The meaning behind the question "How are you?" is just so endearing and deep.
You never know what a person's going through until you ask them how they're feeling.
Maybe they're having a bad day and are just waiting to let it all out. And probably, a simple "how are you?" would just help them do just that.
The toughest people need a break sometimes.
The "weakest people" need to know it's okay to be not okay.
The happiest people shouldn't have to hide their sorrow all the time.
The saddest people shouldn't have to be guilty of letting it all out.
-Remember this so you could help turn someone day's over.
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With the OW question, I think he obviously wants to put the boundary in place between professional/personal for his own sanity. But I also think he will want to try to avoid those questions because then this film narrative continues to be all about him and O. She worked very hard with a lot of other really talented people to make this film. It may or may not be a masterpiece (though the trailer looked awesome), but the film deserves to be more than just tabloid headlines, so of course he is going to pivot back to her strengths as a Director… which is a lovely thing to say in any case! He admires her work in addition to everything else he clearly admires about her!! …Sidenote, but he did the same in Dunkirk press— sidestepping conversations about himself to refocus on the film. He’s going to have to balance his fame with any films he is a part of going forward, regardless if he decides to date a colleague!
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If my mom sees a significant amount of blood she gets lightheaded, and has fainted on some occasions. Once it happened when we were kids, I wasn't there to witness it but I heard the story from my dad. Basically my brothers, around 7 or 8 at the time, were playing outside while my mom was making their lunch, and she accidentally cut her finger. It wasn't anything serious, but it drew a fair bit of blood and she passed out. My dad saw this and rushed over, but he didn't really know what to do so he just sort of started slapping her to wake her up (not recommended, but he had no idea and panicked)
At that exact moment my brothers both came in from playing, and all they saw was our mom unconscious on the floor and our dad slapping her. So, like, without even saying a word to each other they both just INSTANTLY start whaling on him, like, full blown attack mode to defend our mom. Which obviously didn't help the situation, but she did wake up and everything was fine.
Now our dad says that he's actually really glad they attacked him over what they thought was going on, because it means he raised good boys. And I still think that's true, they're very good boys.
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You’re not helping, at all, at all.
God pray tell, how is it possible.
How could you possibly, always,
Have the worst, impeccable timing,
In the short history of mankind!
My mind is in turmoil,
My heart is full of doubts,
My soul is shaken,
My whole being tearing apart.
And as I brace myself for what is ahead,
You came and choose this moment,
Throwing tantrums, like a mfing child!
What the hell is wrong with you?
You allow your dirty mind to trick you,
And you continue to feed yourself,
With countless lies and doubts,
To justify your stupid actions,
So that like always,
You’re the innocent one,
Pouring your own blood and sweat,
For the noble cause of being noble,
For the sake of us, and us alone,
Who you think throws everything,
As if money grows on trees.
Seriously, what the f*** is wrong with you?
Everything is a misunderstanding.
If you weren’t so judgy, then maybe, just maybe,
The people around you wouldn’t be so sensitive.
And if that wasn’t enough, you broadcast everything!
Like a radio star, you tell all your friends,
Who tells all their friends,
What a poor life you’ve led,
And how much you’re sacrificing
For every goddamn thing!
Must you gloat and be beaming,
In the presence of sympathy votes?
Yet you do not think, what does that make us?
Evil, mongering thieves, all carefree and happy?
Seriously, what the f*** is wrong with you, moron!
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Exactly! We owe it to ourselves to not sit back when lies and toxic behavior get amplified and spread in the fandom . Harry and his girlfriends are not engaging with fandom spaces but we are! And we deserve a healthy enjoyable environment. Nothing good come from fandoms letting lies and misogyny go unchecked inside them ! We have Larries as a cautionary tale.
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Mizu, femininity, and fallen sparrows
In my last post about Mizu and Akemi, I feel like I came across as overly critical of Mizu given that Mizu is a woman who - in her own words - has to live as a man in order to go down the path of revenge.
If she is ever discovered to be female by the wrong person, she will not only be unable to complete her quest, but there's a good chance that she'll be arrested or killed.
