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sobeksewerrat · 6 months

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Mini-Drew-Analysis for His Birthday!!

Since yesterday was my lovely Drewy-bear's birthday, I decided to write a bullshit little blurb talking about how I interpret his character, and how much (I think) people misinterpret his aggression during the drakeup.

I won't include anything about the music club, since it has been a while since I rewatched the series as a whole and memories of them interacting with Drew are kinda rusty and that deserves its own essay.

Like the Milly/Ep.3 post, I *might* briefly mention a lot of my own trauma or experiences and compare them to Drew's behaviours, so apologies in advance if that bothers you.

Now, firstly, I would like to establish his major relationships in the show since most of his characterization comes from said relationships.

ZOEY:

Droey is arguably Drew's second-most-important relationship, despite the lack of screentime (which I am really salty about).

Now, whilst I love the aroace and gay Drew headacanons, I think we can all agree that he did love Zoey to some extent. The photo in Zoey's room and the fact that he is willing to fulfil her ever wish are proof enough in my eyes.

Drew's love-language is gift-giving (same, Drew, same). It was been confirmed that his parents get him everything they want since HIS FIRST APPEARANCE.

"Well, they bought it for me last night!"

I'm mostly theorising here, but going off of this alone: Drew's parents have been (and still are) very absent in his life.

They couldn't give him enough attention nor affection when he was a kid so they just opted to shove lavish gifts and money in his face to show him their [persumed] love for him.

So, Drew grew up with the virtue that love is mainly expressed through money and expensive gifts ingrained into his head since he was a young child.

He only buys gifts for people he deeply loves and cares about, it's not just a way of flexing or getting people to like him (more on that in the Jake part).

Drew loved Zoey, from the bottom of his heart, so he bought her everything she asked for and took her on dates to the mall regularly to show her how deep his affection for her is.

That's why he was so concerned and "suspicious" when she stopped asking for so many gifts.

He wasn't worried that she was "cheating", he was worried that she didn't loved him anymore, that she was going to leave him.

Moreover, Drew is a very distrustful person by nature, and those he trusts, he trusts deeply.

Those are the only people he allows himself to be emotional around or express his interests and hobbies to, but even then he still has an invisible wall surrounding him.

He lets them be close enough to understand him on a surface level, but not close enough to see his true colours and vulnerabilities (same, Drew, same ×2. Also, Milly parallel!!).

Zoey was naturally one of those few people he trusted, and she broke that trust.

That's why he was so hurt after Zoey left him. He trusted her, he was willing to go to the ends of the earth for her, he loved her.

But she cheated on him. She took advantage of him. She broke his trust.

And even without all of the above, anybody would get scarred and hurt by their partner cheating on them, manipulating them, and using them for money (trust me, I am speaking from personal experience here).

Well, Zoey betrayed him...at least his other friends are still-

HENRIAM:

WRONG. THEY HURT HIM TOO.

Let me elaborate.

We don't get enough screentime to see Drenriam interact so I can't write about them separately (FUXK YOU JAKE AND THE NUSIC FREKA DFOR HOGFINF ALL THE SCREENTOME).

But, we know Drew cares about them. And they know it too.

"Come on, you know you love us" (Henry, Ep5)

And Drew doesn't respond. He just blushes, rolls his eyes and stays silent, which I think is confirmation enough.

"buT hE iS mEAn tO tHeM!1!1" I hear a Drew-anti cry from afar while clutching their limited-edition Jailey keychains.

My guy, my gal, my enby pal, do you even HAVE friends?!?

You're only nice for the first month or so and THAT'S IT, you've gone past the expiry date of nice and become mean and brutally insult each other lightheartedly and call each other "Freak" affectionately. Sometimes it takes even less than that.

Again, they were two of the only few people he trusted.

And they also broke that trust by hiding Zoey's cheating from him. They even think about her gold-digging as JOKE (flashback to ep2 opening scene).

"They were blackmailed!!"

I don't even think I have the patience to elaborate on why that is a stupid fucking excuse. Zoey had no dirt on Jake, no?

They could have told him to tell Drew, or they could have just told him but tell him not to tell Zoey they were the ones who told on her or whatever.

I think the only reason Drew stuck with them during the finale was because he was truly alone. He had nobody else, so he stuck with the last shred of his life before Jake left, even if he hated them now (still can't wait for the Drake-up 2.0, where Drew breaks off his friendship with Henriam and falls into deep, deep depression<44).

(WAIT FUCK THEN DRIAM WONT BE CANON SH-)

Lia(and why Dria /p will never happen imo):

Yeah no it won't happen. Lia distanced herself from Zoey,and she will definitely start hanging out with Jake and the others and completely ditch the Dromies.

Yknow just completely cut off Drew from any form of emotional support system let him SUFFER

JAKE:

Oh the dreaded part-

Here we go ig.

Jake sucks. He was a horrible friend. That is the thesis, that is the topic sentence, that is what I will start with.

Let me just document every major shitty thing Jake did that I can remember atm.

1. He blackmailed Zoey and hid the fact that she was cheating on Drew from him, which breaks his trust (I elaborated on this more in my ep.3 analysis!!)

2. He lied to Drew about being grounded to ditch him for club practice, I am not even gonna try to explain why that is super shitty anybody with 2 braincells and 2 milligrams of basic human decency (which Jake apparently lacks) should be able to realize this on their own. Especially since Drew clearly has trust and attachment issues (his clearly possessive nature of Jake, being that he is one of the closest people to home). Actually, he also lied to him at the end of ep1 wtmf

3. Trying to give his laptop away to Sean. It isn't even about how rude it is to give away an expensive gift, it is about how oblivious Jake is to Drew's feelings. He doesn't even CARE about what Drew feels at all.

Drew feels like Jake is his closest friend, like he's the only person who truly understands him, when this shows that it is quite the opposite in fact.

Jake doesn't understand that it is more than just an expensive gift given by a spoiled kid with too much money to spend. It is a symbol of how much Drew loves him (platonically or otherwise). All of the gifts he buys for him are.

Drew is emotionally-constipated. We (sadly) don't get to see how they met exactly (only one picture to elude to it). But, I think I have an idea.

