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transmaverique · 16 days

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gonna be honest I see anyone talking about this "my gender is more complicated than yours" shit as someone who genuinely cannot comprehend that other people that don't share certain traits with them can still in fact have rich interior lives. as an agender trans woman who uses she/her I've never had anyone say it to me who wasn't (usually unknowingly) transmisogynistic

see but im not talking about "rich interior lives" and the assumption that i am is exactly what im talking about. i am talking about the actual physical way that reality treats and percieves me in comparison to the way it treats and percieves you. saying my gender is "more complex" means to me that i am physically incapable of existing in a strictly binary world and that there is no thing i can pass as bc "binary man" and "binary woman" are both incorrect for me. and the Cisiety in question does not allow androgyny to exist - it is exclusively the timeframe people have to decide whether they think you are a cisman or a ciswoman, or a failure and a freak. i dont subscribe to that "binary privilege" shit, thats not how privilege works. but there are differences in the ways both you and i can navigate this strictly binary Cisiety!!! and those differences deserve to be named, imo

like. again. i dont have to comfort you about your own internal sense of gender before youll listen to me about my experiences in the real world as genderqueer. as a different sort of transsexual than you.

(and bc i Know what binary ppl love to say: i know not everyone is 'capable of passing'. what i am talking about specifically is the difference between being unable to pass as a cis woman or a cis man vs being unable to pass bc what i am does not exist AT ALL in a binary society, and both of those things are incorrect ans unattainable.)

(anyways if that language is too imperfect for you thats like fine but. its just confusing to me, i dont get why its hard to understand what we are talking about here. our experiences w our nonbinary genders are completely different! why do i have to discuss them like theyre the same?)

#do you consider yourself transfem first or agender first on an internal level?#do you feel like you are predominantly treated as a trans woman in your day to day? does that hurt the part of you that is agender?#< not trying to grill u or anything im genuinely curious #ive had similar convos w my transmasc and transfem nonbinary friends as well as like. my gnc binary trans friends #i am just curious bc. like i said 'binary' isnt a bad thing to be and frankly since u identify urself as agender ur not really the target a #dience here anyways?#the idea that theres no such thing as a binary trans person just #fundamentally misunderstands the extremely broad swathe of nonbinary experiences and treatments #my passing transmasc enby friends dont particularly feel touched by transphobia unless theyre clocked or unless our areas laws changed #but some DO feel like they r effected by exorsexism on a day to day by being assumed to be binary men and having the other parts of their i #entities erased #while others are completely comfortable being percieved as strictly men and moving through life strictly as men #which is sounds like. i would guess youd have a similar position since u exclusively use she/her?#like.. it sounds to me like your 'rich interior life' doesnt really have an outward effect on the way people percieve and treat you and the #way you react to it which is very different from my experience #binary doesnt mean your gender is 'simple' it just means that you are comfortable within a binary system even of you dont personally identi #y with it. and maybe this is a case of 'political identity vs personal identity'??#and all of this is FINE its just. literally every time i talk about my own unique positioning my transandrogyny or whatever gives me #people crawl out of the woodwork to tell me my experiences are not actually unique #do u see what my issue is? my own trans experiences are erased bc other people 'disagree' with . what. my perspective as an 'unaligned' enb #? when its like. literally none of us are gonna have the same needs or experiences as trans people #and if 'binary' works to show that you are fine and comfortable being percieved exclusively as a woman #and 'nonbinary' works to show i am not #i dont really see what the issue w using the word 'binary' is #like i said. its not a slur. its not a bad thing to be.#and tbh i think this insistence that 'unaligned' nonbinary ppls perspectives arent actually unique to binary or 'aligned' nonbinary ppls is #directly contributing to like. lateral bigotry coming from said 'unaligned' enbies. like if u put urself in my shoes for a second and u gre #up being constantly told you were either a cis invader who didnt actually have any trans experiences and that only people who want to 'full #transition' were REAL transsexuals then. youd be kinda jaded too right? and im sure you ARE kinda jaded lol.#anyways. sorry for rambling at you i dont have any more tags left lol

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neil-gaiman · 10 months

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Hello! Not a question, but I've seen a lot of people commenting/sending asks about GO season 2, so even though theres a very high chance this won't get seen, I wanted to let you know how happy it made me seeing 'the spouse' in the show. I'm non-binary, and while I do consume a lot of content with gay characters in it, it's very rare for me to see anyone under the trans umbrella. Then when I do, they're almost always a straightforward she/her or he/him kind of character, which is fine, considering they're getting represented at all, but it can be a bit frustrating. I never see anyone who's closer to my wavelength in terms of the whole gender thing

I know there's a lot of 'they's' in the show, but if I'm right, up until this person, most, if not all, of them have been either an angel, a demon, or a horseman of the apocalypse, and why would they have a solid binary view of gender? These characters did make me incredibly happy to see, but seeing a human character shown in the same light, so casually, like it was something completely normal that happens all the time, genuinely made my night (even if the rest of the season's ending did wreck me /lh)

Genuinely, it's about 8 hours later and I'm still thinking about this character. This is the first time I've seen someone like me represented in media, and to see it from a show I've been watching and adoring since it came out is incredible to me

This may not mean as much to other people, and it may not have felt like that big a thing to include, but I wanted you to know how much this truly touched my heart . I admire you and your work so much, and, i hope that your day/night is as lovely as you are

I'm really glad. I loved being able to ask Andrew to come in and play Mutt's spouse. (Also I loved the way it happened: I had no idea when I was writing Mutt whether the character would be male or female and so cheerfully wrote the spouse line to keep all our options open in casting Mutt. Once Mutt was cast, and was male, I realized that I'd grown rather fond of the "spouse", and liked the idea of casting someone who used "they" and could just be themself. This is Soho, after all.)

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im-in-a-love-cult · 8 months

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Marauders era headcanons!!

The Royal court

Requested by @thestarslittleking

Sorry if you disagree with some of them!!

