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readmarkclippastecollage · 2 years

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#trans women are amazing #trans woman #transgender #breastfeeding #Newman-Goldfarb Protocol #terf heads explode #mother and child #lgbtqia

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rad-claid-plaid · 1 year

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After reading butler, I can definitely say that the insanely individualist sex-isnt-real build-a-body infinite gender thing is coming from stuff like butler. The ideas of it.

#someone in my class rlly said "if terfs read this their head will explode'#like lolll?? bbygirl i *just* read it

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genderkoolaid · 2 years

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terfs found my "gonna make cis women's heads explode by telling them they aren't safe" post and are in the notes like what are you afraid of!!! that women THINK for OURSELVES!!! that we have Bad Thoughts!!!! and in like. no actually I'm afraid you are going to see me as a threat and pepper spray me or ask a cis man to beat me up. or you'll view my gender as some kind of personal challenge and try to manipulate or hurt me into detransitioning. i'm worried that any random cishet woman could see me being openly genderqueer and get scared and society will value her far more than it will value me.

"there's no way you'd be more scared of a woman on the street than a man!!!" i know this may be hard to understand, but literally yes. because trans/cis is a unbalanced power dynamic. Your Experiences Are Not Universal, Cis Woman.

and it literally only benefits GNC cis people to stand w trans people on this because thousands of butch women have been attacked by cishet women who are threatened of them. it's honestly fucking ridiculous that so many women who consider themselves butch/gnc are willfully ignorant of this well-known experience; because non-transphobic butch/gnc women find solidarity w trans people on this. but instead y'all are banging your fists on the floor and going nooo you guys are wrong about your lived experiences!!! your lives don't fit my personal narrative so you must be wrong about how you feel!!!!!! why are you asking me to consider other forms of oppression besides misogyny!!!!!!!!

#m.

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ash-and-starlight · 3 months

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Hi, i love your art, and i know in the past you've reblogged posts supportive of trans rights, so i was surprised to see the reclaiming femininity post on my dash. op is a terf; the context of the post is based on a terf dogwhistle. i don't mean this ask in a petty "ooooh you reblogged so and so" sort of way; but i wanted to at least ask your opinion, both in terms of what drew you to the post and your thoughts now. i'm trying to feel out the safety of the space as a trans person, if that makes sense? anyway, thank you for your time

Hi! yeah i just saw that it was from a terf & deleted it + blocked op, but to answer the “what drew you to it” is that i think the choice feminism that corporations latched on and are spoonfeeding to us at every chance & that i see so pervasive between my peers is heinous. waxing from head to toe and go on a powder shake keto girldiet and buy special pillow covers so your face won’t get wrinkles while you sleep are not actions that become more feminist just because you choose to do them. none of this shit should be expected from women, cis or trans or whatever. and i thought the “you can’t reclaim something that it’s demanded of you” summed it up pretty well.

anyway i wildly misunderstood the post and i truly genuinely hate it here, wishing terfs a very explode forever, trans rights, amen

#ash replies

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happilychee · 4 months

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thinking about aromantic lucy

I saw a terf saying aspec people aren't actually queer so fuck them here's aromantic lucy heartfilia

cw: a few mentions of internalized arophobia

lucy who doesn't know that the word love exists until she reads it in one of the few fairytale books in her father's extensive library. lucy who doesn't quite get the kissing and the physicality and the fiery proclamations, but thinks that it's an okay price to pay for someone to be so passionate for her. to choose her and care about her, like her mother did before she passed.

lucy, who's eight years old and crying after another argument with her father, who summons aquarius and asks "do you love me?" aquarius feels her blood pressure rise, but seeing the broken look in her wielder's watery eyes, she decides to drop the snark. "I do, kid." "does that mean you wanna kiss me?" aquarius almost smacks lucy over the head.

lucy who doesn't quite understand the difference between how she cares for her spirits and how she felt about her mom. lucy who cares deeply for everyone who's important to her, who thinks that aquarius could just as easily be her knight in shining armor as the storybook prince. lucy who reads romance books because she wants someone like that in her life. lucy who's never had any friends besides aquarius. lucy who thinks it must be nice to have someone choose you, care about you, protect you. lucy decides that that's what love is.