Drew sees Jake, a loner who's bullied by everyone and sitting all alone. He feels bad and wants to talk to him. He doesn't know how to approach him, so he tries the only way he knows.

All of his other friends and classmates would always seem impressed and fawn over him whenever his parents would buy him something new, so maybe it would work this time?

So he approaches Jake, and offers to let him play with his new switch, because that is the only possible way (in his head) to talk to him.

It is not like Jake doesn't value Drew, but this shows how little he actually knows; that him trying to fit in has caused him to completely misunderstand Drew. Idk man I don't really like Jake so I don't like analysing him please any jake kinnie try to explain.

Now, Jake has been spending a lot of time with the music club, and that has been triggering Drew's attachment issues. What was so great about those freaks anyway??

That whole scene in ep.9 was just his attachment and validation issues on full display, an essay on jagged--dust-jacket-analysis explains way better than I ever could, so check it out!!

When Jake yells at him and leaves in ep.10 and implies that there is something Zoey is hiding it...it breaks him, for all the reasons I stated before.

After Henriam explain everything, it just confuses and hurts him more.

But why would Jake hide this from him? Wasn't he his best friend? Why is he apologising to those freaks, but not him?!

It must be that Hailey girl, she is the one fucking with his head.

He'll confront her. He'll expose her for the fraud she is, and then Jake wi-

(Look please bear with me on this part ik the drake up is a meme now but please let us try to treat it seriously for once)

"Back off, Drew"

Jake chose the freaks. Jake is defending them.

"The club is what I care about- MY FRIENDS!"

His friends?? What was he??

This...this was all for Daisy wasn't it?

What passion was he talking about?!

He never told them anything!!

Why would he hide Zoey's cheating from him!?

Wasn't he his best friend?!

Was he lying to them this whole time..?

"You're right. Drew, Henry, Liam, I'm sorry,"

He is sorry. Drew didn't bother listening to the rest. It was basically confirming what he'd already concluded.

Jake lied to him.

They all did.

"I'm sorry"

Those words were meaningless.

Sorry, sorry, sorry, that's what they all said!

Accepting this apology would make him seem weak.

Allowing Jake to abandon him would make him weak.

Breaking down crying would make him weak.

Apologising, when he'd done absolutely nothing wrong in his own eyes, would make him weak.

And if there is one thing Drew hated more than anything else, it is appearing weak.

Appearing vulnerable, letting people take advantage of him like all of his friends and his girlfriend did.

"I'm done with you,"

Drew walked away without making eye contact with anybody. He didn't even look to see if Henry and Liam were following him, and he frankly didn't care.

They were all assholes anyways.

They all used him.

Nobody mattered to him anymore. He was fine before meeting them, he'd definitely be fine without them, right?

Drew was leaving them all behind, he'd cut them out.

He would be better off without them.

Conclusion/Closing Thoughts:

I must admit, this did turn fanfic-y midway and it is not the most well-put together, I was really rushing to finish this.

A lot of what I am describing here is my subjective opinion and what I percieve ad Drew's P.O.V, not the objective facts.

Another confession I must make is that most of what is here is just me projecting a few months of therapy sessions onto Drew. My therapist dissected a lot of internal issues with me naturally, and they served to help me understand myself better and realize how much of my own issues applied on Drew aswell.

As I progress with my therapy and learn more about my own baggage, I might be able to remove the biased lens that I am seeing Drew through and might write a more well-constructed and objective analysis of him in the near future.

For now, however, this is all I have. Hope you liked it!! Happy late-birthday to Drewy Bear, and have a great day/night everybody!!!

#the music freaks #tmf #sobek rants #tmf drew #drew tmf #kin posting #(<rechnically)#freakblr #rosyblr #freakblr/rosyblr #tw repeating words #tw cheating

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milomilesmib · 5 months

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Rating emoji trans flags

🏳️‍⚧️: 7/10. Simple. Classic. Easy to understand. A bit too basic tho.

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵: 9/10. Very nice. Aesthetically pleasing. Points deduced because not everyone has the pink and light blue hearts.

🫐🍑🥥🍑🫐: 5/10. Cute but the colours are a little off and it's not too practical.

❄️🌸🌼🌸❄️: 7.5/10. Cute. Seasonal. Kinda random. It's giving winter wedding and I'm here for it.

🐳🐙🦢🐙🐳: 6/10. Pretty subtle. Nice theme. Not likely to ever use it.

🎽👚🧦👚🎽: 4/10. Colours are on point but the rest of it is just awkward.

☄️🦄👻🦄☄️: 4.5/10. Cute but way too light.

🪩🎂🍸🎂🪩: 5/10. Nice balance, fun party theme, but other than that it doesn't really look like the flag.

🐦🦩🕊️🦩🐦: 6/10. Fun bird theme but the colours are off.

💦🪱🌫️🪱💦: 8.5/10. This is actually cute! Nice rainy day theme and the colours are next to perfect. Kinda random and not likely to be recognised as the trans flag, tho.

🏦🏩🏥🏩🏦: 2/10. The only points are cause the colours are pretty good. Other than that it sucks. I hate banks and hospitals, even though they're useful they make me feel icky in two completely different ways.

⛸️🎀🧦🎀⛸️: 7/10. This one's pretty cute. I like how the blue and pink are fun and the white is just plain comfy. It has some nice balance too but the colours are eh.

🚿🧼🧻🧼🚿: 1/10. What. I need to go to bed.

♀️♂️💭♂️♀️: 5/10. There's no fucking enby version of the blue and pink. I guess all enbies are overthinkers? Also TOO BASIC.

Anyways I'm done. Enjoy the shitpost of me throwing emojis together

#emojis #pride #trans #crappost #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqiia+#2slgbtqia+

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aphantpoet · 2 years

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Queer rep is not a vacuum

There is so much debate over what is and is not queer rep and it seems to change with each new show. For this I’m going to explore four series that I’m personally a fan of and break down their rep individually ;LOK, SPOP, TOH and Arcane. I will do it this way because Queer rep is not a vacuum.

It is first important to understand the perspective I’m coming at from this: so Yaama, if you don’t know me I’m a queer [Enby and Demi sexual lesbian]and indigenous [Australian] writer; I mainly write about queer people for queer people. I also want to say that I am not bashing any of these series, I love them all.

