Your boy is traumatized by dodgebolt 😭 he’s so inconfident
i want to shake him like a maraca STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF DUMBASS. DONT GIVE UP BEFORE IT EVEN BEGINS
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₊˚. getting comfy being uncomfy
ᡣ𐭩ㅤ૮ ᪲ ⠂⠂ 𐭩 hi its me again <3 so i see this about a lot but when its mentioned theres often never any elaboration on the topic. so even though im not an expert i wanted to try help out w that <3
₊˚⊹ fear
an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.
₊˚⊹ uncomfortable
causing or feeling unease or awkwardness.
🍮 first thing; learn the difference between uncomfortable and genuine fear. of course i encourage you to do things out of your comfort zone and push yourself but never to the point it mentally or physically hurts you!
🍮 please dont be afraid to change! its perfectly okay to grow out of people or places or things you used to love because change is a natural part of being human! we are constantly growing and evolving every day, please dont hold back your success and opportunity to flourish for someone or something else <3
🍮 be ur own no.1 supporter - i mentioned this in my self reliance post and i think that applies a lot to this too! ur always gonna be by ur side so prove that to yourself. youd want someone you love to be there by your side through thick and thin, failure or success, right? be that for yourself! you can do this! itll be okay! ily! 🩷
🍮 once youve done something that makes you uncomfortable, what i'd do is id then reflect; but you can do this before or after. for before, id say:
what aspects of said uncomfortable scenario makes you uncomfortable? have you had similar experiences like this in the past that may have triggered this? what are the pros and cons of this situation? will you gain from this?
and for after:
was it as uncomfortable as you imagined? why did it make you uncomfortable? how did you feel during said uncomfortable scenario? what did you learn from said uncomfortable scenario?
🍮 using this information, you can then log your experiences from this time and decide on how you can incorporate this into next time so you can begin to grow accustomed to it using what youve learnt. think of it like an experiment.
🍮 analyse your triggers, recognise what makes you uncomfortable and why that is, study yourself! you are the most important subject you could ever study
🍮 finally, trust in your ability to bounce back from anything. done something embarrassing? doesnt matter. this is all our first attempt and we are all failing and learning and growing. everything that gets thrown at you in life is to teach you something, everything is a lesson. youve been through worse but youve always had your back. lets do this!! <3
ᡣ𐭩ㅤ૮ ᪲ ⠂⠂ 𐭩 I HOPE THIS HELPED U <3 i still struggle w this myself but i believe in myself and in you too- lets do this together!!!!! i love u 🩷
(headers by @florietas !!<3)
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ro help do i change my user,, i have paramoreforeverrr and thickskullgirl im itching to do it. im in paramore world today. but also bitethebullets my beloved. my brand.
if u use one of the saved ones u can always just revert back to bitethebullets when u save it in their place!!! also I LOVE THOSE!! THICKSKULLGIRL FOREVER
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yay im crush anon!!! anyways he said he doesnt like anyone :p ahhh what now
yes u r!!!
honestly, i wouldn’t think it over too much. just continue conversation bc the more u think abt it the worse you might feel and tonight is not a night for lovelorn heartbreak!!!
u can do this!! if u want i’ll search up some conversation starters or smth bc tbh i’m really bad at social interaction so just me telling u what to talk abt would be a horrible idea LMAO
just enjoy talking to him tn! put crushes out of mind (as much as u can) and enjoy the time u have with ur best friend :)
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i got rickrolled today but it didn't work because i have adblocker installed, so youtube just told me i violated the terms of service. yesterday i was trying to edit a picture as a joke for my girlfriend, and google made me check a box to prove i'm human because i wasn't "searching normally".
it isn't just that capitalism is killing fun and whimsy, it is that any element of entertainment or joy is being fed upon by this mosquito body, one that will suck you dry at any vulnerability.
do you want to meet new friends in your city? download this app, visit our website, sign up for our email list. pay for this class on making a terrarium, on candlemaking, on cooking. it will be 90 dollars a session. you can go to group fitness, but only under our specific gym membership. solve the puzzle, sign up for our puzzle-of-the-month-club. what is a club if not just a paid opportunity - you are all paying for the same thing, which makes you a community.
but you're like me, i know it - you're careful, you try the library meetings and the stuff at the local school and all of that. the problem is that you kind of want really specific opportunities that used to exist. you are so grateful for libraries and the publicly-funded things: they are, however, an exception - and everything they have, they've fought tooth-and-nail to protect. you read a headline about how in many other states, libraries have virtually nothing left.
do you want to meet up with your friends afterwards? gift your friends the discord app. you can choose to go to a cafe (buy a coffee, at least), a bar (money, alcohol) or you can all stay in and catch a movie (streaming) or you can all stay in bed (rent. don't get me started) and scream (noise complaint. ticket at least).
you want to read a new book, but the book has to have 124 buzzwords from tiktok readers that are, like, weirdly horny. you can purchase this audiobook on audible! your podcast isn't on spotify, it's on its own server, pay for a different site. fuck, at least you're supporting artists you like. the art museum just raised their ticket price. once, they had a temporary exhibit that acknowledged that ~85% of their permanent art galleries were from cis white men, and that they had thousands of works by women (even famous women, like frida! georgia o'keefe!) just rotting in their basement. that exhibit lasted for 3 months and then they put everything away again.
walmart proudly supports this strip of land by the street! here are some flowers with wilting leaves. its employees have to pay out-of-pocket for their uniforms. my friend once got fined by the city because she organized a community pick-up of the riverfront, which was technically private property.
no, you cannot afford to take that dance class, neither can i. by the way - i'm a teacher. i'm absolutely not saying "educators shouldn't be paid fairly." i'm saying that when i taught classes, renting a studio went from 20 bucks an hour to 180 in the span of 6 months. no significant changes to the studio were made, except they now list the place as updated and friendly. the heat still doesn't work in the building. i have literally never seen the landlord who ignores my emails. recently they've been renting it out at night as an "unusual nightclub; a once-in-a-lifetime close-knit party." they spent some of those 180 dollars on LEDs and called it renovating. the high heels they invite in have been ruining the marley.
do you want to experience the old internet? do you want to play flash games or get back the temporary joy of club penguin? you can, you just need to pay for it. i have a weird, neurodivergent obsession with occasionally checking in to watch the downfall and NFT-ification of neopets. if i'm honest with you all - i never got into webkins, my family didn't have the money to buy me a pointless elephant. people forget that "being poor" can mean literally "if i buy you that toy, i can't afford rent."
you and i don't have time to make good food, and we don't have the budget for it. we are not gonna be able to host dinner parties, we're not made of money, kid. do you want some kind of 3rd space? a space that isn't home or work or school? you could try being online, but - what places actually exist for you? tiktok counts as social media because you see other people on it, not because they actually talk to you.
there was a local winter tradition of sledding down the hill at my school. kids would use pizza boxes and jackets and whatever worked, howling and laughing. back in september, they made a big announcement that this time, rules were changing, and everyone must pay 10 dollars to participate. when im not scared shitless, i kind of appreciate the environmental irony - it hasn't gone below 40. so much for snow & joyriding.
i saw a bulletin for a local dogwalking group and, nervous about making a good first impression, showed up early. the first guy there grimaced at me. "sorry," he said. "there's a 30-dollar buy-in fee." i thought he was joking. wait. for what? the group doesn't offer anything except friendship and people with whom to walk around the city.
he didn't know the answer. just shrugged at me. "you know," he said. "these days, everything costs money."
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