lucy who's old enough to know she doesn't like her father. lucy who's so confused when she hates him but still cares about him. lucy who's old enough to run away from home but too young, too young.

lucy who joins fairy tail and has no idea what to expect. lucy who's startled by her new friends' openness and easy acceptance of her. lucy who blushes when natsu throws an arm around her, who feels warm and fuzzy when gray guides her by the small of her back, who has a lopsided grin on her face when erza links arms with her as they walk. lucy who suddenly thinks that she's in love with three people at once and panics (her storybooks never mentioned that!!).

lucy who turns to who she can confidently call her best friend, levy mcgarden, for help. levy sits her down with a cup of hot chocolate and cookies. they talk for hours about sexuality and attraction; lucy sleeps over that night. the word that sticks out the most in her mind is aromantic.

lucy who gets drunk at a party and gets a little too close to cana, and suddenly they're in cana's apartment, making out like there's no tomorrow. lucy who feels guilt creep up in the morning because she knows cana and gray and loke have something going, and she might've just ruined it. lucy who tears up when cana laughs because she's so, so confused. cana's expression morphs into concern and she wipes away her friend's tears, warm skin on skin. cana who tells lucy that what she does with gray and what she does with loke doesn't restrict her from what she does with other people. "we talked about it, I promise." cana reassures her. then, leaning in with a sexy smirk on her face, she whispers, "besides, they're probably jealous I took you home first~" the rush of heat is enough to make lucy's mind go blank with joy.

lucy who shyly asks cana about her relationships and learns so much she feels like her head is going to explode. lucy who has a crisis about her storybooks and her ideal romances. she's never going to have that, she realizes. it feels like someone's scooped out her chest.

lucy whose feelings ebb and flow like the tide. she's not used to this. being so... different. her storybooks are scattered across the floor, thrown in an angry fit. her door is locked, but her window isn't, and that's how natsu gets in. "you okay, luce? we haven’t seen you in a while."

the dam breaks. lucy sobs in natsu's arms, and all she can think is that this is the exact type of hurt/comfort scene she loves in her stories. she wishes she were normal, so she could love normally, so she could love natsu the normal way and be done with it. she doesn't realize she's talking out loud.

natsu cups her face, onyx eyes boring into chocolate ones. he squishes her cheeks together, the way he does when he thinks she's overthinking something. and then, natsu breaks through her entire crisis with three little words.

"does it matter?" he furrows his brow. "you're lucy, and I'm natsu, and I care about you." "but- I don't feel romantic attraction-" natsu huffs, frustrated that lucy's not getting something that's apparently obvious to him. "luce. I care about you, and I trust you, and I want to take care of you and protect you. who cares about anything else?" lucy blinks once, twice, and then she's sobbing again. natsu panics, because he knows he can be blunt and dismissive sometimes, but lucy barrels into him, clutching onto his scarf tightly.

"you care about me?" she whispers in a child's voice. that's more important to her than anything. romantic, platonic, the gray area in between, none of it matters as long as natsu cares.

natsu tightens his grip, wondering who he has to pummel for making his girl feel that way. "course I care about you, dummy. I'd burn down the world for you. and so would erza and gray and cana and everyone else."

lucy who has a really hard time moping when natsu's there every step of the way, trying to cheer her up. erza and gray show up, too, and it's hard to stay sad when she's being tickled by erza while gray cooks dinner and kicks natsu out of her kitchenette.

lucy who feels the hollow fill with something warm and gooey when erza gives her a hug, confessing that she often has trouble figuring out how she feels about anything. lucy laughs when erza tells her about the shenanigans that have happened when she doesn't pick up on someone flirting with her but gray and natsu do. she feels all fuzzy when gray leans against her, telling her that he feels the same way. his hand plays with hers, and she thinks it's nice how well they slot together.

lucy realizes when natsu falls asleep in her lap, arms wrapped protectively around her waist. lucy realizes when gray falls asleep at her side, erza tucked to his chest. lucy realizes that her friends make her feel like she's on top of the world, and she doesn't need a fairytale prince when she's got fairy tail.

