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flustersluts · 2 years

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Half of this sounds like rape and the other half sounds like abuse. I hate BDSM shit so bad go to fucking therapy

hey um ive always been desperate for my blog to be a safe space where ppl can interact with and discuss kink without needing to come across things like misogyny, cnc, and abusive power dynamics, so hearing this hurts

everything that i post or reblog assumes informed consent and i don't reblog cnc or anything that fucks with or pretends that there isn't that consent. i really dislike cnc and r*pe fantasies precisely because they romanticise noncon and blur the line between consent in daily life, and everything that i post is always from the perspective of two individuals who have discussed a situation beforehand and are comfortable with and enjoy it. i mean fuck the stuff that i love most about sex will always b the concept of two people having fun together, of helping someone relax and communicating with them abt what's gna make them feel best and how you can make them feel happy. i want that to come across in my writing and in the themes of this blog

at the same time ive seen a lot of blogs that emphasise consent in their bios and still post really gross cnc content and i don't want to just parrot that hypocrisy, so im going to try harder in the future to make sure that my posts / rbs can't be interpreted in a way that involves noncon. I do not ever want my content to be ambiguous with regards to consent and if it is then that's on me and im gonna do better

#on a separate note i mean this genuinely but i think u should try your hardest not to interact with content that makes you distressed or #feel crap like #there are a lot of blogs out there like r*pe blogs etc that just i used to be a lot more aware of and it freaked the hell out out of me and #eventually i just started blocking them all and like #i know it feels shitty to just ignore this stuff but its rlly just gna drive you insane to focus on it #and yeah if you have any actual tips as to what i can change or improve abt the stuff i post im willing to listen #at the same time the implication that bsdm is inherently abusive or nonconsensual just is not true #but yea:/ im genuinely sorry my blog made u feel the need to send this #and im happy to talk abt it more and what my views on this stuff are bc #it's smthn i think about a lot im not just. ignoring these issues #but yeah://#flusterasks

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hana-no-seiiki · 22 days

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This is generally such a stupid ask but I feel like it would be.. Chaotic? At the very least amusing

Anyways

Batfam x Nicole from Class of 09! Reader

Do what you want (etc make it romantic or platonic, doesn't matter)

Just the batfam (yandere ofc) dealing with a chick who loves to ruin lives for her amusement and sometimes for revenge

Istg she'll just bully them at any chance she gets

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I just binged watched Class of ‘09 and all its endings/choices for you non. I don’t think I can fully depict how brash wittiness of Nicole is but here I go! (I am so traumatized) Didn’t know that’s where “No I’m flirting with you flash me a tiddy bitch” came from no wonder Nicole sounded so familiar.

btw if people are interested in watching class of ‘09 just be warned it’s basically a VN version of Degrees of Lewdity but the mc is actually a minor (without the sex/r*pe mechanic though) and it depicts a lot of just… pedophilia, necrophilia, assault, su*c*de, school shootings, racism??, BE WARNED.

The following content above ^ might be mentioned in this fic but in passing. MASSIVE DDDNE WARNING.

I don’t think I’m comfortable writing stepcest/incest in this blog so despite how perfect it’ll be to make Bruce your step father considering Nicole’s mom has divorced like a hundred times…maybe ask me in @yoru-no-seiiki and I’ll be down for it.

THIS IS ADMITTEDLY TIM + DAMIAN CENTRIC

“Do you even care? Do the results of your actions mean anything to you?”

“Yeah when they affect me, sure.”

You were a bitch. There was no denying that. But you were a pretty one. One many would grovel to be under.

You were used to this, ever since you reached a certain age people just looked at you different, acted in a way that… made you think they were boring, utter losers.

One of those losers was Tim’s friend.

Like all the stupid, horny men in your life, you hung out with him once and he spilled everything there was that you could share.

To the entire campus, the internet, even the news.

And because you were pretty, you got off scot-free. Those morons didn’t even check to see what you’ve been doing the past decade.

Except Tim. Timothy Drake. You only knew that his dad was super rich, and as much as it was tempting to sink your teeth into him and get a load of that daddy’s money, you knew better.

He apparently didn’t.

You see there was one thing every batfam member couldn’t resist. Well, two things. The first was saving people.

The second? Fixing them.

When Tim first approached you he was confused.

You were quite the popular figure in Uni. He heard the rumors. He fully expected to be cussed out to hell and back.

But you were… nice. Agreeable at most really. Brash was an understatement. But you were witty. Your comebacks were swift and deadly.

The more he studied stalked you the more he realized that the two of you were the same.

Two bright people stuck with dull idiots.

And Tim? Tim interested you enough for you to not to completely drop him after the first week. That and most of your bullying probably wouldn’t bode well towards the son of a billionaire.

He was smart, even more so than that nerd friend of his that you destroyed the life of. But more importantly he actually had some tact, and was surprisingly packed underneath all those baggy clothes.

Tim had to admit he was kind of forgetting his entire purpose of ‘fixing’ you.

Until you manipulated yet another guy into jumping off a school building for you. Thankfully he survived because Red Robin happened to be there to apprehend him but still!

And what’s worse, you met up with him afterwards talking about how that Red Robin ruined all your plans of crippling a r*pist.

Wait, a r*pist?

Tim looks through your past victims once more. Admitted he only did a surface level job of studying them in comparison to his PhD level knowledge on everything about you specifically.

And…you were right. Every guy you’ve harassed was being pushy with you in the first place, if not people with authority a decade older.

Fuck.

Well now he had no excuse. He had to make you his.

