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dustandshadows8 · 1 year

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Why I think Wednesday is demiromantic or greyromantic

(None of this fan art is mine I found it on Pinterest so credits to the og artists your talent is incredible.)

First, of all for all you beautiful people who have forgotten or didn't know these two definitions, let's take a look:

A grey romantic person:

is a person with a romantic orientation that is somewhere between aromantic and romantic.

For example, a gray-romantic may: -Experience romantic attraction but not very often. -Experience romantic attraction, but not desire romantic relationships. -Desire relationships which are not quite platonic and not quite romantic.

A demiromantic person:

is a person who cannot feel a romantic attraction to someone until a strong emotional connection is established. The emotional connection can be any number of things from a prolonged talking stage to a sexual relationship turning to more. It depends on the case and all people are different on how they feel emotional connections with others.

At the beginning of the show Wednesday says that she does not have any interest in being like her Mother and falling in love and getting married. (Just like to say the proud aroacespec positivity I got form hearing those words...)

First of all this indicates that Wednesday does not consider herself a allo person, she has romantic feelings and has decided to never act on them or she has never experienced romantic attraction before (demiromantic/greyromatic?).

However as the show progresses we can see her form what can be interpreted as romantic bonds with two people.

(And will be by a wider straight/cis/allo audience who might not understand the aroacespec coding in the show.)

But, more importantly, she also forms a possibly stronger platonic bond with Enid.

Wednesday's relationship with Enid progresses in a healthy way. They get to know each other. At the beginning of their relationship they have a tape across the floor which nether of them cross, even at the end when Enid thinks he's saying goodbye for ever she does not hug Wednesday because she knows she doesn't like it. They respect each others boundaries.

Across the show we see their friendship deepen and Wednesday begin to more openly return Enid's affections.

One of the most important things to take from this is the speed of, said, progression.

It takes the whole show for Wednesday to be comfortable enough to hug Enid, which shows he level of trust she has gained for her new friend. She doesn't even accept affection from her family.

And, just as importantly, there is still room for a lot of growth in their relationship.

How does this tie into the grey/demiromantic theory?

Well, as Enid and Eugene are the only two people who Wednesday willingly calls her friends (correct me if I'm wrong my memory is shit) and Enid is the (potential?) romantic interest in the situation, she has obviously formed an emotional connection with her and only after she has formed an emotional connection will she allow Enid to hug her.

It ties pretty perfectly into the Demi category.

Now we have to address something else.

The boys.

First of all, especially as an ace (maybe grey or Demiromatic?) person myself, the relationships with both of them seem very rushed and forced.

It seems to me, that she only uses them to find information about the case. The whole show, everything, even the kiss all looked like a ploy for information.

After she suspects Xaviour she turns on him pretty quick. Would she do that if she really cares about him? And she has no problems with being against Tyler in the final.

All through the show her interactions with them are abrupt and harsh, she often forgets about them to continue her investigations, she frequently appears to have no regard to their feelings.

Why would she treat them so badly if she cared about them?

And why would her reserved personality allow her to progress two relationships so fast?

So how does the grey/demiromanticism link into these situations?

It's her extreme awkward and unusual reactions and treatment of both guys that leads me to think that a) she doesn't romantically like ether of them and b) she truly doesn't know how to interact with someone she has a crush on.

Sometime, when your feelings have deepened from some previous emotional connection, it is a lot easier to ignore them.

And Wednesday has never formed such a connection before Enid.

How would she know how to act and show romantic affection?

The stuff you see on T.V looks stupid. People meet each other, go on cute dates, have an mis-communication, get back together, kiss in the rain.

Where is the realism in that? Where is the emotional bonding the inability to understand emotions? The questioning of feelings?

Is this just how allo relationships are portrayed in the media or do people really just know if they like someone, that easily?

I genuinely don't know if some people just know if they like someone without months of questioning.

And Wednesday probably wouldn't ether.

Which is why she tries to make her relationship so like that, quick and easy, even though the emotions (that I'm assuming allos manage to feel after like two weeks or something) aren't there. Instead it's just the words and actions without any feelings.

