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Managing Obesity: Tips for a Healthier Lifestyle

Obesity is a major health problem affecting millions of people worldwide. This is a condition in which excess body fat builds up in the body, leading to a variety of health problems such as diabetes, heart disease, and certain types of cancer. It can be treated with medical intervention. This blog post will go into detail about different ways to treat obesity.

Diet

One of the most important factors in managing obesity is diet. A healthy and balanced diet is essential for maintaining a healthy weight. It is important to eat a variety of nutrient-dense foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Avoid processed foods, sugary drinks, and foods high in saturated and trans fats.

Exercise

Physical activity is also important in managing obesity. Exercise helps burn calories, improve muscle mass, and boost metabolism. It is recommended to aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise per week. This can be achieved through activities such as brisk walking, cycling, swimming, or strength training.

Behavioral changes

Making behavioral changes can also help manage obesity. This includes setting realistic goals, monitoring progress, and staying motivated. It is important to identify triggers for overeating and develop strategies to overcome them. Seeking support from friends and family, joining a support group, or consulting with a healthcare professional can also be helpful.

Medications

In some cases, medications may be prescribed to manage obesity. These medications work by reducing appetite, blocking the absorption of fat, or increasing feelings of fullness. However, medications should always be used in combination with diet and exercise.

Surgery

For those with severe obesity, surgery may be an option. Bariatric surgery is a type of surgery that can help reduce weight and improve overall health. This surgery involves reducing the size of the stomach or bypassing a portion of the small intestine to limit the amount of food that can be consumed.

Summary

obesity is a serious health condition that can be managed with the right lifestyle changes and medical interventions. A healthy diet, regular exercise, behavioral changes, and medical treatments can all help manage obesity and improve overall health. It is important to seek support from healthcare professionals and loved ones to ensure long-term success in managing obesity.

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Hello Hi, today I'm going to sell to you plus size Peter Sqloint

I've always drawn and envisioned Peter Sqloint as plus sized. For some reason, that's just how he appeared in my head. If you want to see how exactly how I envision him you can check out my art, OR, I have the fun little body visualizer I can show you.

I have the measurements in for 5' 4", 200 lbs, and quite a bit (10hr) of exercise, because you know they do be walking around a bunch.

This looks average! This looks like an average person you could just go out and see, and that's how I've been drawing him! And Peter's entire bit is being average or slightly below.

But I ran the BMI for this (BMI is a scam but people know the metric so I did it anyways), and this is OBESE? This looks like a normal person to me, and I know for a fact that you can be healthy, working a 9-5 service job on your feet all day sweating and breaking your back getting 15,000 steps a day and still look like this. I know because I work in the food industry (in the US) and a lot of my co-workers have bodies that are very similar to this, at least in weight.

Yet I find it hard to find media with people who look like this.

As a curvy man/woman myself, more than 200lbs, it's hard for me to find cute clothes that fit me. I'm so self conscious of my breathing, I've always been self conscious of my jawline, my arms, my thighs. It took me a long time to become happy with my body, but I think with the boom of body positivity on social media and the appreciation of bigger bodies and my own mental work, I was able to overcome my insecurities and see myself for the bad bitch I am.

Yet there is a lot of work to be done as a community.

I especially think that right now is the right time to be talking about these things, and to bring it to light, because there are so many more people who are speaking out about things, and so many more people who actually care.

Before we continue, I would like to say that in case you were worried, this is not a dig at JRWI, this is just social commentary. I would like to point out that my experience with this community has been leaps and bounds ahead of any other community I have ever been apart of, with body diversity, poc characters (at least headcannons ._.), and appreciating beautiful non-white standards. (like the headcannon Jay hooked nose) (I'm going to throw my hat in the ring and say that anime fandoms and fandoms that have 'twinkification problems' have this weak spot, please don't take this personally)

Plus size Peter Sqloint is important to me because I feel media, especially media that is ran off of fanart, prefer white beauty standards, even if it is sub-conscious. It's getting better, and there are great artists who are poc and body positive and amazing, but they don't always get the same attention as others. It's important for people to see themselves, especially if their body is A NORMAL AND AVERAGE SIZE! THAT BODY TYPE IS NORMAL! YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO FIND THAT! And not finding it sometimes feels like your the outlier, that you are unattractive, you are the weirdo.

And it fits so well with his story. with Peter growing comfortable in his skin, from being average to extraordinary, but it was in him all along, and he doesn't have to drastically change (like loose weight) for him to realize that.