Regulus

Pouty

Like a pout is almost always on his face

His eyes are really telling of his emotions sometimes

Likes physical contact with people hes EXTREMELY close with

Likes being called Reg by people hes close with

If a random person calls him it theyre going to the hospital 💀💀

Bi, trans and asexual

'Its the 70s he wouldnt be-' kindly stfu 💞💞🥰🥰

This is a common one but hes practically a poet

Strong French accent

Japanese/british English/ French

As i said in the previous hcs his accent is stronger then Sirius's

Loves the water

He's actually really smiley around his friends

Classical music but when he gets into his later years in hogwarts he starts to like goth music

I can see him being good at gothic dances

Black cat animagus IDC

Barty

unhinged

Thats it. Thats the hc.

A whore tbh

Liked Reggie for a while

Until he was like 'dayum look at Evan 😼'

LMFAO

Ok I'll try not to include too many ships in these

This isnt my original idea but affectionately bites people

'Barty... what're you doing?" "Nom"

When drunk hes...something

Take that how u will

Tw for drugs in the next hc!!

Honestly more of a weed kinda guy

Ok tw over continue reading

Professional complainer

If complaining was a job he'd be the richest man alive (well not alive but..)

ROCK MUSIC

queen fan idc

Him and Sirius are actually very similar in a lot of areas

Thats why Reggie was drawn to Barty

Plays the drums

He wears tank tops a lot

Always hurts somewhere

Its mostly his fault

I can see him being bi with a preference for boys or just full on gay

Dorcas

Sirius has competition to whos the most beautiful person in the Marauders era fr

Almost always has locs or braids

Scarily good at makeup

Tall

Potential to be a 2000s Victoria secret model fr

Has the most beautiful soothing voice

Lesbian non-binary (they/she)

So many people have a crush on them

Fav alcohol is wine

Classy 😻😻

Extremely smart

Really long eyelashes

I love her

Doesn't care for animals

Really likes dragons tho

HER AND REGGIE ARE A POWER DUO IDC

Steady hands

Wears lots of rings

Ignores people a lot 💀💀

Sassy as HELLL

Barely ever means it tho

Evan

One of those scary blue eyed blondes

Kind of a less energetic version of Barty

BISEXUAL IDC

A gentleman to all girls he dates

All the boys got usual, casual dating

Barty gets to be treated like a one of those dogs that look like rats 🥰

I KNOW WHAT THE NAME IS BUT I CANT SPELL IT

Chiwawa

Ciwawa

Chiwaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I can see him having really light freckles

Will punch someone in the face for funsies

"Evan why would you do that!?!" "I was bored bro"

BARELY passes his tests

He passes but only by a few marks

Loves making fun of peoples voices

Its his favourite pastime

Pandora

So unnecessarily nice to 1st years

And everyone tbh

Smiley

Pansexual

Loves animals of any kind

If shes angry shes lowkey scary 😨😨

Actually really funny

Her hairs messy 84% of the time

When shes too active or gets too hot her cheeks go really red

ME TOO BABES ME TOO 😭🤞

Spaces out so easily

Blonde blue eyed but less scary than evan 😭

A bit of a potty mouth

Also really smart

"Wow this friend groups so smart!" And then theres Evan and Barty 💀💀

Really posh accent

Has scars from thorns and animals and shit 💀

Loves learning new things

No matter what that thing it

'Knowledge has no boundaries' i feel like she says that

Or at least goes by it

Shes so real wtf

YES YOU CAN MAKE REQUESTS!! I'm new to this so please be patient 😭 i prefer requests to be put in my asks!! Thanks for the positive feedback yall :)

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whilomm · 2 days

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sometimes i wish people were better about remembering Your Experiences Are Not Universal wrt like, IRL queer spaces.

like an issue i see sometimes wrt discussions around IRL trans spaces is just like, people dismissing the idea that other peoples spaces could be exclusionary in a different way than what theyve experienced. like, someone talks about how whenever they try to go to local trans stuff IRL they either face passive exclusion or outright aggression as a nonbinary person, because everything around them is extremely binary focused. Maybe just every single space they find is either primarily binary trans men or binary trans women and its hard to feel included as the only nonbinary person, maybe conversations in these spaces are unconciously just extremely binary focused with little acknowledgement of nb experiences, maybe spaces say theyre nb friendly but by that they mean "women-lite nonthreatening usually afab", maybe theyre actively pushed out by enbyphonic trans people and actually told that these spaces arent meant for them, lotsa options youve probs heard before

then other trans people reading this experience are confused because, well, theres the exact OPPOSITE experience! every single trans group theyve tried to go to IRL is mostly filled with nonbinary people, they have trouble findig other binary people to connect to, maybe they encounter those same annoying ass "women-lite" nb spaces and have completely different problems with em, maybe they find spaces that either are actively hostile to them as a trans woman or as a trans man...

and the conclusion they come to is "okay, so that nonbinary person is crazy/whiney/lying because thats not how IRL trans spaces work" rather than "huh, seems like the local scene in their area is WAY different than my area, we kinda have the same issues in the opposite direction huh?"

and the same sorta thing happens when people talk about how their local scene is extremely transfem focused and they feel left out as a transmasc, or how their local scene is extremely transmasc focused and they feel left out as a transfem. "god it sucks how IRL trans spaces can be so fucking hostile to trans men" "what? no! every single space ive ever been to was mostly trans men, ive never found a space where I found other trans women to connect to!" and no one seems to realize/acknowledge that oh. these are Different Spaces we are talking about, their unique makeups and issues. people see something that contradicts their own experiences and they just dont know how to deal with it i guess.

bc idk it just seems like sometimes people are way too quick to assume "the way the local queer community works in MY TOWN is the way it works EVERYWHERE" because. Well, I understand! your world is dictated by your experiences, and if youve been hurt by the people who SHOULD make up your local community, i get extrapolating that this is how the whole world is! but when it leads to people just dismissing other peoples experiences because "well, thats not what IVE seen when i go to support groups..." its. frustrating.

