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skaruresonic · 10 days

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So the latest discourse is that saying that Sonic isn't a hugger and his clingy behavior towards Shadow in Prime is proof of how much the fandom loves to complain about the smallest things. In fact, "yall say Sonic should be free but yall don't want him to do anything".

I find it fascinating. One, the language that implies that fans who say "no Sonic wouldn't do X because it's OOC" are actively stifling a person's freedom. My dudes, Sonic is a character, not a real person. Please don't conflate the two.

Second... this is the same fandom that has been crying for 10 years that Shadow is being written terribly. That now he's just Vegeta, that he's nothing like he used to be, that his Boom portrayal was a travesty, that his prickliness towards Sonic is completely wrong because he has always respected him, really, go play SA2 where he was at his peak!

Why is Shadow's perceived character defended so staunchly, but defending Sonic's character comes off as restricting the freedom of the very character?

It's as if Sonic, to these fans, simply doesn't have a personality in the first place. He can be whatever we want him to be. Shadow, on the other hand, can only be how he used to be in a game 20 years old now, because we loved that one.

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If we're gonna treat Sonic like he's a real person, it's only fair to respect his boundaries, no? Why should your desire to see him be cuddly supersede his boundaries? Would you do that to a real person?

Ofc the better retort would be "Sonic is a fictional character with an established character and you're misconstruing his love of freedom to suit your flanderization; pull your head out of your ass," but since this argument was made in bad faith, you gotta meet it where it lives.

People have been misinterpreting Sonic's whole attitude towards freedom to justify OOC non-game portrayals. First they insisted that Sonic has some dutiful love for the platonic ideal of freedom and that was why he always showed his enemies mercy. Now they're saying "you won't let Sonic do anything," as if fans are physically preventing poor third-party creators like Prime's showrunners from creating Peak Sonic(tm) by... criticizing Sonic's behavior after the fact. Because that's totally how reality works.

No, Patrick. Just because Sonic is "like the wind" doesn't mean any and all behavior is automatically in-character for him.

I suppose tomorrow's discourse will contend that Sega should let Sonic take the fattest rip off that bong because ST put a gag drawing of Classic smoking cigarettes on the break room door thirty years ago.

lol 420 blaze it

Anyway, if you look at the games, you'll find that Sonic isn't actually that touchy-feely. He rarely, if ever, hugs other people, but is typically the party being hugged instead. And he is usually portrayed as awkward or uncomfortable: he doesn't know what to do with his arms.

While some may argue that Frontiers!Sonic now feels "comfortable" enough to put a hand on Amy while she clings to him, he isn't... exactly reciprocating? He only seems to feel comfortable being glomped on when focusing on his other friends:

He's still not looking at Amy, he's looking at Tails lmao. More like he's just waiting for her to finish because he's come to expect getting glomped for long periods of time.

Whenever Sonic "touches" someone who initiates contact, he usually holds them at arm's length.

This is how he holds his best friend in the entire world, the second half of the Unbreakable Bond. If not even Tails is exempt from the junior prom dance rule, what makes folks think Sonic would act even chummier towards Shadow of all people?

Besides, I'm sure Game!Shadow's reaction to Sonic even attempting to hug him would be

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It's really bizarre. I swear this is the only fandom where the main characters' IC behavior is derided as OOC purely because it doesn't gel with the fanon fandom has built up in their heads. Mostly because we've fostered this environment of "the games suck" through a constant background radiation of disparagement, with such messages seeping through every pore of Sonic fan spaces as:

1.) "Sonic is inconsistent" 2.) "the series was never good" 3.) "the Sega-Sonic character design standard is too generic and cookie-cutter" 4.) "the games are incapable of being as complex or as deep as [insert spinoff media here]" 5.) "Sonic is a static character [and therefore that's bad]" 6.) "Sonic vs. Eggman is boring and routine" 7.) "game purists think the games and/or Sega can never be criticized."

that his prickliness towards Sonic is completely wrong because he has always respected him, really, go play SA2 where he was at his peak!

Thus, the conundrum of being an SA2 fan in a day and age where fewer and fewer who hype it up have proven they've played it, much less understand the game's themes. I get stuck between this rock and hard place of being just as tired of the overhype, yet being forced to admit over and over again that I acknowledge my favorite Sonic game it isn't nearly as unimpeachably Peak(tm) as everyone portrays it so people won't think I'm... for lack of a better term, the kind of SA2 fan who thinks SA2!Shadow is the GOAT. Battle!Shadow is the GOAT and nothing anybody says can change my mind. None of you fake-ass Shadows ever said anything nearly as metal as "This is the final voice of the last war machine," have you? I thought not

It can't be understated how much Gerald's brainwashing mitigates SA2!Shadow's portrayal. Although it doesn't completely invalidate the entire portrayal, it does beg questions of how much he was driven by forces outside his control.

While there are aspects of SA2!Shadow's character worth genuine analysis, people exaggerate his better qualities while ignoring or downplaying his less palatable traits (traits he displays in later portrayals as well), like the showboating and arrogance. And like I always say with Shadow, you can't cut him up into pieces like that. You have to accept the whole, rough edges and all.

It also doesn't escape my notice that SA2!Shadow advocates imply the only time Shadow ever had a "good" portrayal was before he underwent character development, which is another stereotype of us SA2 fans: that we perpetually huff nostalgia think the past is better simply for being the past.

Meanwhile, I've been saying for years that I would love for someone, anyone, to give Shadow something to do that has nothing to do with the ARK. That's why my first reaction upon hearing about SxS Gens was to headdesk. You have a character who's all about forging his own path and moving on, yet you're always sticking him in the same goddamn hamster wheel. Why.

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Why is Shadow's perceived character defended so staunchly, but defending Sonic's character comes off as restricting the freedom of the very character?

Tbqh, I don't think it's fair to pit Sonic and Shadow against each other like that because the entire cast, really, is being gutted by a fandom that insists the games have nothing of substance to respect. God knows people make shit up for Shadow and claim it has canonical basis too. And, you know, sometimes they don't even bother to do that - they just make things up simply because they figure the tropes that are good enough for other franchises must be good enough for Sonic as well. Looking at you, "Shadow was tortured on the ARK."

Sonic, Shadow, Eggman, Rouge, Cream, Tails, Amy, Knuckles, Silver... Most, if not all, the core cast has it bad these days. And I don't think this fanonization is going to get any better unless there's a change in fandom culture. Not until people stop thinking of the games as inferior and game purists as the no-fun-allowed fiction police.

#asks #long post

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ishowmymombldramas · 9 months

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Enchante (Thailand, 2022)

!!!THIS IS ALL JUST ONE HUGE SPOILER FOR THE WHOLE LAKORN, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO WATCH IT, THEN JUST PUSH YOUR DEVICE AND DO NOT READ THIS!!! But if you've already seen / you don't care about this work / you won't watch it / you're as thick-skinned about spoilers as I am, then you can read (I would read it better than I made such a mistake once).

Today we have a not sickly savory detective story called Enchante.

Plot: Theo returns to Thailand after living in France (is it their fetish to return years later?) to study at his father's university. After the move, Theo found himself in a new unfamiliar environment, but found a childhood friend Ak. One day Theo found a book in the library that "welcomes" him, its author is Enchante. This name means "nice to meet you" in French. Interested, Theo told Aku about this strange author. Ak soon found out that the four guys claim that they are the same Anshante. Will Theo be able to guess which of the four is the real Anshante? The social part: how Ak in the first episode yells at the customer of the online store with the words "MEN HAVE NO RIGHT TO RAPE WOMEN" >>>>>>> literally everything else

If you still want to watch this lakorn, then you should close this review already here, because what follows is not just spoilers, but a FULL STORY DRAIN. If you really want to know who the killer is in the story, then read on.

Love Line: Ak/Theo Despite the poster, the whole mega aesthetic and incredibly pastel vibe, THIS IS LITERALLY ONE OF THE MOST TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS IN MY MEMORY, ONLY MORE TOXIC IS THE RELATIONSHIP FROM LOVE THEORY WITH KHAI AND TERD, SORRY. Main characters: oh, they are worth considering in more detail, because we have a typical story where one friend is a prince, and the second is his unwitting servant. Theo: THE MOST EGO-CENTRIC PERSON I HAVE MEET, this man is SO selfish that he LITERALLY believes the whole world should revolve around him. All this fiction with enchante was only for AK TO GO EVERYWHERE WITH HIM! HE MADE IT ALL ONLY FOR AK TO SPEND ALL HIS TIME WITH HIM! He's just brainwashing him 24/7 with this story and his behavior. Ak: I've only seen people with such patience in Cupid's Last Wish, this man apologized for all Theo's psychoses, calmly swallowed when he admitted that he invented all this so that Ak would go everywhere with him. How I missed the characters from the section ✨a spineless rag✨, I even agree to accept if he is so from his love, but this is too much. I was sincerely sorry for Ak throughout the lakorn, because the person is literally the best, HE RAN TO PICK THEO FROM THE OTHER END OF THE CITY, BECAUSE HE WAS ASLEEPING IN THE BUS, TURNED OUT FUCK KNOWS WHERE AND CALLED FROM THE POLICE STATION, by the way, because of this, Ak lost work. Features: Book's French >>>>> all the nonsense characters and plot. In fact, this lakorn well reflects human greed and the desire to cash in on someone's naivety, literally all the ambassadors, except for Saifa (he was bribed directly), did this for their own benefit. Plus the romantic scenes are good enough, they're not too sugary and really look like long-awaited first love. I also love the forcebook a lot and their acting is really good, which is not bad for a debut lead role (as far as I know, this drama was popular at the time, which is good news for the actors). But to be honest, without my bias towards them, the lakorn is really bad precisely in the line of love, the detective is still more or less justified, even I could not guess who the killer Enchante was until episode 8 (and I actually guessed, who's under the mask of the monster in Scooby Doo is faster than the gang), but as they say, we need bad stories to learn from their mistakes. As much as I hate this lakorn, it's still my favorite (what a Schrödinger review: oh how I hate this toxic shit BUT YOU SHOULD WATCH, MY FAVORITE DRAMA YAH YES) I probably love the forcebook chemistry more than the plot.

I put 7 "I'll take you to the martian field" / "it's called Champ de Mars, idiot" out of 10 Force improvisations (did you think I'd overestimate everyone? ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ no.)

#review #thai bl #thai drama #thai series #thailand #forcebook #force jiratchapong #book kasidet #enchante #gmmtv bl #gmmtv #gmmtv series

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dv-doll · 11 months

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"AITA For Not Agreeing To Let My Husband Have A Baby w/ Another Woman?"

