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“you’re just aplatonic bc you have [insert disorder]!!” yeah? what about it?
my aplatonicism is connected to my narcissism. i don’t care about other people, i don’t care to create connections with them, im not really drawn to other people: mostly because of my narcissism. and i’m still aplatonic, even if those things are connected. because i don’t experience platonic attraction. it doesn’t make my aplatonicism any less valid.
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Aplatonic Visibility Day is on May 4th. Aplatonics are an important part of the aspec community! I wish all aplatonics a happy apl visibility day!
#Whether other aspecs think this or not idgaf 💅#but we matter and I will fucking shout it from the rooftops#aplatonic#apl#aplspec#apl visibility day#aplatonic visibility#aplatonic visibility day#aspec#aplatonic spectrum#actually aplatonic
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can i be real the thought of someone having a platonic crush on me freaks me out more than the thought of someone having a romantic crush on me
#i think its about the expectations?#for someone having a romantic crush i can just be like yeah sorry im not interested#and then the onus is on /them/ to not be a dick about that (or to be a dick in private)#but for platonic crushes i cant really go sorry i dont want to be friends without seeming like a complete and utter dick#like literally no way to phrase that#and then the onus is on me to apologise for being aplatonic#aplatonic#actually aplatonic
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I feel nothing. I'm loveless and heartless and nonhuman, and I'm still a-spec. Die mad about it
#aspec#aplatonic#non sam apl#apl#non sam aplatonic#actually apl#actually aplatonic#loveless apl#heartless apl
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shoutout to my autistic/mentally ill/people with trauma/etc who identify as aspec because of it, not in spite. we’re used as a talking point so much but never get any real recognition. reminder that you’re cool as hell and have a place in this community
#aromantic#arospec#aro#aspec#acespec#asexual#ace#apl#aplatonic#actually asexual#actually aromantic#actually aplatonic#andy.text
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My friendships happen because we are in the same place at the same time, over long periods of time (school & work). Because, we are there together, and can pass the time together, and have time to get to know each other.
Usually they are nice people, that are kind to me, and reach out to me, and in turn I want to be plesent and kind to them. Sometimes, we like to text back and forth. I don't like meeting with them outside the context where we meet. Nothing personal, but I need quite time by myself.
But, when we don't meet regularly, it fades. If this is a relationship that has had time to form, we might have some contact, probably a text here and there. But really not much. I still concidered them friends for a while, but after years of not talking, I don't really anymore.
And, I don't think I miss them. They are nice people, and I wish them well, but I don't miss them. I do miss the idea of friends. Of people to spend time with and talk to. But, not the people. I do wish sometimes that I had a person or two, to talk to. I don't miss them, I miss the idea of what a friendship could be.
Sometimes I do wonder if I should reach out. But I never do. It's been so long, and I don't really want to. And my anxiety tends to take over. I don't want to insert myself where I'm not wanted.
These experiences and others have led me to call myself aplatonic. I like these people, but the friendship fades, and I don't feel a desire to continue. My experience is impacted by my being neurodivergent. Perhaps I'll discuss it in a future post, along with my trouble forming the friendships to begin with, which is why I've only ever had very few.
#aplatonic#apl#actually aplatonic#I'm trying to share my experiences as an apl#maybe it'll help someone else#aplspec#M's post
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Familreplato
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Definition: a term for an aplatonic person whose platonic attraction is replaced by familial attraction. Anyone who they become friends with is seen more as family than a friend.
Not intended or exclusive.
Not inspired or requested.
Flag/s:
[Flag ID: a flag with six horizontal stripes, the colors in order being grape purple, pale gold, parchment, purple haze, white, black. end ID]
[image ID: A⁴spec+ flag in a black box, next to a longer black box with text reading "DNI; queerphobes, transphobes, enbyphobes, xenogenderphobes, racists, ableists, sexists, intersexists, neophobes, anti mspec gays/lesbians, anti-conflicting labels, anti-kink allosexuals, transids (except transgender), TERFs/Exclusionists, ace alienators, 'ace and aro = same', endophobes" end ID]
#lgbtq#flags#mogai friendly#mogai pride#coined by me#term coining#coining#coining post#identity coining#liom#mogai coining#mogai community#actually aplatonic#aplatonic#familial attraction#mogai flag#mogai#mogai safe#liom pride#liom community#liom friendly#liom coining#liom term#liom safe#coinings
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Intro Post
This blog is for plato repulsed people of any platonic orientation to talk about our plato repulsion !!
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We support all system types (including endo, tulpa, etc.) if you don't, this blog is probably not one you would like anyway, because we don't agree with sysmed/anti endo views.
The flags in the icon and header are plato repulsed flags made by Rift from our system
This is not an advice blog, don't ask us for advice.
