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Yesterday someone sent me a link to the blog of a man filming women without their knowledge, following them and making close up of their butts, then offering to sell his videos and pictures to the thousands of men liking and rebloging his posts. The blog is called @ukcandidgod. I was thinking of asking everyone to mass report but then I checked his mutuals and discovered that tumblr has a huge community of stalkers.

I clicked on a few, those men stalk all sorts of women, including mothers pushing strollers, women sitting on a bench, they also take upskirt pictures and slow motion videos of women in public and they do so with the bravado of men who don't fear any repercussion.

In one video a woman realizes that she's being followed so she enters the nearest shop and turns around in horror when realizing he's still following her and then she starts running. He laughs about it.

In a lot of videos the man describes the woman as posing for him, flexing for him, swaying her hips for him, even though the woman is minding her own business, but he constructs a fantasy in which he's not stalking her but she's luring him instead. In one video the man sexually assaults a woman, grabbing her butt and she immediately turns around and tell him not to do that.

So those are men filming as they stalk and assault women. One post had 14k notes. I'm going to vomit if I look at any more of this. But feel free to report it.

@staff is Tumblr okay with posting videos of crimes against women? Is Tumblr a good platform to profit from criminal activities? It appears so.

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Petition: Require jurors in rape trials to complete mandatory training on rape myths

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/641404

UK residents/citizens pls sign 🙏🏼🙏🏼

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Letting your daughter see you pay money to painfully damage your body, calling that torture "self-care," admitting the shame and internal discomfort around social expectations of appearance but still conforming to it, and then teaching your daughter to do the same is really quite dystopian.

this is fucking ghoulish

#damaging your body for made up aesthetics that make you look prepubescent isn't self care #it's self harm #laser hair removal was literally the thing that finally got me to stop removing my body hair #i hated shaving so much and thinking about my body so much i was going to pay two months rent to remove it #and then i couldn't bring myself to do it because i knew i wasn't doing it for me #i didn't want to but just thought i had to #and it was so depressing that i finally just decided i didn't care anymore and my life has only gotten better since

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I think both statements are part of a good apology, but you should never say the first one by itself. If you're going to choose between statement A and B, definitely choose B.

An apology is primarily about how the other person feels and how you may have hurt them. Their feelings should come before your own, or you aren't really sorry and you're not really apologizing. Once you've acknowledged what you did wrong and that you are sorry for how you made them feel, then it might be helpful to explain the situation and emotions that contributed to your actions. This can help with understanding each other and improve relationships, but an explanation is simply not a substitute for an apology.

Sick list of symptoms bro. Now try humanizing your behavior instead of pathologizing it.

#i have adhd #my rb

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Do you think one day like a hundred years from now, Goncharov will become another unsolved mystery/conspiracy. Like the pyramids being built by aliens n stuff. "Nobody can find this mysterious movie that was so popular back in the 2020s. Why was it removed from existence? Was it too controversial? Did it ever exist at all? Today we look at the top 10 theories of what happened to this apparent masterpiece of old school cinema"

I wonder what conspiracies we have now that could actually just be... people in the past coming together and fucking w other people for fun. Like the Loch ness monster probably.

Anyway happy anniversary to the best mafia movie that ever existed. Shame you'll never see it future historians, maybe you'll find it eventually. The future reboot doesn't count you have to find the 1973 one.

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wild how like PCOS, endometriosis, vaginismus & hell, even frequent yeast infections are “mysterious” with no well known cause and little to no decent treatment, but we have tons of supposedly well researched body fat removal methods, about 20 different kinds of breast implants, laser hair removal, and 100 different dermatologist recommended anti aging creams. we sure had the money and brainpower to cure those “diseases”

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I wish people realized that the people in their 20s currently speaking out against hypersexual internet culture aren't doing it because we're killjoys but because we were the first generation of people who grew up fully online and we can see the damage its done to us. If you can't tell the difference between us and your puritanical conservative uncle then that's on you!

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Inchresting how egg “donation” somehow skirts the “it’s illegal to buy human body parts” thing “oh but it’s just like plasma and sperm” one of these things has been with you your entire life and requires surgical extraction and is not replenished…. Hmmmmm

You're right and you should say it. Egg donation is a lot closer to organ donation than sperm/plasma donation and it's beyond unethical to pay people for it. Especially when you consider how high those payments can be. It's coercive as fuck.