1. Korrasami

Korra and Asami have a slightly rocky relationship when they first meet but they become fast friends. Both characters are confirmed Bisexual and their relationship is far more obvious from a queer perspective. They are far less explicit than other shows on this list but that is due to studio censorship.

The ship itself is really sweet. Both women are close and support each other with Korra writing to only Asami at one of the roughest times of her life.

This ship, being the first queer rep in Avatar, followed by Kya being confirmed as a lesbian, gets a lot of flack for being too subtle and not built up enough. As much as I do not like Some writers on the Avatar team, I do genuinely believe they were trying their best here.

The ship itself isn’t problematic and came at a time when there was little rep in mainstream media, let alone kids media. While it has it’s issues, it is some of the first rep kids in my generation saw. Sue me, I’ve got nostalgia.

2.SPOP

This is a contentious one but it cannot be denied that SPOP was full of Queer rep. Spinetossa, catradora, None of the princesses were straight and Double Trouble.

SPOP is unashamed of it’s queer rep and as world where no one is straight, no one is homophobic. This provides escapism that we as queer people sometimes need.

While Catradora has it’s criticisms, it’s a beautiful ship that underpins the narrative and drives the plot. to call it “toxic” or “abusive” ignores the nuance of the story.

Spinetossa is a solid relationship that provides fluff and comedic relief in the darker episodes. they’re background characters but the nature of their relationship is clear from the start. they’re always together, they wear chokers with each other's colours . From the get go, before we even hear the cute nicknames we know they are a unit.

Double Trouble , while stemming from a problematic trope, is a solid character with complexities and comedy gold to spare. While the trope of making nonbinary characters non human is dodgy at best in a show where cis characters are also not human they don’t stand out too much so they can have a pass.

3. TOH

TOH is also unashamedly queer, Eda, Raine, Willow’s dads, Lumity, Edric.I’ve also seen commendations on the Neurodivergent rep but that’s not my place.

Disney was obviously trying to censor things earlier on but around late season two A Dana stopped giving a shit and good for her. We got Edric having a partner, to quote his sister Emira “ After he accidentally sent a love poem to THEIR mum”. Love that for him. The first Lumity kiss and them getting together and everything after it.

Willows dads’, minor and cliched as they may be do not come of a tokenistic, a nice change from other shows there the Mc’s best friend’s queer parents is often some of the only rep.

And Raine, a nonbinary person, who while not quite human isn’t an alien/robot/demon/spirit. They’re also a prominent character and their relationship with Eda is just a delight.

Cool Aunt Lilith, AroAce queen and all the flags in season three and it’s only the first episode.

there are some issues with Luz dating her friends ex bully but they address it and smooth it over.

4.Arcane

The biggest thing to come out of Arcane was CatVi/Violyn. I’ve seen some people ship Caitlyn and Jayce but that’s a small group.

Both character’s are confirmed as lesbians.While I love Luz I do find that lesbians do often get left behind in representation or claimed as Bi when they aren’t.

there’s not much else in terms of queer rep for Arcane but it’s very clearly a world where homophobia isn’t an issue.

The CatVi relationship is also important to the story and builds up over the first season. the show isn’t concerned with it but it’s nice to see.

All this to say, Queer rep isn’t a vacum, just because one series shows wholesome queer people and another shows messy,complicated queer love does not make either superior to the other. To put wholesome queer relationships over messy ones perpetuates respectability politics. Both can be good queer rep, both can be bad queer rep.

#queer representation #queer cartoons #lesbian #lgbtq community #lok #korrasami #spop #catradora #toh #toh raeda #TOH lumity #willow's dads #lillith clawthorne #Arcane #catvi #violyn #queer meta #bisexual

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kitkatscabinet · 2 years

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Ohhh I have a Dylan x reader request where the reader replaced Laura as nurse supervisor (as a favor to Chris who is a family friend) but she mostly stays in the room and doesn’t open up to anyone since she’s shy but closed to others (similar to Nick). But Dylan kind of fell for her the first time she arrived and has been trying to get her to open up to him every day since they met and she’s slowly accepting him and also fall for him.

Ok so I am not a shy person at all, but I do have a lot of anxiety so I hope the two kind of translate.

Also I keep taking requests for Dylan for my mlm and enby audiences, while it may not be confirmed canon that he is gay I am still uncomfortable writing for a female reader at this point in time

Genre: fluff

Word count: 1079

Placing what must have been your 100th band aid on a scratch likely caused by a branch of some sort, you sent the kid off on his way and sighed in relief as you were once again alone. You enjoyed helping to fix the kids up when they needed it but you weren’t very good at socialising and it had been a very long day. Kids were easier than adults though and you had promised to fill in for Chris as a favour. You only got about 20 minutes of alone time before the door was opening again, looking up to see what was needed you felt your breath hitching at the sight of Dylan, oh no attractive people were even harder to talk to.

For some reason he had been coming to visit you at least once everyday since you’d been introduced to the other counsellors and you had no idea why. It wasn’t like you were a very good conversation partner, you could barely even get through a sentence without stuttering. Your throat always seemed to dry up or you would say something completely stupid and embarrass yourself. You weren’t able to hide your slight whine at his appearance not missing the way his expression fell a little at your reaction. Shit, now you should probably apologise but the words just wouldn’t make their way past your throat.

“Is this uh, a bad time” he said, clearing his throat in what appeared to be nervousness.

“No!” you yelled out as he turned to leave, mortification filling your veins as your shoulders came up around your ears. The action caused Dylan to smile fondly but you were too busy averting your gaze to notice. It hadn’t taken Dylan long to figure out you tended to hunch in on yourself like that when you were really overwhelmed and he found it adorable. Like a little turtle, his adorable little turtle, deciding to give you some time to calm down he waited at the door for a while before slowly stepping closer.

Taking a seat on the bed across from you he asked you how your day was and was delighted to find you responding with ease. He had found out your favourite colour yesterday and was planning on getting your favourite movie today, hopeful that that would lead to a bigger discussion that would still be easy enough for you. Apparently, that had been the right thing to ask as your nose scrunched up in thought and you eventually answered, asking him in return. Dylan left the building with a pep in his step, today marked the first day you had asked him a question of your own accord. He was definitely growing on you, that was enough of a victory for a while.