Any platonic orientation / unlabeled /etc. ppl who are plato repulsed may send in asks (apl, allopl, aplspec, unlabeled platonic orientation, etc.) (You're also included if you experience plato repulsion only sometimes or to varying levels !) . Also remember that not all plato repulsed and/or apl ppl are aspec in other ways or repulsed by other relationship types.
Plato repulsion is repulsion to friendship and/or other platonicism /platonic coded actions and encompasses a range of experiences. This blog does not tolerate any negativity towards any attraction or relationship type (i.e. please don't act like any relationship or attraction, including platonic is inherently harmful/bad).
Edit: Im too tertiary repulsed to answer asks that mention tertiary attraction and/or desire for tertiary relationships in detail, so I probably won't answer asks that have this and would prefer to not recieve asks of this kind. Note that this also applies to mentioning being in those relationships sorry if it was unclear before.
#aplatonic#apl#aplspec#nonfriending apl#plato repulsed#plato repulsion#friendship repulsion#friendship repulsed#aspec#actually plato repulsed#actually aplatonic#queer#Oh and apl exclus Im blocking you on sight lol#atertiary#aterspec#anonrose#atertiary spectrum#endogenic safe#sysmeds dni
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What do you mean by aplatonicism?
Oh, if someone’s aplatonic, it can mean a variety of things! A basic definition is that they don’t experience platonic attraction or experience it rarely or only under certain circumstances, much like other aspec identities. Aplatonic, however, could also mean they don’t really feel platonic love the same way others do or relate to most experiences of friendship. It could relate to a lack of desire for friends, trouble making friends, whatever!
Aplatonicism is not as cut and dry as aromanticism or asexuality (though those aren’t super cut and dry themselves). What it means to be aplatonic and why someone may identify with the label isn’t exactly as concrete as other labels.
I personally use the label as I rarely experience platonic attraction and general my platonic relationships are just… off, more shallow, and don’t genuinely involve an emotional bond. I also use it as I have no active desire for friendships and am perfectly unaffected whenever said friendships ends. I’d definitely encourage looking into it more on your own as I can’t give all the answers! Thanks for asking!
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"The power of love just can't include aromantics/asexuals/aplatonics" wrong, the world is all around me and everyday I'm so glad I'm a little human with limited senses who is just perfect to admire a drip coming off of a leaf, it is powerful and all consuming so stop shitting on us aspec peeps and go admire a leaf.
#aplatonic peeps please roast me if i said something dumb#poetry#actually asexual#actually aromantic#aromantic#asexual#actually aplatonic#aplatonic#lgbt#teddy posts 🧋#cassidy posts 🔮
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As I start to jot down my "platonic" f/os im kinda realizing i dont...actually feel anything towards them. and its not a fictional thing i feel it 4 people too
i experienced platonic attraction before but now for several months i just dont really feel it anymore
Ermm....aplatonic self shipper nation rise (specifically caedplatonic ...? maybe)
#self ship#self shipping#f/o community#fictional other#ficto community#aplatonic#caedplatonic#actually aplatonic#apl spec#so i may actually just remove those#but also theyre still friends to me i just dont feel anything towards them#so maybe ill just have to change the tag from PLAT to FRIE maybe ...FREN... FRND#YES IM STILL WORKING ON THESE GOD FORSAKEN TAGS#and a list so i can properly introduce myself into the community#low spoons. always
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Happy Aplatonic Day of Visibility to:
aromantic aplatonics
asexual aplatonics
aroallo aplatonics
alloace aplatonics
aroace aplatonics
alloallo aplatonics
aplatonics who feel other tertiary/non-rose attractions
aplatonics who don't feel other tertiary/non-rose attractions
grey-platonics
demi-platonics
fray-platonics
lith-platonics
cupio-platonics
aego-platonics
platonic-flux
quoi-platonics
those anywhere on the aplatonic spectrum
heartless aplatonics
loveless aplatonics
lovequeer aplatonics
lovepunk aplatonics
arolovic aplatonics
loveflux aplatonics
platonic favorable aplatonics
platonic neutral aplatonics
platonic repulsed aplatonics
any and all aplatonics are valid and deserve respect <2
#aplatonic#apl#actually aplatonic#actually apl#aromantic#aro#asexual#ace#aplspec#aplatonic spectrum#heartless aro#loveless#loveless aro#loveless aplatonic#lovequeer aro#lovequeer#aplatonic day of visibility#aplatonic visibility day
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BEGGING people to stop treating friendship as mandatory just because you want to talk about amatonormativity. Quit throwing apls under the bus for not perfoeming friendship enough. Romance is not mandatory and neither is friendship or literally any other damn relationship. You shouldn't have to engage in relationships to recieve support and structuring society this way is not the progressive take you think it is.