Also I would like to point out how important it is for media to show big people getting loved!!!! For being considered attractive! How powerful it would be for someone like Rumi, the literal embodiment of perfection, tall, sleek, elegant, what the general beauty world would consider to be a drop dead gorgeous runway model, to fall head over heels for someone like Peter! Because big people are gorgeous, big people are attractive, big people are lovable! And especially a queer story as well?! Where they are not just both 'skinny twinks'? (nothing wrong with that, but there are more relationships than just that). I think that is a powerful under-the-surface story that Apotheosis could tell about Peter Sqloint, and they wouldn't even have to retcon anything except canonize Peter's weight. You can't tell me that the story couldn't be read that way, with this context! This is my sell to you, my sell for you to start seeing Peter Sqloint as a plus sized man, and see his story how I've seen his story.

TLDR: Peter Sqloint is a plus sized man because he is gorgeous and beautiful and it fits amazingly with his story and he deserves it :)

Leveling up: Step 1

• Solve my unhealthy relationship with food & lose weight

Hello, girls! I am a companion and an SB. I’ve been in the business for a little over a year and the money is good. I’ve saved up more than I ever thought could’ve been possible in this last year. I love my life but I know very well that it could be WAYYY better if I decided to seriously dedicate myself into changing from the inside out.

The biggest issue that I currently have right now is my weight. I have a bad relationship with food and I tend to eat A LOT when I’m not hungry and not the healthy stuff. The consequence of that poor behaviour is that I am obese. I am well built and carry most of my weight in my ass, thighs, hips and boobs.. but I still don’t feel good about myself and I feel like it’s just getting worse.

I’ve lost weight in the past but always ended up gaining it back. That being said, when I lost the weight, I’d always feel better about myself and look extremely alluring. Thus, my desire to get back in shape.. also, I know damn well I’ll make way more money afterwards hihi

My Goal #1 is to have a normal relationship with food - eat when I’m hungry and not think about it when I’m not - and as a result, LOSE WEIGHT!

How? I’ve done so many diets and workout plans that were not sustainable for me. Right now, I just want to embrace a new lifestyle and do things that I actually enjoy and know that I will be able to keep up for the long run.

First of all, I know that I have to change my way of thinking around food and all the beliefs that I have about myself. I decided to hire a life coach/therapist who specializes in relationship with food to help me with my limiting beliefs and toxic thoughts regarding food and myself - I will be starting my session with her in October 3rd for a total duration of 10 weeks!

Secondly, I definitely have to make it a habit to be active daily. Not necessarily workout in the gym until I’m about to pass out but just to make sure that I get my body moving on a daily basis - ex: long walks, dancing, yoga, etc. With how out of shape I currently am, my goal for right now is to do daily walks of 30 minutes to 2 hours.

Of course, I have to start paying more attention to the quality, the quantity and the frequency of what I eat. I tour a lot because of my job so I order in more than I wish but that being said, I could still order a salad or something healthier than pizza and Chinese takeout.. Also, I was fat before I even started touring as a companion so it’s not even an excuse. Many girls travel the world and don’t gain a pound. I just need to follow my hunger cues and stop eating when I’m not hungry. Especially snacking at night. My goal is to make sure to eat fruits/veggies every day and to cut out refined sugar - chocolate is where I lose control.

The book:

I read « The Obesity Code » by Jason Fung and it was a great book to understand how insulin plays a huge role when it comes to losing/gaining weight. The key notes to weight loss are basically:

- Fasting is very important

- Reduce your consumption of added sugars (replace them with fruits, dark chocolate 70%+)

- Reduce your consumption of refined sugar and grains (flour & refined grains)

- Moderate your protein intake

- Increase your consumption of natural fats

- Increase your consumption of fiber and vinegar

To summarize this post:

My #1 priority right now is to take care of my mental & physical health so that I can lose the weight that is currently making me extremely unhappy and self-conscious.

To do so, I hired a life coach and will start sessions with her so that I can learn how to cope with my feelings other than to eat my heart out.

On top of that emotion/mental journey, I am also dedicated to a healthier lifestyle which will consist of intermittent fasting, reducing my consumption of refined sugar, eat more greens and be more active on a daily basis❤️

Stats

Height - 165CM/5’5 

BMI - 35

My weight on September 16, 2022: 96.25KG/ 212.19lbs

My current thoughts 💭:

Identity change that I am adopting

- I am a woman who only eats when she is hungry and stops as soon as she is no longer hungry

- I am a woman who is athletic (exercise daily)

- I am a woman who takes care of herself (daily hygiene routine, good sleeping pattern, grooming)

What plan I will be following for the next month:

1) Intermittent fasting - Follow hunger cues and only eat when hungry + no food after 8PM unless going out

2) Reduce consumption of refined sugar and replace it with fruits + reduce consumption of refined grains

3) Daily exercise - long walks or gym

4) Drink lots of water and green tea 🍵 💧

My goal for October 16, 2022 is to weigh 90KG.

*I will be doing a monthly update and let you guys know how I’ve been doing for the past month to keep myself accountable xx

Why I think 'body positivity' is bad.