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vintage-bentley · 8 months

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How in the fuck are you going to be anti trans and a Good Omens fan as if both the book and the show don’t explicitly establish the existence of several nonbinary characters and both Aziraphale and Crowley themselves are genderless beings

Not to mention both David and Michael’s staunch support of the LGBT (really emphasizing the T here, since you love to drop it) community as a whole, and David literally has a trans child

Part of me is even asking this in good faith because how do you see a series that is so incredibly queer and like it considering how much you shit-talk trans people on your lackluster TERF blog

There’s many reasons, actually! I’ll explain them in good faith, because I think that people who ask questions like this don’t understand the perspective of so-called “terfs” and assume we think like you do.

Firstly, I’m a feminist, so I’m used to media not aligning with my politics. I expect it, actually. Down to very simple things, like knowing I’m never going to go into a show and see a woman just existing with body hair like men do in shows all the time. But I’m comfortable and confident enough in my beliefs that I can consume media that doesn’t align with them. This extends to my feelings regarding gender. A they/them character doesn’t make my head explode, it’s just the same for me as seeing a Christian character (like Ella from Netlix’s Lucifer) or a female character who’s pro-beauty culture (like Elinor from First Kill). It’s a representation of a belief I don’t agree with and personally don’t believe in, that’s all.

Secondly, Good Omens is set in a made up universe with fantasy themes. I can easily get behind the idea that the true forms of angels and demons are genderless, because that makes sense to me in the same way God being genderless makes sense to me. This doesn’t have to carry over to me believing that humans can be genderless (I don’t believe in the concept of internal gender identity, because I don’t believe in souls. So I guess the better way to put this is that I don’t believe humans can be sexless unless we’re using gender and sex as synonyms). In the same way that it makes sense to me that angels and demons have souls that are put into bodies issued to them…but I don’t have to believe that also applies to humans. Or how it makes sense to me that Aziraphale and Crowley could survive without food, water, and sleep…but I don’t have to believe that also applies to humans. Etc. etc.

Basically, just because something is in a fantasy show, doesn’t mean I have to believe it’s real.

Thirdly, what the actors do in their own lives is none of my business. I don’t agree with supporting the TQ+ especially in relation to LGB (considering they’ve made it a primary goal to harass lesbians into pretending we can like penis, and to take every chance they get to express their hatred for homosexuality. I love to drop the T because they dropped me and my fellow homosexuals years ago). If two straight male actors want to do that, whatever. I also don’t agree with Sheen having a baby with a woman his daughter’s age, but that hasn’t stopped me from watching the show or appreciating his talent.

This all takes me back to what I said about believing you don’t truly understand the perspective of those you call “terfs”. Just because you might not be able to comprehend watching and enjoying something that doesn’t perfectly align with your worldview, doesn’t mean others feel the same. For example, many radical and rad-leaning feminists enjoyed the Barbie movie, despite it not being radical feminist. We’re capable of watching and enjoying things we don’t agree with, and of having discussions about why we don’t agree with it.

A much simpler answer to your question would be: I’ve always loved angels and demons and all things supernatural. I’ve always loved old cars. I love Queen. Religious/moral commentary and critique interest me. I love lighthearted comedies. I’m gay and starved for representation of healthy gay relationships. I love gay star-crossed lovers stories (go watch First Kill). Naturally, I’m going to love Good Omens, even if it doesn’t perfectly align with my worldview.

#asks #anon #it’s not even just the stuff regarding gender I don’t agree with!#I have a HUGE issue with the existence of Ms Sandwich and her ‘stable’ of ‘girls’#brothels are insanely inhumane and a breeding ground for human trafficking. And women are human—not property to sell #tbh I take bigger issue with that aspect than any of the gender stuff #there’s also the whole thing with God being a woman/having the voice of a woman…#…despite there being no attempt at reimagining what the world would be like had it been made by a female god instead of a male one #(example: maybe Adam would’ve come from Eve’s rib. Maybe Adam would’ve been responsible for the Original Sin)#instead Neil keeps all the patriarchal religion stuff in and pats himself on the back for casting a woman as God #what I’m trying to say is that yeah. I have disagreements with the show. so what.#it’s still a good show even if it’s not a radical feminist/rad-leaning show

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zvtara-was-never-canon · 3 months

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What can you tell about this?

https://www.tumblr.com/longing-for-rain/733713088247889920/what-exactly-is-aangs-toxic-masculinity-that?source=share

Me everytime I see a Zutara and other fake feminists botch terms like "Toxic Masculinity" by using it in situations where it doesn't apply in the fucking slightest

Now if you guys excuse me, I'm gonna go let some TERFs know "Toxicy Femininity" is also a thing just to see their heads explode with rage. I need something to cheer me up after reading this absolute nonsense.