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Oooh am I a buzzkill when I respond to your porn joke with “ew”? Am I bringing down the vibes? Why is your sense of humor based around nothing but sex and the exploitation of women?

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i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist · 6 months

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Eight years ago, Sarah Sands stabbed a convicted paedophile to death. Speaking together for the first time, her three sons tell BBC News they were all sexually abused by him, and how they feel now about their mother's crime.

On an autumn night in 2014, Sarah Sands left her east London maisonette with a hood pulled over her head, armed with a knife. She walked to a neighbouring block of flats, to the home of an elderly man. Once there, she stabbed Michael Pleasted eight times, in what was later described as a "determined and sustained attack". He bled to death.

Pleasted was 77 and a convicted paedophile. At the time, he was facing further charges. He was accused of sexual offences against young boys on the estate, in Silvertown, where he lived.

Legally, as in all such cases, the names of those boys could not be made public during the trial. BBC News can now report, for the first time, that all three boys involved in the case were the sons of Pleasted's killer, Sarah Sands.

Her eldest, Bradley, who was 12 at the time, waived his right to anonymity last year to reveal the abuse. And in an interview with BBC News, his younger twin brothers - Alfie and Reece - have now done the same. They were 11 when their mother killed the man accused of abusing them.

As young adults - now aged 19 and 20 - they remember when, as children, they learned what their mother had done. Speaking alongside their mother, they say growing up with her in prison was hard. And while their mum says she has remorse about what she did, her sons are brutally honest about her actions.

"I thought hats off," Bradley tells the BBC. "I'm not going to deny it."

"It did make us feel safer," Alfie adds. "It didn't slow down the nightmares. But it did give us a sense of security because you didn't have to walk down the street thinking he was going to come around the corner."

Reece says, then aged 11, it was "nice knowing that he was dead". But he adds: "It didn't stop any afterthoughts, you know, we would often wake up crying [saying] 'where's mum?'"

"He lived literally across the road from us," Bradley adds. "I could open that window over there," he says pointing, "and I'd see his house."

Sarah Sands and her family moved to their new home, also in Silvertown, months before the killing.

She became friends with Pleasted, who lived on his own. He was a high-profile character on the estate, often perched on a seat outside the newsagents, giving him contact with the local residents and their children. "I thought he was a lovely old man," she says now. "I cooked for him, looked after him, always kept him company when I had the time."

Pleasted sorted the newspapers in the shop and some children had Saturday jobs working with him. "He asked if Brad could help out and he was so excited," Sands says. She says Pleasted was grooming her eldest son and gradually gaining more access to the twins. He invited the three boys back to his home.

One evening the twins disclosed to her that, while at the flat, Pleasted had sexually assaulted them. A week later Bradley revealed the same. Pleasted was arrested and charged with offences against her sons.

While he was awaiting trial, the judge gave him bail and said he could return to the estate. Sands said she was distraught and uncomprehending. She moved her family to her mother's small home.

'The whole world froze'

On the night of the attack, she was caught on CCTV going to Pleasted's flat. She says she wanted to ask him to plead guilty to the charges and spare her boys the ordeal of going to court.

"I didn't know what I was doing there," she says. "I realised I had made a huge mistake. He was not remorseful in any shape or form. He said 'your children are lying'. The whole world froze. I had the knife in my left hand and I remember he tried to grab it." She maintains she did not intend to kill Pleasted.

A few hours later she handed herself in at a police station with her blood-stained knife and clothing. The judge in the trial later said he did not believe she had "rationally thought through what taking a knife might lead to" but added: "I am sure the possibility of its use was in her mind."

Sarah Sands was convicted of manslaughter, rather than murder, on the grounds she had lost control. She was jailed for three and a half years - but later saw the sentence increased to seven and a half years because the sentence was ruled to be too lenient. Court of Appeal judges said she had done nothing to help Pleasted had not called the emergency services.

She spent nearly four years in prison. "I had taken the law into my own hands," she says now. "I've always been raised to take responsibility for my actions."

As a single mother behind bars, the three boys and their two younger brothers lived with their grandmother while their mother was in prison.

"There was loads of us all in one room. There was no privacy," Bradley tells he BBC. "My nan was talking to my mum on the phone in prison, asking her if I could go and play football, or go out with my mates. And often she would say 'no'."