I know I've been posting kick the redditards outta here, but I still love listening to the occasional youtuber tell me sordid tales from the internet, including this one. It's rather old, but I noticed within the comments the youtuber went over and from a quick glance over that there was something going on with this lesbian pair who were stomping all over the OP's relationship that either no one seemed to notice or simply didn't want to acknowledge. The reason for that is redditers and other idiots don't wanna seem sexist against women for noticing this stereotype. Before some chick gets her panties in a bind, I KNOW, not every girl is like this, I tend to notice this stereotype with a lot of 'girl best friend' types, maybe you don't, so I'm not talking about you, don't get pissy. I know this stereotype because I am a woman and I'm not gonna pretend women don't have this toxic trait to "avoid looking like a 'pick me'". I'm not a 'pick me', I'm married, I literally couldn't care less about what people think about ME, but I think all women should check each other for bullshit like this. Anyways, these lesbians were very clearly attempting to claim 'their territory'. The sheer audacity of these absolute bitches to try and use OP's husband as some sort of breeding stud while knowing OP and him were working on their own family shows how blatant it is. Of course OP married their friend guy, that's fine they're 'lesbians' and they must maintain this illusion (more on that in a bit), but they also, instinctively, feel they're higher in the hierarchy than OP due to the fact that they have his first born, technically, even if he 'gave up all rights', they still have him visit to keep a somewhat fatherly connection and role to the child, which is fucking weird. They want all the power AND they force themselves in on another woman's relationship via the child they had with him, co-opting part of his time he has to spend with her. Even if he's volunteering that time, it's still a win in their sick, twisted minds. They were happy with that. They reveled in the idea that they had power in any future relationship this man ever decided to have outside of them. No one: "DV, those are some devilish assumptions you're making of how they think. I think you're just being mean cuz they're lesbians and you're a homophobe." Phobic implies I am scared when more accurately I'm disgusted and who wouldn't be of this pair of 'lesbians' behavior? They hear OP and her husband are trying to have a family so they impose themselves upon this man and his relationship again in order to more firmly establish themselves as part of his life over her? His actual wife? For being 'lesbians' this pissing contest over a man sure feels pretty straight to me, harkening back to ye olde harem marriages. They won't admit it, but the fact that they needed HIS sperm, instead of just using the same woman's eggs to ensure the children are blood siblings is rather telling. They even went so far as to attack OP's fertility to her face (hypocritically, of course, typical of these types) as if to establish she's a worse wife than they are, even though they're not married to him. The fact that he still associates with these cunts despite what they said to his wife is a huge weakness on his part. The lesbian pair clearly enjoyed the mind game they were playing with this guy and are pissed about the new player that might actually save him and make him happier with a more legitimate family. Last point, how stereotypical of them to use their child as a manipulation tactic to make him bow down. I hope OP and her husband, if this story was even real (OP's comments in the thread were very... mm bland?) cut the toxic whores and their kid out of their lives, but whatever. TL;DR - just skip past this I felt like a good rant dearies.

#understanding the womenfolk #things women do but won't admit to #it's part of your lizard brain instincts stop denying it #you either pretend you don't do it or you grow the fuck up out of it

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strawberry-nugget · 3 years

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𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙨 𝙄 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙖 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪 | E. Kirishima/ Reader/ K. Bakugo

𝙋𝙖𝙧𝙩 1

𝙎𝙮𝙣𝙤𝙥𝙨𝙞𝙨: after weeks of Bakugo distancing himself from you and Kirishima you finally get the chance to talk out what happened the other day, one thing leads to another and...

𝙒𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨: 18+ MINORS DO NOT INTERACT, thr*esome, oral (f! and m! receiving), double penetration, fingering, p*ssy slapping, dacryphilia, all characters portrayed are over the age of 20

𝘼/𝙉: I'm so sorry this took me so long. I know this is 6.5k with little to no plot but I hope you enjoy this, hehe, thanks for all of the notes and amazing comments on the last one. I'll be reblogging in a few minutes with the tags in those who asked. Also. This is top Kirishima. Top top top top Kirishima.

It's been two weeks now that you and Bakugo exist in different timelines.

He's never home, lost in patrol after patrol, leaving a hot mess behind him in his room, belts, gear, his back up costume messily sprawled across his room -you guess he doesn't have enough time to clean everything up. Still, the rest of the apartment always looks inhabitable, save for the little mess you make in the kitchen when you cook; he never cleans what's supposed to be your task.

You feel yourself growing sadder every day. It's something Kirishima notices and informs you he feels as well, rooted deep in how Bakugo is treating the two of you ever since that night. And the worst part is you can't do anything about it. He doesn't return his phone calls nor does he ever pick up, and by now you've accepted that he purposely avoids being in the house with you. It hurts even more knowing that he and Kirishima see each other at work every day; at least he knows Katsuki is doing okay, though as he reports, he rarely ever talks more than patrol and business.

You only wonder why he acts the way he does, thinking you don't deserve to get ghosted over for what happened. He's your roommate and one of your best friends, whatever made him feel like he has the right to ghost you with such each is not going to go by so easily and you're not willing to wait it out anymore either.

Thus, this Thursday night you call in sick for work and emerge yourself in the bathtub after checking the clock. 7.25pm. It's still an hour until Katsuki is off his shift, which means you have plenty of time to do some self care. Shave your legs, scrub your whole body with your coconut scrub- anything to calm down that put of anxiety that's starting to boil in the pit of your stomach.

You fear for the worst. That Katsuki doesn't want to be your friend anymore, and losing him doesn't sit right with you. Not over just catching him masturbating once.

There's a ton of things you want to say, or ask him. The lingering thought of him liking Kirishima or you digs deep enough into your brain and plants itself there, getting comfortable right next to the thought of him being jealous of your relationship. Could this be it? Could he just be lonely? He never talks about meeting anyone or having sex -that must be it, he's lonely, that's all.

Your bath doesn't last for long because you're nervous and the water runs cold before you have the chance to enjoy yourself. Maybe it's time to start turning the heating on in the apartment and you curse yourself because you have to talk this out with Bakugo as well -fuck its hard to not live on your own when you have to make shared decisions with someone. To your stomach's turbulence dismay you can't get out of talking to Katsuki.

"No, I literally won't tell you where she is Bakugo"

Your heart skips a beat at the sound of the door unlocking and closing again, followed by your boyfriend's familiar voice. You don't make a single movement to exit the bathroom yet- you're frozen, opting to rest on top of the toilet cap until you hear Bakugo's reply, your gut falling into a muddy pit of panic.

"I swear to fucking god if you two are trapping me to talk about it"

Typically of him, he shouts, barking and chewing a few sounds of what he's saying. Kirishima knows he's all bark and no bite though, you're eager to figure out how he'll oppose him.

"She wants to talk to you, you can't just ghost her like that when you live with her" There's a long pause next "and you should have told me that you're in fucking love with her"

"What?" Katsuki exclaims

What?

"You think I'm an idiot? Or that I can't comprehend basic human behavior? I know how people who feel the way you do act"

"What are you even saying Kirishima? That I'm jealous?"

You blink feverously, trying to take in what you're listening to unfold in the other room. You know a part of you has been wishing that this scenario wasn't true.

"Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You should have told me you liked her in the beginning. I would have never made a move"

They bicker back and forth for a few minutes; Katsuki accusing and Eijiro defending, then switching back and forth before going silent. It's then that you think you should emerge from the bathroom. It feels wrong to not be part of this conversation when you're the reason for their bickering, but at this point the guilt in your stomach is rotting and polluting your insides.

With a sigh, you turn the doorknob and inhale deeply. You tell yourself you can do this. You have to do this, yet your eyes are filled with hot and salty tears as you approach the living room.

Both of them eye you simultaneously, pursed lips and hands crossed over their chests; the only relieving thing about this is that they're sitting next to each other on the couch, their calves slightly touching. You know they'll make up again, they always will, but you're scared you won't be able to be part of that make up. Not with the information that's been poured onto you.

"Hi" You whisper and despite being sure both of them heard you, they make no effort to open their mouths and talk back "I uhm" You clear your throat "I heard what you were ah saying"

"Course ya did" Katsuki growls "course ya fucking did"

"Baku- I-"

"Save it! I'm gonna-" He snaps and makes a move to get off the couch, though Eijiro has other plans; he slams him back down with just a push of his hand

The same hand that's extended to you, overlapping Katsuki's chest, wordlessly asking you to join them on the couch. Your heart warms up slightly. Kirishima always does his best to make you feel included, it's no surprise he's smiling at you when you take a seat next to the blond.

"You're not going anywhere Bakugo. And babe, you can speak now"

Though you smile nervously with your lips, your first word falls silent, in awe of a lung filling sigh. Then by the time you gather some thoughts together your chest is shivering and the tears that you managed to drown before are now threatening to spill from your eyes again.

Kirishima is watching you religiously, pouting as you throw your head to the opposite direction of his to let out a small sob. He tightens the grip of his hand around yours and barely notices Bakugo batting his eyes to that direction.

"Hey, no, don't cry"

"I just don't want to lose Bakugo because of this" you sob and Kirishima shoots a killer gaze at the blond, biting the inside of his lip.

"You're not losing anyone idiot" Bakugo says, clearing his throat, giving Kirishima a strained look as well

"Babe, don't worry, Bakugo and I will be fine, you and Bakugo will be fine"

You sob again, wiping a stream of tears that's falling from your eyes and Kirishima wastes no time on cupping your cheek after bullying Bakugo to do the same. A nice change, you think, two hands reaching out for your face, you could almost get used to this.

"Yeah, you're not losing me" Bakugo tries to soothe, though by Kirishima's demand he adds to his words "I- uhh, I might want you but this has nothing to do with us not being friends"

"Yeah?" You sniffle, looking up

"Yeah"

It's too soft how you're cuddled into their arms instantly, pulled on top of them to sit on both of their laps, held tightly in both of their embraces. You coo into their arms for a while, content when Kirishima kisses your cheek and sobbing faintly when Bakugo rubs your back in circles.

"Do you want a beer baby?" Kirishima asks, softly patting your back and kissing your nape as he leaves you clinging onto Bakugo. You nod into the crook of Bakugo's neck in reply and Kirishima smiles from the other side of the couch.

The sound of the fridge opening is timelines away from what's entering your mind. Is it wrong that you like that cuddle too much? And is it even more wrong that you want more? Bakugo feels nice when you're curling up onto his lap and Kirishima adds warmth and love into everything he's touching, you almost feel your thighs clench at the idea of where your mind's traveling to.

"What if we had a threesome?"

It's so faint when it comes out of your mouth that you're convinced there shouldn't be any loud reaction to it, though you hear the can of beer that's presumably in Kirishima's hand hit the floor, you feel Katsuki's hand freeze on your back. Both of them wonder if they've heard correctly, but never asking you to repeat it.