Meanwhile…

“Ugh, Damian. Can’t you tell your brother to like, fuck off or something? I can feel my social standing totally plummet every second he’s around. How do you handle being related to him?” You groaned. You weren’t fucking stupid. You knew Tim was stalking and drooling all over you lately. You hated it. He was ruining your chances with your new victims.

“Jeez [Y/N]. And here I thought you were like, into him.” Jessica, your actual crush and best friend, commented as she filed her nails.

You being the emotional stunted adult you were only replied with an (admittedly softer) “Eat a sandpaper cock and die bitch.”

Damian stared at you, the words die before they crawl out of his mouth. His hands clenched underneath the lunch tables.

Guess he had another thing to steal from his brother this time.

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urfavoritesecretadmirer · 2 months

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pirate-fan-rachelle · 1 month

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*＊✿❀ 𝐼𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 ❀✿＊*

Hello Hearties! My name is Rachelle, and I'm an Multifandom artist! (Digital & Traditional)

I'm 16 years old and I go by she/her pronouns! I'm also from Indonesia 🇮🇩 (Unfortunately, I'm not very fluent with my native language, so my apology in advance)

I'm just a small artist who has a obsession over Pirates (and Vikings!)

I mostly do multifandom stuff here but I also include my ocs drawing!

Nice to meet you all~!

★ My other Blogs ★

@mysticverse-productions (Main Project blog)

@rachie-is-here (Pokémon blog)

@project-v (Side Project blog)

@rasheru-iroha (Oreca Battle & ORE'N blog)

❀ Social Media Linktree!

https://linktr.ee/RachelleHeart

❀ Fandom List carrd! (WIP, I got lazy and there's actually more fandom I joined)

https://rachelleheart5fandom.carrd.co/

♥ Tags from me!

Go to (#Rachelle Heart's favourite post) to find useful stuff I found for drawing & writing source 🎨📝

❀ BYI

• Please don't go to my DMs just to rant/Vent with me (I don't know you, you're not one of my mutuals or trusted close friend), unless it's very important.

• Do not send drawing request to me in my inbox, because I don't draw for free unless (1) if I made post about free drawing request (2) you're one of my close friends who I trust.

• I can be a sensitive or a shy person, so don't expect me to be very talkative

• Expect me to post/reblog muslim related content (as a Islam myself) sometimes

• I won't be active a lot because of school

⚠ DNI List! ⚠

Very important, because I get really uncomfortable when these kind of people interacting with me, be warned that I will mention so much triggering topic here in this list(undercut)!

Do Not Interact with me if you are...

➥ Proshipper / Comshipper

(Basically you like problematic ship that are Pedophilia, incest/shipping relatives whether they're related or not, abusive, r*pe, and many-many more that are problematics, and doesn't care because it's just fictional)

➥ Homophobic & Transphobic

➥ Pedo/Lolicon/Shotacon/Kodocon/MAPs

(Pretty self explanatory)(both real life & fiction)

➥ if you're one of those "Fiction can't affect reality" people (please leave me alone, you don't need to rant about me)

➥ People who hate Oc x canon and Self-shipping (This is one of my coping mechanism)

➥ Racist/Xenophobic/Antisemitisme (again, pretty self explanatory)

➥ Islamphobia (I'm an Islam myself, and anyone who call any Islam/muslim a "terrorist" please get out and find a therapist/mental hospital)

➥ Nazis

➥ Zionist (fun fact: hating Zionist doesn't make you antisemitism!)

➥ Fetishizer (yes, I'm looking at you Fujoshi and Himedanshi, fetishizing same sex relationships is not cool)

➥ Vivziepop / J.K Rowling (any problematic creators) stans (sorry HP & HB/HH fans, but I just despise them, as a former fan)

➥ Lily Orchard and any problematic Commentary channel supporter (Yeah no, you're not welcome here)

➥ Anti-Critism (I'm the type of person who's willing to get critized, in polite way)

➥ Zoophiles

➥ NFTs Supporter

➥ Art thief

➥ Palworld supporter (GTFO, I DON'T WANT YOU)

➥ if you support "Ai art" or game made from Ai generated (fuck you, really)

➥ NSFW/18+ blogs (I'm a minor)

➥ If you have "very weird" fetishs (take Amputations fetish as an example)

➥ If you support TERF

➥ If you like sending d3ath Thr3ats (please don't, this triggered my past trauma.)

➥ If you're from a problematic fandom (ex. Your Boyfriend, YBC, DSMP, Ranfren[read this doc to know why Ranfren is bad], Coffin of Andy and Leyley, Gushing over magical girls anime, etc..)

➥ You support Flags that are not valid (Ex. Maps, Super Straight, trans-Age, Trans-Race, etc...)

And many-many more Problematic things!

#Pirate fan Rachelle's introduction post!

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dearweirdme · 5 months

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i’m sending this to a few tk blogs bc i’d like multiple people’s perspectives…

im a taekooker but i rlly have these moments where i think we all must just be deluded (jkkers, tkkers, other shippers etc) bc everyone believes SO strongly that their ship is right and we all feel like we can back it up w “evidence”. jikookers genuinely see something btwn jm and jk and us taekookers genuinely see something between v and jk. i do feel like taekook makes the most sense logically (especially during the solo era) and i feel like i did a lot of research to come to that conclusion (including watching videos on a lot of other pairings like jikook), but i could rlly just have underlying biases that are making me see things between tk that my brain wants to see. to other shippers and fans tkkers r insane, to tkkers others r insane. so honestly aren’t we probably all insane lol ? ik it’s POSSIBLE that tk are together but it just seems so improbable. i often try to talk myself out of taekook bc like rly what r the chances of two members in the biggest band in the word actually secretly dating for like many years ? and they’ve been able to successfully hide it all this time ? and we believe they still are together ? idk it sounds too good/far-fetched to be true and like i can’t imagine a day coming way later on down the line where it would actually be confirmed or like super super obvious even without confirmation. but i can totally imagine a day where it comes out that jk is officially dating some girl or something like that and then we’d all be proven wrong. ik that leans into assuming heterosexuality is the default which is not good and i don’t believe that but i can’t help but to feel like nah we’re all just delusional and fantasizing and tk r not together. i do definitely believe v is queer in some way but maybe that’s all.