#trans #transgender #intercommunity issues #buzzy

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lemonlightt · 1 year

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qsmp hcs because i am so normal and not hyperfixated

(consisting of mariana, slimecicle, jaunaflipa, tilin, philza, chayanne, missa but i will add some of other streamers once i catch up on them & if i don't get flamed by the qsmp community. once qsmp expands more i may make another one of these (i will make another one of these in 2 weeks i have no thoughts but qsmphELPME!11!!1!!))

(i also have added some hcs i've seen on tumblr/twitter because they're all i can think about. btw looking for qsmp friends plsplspls i'm so lonely)

qcharlie is a demon and has absolutely no idea of it and progressively gains little demonic traits everytime he makes a deal

meanwhile qmariana is an angel and hold onto your seats guys this one is an absolute shocker! has absolutely no idea of it

everytime something awful happens to charlie (jauna dies, brutally scrambles tilin) his humansona becomes a little more unstable and he gets a little more sloshy - overtime he becomes straight up oobleck and gunks up the smp

qcharlie was raised in an environment that seemed like hell and it's responsible for the fact he doesn't really know how to be dad (his dad treated him like shit) and he's had no examples of healthy romantic relationships

qcharlie and qmariana are absolutely head over heels for eachother they're just losers and find it hard to express it adequately or meaningfully (this does not make them any less dysfunctional and annoying but they are my parental figures your honor)

qcharlie sews and knits and sewed a trans flag into each of their iconic clothing (qmariana's cape thingy, qcharlie's hearts and jauna's bows) he does the same for tilin as soon as he finds out they have the binary of none

qcharlie has been plotting qmariana's murder but qmariana is blind to it and all he cares about is hot steamy gay minecraft sex. they remind me of something but i can't put my finger on exactly what so if you can think of it tell me HJAHA

qcharlie would ADORE radiohead (specifically "nice dream" and "no surprises") (yes i am projecting, yes he is my favourite person and yes he is the only member to me i cant take it anymore)

jauna has golden highlights from her revival (think revivebur but stop thinking about revivebur)

jauna has vitiligo

jaunaflippa is allergic to dandelions but she will not hesitate to give them a blow and makes a little wish (usually about wanting her mom and dad to get along and be happy)

the jauna family get their glasses mixed up so they have to go through trial and error to find which prescription is theres (this takes 30 minutes because qcharlie and qmariana typically fight to the death over it/j)

when tilin died, jauna shared half of their bow with qquackity and keeps it tied neatly around her tail as a sentiment to her best friend but sometimes you'll catch her wearing it on one of her fingers. usually her pinkie (pinkie promise) or index finer

qcharlie and qmariana don't know how to braid in contrast to qwilbur who has spent hours experimenting with talullah to style her hair

qwilbur gives talullah a little walkman(?) thing for talullah to customise and records her cute little songs for her to listen to on the tapes when he's away from home

when qwilbur comes back from his travels, he will never ever fail to comes back with stories to tell, oneofakind gifts for talullah, songs for talullah to sing when she misses him, etc because that is simply how he loves

there is always music coming from talullah and qwilbur's home and it always brings joy to those who pass even if for just a moment

talullah has albinism

tallulah is disabled (canon examples: she has a different model to the rest of the eggs, she's clumsy and a little slow, her wings are underdeveloped) (she's basically just like me fr)

qmissa and qphilza are literally eldritch creatures. they look like the mothman fucker. they are a terrifying duo. here's a perfect example

qmissa is like 9'5 and qphilza is 5'2

qphil tells qmissa about his giant wife who is the god of death and is beautiful and qmissa doesn't believe his platonic husband could pull (spoiler alert he is proven wrong)

chayanne despises qwilbur because qmissa can play guitar better

chayanne dyes his hair pink to match techno and/or wears a little skull. techno is his hero and he is JUST like him frfr

speaking of which, when chayanne first killed a mob, qmissa helped turn it into a skull mask like his own and techno's. chayanne feels more confident wearing it and therefore never takes it off / alternatively qmissa made him a little mask from chayanne's eggshell

chayanne's favourite time of the day is when qphil tells him stories about techno

chayanne is nv like the rest of the eggs but is definitely more vocal than tilin for example (flaps his hands, exclaims excitedly, laughs a lot)

talullah and tilin are twins

tilin is part of the qquackity x qcharlie club upon finding out about the millions of failed attempts of qcharlie trying to flirt with qquackity

i dont think tilin hates qcharlie for what he did but i think they sure make his life a living hell/t

also tilin and jauna are in heaven with techno and they all bully trump. they make a circle around his cowering body and run around in circles while holding hands (this is a joke but not really)

general hcs that apply to all members/eggs:

there's few resources for clothing so the egg parents pass down their clothes to their eggs and the eggs mixnmatch it

the eggs use sign language to communicate as well as signs and doodles or use those little tablets with tts that nv people often use to communicate

extra: techno because he's my favourite character and isn't even in the smp!11!!11!1

techno is a sort of spirit and haunts his family, especially chayanne. he watches over all of the eggs. he hears all the little stories phil tells about him to his eggs. he'll hear chayanne say something he'd say and he goes YOOOOOOOOOOOOO excitedly and goes THATS MY BOY!!! uncle techno takes the eggs in when they get scrambled. when chayanne and talullah died techno gave them their lives back because it broke his heart to see them die just like that.

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lighthousegod · 8 months

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Recently, my cis lesbian roommate made a comment about "he/theys" that kinda stuck with me. She said these people, on her dating app, were matching with her and ignoring that she had lesbian in her bio.

We'd had convos about whether trans mascs and trans men could be lesbians (im a transmasc person, but not a lesbian, although ive identified with the label before), and I'm all for he/him lesbians and trans men who are lesbians- I've researched, I know Stone Butch Blues, I don't think telling anyone they can or can't be anything is right.