Following Dylan’s leave you had slammed your head down on the desk, groaning at the pain and in embarrassment for your behaviour. Why Dylan kept wasting his time trying to converse with you was a mystery. He was so nice and kind and funny and you were a shy loser that could barely string together a sentence in his presence. That was how Chris found you a few minutes later face down on a desk with your hand curled around the back of your head as you groaned.

“You ok kiddo” he asked, softly closing the door and walking up to you.

“No” you moaned out into the wood

“What happened, I’m sure it wasn’t that bad” he tried to soothe, surprised to find the slight tears gathering in the corners of your eyes. “Woah, woah back up. Explain what’s wrong”

“Dylan” you simply said before realising how that came across and grabbing Chris’s arm before he could kill the person who had put the most amount of effort into getting to know you, the person you definitely had a crush on now. “Wait not like that, he didn’t do anything wrong.” You blurted out. Taking in your expression and mannerisms Chris finally worked out what the issue was, huffing in amusement he decided it was time to have a little chat with Dylan.

Dylan was shitting bricks to say the least, he had been called into Mr Hackett’s office seemingly out of nowhere and now he had been sitting in front of the man in silence for what felt like hours. “So, what seems to be the problem Mr H” he asked, hoping his nerves weren’t obvious (they were).

“Tell me about you and my assistant nurse” he started ominously, and boy that did not bode well for him.

Hearing a knock on the door you looked up in bewilderment as it stayed closed, getting up you walked over to open it and were surprised to find Dylan standing there looking more nervous than you had ever seen.

Opening your mouth, you were interrupted by Dylan saying your name in an urgent tone, blinking owlishly you eventually pulled him inside. Sitting him down on the bed, you noticed your hand was still linked with his and tried to pull away but he wouldn’t let you. Your eyes were even wider now as you stood awkwardly in front of him shifting nervously from foot to foot.

“So, uh. What are you doing here” you finally managed to ask, breaking the silence.

“What, I can’t come to see my favourite counsellor?” he asked, but his grin wavered slightly more than usual.

“I’m your favourite?” you croaked, looking away, unable to deal with the softness in Dylan’s eyes.

“Of course, you are” he said gently before taking a deep breath “I really, really like you” he admitted. And you felt the world stop for a second as your breath hitched.

“Why” you blurted out “I’m just me, I can barely even leave the building or talk to other people without getting embarrassed.”

“That might be true for now” Dylan admitted “but you have a lot of great qualities that you don’t give yourself enough credit for. You’re good with the kids, you’re kind, you’ve always indulged me even if it was hard for you,” your heart was near pounding out of your chest now as Dylan continued to list the qualities you had that he thought were amazing. Eventually your heart couldn’t take it anymore and you tugged him into a crushing hug, you weren’t sure how long you stayed there but you knew Dylan made you feel safe, and that you really, really liked him too.

#dylan lenivy x you #dylan lenivy x reader #the quarry oneshot #the quarry #the quarry imagine #the quarry requests #the quarry dylan

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fandom-research · 2 years

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First research results!

I have managed to turn analysing the survey to be part of a uni project I have due next month so I finally found time to analyse the basics! I will link to a less colourful and "boring" table view of all of these results in a later post, as I still need to write the code for that part and it's late. For now there is image description on there!

This analysis is based on n=100 people.

Question 1: Where do you mainly read fanfiction?

Unsurprisingly most of us spend a lot of time on AO3, but I think we should pay respect to the three lonely souls who use ff.net, wattpad or tumblr respectively. But how much time are we spending reading on average? Well...

Question 2: How much time do you spent reading fanfiction in a week?

I don't know if I should be concerned that nearly 1/4 of us is spending over 15 hours per week, meaning at least 2 hours a day, reading, but then again I strongly belong into the orange category as well.

Question 3: What fandom(s) do you regularily consume fanfiction from?

I have cut to the top ten of fandoms mentioned, because the list of mentioned fandoms is too long to nicely display in any form. It isn't all that legible already.

Quick switch to bar chart, because the pie chart got too crowded and because this is a multiple choice question so the percentages wouldn't match up. Our top 3 consist of Merlin at 19%, Marvel at 37% and Harry Potter at 71%. This is the point where I really questioned the data for the first time. I don't know if these percentages are representable for fandom as a whole or if this is a case of a "selffulfilling prophecy". Meaning the channels over which I distributed the questionnaire reached only a specific group of people, namely the Harry Potter and Merlin folks, as I have the most contact to those fandoms, accidentally biasing the data.

Question 4: What ship-category do you read most often?

Funfact: for the first ... 50? 65? entries, F/M wasn't represented at all. We love our gays I guess. Different funfact: there IS the option to choose F/F in the questionnaire. It just wasn't used. Even now there is one (1) lonely soul who picked that option out of 126. (The form is still open so on there I can see more answers than I used in the analysis)

Question 5: What type of fan-content do you create?

This one was a surprise. I didn't think that there were this many people actively creating content, but then again, this might due to the people reached by this questionnaire, so possible bias again. (Top 3: Fanfiction 77%, Fanart 35%, Podfic 9%)

That's it for the fan-related part of the research, let's go on with the neurodiversity and demographic part. Especially for these coming results keep the possibility of a bias in the data in mind.

Question 6: What form of neurodiversity/mental health struggle does apply to you?

This one was the reason this research even exists, and while I haven't yet looked up what percentages of the general society have any of the neurodiversities, I believe that this is rather high, proving my subjective observation: A LOT of the people reading fanfic are neurodiverse in some way. Over half of the participants answered that they have some form of anxiety and/or depression, with some people even leaving me comments how fanfiction is their safe-space, helped them grow and accept themself. This one I will be focussing more on in the future analysis.

Question 7: What is your gender identity?

This as well surprised me to a degree. Even without comparing I know that this is FAR off of the official gender demographics of the general society. Especially the amount of enbies is surprising but nonetheless welcome.

Question 8: Do you consider yourself as part of the LGBTQIA+ community?

(No picture due to the 10 pic limit on posts) Results:

Yes: 90%

No: 6%

Prefer not to say: 4%

Now, again. A LOT of us are queer as fuck. This is most definitely not the norm in general society and even with a potential bias is significant enough to say that the majority of fanfic-readers are part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

Question 9: If you consider yourself as part of the LGBTQIA+ community, what "part" of the community?

