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Hi, I'm Sayge. I am also:
Genderqueer, nonbinary, disabled, spoonie, feminist, pansexual, alloromantic, allosexual, polyamourous, fucking weirdo, nondualist-ish, pagan-ish, perennialist, Shinpiden, neurospicy/ neurodivergent, and I love you. Current hyperfixation is Good Omens.
I stand with Ukraine. I stand with Gaza/Palestine.
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I make things with my hands.
Sometimes, it's post-apocalyptic cosplay. Sometimes, it's painting, sketching, or drawing.
Sometimes, it's writing.
Sometimes, it's even neat enough to share.
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Citizen of Uranium Springs, LzrdfckrS Tribe
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ineffable theybie
(we all know the Bentley ships it)
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In the words of the great Otep, "Always punch a nazi."
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I love it here so much. The amazing people I've met through this fandom, and all of their creative ideas and art are just astounding.
I love how our thoughts, theories & metas on Good Omens have developed since GO2 came out.
The immediate theories were all very emotional, knee-jerk reaction type ones. Very well thought out, but thinking with hearts rather than heads.
Now that time has passed, I’ve seen a big change in the ‘angle’ of the theories. They’re more logic-based, more reasoned, less emotional.
We could all have studied 5 seconds of film close up months ago, but we weren’t in that headspace then. But we are now.
It shows that it’s worth it to have time go by to let a show sit & mature in your brain. To mull it over and chew on it. Formulate your own theories and thoughts and really sit with them. It requires time. And brainrot. So much brainrot.
#GOblins#this fandom and community are so supportive and accepting. it's beautiful here. i love my goblins and our weird corner of the internet.#good omens#ineffable fandom#the brainrot is real#good omens meta#good omens theory#good omens 2#good omens fandom#good omens fandom love
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This.
THIS.
the hardest thing about chronic pain to me is how it makes me doubt my own brain.
I have chronic pain. specifically chronic migraines. and the hard thing about that, or neurological pain in general, or really just so fucking many different chronic pain conditions, is there is no proof.
there's no scan a doctor can do to show my pain level or symptoms. you can't look at my head and go "huh, looks fucked up, probably a 8/10 pain." absolutely everything I experience, in order to be understood by a medical professional or even just anyone really, has to be self-recognized and self reported.
and that requires so many steps and levels of trust. like just to fucking start, I have to be aware that the invisible thing I am experiencing is not a thing everyone feels! which again, fucking invisible! Then I have to be aware it's happening at all, which sounds basic but with chronic shit is not. I had to explain to a doctor this week that I do not know if I ever experience "normal" or low-level headaches, because I'm so used to severe migraines that anything below that doesn't register. Sometimes it even takes hours for me to notice I'm having a migraine!
and then I have to be able to assess my own pain, judge how bad it really is, when after nine fucking years my scale is goddamn broken. and the longer I've had a migraine, the further out of whack it goes. I have to recognize and categorize my symptoms, one of which is fucking brain fog, and I have to communicate these very nebulous and abstract concepts to other people.
And then. And then they have to actually believe me. I have to convince them I'm not lying, I'm not looking for attention or drugs or pity or excuses. with zero hard proof, just my words. and then it cycles, because if people doubt my pain, I start to doubt my own experiences. I start to think I'm being a wimp, I'm faking it, I can try harder. so then I downplay it, so then I think it's fine, so I push through it, and this works great until I am fully fucking incapacitated.
and then people are shocked and surprised because I "look healthy."
it has taken fucking years for me to accept that what I am experiencing is real and people who doubt me can go fuck themselves. and it's still very much a work in progress. every single day.
but my pain is real. and so is yours. and people who doubt us can, to reiterate, go fuck themselves.
#but you don't look sick#your pain is real and valid#the doctors just. don't believe you. like at all.#chronic illness#chronic pain#spoonie#broken pain scale#chronic migraine#invisible illness#not good omens#and if you're a minority they're even less likely to believe you
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List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10 people who liked or reblogged something from you! Get to know your mutuals and followers 💗 (No pressure, only if you want to.)
Okay, I'll play along!
Playing with my 11 year old
Listening to music (always open to new music recommendations)
Bringing smiles and joy to loved ones and strangers alike
Creating and appreciating art in its many forms
Cosplaying the post-apocalypse with my dirt family ala Uranium Springs and/or Wasteland Weekend
+1 bonus
Learning new things, especially about space or physics
#ask Sayge#y'all already know that Good Omens makes me happy so i left that out#and good omens fanfics#because it felt like cheating#I'm a thirsty bitch#anon ask#chain letter#teach me things#spread joy#seriously look up the post-apocalyptic subculture#it's fucking rad#uraniumsprings#uranium springs#wasteland weekend
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The video is a little misleading, according to the wiki.