Hi anon!

I think it's important to realize that it's okay to not actually believe in Tae and Jk being together (or any ship for that matter). Them being together or not does not actually effect your own life. So if you're in a state of "well, I definitely see some stuff going on, but I have no clue what it is exactly" that's totally fine. Uncertainty isn't a bad thing, you just have to be able to cope with it in a healthy way. Sometimes uncertain shippers do not know how to cope with the uncertainty very well, those are the ones who scrutinize every detail of every moment we get.. trying to find proof. I get it, but it's not the way to go, because that uncertainty will always return and you'll end up in a loop with no end. I think there's people that get actual anxiety because of this at times.

I know to non-shippers we (and other shippers) must all look insane. I don't think we actually are. Even though there are insane-ish tkkrs out there, that doesn't mean there can't be some truth to it as well. When you look around on twitter, youtube, instagram, Tumblr, you find all sorts of different Tkkrs. While we all fall under the term 'Taekooker' i'd say there's many different categories, which very different outlooks on the situation. For instance, technically I'd rather call myself a Taekook believer, while I suppose you are an actual shipper. There's also those that believe, but do not ship.

I'll tell you my reasons for not thinking I'm insane (😂😂). This sounds super stupid and arrogant (and I'm actually cringing while typing this up)... but I consider myself smart and insightfull. Have been all my life, and others have also told me they think of me the same. Basically, I trust my instincts and judgement. I've gone through life experiencing many different feelings, emotions, situations.. and I feel I just understand life and people. When it comes to Tae and Jk, I don't need all the overanalyzed stuff. I just see the way they look at each other and the way they interact and I feel I recognize romantic love there. I understand why it must seem 'too good to be true', but is it really? People so often fall in love with people they are in close proximity to. Coworkers falling in love isn't odd, best friends falling in love isn't odd, celebrities falling in love isn't odd... so why would Tae and Jk be the exception? It isn't even weird for two members in the same band to fall in love or be married... it is just odd to see two members of a K-pop band in love... but is the reason that it doesn't happen, or that it isn't made public?

When you look at celebrities that have come out, you will very often see that they as well have kept it a secret for many years. Idols are expected to keep their relationships hidden anyway, so for Tae and Jk this isn't very much different in that aspect, only there's an added reason. I don't think Namjoon, Jimin, Yoongi, Hobi, and Jin have been single the last ten years.. and we know nothing of their relationships either.

I don't think their relationship has been easy and I expect there have probably been many difficulties along the way. But when I see how they are together this year.. I definitely think their love was stronger than the things that got thrown in their way.

I think it's good to be sceptical. I try to be as well.

#taekook #fandom shenanigans

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dumbdomb · 9 months

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Hi, by using numbers and symbols to alter keywords in your content it makes it impossible for people to use important tools. Importantly it makes it impossible to screen out content by keywords or tags that might otherwise be pushed to a person's feed.

It also makes it impossible to use a screen reader. A dni list says r@pe will read as "are at p-e" not "rape" for example.

I know this, and I'm sincerely very sorry. I understand how this site works, but many other people do not. I've received messages about this before, which I just reblogged before answering this one.

I try to add captions on my images, and type appropriately in my original posts. I use legible tags whenever possible, unless a censored version is being used temporarily because that tag got wiped.

I think more people need to learn how to use tags here, and turn off any settings that show posts based on likes, etc. I think many people rely on search results, that now use keywords in post and tags, instead of actual tag results.

I'm just trying to exist here, and lots of people keep telling me how I should write my boundaries. It doesn't seem to matter to anyone that other people are choosing to ignore those, previously legible, boundaries and instead focus on telling me what to do and how to prevent being harassed.

Whether I write my boundaries clearly and simply, or use inaccessible and censored versions, many people still do not observe or honour my boundaries. I am truly at a loss, because either way is somehow incorrect. The best I can do at this time is add a line for people to send a message to me if they want to read that section uncensored. Hopefully, from reading the previous messages I've received, this will make more sense.

If I add the uncensored, legible part here or in my pinned, more people will tell me that it is attracting those users to my blog. I've been told my blog was one of the "top recommended" for having an uncensored word listed in my "do not interact" section! You may have good intentions, and certainly an important point about accessibility in text posts, but you are acting as another person telling me exactly how to write things.

I need a real, functional solution. That, or people should spend more time posting PSAs and messages like this to those who do not respect boundaries, instead of trying to pull my strings like a puppet. "Use this word! No, not that one! Write it like this! No, spell it wrong. It doesn't matter what you write because I'm going to harass you anyway! Just don't exist!"