For starters: I would just like to say, I like the idea of body positivity, just like communism, however, it is poorly executed.

I feel as though modern day body positivity has been reduced to 'All bodies are beautiful'

Why do I think that is bad, though?

What is the whole 'All bodies are beautiful' have truly messed with people. To be honest, a lot of times when I hear about body positivity, it's mostly used by obese/overweight people, to justify a lack of dieting and/or self care.

Of course- obese is not a phrase I want to use lightly, when I say obesity, I don't mean people who have thicker bodies and chubby stomachs, I mean obese. With a BMI of >30, or above 350+ pounds. I am also aware, that people have different metabolisms, with some working faster or slower.

What I'm not saying is 'YOU MUST BE SKINNY!!' What I am saying, is overindulgence via excuses can and will harm people.

I also understand, sometimes dieting or exercise is necessary to be healthy as well. There's also the stigmatization of diets and exercising, due to how much of diet culture and the extremes people have gone to be skinny, and societally acceptable.

Beautiful bodies don't exist.

The beauty standard changes, every single second, not every nation is the same, everyone has their personal preference, from scrawny, to chubby, tan, pale, blonde, brunette, curly hair, straight hair.

When I hear body positivity, I never hear anything but justification of being overweight. Where is body positivity for amputees, burn victims, acne, stretch marks, crows feet, e.t.c?

I don't think people truly use body positivity in a good way, because they don't advocate for all bodies.

I love what I would describe as body acceptance. The ability to accept their body, while also taking care of it.

My 600 pound life and other shows about people dieting, to try to change their lives, to increase their quality of life, had us rooting for them.

We wanted to see them be more comfortable in their skins. Even when they were chubby afterwards, we were happy, because they started their journey.

Your body is valid. Your body is doing it's job the best it can. You can get that exercise, and get your diet, if you have the willpower. Not everyone does, and it's okay to have your journey be hard. Even if you're 40+ you can still change your life, if only by a little.

It's okay to be scared, or to be negative when trying to help yourself. Not everybody's body works the same, if some popular diet doesn't work, then you can try something else.

This isn't about adhering to certain standards. It's about making your body happy with you. Your body is your own.

I'm bored🤗

1. which eating disorder(s) do you have? Anorexia Binge/Purge Subtype, that turned into fullblown bulimia the last year or two.

2. when did you develop your eating disorder? When I was 11, summer before 6th grade. I realized I accidentally lost weight and got taller, making me lose my childish pudge and look decent. Went on a diet with my mom and got into her diet books, never looked back.


3. are you currently in recovery? Not anymore.


4. honestly, do you want to recover? Yes and no. I just want to be beautiful. I'll do whatever it takes. If that's a healthy weight, I'll deal with the number, but currently it doesn't look like it's swinging that way.


5. how are you doing today? My college canceled class because of the snow!


6. 5 safe foods? Green peppers, carrots, salad, popcorn, popsicles.


7. 5 fear foods? Pizza, pastries, chocolate, cheese, chips


8. do you count calories? I stopped for a bit but I'm back on it


9. what is your max calorie limit? 500 cal. 1000 if I'm having dinner with roommates but only 2x a week.


10. what is your height? 172 cm/,5'8"


11. what is your ultimate goal weight? 119lb, or 129 if Im working out a lot. I don't want to lose my muscle tone. I like being strong af.


12. are you trying to lose weight? Extremely


13. have you ever been called “fat”? Yes


14. have you ever been called “too thin”? Yes and it's amazing


15. what is your current goal weight? 129lb/119lb


16. what was your highest weight? 237.5lb


17. what was your lowest weight? 134lb


18. do you wish you were back at your lowest weight? YES.


19. does your family know about your eating disorder? Yes but I look healthy right now so they aren't worried

20. do your friends know about your eating disorder? My roommate does but no one else


21. do you wish you didn’t have an eating disorder? Of course I do. But it makes for a great distraction from other trauma.


22. have any “free foods”? Veggies like carrots, green peppers, cucumbers I don't calorie count if I have them plain. I don't count olive oil and avocados either since they're good fats and I don't want to scare myself away from eating them.


23. how often do you weigh yourself? About twice a day, morning and night.


24. thinspo or bonespo? Sometimes I have trouble telling the difference but usually Thinspo I think


25. biggest problem area on your body? My calves and face. They're HUGE.


26. favourite part of your body? My veiny hands, my tummy, my butt, my collarbones


27. what kind of results do you want to see? I want a thigh gap so badly, skinny arms that show my muscle, narrow face, tiny waist, easy to fit in an extra small with no squeezing, size 28 jeans and 2 in women's, the validation of judgement, etc.


28. do you purge? Not every day but I do.


