I see so many well intentioned women talking about how modesty is important when it comes to men's objectification of them. Like, they will condemn men's lust, but say, "but we have to do our part too." I just need you guys to understand that there is literally no amount of clothing you can wear to keep men from sexualizing you. It sucks, but it's true.

I dress very modestly by the typical conservative Christian standard... Loose clothing, long dresses/skirts, nothing low cut, etc. Usually the only skin I expose is my forearms, neck, and face... But I am not exempt from being sexualized. I can't tell you how many times I've heard stuff like, "it's so hot when women leave things up to the imagination" and "I love your librarian/teacher vibe, it's so sexy." Men sexualize nuns and muslim women, who are completely covered. No woman is exempt from this.

Why is this important? So you can stop blaming yourself for men treating you like sexual potential instead of a person and hold men accountable for their own willful inability to control themselves.

To the Christian women, you are not responsible for men choosing to lust after you. Lust is a choice. I am same-sex attracted, and when I find myself attracted to a woman, I simply choose not to fantasize and lust after her. Men are capable of the same, they just like to shift blame.

As a Christian, I dress modestly as an act of humility more than anything else, but I know there is nothing I can do to control the sinful actions of men. Please stop blaming yourselves.

Being Bisexual is sooo cool we can be any gender and be attracted to any gender any amount, we lovvvvve women and nonbinary people and men and even if we only ever date or fuck one of those we are still Bisexual. We aren't "half straight, half gay", because that's not how sexuality works. Sometimes it feels like we don't have our own community but tbh that's because, the Gay community? We in there. The Lesbian community? We in there. Trans community??? We in there!!!!!!!!!!!! Yippee!!!!!

when the hyperfixation is hitting so severely that your thumb is permanently hovering over the "create a new tumblr" button

getting pissed off that the [redacted] url like perfect spelling is run by a cryptoterf. u dont deserve to use her name....

Hello, are you out there? Exodus 9-14

If you're reading this, it is for you. Yes, you. My name is Olivia, and I am 24 years old. I am converting to Catholicism, and I was baptized Presbyterian. I come from a long line of Christian family in the American south-east. Right smack dab in the middle of the bible belt.

And, oh yeah, I'm a cis lesbian too. You read that right. I feel like I'm going to die alone because of it, but my faith is too strong to let me give up on what I'm doing. I ask St. Hildegard Von Bingen to pray for me every night that I might find a life partner whether it be celibate or not. These thoughts bring tears to my eyes.

So instead of a diary, I write here, so that you might see these open letters. So that you might see my pleas and at the very least gain some comfort and resonance. Message me, DM me, and speak to me. Please show me that I'm not alone in this. There is so much love in my heart, and it is blossoming and being stabbed at the same time.

There's a woman, I love her deeply, but she is a very angry homophobe. She is also an evangelical. We are close friends. I agreed with her about no sex before marriage and she went on and on about how sex becomes like a sacrament in marriage. And when I told her I would never be married (I did not tell her exactly why: gay) she gave me a horrible look of pity with no questions asked.

So, I read the bible, pray, laugh, and weep. Today was Exodus 9-14. Plagues and the Red Sea. Hyssop branches covered in the blood of lambs. The feeling of God slipping past you in the night and sparing you. I wonder, how many of the Israelites slept that night? Those who did sleep, did the wailing of the Egyptians wake them at midnight as firstborns began to be found cold?

Christ reminds me of how I have been spared, and I fear God, and I tremble. His will be done.

I'm neither goth nor could I beat you, how do you feel about poor little meow meow girls?

you don’t have to be specifically goth but expressing yourself through your fashion in a way that intrigues me is def like. p high up there for me!

It feels wrong to lie to little old ladies who ask about my mantilla but am I really going to look one in the eye and say “I’ve always felt called to religious life but when I realized I was gay at the end high school I worried no convent would take me so I started veiling as to emulate the life I still one day hope to partake in”? No. I’m going to keep telling them my grandma and mom always wore veils so they can smile and nod and go about their day.

This may be a controversial take, but I think that the only right way to do the whole flippant/non affectionate/deathly serious love interest thing is if you eventually flip the script. If person A fits the description above then person B has GOT to eventually get tired of it. How does person A react when they realize that maybe their actions were a little too harsh this time and person B is not brushing it off? How does person A react when they realize that person B is tired of their bullshit and is actively distancing themselves from Person A? If person A does not slowly start to lose their composure because they realize that person B is actually, genuinely, wholeheartedly slipping away this time then there is no point imo. I want to see what happens when someone who is allergic to their true feelings is faced with the choice of "be heartfelt for once in your life" or "let the person you love leave you for good because you aren't brave enough to confront your emotions".

I want to see Person A sobbing and screaming out a confession that's said in a scratchy voice because the screaming has torn up their throat. I want an awkward and repetitive and desperate confession that would be better described as word vomit because of the lack of structure. I want person A on their knees as they plead for person B to forgive them.

Like, guys, come oooon.

side B is homophobia in a (very thin) veil ):

It sounds like you don't know what a side B Christian is. Allow me to elaborate. Side A and side B Christians are both part of the LGBT community, but each interprets the Bible in a different way. Side B Christians believe that acting on their same sex attraction is a sin, so they choose to remain celibate or act only on heterosexual/romantic attraction (in the case of bisexuals). Side B Christians do not believe the attraction they experience is a sin, but unlike side A Christians, they still choose not to act on it.

Homophobic Christians who are neither side A nor side B believe that same sex attraction in and of itself is a sin. They don't believe you can experience same sex attraction and be a Christian. They probably won't be friends with anyone who identifies as gay, and they show varying degrees of intolerance. This is what I grew up around, but it is not me.

My identity as a side B Christian affects my own behavior as it relates to my sexuality, but it is not something I desire to inflict on others. It is how I have interpreted Scripture and responded to that. It's not something that is relevant to me in relating to others who are not Christian or who even have a different interpretation.

Some side B Christians may exhibit homophobic behavior, but I would argue that the stance itself is not homophobic. It's just a personal choice relating to ones own sexuality. Many side B Christians still support gay marriage and the rights of others to live as they choose.

Mom: did you want to come down and visit me? I'm camping with the family lesbian couple.

Me: ...this sounds like a trap to start asking why I cut my hair short...

it’s so hard being crazy into fantasy books but 1. point blank refusing to read cishet romance 2. aged out of YA like 4 years ago 3. obscenely picky about the writing style

i hope y'all know i believe jennifer jareau is a lesbian 😭 like fully 100% i do not acknowledge anything else

R tss fans on tik tok actually angry if u make the sides trans on the off chance "they might not be gay men anymore!"

no u tricked me u all tricked me by having a gifest of the character that ik is a lesbian in this show abt how that character is a lesbian w one of her w a fat character u made me thats that her love interest but she isnt u tricked me

There is really and truly nothing quite like taking your first dive into a fandom's ao3 tag and seeing a litany of creative explicit dead dove fics from the same author with like a noticeable and specific pattern of themes. Even more special is when there are multiple people doing this at the same time about different characters entirely