So this sorta stuck with me. I went, "but. They probably identify as nonbinary if they use they, and even if they don't, trans guys sometimes ID as lesbians too." And she was like "well, but I'm not attracted to masculine people." And I brought up that she does usually like butch lesbians (who definitely use other pronouns besides she/her sometimes!), and she sorta brushed me off, saying there was a different "vibe" between transmascs who use he/they and butches (even though they... sometimes are the transmascs she's talking about???)

So I was like "well, do you have 'looking for femmes' in your bio or something?"

"No."

"Then how are they supposed to know??"

"I don't know it's just my preference!!"

It was super. Odd. I should say, my roommate is cis but uses she/he pronouns. She is, in fact, a lesbian who uses he/him sometimes, as he identifies as bigender *but not a man, ever.

I just find this all so confusing. I mean, let's think about it, fr.

So the popular idea today is that lesbians cannot be men, so trans men can't be lesbians.

Now, here's what that implies: if trans men can't be lesbians, then they are always in the same category as cis men. Now, of course, some trans men ARE in that category, usually binary trans men- and they're all men, right, so every man is under that umbrella. But still, gender isn't so simple. Trans men and transmascs have vastly different experiences between each other and especially cis men. This isn't to do with internal identity, but outward perception. Regardless of whether I'm a man or not, the world has seen me as a woman all my life. That makes it very hard to be accepted and comfortable in mlm spaces, especially when theres so much transphobia in the cis gay community. Plenty of trans men are stealth, or simply have a supportive community, and are welcomed like a cis man would be. But that's not the case for everyone, and not every trans man WANTS to be treated in the same way a cis man might.

But whatever, okay, let's go with that. Trans men are men and lesbian means non-man attracted to non-man, so they're not included cause it's invalidating to (some) trans men, regardless of if they've identified with the label lesbian for years or feel unsafe in mlm spaces bc of how overwhelmingly cis they can be, or whatever else.

So... what about nonbinary men, then? Nonbinary women seem to be accepted, not just nb fems but those who identify as both nonbinary AND a woman- so why are nonbinary men not?

"Because they have man in their identity and lesbians can't like men"

So.. what about bigender people? People who are both men AND women. They can't be lesbians? I guess not.

But let's say they can, and we're just excluding binary trans men from the term lesbian..

People often bring up "would you accept a cis man identifying as a lesbian?" As an arguing point here. Bringing it back to my original point, would you accept a "he/they"? What if they were amab, and had no interest in transitioning? Or a transmasc person who DID? I just saw a transfem lesbian saying she couldn't possibly let trans men with full beards into lesbian spaces as it was transphobic and wrong- aren't there transfem lesbians who don't want to shave or get their face lasered? What do sex characteristics have to do with it? I thought we were trying to avoid labels based on that sort of thing.

So at the end of the day, I guess it really is about the label of "man." What's that even mean? That's literally just a word. I'm so confused.

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wormchaser · 3 months

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i think theres actually a conversation to be had about the space in gender politics (in the sense of feminism and the manosphere) that is occupied by trans men. trans women and nonbinary people too of course, but i think trans men have a unique position where we dont get to choose to be what society deems a man, only work towards it as an end goal, and while this is true for trans women also (and nonbinary people; though they may not have an end goal to achieve to the same way binary trans people do), the way it manifests in trans men because of society's idea of what a man is, an interesting thing to think about.

the phenomenon of trans men who possess racist, misogynistic, homophobic or transphobic opinions is something that i see a lot and experienced myself with my own little transmed phase. the reasons these things happen are not just personal but societal. i mean, i used to have some intrusive thoughts borne of dysphoria which told me that if i just gave up on being a leftist or furthering my political understanding in a compassionate way, and instead just chose to hold simple, easy, masculine, right wing politics then people would believe im a man. this isnt true, of course, but i think a lot of trans men fall into similar pitfalls.

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foxfairy06 · 1 year

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ok this might be a long one but theres something specific i see most transmeds say that i dont understand

so. obviously a lot of transmeds are anti-nonbinary, so thanks for not being one of those types! however, i take issue with the idea that you can only be nonbinary if youre dysphoric

assuming "nonbinary" just as, like, an alternative to male/female (simplifying nb identity for the sake of argument), why would someone need to have body dysphoria? social dysphoria around names/titles/pronouns is one thing, but needing physical dysphoria seems inconsistent

like. say you have "Sean", an AFAB nonbinary person. Sean is dysphoric and wants a flat chest and the effects of testosterone.

and you also have "Charlie", an AMAB nonbinary person. Charlie has exactly the same sense of gender as Sean does, including how they want to look. As such, Charlie is non-dysphoric, as they already have a flat chest and a deep voice/beard/etc

if you need dysphoria to be nonbinary, why should Charlie be excluded from the label when their gender is the same as Sean's?

I'm aware that, for some, socisl dysphoria is enough to "count" as trans. But the majority of (allegedly) nonbinary inclusive transmeds claim that body dysphoria is required (and ive been here since 2012 - ive spoken to a LOT of transmeds)

to me, it feels like transmed ideology waters down nonbinary identity, even those of the nonbinary people they claim to accept, for the sake of trying to find a reason people are trans. paradoxically, it feels like they see nb people as man-lite/woman-lite, while still denying that someone can identify as nonbinary men or nonbinary women.

sorry its so long lol, this has just bothered me for a long time and im yet to get an internally consistent answer

The issue is because we believe there are binary bodies, and a male body is not nonbinary. In order to be dysphoric for a nonbinary body, using agender or nullsex as an example, you would want an androgynous voice, an AMAB enby might use estrogen, and AFAB enby might use testosterone. Yes, an AFAB might want top surgery, and an AMAB wouldn't, but they're both just as binary, because transition isn't limited to top dysphoria. Charlie, unless he experiences a strong dysphoria regarding his self social perception, which is based not on gender roles, but how you perceive others to perceive you in relation to your sex, would not be nonbinary, they would be cis. Nonbinary isn't an "alternative identity", it's just an existence that doesn't meet one of the poles of the binary based gender spectrum, which is based in a series of sexual traits.