29. do you take laxatives? No but I've considered it


30. how often do you purge? Every few days when I binge


31. do you binge? Like a starving man

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32. how long have you fasted for? A week or two. But I was on drugs to be fair.


33. who’s your biggest thinspiration? Winona Rider in Girl Interupted. This hot butch girl on tiktok.

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34. favourite eating disorder movie/show/documentary? Starving in Suburbia


35. favourite thinspo picture? The one that's my background photo.


36. can you post a photo of yourself/your body?


37. how does your eating disorder affect your life? I hate socializing and won't have sex


38. what is your BMI? It's like 24 right now 💀


39. do you follow a diet? The A.I.T Diet (Ana in Training)


40. least favourite part about your eating disorder? My massive fluctuation in weight makes me feel out of control. I can't enjoy normal things whether I eat them or not.


41. has your eating disorder ruined any relationships? no, I don't date


42. do you have a “guilty pleasure” food? Chocolate and fast food, I have to keep away from it


43. meanspo or sweetspo? Sweetspo, meanspo just makes me binge and hate myself. Taking care of myself and doing self care makes me want to be healthy.


44. does anyone else in your life have an eating disorder? A girl in my class and my mom


45. ever been inpatient? Every day of my life


46. ever been outpatient? No


47. ever been in residential care? No


48. ever been in a psych ward? Yes


49. are you currently in therapy? No


50. what did you eat today? Binged on Pizza, then stopped and had some popcorn and veggies with dip as a midnight snack


51. are you scared about the holidays? No, it's February and nobody cares about me lol


52. are your family/friends supportive? They literally don't care lol


53. have any other mental illnesses? Massive PTSD is my worst diagnosis, then bipolar 2, then generalized anxiety disorder.


54. looking for ana buddies? YES PLEASE but only long term anas who've lost weight, no beginners pls


55. what is your current weight? 155 lb

Metabolic Damage Info-Dump

This may be controversial or whatever, but if there’s one thing I hate about the ED community, it’s the need for instant gratification, or at least the need to push that standard on everyone else in the community. Everyone wants to be skinny now, whatever it takes, I swear you do not need to rush anyone else with this illness.

  And honestly, I get it. I really do. I promise.

But if you want to prioritize being thin long-term, you have to do everything you can to push past the need for instant gratification and avoid major damage to your metabolism. There are ways to repair your metabolism, sure, but there’s also a level of damage you can do to your metabolism that you just can’t come back from and honestly that’s so scary to me personally. Like the amount of people who are thin while they’re younger, like 13-25, and then really fill out as they get older is insane. It’s actually considered normal.

Article: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/01/29/the-age-when-you-gain-the-most-weight/

(Note: For my fellow trans folks on HRT out there, good luck figuring out which category you fall in biologically and please for the love of god tell me when you figure it out. It’s driving me insane)

How Do I Avoid Damaging My Metabolism?

I know a lot of you aren’t gonna like the answer because I didn’t either. I hated it. I still do, actually. I feel disgusting but I also know that my method at the moment is effective, and not just in the short term. 

You have to start with high-restriction.

I’m talking like 900 cal intake minimum, and 1500 cal intake maximum depending on height, BMI, and personal, hormones, activity level, and personal preference. Personally, (and I know this makes me sound basic and like a classic trad-ana lmao) I like to use the My Fitness Pal calculation as a starting point and then tweaking details to my liking. 

And as a disclaimer, you will still damage your metabolism. There’s no part of restricting that leave your metabolism intact, but the difference is that the damage you will receive here is repairable and not permanent. 

How Am I Supposed to Repair My Metabolism?

There are a couple ways to go about this. If you’ve been in the online ED community for a while, you’ll probably have heard plenty of this already. I’ll give you guys a quick rundown of the stuff I’ve gathered, both from the community and from extensive, anxiety-induced research.

DON’T Eat more, exercise less. That starts the yo-yo dieting effect. Instead, begin by eating the same amount, but lowering exercise. Then slowly start to increase your caloric intake while also increasing your activity level.

Drink a healthy amount of caffeine, like green tea or coffee. Don’t overdo it or it will have the opposite effect

GET A HEALTHY AMOUNT OF SLEEP

Hydrate

Take an OTC Thyroid regulation supplement. For those of you who don’t know, your thyroid is essentially the part of your system that controls your metabolism. I personally look for things that have a natural/herbal active ingredient, such as Ashwagandha

Eat more fiber! Beans, produce, whole grains--

Eat more protein. Beans, meat, fish, legumes, nuts--

Manage your stress as much as you can. Take lots of time for self care, rest, even meditation or yoga if that’s something you’re into. I personally find relaxation in following yoga routines from people to whom yoga is culturally relevant, such as the desi community.