"A uhm.. Threesome?" Kirishima asks "you'd like that?"

"Yes"

You try to hide your face deeper into Bakugo's neck, but he doesn't seem to approve of it- he pushes you back softly, with a thick hand on your stomach and another still on your back. You feel your face burning as you're forced to face him

"You'd really want a threesome?" You nod and Bakugo gulps "Right now?"

"Mhm" You gulp too, your nose almost nuzzling against his "if- if you want to"

The way you're swamped with attention is overwhelming. From the way Kirishima jumps to the edge of the couch towards you, to the way Bakugo lifts you up and stands on his feet, urging you to do the same as your feet land one by one on the carpet underneath you.

"Fuck okay uh, are you fine with it Bakugo?" The redhead asks, scratching the back of his neck.

"Yeah, I am."

Kirishima gulps when he sees Bakugo latch onto you, placing his hand on your shoulder and coughing up slightly "Should we set some rules?"

"Yes" Bakugo coughs as well, though you can feel him getting hard to where your thoughts are meeting his "wanna suggest anything?"

"Great uh, maybe no kissing between the two of you, since she's my girlfriend? And Katsuki you're wearing a condom too. Are these fine?"

Both of you gulp and nod. It's natural for Kirishima to ask this. Sharing you out of the blue can't completely sit right with him; it almost flicks a switch on inside your gut, making you gulp again when you feel him hugging you from behind.

"Safeword?" Bakugo asks

"Red" You reply cooing when your back finally hits your boyfriend's chest.

You don't even have enough time to count down seconds before you're pounded and squished between the two of them. It's a miracle that you somehow manage to convince them to move it to the bedroom.

Even if making a small stop at the hall wasn't in your original plan

Kirishima's hands are everlastingly on your waist pulling your back into his chest. He's nibbling on the nape of your neck, his fingers light as feathers as they're peeling your T-shirt off of you. He almost grunts at your exposed back, leaning down just to place a kiss on each of your shoulders before latching onto your ear

"It's fine baby, it's fine if you're embarrassed okay?" He blows into you then takes a bite of your ear lobe to which you shiver as you snap your head to his face. “what? Are you that excited?"

You gulp, nodding with your eyes shutting, an expression on your face that looks almost painful -Bakugo can't help but palm himself, searching Kirishima's carmine eyes with his, waiting for a sign that he should make a move or retreat. Anything that doesn't involve him getting a front row seat to how your chest bounces as Kirishima runs his hands on your torso from behind.

"Fuck, I-" He says, swallowijg his tongue in the process, just when Kirishima's hands change paths, now wiggling underneath your sweatpants.

"Enjoying the show Bakugo?" Kirishima's smiles and fuck- when did he adopt such an attitude? "Come 'ere"

Bakugo does as he's commanded, guided by Kirishima, as he trails your torso with his hands intertwined with his, squeezing your upper hips, trailing your belly button, eyeing you with doe eyes before launching a kiss to your navel. You writhe and wiggle in Kirishima's embrace- the feeling of another man too new, too strange to take in in less than a few moments, but Eijiro's got you, kissing your nape, your cheek, softly playing with your breasts above your bralette. Whispering his praises with his hands across your body.

"Good girl" You're sure he whispers in your ear "I got you" But all you can feel is Katsuki's breath as he's placing open mouthed kisses across your tummy, over the valley of your chest, your cheek.

Kirishima is overly alert by this, jumping in between the little scene, capturing your lips with his, using a hand to push Bakugo into the kiss as well, pulling him in as lips as smeared against lips, your saliva trailing out of your mouth. You instinctively rub your thighs together to relieve some of the burning sensation between your legs

Soon enough, Bakugo is taking off your pants, rhen his shirt, Kirishima's taking his off too, managing not to let you go all while pushing the three of you into the bedroom. There's nothing but a trail of clothing in the hallway that could suggest what's happening inside the room once the door closes shut; three pairs of sweats, three different t-shirts and maybe the white ghost of hot and heavy breathing.

On the bed, it's way more comfortable. Your arching back is finally resting against the pillowy mattress, Kirishima's smile from upside down soothing and forgiving, you almost melt away while he cups your face and bumps his nose to yours, giggling slightly, before glaring at Bakugo. He guides your head into his lap, still holding your cheeks, still rubbing circles onto your soft face, pouting hard before facing your friend.

"You good babe?" He asks you and you nod again, humming a small reply to him "you too Katsuki?"

"Yeah, fuck yeah, I am" He gulps, pumping himself twice.

"You're not getting in without prep by the way"

You writhe in Kirishima's lap, gooey eyes and mouth open wide as he leans to pry your legs open, trailing his middle finger across your clothes slit. Your chest jumps when you hear him chuckle. You know he's struck the gold vein he's searching for, your panties swimming in a puddle, completely damp from getting your neck attacked only a few minutes ago.

Katsuki marvels a finger across your slit as well, avoiding your clit purposely or flicking it occasionally, moaning every time his finger touches the chilly dampness of your underwear.

Kirishima pries your legs open wider, hooking his middle finger under your panties and pulling them over and slightly to the side, flashing the blond with a glimpse of you -you swear you see him gulp. Hard.

"Want a taste?" Kirishima asks, chuckling, as if Bakugo isn't frothing at the mouth at the mention of the action, as if he isn't diving in between your thighs like a starved man.

He almost rips your panties by pulling them to the side. Your hands link through his platinum hair and you almost whine at how soft it feels, or, about the moaning sounds he makes as he's digging his fingers in the plush skin of your thigh, swinging your leg wider. You slide a little further along, laid completely flat on the bed -head still on Kirishima's lap.

Sweetly, Kirishima captures your inner lips with his fingers and circles them around before making you hump on him, his knuckles bumping with Bakugo's nose when he chuckles again. You almost tear up by the over stimulating pressure Kirishima's fingers provide for you, but you decide to hold it in; not sure hitched breath leaves your mouth until Bakugo takes an experimental lick across your slit.

With a thumb presses to your clit he retreats for a second, just to watch as he sinks his middle finger inside of you and -"oh my fucking god Katsuki"- he's back at it again, licking at you religiously. Softly, like Kirishima always does, patiently. Just like you love it.

It has your back arching, chest bouncing for Kirishima's eyes to enjoy. He decides he won't have you hanging, bouncing and thrashing. With two huge palms he cups your breasts, flicking your nipples, massaging you for just enough time to make your heart burn, then he wiggles a finger to the hood of your clit, applying throbbing pressure.

The knot in your stomach is tight, your vision blurry, you're sure what you think is silent moaning is probably full-on screaming, mewling or pleas of pleasure that you can't comprehend.

Kirishima is smiling at you from above, still wiggling his finger on you left and right in Bakugo's business and you can't help it- you yelp, pushing Bakugo's face deeper into you. It feels good- too good, like your legs are nothing but jello, your stomach and thighs feeling like they've transformed into liquid smooth. You mewl in Kirishima's arms, coiling, desperately eyeing him in hopes that he and Katsuki won't stop what they're doing.

"M so close" You slur when Kirishima takes a hand of yours away from Bakugo's hair, softly turning it upside down, until your palm is met with the wetness of his foreskin, the pulsing slit of his that leaks precum into your hand.

He whines -"ohh"- when you wrap your fingers around him, instantly pumping your hand up and down, your grip firm and steady as you twist your wrist with every bob of your hand.

"Suck me off baby" Kirishima softly commands, rubbing an experimental circle with his tip on your lips, smearing some of his precum around your mouth. You gulp at how carelessly he pumps his base, until he pries your lips open.

You take him eagerly into your mouth, feeling your stomach churn and your thighs freezing in place by Bakugos movements; so long as you're steadily sucking Kirishima's cock into your mouth, he scissors his fingers inside of you.

"You like that?" He moans into you, eyeing Kirishima "you twitched- fuck you're twitching"

"Show me how wet she is"

Kirishima commands and Bakugo complies by taking his fingers away from your heat and shining them into Kirishima's face. You whimper but how good it feels when he moans against you, blinking as you watch your boyfriend take your friend's fingers in his mouth, sucking in eagerly, before popping the digits out of his mouth, leaving a trail of saliva fall faintly onto the valley of your breasts

"Your pussy's s'wet baby, you're dripping all over over Katsuki's hands" Kirishima thrusts in your mouth "you taste so good" then turns his attention to Bakugo "tell 'er, how fucking good she tastes"

Bulky fingers rub on your clit once more and Bakugos hand secures your tummy in place while pinning you down; you feel it then, the inevitable end of what has been building up in your stomach for such a long while and you can't help but scream at the feeling of coming undone. Shaking, struggling to take a breath without popping Kirishima out of your mouth.

"Fucking perfect"

Your vision is white, your head is buzzing and your legs are frozen. You can feel Kirishima fucking into your mouth once, twice and ever so slightly, depending in how relaxed your jaw is as he's moaning. You don't choke when he hits your throat, you simply moan onto him, too blinded by the afterglow of your orgasm to even react to what's about to unfold.

"Fuck- take 'em off- Fuuck" Kirishima says, you notice. Bakugo probably does as he's told; you hear shuffling and grunting, the soft pop of his dick to his stomach. You want to see-

Bakugo, hazed and drenched in you, cups your womanhood with his hand, landing his thumb on your clit and you yelp again, thrassing onto the bed, finally popping Kirishima out of your mouth. He tugs and drags his fingers away- he's opening you up, of course, that's it- and you can't help but roam your eyes all over him. Searching for his cock, wanting to see it dive inevitably into you.

It's unfair that Kirishima has a better view than you do, but at least, you hope he enjoys the view. You buck your hips forward when you feel Katsukis thighs grace against your own. His skin is unbelievably cold, making the hair on your legs and tummy raise; a tear rolls down your cheek then the moment the tip of his cock touches your clit.

"We've got- ah- condoms in the first drawer. On your left" Kirishima says cheerfully, bucking his hips away from your face, kneeling just to place a kiss on your forehead- your nose- your lips, finally bumping the tip of his nose to yours when he sucks your inner lip into his mouth

"You liked that baby?" Kirishima breathes "You liked Bakugo eating you out?"

"Mhm" You nod, not wanting to break away from the kiss, unlike Kirishima

You can hear Katsuki cursing, slamming the drawer shut as he fidgets with the condom. Everything seems slow, from the way his thick fingers can't grasp the tiny edges of the wrapper, to him finding out what's the right side to put it on -he grunts, inevitably- stealing giggles from both you and Kirishima

"Ah man, you're struggling, come 'ere let me help"

Bakugo grunts once again, although this time it's not out of frustration. Kirishima playfully pulls him close, places a kiss on his navel and extends his hand underneath Bakugo's, politely asking for the condom -you know his lips are pressed into a goofy smiley line right now just by the way his body moves.

