TALKING ABOUT AROACES, DO YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO IMPLY THAT IT'S OUR OTHER WAYS OF LOVING THAT MAKES US ACCEPTABLE? WHY CAN'T THE FACT WE DON'T LOVE MAKE US GOOD PEOPLE? WHY IS THERE ALWAYS AN EMPHASIS ON THE OTHER WAYS WE LOVE, OR THE AROACES THAT CAN STILL DATE, AND NOT ON OUR LACK OF LOVE? IT FEELS TO ME, LIKE YOU ARE TRYING TO PUSH ASIDE THAT ASPECT OF OUR IDENTITY, BECUASE IT'S TOO STRANGE TO YOU. YOU MAY NOT SAY IT OUTLOUD, BUT THERE'S STILL A STIGMA AROUND LOVELESSNESS. IN YOUR MIND, YOU STILL ARE VIEWING LOVELESS PEOPLE AS LESS MORAL OR GOOD, AREN'T YOU? OTHERWISE, YOU WOULD CELEBRATE OUR LOVELESSNESS, NOT SHOVE IT ASIDE BECUASE "THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO LOVE"

Sometimes I call myself NBLW and then I remember that I'm aroace

Something I really don't like is when senku is constantly shipped (even queer platonically as he's loveless but im mostly gonna be talking about romantically). And when people say he's aroace, some will say that it's "more of a headcanon".

Like, no. Senku being aroace is represented in the same way as all the other lgbtqia+ characters in Dr Stone. If that's the logic you're going to use then technically all the other queer characters aren't canonically queer despite being so obviously so.

Some people (only allos that I've seen so far), will say "but aroaces can still date!" which is true, but all I'm getting from it is "I just want an excuse to give them allo experiences". Also, senku is in no way interested in romance/sex. He is also very much loveless aroace.

I just really hate when allos cover up queer rep that isn't meant for them.

To be honest, I'm not very sympathetic to people who feel threatened or othered by loveless people; I think if you're insecure enough that only reading a separate viewpoint, one that simply points out you aren't the only type of aro out there, will make you feel unsafe? That's your problem, not mine. Me, or any other loveless aros in the community, stating our existence and views, shouldn't make you feel unwelcome or afraid. Someone asking you to be considerate of others doesn't mean the sky is falling.

It's incredibly reactionary if you are afraid of the state of the community because you have to share it with others. Sorry to say, but I can exist around arospec people that aren't like me without problems 99% of the time; what is it about loveless people that has non-loveless people bristling like cats? Hm, I wonder.

omg guys!!! aroace culture is when your mom asks you if you love her. She doesn’t ask this a lot but frequently enough to make you question everything. She doesn’t say “I love you”, but instead asks you if YOU love HER. She stares at you, oh god she’s staring, and expects you to say yes.

But you say nothing. You search so hard within yourself to know what love is.

“You don’t love me?” She asks with her heartbreak apparent in her voice.

So you lie and say yes.

But you keep searching in yourself a little more, a little harder. You’ve been staring at the floor for about 15 minutes now but you can’t muster up a good description of what love is.

Is love warm? Is love cold? Is love fluttery? Is love still? Is love everything? Is love nothing?

You don’t know, and you will never know. Maybe, you’re broken. Maybe, you didn’t come out right. Maybe, you aren’t human and instead a heartless monster.

There MUST be something fundamentally wrong with you because everyone else experiences love.

But you.