Void No. 1 (The Earth)

Void No. 2 (The Unknown)

Void No. 3 (The Heavens)

Void No. 4 (The Cosmos)

Void No. 5 (The Deep)

Void No. 6 (The Ether)

Void No. 7 (The Soil)

Void No. 8 (The Dawn)

Void No. 9 (The Dusk)

Gotta say, I've been out as a lesbian for 3 years and nonbinary for a year and a half. And I've noticed something.

Just because someone *always* gets your name and pronous correct, and angrily calls out anyone who forgets, doesn't necessarily mean they support you.

Conversely, just because someone struggles to remember your name and pronouns, or can't wrap their head around gender neutral/neo pronouns at all, doesn't necessarily mean they DON'T support you.

This is applicable to any situation really not just queer shit. Watch what people do, not just what they say, and you will find your friends. Someone might shower you with compliments and have common interests with you, but what happens when you tell them no? Do they get angry when they are corrected? Do they have kind things to say about other people?

My colleagues wouldn't know a gender-neutral pronoun if one hit them in the face with a dictionary, but they make sure I've had a lunch break and get home safely. They have my back if I have a difficult patient. They defend me against other staff members who like to create drama and bitch about people as if they're still in the school playground. If someone has something to say about me being a big ol' queer, they make it known that discrimination has no place in our unit.

My best friend in the whole entire world forgets my name and pronouns every day. When the organisers of her therapy group changed "men and women" to "people" and "he/she" to "they" in order to be more inclusive, there was outcry. Everything from the "it just doesn't sound right" grammar-policing nonsense to the "f*cking special snowflakes are offended by everything". She came down on them like a ton of bricks. She said if the organisers hadn't told them that it was changing, that they wouldn't have noticed. She told them they obviously haven't loved someone outside of the gender binary and they were missing out. She then told them how she had seen me grow and develop since I came out, and how in awe she was of the person I had become. No, she doesn't understand it at all, but why should that mean that she can't be there for me and appreciate how happy I am to be able to be me? Why should that mean, because you lot don't understand it, that someone with the same issues as the rest of the therapy group feels unsafe and unwelcome and doesn't get their issues resolved? As a result, a few of them changed their minds, INCLUDING HER OWN FATHER, and the rest at least shut the hell up about it.

ON THE FLIP SIDE...

A queer person who used my correct name and pronouns delighted in making me walk on eggshells, inventing reasons to be angry with me, convinced me I was a terrible person and even went as far as to try and turn me against my own therapist. They tried to tell me that my therapist only said I was a good person because she was paid to, and that because they themselves had a psychology degree that they could tell I had all these complexes and needed to work hard to be a good person, and it was unlikely I'd never get there. (I chose to listen to my therapist and stop being friends with this person).

A queer person who used my correct name and pronouns continued to do things that made me uncomfortable when I asked them to stop. Never said in as many words "you're not allowed to hang out with your friends" but conveniently had an emergency every time I had plans, and accused me of being uncaring if I needed my own space. They knew I had difficulty asking for help, but still got angry with me when I asked because I didn't ask "soon enough".

A queer person who used my correct name and pronouns told me they would look after me and they didnt. .

A queer person threatened to misgender me MORE when I corrected them.

I'm just saying, that if you choose to yeet everyone who doesn't get your name and pronouns right... that doesn't necessarily make you safe. We live in a very binary world. As much as we want that to change, it won't if we ignore or shout at the bits we don't like. (Believe me, I've tried).

How to use Luar/Luan/Lua pronouns!

So, these are neos, a set of pronouns that are considered 'new' and wouldn't be he/she/they!

While they/them is great too! And i encourage you to use it if Neos get difficult. (He/Him is good if you're struggling to use They/Them! ^^) My preferred pronouns are Luar/Luan/Lua!

Luar is in place of their/his!

Luan is in place of them/him!

And Lua would be in place of They/He!

For example:

In this sentence: "He hurt his wrist while his wife was playing tennis with him!"

You would do: "Lua hurt luar wrist while luar wife was playing tennis with luan!"

Again, it can get confusing! So while I'd prefer these, in the end, They/Them or He/Him is fine! ^^ just you taking the tine to read means a lot, so thanks!

(Psst, btw! I'm okay with any masc/neutral terms! Like dude, bri, son, child, Kiddo, kid, etc!)

The order of the nonbinary flag colors:

ID [The nonbinary flag, four horizontal stripes of the same size, the colors are yellow (top), white, purple and black.] end ID

I'll teach you all the silly way I learned the order of the nonbinary flag colors:

First think about a fried egg 🍳: the yellow is on top and the white right bellow it.

Then you think about a purple shoe: the sole will be black, so purple first, black is the last!

That's it 😆

The most exciting thing for me personally about the potential of top surgery is the proposed ability to sleep without a shirt. That's it. That's all I need. No shirt. No bra. Just boxers.

Not sure how I'm gonna articulate that to a specialist who also wants a medical reason to yeet my tits off, but I'm sure I'll figure it out

HAPPY PRIDE

Reasons you should vote Gonzo in the @nonbiney-swag-competition

1. Look at the absolute swag

2. We must beat Kris because they beat Raines ass in round one and I’m mad abt that

3. THE SWAG- JUST LOOK AT HIM

HE INVENTED THE BUTTON UP SHIRT ENBY SWAG

4. Gonzo must win in memory of my beloved Wakko circa round two

*Gone but not forgotten* 😔✊

BE A FINE UPSTANDING CITIZEN AND VOTE GONZO!!!!!!

How I process my gender:

Me trying to prove to myself that I’m not a “girl” bc I like Legos and that’s a “boyish” thing, but then finding out the reason I like Legos is bc I get giddy with miniature versions of anything and that’s usually more associated with girls, and then finally concluding that my gender isn’t associated to what society attaches gender to and I can like mini things and legos and be nonbinary and it doesn’t matter and anyway gender is just a social construct and it doesn’t even exist so I can just like what I like and my gender doesn’t even matter. The end.

(And as a side note: protect trans kids 🏳️‍⚧️)