Disney movies aren't real. The Hallmark Channel isn't real. The Princess Bride isn't real. Romance novels aren't real. Adult videos aren't real. Hashtag-riddled Instagram posts of celebrity couples aren't real. 80s love ballads aren't real. And, as much as I hate to say it, The Addams Family isn't real.

Most Americans' (and Canadians') view of love is primarily influenced by one or more of these. Before one gets married, one needs to disavow all of these things as remotely realistic depictions of how couples are to love each other. Loving is an action, and if your concept of the act of loving is based primarily in self-fulfillment and emotion, your relationships are all doomed to fail.

Practice Compassion

“You must catch the troubling foxes, those sly little foxes that hinder our relationship. For they raid our budding vineyard of love to ruin what I’ve planted within you. Will you catch them and remove them for me? We will do it together.” SongOfSolomon 2:15TPT

Relationships are fragile, even within families. They need to be nurtured and cared for with the utmost of attention. I haven’t always known this. Many times I’ve been blunt saying what I thought, giving a piece of my mind— because I was correct……hahahaha. Oh to go back and zip my lip at the appropriate time, instead of blabbing. Everyone probably has felt this way at some point in their history.

Seeing the family relationships and the ensuing hurts is heartbreaking. I humbly bow my knee and thank God for answering prayers, keeping those “little foxes”—could’ve been broken relationships— from breaking.

One mother cries because there’s no peace within her adult children. Often they strike out at her, not wanting anything to do with her anymore, because they feel she favors one over the other. How can you solace someone who hasn’t raised their children to know the Lord, now taking blame for all the unhappiness in the family.

Under my breath I was praying for God’s wisdom. It came in the strangest way. Genesis 4:1NLT “Later Cain suggested to his brother, Abel, "Let's go out into the fields." And while they were there, Cain attacked and killed his brother.” God created Adam and Eve— sinless, wearing His glory as a covering. Adam chose to sin and learned about sin in Genesis 3. Then came God’s grandchildren, Cain and Able. One chose to follow the Lord’s way. But the other chose rebellion to instructions, murder and total severing of relationship with God. If sin so captured the hearts of God’s first children and grandchildren, what makes us think our families will be different?

Love is the only salvation of any relationship. Friendships, blood kinfolk, even marriage relationships can be broken, damaged, severed and lost. I always told my family, ‘friends come and go with age and stages of life. The only relationship which lasts a lifetime is bloodline relationships. That family member will always be your bloodline. Nurture with immediate forgiveness, before being asked, humbly serve a lavish platter of love without remembering hurts or making demands.’ Jesus said it like this, John 13:34NIV “A new command I give you. Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Mark 11:25KJV “…when ye stand praying forgive, if ye have ought against any; that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” With Paul expounding on what Christ said, Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Society doesn’t track this way. Instead, most people are angry, hating, demanding, selfish, unforgiving and downright sinful. People don’t know how to react to love. Time and again, I’ve offered love just to find the recipient didn’t know how to reciprocate, or react. Their reactions were that of unbelief.

Wouldn’t life be great if we’d all practice compassion, and forgiveness? When a spoken word offends, an action hurts becoming “little foxes” going into the field of relationships, left unchecked they will destroy the vineyard or field. We must attack the “little foxes” with love and forgiveness immediately. Don’t allow them to grow and take over. It’s your choice. You choose.

LET’S PRAY: Lord God help us to choose both forgiveness and love quickly. Help us to overcome natural sinful reactions with purposeful actions according to Your Word, in the name of Jesus Christ I pray.

by Debbie Veilleux Copyright 2023 You have my permission to reblog this devotional for others. Please keep my name with this devotional, as author. Thank you.

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"그 누구도 항해한 적이 없었대

깊고 어두운 바다 위"

"No one has ever sailed

Above the deep, dark sea" 

- Stray Kids, "Mixtape #4/ Broken Compass"

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Natural Compasssion

The source of all phenomena of samsara and nirvana

Is the nature of mind-void, luminous, All-encompassing, vast as the sky.

When in that state of skylike vastness,

Relax into its openness; stay in that very openness, Merge with that skylike state:

Naturally, it will become more and more relaxed.

Excellent!

If you become accomplished

In this method of integrating mind with view, Your realization will naturally become vast.

And just as the sun shines freely throughout space, Your compassion cannot fail to shine on all unrealized beings.

Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

Pith Instructions

tbh it’s hard to balance like the compasssion I have for my real life trans friends, my empathy for their dysphoria, the discrimination they face

with some of the things I’ve observed. Making it harder to talk about biological sex. Calling estrogen bimbo juice. Calling detransitioners attention seeking. The whole “genital preferences are transphobic”. The move to “uterus bearers” and “menstruators” because suddenly we need to be very specific in our language, even though plenty of women have said they find the names dehumanizing. And the coup de grace was convincing so many people that gnc people are closet trans, that I no longer know a single gnc woman my age who still calls herself that, every single one is calling themselves non-binary.

