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What do you enjoy doing but usually don't have any time for?

It's imperative that you stop telling yourself that and do it. Every mother, father, stepparent, and caregiver needs some extra time to self care, otherwise you'll burnout 🚨and crash.

— Go get that pedicure now!

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just remembered this shirt we saw in harajuku

I believe our writings should provoke, inspire, make you think, give birth to new creations and that’s what Mr Emmanuel does with his writings. And that’s how this piece came to be.

Thank you Mr Emmanuel 🙏@esuemmanuel . Keep inspiring 🖋️📖

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Your dating choices are a reflection of how you feel about yourself (self-perception/self-esteem).🪞

There is a quote from none other than Alice in Wonderland that goes, "I can't go back to yesterday because I was a different person then," and that got me thinking; isn't that only reason people want to go back and change things? Because they are different people now, and will make different decisions? How amazing is it that people can experience hindsight? How amazing is it that the human brain is ever evolving to the point where we can think of a whole new reality based off of a single decision? How amazing is it that we can become entirely different people after the reading of one novel, or the listening to one story? How amazing is the human brain that can feel regret because it has grown?

Queers for Palestine & the Power of Pinkwashing by matt bernstein

Do we have to spend time inside our mind to find the deviant that hides inside?

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I was well into adulthood before I realised I had a deviant hiding inside of me. I thought I knew who I was sexually, what my wants and desires were, but with hindsight, I had no idea. I was trying to live up to some false bravado, not wanting to trail behind my peers and not allowing myself the time to discover who I was on, what I'd call, a primal level.

Is that all it would have taken, spending some time getting to know the deviant that lays dormant inside me? Is it already there, just waiting? Or is it something that develops and can be moulded? 

And ultimately, does everybody have one and if they do, do they know their true deviant?

In my humble opinion, I feel everybody has one. An inner desire that is often never even realised and I think it’s something like the old Native American tale of the two wolves, it needs to be fed in order to grow. As I said before, I was well into adulthood before I truly knew myself, my inner self. When I was first sexually active, I was surrounded by older peers, and I felt the pressure to not be left behind. As they say, hindsight is 20/20 and it’s definitely clearer to see now, that was a mistake. Instead of spending time getting to know myself, I was rushing into fumbling my way through other people and this came at a cost, even much later in my life. But one of the biggest costs, one of the biggest sacrifices was at the expense of my deviant.

Perhaps I should take this time to explain what I mean by deviant. The dictionary definition states that deviant as a noun refers to ‘a deviant person or thing.’ “Killers, deviants, and those whose actions are beyond most comprehension.” As an adjective it describes ‘departing from usual or accepted standards, especially in social or sexual behaviour.’ “Deviant behaviour.” It’s the latter where my meaning of deviant derives but I don’t feel the standards are unusual or unacceptable. I don’t agree that the term deviant needs to come from a place of negativity, in fact, the complete opposite. If you can truly be yourself, your inner-most self, how can that be anything but positive?

I’m also fully aware that “deviant” can be used in a more criminal sense, and I am in no way condoning any criminal activities, sexual or not. When I say deviant, I’m referring to your inner most sexual wants, needs and deepest desires. What really drives you wild? What’s the underlining theme in your fantasies? What do you crave when you close your eyes? This is what I mean and for the most part, everybody’s deviant can be gratified without needing to commit any crimes.

I think another reason it’s usually used in a negative sense is because of the taboo that still surrounds sex and sexual themes. Even though it’s around almost every corner, on some bus-stop advert, or in the palm of your other hand and it’s getting more and more graphic, a lot of people still freak out when you mention something like a butt plug. In my experience, this is from more of a social reaction rather than a true reaction of what they really mean or dare to wonder. All it takes is for one brave person to confidently say “a butt plug doesn’t feel too bad” and a conversation can begin. Often with at least one other person in the group agreeing. But it’s the initial reaction toward the words of a deviant manner that I intend to change, allow people the opportunity to answer truthfully in the first instance, instead of saying what they think they should say. Everybody has a deviant but if you’re not even willing to talk about it, how are you ever going to find someone to explore it with…...and that is the best part.