The answers here refer to the orientation differing from hetero or the gender identity differing from cis. Keep in mind that this question was voluntary and therefore not everyone did answer this. Actual percentage might be higher. (I don't know the number of people that answered that question right now but will go into more detail at a later date)

Question 10: How old are you?

Again a voluntary question. But on average the community seems to be in their mid or late twenties, although there are also a bunch of adults over 30 enjoying fanfiction. This graph especially reminded me to not assume anything about people within the community. The other person could be someone in still in school, dealing with their first crush or big exams. It could just as well be someone working full time or someone with kids, someone with grandkids even. Fanfic is and always should be open for people of all ages.

Question 11: Where do you live?

Sadly I haven't been able to reach people in africa or antarctica but oh well. The form is still online, should anyone from there want to add their input into this statistic! ;)

Overall results:

People reading fanfic are a lot more queer, neurodiverse and in general divers than one might expect. I for one was surprised to see how willing people where to answer a stupid online survey that wasn't supposed to lead anywhere.

Thank you to everyone who answered and especially to those that left me nice comments in the form <3

#fandom research #results #harry potter #marvel #merlin #lgbtq #neurodiverse stuff

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youwerelikeanangel · 2 years

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you look so good and lilac really is a nice colour that suits you, i hope u had fun! also where did u get the lilac suit, i'm enby and i've been searching for months for a cute suit like that!!

HI thank you !!!!! and yes god had so much fun!

it’s from asos! i have the jacket in 86cm and it fits perfectly, i am 5’4/163cm and my chest is quite big so!! and the short trousers in 30, there’s also long trousers but the one i got in 28 were a tiiiny bit too tight

https://www.asos.com/de/prd/201554244?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

https://www.asos.com/de/prd/201554480?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

https://www.asos.com/de/prd/201554549?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

they have a lot of other suits too!!! and there’s a sale rn on asos so skskskjs go treat yourself

#literally felt so so hot taht day heheheh #tell me if you need more help and if you get a suit pls!!!!!#anon #asks

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gabrieltheangel · 26 days

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Get to know Gabe better

Decided to be a thief cus I woke at 2am and can't sleep, so I stole this from @bunnyboybosom

Last song: Doomed - Bring Me the Horizon

Currently watching: Rewatching a bunch of videos by hbomberguy, Folding Ideas and Weird Reads with Emily Louise

Three ships: Crowley x Aziraphale (Good Omens), Merlin x Arthur (BBC's Merlin) and Thomas x OC (Downton Abbey)

Favourite colour: Gotta be a nice dark red

Currently consuming: Nothing rn cus its ten to five in the morning

First ship: Vlad x Self insert OC (BBC's Young Dracula)

Place of birth: Derbyshire, UK

Current location: Suburbs of Derby, laying in bed

Relationship status: Dating the cutest enby for a month (they/them but uses the term boyfriend)! We asked them out while loopy on stuff after top surgery and they said "I wanna say yes but I also want to start dating with you fully aware so we will revisit this conversation tomorrow". We protested at the time but I really appreciate that actually, bless them, they're so lovely, the host dates them too and they were perfectly alright with us being a system, no weird shit about it which is always refreshing. They also are visiting soon and I'm so fucking excited to take them out and stuff cus they're staying over for a long weekend.

Last movie: Me and my sister watched Legally Blonde the other day, I'd never watched it before and she had loads, it was cute but not without its problems

Currently working on: I'm not really out enough to have projects of my own, I tend to front to protect or just have fun with my boyfriend. So I guess I'm working on getting to know my boyfriend and getting to be silly with them

I personally know no one except Clover really on tumbles so if you stumble on this, feel free to say I tagged you if you wanna have a go!

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thedamageofherdays · 2 years

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End of the Year Creative Wrap-Up

I am sure there are more tag games like this out there but this was something I thought would be fun! No one tagged is obligated to answer but I thought this would be a nice way to talk about all of our creative endeavors and reflect on the things we made this year ❤

1) What is your favourite thing you created? Which work are you the proudest of?

Picking favourites is hard but I think my favourite fics are let me just stop fighting and the dreamer who built the first trapeze. My favourite moodboard is either The Winter Knight or be soft, be kind. I am also incredibly proud of my enby witch!bucky fic but that one hasn't been shared yet as I am still working on it.

2) Is there anything else you are proud of that you achieved this year?

There was a moment this year where I felt like I wouldn't create again or do fannish things again but I am proud (and glad) that I stayed/came back to it because I ended making lovely things and I am happy to be among friends here <3 I am also proud of myself for sharing let me just stop fighting because it was such a personal story for me.

3) Did you explore anything new this year? (A new way to be creative, a trope you didn't write before or an idea you hadn't thought of earlier, etc.)

I started making moodboards which has been a lot of fun. I like that I now get to share my joy for fandom in multiple ways and it's also a great way to play with ideas I have that I don't know how to turn into a fic :) I also joined a round robin for the first time and it was my first time collaborating on a story in a really long time, it was a joy to particpate in such a lovely project with such lovely people! It made me realise I would love to collaborate more in the future.

4) Which work gave you the most difficulty? What was your biggest creative challenge this year?

I struggled with a few things this year. I planned to do Kinktober and then only wrote 4 fics, despite wanting to do much more than that. A lot of the fics I had planned for that challenge ended up being too much of a struggle. Another big creative challenge I had this year was dealing with insecurity (insecurity makes it so hard to be creative and so hard to share your works and not get sad) and dealing with starting college (because suddenly I don't have all the time in the world to be creative anymore and many more deadlines that have to be a priority).

I have a huge pile of unfinished works because insecurity got to me and I gave up on them. Some works I struggled with that I did share were Fighter (a moodboard) and Stay.

For Fighter I didn't know how to fill my prompt for the longest time and then when I did I struggled with finding pictures and getting them all to match in colour. Out of all my moodboards I think it's one I spent the most time on. Luckily I am pretty happy with the end result.

