Stop doing these things to become your best self

Holding onto habits out of comfort. Your bad habits are stripping you from the life you want.

Hiding from vulnerability. Vulnerability is a strength. it makes you authentic. do not hide it just because the wrong people can't appreciate it.

Letting others guide your life. Live your life on your own settings. Only you know your own reality.

Chasing after people who are running. You're wasting your time and energy. once you stop chasing, the right people will simply find you.

Blaming others. You control your actions and reactions. choose to find happiness.

HOW TO REMAIN THE BEST YOU

Move in silence

Take care of your mind, body and soul

Be picky about who you let around you

Work towards a goal

Decide and enforce your boundaries

Actions over words

Allow yourself to feel your feelings but then let them pass

Focus on what you are doing now

Learn how to use your traits and skills effectively

Tell yourself postive affirmations

Don't think of revenge. Level up and forget that they existed.

Your SUCCESS is the revenge.

Today's reminder:

Your self-worth isn't defined by the opinions of others, but by the love and trust you cultivate within yourself.

Learning to love yourself 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Celebrate yourself. Every accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged, no matter how big or small. Stop putting yourself down by thinking that you don't deserve to celebrate your achievements just because others have accomplished "greater things." Also, there is so much fun in hyping small wins; call your girlfriend, bake a cake, and enjoy yourself!!

Invest time in things that you love. Doing what makes you happy is essential for your mental health. It's so important to pursue one's small and simple pleasures without the intention of turning them into profit!!

Boundaries and relationships. Learn to say no, define and set boundaries, question your current relationships and friendships, and distance yourself from people who make you feel unloved or worthless.

Allow yourself to grow. Let go of the notion that you are undeserving of growth. Acknowledge the past for what it is, learn from it, and grow from it.

Refelct. Getting to know yourself deeply is key to self-love; journaling is a great way to reflect. Ask yourself questions, question your habits, observe how you respond in certain situations, etc...

Trust yourself and your intuition. Listen to yourself, and don't dismiss the small cues that your inner voice gives you!!

Care for yourself. It is not selfish to look after yourself. Start exercising, eat balanced and healthy, stay hydrated, educate yourself, read complex literature, consume media mindfully, prioritise your sleep and routines, care for your skin and hair...

Be patient. Self-love takes time; you must slowly unpack and unlearn past habits, confront uncomfortable thoughts and memories, and gain a deep understanding of yourself. Give yourself time and approach this as a journey to enjoy. <3

You guys ALWAYS ask about self-love and confidence, sooo I hope this can be a little helpful to some of you and as always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡

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You don't need to be perfect. You don't need to be the best. You don't need to be awesome.

The only thing you need is just to be yourself.

Perfect, best, awesome aren't a purpose in your life. Those things just such a reward from 'who you are' and what would you become for.

So, if someday, you're being forced by society to be someone who is not you till you can't recognize yourself, just ignore them. If you want to know one thing about a thousand fucked up thing in this world, the society is one of them.

You glow differently when you:

Learn how to regulate your nervous system.

Develop a secure attachment to self.

Seek your own validation.

Get in touch with self-awareness.

Listen to your emotions.

Do the work to feel good on the inside.

Learn that it's not always personal.

Take those brave steps to start to heal.

Set goals that feel aligned and achievable.

Have a sense of purpose.

Spend less time scrolling.

Do more of the things that make you feel alive.

12 lessons women learn late in life

• Self-acceptance: Understanding and embracing oneself, including imperfections and past mistakes, leads to greater self-acceptance and self-love.

• Setting boundaries: Realizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries in personal and professional relationships, and learning to say "no" without feeling guilty.

• Prioritizing their needs: Recognizing the significance of self-care and prioritizing their physical and emotional well-being.

• Embracing aging: Accepting the natural process of aging and finding beauty and wisdom in each stage of life.

• Letting go of perfection: Understanding that perfection is unattainable and that it's okay to make mistakes and learn from them.

• Emotional intelligence: Developing better emotional intelligence and learning how to navigate and express emotions effectively.

• Value of female friendships: Appreciating the unique bonds and support that can be found in female friendships.

• Financial independence: Recognizing the importance of financial knowledge and independence, regardless of relationship status.

• Life is not a race: Understanding that life's journey is unique to each individual, and it's okay to take different paths and timelines.

• Resilience: Learning from past challenges and developing resilience to bounce back from setbacks.

• Reevaluating priorities: Reflecting on what truly matters in life and refocusing energy and time on what brings fulfillment and happiness.

• Living in the present: Letting go of regrets about the past and worries about the future, and embracing the present moment.

There are three rules:

1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it.

2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no.

3. If you do not step forward, you will remain in the same place.

You attract what you are and you create what you think about. Act like the person you want to become. Think like the person you want to become. Nothing changes in your life unless you make the decision and commitment to change it. Hold an image in your mind of how you wish to see yourself living. Visualize it everyday and you will unconsciously start to do things that will move you towards that goal.

Work on yourself so much, that they arent your type any more.

Love yourself so much that others need to match your vibe.

When you really love who you are and what you offer, you won't settle for the least anymore.

Reminder

Whenever you're feeling behind in life.