#platonormativity#aplatonic#nonfriending apl#plato repulsed#apl#actually aplatonic#plato aros and alloplatonics shut the fuck up and learn to respect a disconnect from friendship challenge
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i havent seen anyone alloromantic specifically talk about their experiences in aplatonicism, so i thought that more input from a different perspective could be useful?
i relatively recently (maybe 2-3 months ago) saw someone use the word "aplatonic" to describe themselves, and several things clicked into place with me, my general thought process being something like "of course theres a subset of aspec labels for platonic attraction, people feel romantic and sexual attraction separately so obviously theres a platonic side to." and i left it at that for awhile but something about it stuck with me.
i suppose ill start at the beginning,
when i was a kid i was mainly friends with boys, and for awhile i attributed this to being trans and just relating more to male peers. i do still believe this to be a factor but now thinking back on it i realized there was a pattern to my relationships.
at one point or another, i had had crushes on almost all of them.
i realized all at once that the only reason i had even spoken to a majority of my childhood friends was because i had been romantically attracted to them at the beginning of our friendships.
now, i can anticipate some kind of argument along the lines of "thats just how crushes and friendships grow with everyone" or some such nonsense
but i can say with my whole chest that thats not what was happening.
im not very good at explaining things in a way that makes sense to most, but i will attempt to be as clear as possible.
a lot of people wanted to be my friend.
i was funny and loud and friendly to my classmates. i liked to play tag at recess and brought pokemon cards and my tamagotchi to school before they were banned. i shared the parts of my lunches i didnt want, i stood up to bullies, and sat with people that were alone.
but that was about the extent of it
i was friendly
but i was never your friend
i generally considered myself a "loner" and no matter how friendly or talkative or persistent or technically compatible my classmates were-
it never took.
i just. wanted to do what i wanted to do.
i had kids i interacted with often and i named them friends when prompted to list any, but i never actually. spoke to them? it was more like i sat next to them and we did things alongside eachother (parallel play style) and i would say little things to them like hello or good morning or maybe that i liked their shoes but i never like. discussed what i liked with them or vice versa. i couldnt tell you a thing about them beyond their names.
this pattern continued until i started to develop crushes, suddenly i was initiating contact with kids without outside factors. i sat with them and gave them the sweet parts of my food and for the first time
i asked them questions
i wanted to know if they liked the cartoons i did and who their favorite characters were, i was curious about what they liked and what they thought. their input mattered to me.
a majority of my relationships from then on followed similar patterns, i thought they were cute or funny and so i talked to them and could tolerate the connection that followed.
i didnt keep my feelings for a lot of them of course, i had no way of knowing who these people were before getting to know them but the point still stands; i had to have a crush on them first.
this wasnt always the case with my friends, sometimes when i would interact with someone the stars would align and id stay in contact somehow and id end up with a friend that didnt start with romantic feelings.
my life gets messy from my teens on and i will spare you my life story, but i ended up in a position that i only had one person i could pass off as a friend. the relationship was just like the ones from my early childhood, i just kind of existed alongside her and i couldnt really tell you anything about her.
ive never formed bonds with anyone without outside influence and the ones i did were rare or romantic at first. isolation doesnt really bother me, i dont like or need to talk to people often, my own family barely knows me and has to force my interaction
sometimes i kind of joke with my husband that id never had a real friend before because i could never tell him anything about the friends i still had when i had met him, and now i think i have the words to describe why?
im not entirely sure what i should label myself, demiplatonic fits but i feel is a disservice to the people that i was or am friends with that were faster and didnt start romantically. perhaps grayplatonic or something but im just going with aplspec for the moment.
#this post is long so i left things i experience out#i may talk about them at a later time but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯#aplatonic#actually aplatonic#WHAT DO PEOPLE TAG THIS KIND OF THING?#mouthful.txt#aplspec#aspec
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Happy Aplatonic Day!
Well, I'm one day late but oh well
So, I am aplatonic, or at least on the spectrum! being apl hasn't really affected my friendships since I am plato-favorable, however not all apl's are like that!
I actually love being apl!
happy aplatonic day to all apl's, weather aromantic or not!
#aplatonic#apl#aromantic#loveless aro#loveless aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#actually aplatonic#not aro#aro speaks
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Platonormativity has started irritating me more and more lately. It's the idea that people need friendships, and it's bad if they don't have friends, or don't want them. Similar to amatonormativity which is in regards to romantic relationships.
Not having friends doesn't diminish someone. People see it as a flaw, they say that someone who doesn't have friends is a person to be careful of. But it's just not true.
I'm autistic, I have anxiety, and I'm suffering from depression. So no, I don't have friends. These things make it really hard for me to keep up friendships or make new ones. And I have no urge to make friends. It's why I identify as aplatonic. There's nothing inherently bad about that. Implying otherwise is both ableist, and aplphobic.
#apl#aplatonic#autistic#autism#actually autistic#actually aplatonic#depression#anxiety#ableism#aplphobia#aphobia#platonormativity#fuck platonormativity#amatonormativity#M's post
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