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sunshinecox · 6 months

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Que difícil es ser adulto.

#citas #frases #escritos #desahogo #fragmentos #dolor #tristeza #ansiedad #miedo #desilusión #Ser adulto #Be an adult

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wild-karrde · 1 year

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These CEOs insisting on a return to office are a out to do a lot of Finding Out…

#fafo my dudes #looking forward to my dude crashing and burning #be an adult #ok bro I’ll get a new job #that adult enough for you???

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cestmoiquand · 4 months

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Décider de faire un nettoyage puissant à mon lave-vaisselle était une très bonne idée! J'ai une vaisselle propre et sans résidu de nourriture

#be an adult #cestmoiquand #cmq #confessions

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arcade-emporia · 1 year

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Are you pro or anti ship/kink/fic?

im of the radical opinion that seeking out content fetishizing incest and assault is not inherently a morally neutral act

#proship/antiship is an immature way to frame the topic tho. what do they even mean #you’re responsible for the way that the content u consume affects u #idc if u have wacky kinks but if u read weird shit uncritically it affects the way u process other stimuli #media consumption can affect/reenforce maladaptive beliefs if done without caution #be an adult #idk what u want me to say bud #bird sings #letterbox #there r ways to have nuanced conversations abt this topic without making team Edward and team Jacob squads abt it

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jlf23tumble · 1 year

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What do you think about Louis kissing Freddie on the lips in his documentary? I guess he's trying to make it clear that he's Freddie's dad, well at least wants people to think it, and yet Larries are saying he was forced into it. Sigh.

My kneejerk reaction is, uh, yeah, for at least two YEARS now, he's been makin' it crystal clear, lol, stop following blogs that edit shit out, but also, I haven't seen the doc--I'm going one week from tomorrow!--so come back and ask me then. One thing I cannot abide in the one direction fandom is the contextless goldfish brain takes on shit, I'm happy to give my thoughts when a) someone sends me the full clip, including before and after it, and/or b) I see the whole thing myself. Will i know peace when people who say they support a 31YO white millionaire who seems to be on top of his game actually get and support the fact that he's on top of his game? I'd like to think so, but i have a lot of other interests, so it really doesn't factor into my daily, ergo we'll never know if that's the deciding factor

#louis tomlinson has laid out the blueprint for AT LEAST two years #nothing i've seen hinted at is surprising #i am begging you to stop being a fucking baby #and actually see shit in context #don't let people edit for you!#be an adult #even when i was 14 i was like let me see some shit #i'm not a fucking baby #and yet!#there are fully grown adults #who can't handle a grown-ass millionare weave you the story he's bound to tell...all while these babies say they support him #ya don't #anyway rant over #this isn't directed at you anon #he was NOT forced into it lmao #eta: this just makes me think of the body language post too lmaoooooo #okay then

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ohtobemare · 1 year

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i'm blocking blank and ageless blogs. ya'll are all born and have birthdates, it ain't a surprise.

writers and posters are not asking for your life story or a Pulitzer-prize winning investigative piece on the intimate details of your existence. we want to know we can interact with you like the adults we are.

throw your age in the description. don't care if you have a profile pic or a cover photo or anything else on your blog, just let us know you're a live homo sapien.

life's hard out in these tumblr streets and i'm sick of being the bad guy and blocking people.

thanks for coming to my ted talk.

*exits soapbox*

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deepdarkdelights · 2 years

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Hi! Sorry if this seems unrelated to your content (though you're a great writer and I have been a fan of yours for quite a while now). The reason I'm writing this is to ask you and your followers a favor of reporting chaibts due to hate speech. Chaibts is a blog account made for anons to spew hatred towards other creators (fiction writers specifically). I hope you could help.

EDIT: Do not send this blog asks or give them any other from of interaction - this is what they want you to do, they want the attention and they want the interactions. If you wish to report and block them then I would recommend doing only those two things. Do not give them engagement.

Hi there, it's nice to meet you in spite of the unfortunate circumstances.