#anti zutara #pro aang

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dykeinthedark · 2 months

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i feel like the magypsies in mother 3 are such important characters right now in the context of ppl getting mad about drag queen story hour and drag being around children. like sorry but a game from 2006 has a group of drag queens that are basically the objective guiding figures to the child main protagonists. the kids think androgyny is cool and magical. if a terf saw the hot spring scene i think their head would explode

#mother 3 #earthbound #mother series

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sylvia-on-the-run · 1 month

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What would you do if a joint coalition of the USSR, DDR, Cuba, South Africa (under julius malema), People's Republic of Japan, North Korea, and the Irish Republic occupied the Zionist state in order to end the war and set up a Palestinian State and secure aid to its people. Then all the TERFs in Israel (many terfs from Britain converted and moved here to escape IRA bombs) went out onto the streets to protest trans Palestinian women being given free hormones and baba ghanuj. Comrade General Secretary Vriska Serket then orders a column of tanks to suppress the uprising in Jerusalem which opens fire on the crowd and runs over a terf with its caterpillar tracks, causing her head to explode and her eyes to pop out? Then the Japanese Red Army decides because of the emergency to bring back WW2 bushido tactics against TERF zionist insurgents attacking their wombs with their bayonets and forcing them to have sex with their own children. Tumblrs transandrophobia truther zionist condemn this for some unknown reason.

What would you then do?

i have many questions but i guess to answer your question id uh well at what point is the question asked cause at the end id do very little related to this other than like lobby for the pcms support of the apparently extant ussr and ddr as well as the new palestinian republic uh yeah thats it i guess i mean idk what i would do vis a vis that unless this is like a question of wether or not i think thatd be a good thign? which if it was reword your question but yeah i think thatd be broadly good thouhg damn my space bar is being fucky today. anyways time for my questions firstly what time is this why do these communists states exist?? what is their specific ideological backing is the irish republic comunist? is vriska serket a human or a troll? while jerusalem is a real historical name for the city surely in this context itd be more accurate to say al-quds? why are we calling japanese warcrimes in the second sino-japanese war bushido tactics while their is a connection with bushido being a major piece of facistic japanese propoganda id hardly call such things tactics and they dont really have much relation. also i dont get why such a decision would be made it was done in their first place as part of the colonial endevour in china to weaken and fracture the chinese population, but since the palestinian population would already be in the majority and surely a reorganized economy would empower that majority i dont see the benefit of those sorts of terror tactics

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crippled-peeper · 10 months

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i suspect im hypermobile if it turns out whats going on with me isn't injury-related; or that I'm hypermobile ontop of an injury and (gasp) watch this:

see how i shut the fuck up and didn't compare my disability to yours which is very obviously more severe and far more disabling? so easy!!! wow!!!!! amazing!!! :|

as a disabled person i still have a lot of privilege with whatever i have going on. yeah it sucks sometimes i can get out of bed every day. yeah it hurts like hell and i feel like I'm dying but i can walk up stairs if i need to. yeah i use a wheelchair but only on the bad days/if its a longer outing.

its not hard to accept when other people have it worse than you. it doesn't make you less """special"". god your anons piss me off 💀

I wish more people had the same attitude as you about other disabled people instead of automatically devolving into “if you think you have it worse than me in a single situation, you’re a violent ableist who’s just like a terf” lol

a lot of social commentary on this site about disability has transformed into having no connection to any real events or problems in the real world and are instead “theory” based . example: “if you think mental disability and physical disability are different, you’re just like a terf of disabled people!!!!” when historically these communities have ALWAYS had at least SOME degree of separation and nobody has fucking died from physically disabled people speaking about their marginalization

not everyone but a significant portion of the hEDS community on here falls into the same trap thinking that just because they’re physically disabled, they automatically know everything about physical disabilities, even ones they don’t have (or they ‘predict’ they’ll have later)

It does get very tiring having 250 of the same exact “zebras” telling me I am a evil violent ableist monster who should have my head exploded for saying spinal implants are a last-resort treatment