You understand? It's difficult when it needn't be. And, I recently updated my pinned post YESTERDAY to be more streamlined, and easier to read... 😞

#gehelihiyotandrogynosvarda #censored or uncensored: how to have my boundaries recognized and respected. various people give their opinions on the matter.#answered #long post

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elsweetheart · 1 year

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Hey homie is love ur writing but I don’t want to accidentally request some thing not allowed so do you have any rules?? 🫶🏼

hey! oops i totally forgot to write a rules list thing so here it is, i’ll have it linked on my pinned too so it’s easily accessible from now on. i may add to it over time 💕

kitties rules 🎀

general rules

no hate, bigotry, or bashing what / how i write. this should go without saying.

do not spam my ask box if i haven’t answered your request. i’m either getting round to it, i don’t have inspiration for it, or i don’t like it. additionally, if i do not like your request i will just delete it. nothing against you, but i do not have to feel pressured on my own blog.

eating disorder accounts DO NOT INTERACT WITH ME. i have to click most profiles to check if there’s an age or some kind of idea of age on your page and i find that content triggering and shouldn’t have to see it. do not follow, do not like, do not reblog.

i am happy to talk to anyone and give out advice, however please do not bring me any super heavy / trauma related rants. tumblr writers are not therapists. i sympathise with you but i must set a boundary and i cannot help you.

only claim an emoji anon if you’re actually going to send me asks! the amount of times someone asks to claim an emoji for their anons but then never message me again has just gotten too much sadly. additionally, please don’t just send ‘can i claim *insert emoji* anon?’ you can claim it if you say something else or converse with me in the ask for the reasons above !!

do not slander pillow princesses / stone tops.

no abby bashing on my page. block my abby tag, or leave. i really don’t care! just don’t bring it here.

no drama, gossiping about other blogs, or comparing my writing to another writers. i’m not that kinda blog and i’m not entertaining rudeness. unless of course, you are making me aware of another writer stealing / being overtly problematic so that i can quietly unfollow etc.

do not bash my interpretations of the characters i write for. whilst you might not agree, as i could make tweaks to what is canonically true about them (e.g: the version of ellie i write for is 5’7) these are my personal interpretations and headcanons which are not up for argument.

do not repost my work, do not translate my work, and please do not copy my writing and just tweak it so it’s for another character. especially if it’s just another tlou character because more times than not i will see it and i find it kind of disrespectful.

if you don’t have your age in your bio, i’m not writing your request or even replying to you. simple as that, i’ve asked you to respect my rules so if you don’t i’m not writing for you!

please be kind to me! i love how enthusiastic you all are but please remember to be polite as i am a person and not a writing machine. if you’d like to request something in my ask box, please do not say something like “i need more ____ now!!” as i will probably just delete it unfortunately!

additionally to this, if i say i’m not writing a part 2 to a fic, most of the time i’m going to stick by that. i appreciate you enjoyed the first one a lot, and i don’t wanna sound mean — but begging me to write a part 2 when i already said no is just gonna irritate me. sorry!

writing rules (tw)

i will not write about:

men, this is a safe space for wlw / nblw

sexual assault / r*pe. again, this is a safe space.

additional to this i will not write cnc. not bashing anyone who’s into it, but i am uncomfortable with it.

self harm / suicide

i will not write for reader with a mental illness / disability that i do not have. i have adhd, so i am happy to write for adhd reader but that is all. i want everyone to feel included and validated of course but i am scared of including stereotypes / misinformation and doing more harm than good! also i just don’t know how to write it lol! i don’t really want to write for body issues / insecurities for the most part either.

ddlg / age play. i am comfortable to write daddy/mommy but not as an entire lifestyle.

i don’t write a whole lot of angst with no resolution / happy ending. absolutely no hate to people who write that, i just get sad easily and don’t want to put myself through that lol!

i don’t write dom!reader im sorry! there are lots of fantastic, talented blogs out there that do but as i am a submissive pillow princess i wouldn’t even know where to begin and writing it just wouldn’t be pleasurable for me!

i will add to this list, but basically if i am not comfortable writing something i just will not!

let’s all just have safe respectful fun ! 💕

#kittie babbles 💭🧁#rules🎀

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cookierunconfessionblog · 2 months

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I don’t think people should be talking about subjects if they can’t actually use the words.

Tw// very light discussions of triggering topics (rape, suicide, murder) as it’s more about the use of the words correlating.

I’m not talking about censorship here, apps like TikTok or Instagram do absolutely have censorship, and they’ll repress topics/ totally curate their brand image through the content you see.

Tumblr isn’t like that. On Tumblr, you can use words like shit fuck murder blood death suicide etc etc and the post… won’t get flagged. In fact, most popular posts on here have “bad words” in them. I saw a post, just this morning, that was just the word fuck and it had 6 thousand notes. The only time I understand it here is like what this blog does, so people in a certain fandom won’t see it when they search for said fandom.

If you’re not censoring for the algorithm, which I can understand if, once again, you’re on a different platform, and you’re using things like unalive, freaking, or god forbid replacing one letter with a symbol, in your own private life? You should not be talking about that subject.

If you’re talking about sexual assault, using words like: r@pe, grape, r@p3, $@ or any variation of that not only makes it harder for people who get triggered by those subjects to avoid them but also doesn’t stop them from being triggered by the subject matter.

Based off actual research, and anecdotal evidence, people are more likely to be triggered by the surrounding conversation rather than the actual word itself. I’m a rape survivor and neither me nor anyone else I know is triggered by the word rape. Even if someone IS you should give them the chance to filter that out… by using the actual word.

This is NOT to say that these subjects shouldn’t be talked about, it’s to say that if you’re going to be talking about it, use your words. If you’re making a callout post, say what the person did. “This person is a groomer because they sent nude pictures to a minor.” Vs “This person is a gr00m3r because they sent nxd3 photos to a /\/\!n0r” which one feels as though they’re taking the subject seriously? Which one feels as though they’re trivializing it?

And this brings me back to my thesis statement, if you’re censoring a subject for yourself, because you can’t handle talking about a serious subject, you shouldn’t be talking about it in the first place. If you aren’t ready to talk about whatever it is in a serious manner, you aren’t ready to talk about it. “unalived” is a lot more detached than “murdered.” “He was s@‘d by his girlfriend” vs “His girlfriend raped him.”