I have always believed that if you have a problem with someone, you tell them, you message them, you talk with them, you figure it out. This is the reason why I really dislike tea blogs because that is what this is, a "tea" blog. It's a place where people go to spread hatred and oftentimes misinformation and lies and, in past incidents, racist ideology and remarks.

It takes a special kind of person to create and devote an entire blog to trashing fanfic authors of all people, individuals who spend countless hours planning, writing, and creating works to share with others. It's distasteful, and that's me being tame compared to what I really would like to say.

What do these blogs actually accomplish? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. They are gossip forums, a place where people can talk about others behind their backs like high school cliques.

This is a separate note but one that is still important to mention: if you do not like dark fics that is completely okay. But it baffles me that individuals still are shocked and angry about these works in particular. You do not have to like dark fics, that is perfectly okay they are not meant for everyone just like the horror and thriller genres in film and novels. Tags and warnings are there for a reason, you can even block specific tags and accounts if you wish, so do not be surprised when you open a fic and read what you were warned about. I personally do not enjoy strictly member/member fics, I don't go out of my way to read them but I don't shame anyone for reading them or enjoying them - they are simply not my cup of tea.

So, if the only reason you dislike an author is because they write a genre you do not enjoy and they have not caused serious harm or injustice to an actual person or community, your efforts are being squandered.

#asks #im tired of this #be an adult #talk to the individual calmly about your concerns and problems #this is the basis of communication

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wearejor · 2 years

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Friendly reminder that acting like criticism of something you are a fan of is an attack on you personally is an absolutely vile approach to being a fan of anything.

Pretending you're the victim of a critique of something you haven't made is a classic misdirection away from your own toxic behavior, which is the instigation of conflict where there was none.

#be an adult #fandom #RoP #rings of power

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intelligent-space-gay · 2 years

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I’m so over ppl pretending to be friends with me to my face and talking shit about me behind my back. are we not past this

#be an adult #actuallyautistic #tagging as that bc ik my social difficulties contribute

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septemberkisses · 4 months

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the fact that i'm no longer the same age as the protagonists of novels and films i once connected to is so heartbreaking. there was a time when I looked forward to turning their age. i did. and i also outgrew them. i continue to age, but they don't; never will. the immortality of fiction is beautiful, but cruel.

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bodhimcbodeface · 6 months

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I really think they need to start teaching kids in schools that most blind people can see a little bit, most deaf people can hear a little bit, and most wheelchair users can walk a little bit. And they are still disabled.

#I’ve tried explaining this to kids before and they’re always surprised #sometimes adults too!!

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aimlesspoet · 26 days

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a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints

#my worst fears have been realized #i should trust my instincts sometimes #autism #asd #autistic #autistic community #actually autistic #autistic adult #autistic things #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

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lesbianralzarek · 3 months

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"life doesnt get better, you just get stronger" does NOT include ages 11-17. life does in fact just get better from there. those years are dogshit. like, you do get stronger but its mostly just a factor of not being 11-17 anymore. positive thinking helps but it doesnt fix whatevers going on at 15, you have to brute force through that one raw

#i originally posted this as just a 'hey remember how fuckin bad middle/highschool was? shit was wild' type post but now #there are a bunch of teens in the notes being like 'oh my god are you serious? it gets better? im not stuck in hell forever??'#and im reminded that the only people who told teenage ella 'it gets better' were speakers at mental health assemblies #aka the least relatable people alive who were seemingly born to lie to you #so. uh. yeah im a certified adult who isnt here to lie or sugarcoat the realities of being a teenager #the only thing more certain than the pain is the transcience

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scramratz · 17 days

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Please be normal

#I’m an adult #I fuck #I PAY BILLS

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xmaplemistyx · 19 days

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Can you pull on my hair daddy? 🙈

source: maplemistyx

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powdermelonkeg · 4 months

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Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

#anxiety #long post #i have been an adult for the better part of a decade and it has gotten SO much easier as i internalized these #swearing tw

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