I am ironically one of TWO people on this site I know with a spinal cord injury and I never have called myself a fucking zebra or felt the desire to??? having rare deadly conditions isn’t a gender identity or an outfit I wear or a badge of honor. It’s fucking traumatizing. I lost my family. It’s not fun for me and I’m not privileged for it

#long #sorry this got ranty

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transmascpetewentz · 8 months

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do you think these terfs' heads would explode if i explained to them that some trans people do in fact change sex. like sex isn't what determines attraction regardless, but there are many trans people who for sure have transitioned sexes

^^^

#asks

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fipindustries · 6 months

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jennyffer episodes that wont see the light of day

these are some ideas i bounced around in my head and even went so far as to doodle some scenes or write some bits of dialog but i ended up deciding not to do, either because the idea just didnt have legs or because i had to cut this project a bit shorter so as not to take me decades to finish.

the crush

a younger trans girl, recently come out of the closet has an unrequited crush on jenny, the younger girl was supposed to be a bit of a satire of me just before coming out of the closet. shy, nerdy, a little too clingy. just the naive crush of a little girl for someone else who is like two years older than her. the girl idolizes jenny and thinks she is the coolest person ever, jenny has no idea how to deal with this.

*the boy

jenny meets the only other trans person in the entire school, a trans boy that we see fleetingly in episode 4. erik. a character that i recycled from other projects. jenny thinks that she should probably try to get to know the guy since they are the only trans people in the school but when they try to hang out they find out they have nothing in common and not much to talk about.

*the hospital

this one i wrote with my gf, jenny has to go to the hospital to get a new prescription for her hormones, there she has to deal with a new edocrinologist who seems nice and sweet at first (jenny finds her annoying) but then turns out to be surprisingly a hardass.

*theatre

peter wants to join theatre club at the school, but the president of the club, a flamboyant gay boy who is a parody of the theatre kid, doesnt want him there so jenny and peter have to hatch a scheeme to get peter in

*the bully

there is a specific kid who is jennyffer's bully, except the joke is that he is actually in love with her and also he is too shy to actually openly bully her so he stalks her at a distance, tries to do mean pranks and bits of sabotage without her knowing but they keep backfiring and help jenny instead.

*the conversion

jenny finds out about circumcissions but terribly misinterprets what they are about so she tries to convert to judaism so that she can get free bottom surgery. this one in particular would have felt like too much of a south park joke for me to be honest.

*the terfs

jenny gets harrassed by a group of teenage terf radfems in her school. at first she tries to do her regular bit of being shocking and offensive and sarcastic ans sassy to brush them off but they are completly undeterred by this, eventually jenny snaps and actually becomes incredibly violent and menacing with one of them to the point that she successfully scares them off, but it comes at the cost of everyone else in school being too scared of her.

*the grandpa

cutting this one out is the one that hurt the most since it was the one i had the most carefully developed, i had basically the entire script written out. but i had to cut it for various reasons.

it was about jenny and her family visiting her paternal grandpa, who at first seems a kindly old man who loves jenny and jenny really likes this guy as well, this would be the first time we see her happy and respectful even. but slowly its show that the guy is too pushy, and disrespectfult and condescending an genuenly a bit busive towards jenny's dad, but he hides it beneath a veneer of jolly cheerness.

eventually this comes up to a head in the dinnertable where it comes to light grandpa doesnt see jenny as a girl. she at first tries to explain it carefully and patiently but he cuts her off and lets her know that he doesnt and will never accept her as a girl at all no matter what.

this leads to the dad finally exploding and going on a huge cathartic rant against the grandpa where he finally lets him know how he felt all this years about him and how much he hates him. then jenny and her parents leave as a happy family singing in the car.

i decided to cut it off, first due to time. i wanted to finish jennyffer once and for all and doing one more extra chapter simply wasnt in me to do it.

the second reason i decided to cut it was because it would have been just too bitter and not very funny, satisfying as it might have been. it would have been another episode about someone going on a huge angry insult filled rant right after the vivian james episode. it would have been an episode about an uncomfortable situation ending on a really aggressive note, and my main objective is that jennyffer is meant to be funny. it would have been just me venting, and not in the funny way.

so i got it out.