Anyway, sorry mods I know this wasn’t Cookie Run related, but I think the fandom needs to hear it! Sorry for the long rant. :)

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liminalkandlez · 11 months

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well, hello!

wanted to make an actual personal blog since what was supposed to be my one and only blog didn't feel all that personal to me, so here we are. introduction and the like under the cut!

[NOTE: WE'RE REDOING OUR PINNED EVENTUALLY]

(hi i'm sneaking this in here hoping no one notices erm we are a system. this is the host. a while ago we made the collective decision not to be too open about it unless we're comfortable with people but like. fuck it this is LITERALLY our personal blog. can't wait to get yelled at by my headmates 😁... uh. might make a section for system stuff eventually if i don't get yelled at LOL) (update yeah we're gonna make smthin seperate and link it here instead of this thing... we would make a carrd but!!! how the fuck do we work those. what)

hiii (this is the host still), i go by like, a ton of names, and i don't feel like listing every single one, but the most preferred ones right now are rex, kel or mack! i use they/he pronouns plus a lot of neos that i might actually list at another time.

i draw and write like, a ton, so expect some of that if i remember to post (unlikely)! i roleplay a lot too, and i'd love to find more roleplay partners!!! if you spot any fandoms that we have in common, since i primarily do fandom roleplay, you can message me!!!

also, do note that we are bodily 16.

current fixations of ours are OMORI, Incredibox, Rain World, Warrior Cats, Wii Deleted You, and Project Moon Games.

current project(s): Tragibox Retake (over 100k... CLAWING AT THE WALLS) , Evadare AU, Fungibox, Liminalbox... a lot more things. help.

oh also, these are important since these are our tags for this blog, so they're getting put here. hooray

🌟: constellations_chatter -> general posts.

🌟: moonlight_friends -> chats with moots or anons that'd came around a couple times already.

🌟: starfall_vent -> general vents. yeah. i don't think i need to say much more.

🌟: sun_love -> comfort character stuff.

🌟: bleedingmoon_trigger -> any post with general triggers. said general triggers are mentioned in the second to last section.

🌟: liminal_art -> any art...

most of our writing and art rules are on my other blog, which will also be linked here instead of rules... we don't intend on logging back into that account for a while so uh!!!! please don't send requests over there!!! ignore the fandom list on there too it's probably like severely outdated

hosts sources;

(under construction...)

Evelin (The Mandela Catalogue)

Bandu (Dave & Bambi)

Susie (Deltarune)

Skyblue (Skyverse)

Kel (OMORI)

Dante (Project Moon Games)

Angelica (Project Moon Games)

Rui (Project Sekai)

Cinderpelt/Cinderheart (Warrior Cats)

Teruko (DRDT)

Mack (Incredibox Tragibox)

and finally, a DNI list. because we kind of need one of those.

DNI;

Proship/Comship/etc, get the fuck out. as someone who had experienced abuse and all, seeing the romanticization of it is fucking disgusting to us.

Zoophiles. Out. You are not apart of the LGBTQ+ community and never will be.

If you intend to make fun of Selfshipping or fakeclaim. tbf, we don't care!!!! speak your shit i guess!!!! if you want to talk to a wall, then be my guest

anything triggering will be tagged. although we will only be tagging the general sensitive topics, like; blood/gore, yandere/obsessive, vent/vent fic, s/h, etc ; although if you want a particular thing tagged, tell us what that thing is and tell me what name you want used so we can make a tag that's like "(Your name) don't look", just to make it easier on us.

speaking of as well, if you are my mutual, i'd prefer you tag things regarding SA/r*pe, p$d*philia, and NSFW in general aside from jokes to be tagged with "Rex don't look". things may be added at a later time. (again, jokes are 100% fine!!! i find them funny, as long as they aren't like... super explicit)

User Boxes will go here eventually because I like them and think they're neat but uh. later. don't feel like grabbing em rn LMAO (edit: it's been weeks and i still haven't done it lmfao😭) (edit 2: MONTHS.)

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mrswinnie04 · 4 months

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I agree with your take about posting about j2 under the actor /spn tags. I’ll be sure to do the same for cockles and destiel. Also if there’s any Jared padalecki hate, that shouldn’t be under the anti tag. As it’s about Jared, whether good or bad, it should be under the normal tag. Cheers. :)

(I’m answering both of these at the same time because I sort of want to put this discussion to rest)

Anons, I completely respect your right to your opinions and beliefs. I’m not here to convince you or change your minds. I’m not here to force you to align with me. I’m not here to fight you either. That’s the last thing I want to do.

I want to put this to rest, on my blog at least, because my stance has not changed.

Supernatural is made up of so many ship-fandoms. There are so many smaller communities within the SPN fandom that are about shipping characters/actors. It is my strong belief that all of these ship-communities have a right to tags.

Part of what makes “being apart of a fandom” so fun is that all of us get to be apart of smaller communities where interests and passion align. For me, that is the tinhatter community.

It seems to clear to me that what a lot of anons are conveying to me through these statements are that they don’t agree with J2 tinhatter content. That’s totally fine. It is not my job to convince you or force you to believe in the things I do. I respect everyone’s right to ship whoever they want and to be able to tag those posts there without hate.

There are some ships in the SPN fandom that aren’t my cup of tea. However, I will NEVER tell them that they can’t post under actor tags. I will never police them or tell them they are wrong. I have no right to do so, and I respect those communities. I respect their right to enjoy those ships together.

You don’t have to agree with my content. Nor do you have to believe in whatever I’m saying. It’s not my job to mother you. However, tinhatters r just as much apart of the SPN fandom as any other ship. We should be able to enjoy the tags as any other ship or theory blogger.

