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I don't want to look like a girl, I want to look like one of those sea dragons that pretend to be leaves
hell yeah
#gender fluid#lgbtq#gay shit#sea dragons#gender#marine life#gender thoughts#thoughts#fantasy#nonbinary#marine biology
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Feeling a lot of things lately (including gender things) and found this old comic I never finished from a conversation with my old therapist.
Copy/pasting this from my patron post: if you're seeing this and are having gender thoughts - always be true and real to yourself, however that might be. You define yourself on every step of your journey - that is a power ONLY you have and that no one can take away from you. However you identify, at this moment and in your future moments, is the truest and most genuine way for you and that is beautiful and should always be celebrated. Your expression - internal and external, how it might stay, how it might change - and all the splendor within it is because of you and who you are. The world is more lovely to have you in it and its beauty is expanded by your presence every day. Please remember that. 💖 💖
#digital art#digital painting#illustration#comic#gender#gender thoughts#hmmmm we're feeling things in this chili's tonight
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so you know that post that’s like “stop telling people they can’t call themselves FTM, i lived as a girl for years i WAS a girl”?
well there’s a reblog on that post about being really protective of your pre transition self and it just really hit home for me.
kind of without realizing it i have a tendency to refer to pre coming out me as a girl, i use she/her pronouns when i talk about pre coming out me, all that jazz. and it never crossed my mind that that was weird? that it was somehow not normal to talk about pre coming out me as a girl or with she/her pronouns.
because I’M not a girl. my pronouns are they/them. why wouldn’t i refer to younger me the same way?
and i think it really does come down to being so fiercely protective of my younger self. she was such a strong and resilient little girl. she endured far too much bullying that went ignored by teachers. she was so hard on herself, she buried her emotions because she didn’t want to be a problem.
but she had hopes and dreams and goals and for fuck’s sake she WAS going to achieve it all.
and she was a girl. her girlhood was so intrinsic to who she was.
and i don’t see why i should discredit that? why i should have to they/them my past self so that it makes sense to other people.
that little girl is not who i am now. i’ve got healthier relationships with the people in my life, i have so many more amazing and beautiful friendships in my life, i no longer bury my feelings.
but if one thing hasn’t changed it’s that i’m still determined as all hell to achieve my dreams and goals. because i want to make that little girl that i was proud.
her biggest dream in life was to become a scientist, and now i’m here making those dreams come true. i’m here taking calculus and gen chem and signing up for ochem next year because if that’s what it takes, i’m gonna fucking do it.
yes a lot of my dreams and goals now are the same ones i had when i was younger. but knowing that i’m making that little girl, that girl who was hurting and confused why no one cared, proud makes it so much better.
i may not be a girl anymore. i may have grown into a non-binary genderfuck of a person. but the little girl that i was holds so much space in my heart. she is shrouded in love and care and tenderness because why would i hurt her? why would i hurt her more by acting like who she was was a lie?
she was a little girl. and she was amazing. and i want to honor that. i want to protect that.
i’m not really sure where this is going but my point is that it’s not only ok but BEAUTIFUL to be protective of your pre transition self. it’s so valid to talk about your pre transition self in terms of your AGAB. you don’t have to, obviously, but if you do and if that’s what feels right for you? don’t let anyone tell you it’s wrong.
#idk just some thoughts on gender that have been sitting in my drafts for a bit#trans#transgender#enby#nonbinary#gender talk#gender thoughts#long post
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#gender feels#gender thoughts#gender jokes#polls#gender is a performance#gender performance#lgbt+#enby stuff
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The whole "A male is only born to the Gerudo once in a hundred years" presents a fascinating psychological crucible
By accident of birth, you're othered from the rest of your people. There is literally no one else like you. No one alive at least. You are born in the shape and in the shadow of long dead monarchs, Great Men.
But what does it mean to be a man in a society that is otherwise comprised entirely of women (I do not believe in gender essentialism; but I do believe in societal pressures). You are a boy and are constantly reminded of it. A boy without a father, without brothers; and when you become a man, you will never have sons of your own or even nephews. You're a single drop of masculinity in a ocean of mothers, sisters, wives, daughters, nieces; awash in femininity but forever separate from it. You are a man and that makes you king.
Before you're out of swaddling, you're placed on a pedestal. Elevated, in some regards. Afforded the greatest privileges available to your people. But they're not quite your people. However thinly it is presented, there's always going to be a degree of separation from everyone you know and care about. Your otherness is constantly reinforced, celebrated even. You're going to be a king. And you don't get a choice in the matter. You must stand alone, forever.