I'd also like to point out that supporting enban isn't at all rare among transmedicalists, it just depends on the source. Most nonradical transmed consider excluding enben a radical belief. r/transmedical is an example of a radical space and r/truscum is not, for example.

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foxtriestobiteandmaimandkilland · 10 months

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Ah fuck now im thinking abt how fuckin lonely it is 2 be transmasc. Bc suddenly all my girl friends see me as Something Else and a fucking Threat even tho im literally the same fucking person only happier. And like how. When i wanted to explore femininity as a girl, my friends loved to show me everything and do my makeup and whatever and like now theyre like. Are you sure ?? Dont you think that will make you uncomfortable LIKE UR THE ONE MAKING IT UNCOMFORTABLE !!!! IM THE SAME IM THE SAME IM THE SAME AS I WAS BEFORE I JUST GOT A NEW HAT AND NOW U ALL HATE ME !!!! and its not like i have boys to go to either because if anything, im now friends with LESS guys than i was before transitioning. Because before i was just a girl and like yea there were a ton of sexist guys who didnt really see me as their equal, but they saw me atleast as a Person. But now its like. Im not one of the girls they can tolerate, im claiming to be one of the boys ??? But it doesn't fucking fit for them because like. Im still at the equality level of a girl but even LESS now. Why cant i just be a Normal girl or a Normal guy. Why do i have to be a guy that also looks and acts like a girl according to the rules in their head ??? LIKE ITS SO FUCKING ANNOYING. I DONT WANT TO BE ONE OD THE GIRLS I DONT WANNA BE ONE OF THE BOYS I WANNA BE ONE OF THEM !!! JUST FUCKING ANYONE !!! BUT NOBODY SEES ME AS ON THEIR SIDE BC GIRLS WHO TRY SOOO HARD 2 BE "TRANS INCLUSIVE" ALSO CANT LET GO OF THEIR IDEAS OF "MAN = DANGEROUS AND BAD AND OTHER" SO HOW DO THEY BE INCLUSIVE OF ME ???? BY TREATING ME LIKE FUCKING SCUM !!!!! SO I CANT BE ONE OF THE GIRLS ANYMORE BECAUSE IM "DANGEROUS". BUT IM SURE AS HELL NOT PART OF THE BOYS BECAUSE IM FUCKING OPPOSITE PINOCCHIO AND NOT A REAL GODDAM BOY EVEN THO HES WOOD AND IM FUCKING FLESH AND BONE MOTHERFUCKER !!!!! AND NOW THERES SOME SECRET CODE TO BOTH SIDES I CANT SEEM TO FIGURE OUT AND IT DOESNT FUCKING HELP THAT IM AUTISTIC TOO DOES IT ????? SO LIKE. ALL I HAVE ARE OTHER TRANS PEOPLE BECAUSE EVEN MY CIS FRIENDS JUST DONT SEE ME AS EQUAL. THEY TRY SOOOOO HARD TO FIT ME IN ANY OF THEIR BOXES TO THE POINT I HAVE TO JUST TRY SOOO HARD TO ACT LIKE IM A FULLY BINARY GUY JUST SO THEY CAN STOP SEEING ME AS A FULLY BINARY GIRL. BUT IM NEITHER OF THOSE THINGS MOTHERFUCKER BUT I CAN BARELT EVEN TELL MY TRANS FRIENDS THAT BECAUSE THEYVE FUCKING INVENTED ANOTHER BOX WHERE THEY ASSUME NONBINSRY MEANS A THIRD FUCKING GENDER AND IT DOESNT !!!! WHEN I EXPLAIN MY GENDER IT DOESNR MEAN I NEED YOU TO SAY "soooooo youre genderfluid" NO IM ME IM ME IM FUCKING ME DONT YOU FUCKUNG GET IT IM DRESSING UP IN FUN CLOTHES BUT YOURE 5 AGAIN AND SAYING IM A GIRL FOR WEARING PINK AND A BOY FOR WEARING BLUE !!!!! IM WEARING A FUCKING PINK SHIRT AND BLUE SHOES WHAT DO YOU WANT MOTHERFUCKER IM EVEYTHING IM NOTHING IM JUST FUCKING ME !!!!

#day thoughts #vent #i suppose #but not in a way of like go away dont look this is a vent #in a way of im angry im pissed and i cant even scream abt it BECAUSE I HAVE FUCKING TONSILLITIS #and also in a way of #let me explain my gender to you #let me go into depth about the moment you try to fit me into a box i will try to break it #let me talk about how my gender around cis people feels like a mask #let me say how my gender is less of a Definition and more of a Description

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bisexual-lemon1 · 2 years

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the idea that trans characters reduce things to a gender binary is....kinda silly, and so is the idea that their existence takes away from gnc characters. for one, theres plenty of media with effeminate men if thats your interest, especially when compared to the amount of media with trans women. and the idea that a trans person reinforces the gender binary only makes sense if we lived in a world where trans people were treated equally to cis people, which we dont. also, guilty gear has a different canonically nonbinary character who isnt gender conforming, so its not like bridgets transition takes away The Only GNC Rep

Okay see this is enlightening, I just feel like it’s a reoccurring thing of GNC men being either canonically or fanonically made trans women

#IE RALSEI

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macgyvertape · 4 months

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FF14 Stormblood thoughts

Lets see, I posted my running commentary on wrapping up Heavensward in Oct '22 so it's been a while. My friend and I got busy and took a break from the game.

A long time ago I forget who posted:

“#do new players know any opinion they have about stormblood is basically akin to #someone finishing da for the first time this year and saying they have some thoughts about anders they'd like to tell you about #like cool it's understandable you have these thoughts. i however am running for the hills”

which now that I've finished Stormblood I understand, and that's with skipping a bunch of non MSQ stuff.