#jennyffer

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roman-and-azathoth · 1 year

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You can separate the art from the artist until their harmful politics and ideals begin leaking into their works.

A lot of times, artists and writers WILL leave their ideals in their works. That's not my point here. My point is that you can separate the art from the artist until they start weaponizing their work with their harmful views.

For example, we'll compare Dr. Seuss to JK Rowling.

On one side, we have a man who deeply cared about issues that affected his daily life. He was a leftist, a war veteran, a husband, and an author.

Dr. Seuss

Illustrated political cartoons during WWII, specifically supporting Roosevelt

Wrote Horton Hears a Who ad an allegory for the American post-war occupation of Japan

Sued the pro-life movement for using Horton's quote, "how small" on their propaganda stationary

His view on kids, "You have 'em, I'll entertain 'em"

Purposefully wrote the beginnings of his stories WITHOUT a moral in mind, quoting "Kids can see morals a mile away"

Continuing on that point, he wanted to view his stories as subversive rather than making an obvious remark within his works

A lot of his books have anti-consumerism, (the sneetches), racial equality (the butter battle book), arms race (yertle the turtle), and economic materialism (how the grinch stole christmas) allegories that fly over children's heads in favor of purposefully written morals that are intended for his younger audiences.

Point: Dr. Seuss never weaponized his writing. He never outright talked about things in his books to kids that were deemed inappropriate. In fact, a lot of his works were colorful and imaginative and weren't at all trying to teach specific moral issues. (What Was I Scared Of? Is a personal favorite of mine that teaches you how to fave your fears)

JK Rowling, on the other hand, decided to unapologetically use harmful stereotypes and politics in her works.

JK Rowling:

Admitted multiple times during interviews that goblins are a Jewish allegory

The only Irish character in her book is a harmful racial stereotype in that Seamus Finnigan not only has a stereotypical Irish name, he regularly explodes.

The only Jewish character in her book is Anthony Goldstein. Which is another rather harmful stereotype.

The only Asian character's name is Cho Chang.

The only Indian characters' names are Padma and Pervati Patil.

Hermione's protest movement Society for the Promotion of Elfish Welfare was named that way on purpose so other characters could call it SPEW and make fun of her. Insisting the house elves were better off working in slavery and they were happier that way, using a fired house elf (Winky) ad a harmful narrative device to try and defend the pro-slavery mindset within the Wizarding world

Uncomfortable Nazi allegories with Voldemort being a Magic Hitler

Attempting equality after her books were already published in an attempt to paint herself in a better light (tweeting that Dumbledore is queer, Hermione is black, etc.)

TERF behavior patterns that ended up in her publishing several radical publications explaining why trans people should die

So. There's a line to be drawn here.

Dr. Seuss illustrated a lot of commentaries on socio-economic issues in the WWII Era. Prominent and relevant issues. But he also taught important morals to kids in his writing while being subversive and rather imaginative in his books. They were obviously children's books and never swayed from children's books.

But there's something uncomfortably political about Harry Potter and that's why I can't separate it from JKR.

#dr seuss #jk rowling #harry potter #morals in books #childrensillustration #discussing #politics

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menderash · 2 years

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do terfs rly see actual neo-nazis and anti-gay senators agreeing with and supporting them and not have a single 'are we the baddies' moment? like that's how you know how utterly selfishly racist and homophobic and wholly conservative the movement is. they'll gladly throw literally every other oppressed minority under the bus to hurt just one small faction of them, because they think female oppression is the only oppression that deserves resolution. if you asked them to examine white women's historical complicity in western racism against men of color their heads would explode because, like many other deliriously paranoid far right conservatives, the concept intersectional societal privilege requires a level of humility, empathy, and self awareness they are allergic to.

