Sex-repulsed asexuals and romance-repulsed aromantics deserve £100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 for everything

The allos love to say shit like “it’s so sad their relationship will never go beyond friendship” and “these people just need to sleep together and their relationship will reach its full potential” like no. Just no.

It’s not sad when a friendship stays a friendship. There doesn’t need to be sex in a relationship at all even if the relationship is romantic. Romance isn’t the highest, most pure, most desirable place for a relationship to reach. Allos love pretending a relationship is NOTHING if there’s no romance or sex involved. If the characters aren’t fucking or dating, the relationship is trash in most people’s eyes. It’s so infuriating and frustrating.

speak about sex or *gags* love in my house, you will be immediately vacuum sealed inside one of my pendants and i will carry you around and make you witness horrors beyond your allo comprehension and when i release you, you will also become aroace

the cursed delusions shall not be mentioned in my home

you are welcome <2

before valentine’s day ends, I made some aro-themed gifs inspired by @shinekittenace

image description by @alloaro-azelf (thank you!):

[Image description:

Image 1: a 3D animation of a maroon bow-tied gift box opening. Hearts float out from the box like balloons. 2 hearts stand out. The first heart is white and has the text, “no thx.” The second heart dons the aromantic flag colors.

Image 2: a 3D animation of the opening locket meme. The left side of the locket is the aro flag, and the right side has the text “no thx” and a white background.

/END ID]

the aromantic is confuesed

☆ Aromantic culture is just genuenly not understanding the difference between romantic relationships and platonic friendships.

☆ Fyi: apologies for the plethora of "like," statments, it just feels more natural for some reason. I expect this to possibly get hated on? I dont know, couldnt care less if it dose tho 🤷🏻‍♂️

☆ Like, I just dont understand the concept of cheating. I get its considered bad. I get why its considered bad as its a breach of trust/boundaries/etc, but i dont understand why people prefer to be monogamous as i genuinely just dont see a difference between friends and romantic partners, I get that there is a difference, i respect that differece where people draw it themselves, I just can't see it.

☆ Like, I see the difference between queerplatonic relashionships & friendship, but I just can't distinguish any other type of relashionship & romance for some reason.

☆ And i just dont get why theres a distinction between monogamy & polyamory either? Like, were people? Why not be open to the possibility of feelings not following the preset mold of a random relashionship Hiarchy? Like ofc you can have your own rules in a relashionship, but I just dont get why monogamy with the 1 perfect "other half of you" is the priority vs fulfillment? Like, I don't expect 1 person to be my "other half" for the rest of my life, nor do I want someone to expect that of me cause that just feels like dumping way to many expectations onto 1 person. And like, you can devide yourself amoung multiple friends why not multiple romantic partners?

☆ And i dont get wanting a lifelong relashionship like that? I mean i do get wantinv 1 but expecting 1 i feel is just throwing alot of expectations on anither person, people change, feelings change, alot changes in life. It reminds me of how people are expected to choose what they want to do for the rest of your life as a teenager.

☆ Why r y'all bringing the government into your relashionship? And why do y'all STRIVE for that? Like, "lets officially legaly combine ourselves into a unit and make it real damn difficult if we end up seperating." Why should having a romantic partner logustically help you in life?? Like "hey, these 2 ppl said i do infront of an officiant, lets see if we can improve theyre taxes." How is they're logistically a "making this relashionship official" outside of- consenting parties deciding they're in a relashionship????

☆ Like, everyone was assigned to make a different venn diagram and label it with arbitrary concepts and they're relation/similarities/lack thereof, and its graded on participation; But everyone still argued over the non answer because they just can't fathom they're being no wrong answer.

☆ This isn't really meant to change anyones mind on romance, do whatever tf you want with your relashionships its your life; This is just me being real fucking confused at why people arbitrarily made these catagories lol.

☆ This was origonally gonna be an ask on an aromantic culture is blog but I quickly realized this was gonna be way too long for that.