That’s pretty much all I have to say for now, but I wanted to shove this out there for anyone who’s bored and looking for a long post to read (Perhaps looking in these tags to distract from eating *cough cough*)

You know, every time I prove that Calories In, Calories Out weight loss is bullshit, I'm always amazed at how people in my life are shocked. I'm also surprised by how many people call bullshit on it and tell me I'm lying.

So, my job had this yearly thing they do where they give out points (which can then be used for things like e gift cards or various things like jewelry, furniture, kitchen ware, electronics, basically anything you can think of) if you sign up in this app which you input your food, water, exercise, and weight. Keeping those metrics within a certain threshold (like enough water, enough daily steps) gets you more points. I (like most people) like the rewards because they can be used for real world dollars (you can get prepaid Mastercards with like 10, 20, 50 loaded on it). So I usually always participate.

And since I started on anti depressants, my weight has slowly increased until plateaued at 160-165. In the last 6 months, I haven't gone below 160 once. Until today. And the only change I made was to add an extra 400-600 calories a day. Basically, I started eating snacks in between meals. We get 2 15 min breaks during the day in addition to our lunch breaks and I used to use those to sit back and scroll online, but in the last week, I've started eating snacks while I do that. Granted, they are "healthy" snacks, but I've always loved veggies and so adding some peas and carrots and tomatoes and salads to my daily eating isn't really a huge sacrifice. I actually love those.

And it's only been a week, but I just weighed myself to add to my weekly updates and found that I only weighed 150. Now, I am on the low weight side of my monthly cycle, but I usually only go down to 160-162. So I've obviously lost weight by adding more calories.

Now, here's where things get shitty. The app we use shares our updates with everyone else. And I have gotten a few nasty comments about how I must be lying about what I eat because there is no way I increased calories and lost weight. And like, science does not agree but these people are so entrenched in their world view of CICO that they can't possibly accept anything else. And like, a look at their pages shows their BMI scores are similar to mine (I'm only 5 feet tall, so my BMI score says I'm horribly overweight, but I've never cared about that because BMI is so obviously bullshit, but of course the app we use uses it as part of the measure of our health) and they're eating like 800-1200 calories a day mostly. And I'm eating 2000-2500. And apparently doing that while losing weight is just such an affront to these people, that they have to assume I'm lying.

And of course I just ignored them and moved on because one should never feed the trolls, but it just struck me as like so on brand with our ulture around health and weight that these people felt no qualms about calling me a lying bitch because what my updates show threatens their entire sense of self. I've seen it before when I've mentioned that in order to lose weight (as so many of my coworkers talk about because our job is mostly sedentary and a majority of the people I work with are "overweight" women and until a year ago when I started anti depressants, I was barely able to break 110 on a scale so they assumed I must be the pinnacle of health despite the fact that pictures of me from then scare me because I looked like I was majorly ill because I was so skinny) you have to eat more often to get your metabolism to wake the fuck up and stop assuming you're starving from lack of resources and so it needs to hang on to every inch of fat and energy it can get.

And that is just so much the opposite if every diet industry advice that people get mad when that advice works.

Anyway, sometimes I butt up against the diet industries brainwashed victims and I am struck by the weirdness of it all.

⚠️TW: Mentions of eating disorders, fatphobia, white supremacy, diet culture

Just read a little writing prompt and it was all about how the bf saying to mc that they needed a bigger size was insulting and hurtful. I- I think I'm taking a break from the internet. I love you guys, but earlier I got called obese and I just need a break. I feel guilty taking breaks because I worry I'll miss things and won't be able to be an effective activist. So, I wanted to leave you all with some resources on unlearning internalized fatphobia.

Your chewly podcast on Spotify registered dietitian unpacks diet culture myths and talks about building a healthy relationship with food

Unpacking fear of fatness Ted talk eating disorder survivor and body positive activist umpacks our fear of fatness by talking about the history of BMI, the American healthcare system, critically connecting fatphobia to white supremacy and eurocentrism and for-proft propaganda. She encourage radical self love through body positivity

Rest as resistance a wonderful npr article discussing a book centering around using rest as a way to fight back against the toxic things we've been taught about ourself and our bodies, and how that ties in to white supremacy our toxic work culture. This book is about seeing our bodies as more than machines for profit, and seeing our bodies as divine. Also discusses that there way more than fatness to the top three diseases!

How to fight diet culture another great npr article about the prevelance of diet culture and what you can do to fight it.

And lastly, being kind to yourself, asking for help when you need it, all that jazz. I've been working with a dietician, a counselor, my doctor, AND counselors at school. I understand that having access to this medical care is a privilege not everyone has, but if you are able, please seek help when you need it (or don't need it! Help is good always). Remember to listen to plus sized/fat ppl/Ed survivors in your life about how to be a good ally.

