Begging people to get normal about the way multigender people label their attraction

i don't feel nearly as ashamed or hesitant to talk about my queer tgirl attraction to men as my tguy brothers would feel talking about their attraction to women

obligatory "if you're a trans guy and your attraction to women is het, that's real and okay! your trans experience isn't a monolith and other trans people being different doesn't make you different or wrong"

like, think about it: hardly anyone bats an eye when a tgirl uses grindr or calls herself a faggot, but as soon as a man calls himself a lesbian, everyone gets on his ass. anything for an excuse to shit on lesbians, i guess. it makes me angry that nobody sees this hypocrisy or these ties back to the lesbian separatism that infected the community post-70s. it's not gone, it never went away

this isn't exactly profound news to anyone who gives a shit about lesbian history. just something i find interesting

Begging monogenders to stop policing how multigendered people can identify themselves

If a label fits you, you have every right to use it. Even if it’s “contradictory”.

Being queer is not a club that people can exclude you from.

If your queer identity doesn’t hurt anyone, own it.

GAYDYKE!

gaydyke: someone who identifies as both gay and a dyke, for whatever reason! inspired by the ocean gay/vincian flag and this dyke flag

— a sort-of subset label for gaybian, but doesn’t necessarily need to be used as such. open for any and all queer people to use!

very tired of people with otherwise completely normal DNIs that also have "mspec lesbians/lesgays/gaybians" like lmao just say you don't actually support people who are bigender/genderfluid/genderflux/genderqueer/demiboys/multigender/omnigender and stop pretending like you do

HATER GAYBIAN / VELAURIAN / LESGAY

[PT: hater gaybian/velaurian/lesgay]

— a flag for gaybians/velaurians/lesgays who hate exclusionists. this flag is meant for ALL gaybians, including those with other contradictory labels.

— based on this velaurian flag

[ID: a rectangular flag with seven equal-width horizontal stripes; (top to bottom) very dark red, dark purplish red, bright red, off-white, dull green, dull blue, & very dark purple.]

Shout out to all my gaybians, gaybians with split attraction, aroace gaybians, xenogender gaybians, gaybian neopronouns users, non multigender gaybians, multigender gaybians that don't use the labels bi/poly/pan/trigender ect, genderfluid gaybians, disabled/neurodivergent gaybians, non/alterhuman gaybians, polyamorous gaybians, and all the other cool gaybian folks my mind failed to mention

whart is a boy lesbian ?1

a lesbian who is also a boy! right on the tin

TO CLARIFY: this label is often used by various queer folk, such as transmascs who ID with the term lesbian, multigender people, and lesbians who simply feel happiest calling themselves boys, men, or male! to name only a few examples (because I couldn't possibly list them all)

I think contradictory labels are cool and awesome and swag and allows queer people to describe and label their various gender & orientation experiences in a way that makes them most comfortable.

Consider

He/him but in a distinctly lesbian way

Additionally, she/her but in a distinctly gay way

♡ Mean gaybian/lesgay ♡

[pt: mean gaybian/lesgay] [no spoons for id]

A flag for mean gaybians/lesgays! Colours inspired by the mean lesbian flag :33 its me, im the mean gaybian :33 -Miette/Clara

Dividers by essthereal

i'm gonna start asking turigirl deniers what they suggest i call myself

i'm a trans girl, and my attraction to men is queer in nature

so, what do you suggest i say if not "a girl who is gay for men"? you can't suggest anything that wouldn't invalidate my identity as a trans girl. am i a mistaken man or a straight girl?

i don't have the luxury or privilege of a heteronormative relationship. i never will. most cishet men will see me as a man transitioning into a girl; a woman who used to be a man. the current state society is in, that isn't going to change anytime soon. i cannot date them; i am not the straight girl of their dreams

you know she has a dick, right? she used to be a boy. dating her makes you gay.

what's the point, then? why would i choose to leave a community that has so warmly welcomed and embraced my uncracked egg self into a cold, unaccepting world, pining for men who will never want me and never see me as the girl they want? you thinking that me realising i'm a girl suddenly makes me want to abandon the gay community and find a straight boy to whisk me away is a ridiculous expectation and really speaks on how you view tfems and trans people as a whole. transness is not the walk in a park you think it is

exclu love to claim that me dating gay men is invalidating my gender, that they don't see me as a girl if they're attracted to me. gay men have embraced, validated and accepted my gender transition moreso than straight men ever fucking have or will. to most gay men i've met, i'm a trans girl. girlfag. a born-again woman. that's fucking awesome

to straight men, i'm a girl with a dick. used to be a man. tranny. still a man. a threat to their sexuality

so, are you going to misgender me or deny my tfem experience? take your pick. i'll wait

every time someone says "mspec lesbians dni" or any bullshit with "men" in it, i'm plastering this all over their wall

Are you...

Gaybian, lesbigay, or lesgay refers to someone who is both gay and lesbian. One may also identify as or be considered bisexual, multisexual, pluralian, or ambisexual. However, one may not always consider bisexual to be an accurate description of their attraction, as the attraction they experience is always in a gay way.

Intersex Lesgay Pride Flag

Intersex: a term for those with inborn sex traits/variations that don't fit into typical dyadic notions of a male/female body.

Gaybian, lesgay or velaurian: being a veldian and a lesbian; experiencing homo attraction to both men and women; experiencing gay manhood and lesbian womanhood (fluidly or simultaneously).

SAPPHILLEAN LESBOY

[PT: sapphillean lesboy]

— a lesboy who is a sapphillean; a sapphillean who is a lesboy

|| inspired by the lesboy flag & this sapphillean flag; image desc under the cut

Image Description — a rectangular flag with 7 horizontal stripes; (top to bottom) purplish red, pastel red, pale orange, white, mint green, pale blue, & light blue. The middle stripe (white) is the largest. The sapphillean symbol is in the center.