I can’t turn my back on them because they’re my friends, they’re a vulnerable population, but also, wow by golly have you made things harder. We were on the same damn team, why couldn’t you have listened when we were saying this stuff is hurting us and making organizing harder?

I’ve been with my trans friends through some of the darkest moments of their lives, helped them financially, in a serious “lotta money” way. I have always put my money where my mouth is. But I really think they just. Don’t get any of what I’m talking about. They don’t get women’s issues. They don’t read about them. Their eyes glaze over when I bring up the history of misogyny. They try to relate everything back to “trans/queerphobia” because it’s the only framework they understand, instead of trying to learn new ones

I’m just tired of having to put my advocacy for the female human on the back burner, like it’s a second grade cause. Or harmful. I still believe you can stand up for people with dysphoria while also not forgetting that bio sex is unfortunately extremely relevant in society. And I refuse to give up the word female. It is the thing connecting me to female cats, birds, asparagus, a long line of strange creatures different in form. It’s a mere biological fact about my body, not a value judgment on anyone. I cannot agree with a movement that says otherwise.

If anyone still up in the small hours of the night reading this, 🙌 trying to be ethically consistent in my beliefs is hard but I don’t want to give up

empathy is so damn confusing. i get it in theory, but in practice ? like i sorta think of myself as low / flux empathy but am i really ? how much of that is actually low sympathy and compasssion ?

cognitive empathy is understanding why someone feels a way, and ive read and researched and trained myself enough to be very good at that, but its all logical analysis. is that still empathy ? what if i can connect all the correct logical threads but when it comes to the conclusion i just cant wrap my emotions around it because why does it matter Really ? is that still empathy ? sometimes people are a curiosity, a fun little puzzle to analyze. certainly thats not empathy ?

emotional empathy, feeling what others feel, thats definitely not there too often. secondhand embarrassment maybe, and i used to not be able to look at people who cried but im not sure it affects me anymore

sympathy. i dont always feel that either. sometimes i still help because i feel compassion but sometimes compassion is also gone and its just to save face. reputation is especially important to me, without it id have nothing: power, support, admiration— theyre all intertwined.

sometimes its because i know i will or might care later so i better act accordingly to secure the future i want. or maybe i care about the relationship with the person as a whole if not whatever bullshit im having to deal with at the moment, so i do what i must to maintain their love and trust

sometimes its just base morality, my ideas of whats right and wrong, that stop me from being as cruel as id like. or reputation. it always comes back to reputation when im that far gone. the fun of burning everything to the ground just isnt worth the effort itll take to rebuild it all again yk ?

truly personally cannot interact with interpretations that aren’t rooted in compassion, evidently it shouldn’t be understood as “strictly” compassion but the general openness of mind that comes with it and being willing to not see everything under the same prism, for there are just as many facets

possibilities “are” compassion, the compassion of being willing to consider an alternative or seeing something at its most beautiful as well as its most rotten, just letting those possibilities exist

so the compasssion that doesn’t admonishes possibilities and especially, inconsequential ones, unharmful ones

While we’re at it, I’ll just throw in a few more thoughts. sorry for typos it’s 7 AM and I haven’t slept yet

Why were everyone so alarmed by Arthur’s desire to kill Larson specifically? I’ve seen the concern about mostly this in fics and posts and it puzzles me.

To me, this desire is completely logical and understandable, although I get why John was so alarmed - he had no context. Anyway, I’d have no problem with Arthur actually carring out his plan - it isn’t justified or anything like that, but it’s understandable. Would he feel better after this? Nah. But some mistakes need to be made, as 26th episode showed, and Arthur needed a closure on this. Besides, it’s not like he didn’t resort to killing before. Remember? The very first episode, less than an hour into their aquaintance with John, and the latter already had to talk him out of killing Eddie. Then the old widow. Mr. Faust. It’s not like such behaviour is unprecedented for Arthur, he has his dark sides he tries his best to keeep at bay, but there’s a breaking point for everyone.

What actually concerned me was his indifference to people in the mine. I wouldn’t even mind the “corruption arc”, that wouldn’t be a loss of humanity in Arthur - I like how the show defines it in general because too many people keep forgetting that humanity isn’t really about good things only, it encompasses all the sides, - no, and I’d actually like to change the word to ‘compasssion’: its meaning is more narrow and essantially is what Arthur and John were talking about I think.

The problem was in how abrupt the change was. I was totally lost on WHY and how and when.