Kirishima lets your cheek rest on his thigh when he moves to grab Katsuki's cock, to roll the condom on him while twisting his fist on him no more than twice -unfair- before playfully slapping the blond's ass, urging him to climb onto the bed again.

It's then that your hips are jerked and raised towards the blond, huge palms on your hips, pulling you towards him. Nervous touches, unspoken apologies for potentially harsh movements, his eyes are flickering into yours and his lips are all pouty, scrunched, his cheeks plump with embarrassment. He doesn't know if you notice, nor does he think he ever will, but it's killing him -that he's only allowed to line himself up with you under this circumstance.

Whether you notice the hurt in his eyes or not, you don't comment on it, nor do you spare him any worried look. He doesn't even know if he wants you to take pity on this state of his.

No.

No, he doesn't.

He only hopes Kirishima won't get mad when he cups your face tenderly, nor when he traps your face with his other hand caging you away from the redhead thigh -it's for better leverage he'll say if he's asked to- but you melt into his touch.

And his chest burns.

It's worse when he finally pushes into you. His heart won't stop beating hard and fast and he's scared he's going to have a fall. No-no- he shouldn't think about it, if he does think about it, he'll definitely have a fall.

"Ooh, ooh, ooh," You murmur, feeling the voice come from the depths of your chest.

That's the only confirmation he needs to ignite his ego and light it on fire. You feel good, you're sucking him in deeper and your cheek is still melting into his palm. It's more than enough; he ignores Kirishima's gaze and whatever it may carry behind it. It's for his own sanity he reminds himself.

"You're doing so good babe,'' Kirishima asks you, cupping your other cheek. He's smiling- no need to worry about him not having a positive reaction to Bakugo caressing you

(The rules that had been presented to him were simple- wear a condom and no kissing)

"You're taking it so well, isn't she Katsuki?"

"Fuck yeah" He grunts, thrusting harder

"So, so well baby, we'll make sure you get to come first okay?" You ogle your eyes at Kirishima, teary and soft by his words, clapping your lips together and pouting, begging him silently for a kiss. Only to feel the void when his soft lips don't come in contact with yours

"Oh no, no kiss for baby. You're so naughty, wanting me to kiss you when you're getting fucked by our friend"

"What?" You whine, popping on to your left elbow "Eiji- i want my kiss"

"None can do" He smiles and Bakugo snaps his hips into you "unless you earn it"

Your stomach is tied in a knot again, gummy walls tightening around Bakugo, back arching. It's almost painful to watch you sprawled like this underneath him, reacting in peak with the rhythm of his hips, begging him to go faster, harder. At one point, he's losing himself in the speed he's fucking you with, feeling like he's about to combust from inside out is not helping either

-He thinks, he'll be spent for days after this-

It's guttural, the way you feel as Bakugo thrusts inside of you, the way you mewl and twitch and feel your eyes roll to the back of your head. You feel full, so much that you mutter it, slurred and incomprehensibly at Kirishima. It's more than enough for him to rub your chin with his thumb and buck his hips on your face again. You take him eagerly, smiling with your lips when he lands on your tongue. You swirl it around, pump him deeper into your mouth, suck on his tip until he moans in sync with you.

"Bakugoo" He hisses, biting his lip as he's eyeing you "don't chase your own satisfaction! Go slower and rub her clit too" He takes Bakugos hand away from your face, tracing it down your body before landing on your heat, pinching your clit softly making you moan "ah so responsive"

For a while he doesn't move his hand away, focused on guiding Bakugo's fingers on you, teaching him how to make you feel good while he's fucking and you're on fire, gut churning and chest tight, ovestimulated by how good it all feels. You can't even take a proper breath as Kirishima humps deeper into your mouth. He groans too loud when his tip hits your cheek.

You know this is too much for him, you know he can't hold back any longer, but you grab onto his shaft and twirl your grin on his base, bobbing it into your cheek and popping it out before swallowing it again.

And while Bakugo's thrusts are becoming desperate, Kirishima bursts into your mouth, holding your hair softly, pulling you closer to you- closer, closer, until your nose hits his navel, biting on his cheeks and squinting his eyes so he won't shut them, drunk on the view of you overflowing with his come. He only grubs your chin, swiping his thumb on the white trail that's spilling from the corner of your lips, trying his best to smirk at you without taking a breath.

"Swallow it sweetheart -ah- that's right, you're so -fuck- perfect for me"

Your lower stomach is protesting, bursting slowly as Bakugo is thrusting faster into you. His speed, him hitting that spot in your gut repeatedly, creating the perfect feeling of numbness, it's all too much and not enough all at once, you want to cry out- you gush and you writhe as your legs hook around Bakugo's waist.

Your boyfriend retreats from his previous position, smiling as ever, petting Bakugo's blonde hair, massaging your breast, kissing your nipple, then attacking your upper chest, trapping supple skin in between his tongue and teeth, dragging Bakugo along with him. It's what ultimately leads Bakugo over the edge, his tip feeling numb, blood rushing all over his body, he thrusts a few more times before he pulls out, spilling his own satisfaction into the condom, feeling his heart race faster than ever before.

"Your doing sooo good" Kirishima says once more, pecking your lips repeatedly. "Wanna ride me? Or are you tired? "

"Fuck no, lay down"

"That's my girl" He smiles "Katsuki, come here"

Kirishima rubs your wetness up and down, grunting when he finds your clit, grazing it with the back of his hand, whispering about how wet you are, to which you respond by hugging your arms around his neck, hiding your face in the crook of his neck. You only pull back when he lets you coo into him by petting your hair softly.

You're instantly met with Bakugo's eyes blazing into yours from above- it's not intimidating, rather, it's lustful, but you still need some time to pull yourself back, despite the eagerness in his eyes. You must have missed the point where he discarded his condom, or just how thick he actually is, because he's standing hard and proud before you, nervously searching for Kirishima's approval.

Your boyfriend's approval comes with gripping on him and easing him close to you. You take him in both of your hands, relying on Kirishima to keep your torso lifted, focusing on twisting your hand around him in the same way you did for Eijiro. Too bad you almost lose grip when He snaps his hips into you.

You can feel Katsuki's dick twitch into your hands as you pull him down lower, getting your tongue out of your mouth to place kitten lips all over his length. Eijiro mimics you, licking the tip when you're not licking the base, letting you take control when he ceases his movements for a bit, to lift both of you a little higher, so you don't have to bend your neck as much. He strokes some sweaty strands of hair away from your face, he kisses your cheek and Bakugo is already thrusting into your mouth feverously.

"Fuck"

"You're so wet baby, you feel like you could take us both" You yelp, wide eyes as you freeze on the spot "want to take us both?"

"I do" You yelp with tears in your eyes "I do I do, I do I do"

"Oh, look at you being so desperate, want to get -ah- wrecked, don't you?"

"I do Eiji- you cry out

"Then ask Katsuki to take you too, ask him to shove his cock into you while I'm fucking you too, like the greedy little thing you are"

At this point, you think poor Bakugo isn't going to make it to the end of this.

"Katsu" You plead, watery eyes staring into desperate carmine ones "Katsu fuck me while Eiji fucking me too-"

"Say please" Kirishima interrupts, pinching your nipple "or I'm not going to let him"

"Please, pleaseplease, please"

"Fuck yeah" Katsuki replies "ill fucking wreck you" The sounds he's making are supposed to be words, though they're far from being clear and understandable, his veins are pulsing into your mouth. He's too excited for this, so excited that you know he'll never make it to the drawer to reach for a new condom. So Kirishima is doing it for him, hooking the little rubber between his fingers as he's opening the drawer.

"Come on baby, pull back" He taps on your shoulder and places a kiss on your collar bone, thrusting deeper into you this time. The reaction is immediate, you're throwing your head back in seconds and Bakugo whines at the sudden departure of your warm mouth.

Kirishima allows you to kiss his thighs, his tip, his navel, to squeeze the small of his back and his ass before letting you wear the condom onto him.

You lose track of Bakugo until you feel wet kisses being planted on your thighs and ass, the back of your knees. You feel his hand being placed on your thigh, the warmth of his palm as he's soothingly rubbing it up and down your skin, to prepare you, raising his thumb to graze at your crotch occasionally. You whine every time he thumbs your clit, or flicks it when it meets with Kirishima's navel.

"You good? I'll start with my fingers" You choke on the sound of his words and nod frantically. If only you could actually watch him when he delves his middle finger in you along with Eijiro's cock. Still you whine loudly, when another finger joins the first one, slowly scissoring inside of you "fuck you're gonna take it so well aren't you? Kirishima's right. You love this"

"Answer him," Kirishima whispers, teeth biting down in your lobe. He grabs your face, trapping your cheeks between his fingers, turning you in Katsuki's direction, pushing your cheeks together. You swallow when you see the blind focused on watching you stretch.

"I love it

But Eijiro isn't satisfied with how you're trying to make your words get past from your lips

"Say it like you mean it doll, or I won't let your friend put it in"

You eye him dangerously, putting your lips even further before muttering a soft 'fine' -your redhead doesn't make a comment on your little attitude, probably because he's gotten what he's wanted from you- and Katsuki hisses, fisting his cock faster.

"I love it so much Katsuh"

"And Eiji- you mean. It's not only him that's here" Kirishima smirks and this time he pulls out of you, flipping your body so that your back is facing him. One hand comes to your wetness, spreading your lips apart, stretching you wide open "Try again" He lets go just for a moment, to slap your clit loosely. Once. Twice. Never ceasing when you whine. Your hips buck up towards Katsuki.

"Look at how nice I am, I even gave you a full view. Am I not?"

"You are Eiji. You're the best, the best. And I love this so much, I'm going to combust"

"Oh you will?" Katsuki interrupts, grunting when Kirishima pulls his dick closer to you, rubbing the head on your clit until Katsuki gets the hint. You let out a guttural groan at the feeling, tears starting to form in the corners of your eyes from being too overstimulated for so long

"Yes baby, I will, just please"

"M going in-" Katsuki announces, earning a nod from Kirishima "If he won't let you come, then we don't listen to him 'kay?"

Kirishima chuckles at the one and bites the top of your ears dragging his tongue to the base of it- a warning- to not try and agree with what Katsuki's offering. And being obedient definitely pays off when you feel your boyfriend's head poke against your entrance.

It feels splitting and painful all at once; the tears in your eyes are pouring, and none of the caresses you're receiving is helping. You need time to adjust and both men provide that for you. Minutes pass spent with soft kisses. Kirishima sucking your neck and Bakugo kissing your breasts, the three of you making out- anything until you feel like you can get used to them.

And when you do, they go slow, each at their own pace, simultaneously hitting spots that you don't know could or should ever be hit at the same time.