As well as it being the best part, it’s also quite an important one as well. Trust and acceptance are usually the walls or cages that are put up to hide and protect our deviants so finding someone who accepts you for who you are and who you can truly trust is vital in most cases. In order to get to this point however, you first need to know what it is that’s hiding inside of you, and this is where I think the majority of people go wrong. Either by not allowing themselves the time to discover it or by assuming they already know. To those of you who are lucky enough to already know your true selves, through self-exploration or exploring with a trusted partner, I applaud you but also wonder if perhaps your deviant could grow more? 

As for where our deviants come from, that is a good question. For myself looking back, there was always an element of it in my sexual journey but predominantly when I was on my own instead of with a partner. I can’t recall any defining moment from which it manifested so for as long as I can remember, it’s always being there. I don’t think it was completely set in stone from the outset, I think it’s being able to grow and be moulded by external and internal sources. It can develop, evolve even, into something beyond what your false bravado could have ever even imagined. At least that’s in my experience! I can now say that I do know my true deviant but I’m not entirely sure it’s finished growing, especially when someone else’s deviant compliments it so perfectly, but that’s an article for another time.

I suppose to answer the question in the title; yes, we do need spend time inside our minds to truly find the deviant that hides inside, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be leaving you little bread crumbs along the way.

So, what does this mean for you? It means it’s ok to be you. It’s ok to talk about what really turns you on and if anyone thinks it’s unusual, maybe they’re the ones who are unacceptable…...or perhaps they’re just reacting in the way they think they should. Either way, don’t let that stop you exploring and growing.

Awaken and embrace your inner deviant and start gratifying the desires you both crave.

“We trade trauma for wisdom…it deepens our eyes.”

Cole Sprouse

Listen to what he says about our culture of sensationalism at around the 24:20 mark and consider the damage that specific mentality of extremes has caused many innocent people in the entertainment industry via celebrity gossip news and social media.

It seems that few people these days are interested in knowing the human being behind the famous name; they want to know only about the paragons of virtue and the absolute monsters, so that’s what celebrity gossip gives them, with no room whatsoever for anything in between those two extremes.

Listen also to what he says about custody with regard to his parents. Sometimes it’s the fathers who are better equipped mentally and emotionally to raise children.

Ignore this sensationalist headline, ignore the previous weird interview elsewhere in which he smokes a cigarette indoors, and all that sort of nonsense. Give Cole Sprouse a shot at convincing you that he’s one of the most insightful and thought-provoking people who’s ever sat down for a conversation with Steven Bartlett on Diary of a CEO.

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consider her greyish-blue gown that stops you from being completely plunged in darkness. indeed it was dark, but the sky was there, visible under a twinkle or two. she eagerly set up the twilight decorations of blissful silence as well as a fragranced breeze of peace, everyone else chased away to give space to her and her special guest to dine till dawn. day belonged to her also, but the absence of light left an atmosphere of mystery and uncertainty, which ironically was the only time she spent with him. he was the celestial true to her, never too much for her but illuminated enough to accept her as she was and also hiding her scars from those who'd never understand her like he did. her dark side was his favourite, raw, plain and real. that's how he liked her, so she dressed to impress like she usually did, but he didn't show. amidst the dimness, a hush descended as she stood still, soaking in solitude. intimacy in the dark, this was its downside, interesting at first but surely nothing good could come from hiding what they had from the world. so she stood static, alone in what was supposed to be serenity. and as the seconds turned to hours her gown darkened, and her heart followed suit. she longed for him today more than ever, but he didn't show. look at me and understand...my heart has grown cold all through the night.

You see this? GO WATCH IT NOOW!!

It’s one (if not THE most) wonderful thought provoking, heartwarming film I’ve EVER seen!?!😭❤️👏🏼

Just amazing acting and screenwriting by Dan Fogelman. Really freaking awesome and Oscar Isaac’s in it?! so- No excuse!