I'm so excited for Shadowbringers, it was impossible for me to dodge spoilers since people I follow for D2 were posting about it, so I'm going into it knowing a lot of the big spoilers while the friend I play with has no idea. So I was very excited to see a certain skunk haired character pop up post expansion patch.

Actual running commentary on Shadowbringers below, I'm so glad I took notes for when I took a break

Wow so theres swimming in this new city?

I know vaguely who Zenos is and he’s the main antagonist. Just waiting for him to be introduced since the antagonist in the beginning is a joke of a dude with a hammer

Zenos shows up with like a golf club bag of swords, I know this dude is supposed to be this game’s attempt at Sepiroth but I’m not impressed

It was very easy to predict that some of the people we just did quest for were going to die. But damn something happens to Y'shtola every expansion

This storyline is very serious and draws on real world issues, which could not be more of a contrast to my friend and I playing it as we hangout and eat dinner

Fighting an unwinnable fight with my 2 applicable WHM damage spells. Sure he slashed me up but I feel like in universe I can heal tank through anything but a drugged drink

Wow the Black Rose is some serious warcrimes chemical warfare.

I thought Lolorito was dead what’s a dude working for him doing here

Fuck this fish-dude with the bell. Its totally personal

Wow so the imperial viceroy is a asshole who has people kill their family for displeasing her. Really casting the imperials as absolute monsters

Wow huge underwater sections, also didn’t know the dragon-ppl lived underwater

The more Yotsuyu talks the more I’m like “hmm maybe Ilberd had a point”

Susano is a delight, he’s just hamming it up

Huh so apparently Kurenai is the real princess and the person we fought was the body double, I’m going to continue this questline even though it isn’t worth it exp wise just to see how this plays out

Gotsetsu returning to the village: not sure if the intent was to have him be naive, but he comes off as an asshole with talking about how he is owed hospitality and complaining about the tone people talk to him in. Like dude, the whole village is going to face deadly repercussions if you’re seen.

I didnt realize there was a wolf-person race. Why can’t we play as them?

I thought Yugiri was gonna die when we fought Zenos round 2. Guess he’s one of those trope “lives for a strong fight”.

Took a week break then coming back to another new faction with Cirina kinda feels like its killing the momentum

I wasn’t expecting this Sun cult, Magnai is such an asshole, like fuck off with the slavery and a double fuck you with the sexism

Gosetsu is so arrogant, like if he would just shut up things would go so much more smoothly

Is Koko and Sadu of the Dotharl trans or non binary? Great if they are. Like their belief in reincarnation seems pretty understandable if you factor in the later lore about sundered beings being shards of each other and merging over time

Can’t believe we’re letting this empire dude run away for a second time

Yotsuyu had sad childhood backstory, still not sympathetic for the injustices she commits now.

Hien is gonna flood Doma Castle, i know this is like a historical tactic but all I’m thinking of is Rains of Castamere

Damn Gosetsu got taken out by a falling rock (ceiling), how anti climatic I’m not really torn up about it because all the characters just stood around talking

I’m gonna really hope Hien actually killed Yotsuyu with that sword blow

At first i thought some of the questnames were coincidences, but no Doma part of Stormblood has a fair amount of Hamilton references

Oh no Krile, feels like a real kick the dog moment for Fordola

Summoning a primal to bring back a dead child, the question isn’t if this will go poorly but the extent of how poorly it will go. (Although you can resurrect people in battle so I guess thats gameplay and story difference)

I appreciate how Allisaie tried another option

The Shri Lakshmi mechanics were hard and annoying, most challenging fight in a while

Big fire the death star vibes for Fordola, also I just realized she has thigh high tights with the gap between the skirt. WHY instead of armor like other characters get

A randomly appearing Estinien, how did he know to come here? Why now? I have no idea but what a cool entrance, this is the hottest he’s ever been

Does Fordola have the fuckin sharigan?!

Lyse looks hot in the new dress but its the most impractical thing for a fight wtf. Its total fanservice, player character and her fly towards eachother in what could easily be framed as a kiss then the achievement is called “cheek to cheek”

Key to Victory is the quest type I hate where I don’t have firm directions where to go and I got instawiped by the npc followers getting close to the wrong enemy. Wish I could start on very easy

So we freed Krile, what about the rest of the people in the pods?

Zenos turns into the primal dragon that used to be Ilberd, talk about desecrating Ilberd’s belief in using the power to fight the empire

This is a very anticlimatic ending to 4.0. I’m not emotionally tied to Zenos either enjoying him as a villain or hating him as a rival, more like “ah not this asshole again lets see who wins the fight by virtue of plot armor”

So Zenos killed himself after getting 1 good fight, but I know he’ll be back. I’m imagine my character standing there like the Saitama “ok” face

Ok so Estinian stabbing the eyes means Lahabrea and Igeyorhm are super dead

Guess Elidibus stole Zenos’ body. They should have burned it

Nero being Cid’s ex is the funniest way to interpret him joining the Ironworks

Why is this Arnevald guy talking like he knows me

All of the above written before Jan 2023 and then I took a break till November

Got back into the game and its like “here’s a backstory about a guy who was the product of sexual assault from an occupying military force and his horrible childhood” and then “here’s Fordola’s sad backstory where her father was stoned to death by a mob for collaborating while he was protecting her”.