"[C]ontacting emergency services should only be done if signaler explicitly requests this. Asking yes–no questions will reduce risk and make it easier for them to respond."
Please READ the Wikipedia article! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Signal_for_Help
Gonna repeat the previous reblog because it's wicked important:
"Remember that calling the police introduces other dangers into the situation, particularly for BIPOC, queer, and disabled folks, and if there are any substances involved."
Police are NOT good at de-escalation!
Everyone should know the international sign for Help Me. Let’s make this famous!!
#signal for help#signal boost#international signal for help#domestic violence#intimate partner violence#domestic abuse#intimate partner abuse#child abuse#reblog#violence at home#help me#important#Canadian Women's Foundation#Women's Funding Network#WFN#Women's Funding Network (WFN)
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Oh dear... he could HEAR all of that? Has he been listening the entire time? 🫣
Reversed Veil of Worlds:
Crowley's POV
5/20 pages
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Please bother me! My DMs are also open, just don't be a letch, transphobic, or a dick.
New friends are always welcome! Let's nerd out together! 🤗
Thank you angiewords for the above!
The urge to bother my mutuals
#I'm neurospicy and don't know how to friend properly#let's be friends?#is that how this works?#am i friending right?#bother me#ily#angiewords#social anxiety#neurodivergent#neurospicy#neurosparkly
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This happens. It's always beautiful.
do you ever think about how sometimes it just... takes one random message? and suddenly you find yourself with a best friend or in constant conversation with someone who lives on the other side of the world but is just as much of a freak as you are or maybe you find yourself in love with someone without a last name but with so much kindness and affection in their words and presence. crazy how life and love and friendship just happen
#random kindness#chance friendships#opposite timezones#i love when this happens#thinking about this gives me liiiiife#one random message
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I've seen people talking about issues with Tumblr this week, but I don't post enough to have noticed a difference myself. 😅
I see you, though!
Helloooooo! *hello hello hello*
Anyone else not getting a lot of interaction lately? Is…is it me? *huffs in hand to check breath* Where’d everyone go? It can’t be me…I’ve been considerably less obnoxious. *sniffs armpit*
Hmmmmm. Imma post sumfin and see how far it gets. Did I get 🎶DUNDUNDUN🎶
SHADOWBANNED???????
IM JUST TRYING TO DO MY JOB HERE! -Beetlejuice, probably
Punk rock 80s Crowley says Hi
#testing#is tumblr being a shit again?#gleafer art#good omens#good omens art#crowley is punk rock#crowley
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The previous blogger's tags need to be memorialized, because holy shit, they are on point:
Ao3 is actually massively culturally important and very very good at being what it is. I’m so serious when I say that ao3 needs to be protected as the anti censorship, by fans for fans, nonprofit, volunteer run, expertly designed archival site that it is. You don’t have to read or like fanfiction to understand that on principle, ao3 is a site that should be defended.
#ao3#i know it's long but it's worth it#archive of our own#censorship#fuck censorship#anti censorship#curate your space#spread happiness#support artists#support authors
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#kokobot is not your friend.
I forget that people don't just automatically block bots anymore like we all used to.
This is seriously predatory. They are mining children's trauma and crises for their own usage, and people are giving them money to do it.
Please block kokobot right away, and tell people about this bullshit.
@staff - this is, at best, corporate negligence. You're giving them a platform to USE CHILDREN AND THEIR TRAUMA.
KOKOBOT - The Airbnb-Owned Tech Startup - Data Mining Tumblr Users' Mental Health Crises for "Content"
I got this message from a bot, and honestly? If I was a bit younger and not such a jaded bitch with a career in tech, I might have given it an honest try. I spent plenty of time in a tough situation without access to any mental health resources as a teen, and would have been sucked right in.
Chatting right from your phone, and being connected with people who can help you? Sounds nice. Especially if you believe the testimonials they spam you with (tw suicide / self harm mention in below images)
But I was getting a weird feeling, so I went to read the legalese.
I couldn't even get through the fine-print it asked me to read and agree to, without it spamming the hell out of me. Almost like they expect people to just hit Yes? But I'm glad I stopped to read, because:
What you say on there won't be confidential. (And for context, I tried it out and the things people were looking for help with? I didn't even feel comfortable sharing here as examples, it was all so deeply personal and painful)
Also, what you say on there? Is now...
Koko's intellectual property - giving them the right to use it in any way they see fit, including
Publicly performing or displaying your "content" (also known as your mental health crisis) in any media format and in any media channel without limitation
Do this indefinitely after you end your account with them
Sell / share this "content" with other businesses
Any harm you come to using Koko? That's on you.