#did cis white women effectively utilize their perpetual victimhood when inciting and participating in the slaughter of men and children of #color just wondering #cannot trust a white woman #much less a cis white woman who had a college fund #when having a vagina is the one societal oppression you experience the idea of other people suffering in way different than you #can raise the heckles i suppose. especially if you've built an entire belief system around your suffering being the only suffering

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boy-gender · 1 year

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hey dude, this might be a loaded question so no need to reply if you don't want to. but how do you deal with being surrounded by transphobia, like hearing people say transphobic shit and having to see radfem blogs/accounts or posts? a year ago i started to argue and beef with any terf i came across on here because of how fed up i was with being treated like shit and being walked all over, as a trans guy. but obviously that only did damage to my mental state and was a form of self-harm where i would go on terf blogs and hate read and argue with them. i still do it now sometimes and i'm trying to stop but if i do, i feel otherwise helpless in this world seemingly filled with transphobia. i just want to be myself and exist as i am, without weird cunts calling me a fetishist or a tranny or a mentally ill lesbian for being t4t. radfems and their allies make me so angry and i feel like if i don't at least show them that i hate them, they will start to abuse me again.

idk i have a lot more to say on this situation but yeah. do you have any advice or any experience on this?

I have very much been in your position, and sometimes I still fall into old habits of seeking out arguments online. It never makes me feel better, but I get so angry I feel like I'll explode if I don't put it somewhere. I actually found a few things that helped me reframe it though:

First, if I get into an argument here, on this blog, I am platforming the hate. I have to reblog it to argue with it, which means I am passing it on. This blog has hundreds and hundreds of followers, most of whom I assume are trans. Do I want to be a part of exposing them to the vitriol I see? It's bad enough I had to see it, I don't want to inflict it on other people. There are going to be trans people here who aren't as strong as me, who are in a bad place, who are in active crisis, and their safety is more important than an argument. Them seeing that one last bit of crap, that one horrible sentence that really sticks with them, could be the thing they torture themselves with past the breaking point. I don't want to give that to people.

This is why I don't reblog terfs to argue with them, I don't ever post the hatemail I get, and I don't show off hate I find in the wild. If I find something like a law that is hateful that can be fought against and has actionable options, or if someone is confused but I feel they're asking something in good faith and can be corrected, those I will reblog and speak about. I'll even talk about my own personal horrible experiences, because those are my stories and I can control how impactful I write them and how much of the nastiness of them I pass on. But those are very different scenarios.

I've started, when I see hate, to focus on my followers instead, and ask myself: do they need to see this? can anything be accomplished by having more eyes on this? can anything i say change the situation? could the harm done by passing this on outweigh any benefit? And once I've assessed those risks, I often find it isn't worth the argument. The best way to handle terfs is to block them, don't platform them, report them if you see something that violates community guidelines, and mark them as red on shinigami eyes to give others a heads up. You can even make a post like "hey username123 is a terf, you should block them" without passing on the shit they say.

But those are all public facing problems. I have a private tiktok, I have sideblogs with no followers/I remove the followers, and there are anonymous options like reddit and other worse cesspools. No risk of passing that shit on, so what holds me back from going there and having a field day?

One simple tenet. My being trans, being vocally and visibly and obnoxiously trans, annoys them far more than anything I can ever say. Terfs are, at the heart, a reactionary group. They don't exist without something to react to. Like a fire slowly being cut off from oxygen, they will wither and kill each other in infighting if left in isolation. Atleast the regular online scum will. This doesn't apply to ones that have the actual power to lobby for real world harm like joanne and the other big ones- but the odds of you talking to them online are slim. Let the terfs implode on each other and continue to exist. Your existence in a world that wants you dead is a radical act of defiance, and your existence despite what terfs say to you makes them froth at the mouth. No fact you could educate them with, no insult you could give them, will ever make them as upset as you simply living your trans life, thriving.

Piss them off with queer joy, is what I'm saying. It's far more effective. Not only do I not post hate I get, I never vagueblog or acknowledge it either. People sit there refreshing my blog constantly waiting to see the attention I'll give them with a snappy reply, and it never comes, and then they refresh more. I can literally see them doing this with an IP tracker and it's hilarious to me. What I do instead is for every piece of hate about trans people, I make two positivity posts about trans people. I FLOOD the tags with positivity and support. I drown out the hate that no one knows I got- because surely someone else has gotten it too. To me it's reassuring to go to a tag and see the love outweigh the hate- which it does. For every terf you find dozens of trans people in love with who they are. I would rather be a part of that. I'd rather pass that on.

It's also really rewarding. I can see in the tags of my reblogs- some posts have thousands- of people saying they didn't know they had options for their lives, thanking me, thanking other people who contributed to the thread, being so reassured and excited to learn there's hope. I suggest not just reblogging positivity, but also creating your own. Put your defiance into the world and let it give other people strength, and then when they come back and comment on it, take strength from them.