So that’s really sad, then the next quests are the Sultana’s backstory and “go to the golden saucer, try not to get distracted, challenge impossible”

The orb dissipation duty sucks, I just failed it so I could do it on very easy mode

Me: Alphinaud is gonna fuck up paying for this sword, he’s talking to a pawn broker. 30 min later: yeah he fucked up

Patch 2 sure is my least favorite, I don’t like Gosetsu or Yotsuyu

Wow not a surprise the Imperial diplomat is also an imperial zealot, and he’s Yotsuyu’s brother meaning that whole family tree is fucked up

Me: guess the Tsukuyomi wasn’t so infinite. My friend: One Piece was a better anime

The camera really emphasizes Asahi’s crazy eyes and obsession with Zenos. Funny since Zenos then is obsessed with the Warrior of Light

This Garlean with a bunch of Ascian mask trophies is kind of intimidating, but he much have just killed the weak sundered ones. I have no idea who he is, but funnily I know what Ascain is running around as Zenos

Extremely annoying 2 part solo duty that I had to redo when almost getting to the very end, followed by very funny Y'shtola shooting down a guy who had the hots for her

Hell yeah Exarch showing up, now the fun begins because I’m very spoiled on Shadowbringers and my fiend has no clue

Me: Mr nap time himself! My friend: whose this guy. Such a fun intro with Emet being mean to his family and hamming it up, where he’s ???? until the name Solus is dropped

I appreciate the non serious tune and amount of dutch angles in his intro

Oh shit the Ascian hunter is Gaius (not Balter), I didn't recognize him at all since the part of his old mask around the eyes was white I thought that was his skin color

Oh I’ve been mispronouncing Emet-Selch with a ch sound. Also lmao he takes time to be mean to Varis

Ok after the 2 part negotiation with Varis I want to see Solus bully Varis some more. He deserves it

My friend doesn’t recognize the Crystal Exarch from the brief bit at all, if he didn’t remember who Lahabrea is then no chance he recognizes G’raha Tia except that G’raha has been in Dawntrail marketing

Damn so Stormblood ends with a fade to black and then a jumpscare evil Varis grin…

Post quest cutscene: Zenos bodyhopping I guess

#mac plays video games #ff14 #stormblood had the least amount of characters I enjoyed #on both protagonist and antagonist side #ff14 stormblood #liveblog

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fight-nights-at-freddys · 8 months

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gender euphoria is a thing! it’s a very common thing among all kinds of trans people. also like.. some people just feel like they’re trans? doesn’t need to involve anything else, if the person feels they’re trans, who are you to tell them they’re not? doesn’t matter if they have dysphoria or euphoria, if someone says they’re trans, then it’s generally a good idea to believe and respect them. you don’t know someone’s inner workings regarding how or why they feel like they’re trans, nor are you entitled to know. no one has the right to tell a trans person that they’re not trans, even if you’re trans yourself.

I mean, yeah, it’s super rude to call people not trans to their faces. Thats why I’m not going into any blog with a non binary person going “I think you’re lying” because thats an actually god awful thing to say and do, and I’d be a terrible person as well.

And I myself don’t know much about gender euphoria, but from what I do know is that with euphoria there has to be dysphoria. Everyone is different, but theres a whole reason why most people don’t like dressing up in a way that doesn’t make them look like their gender.

But not every one is trans, I personally believe that everyone has a bit of dysphoria, but its never to the extreme with trans people, because they’re mentally in the wrong body, ofc they’re going to experience it.

I guess the problem is with my understanding, I don’t understand why someone would call themselves trans if they don’t have dysphoria.

#🧁🍕#hope this response is coherent lmao #i had fifty thoughts at once

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computerpeople · 9 months

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im venting about being a bigender bisexual person and it includes gender politics don't fight me on this post its about personal experience

i dont understand how a lot of people understand that transphobia is a thing, lesbophobia is a thing, misogyny is a thing, but then suddenly shit themselves when transmascs bring up how misogyny intersects their experience as a trans person. i don't believe in "transandrophobia" or whatever the fuck its called, because that implies that they're being attacked for being a man, or being masculine specifically. like no shit that's not whats going on, you're being attacked for being a "wrong girl" sorry to say. and theres this weird fucking idea that transmasc = binary passing male, and that acknowledging any misogyny that they go through is inherently misgendering them (even though misogyny effects everyone in different ways because of how prevalent it is) so lets forget about the binary transmen for a second

whgat about me? what about people like me. the fat transmascs who don't pass but have transitioned medically enough that people can VISUALLY TELL youre transgender. i bind all the time, i have facial hair, i have an insane amount of body hair, i have an androgynous voice. i dress however the hell i want, sometimes masculine, sometimes feminine. and i have no interest in being stealth, or "passing" for societies standards, i have no interest in being a binary man. but i get mistreated all the fucking time, im seen as a fat, ugly, "wrong looking" woman. i take pride in it, but you need to understand that people fucking hate "wrong looking" women. that's literally a part of misogyny. so why am i expected to not talk about my own experiences with misogyny as a transmasc person. its just fucking irritating. so much of my girlhood is defined by being a "wrong looking" woman, or a "wrong acting" woman, and i am so proud of it. i am so fucking proud of identity in that. im just like my mom, and she deserves to feel beautiful and loved and amazing in all the ways i do. but even in queer spaces, if i acknowledge that, i'm "misgendering myself" ir "invalidating myself" or that i wouldn't really understand what its like to be a woman because i never really was one. yes i was! and she still lives through me, shes still fucking in me! she never went away! and shes happy to look like a man! she wants it all the same as i want it because she is me and i still face misogyny and transphobia because of it all the fucking time. and it's such a weird experience to live in this weird space where im too trans to be a woman, too womanly to be a transmasc, too much of a MAN LOVING MAN to be a "transmasc lesbian" but too much of a WOMAN LOVING WOMAN to be a "transfag" and too "binary" on BOTH sides to be anything inbetween. even in the MOST QUEER spaces and the most accepting areas, people assume im a transfem? which is okay, but then people automatically assume its only she/her or that im a "queen" or only gender me as a woman. and when i correct them i can physically feel the attitude change, despite the fact that i also still fucking identify as a woman. it fuckinbg sucks

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I'm honestly really fucking sick of going on Pinterest and seeing cringe / rage posts about the boyfriends webtoon... I just??? What??? Why??? So much energy to have so much rage! And the shit the say??? Like??? What??? It is a cartoon character???

Okay so some specifics because fuck me I need to get this out.