Remember:

'Don't compare your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20'

Feeling behind in life is so common!

-friends are all getting married, you're single

- people earning more than you

- people travelling

- getting promoted

We all follow this made up timeline and when we don't align with it, it can feel upsetting.

These 3 ideas have really helped me when I feel behind in life:

1. Stop comparing your chapter 1 to someone else's chapter 20. This is so so key.

Everyone goes at their own pace in their own time.

- you are on your own path and no one can take that away from you.

2. There's no timetable we have to follow. It's all made up.

7 billion people can't do everything in the same order. What's early? What's late?

- you pick your own timeline and make it happen for yourself there is no right or wrong way to live.

Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals

DOPAMINE: the reward chemical

• Complete a task

• Doing self care activites

• Eating some food

• Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN: the love hormones

• Playing with a dog

• Playing with a baby

• Holding hands

• Hugging someone

• Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser

• Meditating

• Running

• Be in the sun

• Walk in nature

• Swimming

ENDORPHIN: the pain relief

• Laughing exercises

• Essential oils

• Eating dark chocolate

• Running

5 RULES TO REMAIN UNBOTHERED

Rule 1 - Expect less from people:

The first rule to staying unbothered is to expect less from people. Not everyone is you, and you can't expect other peole to hold themselves to the high standards that you set for yourself and it isn't your job to force them to see their potential. Everyone else is going out every weekend, vaping and thinks you're uncool? They don't have your drive or your ambition. Focus on yourself.

Rule 2: Stop arguing with people:

It's not your responsibility to make stupid people recognize that they are stupid. Do not waste your time trying to convince people that you are right they have already made up their mind about you. Prove them wrong with your actions; if they aren't paying your bills, they are irrelevant.

Rule 3: If they wanted to, they would:

Self-explanatory, and especially applies to guys. If he wanted to test you, he would. I he wanted to actually plan something instead of sending a last minute "wyd," he would. Invest your time into someone wo actually cares about you

Rule 4: Log off:

Be honest with yourself when you get on social media, do you feel inspired or like you're wasting time? So much of social media is time sink designed to make you less productive. Ignore the bad takes, block out the negativity, all of means nothing I knew I matured when I realized every situation doesn't need at reaction. Sometimes you just gotta leave people to do the lame shit they do.

Rule 5: Ask "okay, and:

Being unbothered is all about knowing your worth your opinion of you is so much more valid than that random person at school or work who's jealous of you, let's be honest. When someone says something negative to you ask yourself "okay, and some random girl says she hates you, will that really affect your life? No Keep your eyes on the price, and keep perspective by focusing on things that really matter skincare and workouts, academies, investing, making money, and becoming the best version of yourself

Staying private and why it's important

People are sooo nosy, it's human nature to know what everyone is doing at all times. but you don't know what the person you're telling something to is going to do with that information, which is why it's better to stay private.

WHEN to stay private:

- plans you have in regards to your future

- how far along you are in an assignment or how well you did on something

- any ideas you have regarding business or creative assignments

WHY stay private:

- people might steal your ideas or use your words against you

- make you feel bad about your ideas or thoughts

- does not give anyone who is not close to you any unnecessary insight into your life

- protects your peace

HOW to stay private:

- think before you speak and think about who you're speaking to

- stray away from any topics regarding yourself unless necessary, people love talking about themselves

- write down your ideas or thoughts if you really wanna tell someone

It Girl

An It Girl is a trend-setting (in fashion, lifestyle, etc.) woman or girl with a ton of self-confidence and self-worth that sets the example of how to have it all, and look good doing it. She knows exactly who she is and what she wants, and has an unbelievable generosity of spirit; always taking time to be kind and charitable. She is like a sparkling light, and everyone around her are like the moths drawn to the light. Her magnetism is out of control, and she leaves a lasting emotional and physical impression on everyone she encounters; she's iconic. She is extremely intelligent and driven, and takes calculated risks, always learning from mistakes and those around her. She creates beauty and art through whatever talent she is blessed with. She isn't afraid to be herself and never follows the latest trends, instead creates them through her unique and impeccable sense of style. She has premium taste and very high standards, only surrounding herself with the best in all aspects of life, such as family, love, friends, and career. She is the ultimate in class and always keeps her cool. She may be incredibly attractive, but she is NOT for sale, and treasures herself too much to be used or exploited. She is always in control of herself and makes decisions based on what SHE wants for herself. However, she is NOT PERFECT, and she doesn't claim to be, no human is, she is just absolutely thrilling to be around and because she has such an inner beauty, the outside can't help but follow! There is no denying when you are in the presence of an It Girl, you just know it!

SOFT GIRL ERA PRAYER

Dear God, introduce me to the soft life.

A life of abundance, peace, and tenderness. I'm ready for the beautiful things I'm about to experience with you.

I'm done with teaching people how I want to be treated. I'm done with feeling like I have to beg someone to be around.

I'm no longer overwhelming myself because you got me. I leave all my problems and stress to you. You created us in your perfect image. We should all live a Peaceful and happy life. So I choose to direct my time into all the things that matter.

The way you love and care for me is top tier.

I will not settle for less because you showed me how I'm truly supposed to be treated and I know how I should love and treat others.