☆ I may or may not add more mini rants to this in future reblogs this is just what I could think of as I was writing. Thanks if you actually read all of this

The idea for this blog started when I realized that a lot of body positivity blogs frame that positivity in the form of attractiveness and sexuality. As an asexual, that made me disappointed. So starting an ace positive body positivity blog was suggested.

However, it has grown beyond that.

I realized that some asexuals (as in the asexuals not interested in or who are repulsed by sex) are often excluded from certain spaces. Disability, chronically ill, mental health... So I am making this space.

However, this is not just for aces and aros! This is a space for anyone who does not want sex and sexuality to be the focus.

This blog will be about body positivity, body neutrality, fat positivity, mental health, chronically ill, and ed recovery, but there will be no sex. I will wade through the tags and reblog content that does not contain any.

Fatphobia, healthism, pro-ed, thinspo, aphobia (including aphobia against sex-repulsed aces and romance-repulsed aros!) ableism, TERFs, and pro-diet, will be blocked.

Being romance repulsed made me realize that romance really is EVERYWHERE help me I can't escape

Honestly if romance actually was just another way for 2+ people who fuckin adore each other and would fight all comers to keep the others safe and happy to label their relationship like it is in all the best love stories I'd be all for it. But there's so many weird toxic aspects and expectations attached both by society and the Stupid Monkey Brain that I'm always gonna feel more "get thee hence, Satan" about it than anything

romance repulsed aro culture is feeling isolated from the rest of the aromantic community because apparently you’re a minority within a minority… it’s also never quite knowing how to cope

(and I’m not ace, so that’s just another level of isolation that’s hard to ignore)

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I may be a proud romance repulsed aromantic but sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. Being aromantic can be lonely. When people tell you that the best thing is falling in love and you could never be closer to anyone, it feels really lonely. I feel completely isolated from most people- alloromantics. With my allo friends, I feel like if they were to get a partner then they’d just forget about me. For some people, romantic partners are the most important people to them and I want to be like that. I’ll never get to be like that. I’ll always be alone. I want to do those things perceived as romantic. I want to be someone’s girlfriend/ boyfriend but I can’t because I’m aromantic. I don’t want to be alone. I don’t want to be just friends. I love friendship but not when it’s belittled. I’ll never get the feeling of falling in love, as much as I want it. I want that experience. I’m so tired of feeling lonely and waiting for people to prefer romance to the friendship I can offer. I love being aromantic but I just want to be appreciated. I want someone to tell me that our friendship is unique and that they love me. I want romance but I can’t have romance and the actual idea of romance disgusts me. The lack of it makes me so exhausted- so alone- that I don’t understand what the point of even talking to people is anymore.

The moment I watch or read something that pairs everyone up at the end, no matter how much I enjoyed myself nor how quality the writing is, I hate it. I can no longer like this piece of media. It's been tainted. Every time I look at it that burning feeling will return

petition to make yanmega the unofficial apothiromantic pokemon 

on the left is the original apothiro flag, and on the right is the apothiro flag color-picked from yanmega

Interestingly, I think we can quite safely call me romance repulsed in general at this point. The kind of love I both want and want to see doesn't feel like...That at all. I don't want That anywhere near me ever again..

Okay aspec rep that’s just the creator saying some background character is aspec is fine and all, it could even be considered great. But I, personally, will not be happy until we have prominent, loud and proud, VEHEMENT aspec representation in a MULTITUDE of shows/media. I don’t want one ace or aro character in one show every now and then. I want many aspec characters in one show, I want canon, stated aspec rep where the character is unapologetically aspec and they are HAPPY. They are not mourning their identity, they are comfortable in it. And other people treat it as normal. I want media to be overflowing with aspec characters. I want to be tired of rep. I wanna say oh there’s another aspec character, that’s cool. I want people to respect and support aspec characters. I want aspec characters to be treated like valid and essential queer rep because that is what they are.

*takes a deep breath*

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO ALL THE ACES, AROS, AGENDER AND APLATONIC FOLKS!!

You’re really awesome!