For Stay I struggled with putting everything I wanted into the fic and getting it to flow right. I also struggled with characterization for this one and still am unsure if I got it 100% right. I feel like I left too many things out in the fic in my efforts to just finish it. Even though it's not my favourite work and there are some things I already want to change, I do think it's a sweet story.

5) Which work brought you the most joy?

The work that brought me the most joy is fell in love when i saw you standing there. That was just such a delight to write and I think it's a really cute fic

6) Which of your works do you think people should check out?

I would recommend checking out these fics Lovely Days, the Pretty Magical series and Hotel Bar Daddy. For moodboards I recommend checking out Quiet Days (Stucky), The Winter Knight (Bucky Barnes), where the sea takes us (Stucky) and i believe we were meant to be (Stucky).

7) Do you have creative plans for next year? Is there anything exciting you are currently working on?

I am still working on witch!Bucky which I hope to share next year. It's a work I am really really happy with and it just brings me joy. I am also planning to join a big bang next year, which would be my first one so that's very exciting. Other than that my plan is to just keep creating things that make me happy :)

8) Lastly, any words of wisdom or anything else you would like to share?

The last things I want to mention is how grateful I have been for everyone who shares their creative works (it is so brave to share your works!) and also that I am incredibly grateful for everyone who has been kind and supportive about my works. Those things truly keep me going even when I do feel insecure about my creations and I appreciate you all SO much. And one last thing: make that self-indulgent thing because it's so so worth it, even if you are the only one who is into it. Create the things you wanna see <3

I am tagging: @dreamsinthewitchouse @otp-holic @steve-x-bucky @musette22 @howdoyousleep3 @christywantspizza @marvelousescapism @turtle-steverogers @dixons-mama @kocuria @blanket-burrito-bucky @greyhavensking @somanywords @moonagedaydreamohyeah @iamthe-wo-manwhocan @its-tortle @moonykat @riricitaa @stevebuckydogtags @between-a-ship-and-a-hard-place and @buckybarnesdeservestobehappy

(Again, absolutely no pressure at all to answer. And if anyone who isn't tagged wants to play, you are more than welcome to! I couldn't tag every creative person I know, Tumblr wouldn't let me haha 💖)

#tag game #r makes things #(let's ignore the fact that i am supposed be on a semi-hiatus and that i am apparently bad at taking a hiatus)#but yay let's talk about creativity!

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messedupessy · 3 years

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MORE WARM UP BÖYS AND A ENBY (͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ❤

Because these are the only things I am currently finishing since I am working on a very big thing currently which is taking longer and more effort than I originally thought haha xD

Anyway, ya guys have seen the two at the top before, Easefell Pepper and Thyme, but ya guys have yet to see the second pair of skele siblings, who are Easeswapfell Pip and Flip! This the first time I have drawn them digitally and with colour, not fully sure about their colours just yet but these will do for now, Pip on the left is nonbinary and go only by they/them, though I might change it a bit so they are alright with any pronouns but I haven’t decided just yet, but they a shy and overly sweet person, loves cute af things and is hella into cottagecore etc, and is also very horny always haha! And then there is their older brother Flip, who is very big brotherly, a bit grumpy at times but still welcoming, he owns a nice little bar were he is the bartender, he and Pip got a really good relationship especially compared to my usual Swapfell skeles, and I love them dearly!

So yeah, enjoy some more skeles yeye

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vampish-glamour · 3 years

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I was tagged in this by @ugh-fml but was recently blocked by OP for, unbeknownst to me, being a terf. Their reasoning for my supposed terfy ways; believing enbies can’t be lesbians. Which is the opposite of what terfs believe, but I guess that doesn’t matter because as we all know, “terf” means “person (lesbian) I don’t agree with and who makes me feel invalid”.

I’d still like to respond, because I have Thoughts.

Okay, let’s break this down.

For the whole “validity” aspect, I’ll link this post. I was actually going to include it here… but decided it should be it’s own post. So that post will cover anything here that makes an argument based on “validity”.

Now let’s look at the whole “it’s their business if they want to call themselves something that doesn’t describe them, people who that word does describe can’t complain” thing.

I’m not transgender. I don’t experience gender dysphoria, I have no desire to transition. I am comfortable with my birth sex, my birth pronouns, my birth name, everything.

But you know what…”transgender” just has such a nice ring to it. And the flag is really pretty, pink blue and white are just such a nice colour combination. I think I’m going to call myself transgender.

No, I’m not planning on transitioning from one gender/sex to the other. No, I don’t have any discomfort with my birth sex. No, the word “transgender” literally does not describe me. But it just feels right. So transgender people have no right to come and tell me that I’m not valid, because I get to pick my own identity and it’s my own business and I’m valid!! I am a female to female (FtF) transgender!!! If trans people don’t accept me as one of them, they’re FtFphobic. And to those of you who say I don’t fit the definition of transgender; I changed the definition to fit me. It doesn’t fit transgender people anymore, but that’s okay because I feel good.

I would really hope that this sounds ridiculous to you. I would hope that anyone who reads that, especially transgender people, would be rolling their eyes and ready to tell me off if I were being serious.

It doesn’t matter if I think a word (in this case, transgender) feels good, or if I think it’s my new identity. It doesn’t matter how many times I tell you I’m valid. The word does not describe me, and I therefore should not and can not use it. And if I insisted on using it despite it not describing me, trans people absolutely have the right to make it their business, because I’d be hijacking a word they use to describe themselves and using it in a way it’s not intended to be used (and in a way that it doesn’t make sense to use).

Apply this to combining nonbinary and lesbian.

Lesbian is understood to be a descriptive word of women’s homosexuality. Nonbinary is understood to be a descriptive word for those whose gender falls outside of the binary.

The two do not mix. If you say “I am a lesbian”, you are saying that you are a homosexual woman. If you say that you are nonbinary, you are saying that you are not a woman and not a man.

So to say “I am a nonbinary lesbian”, you are literally saying “I am not a woman or a man and I am a homosexual woman”.

It makes no sense.

Now regarding my above statement on how I could claim to be transgender despite not being transgender… the ridiculousness of that statement is what many people, especially homosexual women, see when we see people claiming to be a “nonbinary lesbian”. We see somebody who quite literally does not fit the definition of lesbian, calling themselves a lesbian for no good reason. We see somebody changing the definition of a term we use to describe our sexuality (note: sexuality, not identity).