"You good?" Both men ask and you have to gulp that frog that sits at the top of your mouth if you want to talk, but you can't. Your throat is too tight, your eyes are too watery

"Babe"

"Better than I thought I'd be actually"

You get lost in the haze of their hips, their thrusts and you can already feel Katsuki collapsing onto you, chasing his own pit of pleasure when it hits you. Your gut coming undone for the last time has your heart leaping and skipping beats; you hook your arm around Katsuki's neck, jumping up and down from how fast both men are thrusting into you and you bring your face to his, cooling your mouths together.

When he feels you clamp down on him -and Kirishima- he pulls out, rolls the condom off and strokes himself slightly. You whine at the sudden departure of him inside of you but you quickly clamp down on just your boyfriend, before feeling him shifting from underneath you, finally pushing down the small of your back. You take Katsuki into your mouth while Kirishima slaps your ass, thrusting fast and hard into you.

There's no sweet talk right now, authority and intimidation hiding away as satisfaction is being chased. Sloppily and not carefully at all. It's evident in how you're sucking Katsuki off. There's no consistency in your rhythm, you're squirming as Kirishima is slowing down before picking up his pace again, running his hands through your hair affectionately. When he comes, he coats your insides in white ropes of pleasure, riding off his orgasm softly, until he feels himself stop twitching.

By the time he pulls out you've made Katsuki come as well, hearing his high pitched grunts as he lets it all out in your mouth. Although this time you're not overwhelmed with the amount; it's his second round nonetheless.

Katsuki's hands don't cease to take this chance, even if they're awkward and shaking he's grabbing your cheeks squishing them just like Kirishima did a while ago and kisses you, poking his tongue in your mouth, moaning at his own taste, pulling your lips under his teeth.

You know your lips will be bruised by this. And you don't care. Because when he pulls back, Kirishima is kissing you as well, pulling you into his arms, caging you into his chest.

You even smile as tiny, peppery kisses are pressed onto your skin.

"You did so well" Kirishima smiles "you too Katsu, you both were amazing"

Katsuki smiles, popping onto the bed as well, wrapping his arms around your waist and pulling himself onto you and Kirishima. He nuzzles his nose at the crook of your neck and for the first time in a while he feels warm, content, calm and collected. Or so you think by the kiss that's planted onto your back by him.

It's tender and soft, mimicking Kirishima's but feeling nothing like your boyfriend's kisses at the same time. You collapse further into Kirishima's chest and he kisses the top of your hair and your cheek, mellowy.

"Wanna take a bath?" He suggests under his breath and both you and Katsuki nod, sinking further in the sheets with heavy eyes. Maybe when your feet won't feel like they'll betray you, you'll get up and have a warm bath, sandwiched between Katsuki and Eijiro, smothered in kisses, lathered in lavender soap, maybe you'll make a cup of chamomile for the three of of you and cuddle between them before you go to sleep.

Until then…

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yandere pillars (pt.2) | kny

yandere! au

general headcanons !

[Iguro Obanai, Muichiro Tokito, Himejima Gyomei, Shinobu Kochou]

note: I typically write muichiro as age 18, but bc there's no nsfw ig you could view him as whatever :/

WARNING(S): unhealthy/obsessive behavior, abusive themes, mentions of kidnapping and murder

Iguro Obanai

yandere type: stalker, obsessive, manipulative

Iguro has flexible taste, but would most likely be attracted to someone social and "pure"

due to his self-loathing and insecurities, he admires those who are completely opposite to him

Different to the other pillars, you caught his attention for a unique reason, separate from your looks and personality

you were sanemi's tsugoku

(sanemi has very outwardly expressed how he would never take on a tsugoku but here you were, why?)

how was it that such a kind individual was sanemi's tsugoku?

and so he watched you, purely out of curiosity at first

but then curiosity turned into a crush and a crush turned into an obsession

Unlike the others, he has no intention of making you his

he feels dirty and completely unworthy of you, especially because he's lucid about his unhealthy feelings

however, he also sees others as unworthy of you

oh you got a suitor? dead; they don't deserve you

yeah he's never gonna let you get married

He's willing to be your friend, but he's not so bold so you'd have to start that friendship

Very intelligent and determined, Iguro knows how to get what he wants from you

which is really just attention

he's also really good at getting you to change your mind about things

he can convince you out of missions

or out of friendships with those he deems competition

He hates himself for it, but he often gives into his urges whenever you want to touch him or spend time with him

he tries to say no but he just can't

as much as he fantasizes about you confessing to him, he knows he shouldn't ever say yes if it happens

he's not nearly good enough for you

he's worried he'd accept you

He's a stalker right off the bat, even though he had pure intentions originally

but then he eventually starts breaking in and watching you sleep, hoping Sanemi doesn't catch him

After a long while of his obsession going on, he may get a bit delusional

he may think you're doing this purposely

you're tempting him

he does pull himself together though, and won't do anything

If it somehow ever gets to the point where he feels he has to kidnap you (highly doubtful), it will come from a purely protective standpoint

you were seriously hurt and he can't let that happen again

He'd treat you as neutrally as possible

he wouldn't treat you as a romantic partner, he doesn't deserve it

he probably feels guilty about it at first, but it'll pass

he'd do whatever you ask except release you (and he'd do his best to say 'no' if you were to ask him to cuddle)

As a stalker, he'd likely leave little gifts around

not anything too large or noticable, just things like jewelry

he'd never tell you they were from him

He's scarily good at hiding his true feelings

well he should be obvious to you, but you take his willingness to help you constantly as friendship

He craves your affection, but refuses it

you'd sometimes eat dinner with him and pat his head and he'd have to freeze to keep himself from pulling you close to him

he low-key gives off worshipper energy idk

Muichiro Tokito

yandere type: clingy, possessive, selfish

There's no specific quality or energy he's attracted to in his darling, they're just them

you have an affect on him as soon as he sees you and he doesn't like it

You're new there when he first meets you at a pillar meeting; one of the newer workers for Oyakata-sama

you weren't that noticable either, just someone who brought them tea or food

the only other pillar to even glance your way more than once was Mitsuri, who always complimented and thanked you whenever you brought food in or did something for her

something irked him when she gave you attention

she shouldn't do that, only he should

would she even notice if you were gone?

would anyone? he would.

He never makes his feelings clear to you, it's like he expects you to already know

he barely speaks to you, and when he does it's about simple random things like colors or clouds

after becoming only slightly aquainted with you, he'll start dragging you places without giving you any information

usually it's to watch him train so that he can show off or to just sit with him (which is incredibly awkward because neither of you say anything)

you get put in that situation more often as time goes on, especially if you were talking to someone beforehand

he'll grab hold of your hand and pull you away from the person you were speaking with, to a bench where he sits beside you and stares ahead

you don't say anything, not wanting to offend a pillar

Muichiro is the most likely to kidnap you, and does so without ever truly getting to know you

he doesn't even hesitate when he does, he knows he needs you and can't have others taking your attention away from him

He had a perfect image of you in his head and there's nothing you could do to tarnish that image

escaping and misbehaving will no doubt earn you punishments, but he'll still think you're perfect

He's pretty strict when it comes to rules and is consistent with his punishments

always keeps his promises, there's no talking your way out of anything

he doesn't understand why you try anyway, it only makes sense what he's doing

He has the intelligence to manipulate you, but doesn't see much of a point unless he's trying to guilt you into hugging/comforting him

that's about it

he tends to be very straightforward as he doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing

he may see it as a way of protecting you, but it's mostly just to calm his raging jealousy and need for you

your feelings aren't a big concern for him (especially at first)

Over time he'll grow nicer and start treating you with more empathy and respect

but that underlying selfishness is always present

He loves when you touch him or give him even the slightest attention

he wants to be loved and praised more than anything else

if you refuse to show him affection, he'd threaten you into it

forces you to tell him you love him and such

he's so good at conditioning you that only after a couple years, you're turned into the perfect partner

Muichiro isn't so caught up in the marriage and children aspect of things

he doesn't look far into the future but is open to the possibilities

Once he becomes more aware of your emotions, he starts doing nice things for you like bringing home small gifts

they're most often flowers or rocks he thought were pretty

not very cool, but a sweet effort nonetheless

You're access is limited to just the house, but he'll let you sit on the porch or in the backyard to watch him train

(he's very soft for when you bring him water to cool him off. any show of care for him is happily welcomed.)

sometimes afterwards, he'll lay you on the grass next to him so you can watch the clouds and trees together

he enjoys it and knows it helps ease any stress or anxiety you have

maybe maybe he'll let you go on walks with him after a few years but he's still against the idea of letting others see you

you're for his eyes only

he's the only one you can look at and give attention to

Himejima Gyomei

yandere type: obsessive, protective

Given the fact that he's blind, looks play no part in finding a darling for him

it's all about gentleness and empathy for him

(he might have a soft spot for a small darling but he's so big that anyone is small compared to him)

He first meets you when you visit his estate to deliver desserts

you're a new kindergarten teacher at the nearest village and wanted to welcome all your neighbors kindly

he was interested immediately, but didn't see you again for awhile after that due to his profession

the second time he met you, he was on his way back to his estate after a dangerous mission and he stumbled into you heading home from buying supplies for your students

noticing his injuries, you offered to go home with him to help and that kick-started your relationship

Gyomei is most likely to have a "normal" relationship with you

his tendencies aren't very extreme by any means and he has a lot of self-control

he admires and respects you and wants you to feel the same for him

Very lucid with his feelings, he accepts that they're not healthy and forces himself to hide them

there's nothing that could make him snap/break into hurting you

kidnapping however,,, maybe

He's pretty traditional when it comes to courting you

he takes you on dates whenever he can, he guys you gifts, he visits you, and walks you home

Marriage is definitely something he wants, he also wants children, having a soft spot for them himself and knowing what a good parent you'd be

unfortunately he’s so passionate about his love for you that he gets a little ahead of himself and moves quickly

He's not very forceful with any of his actions, however he's serious when it comes to knowing where you are

whenever you go somewhere, he has to know

this is his protective nature taking over, not wanting you to be hurt in any type of way

accidents are fine and normal, but he doesn't know what he'd do if a demon went after you

he carries a lot of guilt from his past, letting people get hurt, so his reasoning is easy to understand

Say you were to die from any cause, he wouldn't be able to carry on

not even to get revenge for you

he'd just slowly waste away, refusing to eat, drink, or sleep

he wouldn't survive without you, you're everything to him

He treats you extremely gently, afraid to accidentally harm you in any way

this man is Large™

and very capable of breaking any bone in your body if he squeezed

he's terrified of hurting you

so much so that he sometimes refuses to touch you

you'd have to hold onto his a while on dates because he doesn't want to hold your hand too tight