If you look under Jensen and Jared’s tags, anyone and everyone posts their theories and takes there. Everyone posts ship posts, etc… that is their right.

During this time, I wanted to also address the anon that got a little aggressive with the “it’s okay for me to post anti-Jared since it’s about the actor”.

It is my hope that everyone on here knows what human decency is. It is my hope that there aren’t people going online to rip apart an actor. I mean, i really do hope there aren’t people out there who actually “anonymously” write horrible things about actors because they suddenly have courage sitting behind their computer screens.

But again, i am not your mother and I will not mother you on why it is disgusting to cyber bully other human beings.

My point is, what makes SPN community beautiful is that all of us like the wonderful show and have found communities/content that we are also passionate about.

My blog on tinhatter content has never posted anything to harm J2. I DO NOT Believe in posting hate or harm on my blog. If anything, I came to be a blogger because I love and respect the actors so much. As I have stated in my posts before, all of the things I post are OPINION-BASED! Which means you don’t have to agree or like it if you don’t want too.

Me, a tinhatter, posting my take on an interaction or event between J2 under their tags doesn’t harm anyone. In fact, I blend right in since there are so many others with different theories about J2 or the individual actors.

I understand that not everyone will agree with what I have to say. I respect that, but my blog will continue to post J2 content. I’m not forcing you to believe. All you have to do is scroll past my posts, but tinhatters should be just as welcome to any of the tags as any other ship or theory blogger.

We are a community with different ideas and different minds. That is what makes us unique and beautiful. Please respect other people, their ships, and their beliefs.

Kindness is always contagious.

#jensen ackles #jared padalecki #j2 tinhat #supernatural #dean winchester #j2 #jared and jensen #spnfan #spnfandom #j2 love #j2s love #j2soulmates #j2 appreciation post #the epic love story of jensen and jared #jared x jensen #jared loves jensen #jensen loves jared #anti haters

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marimogf-archived · 8 months

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✧ rules ✧

read my dni/byf!

➸ this is a writing blog, yes, but it's also a personal blog where i vent and reblog other things.

➸ please keep in mind that i am a very slow writer. don't come at me for taking a longer time to write your request, i work a lot and it's draining.

➸ i love hearing feedback! i haven't written in a very long time so i'm really rusty. english isn't my first language either so if there's anything i can do better, please be honest and tell me!

➸ if you want to hate, do it off anon. also please don't make indirect posts, just message me so we can talk about things. say it with your chest and we can talk it out, yeah? 🩷

➸ please do not spam like (more than 5 posts) as tumblr might see me as a bot and shadowban me.

➸ i will not write r*pe, noncon, cnc, (step-)inc*st, smut for underage characters, scat, piss kink, ped*philia, ab*se of any kind (that includes b*llying, yandere, etc). if you like any of these things, i am not the writer for you. if there's anything in my fics that needs warnings (such as vi*lence, bl*od, alcohol etc), i will mention them at the beginning and i strongly advise you to read those warnings. if you didn't, i'm sorry but you're on your own.

➸ my readers tend to be very vague in terms of looks. i might adapt depending on the story (glasses, tattoos, piercings, chubby / fat, tall, clothing style etc.) but i try to keep them neutral so everyone can find themselves at least a little bit.

➸ on that note, i don't have the lived experience of people of color. i can read about it and talk to people as much as i want, but it will never beat the actual lived experience. please don't request readers with specific cultural experiences as i do not have them and i'd rather redirect you to writers who might fit that criteria better than me. <3

➸ if you want to read anything other than afab readers (bc that's what i am and where my expertise lies) PLEASE request that. i am willing to write amab and trans readers as well!!

➸ if there's anything you want / need to know, please just drop an ask! 🩷

#˚₊‧꒰ nav ꒱ ‧₊˚#divider by cafekitsune

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buriedlover · 1 year

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🌅 FIRSTLY, i wanted to again remind that i am a minor. i know a lot of blogs on here are uncomfortable interacting with minors and stuff, so i just wanted to put that out there.

𖤐⋆ BLOG RULES ! ₊⛧

🌆 ABBY HATERS DNI. seriously.

🌅 KEEP THE INBOX APPROPRIATE. please. for the love of god. no racist remarks. or hate to myself or OTHER blogs. or inappropriate comments about myself. thank you.

🌆 I LOVE RECEIVING CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM, but like absolutely bashing my writing is not okay. if you think i can improve my writing in any way, tell me so in a respectful manner pls!

🌅 IF YOU NEED to rant about a bad day or problems you are going through, my inbox is always open! if asked, i could try to offer advice or comfort, but do keep in mind I AM NOT A THERAPIST, and i don't want to be. keep the heavy stuff out of here.

🌆 MORE DNI: bigots, racists, homophobes, misogynists, yk, your basic asshole! GET OUT.

🌅 OVERALL, just please keep in mind that i am a person with feelings! act how you wanna be treated. it costs nothing to be kind :)

𖤐⋆ WRITING RULES ! ₊⛧

🌆 WHAT I WRITE. i write anything and everything! fluff, smut, angst. HEAVY on the angst. i'm an angst girl. it's just what i do; sometimes you just need a good cry.

🌅 WHO I WRITE FOR. for now, i will only be writing for ellie and abby. maybe sometimes dina, if i feel up for it or if i like the request. maybe later on i'll expand to other fandoms, like harry potter or avatar. but for rn, i'm sticking to the tlou universe.

🌆 I WILL NOT WRITE ANYTHING THAT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE. your request will simply be ignored. this includes but is not limited to: incest, noncon, r-pe, sexual assault, cnc, ageplay, self harm, suicide, etc!

