No single line has ever wrecked me as hard as this one from the Good Place and I think about it constantly

Jon sketch

i will shove that crusty old titan back into tartarus myself to keep her happy

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

retired 🩶

Idiot to Idiot communication

"people didn't get canceled before these sjw" Dante put all the people he disliked in literal hell

i see this jason todd who actually looks his very young age (instead of the 30yr old man that comics like to portray)

and feel my heart breaking just imagining bruce beating him up, almost killing him, mind-breaking him, and just overall being a total piece of shit father towards him.

a huge chunk of the reason why people don't view bruce's actions towards jason as abusive or wrong is because jason doesn't look his age. he's drawn to be this 35yr old father of three who looks even older than dick (and way too on par with bruce) that people see their fights as one between batman and any of his regular rogues. when they fight, it just looks like batman is fighting a man his age and not an actual young person. it doesn't look like batman is fighting his son who's barely even drinking age (and who def wasn't drinking age in utrh). their fights are portrayed in a way that eliminates the very real power struggle between them.

this applies to jason's entire character as well. a lot of people don't sympathize with how he died or his actions as robin or his fights with the other bats because he doesn't look his age. he always looks older and scarier than everyone else. tim has many sympathizers from the titans tower incident because jason just looked like a grown man fighting a 12yr old (even tho i disagree, tim was built and like 17 lmfao).

anyways, i just wish comics would actually draw jason to look his age, which literally ranges from 19 to early twenties. he's young- so young, and it's so annoying to see him drawn and written as someone older than even bruce.

Feels so good to be so round 😍

i want the whole SEASON of bucktommy

i want buck being wooed - flowers and being taken out and a little protective hand on the small of his back

i want to hear all the soft ways tommy can say evan and the look on buck's face when he does

i want to see them at tommy's karaoke trivia place because holy shit buck would love it (and didnt oliver say that we're getting buck singing this season cause uhhhhh)

i love that this is such a fling, such a happy thing for buck - he is finally feeling that puzzle piece click into place and it is freeing

and i cant wait to see all the small ways we see that play out!!!

let buck be happy challenge 2k24!!!!

My uh- My hand slipped 🌟

Manta killing a baby was pretty cruel. Doing it in front of the baby's father was crueler. But Manta did something that Arthur doesn't know; that wasn't Arthur's kid.

So not only does Arthur think that his kid is dead, but by the time he realizes it he'll have missed the kid's entire childhood. He gave Arthur Jr. to a couple with instructions to raise him to be the kind of person Arthur Sr. would be eternally disappointed in.

Then he killed a baby, one that wasn't Aquaman's.

The couple moved to Amity Park and renamed his actual son Dash Baxter.

The couple was not expecting their landlocked city to become home to ghosts, or for Dash to idolize the local hero and try to clean up his act.

Dash, for his part, thought that randomly getting freakishly strong was just a Liminal thing. And talking to goldfish. Also being able to breathe underwater.

Everyone in Amity Park was a little weird, Dash was just weirder than most.

Filling up this athletic shirt with fat, if you'd like to see more and help me get fatter check out my o.f. @jakethegainer

It's lonely down on earth sometimes...

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i know no one needs to be reminded of this, but honestly i think it's so wild that we got four different iterations of tommy kinard from s2 to s7, and each time there has been growth. an epitome of the show's thesis of you are not your worst moment, that there is always a way to grow and learn, and be better

and i think it's so wonderful that at his fourth iteration, the grown and better version of the one we first met, is also now the confident queer man brave enough to shoot his shot at evan buckley

30 years today 🥳 tired but fat 😅🙈🙃