So, it's the build up of her and Enid's relationship, her reactions to the boys advances especially in the cliche development of their relationships that feels so forced that and doesn't suit her personality at all that leads me to think that Wednesday is ether grey or demiromantic.

As for the ace part in both.

Maybe I'm just self projecting. But does that girl really appear allo to you?

Really?

#wednesday show #wednesday netflix #wednesday addams #aroace wednesday #wenclair #wednesday and enid #wednesday x enid #xavier thorpe #tyler galpin #wednesday thoughts #asexual #demiromantic #greyromatic #the allos are at it again #are the allos ok #straight people do not get this show #one of my friends legit told me she shipped Wednesday with Tyler #how????

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adhd-coded-hedgehog · 1 year

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My brain is literally incapable of understanding the notion that getting into a relationship with a friend is the absolute worst thing in the world.

Why?? Literally why is that so bad?

“Don’t date them, you’ve known them for years and are very close with them and know almost everything about them! You should date this person instead, because they’re hot and you’ve never interacted with them before.”

Like huh

#demisexual #demisexuality #demiromantic #demiromanticism #lgbtq #lgtbqia+#queer community #the allos are at it again #are the allos ok #aroace spectrum #aroace-spec

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everythingdestroyingme · 7 months

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Guys the allos are at it again.

I went on a trip with my anthropology class and we met up with another school. This girl was talking about her obsession with supernatural and I got sooo excited. Then other people asked why we got so animated and she explained before I could that we were “bonding over the hotness of Sam of Dean”

I wanted to puke

If you think I’m actually attracted to either one of them. You are sorely mistaken.

Leave me alone non-destiel shipper spn fan! I have never even once been attracted to anyone, let alone a man on a screen. There are other reasons to love supernatural.

SMH

#asexual #aroace #destiel #supernatural #the allos are at it again #aromantic

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starchilddante · 6 months

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I thought the thirsting over Jax was an allo thing, but it seems like even the allos are confused. Why are people so horny for the sarcastic noodle?

Don't get me wrong, he's a likeable character, I'm just confuzzled by the sexy art and how many ships there are for him already.

Wouldn't it be cool to see this kind of character be ace? Then, instead of losing their composure over romantic feelings, they may never totally change or eventually just warm up to platonic relationships. It could be pretty cool to have this archetype as an ace (in canon, I mean).

Anyway, I'm not mad or anything, just putting my thoughts out there :p

I really like Jax, but I adore Pomni. It's a tie between her and Kinger for my favorite character. It's a good cast of characters and I'm looking forward to upcoming episodes!

#the amazing digital circus #tadc jax #asexual #the allos are at it again #have fun with it #tadc kinger #tadc pomni #pride #lgbtq

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aroaceinthestreets · 9 months

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AroAce at the Movies: Violent Night

I had an aroace moment while watching Violent Night with my parents.

The story opens with a divorced? separated? estranged couple and their daughter going to see dad's insanely rich family Christmas. Amidst all the other set up for the movie there's a scene where the daughter tells Santa that what she really wants for Christmas is for her parents to make up. And she's a cute little kid so right away you know the movie is going to end with the parents getting back together and giving things another go.

Now, I'm not inherently opposed to this happening, but to pull this off a movie needs to give me a good reason why a couple is getting back together that is not Well, it'll make our kid happy. No. If they were ready to call it quits despite the kid before, there needs to be a good reason why both parties believe that the thing causing tension in the relationship before won't be a problem anymore or will get better.

What's causing tension in this relationship you might ask. Well dad's rich family are all very terrible people and husband's kind-of a terrible person when he's around them. Wife wants him to cut ties with them and stop sucking up to his terrible mother in a vain attempt to be named heir over his terrible sister.

So surely, when the couple later starts making out in the snow surrounded by dead and battered home invaders, that concern has been at least partially addressed right?

No. Not even a little bit. The previous scene with this couple was a reveal that the husband had stolen 300 million dollars from his mother (who had stolen it from the US military) and had planned to leave the family mansion with his wife, daughter, and money in the middle of the night, leaving his mother a taunting note to unwrap in her present on Christmas morning. Needless to say, the wife was not pleased with this.