Alfie says the three brothers did "miss out on stuff". They saw her once a month on their regular prison visits. "Sometimes you just want to tell your Mum a problem," he says now. Their friends knew what had happened. But Bradley says he does remember other people asking: "Where's your Mum? We never see her."

"They were angry with me," Sands adds. "Before I went in, we were so close and then all of a sudden, I wasn't there anymore. It was awful for them."

Asked if she felt remorse for ending Michael Pleasted's life, she says: "Absolutely." Pressed further, she adds: "I bring life into the world. It never occurred to me that I would be guilty of taking life out of the world."

Name changes

During the court case it emerged that Pleasted had changed his name from Robin Moult and he was a convicted paedophile. He had 24 previous convictions for sex offending spanning three decades. His crimes had carried jail terms. But nobody in the area, including the local council that housed him, knew about his past.

Sarah Sands has now joined others who are campaigning for tighter restrictions on sex offenders who change their names.

Labour MP, Sarah Champion, who has raised the issue with ministers, says some sex offenders are using their new identities to get through DBS checks. These are compulsory in certain roles and reveal criminal convictions.

"Once they have changed their names, they are able to get a new driving licence and passport in that name," says Sarah Champion. "That enables them to get a new DBS check. And we are finding that these people are then going into schools and other places where there are children and vulnerable people and exploiting their positions of trust in the most horrific ways."

A Home Office spokesperson said it had already conducted a review of the issue, but it could not publish it because it contained sensitive information, which could potentially be used by offenders to exploit the system.

It said the UK had some of the toughest powers in the world to deal with sex offenders living in the community.

Sarah Sands was released from prison in 2018. Her sons say they have managed to rebuild their relationship with her since then. "She did try to baby us," says Reece, smiling. "It was nice but it just makes you realise all those years that were lost."

"There is nothing that is going to break the family bond," adds Bradley.

The boys say, as children, they regretted revealing the abuse. "If we had all kept out mouth shut, we would have had our mum, and we would have been going shopping, going to the cinema, doing what a normal 12-year-old would do," says Bradley.

But they say they now realise it is important for victims to speak out. "It going to be hard, but it does get better," says Reece. "You should always come forward," Alfie adds. "It's better to talk. If you don't, it's just going to get worse."

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i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist · 6 months

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Feminism was supposed to create empathy towards prostitutes to help them out of the situation, not to validate it.

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When people say "destigmatize prostitution," they don't mean "view prostitutes as actual women rather than sex objects," they mean "let porn-rotted men purchase sex, no matter how violent or humiliating, with moral and legal impunity."

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I got my first period prematurely when I was eight and still playing with dolls, by no means was I 'no longer a child' when I didn't even know what a period was

It's lowkey how so little people notice the rampant pro pedophilia of the new right & manosphere.

Yesterday I stumbled on a live with several twitch streamers who got sent to court by an infamous french manosphere scrote/love coach (Stéphane Édouard) bc they made video exposing him clowning a raped woman, and giving advice to a 15 y.o about her fIrst sexual experience, saying she would either keep having sex with boys her age with underwhelming sexual satisfaction, or have sex with older men. And for the second option you could see he was lowkey complaining about it, he was like "but today we cannot really say that...because that would be considered predatory 🙄".

What's so fricking hysterical with this brand of scrote it's that they are the exact same to look down on women with a lot of sexual experience, and yet, here he was, giving advice to a FIFTEEN YEARS OLD girl. Why didn't he talk her into a 3rd option, which is to NOT have sex before being physically and emotionally set? Those scrote claim being traditional but there's nothing traditional in sexing up kids into have sex outside of marriage with older men most likely to use & dump them?

That's why I will never take seriously all the conservatives faking outrage about Epstein. In the end of the day : Epstein is DEAD - Ghislaine in prison. They will not harm anyone else. It's unfortunate we cannot have the name of their clients, but none of it is an actual excuse to gloss over active pedophile who are not all leftists/gay/woke, whatever.

Look how hard they went for Russel Brand when a woman has been accusing him of dating her when she was underage. Suddenly it's a "witch hunt" and an attack against masculinity..🙄 You can BET they wouldn't be so cautious is Brand was a liberal activist or gay.... They are so full of it.

Right now on xitter, Muskophants are seething against anti pedophilia peasants "moralism"...

But yeah, trans in schools are the predators, right?

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The patriarchy made certain that if a man raped a woman, it's the woman's fault. Fuck the Patriarchy.

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