Hey, tw all kinds of bad experiences you have as a fat person, diet stuff, etc, sexual violence

I grew up as a chubby kid. It is genetics but also poverty. My mom is very thin, she's been 88lb her whole life. A weight, I reached when I was in elementary school (admittedly, I am very different build, she's dainty, my shoulders killed a lot of flannels). She sent me from dietitian to dietitian from age 8 on thought the only issue was, that we had no food at home because we were so poor and the only meals I got were the ones I begged from neighbors and teachers (dietitian are free in my country for fat ppl). My dads family on the other hand, look more like me. Wide build and slightly overweight to fat. But all of them want to lose weight. Since forever. Since I was a small kid every new year there was this "weight-loss challenge". Every participant (most family members, even my 85y.o. grandma) had to tell my dad their weight on Sundays and he added them to a chart and who didn't loose weight was publicly shamed by the others. A concept I later saw again when I was anorexic. So, there was that, I grew up fat but pretty athletic, I even did competitive sport. Still, you know, surprising every PE teacher that I am good at sports, bullying at school, etc pp. I came into puberty very early, still in elementary school, which really fucked up my sexuality. Having a C cup when 10 (and immediately experiencing sexual violence from strangers) left me to today unable to have any sexual experience. Also because I feel uncomfortable in my body because of my weight. In my youth I was anorexic and in recovery I gained back to my all-time weight. But I still feel fatter then I am or rather... My view is shit. My body is pretty average, the kind of slightly-overweight that everybody nowadays is. But in my eyes (maybe from childhood maybe from anorexia) the "normal/healthy" weight is waayyy skinnier than is it for society (with bmi and stuff). In contrast, I feel very fat although I am pretty average.

Everyone around me has an unhealthy beauty standart/body image issues/unhealthy diet etc. My bfs mom eats nothing but yoghurt for 4 years now, to lose weight (she didn't lose a pound by now and I would have given up, but ok) and judges my eating choices, whenever I am around (she asked me once why I made myself carrots for breakfast, carrots are the vegetables with the most sugar!!!). She always talks about calorie counting, weight watchers, encourages her friends and family to fast a few days in a row to lose weight, calls them lazy if they say they can't because, they have a life and aren't early-retireds with no hobby but an unhealthy diet. I also gained a lot of weight in the last months from stress, I assume around 30lb. I have a genetic lung disease and had/have to be careful during the pandemic, so I couldn't do a lot of my usual teamsports.

When I recently visited my mom, she greeted me with "Wow, you've become fat" like? Guess what, I noticed!!! Thanks for nothing.

The only one who thinks I am pretty is my bf. But tbh, this goes under beneath all the other voices.

So, I am torn. On the one hand I still have the urge to go back to anorexia, please all my surrounding, participate in their unhealthy diet, and feel better in my body again (because I clearly felt better when I was thinner. Not more athletic or easier-to-move or for medical reasons. I just felt more comfortable in my body). On the other hand I want to eat healthy (which I admittedly didn't so much during the last stressful months) do sport, see how my body will change with that and accept what body will stick with me.

Tbh, the unhealthy voice is most times much louder, which leaves me with a lot of self hate during the last months. It is like the thought, that I had when I was anorexic: "I want to love my body. But only, once I have a body that I objectively don't have to be ashamed of. Because what is it worth, to love my body, if it is still ugly for everyone who sees it?". A very contrary thought, I know. But still, accurate till today.

Any encouraging words or something?

Hi anon,

It sounds like your mom has an unhealthy view on weight, not only her own but pretty much everyone else around her as well, and you've internalized a lot of that.

I understand why the unhealthy voice is sometimes louder - because you've been made to believe that voice is right. It can definitely be a struggle to try and accept your body for the way it is especially after having gone though what you have. But I do believe that, for the sake of your own mental and physical health, it's important to fight that unhealthy voice and do what you need to do to live a healthy life, however that looks for you. Anorexia can be extremely challenging to resist, and you may take some backwards steps, but progress isn't linear.

It's hard not to internalize how people claim to perceive your body, especially your own mother. But your mom seems to be leading an obliviously unhealthy lifestyle, so perhaps it's safe to say that she may not completely know what's best for you.

I don't have personal experience with eating disorders but I do have personal experience with insecurities about my physical appearance. It may seem a little backwards, but it helped me to hear that, no matter what you look like, someone will always have something to say, so it kind of cheapens the worth of their criticisms. It's another way of saying you can't please everyone. So as long as you are healthy and happy, your opinion of yourself is the only one that ultimately matters. That's easier said than done, but it is a place to start.

I hope I could help. Please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

I have no shame in my body.

No I am not “thick bones”

No I am not “thick & curvy”

No I am not healthy.

read that again, I am not healthy.

Im alive, im breathing, but I am not healthy.

I have body confidence I have so much self love that I can spread it even to a stranger. I can convince you to love yourself when you walk out of the room.