When Arthur and Yellow made it into the Red Right Hand, Arthur was alright. When they awoke in the mansion, Arthur was STILL alright. He still cared about peope who might have needed his help. After all he had to go through, after all bickering and fighting with Yellow. And then, just when a totally GOOD thing happened - John returned - Arthur’s feelings suddenly go numb and he doesn’t care about anyone. This looked unnatural and weird, and the podcast has been very consistent with its quality so far, so I was thinking “what thee hell” all the time.

I’m glad the 26th episode cleared the things out - so it was like a breakdown Arthur was trying to process and supress at the same time, I guess. The solution was pretty simple, but I glad we got it, it was really required.

I’m still weirded out on why the emphasis in fandom’s perception was mainly on Larson’s killing and not on leaving the mine people though.

On another note, I didn’t expect this new “divorce” to be solved so quickly. Honestly, I had no idea how it can be solved at all since both Arthur and John went to the lenghts they haven’t yet even at worst times, but Arthur certainly bet the record here. To me, it sounded worse than their fight before the prison pits, worrse than when John betrayed Arthur’s trust.

The problem, as I saw it, was that this time, it wasn’t exactly a betrayal of the other. Arthur betrayed himself, and THAT was the worst part. Firstly, it’s his motto - to never give up. No matter how bad the situation was, he always tried to follow his principles and help the people in need. This time though, he gave up on his principles AND his life both. It’s like he denied his very essence.

Secondly, by setting his principles aside - more like throwing them out the metaphorical window - he betrayed John. Everything John learned from him, the whole journey John had started solely BECAUSE he met Arthur, everything he had to sacrifice and go through to change himself - it flew out of the window too. And that was pretty painful.

That’s why I didn’t see how they would come out of this “divorce”. Of course, the episode surpassed all expectation. I didn’t hope they’ll even talk everything out. And they even made up. What a ride.

Just needed to tell someone.

Convinced my family to play DnD because no one in my area plays and I really wanted to try. Now I'll be forever DM but worth it!

Here are the highlights:

. My mother claimed the game was too complicated and proceeded to create an orphan rogue whose parents were murdered. Unprompted;

. Her goals are to find her parents murderer, buy a horse and retire by the time she's 28;

. The party took an 1h to leave town. Before leaving, they argued that the silly prop map i drew was law and debated for 20 min the best path to reach the wizard tower. They then argued about the need to buy a compass. At they store they argued about buying the compasss, stealing a compass from the many in the shelves and bartering for it. My mother proceeded to persuade the old dwarf to trade her defaul crowbar for a compass and 10 flame arrows. There is a path at least half way to the tower, and after that the tower was visible over the tree line;

. They reached the river nearly at the end of the first day without any problems because I rolled porly. They were still paranoid the whole time;

. They reached the river and discouraged by a lack of bridge, instead of trying to find another spot they thought to launch an arrow with rope an connect two trees to then cross on their back over the running water;

. Sir Giovanni (my brother) rolled a Nat 1 in a forest and failed to find trees;

. Sir Giovanni also tied the rope to the arrow but not to the tree so he launched the rope across the river;

. Sir Giovanni had to turn into an eagle, fly across, go get the rope and turn back to a human to tie it again, wasting 1 wildshape for the day;

. My mother tried to cross and fell into the river. She pulled herself out to the correct side and forgot all paranoia and made a bonfire right there to get warm;

. My sister tried to cross and fell to the river. My mother wasn't in time to catch her with a stick and she was swept and Sir Giovanni had to run after her with his own stick. He pulled her to his side of the river;

. My sister tried to cross again and rolled worse. The arrow gave away from her weight and she fell to the river again but this time the rope was with her because it was still tied to at least one tree;

. My mother tripped twice in the process of trying to catch the rope on her end and could not pull her to shore. Luna (my sister) failed to swim to shore. The party then argued about what to do because it was a waste to pull her to Sir Giovanni again;

. Rika (my mother) wanted to persuade Luna to swim to her. I decided that if she rolled high enough i would give Luna advantage in her next roll. Rika rolled the only Nat 20 of the night, for a total of 29, and i decided right then that Luna was so inspired that she swam to Rika, no roll needed;

. SIr Giovanni was very frustrated about his wasted arrow, wasted WildShapes and the other party members that kept arguing with eachother and only wanted to steal things and were disrespectful towards shopkeepers;

. At the end of that day, Sir Giovanni (fighter/druid) ended up not doing much, the edgy Luna ( assassin rogue) that kept joking about un-aliving herself was the only party member to take damage (cold) and Rika (arcane trickster rogue) without any real combat capabilities had the absolute best rolls of the night;

. Everyone had a lot of fun. My mother wants to play more tomorrow.

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