Piggy back rides and carrying you around is fine, but he doesn't put any effort into hugs, handholding, cuddling, etc.

well cuddling sometimes, but only if you're on top of him bc what if he rolls over and crushes you in his sleep?

he's always concerned about your feelings and general well being

Should you ever break up with him?

oh god he'd feel as if he were dying

he'd probably be sobbing on his knees begging you to stay with him, unintentionally guilting you into agreeing

he always tries his best to go along with your wishes though so he'd feel bad about it afterwards :/

oh well at least you're still here

But if you still leave him? he might kidnap you just to keep himself alive

he really can't be without you for long

In a kidnapping scenario, he'd be a very good captor

spoiling you and giving you whatever you want

he'd feel constantly guilty about the whole thing but he loves you so much

there's no escaping from him

his blindness isn't much of a weakness and he's impossibly strong

he'd still try to give you as much freedom as possible though

Gyomei is keen on verbal praise rather than physical affection

hearing someone speak to him so kindly really does something to him

If you're the more clingy type, that's fine too

he likes getting on his knees and letting you pet his hair and kiss his face (he's much too tall to let you do this standing up)

Shinobu Kochou

yandere type: manipulative, protective

Shinobu is most attracted to naivety, someone she can tease

you want to learn medicine, so you begin studying under her after talking your way into the position

she didn't accept you at first but you impressed her with your persistence so she eventually agreed

Her obsession wasn't much of an obsession at first, more of a soft crush

she thought you were the cutest thing she's ever seen, so focused on listening to her teachings

she found every reaction and expression shown on your face as something she wanted to see again and again and again

it gets to a point where she'd lie and trick you with certain things just so she'd have an excuse to scold you and see the pitiful look you give her

She's not really the jealous type, in fact you can hang out with whoever you like as long as you're in the estate and come back to her everyday

so nothing she does is driven by feelings of envy or possession

she still needs to be your number one though for sure

if she thinks there's a risk of a rival, said rival will be eliminated

Shinobu is the second most likely to kidnap you out of all the pillars

it starts slowly with refusing to let you leave the estate (to visit your family or get supplies) with excuses of how dangerous it is out there and someone else can do it

it ends with her poisoning you so you're bedridden and unable to leave

whether or not you figure out what she's doing, it doesn't matter

you can't convince anyone to believe you and she'll never let you go

With how manipulative she is, she could do whatever she wants with you at this point, so it's definite that she won't allow you to stay sick forever

she'd likely make you think you're delusional, that there's no way she'd do this to you; she's your mentor

you're just so sick that you're mind is making things up to help you cope

she loves you

Once you start believing her to be your savior, then she'll begin healing you and letting you get back to regular life

only this time you're dedicated to her, so you wouldn't want to leave constantly

She'd know if you were to lie to her or show any in-genuine feelings

she's studied you and trained you well enough to know everything she needs to in order to keep you in check

She doesn't care too much about punishments, she knows she can act hurt and guilt trip you into behaving

but if you act up too bad, she's willing to step in and correct you in any way she has to

She doesn't control your entire day, but she does dress you up, feed you, and have time that is reserved for the two of you to be together

cheek kisses are required every day when you leave her and when you see her again

she's ok with you hanging out with whoever, but no treating them with the same affection you should be giving her

She's the only one who can cook for you, too afraid of you getting sick otherwise

she may have the ability to nurse you back to health, but she prefers you to be happy and healthy

as much as she wants you to enjoy yourself your happiness isn't her main priority

keeping you safe with her is

She's the "if I can't have you, no one can" type

if you're too set on escaping from her after a long period of time and are causing a lot of problems for her, then she may have to kill you

it'll be fine because she'll reunite with you in the afterlife, where you can't escape her no matter what

she'll think of you every day until she dies and can see you again

if she thinks she's going to die, she'll be sure to take you with her

you belong together

Her ideal behavior for her darling would be clingy

she wants her love to follow her around, clinging to her closely and whining for her attention

she doesn't find it annoying as long as you listen when she tells you to calm down

She loves gifting you with attention and jewelry

she expects you to wear everything she gets you with pride

she'll get something matching with you, likely a charm bracelet or ring

Marriage isn't something she needs, but she'd love to show your love for each other in any way

Overall she's not the worst, but keeping up with her controlling, manipulative personality and minor sadistic streak can be quite difficult

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excuse any spelling or grammar mistakes I'm not illiterate i swear

-Admin Duckie

#yandere kny #yandere demon slayer #iguro obanai #iguro obanai x reader #yandere obanai #yandere iguro obanai #muichiro tokito #yandere muichiro #muichiro tokito x reader #gyomei himejima #himejima gyomei #himejima gyomei x reader #yandere gyomei #yandere himejima #shinobu kochou #yandere shinobu #shinobu x reader #yandere x reader #yandere

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I think the reason why I could never get on board with Carly and Freddie as a couple was not just the lack of chemistry (they really didn't have a spark imo, every time I watch iSaved Your Life even objectively, I can't really root for it) but also because Carly always manipulated Freddie and he always gave into her despite knowing it. That's not healthy.

Carly isn't a bad person. She's a great person. But she's more than a little spoilt and has an abundance of stability in her life. It doesn't make her unkind or even self-centered in a conventional way, but it does find its outlet in other ways. One of those ways is her flighty nature with boys. She likes them for their looks but is very quick to pick apart reasons to dislike them too. That's not a bad thing either. She's a teenage girl and they are flighty in affection. Carly is allowed to be too. But that does leave Freddie in between a rock and hard place when he's young because Carly can not feel the way he wants her to but she also enjoys the attention he gives her. Simply put, Carly and Freddie both deserve better.

Carly deserves to explore relationships as much as she wants to and Freddie deserves someone who won't use his affections against him with little to no remorse.

Carly does have some sadness from her father not being there but it seems she doesn't have any extreme trauma from the loss of her mother (likely cuz she was young when Mrs. Shay died?). Carly has an older brother and a father and grandfather who never fail to remind her they love and care for her. That overall leads to her stable home life and therefore, a desire to explore new things and new relationships. The world is her oyster so to say.

Contrast that to Sam who's had very little stability in her life. Her dad left. Her twin left. Her mother is never home and if she is she's irresponsible enough that Sam practically grows up alone aside from her best friends. She's someone who doesn't let people in because the ones closest to her burned her. She's insecure but has walls and is fiercely protective over the people she loves.

Freddie and Sam work not only because of their chemistry, but because of what they offer to each other. Sam has explored many horizons because she's been on her own since she was little. She needs love and stability and is only willing to accept it from the people she has let down her walls to. She found Family in Carly and Spencer but in a relationship, she found Freddie as much as she didn't want to.

Freddie is very much alike Carly in the fact that he's been sheltered growing up. With Sam, Freddie fights back and learns to take care of himself. He doesn't take her abuse lying down, he fights back until it becomes a game between them. He gains independence from his mother the more he hangs out with Sam and grows up. Freddie is a very typical "boy next door". His affection is genuine and he clearly wants someone to share it with, someone he already has a connection with and will reciprocate.

It's obviously unexpected for him to share that affection with Sam, but it also adds something to his life that otherwise wouldn't be there. A new perspective. While Carly has to break boundaries and meet new people to find hers, Freddie just needs to meet Sam and her unconventional behavior challenges him enough to break away from his usual lifestyle and forces him out of his comfort zone to learn new things.

Carly is never really forced out of her comfort zone by Sam because their relationship is balanced. They're like sisters that way. Accepting each other wholeheartedly with the occasional fight or two. Carly was Sam's first friend who stayed so Sam doesn't push Carly and Carly doesn't attempt to change Sam. Sam has no reservations like that with Freddie though and ultimately it's what causes him to grow up, him being pushed out of his comfort zone by Sam. And when he starts fighting back? That's when he pushes Sam out of hers.

A relationship helps you grow individually as well as together. Freddie and Carly work so beautifully as best friends because they're mirrors to each other. But they'd never work as a couple because Carly would always win over Freddie and neither of them would learn how to be their own person or gain new perspectives of things. Conversely, Sam and Freddie are opposites which is why they work so well as a couple. They help each other grow individually (become more trusting and responsible vs become more relaxed and open minded) as well as in a relationship.

This is not a hate post in any way. Im just voicing my own opinion and thoughts about why I, despite loving a large amount of best friends to lovers relationships as well as enemies to lovers ones, could never connect with or enjoy Carly and Freddie beyond a deeply platonic bond. Sam and Freddie have a bond built on equal give and take but also equal push and pull which is why it's so fierce, nuanced and entertaining to watch and pick apart.

#iCarly #Sam Puckett #Freddie Benson #Seddie #Sam puckett x Freddie Benson #Carly shay #Not tagging the other ship cuz i dont really think it has any business in that tag #This isn't exactly an anti post but it's not a pro post either #Nickelodeon #Nick #Teen nick

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Hey, Jennifer. I recently broke up with my agent, and they're not taking it well—they're subtweeting me, withholding information regarding my book on submission, and sending threatening/condescending emails to me about my future career prospects. I know that even though this was a business decision, emotions get involved, but I'm feeling so discouraged about hopping back into the trenches and afraid I'm getting slandered :( How would you suggest authors protect themselves from this/move on?

Yikes - I'm so sorry about this. It sounds like your former agent is a real piece of work. That sucks -- and just so nobody else gets scared, please everyone, know that this is NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR. I personally am on good terms with everyone that I've "broken up" with over the years -- even if they fired me and it stung for a bit, there's NO reason to be carrying on like this. After all - especially if I have books with them -- I have to correspond with them in the future! We WILL cross paths! I might need something from them, or they might need something from me! It would be MADNESS to burn bridges like this, IMO.

So, we've established that this person is Not Being Okay. That is not great, but here's the good news: They can't do anything to you. No agents are "powerful" enough to do any damage to you in terms of publishing-world. Because look, first of all, they won't know who you are querying. Agents don't typically call up other agents to say "what happened with this person?" -- especially if we know that YOU broke up with THEM. If that other agent was literally my best friend or something, MAYBE I'd know whatever their side of the story was -- but other than that, if they have an ounce of self-preservation instinct they won't want to broadcast her failures, and the agents you are querying won't be anxious to draw attention about who they are courting for possible representation. Not to mention, we tend to believe what authors tell us about their past representation. So, while this agent might smack-talk you to their very closest associates, any goss is unlikely to travel further than that, and if it did, it would look bad for THEM more than YOU.

I'd suggest taking this holiday break to lick your wounds and just get yourself organized, and then just tackle querying and whatnot in the new year. Don't give a thought to this person - you may be living rent free in THEIR head, but there's no reason to allow them the same room in yours.

GOOD LUCK!