🌅 I WILL ALWAYS PUT every possible tw before my writings. if i ever miss one, or you think one should be added, please kindly point it out!

🌆 CONCERNING REQUESTS. if requests are closed. literally don't request. it will probably be either ignored or deleted. when requests ARE open though, please keep in mind: i have a life outside of tumblr, so don't expect me to whip out fics left and right. i will post at my own pace.

#⋆｡𖦹°‧★ buriedlover's navigation!#rules #guidelines

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flustersluts · 2 years

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i mean... preaching consent and reblogging noncon on the same blog isnt hypocrisy. its engaging in a kink that makes you personally uncomfortable. just bc something crosses your personal boundaries doesnt make it immoral. ik you were responding to hate but like. idk. i was hoping i wouldnt come onto tumblr to see my own kinks portrayed like they make me a bad person. or like practicing them consensually is hypocrisy and not, yknow, practicing kink in a safe, healthy, risk aware and consensual manner.

you were sent hate by someone who is going to hate you for having kinks no matter what they are. you don't have to shit on other ppls to respond to that. some of us are using it to cope with past sexual assault. we're not hypocrites and we're not predators.

hey, i take your point that it was tactless of me to discuss cnc w/o explaining my views

to be clear, my comment about the hypocrisy of cnc blogs was specifically aimed at hardcore r*peplay blogs. as someone who used to sh and looked at sh blogs (the kind that romanticise it), ig my opinions on one have influenced the other - although those blogs wld say that they didn't condone / support sh, they still enabled it by fostering a sense of community and acceptance around that was rlly harmful to a lot of ppl, myself included, and rlly warped my perception of it and how ppl saw it. there's obviously debate to be had abt whether ppl ever have an obligation not to post content bc said content is going to have negative consequences, but my stance is that ye, it's hypocritical to make content which could contribute to harmful behaviuor (r*pe, sh) even if you yourself don't support that behaviour.

at the same time i recognise that there's a lot of 'softer' cnc focusing more on carrying out fantasies with partners etc. i don't rlly know how to feel about that and i wldn't be surprised if it was a valid way to work thru trauma etc (similarly, i wldn't be surprised if it was usually more harmful than not). i don't want to see that content or have it on my blog but i don't feel like i know enough abt it to have a fully formed opinion on the morals of it

#rape #self harm #rape tw #self harm tw #sh #lmk if u need this tagged more specifically #also it's not that important but just to be clear - just bc i think smthn is a Bad Thing doesn't mean i think it makes u a bad person #ppl are complicated and ive done my fair share of Bad Things and yknow we live and we learn and shit's messy #not gna address that in the actual post bc ur point still stands ofc but i just wanna say that #while the above are my opinions on the phenomena of these blogs and how i feel abt it im not necessarily making absolute judgements on #ppl that run them #also @the other anon that sent a similar shorter ask #im not gna answer it bc i would just end up restating the things i say here. im not ignoring you but this is how i feel.#flusterasks

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babyspacebatclone · 1 year

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Quick reminders to new people stretching out here on Tumblr!

Feel free to lurk, but mark your account with a post or something olsaying so! Empty, uncustomized blogs are usually assumed to be bots, and people may block you if they see a follow from a crystal-clean blog.

You don’t need anything big: a series of Likes in a consistent theme (lots of memes, a favorite blorbo, etc) with a few outside interests helps your blog look more human.

If you want to participate in Tumblr: Reblog, don’t Like! Empty reblogs from even quiet accounts spread the OP’s thoughts better than a Like!

There is no algorithm. The only way to find stuff you like and spread stuff you enjoy is to use tags, follow people, and reblog.

If you’re interested in a real-world topic, look for “Actually [Community]” tags. That’s Tumblrina code for “I identify as a member of this community,” instead of an outsider discussing the topic. Outsiders are (usually!) welcome engaging with “Actually [Community]” posts, but just tagging as “[Community]” if you add to the discussion is a sign if respect.

You don’t have to tag, but if you do, use the full word! Tumblr has a very good filtering system in place, but people can only use it if they know what to filter. You’re not going to get in trouble saying “rape” or “death” here, but writing “r@pe” or “unalive” means someone might get your post despite filtering for triggering content!

If you tag and you think a post has triggering content, “TW [topic]” or “CW [topic]” are the typical ways of marking it for filtering. TW = Trigger Warning, CW= Content Warning.

Type your topic in the tags, and check what’s suggested; you’ll see the most common tw descriptions if you’re unsure.

Have fun in Tumblr! We’re insane, but you might just find your own breed of insanity to enjoy!

#the superior hellsite #twitter takeover #hellsite (beloved)#hellsite (affectionate)#how to use tumblr #tumblr life #tw rape mention

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instant-angel-chaos · 2 years

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knowing your partner well can potentially make writing a lot easier, repost, do not reblog.

NAME: Grim

PRONOUNS: she / her

PREFERENCE OF COMMUNICATION: Uhhh, i don't really mind? I mostly use tumblr; im constantly active on discord but i mostly use my discord only for streaming related purposes!

NAME OF MUSE(s): I have many! Many that i haven't written with on tumblr before, but the current active ones are: Dakota (demon), Chase (fallen angel/his human verse), Logan, Skyler, Alec, Faith, Ruth (demon/her human verse) The pinned post on the blog takes you to my muses page!

EXPERIENCE/HOW LONG (MONTHS / YEARS?) : uhh, i think i started writing on tumblr around 2015-2016? Before that i have experience with roleplaying for about 4 years? and before that i have years of experience with writing in general.