When I complained about this my parents told me Well, dangerous situations bring people together. They explain well it in Speed.

And I gotta say, I didn't buy that when they did it in Speed either. Is this just a thing that danger charges people up? I would think that immediately after surviving a terrorist attack or a home invasion hooking up with the other people who have just been traumatized would be the last thing on my mind. In fact that seems like the worst possible moment to start a new relationship. Is this a real thing or something the allos made up for the movies? I understand feeling close to someone after a shared experience but why would shared trauma automatically translate into romantic/sexual feelings?

#Also Violent Night was exactly what it was advertised to be #Imagine if Diehard was actually a Christmas movie #Have you ever wanted to see Santa take someone's head off with a hammer? Now you can #Not for the squimish though #You know the scene in Home Alone where Marv steps on a nail?Every scene is like that but worse #violent night #arospec #acespec #demiromantic #speed movie #aspec #asexual #the allos are at it again #AroAceattheMovies

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supercalime · 8 months

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Someone made a romantic edit of Luffy and Nami and now I want to die

#the allos are at it again #not only they are erasing an aroace king #but let people be friends #they are a great example of found family #there’s no traditional family roles in the #straw hat crew #and that’s what’s so cool about all of them #Lety rambles #one piece live action #one piece

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potatopossums · 2 years

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do the allos know that asking "omg if This Person does XYZ, does that mean they're hitting on me?? does that mean they're into me???" can be solved by Literally Asking Said Person If They're Into You

bc clearly you're into them bc they did XYZ, and idk if you know this, but you don't need to know 100000% for sure that they're into you in order to express interest yourself. but hey, go make your life 1000 times harder for funsies ig

#aromantic #the allos are at it again #queer #alterous #funny

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elihoneybee · 1 year

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Allosexuals smh

When allos have to be told to cuddle and talk about real things (and it *doesnt* have to be sexual) like bruh

#the allos are at it again #asexual

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beatricebugs · 5 months

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The allos are NOT OKAY.

It is truly heartbreaking how not fucking ok they are. Holy shit are they not ok. It is gut-punching, hair-curling, bone-shaking how not alrighty not okedoodle not fine and dandy the allos are.

#aromantic asexual #asexual #asexuality #aromanticism #aromantic #the allos are at it again

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discocandles · 1 year

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Ranking the placements of kisses bc I'm ace and therefore I must be the expert in this, there's no way I'm not:

Kisses on the cheek: it's cute but mostly used if it's children or old married couples. Other ages could probably stand to use this more I don't mind it too much. very domestic and sweet 8/10

Kisses on the back of the hand/knuckles: this is some "oh, mr. Darcy. How forward of you." bullshit. Can be made really weird really easily. probably best left for knights trying to woo a maiden 4.5/10

Kisses on the lips: Some people think this means everything thing, others argue it's nothing at all. All the questions about the meaning of the kiss makes it too complicated to worry about. Its honestly overrated at this point. 4/10

Kisses on the neck: gross. What are you, a vampire? Quit trying to find my jugular and mark my skin. Possessive and awkward 2/10

Kisses on the shoulder: depends on the context. If after kissing the neck, then it's weird too. 2/10 If during a long hug as an extra bit of affection, then it's much nicer, but please get back to the hug 5.5/10

Kisses on the leg: meh. I really have no opinions on this. I'm confused how someone would be in that situation, but allos are confusing in general. 5/10

Kisses on the feet: ........ 1/10

Kisses on the arm: a bit awkward and if it wasn't for Gomez and Morticia Addams, this would be a much worse rating. You're lucky the Addams are on your side. 9/10

Kisses on the palm: seems like it should be an intimate experience, so if it's not just between the two people then it loses points. I'll leave y'all be. 7/10

Kisses on the wrist: more vampire-esque vibes. Please stop trying to suck my blood. 3/10

Kisses on the back: this only makes sense to me if it only happens like once a week in passing. Extra points if there was something requiring medical attention happened recently before it. 6/10

Kisses on the nose: Honestly doesn't get represented enough. It's like a more intimate nose boop. Everything about it is cute. Like the escapades of trying to hit the nose is hilariously adorable. And it's still cute even if they miss the nose. so cute it's barely human. 10/10