So it makes complete sense for Mizu to distance herself as much as possible from any behavior that she feels like would make someone question her sex.
I felt so indignant toward Mizu on my first couple watchthroughs for this moment. Why couldn't Mizu bribe the woman and her child's way into the city too? If Mizu is presenting as a man, couldn't she claim to be the woman's escort?
However, this moment makes things pretty clear. Mizu knows all too well the plight of women in her society. She knows it so well that she cannot risk ever finding herself back in their position again. She helps in what little way she can - without drawing attention to herself.
Mizu is not a hero and she is not one to make of herself a martyr - she will not set herself on fire to keep others warm. There's room to argue that Mizu shouldn't prioritize her quest over people's lives, but given the collateral damage Mizu can live with in almost every episode of season 1, Mizu is simply not operating under that kind of morality at this point. ("You don't know what I've done to reach you," Mizu tells Fowler.)
And while I still feel like Mizu has an obvious and established blind spot when it comes to Akemi because of their differences in station, such that Mizu's judgment of Akemi and actions in episode 5 are the result of prejudice rather than the result of Mizu's caution, I also want to establish that Mizu is just as caged as Akemi is, despite her technically having more freedom while living as a man.
Mizu can hide her mixed race identity some of the time, and she can hide her sex almost all of the time, but being able to operate outside of her society's strict rules for women does not mean she cannot see their plight.
It does not mean she doesn't hurt for them.
Back to Mizu and collateral damage, remember that sparrow?
While Mizu is breaking into Boss Hamata's manse, she gets startled by a bird and kills it on reflex. She then cradles it in her hands - much more tenderly than we've seen Mizu treat almost anything up to this point in the season:
She then puts it in its nest, with its unhatched eggs. Almost like she's trying to make the death look natural. Or like an accident.
You see where I'm going with this.
When Mizu kills Kinuyo, Mizu lingers in the moment, holding the body tenderly:
And btw a lot of stuff about this show hit me hard, but this remains the biggest gut punch of them all for me, Mizu holding that poor girl's body close, GOD
When Mizu arranges the "scene of the crime," Kinuyo's body is delicate, birdlike. And Mizu is so shaken afterward that she gets sloppy. She's horrified at this kill to the point that she can't bring herself to take another innocent life - the boy who rats her out.
MIZU'S ONE MOMENT OF SOFTNESS AND MERCY, COMING ON THE HEELS OF HER NEEDING TO KILL A GIRL TO SPARE HER THE WORST FATE THAT THIS RIGID SOCIETY HAS TO OFFER WOMEN, AND TO SPARE A BROTHEL FULL OF INNOCENT WOMEN WHO ARE THE CASTOFFS OF SOCIETY, NEARLY RESULTS IN ALL OF THEIR DEATHS
No wonder Mizu is as stoic and cold as she is.
And no wonder Mizu has no patience for Akemi whatsoever right before the terrible reveal and the fight breaks out:
Speaking of Akemi - guess who else is compared to a bird!
The plumage is more colorful, a bit flashier. But a bird is a bird.
And, uh
Yeah.
I like to think that Mizu killing the sparrow is not only foreshadowing for what she must do to Kinuyo, but is also a representation of the choice she makes on Akemi's behalf. She decides to cage the bird because she believes the bird is "better off." Better off caged than... dead.
But because Mizu doesn't know Akemi or her situation, she of course doesn't realize that the bird is fated to die if it is caged and sent back home.
Mizu is clearly not happy, or pleased, or satisfied by allowing Akemi to be dragged back to her father:
But softness and mercy haven't gotten Mizu anywhere good, recently.
There is so much tragedy layered into Mizu's character, and it includes the things she has to witness and the choices she makes - or believes she has to make - involving women, when she herself can skirt around a lot of what her society throws at women. Although, I do believe that it comes at the cost of a part of Mizu's soul.
After all, I'm gonna be haunted for the rest of this show by Mizu's very first prayer in episode 1:
"LET" her die. Because as Ringo points out, she doesn't "know how" to die.
Kind of like another bird in this show:
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