On the part about “journey to discovery of self”….

What are you even talking about? What journey? What discovery? This seriously just sounds like some words strung together to sound profound and meaningful when they just… aren’t.

Yes, figuring out sexuality and gender can be a journey for some people. Redefining words and calling yourself something that doesn’t describe you doesn’t necessarily need to be part of that journey. Seriously, “lesbian = woman” is not a hard concept to grasp. If your little self discovery journey leads you to discovering you’re not a woman, congratulations, you’ve automatically discovered that you’re not a lesbian.

“Nonbinary lesbians have told me they’re lesbians, and that’s good enough for me”.

How dense. Just because somebody tells you something, doesn’t mean it’s true. I just told you earlier in this post that I’m transgender despite not being transgender in the most basic sense of the word. If I were to say what I said with complete seriousness, would that be good enough for you?? Would me, a cis girl, simply telling you that I’m FtF transgender, be good enough for you to believe that I really am transgender?? What if I started spreading my idea for FtF and got a bunch of other people on board? What if you had a bunch of FtF people telling you we’re transgender, because we saw a bunch of Tumblr posts about it and believe we’re valid trans people? Would that be good enough for you to support the idea of FtF transgender??

I certainly hope not. Because there’s no such thing as being both cisgender and transgender at the same time. Just like there’s no such thing as being not a woman, and a woman exclusively attract to women, at the same time.

And I’d like to ask, why do they think they can call themselves lesbians? Why do they want to call themselves lesbians? Why is it that people who claim to not be a binary gender, want to use a term that is binary in nature? Why do they feel the need to use a term that does not describe them?

And using the definition of lesbian that says “lesbian means woman exclusively attracted to women”, because that’s what it meant before a bunch of enbies changed it to suit their wants… what about “woman exclusively attracted to women” describes a nonbinary person in the way it describes a homosexual woman?

“You know what it’s like to be told what you should or should not be”

Yeah, I do. I see people telling homosexuals all the time that homosexuality is a sin, that it’s a temptation, that it’s unnatural, that we should get therapy to “fix” our sexuality, that our natural sexuality should be criminalized, that we should be killed for being homosexual… I could go on.

This is nowhere close to being the same as enbies being told that they cannot claim to be both genderless and a homosexual woman.

To even imply that homosexuals being told all of those things, and enbies being told to not be contradictory, are the same thing… is tone deaf and incredibly fucking insensitive.

Being told that your sexuality is unnatural and that you should change, is not the same as being told that the labels you’ve picked out for your “identity” are contradictory.

So I’m not even going to take that argument seriously, because what homosexuals are told about being homosexual, and what “nonbinary lesbians” are told about being “nonbinary lesbians”, ARE NOT THE SAME OR EVEN COMPARABLE.

At the end of all this… there is still no concrete reasoning for why somebody should be able to use a label that doesn’t describe them. Why somebody should be able to redefine that label to fit them, why they even need it to fit them in the first place.

“They’re valid” is not an argument.

“They told me so” is not an argument.

“It’s their identity” is not an argument.

What I am saying, which is;

“you cannot be both genderless and a homosexual woman. That is contradictory. You cannot use a label that doesn’t describe you, and you cannot redefine it to describe you if you cannot give a solid reason why it should describe you in the first place”,

that is an argument.

#glam’s #long post #despite my views about nb that my followers likely know… I tried to be as neutral about it here as possible

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thatfandomhoe73 · 3 years

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Reasons I want to live for when I’m feeling suicidal (other than ‘my family and friends would be sad’) in no particular order

1. Gender Euphoria

2. The pan flag looks fucking dope

3. Clouds

4. This alpaca

and this llama

5. When you’re making supper and you make the toast after everything else so you get to enjoy the warm buttery goodness while you sit down before it gets cold

6. Cuddling and every other type of tactile affection

7. Chocolate

8. Think of all the great fanfiction I’ll miss because I’m dead

9. Mustard

10. I still haven’t read that exhaustive list of books I want to read

11. Musicals (and all of the ones I still haven’t watched)

12. Fluffy stuffed animals and fluffy clothes

13. When my body is actually cold enough for me to get to wear a sweater!

14. I’ve never had a significant other to cuddle and love on and validate and vice versa

15. Neopronouns are so??? Fucking cool

16. This painted box of letters my friends gave me when I switched schools

17. I never remember to wear earrings

18. Feeling cute in a cute outfit

19. This Ravenclaw scarf I never wear

20. I want to grow my hair out

21. This huge oversized hoodie that my dad let me have (and I just got two oversized sweatshirts that used to be my grandpa’s!!)

22. When you wake up really early and it’s not a school day and you go outside and sit there while it’s really nice and cool (I need to do that more often!)

23. Ribbons

24. I still can’t knit!!!

25. When you listen to yourself sing and you actually sound good

26. The first time I went to a parade where I live now I saw this really sparkly Christmas ornament that they were playing with on the float and I loved it so much and I was like ‘I wish I had that’ and then the girls playing with it threw it to me and now it hangs from my ceiling

27. I now know how I identify, BUT I haven’t gone to a pride parade and celebrated it yet!

28. My cousin

29. Isabella’s lullaby puts me to sleep so easily somehow and it’s a very nice feeling

30. I want to see my little brother grow up and help him not be shitty

31. That feeling when you actually clean your room and it looks like you have your life under control

32. I haven’t seen my friends in forever

33. Showers

34. Imagine the embarrassment if mom and dad went through my phone after I die?? No thank you

35. Eating ice

36. Ice cream (how did I not come up with that one earlier??)

37. Genderfluid people are so awesome? I don’t even know how to describe it. Just like the fact that they exist makes me want to be happy with life

38. PEOPLE. ARE. SO. GORGEOUS. and somehow trans and enby and genderfluid people are gorgeous-er?? Like something about how they express themselves however the hell they want is just 👌 mmmmmmm