Kisses on the forehead: I can and will go feral about these. Like if you don't think these are the best kisses, you're wrong. It has so many uses, and it's not exclusive to romantic relationships. The most feel good kisses possible 100/10

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clansocreations · 1 year

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On a scale from one to ten with ten being the most asshole

How well did I handle that and how much can you tell I was practically steaming with fury while I wrote that like five minutes ago

I get where she’s coming from (allos constant think about sex, are almost obsessed with it) but like, me specifically?! I don’t think so! I don’t fuckin think so!! Over my dead body

Also I wonder if she considered that maybe just maybe this „historical sexlessness“ that’s a quote btw is because people don’t get forced, peerpressured or tricked into participating in it just cause it’s the norm, fuck off

#queer #lgbtqia #compulsary allosexuality #the allos are at it again #queer community #asexuality #ace rambles

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monika-396 · 2 years

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I swear I lose at least one year of my lifespan everytime I see a post calling a cartoon parent a dilf/milf or saying how x character from x non 14+ game is breadable.....

#i saw a tweet saying how dark cacao is breadable and my soul just perished #the allos are at it again #why would you say that?!#he's a fucking cookie WHY

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insufferablefirehazard · 1 year

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Why must allos always bring up what they're attracted to? They do it as "jokes" in videos or among their friends but it doesn't really have a punchline. It's just for them to have something to thirst over.

#asexual #the allos are at it again #allosexual #confusion

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eri0-0 · 1 year

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Sometimes I read a fic and it’s like “he got distracted looking at the way your skirt rides up on your thighs in class” Like is this an actual thing that people feel??? I’m so confused and also kinda scared. Is this real??? Do real living breathing people actually experience this??????

Please tell me cuz I really don’t know

#asexual #the allos are at it again #aromantic allosexual #i’m scared #pls help #questions #terrified #send help #weird #?#????? what #????? help

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midnights-my-afternoons · 2 years

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I'm rewatching Doctor who and I'm just remembering this conversation that I had with some old friends years ago-

One of my friends said who is the best doctor?

I responded 10 because to be honest 9 and 10 are pretty much tied for me I love them both so much. And it's not a question that needs a lot of thinking or explaining.

She rolled her eyes at me and said I said the best not the one you want to sleep with. Like..? This entire conversation is so fucking bizarre to me.

At the time I hadn't realized or known that I was asexual but even then I knew that I wasn't into guys so... What?

(not that it matters she thought that Matt Smith's 11 was the correct answer somehow. I don't dislike they're all really good I'm just why is that what she said it's weird. Is this what people are always thinking about when they watch TV shows?)

#doctor who #ex friends #asexual #this is weird right?#the allos are at it again

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rovermcfly · 2 years

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I really wish that "asexuals don't have to want sex but lot of them will still have it with their partner!" wasn't centered in like every asexuality acceptance post. I think it's genuinely damaging to asexuals and their relationships. A lot of us don't want sex. A lot of us are sex repulsed. A lot of us don't even wanna talk or hear about sex. A lot of us don't enjoy porn or wanna "hand out drinks at the orgy". Some of us have sexual-related trauma. Some of us are sex repulsed, not 💖✨sex repulsed but actually really cool about it✨💖

Allos are out here getting into relationships with aces and then pull a pikachu-surprise-face when their partner doesn't wanna have sex with them bc everyone constantly emphasises says how we totally will do it for them. Some of us won't. That's okay. That doesn't constantly need to be followed up with "but a lot of aces will so don't worry!!!!!" We don't have to make every post about us in a way that makes allos comfortable. It's not necessary to reassure allos at every turn that we're not all that asexual and they don't have to worry about us being different in a way they might notice. Allos need to accept and internalise that some people aren't gonna want to have sex. No terms and conditions. No "unless" "but" or "except". Just none.

#asexuality #read a post again by an ace person talking about their first queer relationship & how they thought their partner accepted them #until they realised their partner was basically just waiting for them to be like ''fine I'll do it bc *you* want it''#literally the reason I reblog so few ace positivity posts #p much all of them care more abt reassuring allos than actually being accepting

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