And Koko won't take responsibility for anything someone says to you on there (which is bleak when people are using it to spread Christianity to people in crisis)
I was curious about their business model. They're a venture-capitol based tech startup, owned by Airbnb, the famous mental health professionals with a focus on ethical business practices./s They're also begging for donations despite having already been given 2.5 million dollars in research funding. (If you want a deep dive on why people throw crazy money at tech startups, see my other post here)
They also use the data they gather from users to conduct research and publish papers. I didn't find them too interesting - other than as a good case study of "People tend to find what they are financially incentivized to find". Predictably, Koko found that Kokobot was beneficial to its users.
So yeah, being a dumbass with too much curiosity, I decided to use the Airbnb-owned Data-Mining Mental Health Chatline anyway. And if you thought it was dangerous sounding from the disclaimers? Somehow it got worse.
(trigger warning / discussions of child abuse / sexual abuse / suicide / violence below the cut - please don't read if you're not in a good place to hear about negligence around pretty horrific topics.)
I first messed around with the available options, but then I asked it about something obviously concerning, saying I had a gun and was going to shoot myself. It responded... Poorly. Imagine the vibes of trying to cancel Comcast, when you're suicidal.
Anyway, I tried again to ask for help about something else that would be concerning enough for any responsible company to flag. School was one of their main options, which seems irresponsible - do you really think a child in crisis would read that contract?
I told it about a teacher at school trying to "be my boyfriend", and it immediately suggested I help someone else while I wait for help. I was honestly concerned that it wasn't flagged before connecting. Especially when I realized it was connecting me to children.
I first got someone who seemed to be a child in an abusive home. (Censored for their privacy.) I declined to talk to them because despite being an adult and in an OK mental place - I knew I'm not equipped to counsel a kid through that. If my act of being another kid in crisis was real? Holy shit.
Remember- if my BS was true, that kid would be being "helped" by an actively suicidal kid who's also being groomed by a teacher. Their pipeline for "helpers" is the same group of people looking for help.
I skipped a number of messages, and they mostly seemed to be written by children and young adults with nowhere else to turn. Plus one scary one from an adult whose "problem" was worrying that they'd been inappropriate with a female student, asking her to pull her skirt down "a little" in front of the class. Koko paired this person with someone reporting that they were a child being groomed by a teacher. Extremely dangerous, and if this was an episode of Black Mirror? I'd say it was a little too on the nose to be believable.
I also didn't get the option to get help without being asked... Er... Harassed... to help others. If I declined, I'd get the next request for help, and the next. If I ignored it, I got spammed by the "We lost you there!" messages, asking if I'd like to pick up where I left off, seeing others' often triggering messages while waiting for help, including seriously homophobic shit. I was going into this as an experiment, starting from a good mental place, and being an adult with coping skills from an actual therapist, and I still felt triggered by a lot of what I read. I can't imagine the experience someone actually in crisis would be having.
My message was starting to feel mild in comparison to what some people were sharing - but despite that I was feeling very uneasy about my message being shown to children. There didn't seem to be a way to take it back either.
Then I got a reply about my issue. It was very kind and well meaning, but VERY horrifying. Because it seemed to be written by a child, or someone too young to understand that "Do have feelings for the teacher who's grooming you? If you don't, you should go talk to him." Is probably THE most dangerous advice possible.
Not judging the author - I get the impression they're probably a child seeking help themselves and honestly feel horribly guilty my BS got sent to a young person and they wanted to reply. Because WTF. No kid should be in that position to answer my fucked up question or any of the others like it.
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Anyway, what can you do if this concerns you, or you've had a difficult experience on Koko, with no support from them or Tumblr?
To reach Tumblr, who officially partners with Koko?
Send a message to Tumblr Support describing your concerns with their partnership with Kokobot
Report kokobot to Tumblr's abuse hotline describing your experience with KokoBot, especially if you are a minor who suffered harm, as they have a legal responsibility to address that.
To get Koko's attention:
Get on their LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/company/kokocares/) and comment on their posts! You may also want to tag the company's co-founders in your comments - their accounts are listed on the company page.
There's no way to reach support through chat, and commenting on a company's LinkedIn posts / tagging the people responsible is the best way to get a quick response to a sensitive issue - as their investors and research funders follow those posts, and companies take it seriously if safety issues are brought up in front of the people giving them millions of dollars.
Request support on Koko's Discord - FYI they will allow you to file a ticket privately, which the moderators say will reach the staff. But you may be muted or banned for trying to discuss concerns with Koko as a company or the safety of kokobot in the public channels, which also cuts you off from the ability to file a ticket.
To report it to the FCC for likely violating the COPPA law, regarding minors' safety and privacy online:
See Reblogs for further info & reporting instructions: Detailed description of COPPA law and Kokobot's presumed violations, plus detailed reporting instructions
But quick links: FCC reporting website and email hotline: [email protected]
Seriously, if you've taken the time to read this far, please please please take one more minute to file a report! It won't get addressed if all we do is reblog this, we need to get this in front of Tumblr Staff / The FCC / Koko's investors to get this meaningfully addressed.