But I am not healthy.

I am obese, my BMI is 48.1-

I eat very healthy, I get outside almost everyday and go to the gym when I can .

What matters to me is that I go.

But I am not healthy and never claimed to be.

People think because you have body confidence and self love that you aren’t aware of the truth. That we dont see what you see, we see it.

I know. I know because I feel it everyday. In my clothes that dont fit, or the clothes I want but cant have.

I feel it in my feet, my back, my knees.

I feel it mentally- always tired, days of depression and self sabotage that I wont get back to where I once was.

I let food and depression win for many many years

This is my tummy but not my tummy forever. I made a vow not only for my daughter but for me, to live better, healthier, and happier.

First I got control of my mental health

but im still not healthy.

I got control of my stressors in life.

I went from 10 pills a day, to only 3

I took control of my IBS by living a healthier lifestyle.

Yes im obese, but yes I love fitness.

Yes im obese but yes I love salads.

yes im obese but yes I can have children

yes im obese but yes I can take care of myself and my hygiene.

My point here is, I know I am fat, I know I damaged my body for many years, but you will still see me happy… You will see me thrive. You may see me fall 10 steps back, but tomorrow ill take 20 forward.

You may see me eat carbs all day once a week then nothing unhealthy the following week.

Why? because I am human, and I can love myself even when I know I need to fix myself..

So yes I am unhealthy but I am not unhappy, I will keep bettering myself every single day that I chose clean foods instead of junk, for the days I pushed myself out the house on the days I just want to sleep.

thanks for reading.

Well I went into the body positivity and fat acceptance tags and

1 a shit ton of thinspo posts in the body positivity tag :c I get that people of all sizes ended up using that tag to try and do self love of their bodies as is, but also like it's so clear the diet pressure and self hate is still bleeding into the tag and that is unfortunate. It's not helping ppl feel okay about their bodies of any size to still see that pressure to starve/get surgery :c

2 a shit ton of fatphobic people in the fat acceptance tag I had to go on a blocking spree. Some of them like to hide behind the wrguement "well fat isn't healthy" but like they don't care about unhealthy skinny people, to discriminate and hate people based on health is fucked up to begin with, and then they stop seeming level headed by immediately jumping into "it's fat peoples fault they're fat so they should lose weight if they want me to stop bullying them and advocating for discrimination against them in healthcare and work." Like... first of all the assumption diet alone will fix fatness is not as clear cut as you think. Read some articles if you Actually care, but you don't care. But I've lost 65 lbs before and gone from obese to normal bmi and let me say if you do it the medically advised safe way it takes years and you WILL plateau and you will likely resort to unsafe methods ur doctor would rightful call self harm, and if you're Extremely lucky genetically u will lose weight. And if ur health doesn't want u to lose weight, then u can eat deadly low amounts of calories and not lose weight for months (but end up hospitalized for nutrition deficiencies screwing you) so like to diet can OFTEN be worse on your health than to stay fat. There's so many health choices fat people can make to improve their health, that work better than strict dieting (which will worsen their health and often cause more weight gain). Which is why doctors usually recommend aiming to only lose 10% which can still put u in overweight or obese, through very moderate calorie cut usually through better food choices (to increase nutrition, minimize yo yo dieting issues and rebound etc). Like... unless you are an expert on health you have no idea how weight loss should be done for improved health versus worse health. Then there's you know... the fact 2/3 of Americans are overweight. To say all of them personally are the reason they became fat with no bigger structural issues is ridiculous. Food deserts, lack of access to Healthcare and increased access to certain food types versus others, limited public transport and limited free safe places to exercise, discrimination on fat people making employment harder (which makes time/money for fitness and meal planning harder) and medical care harder (which if cheaper and more accessible and helpful could also be helping people) all contribute. Fat people being 2/3 of America means no its not every single fat persons fault, and if you really wanr go argue it's justified to discriminate against 2/3 of people and make their families poor and healthcare limited and poor quality then that's incredibly cruel ans fucked up of you. Whether you want to blame health or not, I think all people including sick people and disabled people and fat people and skinny people who aren't getting adequate calories and nutrition all deserve employment ans healthcare and fair fucking treatment. So if you're needlessly cruel don't act like it's out of concern or it's justified, u just hope people unlike you suffer and want to act like u have some reason when there's no good reason for cruelty and discrimination.