There are other men in the world, but they are not Gerudo. There are Gerudo, but none of them are men. The only people who could understand your struggle exist only as imperious statues and aspirational legends. They are Gerudo men, just like you, but they're not people anymore. They are kings, conquerors, shapers of history, children of destiny, great men. You are a man and that means you are destined for greatness.
Try not to crack under the pressure.
#legend of zelda#gender thoughts#this doesn't preclude the existence of trans gerudo#and they obviously don't see men as superior to women#look at the way they treat outsiders#being a Gerudo Man though... oh boy (literally)#basically Assigned Leader At Birth#that's a lot of pressure to put on a baby#the reins are put in your hands but you're bound to the cart#also btw even though you're a king among us – that pointy-eared shlub over there lives an easier life than you will ever have#just take pride in the fact that you're a king and Super Special! :D#no wonder Ganondorf is nuts#when your only idols are ghosts
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I HAVE SOME OPINIONS ABOUT SUPERNATURAL GENDERBENDS.
Listen. I love that image of fem dean that most people in fandom have, with her being like a really cool masc woman with an undercut who is confident in her bisexuality and has no problem sleeping with both men and women. I love her dearly.
BUT. Realistically speaking. Look at john winchester (and tell me there’s god). and the amount of INSANE toxic masculinity bullshit that goes on in canon dean’s brain that actively makes his life worse.
Imagine what kind of GIRL would john winchester raise.
Fem dean would have contradicting roles she needs to fit in. on one hand there’s this image of picture perfect mother/wife that mary was in john’s eyes and that he forces on deanna. On the other theres Family Business which you Can Never Escape. She should be daddy’s daughter, good older sister, future mother and wife but she can never achieve that, so she is ultimately Fails as a Woman. Insert canon dean’s thoughts about being a freak. Worst case of “not like other girls” mentality. Mary as unachievable ideal of traditional femininity which is totally alien to deanna.
And talking about fem sam in my mind Jessica stays her Girlfriend
And that is the core of deanna and sam’s conflict actually because in dean’s eyes sam escapes Family Business so surely she can now be the Right Woman even if deanna herself cant have that?
WRONG, sam doesn’t give a shit about johns views on gender roles, she wants to be a lawyer of all things and lives with another woman. A fucking slap in the face.
John the kind of father to forbid sam from painting her nails in high school cause The Hunt but also gets mad at her for cutting her hair short over a sink.
ALSO I think it would be INSANELY COOL for sam to have hoodies with those 2000s graphic crosses/angel wings prints as sort of foreshadowing
And Rowena is a dilf witch now yeah.
#my art#supernatural#supernatural fanart#dean winchester#sam winchester#genderbend#dean winchester is an older sister#gender thoughts#when sam is in hell deanna becomes a soccer mom#oh and also gabriel's fem vessel is inspired bt bridget jones
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I wish talking about detransition in any positive way wasn't completely co-opted by terfs and detrans kinks with the most violent, humiliating and degrading fantasies imaginable.
Because there is something profoundly beautiful and almost erotic in watching your own body change into something completely unfamiliar and uncanny, and intensely unexpected. The permanent changes of HRT being treasured souvenirs of a past life and an intrinsic part of you.
Feeling your hair texture change under your own fingertips. Your body changes once, twice, three times, you lose count but it's always uncharted territory. Just an alien shape to your own hips forming contours you don't recognize and will spend your next lifetime, one of many, exploring.
#I spent all my conscious years a boy. This is my first time being a girl; my first time being a woman#I wish this was treated more like the insanely fascinating and terrifying adventure it is/a lived experience than a rightwing talking point#Detransition#Detrans#Gender thoughts
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✨✨ I just want to be a pretty little girlthing. I want to be the girliest person that has ever girled. I want to be so cute and pretty that everyone can't help but call me adorable. I want people to use all of my pronouns, not just the normal ones. I want to have the cutest little wardrob known to humanity. I want to be accepted.... Is that too much to ask? ✨✨
Terfs, swers, chasers, and sissy blogs dni
#kae thots#gender thoughts#kae gender#trans girlthing#girlthing#just girlthing thing#kae vent#trans girl#trans#transgender#transfem
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Day 17 of Turning me into Me
I think I've achieved a milestone in my journey, I became the subject of office gossip!
I am fairly open at my place of work and I've been telling the people I want to tell that I am trans. I prefer that. It means I get to connect with that person and let them know that I'm inviting them in to a part of my life that I want them in. I've had sincere comings out where I wished they were family, I've had comings out where the person has actually reciprocated and invited me in to their life. I've had funny and abrupt comings out to keep things light and funny. Unfortunately because of how my work.. uh, works, there are some people I've missed and I didn't want to come out via message because it felt so impersonal.