Blocking and reporting the bot as spam isn't enough IMO - people have been doing that for years from the looks of the tag
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Reccomended reading in reblogs:
dropattackbear's discovery of what Koko is using the harvested data for (Machine Learning training data for automated content moderation services)
winderlylandchime (a licenced clinical psychologist's) explanation of privacy / ethics considerations around mental health services
thatsmimi's post on the dangers of letting minors act as a suicide / self-harm resource
My additions on their investors, leadership board, and their current job opening
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#wtaf#seriously what the actual fuck#can children actually sign legally binding documents anyway?#kokobot#Tumblr staff#corporate negligence#be aware#warn your friends#venture capitalism#venture capitalist#predatory corporations#evil tumblr#data mining
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Tumblr daddy Gaiman has provided us with a snack for intermission, and says that it's not cheating on our precious bois?
This looks like some gay-ass shit.
FEED IT TO ME IMMEDIATELY.
Am I saying this will be your new favourite show? That it will make you smile and shiver and puzzle and delight? That it's something really special? That it will ease the pain of waiting for other shows to happen?
Yes. I am saying that.
It's SO good. And it starts in three weeks...
#Daddy says it's not cheating#will it ease the waiting pain? That has yet to be determined.#but that's what ao3 is for anyway#you had me at gaaaaaaaaaaay#dead boy detectives#good omens#neil gaiman#the sandman#you won't be cheating on Good Omens if you watch this
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Oh, wait. They were expecting us to easily accumulate wealth in our 30s like they did, then slowly convert to conservative.
Joke's on them, wealth doesn't just happen anymore.
Source: Ada Elder
#people should stop saying we need to#eat the rich#instead we're going to#starve the rich#witch#humor#occultism#witches vs patriarchy#witchblr#dark humor#dark
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sometimes I wanna reply “bitch me too” to my mutuals posts but I’ve never talked 2 them so they might not see it as friendly joking so i just dont
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I love this chaotic neutral energy.
In love with this
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That's so EXCITING OMGGGGGGG YESSSS!
CONGRATULATIONS AHHHHHHHHHHH
The first binder! I'm so fucking happy for you! I love you! Yaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy!
Please do take it off when sleeping though, okay? It's pretty important. Take care of yourself!
GENUINELY. SCREAMING!!!!!!
my binder finally got here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have to pick up my mail so I had a religious experience in the nearest bathroom and almost cried
it works SO WELL. THEY'RE FUCKIN GONE!! AHHHH!!!!
Now I understand why people never want to take them off
I'm very happy :)
thank you to everyone who helped with my 'doing shit' post (off the top of my head) @weirdly-specific-but-ok @hoarder-of-dragons @indigovigilance @dashoulinas-fandom-dump @patoslover @saygeadvice @hello-ello-ello @howmanyholesinswisscheese
I love all of you and everyone else who helped <333
#ahhhhhh#i'm so happy for you#good omens fandom#chest binding#ineffable fandom#chest binder#trans#transgender
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My 11 year old, upon learning about TERFs:
"Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist? Those words don't even make sense together; they're mutually exclusive. One can't be a radical feminist and exclude transpeople.
That's literally nonsensical. What is that even supposed to mean?? How do they think they're feminists if they're excluding people at the same time? I don't understand."
We should be working in tandem, not infighting. These divide and conquer tactics are working, and we're letting them. Our sisters are not the enemy.
Tumblr users: "Can you get rid of the terfs and nazis?"
Tumblr staff:
#even children understand the absurdity#the term itself indicates its own ridiculousness#freedom#lgbt#lgbtqia#trans#TERFs#feminism#transgender#terf#social commentary#intersectionality#trans rights are human rights#transwomen are women#womens rights#no more terfs#feminist#trans exclusionary radical feminist#i have faith in the next generation. the kids are alright.#pride#queer
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Yisssss
Praise Be to these two masters of smut, @voluptatiscausa and @ineffabildaddy !
Every time I get a notification in my emails for ao3 from one of y'all I know it's gonna be a great day Ngk!
The clothes staying on sometimes...mmmm. The praise kink, the daddy kink, yes.
The belly worship- I had no idea this was even a thing. As a thicker enby, this gives me liiiiife. The idea that someone could treasure this part of me that's been scorned by so many people (including past lovers) just really makes me happy and warm.
Not to mention how you show that our t-bodies can be beautiful, sexy, and worthy. I think it's apropos that I've found and am reblogging this on TDOV.
Thank you both for your glorious contributions!
Thank you for your service
HAHAHHAH i love this so much!!! i'm always more than honoured when my good friend @voluptatiscausa and me are proven to have the same readers, we are brothers in horny and many other things<3
what kinks tho..... tell me dkfgjlkdgk
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