3 on rhe body positivity tag I was happy to see people being body neutral and positive about stretch marks, noses, hip dips, hairiness, pot bellies, cellulite, eating enough calories to get nutrition, but also it is so frustrating the beauty industry TRULY insults every aspect of existence huh? I remember when no one gave a fuck about cellulite or stretch marks which all human beings have! Now the beauty industry has made tons of people feel bad for ordinary body features. We all have hair! We all have pores! It sucks modern beauty ads run makeup campaigns to convince ppl they need to look like they have no pores... even babies have pores. Babies don't need makeup to hide them. And if they did then beauty is incorrect if it's saying normal human bodies need to be changed. Which I suppose is true of a lot of beauty standards. But man was it sad. Anyway I love my body I am indifferent about stretch marks and cellulite and my nose and patchy eyebrows and pores and hairiness and I don't care, bodies are supposed to look like bodies, it's okay for them to look like bodies. I am glad ppl are spreading that message and really quite angry that it needs to be spread because the beauty industry is such a self-hate machine set out to tear everyone to shreds for regular human features (even more overblown with the increase in photoshop ans editing and filters even in social media outside of magazines but on people we consider peers).

Trigger warning: ED.

During my teenage years I really struggled with my body image. I was bullied severely and had multiple negative (plutonic and romantic) relationships that just reinforced my beliefs. At 14 I was diagnosed with b*llemi*

At 16 I was ‘recovered.’

At 21 (and in the years previous) I always criticised my self. I regularly call my self f*t. Holding parts of my stomach and  criticising it. I’ve never stopped doing this.

I’m 5 ft 2 and I’ve always avoided the scales until the other day. I am 10 stone 4lbs. I did a BMI and it put me in the over weight category. I’m a size 8/10 in all clothes I buy.

I know I’m not big, but this has fuelled me to count my calories, something I’ve stayed away from. My fear of bad foods, though it never went away, has come back. I feel as if I’ve spent years putting on a mask, eating the foods in-front of me and now I’ve seen double digits on the scale and the overweight category on the BMI scale it’s all resurfaced.

I’ve spent years suppressing these feelings only to be back where I was at 14/15. I’ve spent so long hiding this part of me and fighting. I look at my self with disgust, I have nothing but disgust for my body. I just want to lose weight, I don’t care how I get there.

I don’t have anyone I can relay these fears too- everyone would panic or not know how to respond.

Eating has become a chore. I so badly want to do it healthily, but I genuinely don’t know the line between unhealthy and healthy weight lose and I’m so afraid I’ll just fall until I can’t stop.

Anorexia

People who have anorexia try to keep their weight as low as possible. They may do this in different ways, such as not eating enough food, exercising too much, taking laxatives or making themselves sick (vomit). This can make them very ill because they start to starve.

They often have a distorted image of their bodies, thinking they're fat even when they're underweight.

Men and women of any age can get anorexia, but it's most common in young women and typically starts in the mid-teens.

Symptoms of anorexia include believing you're fat when you're a healthy weight or underweight, eating very little or missing meals.

Anorexia is usually treated with talking therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).

Signs and symptoms of anorexia include:

if you're under 18, your weight and height being lower than the minimum expected for your age

if you're an adult, having an unusually low body mass index (BMI)

missing meals or eating very little

thinking about food a lot and being very careful about what you eat, such as avoiding eating any foods you see as fattening

believing you're fat when you're a healthy weight or underweight

your periods stopping (in women who have not reached menopause) or not starting (in younger women and girls)

physical problems, such as feeling lightheaded or dizzy, hair loss or dry skin

Some people with anorexia may also make themselves sick or do an extreme amount of exercise.

Some use medicines to reduce their hunger (appetite suppressants), help them poo (laxatives) or make them pee (diuretics) to try to stop themselves gaining weight from any food they do eat.

Health risks of anorexia

Long-term anorexia can lead to severe health problems associated with not getting the right nutrients (malnutrition). But these will usually begin to get better once your food intake starts improving.

problems with muscles and bones – including feeling tired and weak, osteoporosis, and problems with physical development in children and young adults

fertility problems

loss of sex drive

problems with the heart and blood vessels – including poor circulation, an irregular heartbeat, low blood pressure, heart valve disease, heart failure, and swollen ankles, feet and legs (oedema)

problems with the brain and nerves – including difficulties with concentration and memory or, less often, fits (seizures)

kidney or bowel problems

having a weakened immune system or anaemia

Anorexia can also put your life at risk. It's one of the leading causes of deaths related to mental health problems. Deaths from anorexia may be due to physical complications or suicide.

Causes of anorexia

We do not know exactly what causes anorexia and other eating disorders. You may be more likely to get an eating disorder if:

you or a member of your family has a history of eating disorders, depression, or alcohol or drug addiction

you have been criticised for your eating habits, body shape or weight

you're overly concerned with being slim, particularly if you also feel pressure from society or your job – for example, ballet dancers, jockeys, models or athletes

you have anxiety, low self-esteem, an obsessive personality or are a perfectionist

you have been emotionally, physically or sexually abused

nhs.uk. (2021). Overview - Anorexia. [online] Available at: https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/anorexia/overview/#overview. ‌