39. Googly eyes

40. I want to get fluent in sign language

41. The colour yellow

42. My friends are so fucking awesome (42 ‘cause it’s the answer to life the universe and everything ayyyy)

43. This specific outfit that I wore today?

44. Silk gloves

45. My history teacher (he moved and I switched schools)

46. Learning history

47. Libraries

48. That old book smell

49. That new book smell

50. Pasta

51. The words “I love you,” particularly when people say them to you/say them back

52. Cats

53. Smoothies and milkshakes!!!!

54. Romantic friendship ❤️

55. Marching band is way more fun than I expected it to be and I enjoy it more than I did concert band!

#one #suicide mention #reasons to live #self postivity #lgbtq positivity #pan positivity #genderfluid positivity #enby positivity #trans positivity #random #neopronouns #ravenclaw #books

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skullvins · 2 years

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Can you give me some Omega(or aviator) headcannons its not that I don't have any ideas I just don't have any ideas (the fish surfs alone without tumbler ) Also sorry if Im bothering you

nah dw! I can go over a few

omega:

bisexual, she/they enby. just turned 20 at debut, is about 21 going on 22 at this point in the manga.

vintage's older half sister by about a year. she got into turf first, which got him into it when he was old enough to play

on good terms with her biological father, who she goes to see sometimes (and did so as she was growing up). she sometimes feels a little disconnected from the rest of her family (mother/stepfather/vintage) because of it, but it's not a big deal

knows vintage better than he knows her (because she's MUCH quieter than him)

a lil on the chubby side, but only a little bit. like vin, she's particularly pale

her eyes are naturally light blue, she wears red contacts to match vin and the team's aesthetic. because of how my other hcs go, her natural ink colour is also light blue (unlike vin's, which is red)

wore her hair in a makeshift bun for a bit while she was growing it out between games

her music taste is pretty wide, but she does have her favourites. big into alternative stuff (that's basically canon tho)

goes salmon running with the intention to hear their music live (amongst other things) (stole this one from a fic by @lightredfox)

doesn't eat a lot/kind of a light eater (also stolen from @lightredfox, I love this hc a lot. I think it shines a light on the differences between her and vintage)

good cook, but she doesn't like doing it much because she grew up cooking a lot and is kinda tired of it. was the resident cook on the skull/vin/omega/avi team

aviators:

pansexual, greyromantic/arospec, demiguy, he/him (maybe sometimes they/them too???). about 3 months older than skull, making him 17 at debut and 20 at the current point in the manga

his eye colour, and by extension, his natural ink colour, is a honey gold colour, complete with a natural glittery shine. he got picked on a little because of it at school, and the insecurity has kinda stuck with him. that being said, the shininess also means his eyes often catch light and kinda reflect it back towards him and block his vision with little specs of white, hence the sunglasses

skull really likes his eyes though, thinks they're pretty. avi has a soft spot for skull's goofy smile (which HE'S self conscious about)

idk how to quite describe his skin tone, lighter than rider/npacer but not by a lot, kinda mid tone. skinny, but generally a little toned (more evenly than skull is because someone is a nightmare and lives off sweets). he's also just, kinda good looking, like, objectively. has a nice face EHDKDNDK

was skull's next door neighbor growing up, the two went to school together and met up all the time. also means he's been skull's little support system for a lot of his life (lord knows skull has Issues™)

actually these two in general would kill for each other they're very very close

has a part time job at a local makomart. he's worked there for a while now I could see him getting promoted a bit

good friends with diver, nozzlenose gang rise up

other misc hcs:

Anyone who's been following me for five minutes knows I'm a fan of aviskull and doublemega

funnily enough, I hc these two had a bit of a crush on each other for a bit when they were on the same team, but it never went anywhere

If I think of any more, I'll rb and add them. also, if you're the guy who sent the last hc ask, dw, I did see it. I just haven't thought about it a lot, and also have a fic lined up to explore this dynamic that I don't wanna spoiler. but lemme tell you it's dumb/dumber/brain cell haver that can't stop both of them

#asks #anon #coroika #i love these hcs man

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kikis-hamster-blog · 2 years

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HAMSTER HAUL!! WOOOOOOT!!!!

Guess who just bought a stupid amount of hamster stuff! THIS enby did!

So, adding onto the beach-themed enclosure I have picked up...

Some millet sprays! The bag says that they're for birds, but hamsters actually really love sprays! This was the only spray I found in the shop, though, so I just picked this one up.

Hideouts! You need multiple hideouts for a hamster so I picked up these three. I think they'll have a good time with them.

Extra bedding! One of the folks on the hamster forum said I didn't have enough so I got this to add some more.

Chewing sticks and a water bowl! The sticks are apple tree sticks, which are known to be safe for hamsters. I didn't remember what other kinds were okay for them, though, so I only picked up those. The bowl is made out of stone. I saw it in the lizard section, but thought it fit with the beach theme.

Sand! Also from the reptile section since this kind of sand is known to be safe for hamsters. I didn't expect it to feel so SOFT, though. I was literally just sitting there sifting my hand through it because it felt so nice. (I was in a voice call with some of my friends while setting up the enclosure and doing this, and we were joking about me eating it. I was slightly tempted, though.)

Rocks and sea shells! I actually got these from the dollar store, but figured what kind of beach didn't have these?

Putting them all together, it looks like this!

[Image description: A large bin filled with several inches of bedding. One third of the bin on the right side has blue coloured bedding meant to represent water. The rest is just plain white bedding. On top of the blue bedding is a rock-shaped hideout, and a yellow submarine hideout. Inbetween the blue and white bedding is half of a wooden log with an opening. On the far side of the white bedding a straw hideout can be seen, as well as the stone water dish. There are several millet sprays stuck into the white bedding in various corners. Scattered over the white bedding are several sea shells and chewing sticks.]

So things that you are not seeing; The rock hideout actually has a toilet paper tube leading into the bedding underneath it. This is here for just in case the hamster doesn't burrow on its own. Sometimes you need to give them a burrow starter for them to do the rest on their own, and thought the rock made a nice entrance to whatever burrow they'll make (kind of like they're diving deep underwater!)

Under the log hideout, there's a plastic dish inside where the sandbath is, so they'll have lots of privacy when they need to clean themselves and do their business.

I still have some other stuff to buy for the hamster, plus I'm still waiting on the second cage, but I'll get them some more stuff soon! In the meantime, though, it really seems like it's coming together, and I'm SUPER excited!

#hamster blogging #hamster care #hamster cage #hamster enclosure #hamster #hamsters

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