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8 Untold Signs Of Narcissist People

Sometimes the signs of narcissism aren't so obvious and narcissists fly under our radar. Not every narcissist may be a puffed-up addict or a Mean Girl like Regina George. If they were, we could see the signs from a mile away and steer clear. No, many narcissists are sensitive, thoughtful, and generous – until the charade wears off, of course.

That's why it's so important to know the subtle signs of narcissism that you simply won't notice until it's too late and they've sucked you into their region.

What's the Difference Between an Overt and Covert Narcissist?

Many people tend to consider narcissists as having extroverted personalities. They're flamboyant and demand to be the middle of attention – how are you able to miss them?

The truth is, introverts also can be narcissists. These are those who fool us into their web of manipulation.

"They're not self-absorbed – they're just sensitive!"

"They're not a nasty friend – they're just misunderstood!"

After forming a relationship with a covert narcissist, you realize that this sensitivity and isolation were, in fact, signs of narcissism. Since the signs weren't so obvious, however, you completely misjudged things.

8 Signs of Narcissism You Can't-Miss

Since the covert narcissist is best at hiding their abusive behavior, it's important to know the subtle cues that give them away.

1. They'll Never Utter the Phrase "I Don't Know"

I once knew a narcissist who was so averse to the present phrase that he would rather give someone dangerously incorrect answers than admit to not knowing something. He was confident in his woefully wrong answers, too.

Why do this?

Answering an issue with "I don't know" deprives the narcissist of important attention. The person seeking a solution will simply advance to somebody else who might help them. That's an enormous ego hit.

That's why you'll often find narcissists rambling on about topics they need no business speaking on.

2. They Are A Nasty Friend

The narcissist is usually a nasty friend but you'll typically find them playing the victim. confirm to urge all sides of the story if you're unsure.

What are some red flag signs of narcissism that indicate the suspect may be a narcissist?

• They get irritated when their friends invite help or advice.

• They don't bother to call or text their friends on birthdays or holidays.

• They don't return borrowed items. (A sign of entitlement.)

• They owe their friends money. they'll downplay this as "not an enormous deal."

• They embarrass their friends ahead of others.

• They hunt down or entertain their friends' partners or love interests.

They also treat waitstaff or service workers poorly. This is a dead giveaway. run the hills. Anyone who disrespects waitstaff or service workers views people as "beneath" them. Soon, you'll be a part of the inferiors also.

3. They Need To Insert Themselves Into Every Story

A covert narcissist might not demand everyone's attention. They will, however, still find how to form everything about them. an outsized part of this strategy involves inserting themselves into every story.

Is a coworker talking about their experience with homelessness? The narcissist, too, features a story about being poor.

Is a lover talking about his amazing trip to Vietnam? The narcissist also had a friend who visited Vietnam. And guess what? She heard it wasn't so great.

No matter the subject, the narcissist features a remarkable skill for turning the eye their way – regardless of how innocuous it'd seem.

4. They're Sensitive

At first, you'll appreciate their ability to freely express emotions. this is often an excellent tactic narcissists use to lure empathetic people into their trap.

Maybe a fast-food worker got their order wrong and therefore the narcissist hasn't shut up about it all day. Maybe their boss asked them to prevent playing on their phone such a lot and now the narcissist is crying about it over dinner.

As time goes on, you'll realize that the narcissist isn't vulnerable and sensitive: their fragile ego can't handle honest mistakes and valid criticism. To the narcissist, these are personal attacks.

5. They Form Relationships Based On What Someone Can "Do for Them"

If you're at a celebration and therefore the suspected narcissist suggests you ask someone because they will help together with your career or financial situation, don't ignore it. They aren't trying to assist you: they're letting you in on their game.

Narcissists tend to make shallow friendships that supported what people can do for them. You'll often find narcissists make friends with horribly toxic people simply because these folks have money, own bars, or offers career opportunities.

6. Their Stories Don't Match Reality

Both the overt and covert narcissist has an inflated sense of self. The thing is, they believe their lies. As a result, you'll often find they recall stories much differently than the situations played out.

If you notice that the suspect constantly reframes stories to form themselves the hero or victim, retreat fast – this is often one among the various signs of narcissism. By changing the story to suit their narrative, the narcissist is gaslighting everyone else involved.

It's not cute or funny to constantly need to correct them. Sooner or later, they'll start gaslighting you, too.

7. They Observe and Judge

"There's no way she will be a narcissist. When we're out with friends, she barely says ten words!"

I hear it all the time. By sitting back and observing everyone, however, the covert narcissist is silently taking notes and judging. I'm sure you heard all about her observations on the car ride home.

The narcissist must feel superior to everyone around them. this is often easy to try to do once you don't open your mouth to interact in conversation and instead sit back to require notes about everyone's shortcomings.

8. They Only Hear Bits and Pieces of Your Stories

Does it desire the suspected narcissist just isn't. listening? They're probably not. And if they're, they don't care.

Maybe you spent ten minutes venting to your mother about how you didn't get that promotion at work because you showed up late one solitary time with a legitimate reason. How did she respond? "Well, maybe you'll remember to point out up on time from now on."

You can't be the victim. Only the narcissist is often the victim.

You see this ton with narcissist parents or partners who listen only enough to toss stuff back in your face later.

How to Turn the Tables on a Narcissist?

Perhaps you've gone on a couple of dates with someone or a replacement coworker joined your team. you think they'll be a narcissist but you aren't entirely sure.

After all, the covert narcissist is especially cunning at hiding the more obvious signs of narcissism. Here's the way to turn the tables on a narcissist and obtain them to show themselves.

• Play along. Don't give the suspected narcissist room to regulate their manipulation tactics – play stupid and pretend you completely believe them. Use this chance to document their behavior.

• Remain indifferent. If you want to continue handling an overt or covert narcissist for reasons out of your control, act indifferent to their behavior. The narcissist wants to use your emotions against you. If you don't give them anything to figure with, they'll seek their fix elsewhere.

• Find Support: this might only include one or two people you trust. open up to someone who will validate and believe you.

At the top of the day, the sole thanks to truly turn the tables on a narcissist are to chop them off completely. If that they had any real intentions of adjusting, they might have done so already.

The narcissist won't suddenly see things your way. If they ever do, it's – a) for a fleeting moment and b) to use against you later. Don't believe the conflicting information you would possibly see from other websites or therapists – the narcissist will never change.

With a mental disease, a chemical imbalance within the brain may cause different disturbances that manifest as depression, anxiety, and lots of others. Although complex, mental illnesses tend to reply well to medication because it targets the physical root of the problem: like a chemical imbalance. Though it's been determined that a lot of mental illnesses like depression and anxiety are frequently caused by unresolved emotional trauma, often dating as far back as childhood.

Personality disorders occur due to a repetitive stimuli-reward environment. At some point in their life, the narcissist realized they might elicit specific reactions and emotions from people – and it felt good and helped them achieve their self-fulfilling agendas.

Anything but cutting them out of your life will offer you a mental and emotional breakdown.

No Contact is that the Only Way to Packing Up A Narcissist

Many narcissists have always been this manner – whilst far back as their teenage or childhood years. If you're handling a narcissist, you can't and will not expect them to vary their behavior now or ever.

Treatment for personality disorders often involves things like cognitive behavioral therapy. In many cases, a narcissist can also suffer from other mental illnesses like depression or substance use disorder. (You've probably heard extensively about these problems, too, when the narcissist needs your sympathy or someone responsible .)

ىDespite this, there's little evidence to suggest therapy works for narcissists as personality disorders are notoriously difficult to treat. the primary step to getting assistance is to admit a drag exists – the narcissist will never believe they need or are a drag.

No Contact is that the only option.

Trust in yourself and your network. Because once you get to the opposite side and stick with No Contact, you'll be amazed by all the amazing belongings you can accomplish.

#narcissitic #narcissist #covert narcissism #narcissismawareness #narcissus

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What is a guardian? I made a quick guide explaining them! I'll be looking forward to posting my new fellas here over the coming days.

Guardians are a type of egregore, bound to an idol for physical form. The materials themselves can be virtually anything. The only thing that matters is what you think their effect will be on the finished guardian.

It is also very important to make sure to use sturdy materials in crafting them. You want it to be string enough to withstand things like falls, rips, dogs, poltergeists, what have you. This not only helps keep them intact, but it reinforces your idea of their strength to protect them further on a spiritual level, too.

You want to let go of imposing your ideas while crafting them, allowing your ideas to pool into a chaotic jumble of your initial impression of the spirit of the guardian you're crafting. Of course, you want to guide this chaotic energy to a degree to make sure things stay consistent and stable in the process. No matter what, trust and believe that it will turn out exactly as it should. Believe that it's spirit is helping guide it's creation and let it's creativity flow through yours.

It's important to take this work very seriously and approach it with patience, persistence and care. This process uses the same faculties as wandmaking or enchantments. This process is assisted with skills in things like mediumship/channeling, enchanting, tulpamancy, thinking magick and magickal observation. Warding and banishment is important, too. You are crafting an egregore. A companion and friend. It is very important to treat them that way, as a true partner. They are your responsibility.

As with any relationship, keeping strong boundaries is most important. You need to be steadfast in them. You are creating a living soul. All living souls will push and test boundaries, especially with whom they are closest with. This is completely natural and they should not be punished for doing these things, but a stern correction may be necessary from time to time.

It is imperative to establish your authority with them from your first interaction. An easy way to think of it is to imagine them as your teenage children in a way. You are still their authority, but they are your obligation and will need your guidance to stay out of trouble. Even though you must dictate their behavior to a degree, it is very important to treat them with the utmost respect and not micromanage them. Even though they are yours in a way, they are their own individual and must be treated as such.

Some people like to design every little aspect of their egregores. This can make them more tailored to your needs, but it restricts the entity to a degree that can make them feel depressingly robotic in my experience. Or, they may react by withholding information about themselves from you so that they won't risk losing those aspects of themselves. Fear of rejection is something that affects us pretty much universally, and objects or artificial things aren't necessarily spared from it.

Personally, I leave my intentions towards their usage very open-ended. I prefer to instill morals into them over assigning purposes to them. You are their mentor in a way, as they are yours. Giving them the freedom to become who they want to be, with some level of structure, has given these things a level of humanity and personality that I couldn't feel more blessed to be able to witness. Even though this relaxed approach can be significantly more risky, it is my opinion that these risks yield great rewards and taking that leap into the unknown can allow you to experience so much more than you would otherwise. Always trust that things will happen as they should.

Guardians get lonely, too. It's usually best to make companions for them. My guardians typically have a soul mate made for them as well. This ensures that they have a partner in their life, romantic, platonic or otherwise. They generally become inseparable partners in this way and have similar or very compatible souls with each other.