* I keep thinking about how people are complaining about specifically the voice actor for Felix aka goth being like "oh my god of course the trans man is wearing the girl clothes and is voiced by a girl". Ugghhhh to my knowledge I haven't seen him dress up as a girl, the one that wears skirts alot is Nerd who is a gender fuck identifying kinda character! Also bitch I'm pretty sure the voice actor is a non-binary masc that goes by he/they! Sit yo fuckin ass down, hatred for a cartoon does not mean you can misgender people!

* "it's not realistic!" It's a story about four stereotypes of webtoons and such falling in love as a polycule rather than falling for the heroine that we cheer on. Tldr it's a webtoon! It ain't gonna be realistic

* "I hate nerd! He's sexualised!!!" YES THAT IS THE IDEA! Nerd is being the stereotype of the pervy anime character! But if you'll notice, it's only with his boyfriends and small fantasys about others that he keeps to himself. Considering the fact that women kind everywhere wear fucking bras because we allow patriarchy to control us and infantilise men to the point that them staring at our nipples is a normal fucking thing? I THINK HE CAN FANTASIZE ABOUT HIS BOYFRIENDS WHO HE IS IN A MUTUAL CONSENTING RELATIONSHIP

* "the profile pics are cringe" oh yeah and how's your Harry Potter oc going?? Like??? Fuck off! It's a thing that people enjoy and is obviously something that brings a joy to them. You can think a fandom is bat shit and still respect them as human beings.

* if I hear one fucking person suggest that people who like boyfriends is faking a mental disorder / illness etc etc. I will actually get UPSET Upset. GODDAMN you do not have any fucking right to suggest that a person's status is faking or not. If you actually gave a shit about the community rather than using a persons status as vulnerability points or as a way to demean a person than you would realise how fucking damaging that is and I hope you fuck off and do not interact with us!!!!

Yeah I've calmed um theres probably more but I'm good for now

Because I accidentally pressed the button have a poll

#boyfriends #negative rant #rant #boyfriends rant

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feminine-cow-babe · 1 year

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Now, i’m a trans person so i obviously disagree with a lot of what you say, but i was interested in a recent post you made so i wanted to say something respectfully. there are trans people in the world who see transness as something easy to define, that has rules. i will say i think a lot of radical feminists exaggerate the amount of trans people that are opposed to gnc people, but i will admit some trans people have a limited scope and can’t imagine abandoning gender roles! but more and more people i think are viewing the world in a more radical way where we abandon all “rules” and structure for gender. and this way of viewing includes cis people. the idea is that gender, and all of its behaviors, is ultimately a social construct that you can just… not abide by. you can simply accept yourself however you are, whether you wear your hair short or long, wear skirts or jeans, without trying to ascribe gender to it. and of course, many trans people will still be uncomfortable with their bodies, and that’s ok. and of course, people will still have their own personal sense of style, and that’s ok. and not everyone will want to give up on the idea of masculinity and femininity, and some people will.

i think also, if you think trans people aren’t embracing gender nonconformity, you haven’t been talking to very open minded trans people. personally, as a trans man, i see gnc women as my sisters, people i need to form an alliance with. i HATE more than anything, the division between non-binary people and binary trans people, between gnc people and trans people, between gay and trans people. at the end of the day, we’re all trying to establish a more open minded world, where people can *express* themselves without fear. i might be frustrated with your views, i mean, i don’t like transphobia, but ultimately what i want for you is redemption. i want you to accept me, because i see you as an ally! you’re fighting for gnc people, so am i.

Part 2 of the ask: "also, MANY trans people will tell you: it IS cis people’s place to consider gender, to talk about it, to question your gender and come out on the other side as a cis person. i LOVE that. i LOVE when people think about their gender as it relates to society, biology, and themself."

Part 3 of the ask: "also, you’re seeing transgender people saying things you disagree with, that’s fine, but you cannot represent the entire concept of transness as following those ideals. trans people are complex, and sure, go ahead and criticize parts of the trans community, but you should have an open mind! we are varied in our beliefs"

Alright lets get into this because im fine having conversations about this /gen

First, I am begging for people to drop the redemption angle and the assumption I don't accept like. Singular trans people? I don't care. Be a guy, a girl, a t-rex. Im not going to argue to the end of the world over opinion like that. Its why I don't bully my trans friend. Because I mostly dont care. The views I share on this page are mostly about the movement as a whole, and what ive seen as a bisexual woman. Because the overarching views of the movement drive me insane sometimes. (its also why- oooh opinion thatll get me hate in some of my circles- I will never bully otherkin or the alterhuman community. Believe your a dog or a dragon. Dont care)

I do also agree that theres a range to trans peoples beliefs. I never thought trans people were a monolith, same as any other group of people. There will be dissenting opinions and there will be arguments. Bickering. Radicals and those more Conservative. My problem mostly lies with the more radical end, which is what is posted on the internet more often. Have the same problem with multiple communities I am actively a part of.

I am glad more.. level headed trans people are on this app and online. I know its very difficult to see with how the internet works, rage bait gets the most views so its what spreads. Also I am autistic so I apologize if any of my views came off as me hating any and all trans people. I know how difficult it is not fitting in, im not going to subject that to others.

#LGBT #Trans #I probably sound so rambly here #yes my paragraphs are broken up weird I cant have huge blocks of text it gives me migraines #Trans anon

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pattiev0yd · 2 years

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nonbinary thoughts I actually like the idea of being outside of the bounds of humanity as we know it and I'm not personally at all offended by monster chat surrounding trans bodies like these people know I would have horns if I could just go somewhere and get em for free and they are right and the thing is, sometimes I don't get along with binary trans people cos of that, (often) they don't want to look trans because that is what it means to ‘pass’, theres no way to ‘pass’ as non binary by comparison you can only ‘pass’ for like,,, either nothing gender or a weirdo, a monster, I prefer goblin myself, I'm humanOID in my thoughts and behaviour and appearance but I'm something other than a man or a woman, lord of the rings brain, u get it or no

#I feel like u either get it or no

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