Well it turns out that the person I wanted to come out to got whisper of my news and it actually made coming out to them much more fun. They were lamenting to a colleague that they hadn't seen me in so long, and as they got to chatting they went "well didn't you hear the big thing about [old name]?" and they asked what big thing, "well [old name] is trans, shaved the beard and everything". Well that day I got a lot of messages on Discord of "holy shit this is so amazing!!! what's your name? have you got clothes? aaaaAAHHHH!" I didn't mind being outed, although I think its a strong word in this case, as my workplace is quite safe. It was so endearing.
I saw them today, and I managed to finish coming out to them. I managed to tell them how much I adored them, and how I wanted to just share so much with them, and how I was going to steal their look because it was so good, all the stuff I couldn't tell them before. They were so happy I could be this emotional with them. But they had to leave before I could get to the more complex stuff, so we're having a catch up soon.
I am so happy that I have people in my life that just want to celebrate. They want to cherish and embrace, they embody everything that I couldn't. But now I can, and I am so much happier.
#saphi's journey#transition timeline#trans pride#trans joy#transgender#transfem#trans#mtf trans#girlslikeus#transisbeautiful#mtf#coming out#lgbt#transfemme#gender journey#gender thoughts#gender euphoria
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I'm so glad I got over the fear of having a like weird name or being a nonbinary stereotype, I love my name so much !! I love being called Clover I love being happy about my name and loving the way it sounds instead of mumbling through my own name when asked for it like I used to
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I feel like being Agender is like a catch 22 where you have to not care enough about your gender in order to feel agender but care enough about your gender to actually go through with identifying as agender.
Like maybe I am agender at least a little bit I honestly don't think I care enough about my gender or the whole situation in general to do anything about it
#i don't really get gender#why do we care about gender again?#agender#trans memes#gender thoughts#do whatever you want with your gender#gender is weird#NonBinary
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I wonder if the popularity of time-travel do-over narratives (Marry My Husband, Perfect Marriage Revenge, a million other webtoons) is connected to gender expectations. The heroines live mild-mannered, passive, compliant lives, and are rewarded with utter disaster. Their second chance do-over lets them justify aggressive, unfeminine behavior.
Time-travel murder victim defies her murderous mother-in-law? YOU GO GIRL. Regular heroine defies mother-in-law? Maybe give going-along a chance?
Reincarnated heroine maneuvers to improve her husband's political standing? If she doesn't, the kingdom falls. Regular heroine? Chill out, schemer.
Hm.
#gender thoughts#marry my husband#perfect marriage revenge#for my derelict favorite#kdrama#tropes#my in laws are obsessed with me#webtoon
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I'm occasionally a girl, but not in a time-dependent genderfluid way. More like the way a cucumber is a fruit in the botanical sense but a vegetable in the culinary sense.
#tesserants#gender thoughts#ive been thinking about this for a while and finally hit on this fairly succinct analogy
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Do other AFAB demigirls or AMAB demiboys feel like they’re not “queer enough” relating to their gender?
I’ve been kinda struggling w this. I KNOW I’m nonbinary, and I KNOW that I don’t have to prove my identity to anyone, but it feels like I’m not allowed to say that I’m not cis/nonbinary bc I still present feminine and don’t have to deal with nearly as many of the struggles GNC people (cis or not) or transmasc/transfem people do.
Funny since I do experience some dysphoria in things like being called a ‘woman’, but being called a girl colloquially or being referred to with she/her pronouns don’t bother me. I experience no chest dysphoria, but do feel some bottom dysphoria.
TLDR: nonbinary gender complicated
#also lesbian is a gender (esp femme lesbian)#like femme is a massive part of my identity#but I’m STILL getting used to saying I’m a lesbian#demigirl#demiboy#demigender#nonbinary#gender thoughts
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I feel like I’m into boys in the way that boys are into boys not the way that girls are into boys.
But don’t get it twisted I’m also only into girls the way girls are into girls not how boys are into girls.
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I'm not a girl, but I am a woman.
I'm not a man, but I am your boy.
My pronouns are she/her, but I'm not femme.
I'm not transmasc, but I present that way.
I'm not a girl.
I'm a butch 💖
#gender thoughts#silvey rambles#lesbian#butch lesbian#butch#butch4butch#butch4femme#butch4all#polyamory#silveys polycule#genderqueer#polyam
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