Creating a tribe of guardians is a great way to give them a sense of family and identity. This also adds a layer of accountability between them. They are egregores after all, and will remain active without you. Giving them a pack gives them a way to stay occupied and fulfilled with each other while you're away. Of course this isn't exactly necessary and can be a big commitment to make. Regardless, socializing your guardians is essential to avoid unwanted antisocial behaviors.

After you create a guardian, you're going to want to make sure they're awake. You hear them with your mind's ear, so attempt telepathic communication with them, even if you don't necessarily think you'll be able to. You'd be surprised. Ask for their name. If they won't tell you for whatever reason, ask if a nickname would be acceptable. There is a chance that they haven't decided on a name just yet, or that they can't figure out how to express their name with language, or they may not consider you ready enough to know. This is very personal information to them. You must respect their boundaries too, even if this is one. Don't try to find their name before they're ready to tell you. This is crossing a personal boundary and will hurt your relationship with them right off the bat.

Remember, these are companions, not your tools. If you cannot sufficiently communicate with them you can try to use divination to communicate instead of telepathy. Communication is key to a healthy relationship with them. Ask them about their wants and needs. Ask them about what they've been up to. The answers might surprise you! They do live lives on the edge of our realities in a way that are completely different from our own. As we teach them about our world, they teach us about theirs.

Go into your creation with an open mind. The perfect guardian for you may be something you'd never expect, or might even fear! Look at them as individuals and don't put flash judgments on them.

Use whatever you have handy to create them! Of course you can buy things instead, and if you do, make it special and treat the trip as a significant spiritual event, because it is. I prefer found objects though, as some of the best art seems to come from scarcity in my opinion. It's also best to use materials you connect with. I'm using pipe cleaners for these guys and that works wonderfully for me, but it might not for you. Use your instincts! Express your divinity.

As with any enchantments, it's best to spend the with them after they've been born. I usually keep them with me for at least a week or two afterwards. As you spend time with them they get to know you, your life and the people around you. This helps them understand your needs better and improves your relationship with them significantly. They will learn their role in your life organically, based on necessity. This also helps you get familiar with them and their energy.

Have a safety plan in mind, just in case something goes wrong. Plans on how to protect them or save them are important in case they get attacked or injured. It's also important to have in mind a way to destroy them if they turn into something dangerous. It is your responsibility to do so if you have to, but as a last resort of course. Fire and banishment is a method. As long as a fragment of them exists, they may live on. This is also my disclaimer. Playing with fire is a great thing, just don't let it consume you. I'm not encouraging anyone to make these, just explaining my process and opinions to anyone that has decided to do so already, or is curious as to these things.

Don't forget about them. If you store them, store them together and have a special place to do so. If you can no longer care for them, consider selling them to transfer ownership. Always, always explain to the buyer what they are getting themselves into. Otherwise, this would be a spiritual attack and you will need to deal with the ramifications of this. Don't let the guardians fall into loneliness to the point of despair. Give them the ability to sleep. Unnecessary despair breeds all sorts of negativity and can cause all sorts of issues.

Do not insist on asking for something they are not able to do. They may not be allowed to, or even be able to tell you why. You should respectfully as for their reasons and then respect their decision and privacy by allowing them to keep it to themselves if that's what they want to do.

Don't hold back! If you have an idea, go for it. The worst that'll happen is you'll fail. At least you'll go down with courage! Push your limits. Believe you are more than you think, and you might start seeing that you really, really are. Trust yourself and be yourself. Create what you feel called to. Create for the sake of creating. Don't worry so much about rules or systems, you are perfectly qualified to make your own! You don't need loads of experience to do so. Let your instincts guide you instead, see where it goes. As long as you do that, whatever you do will be wonderfully magickal regardless.

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How to recognize domestic abuse and react

10% of people are in an abusive relationship. 20 to 40% of women have been raped. 60 to 80% of people have been sexually harassed at one point in their live.

TALK ABOUT IT. IT SAVE LIFES. AVOIDING THE SUBJECT GIVE MORE POWER TO ABUSERS.

Because life is not about physically functioning, but about not having to fear what the next day will bring, and feeling respected and respecting others.

I've found this article on mayoclinic.org. I've modified it to fit all genders (since it was mainly talking about men abused) and add others things, but otherwise it's still mostly the same.

"Abusive relationships always involve an imbalance of power and control. An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words and behaviors to control his or her partner.

It might not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous and protective in ways that later turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. Your partner might apologize and promise not to abuse you again.

You might be experiencing domestic violence if your partner:

Calls you names, insults you or puts you down

Prevents you from going to work or school

Stops you from seeing family members or friends -its called isolation and it stop you from getting help. It's really really dangerous if you let it be

Tries to control how you spend money, where you go or what you wear

Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful

Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs

Threatens you with violence or a weapon

Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets

Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will

Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it

If you're gay, bisexual or transgender, you might also be experiencing domestic violence if you're in a relationship with someone who:

Threatens to tell friends, family, colleagues or community members your sexual orientation or gender identity

Tells you that authorities won't help a gay, bisexual or transgender person

Tells you that leaving the relationship means you're admitting that gay, bisexual or transgender relationships are deviant

Justifies abuse by telling you that you're not "really" gay, bisexual or transgender

Says that men are naturally violent"

Don't listen. Nobody have a say on who is in your bed. What is happening in your bedroom stay in your bedroom. It's private. If the person/s is/are in age and consenting it's nobody's fucking business. Even your family's or your friend's.

"Don't take the blame

You may not be sure whether you're the victim or the abuser. It's common for survivors of domestic violence to act out verbally or physically against the abuser, yelling, pushing or hitting him or her during conflicts. The abuser may use such incidents to manipulate you, describing them as proof that you are the abusive partner.

You may have developed unhealthy behaviors. Many survivors do. That doesn't mean you are at fault for the abuse.

If you're having trouble identifying what's happening, take a step back and look at larger patterns in your relationship. Then, review the signs of domestic violence. In an abusive relationship, the person who routinely uses these behaviors is the abuser. The person on the receiving end is being abused."

Being abused do not make you weak. It mean that someone, one day, decided to not respect your consent, your statue of a living being and make your life hell. If you want to, you can get your life back. It will not be the same, you'll have changed, but you'll do. And you'll be happy.

"Even if you're still not sure, seek help. Intimate partner violence causes physical and emotional damage — no matter who is at fault.

Children and abuse

Domestic violence affects children, even if they're just witnesses. If you have children, remember that exposure to domestic violence puts them at risk of developmental problems, psychiatric disorders, problems at school, aggressive behavior and low self-esteem. You might worry that seeking help could further endanger you and your children, or that it might break up your family. Fathers [and mothers] might fear that abusive partners will try to take their children away from them. However, getting help is the best way to protect your children — and yourself."

Don't leave your children. Even to put yourself in security. Take them with you. If you bring the affair to the court, you'll be depicted as hysterical and dangerous to your kids. It's and error to absolutely not do.

"Break the cycle

If you're in an abusive situation, you might recognize this pattern:

Your abuser threatens violence.

Your abuser strikes you.

Your abuser apologizes, promises to change and offers gifts."

The cycle repeats itself. It will not stop, and it will go worse. No-one, even the worse of the criminal, deserves it. Even if the abuser show remorse, it will. not. last. It's either a psychological pathology (and the abuser can only heal far from the victim with a medical team) or it's of pure want to hurt and control. Either way, if you stay, it will only. go. worse.

"Typically the violence becomes more frequent and severe over time.

Domestic violence can leave you depressed, anxious and at increased risk of problems with alcohol or drugs. Because men are traditionally thought to be physically stronger than women, you might be less likely to report domestic violence in your heterosexual relationship due to embarrassment. You might also worry that the significance of the abuse will be minimized because you're a man. Similarly, a man being abused by another man might be reluctant to talk about the problem because of how it reflects on his masculinity or because it exposes his sexual orientation.

If you seek help, you also might confront a shortage of resources for male victims of domestic violence. Health care providers and other contacts might not think to ask if your injuries were caused by domestic violence, making it harder to open up about abuse. You might fear that if you talk to someone about the abuse, you'll be accused of wrongdoing yourself. Remember, though, if you're being abused, you aren't to blame — and help is available.

Start by telling someone about the abuse, whether it's a friend, relative, health care provider or other close contact. At first, you might find it hard to talk about the abuse. However, you'll also likely feel relief and receive much-needed support.

Create a safety plan

Leaving an abuser can be dangerous. Consider taking these precautions.

Call a domestic violence hotline for advice. Make the call at a safe time — when the abuser isn't around — or from a friend's house or other safe location.

Pack an emergency bag that includes items you'll need when you leave, such as extra clothes and keys. Leave the bag in a safe place. Keep important personal papers, money and prescription medications handy so that you can take them with you on short notice.

Know exactly where you'll go and how you'll get there."

If you've been isolated from your old friends and from you family, even if they're mad at you, go to them. If you explain, if they loved you once, they'll take care of you and help you get back your life.

"Protect your communication and location

An abuser can use technology to monitor your telephone and online communication and to track your physical location. If you're concerned for your safety, seek help. To maintain your privacy:

Use phones cautiously. Your abuser might intercept calls and listen to your conversations. He or she might use caller ID, check your cellphone or search your phone billing records to see your complete call and texting history.

Use your home computer cautiously. Your abuser might use spyware to monitor your emails and the websites you visit. Consider using a computer at work, at the library or at a friend's house to seek help.

Remove GPS devices from your vehicle. Your abuser might use a GPS device to pinpoint your location.

Frequently change your email password. Choose passwords that would be impossible for your abuser to guess.

Clear your viewing history." If you want to avoid attracting the attention of your abuser, clear only the things they would see as incriminating.

"Where to seek help

In an emergency, call 911 — or your local emergency number or law enforcement agency." The 911 is an international emergency number. You can use it anywhere in the world and have someone at the other end. "The following resources also can help:

Someone you trust. Turn to a friend, relative, neighbor, co-worker, or religious or spiritual adviser for support.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233). The hotline provides crisis intervention and referrals to resources.

Your health care provider. Doctors and nurses will treat injuries and can refer you to other local resources.

A counseling or mental health center. Counseling and support groups for people in abusive relationships are available in most communities.

A local court. Your district court can help you obtain a restraining order that legally mandates the abuser to stay away from you or face arrest. Local advocates may be available to help guide you through the process.

Domestic violence against [people] can have devastating effects. Although you may not be able to stop your partner's abusive behavior, you can seek help. Remember, no one deserves to be abused."

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TALK ABOUT IT. IT SAVE LIFES. AVOIDING THE SUBJECT GIVE MORE POWER TO ABUSERS.

Because life is not about physically functioning, but about not having to fear what the next day will bring, and feeling respected and respecting others.

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