BEST EXPERIENCE: I met my best friend through tumblr! He passed away in 2016 but i will be forever grateful for getting to meet such an impactful, caring and amazing person through here. I miss him dearly. In present day i have met a few newer people i have absolutely adored writing and talking with; they've made me feel less lonely and restore/upkept my adoration for writing!

RP PET PEEVES/DEALBREAKERS : Uhhhh,, probably following my blog, never interacting with me in person (through im's, rp memes etc) and then using me as an rp meme source/musings source. When it comes to writing, i prefer longer replies but don't mind shorter ones as long as there's enough to go on about - however, i get overwhelmed if i start feeling like it's entirely on my shoulders to move the story along. I get not wanting to godmod but it's really hard to write if the story feels like it's not going anywhere/there's little to no proper interaction between the characters because the other person 'doesn't want to do anything my muse wouldnt want' which results in the scenes dragging on and on and nothing happening and me having to write out any sort of progress by myself :c idk if this is just me,,, (im also entirely down to message while writing so you can ALWAYS message me and be like "is it ok if i do this" etc and i would very much prefer that over the alternative option!) I also really dont enjoy reading r*pe smut, especially untagged, and have people play it off as a kink.

MUSE PREFERENCES FLUFF, ANGST OR SMUT : anything goes, honestly. I love it all. I would be entirely lying though if i didn't admit i adore writing smut,, I love plot with a side of smut, i love smut with a side of plot. Character chemistry and heated scenes are just right up my alley!

PLOTS OR MEMES: Either! I absolutely LOVE plotting in person and doing multiple threads, different AU's; EVERYTHING! But i also love it when i can send in memes to my mutuals/my mutuals respond to memes i've reblogged - a nice balance between the two is nice!

LONG OR SHORT REPLIES: i do have a preference for longer replies; i like including a good amount of insight to my character's thoughts to be able to,, kind of flesh out the chemistry and relationship between our muses. But on top of that obviously there needs to be interaction to move the story along, so i gravitate towards having at least 3 paragraphs.

BEST TIME TO WRITE: Uhmmm,,, who knows honestly? During the day, sometimes in the degen hours of the night.

ARE YOU LIKE YOUR MUSE(S): In a lot of ways; yes. But I do keep them as very much seperate characters from myself as I'd feel uncomfortable writing the type of stuff i do if i thought of the muses as "too much like me", yknow? Feel free to 'steal' this from me, and repost to your blog! I dont wanna tag people because i dont wanna annoy you, BUT if you're seeing this: just assume that i do want to see you posting this <3

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bigkpopstan · 2 years

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About the cnc thing: I think some people might enjoy writing or reading somno since you can portray the person consenting to it before hand, but feel uncomfortable at the idea of actually playing out a scene where somebody pretends to resist. Which is totally understandable and valid.

However, I love cnc, somno and also just straight up fictional noncon/dubcon, so you're not alone in that at all. It's been something I've wanted to explore with my writing since the beginning but for a long time I was hesitant. Blogs writing that kind of content were few and far between, and the handful that did seemed to get pretty nasty hate for it at least occasionally. Additionally, they were also all sub!reader blogs, so I wasn't sure how people would react to it.

Maybe it's just my experience, but I feel like recently there is more understanding about r*pe fantasies, problematic fiction and how they doesn't necessarily reflect people's actual views or desires. I feel like it isn't as taboo as it used to be. I've started seeing it more often in the kpop fanfic community, and since being more open about it myself I've actually gotten quite a bit of interest and nobody has gone out of their way to give me crap about it. I'm not saying people don't still receive hate making that kind of content, but it seems now people are more likely to just ignore/block something if they know it is upsetting or triggering for them since they know it's not intended for them.

Cnc is a very common kink, so I'm sure there are plenty of other people on here who are secretly into it as well. On top of that, since it's not something everyone writes, there's very likely a potential audience that isn't being catered to very much with most fanfic. So I don't think it will be too hard to find an audience.

This kind of fantasy is really common, you're not the only person who enjoys it by a long shot. I know r*pe fantasies about being the "perpetrator" is something that people don't really talk about, especially when it comes to women and femme-presenting people. We're supposed (I feel like I didn't get as much of this, but it's still a big problem in a lot of cases) to be submissive and super accommodating all of the time, and finding enjoyment out of having any kind of power is often a big no-no. I know what it's like to feel like you're the only one, to try to find out more about it online only to find article after article telling you "Oh yeah it's totally fine and normal for women to have r*pe fantasies, it doesn't mean they actually want to be r*ped. :)" I mean I'm glad other people can feel reassured in that, but that's not the kind of fantasy I mean. I thought that if they're specifically only saying that fantasising about being a victim is okay, does that mean that my fantasy isn't okay?

It doesn't make you bad, or mean that you actually want to hurt others. You can be excited by the fantasy of having total power over another person, "taking what you want", etc. in a context where nobody is actually being hurt, and still have the basic human empathy to realise that it's a horrific crime that completely violates a person's bodily autonomy. It can have absolutely devastating consequences to the victim's life and cause immeasurable harm. You can be into cnc/enjoy content that portrays noncon/dubcon, but have no desire to actually inflict that kind of harm onto another human being.

Btw, I hope this doesn't come across as me being presumptive. I'm not at all assuming this is how you feel, it's just something I've struggled a lot with in the past and might be beneficial to others who see it.

I actually really enjoyed reading your whole like explanation? Which is something now that you’ve mentioned that I didn’t realized I noticed. Most somno fics do have the consent talk or at least it being mentioned before it happens. I don’t remember a cnc fic I’ve ever read that had the talk before hand, but also even with other slightly more out there kinks fics tend to not have the talk in them. I don’t think I was going there with that but was pointing out an observation I didn’t notice I had until this ask.