As for the world at large? Maybe I'm a bit more nihilistic, but I look at it two ways. First, trans people can never be totally eradicated via genocide. We are a group that occurs naturally and we will always grow back. If every trans person in the world were killed right now, and all knowledge of us erased, within a decade there would be more people who realized they were trans. They might lack community, they might lack the vocabulary to describe themselves, but they will exist again. Our culture might die- our people will survive. It will be horrific and tragic and a blight on the world that what was here was lost, but trans people and nonbinary people and gnc people and queer people will always grow back again, make a new community, carve out a new place in history. We always have, we always will. An interrupted history is still a history.

Second, the majority of people do not want us dead. The system may want us dead, and a very vocal minority with a lot of money and resources want us dead. But polls show over half of gen z identifies as some type of queer. Polls show most people disapprove of us being political hockey pucks. The violent reaction to us that you see is the death rattle of the conservatives, and they know this, which is why they're using the last of their power to do one last act of catastrophic harm. They only have the power to attack the most disenfranchised among us- queer people, PoC, the mentally ill or disabled, the extremely poor- and they will use it. Historically bigots get loudest right before their entire platform collapses in the mainstream. If we make it through the next decade, through the isolation and poverty and violence, we've made it. That's a big if for some of us. For many of us, we won't make it as individuals. I'm not gonna sugarcoat that. But our people will live on, and new trans people will come after we are gone

Now I'm speaking directly to you, anon. For now, my biggest motivator I can give you is to be here to see victory. Endure. Stay with us. I'm staying whether I like it or not. Stay to see all the queer people who will come next and all the beauty they'll bring and the things we will make. Come sit on my picnic blanket and watch the sunset with me. We might not be okay, but we can be not okay together, and we can start getting better together after that.

#long post #transphobia #trans positivity #trans pride #queer pride #queer resistance #trans resistance #og #transblr

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I looked into the video James Somerton talks about his HP merch in and made some screenshots. He's not full on bawling per say, but it's sure something. (An Over-Emotional Look at Why JK Rowling is Bad)

Screenshots: https://imgur.com/a/UwFPhZ7

He waxes quite long how for some kids HP was essentially a safe space from the real world, the characters were their friends and family and so on. The books are the fans' property now, she might legally own it but the brand is nothing without the fans, Hogwarts is home for an entire generation yadda yadda. You'd have to see the smug head shake when saying "I'm not letting her have the power to take it away from me", wow. Just wow.

Coincidentally, here's a 2 HOUR LONG video by the youtuber Shaun calling out just some of the weird and highly problematic shit in HP books: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1iaJWSwUZs

Jesus fucking christ, what a terrible ass fucking video from a terrible ass person.

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Truly, how brave of Serial Plagiarist Somerton to decide that he, as a cis binary man, can wear his HP backpack without feeling like he is contributing and supporting TERF ideology. And how absolutely nice of him to not make a single fucking mention during this one hour jerk fest of "I am good, uwuw, believe me, I am good!" of how to actually support trans people.

A big chunk on the video relies on the assumption that Serial Plagiarist is NOT bad, okay? He is not a bigot, okay? He said so. He has trans friends to whom he wouldn't talk about Joanne Karen so OBVIOUSLY he couldn't have any hidden bias or blind spots. Forget the fact about how he denied that Rowling "did anything explicitely racist" at the start. He met his first black person at 16 so that means he is not a bigot. But as soon he tries to convince me of that, he does share the opinion that the phrase "people who menstruate" sounds "off", that it's "deshumanizing" (he ommited explain how me, a person who menstruate, against my will I might add, should care about what a cis man's opinion about a completely accurate description that is relevant to menstrual related health) so OF COURSE he understands why people had a problem with it. It's very fucking understandable. Nevermind the amount of trans people who were already calling that already or the mountains of afab people who defended the terminology as being inclusive and fine. Serial Plagiarist is not a bigot because he said so. That is the only thing you need to remember.

Strike one.

Serial Plagiarist of Queer Authors didn't talked either about the pen name of J. Karen is the name of a conversion therapy supporter, even though in Twitter trans people and actual allies who listen to us always point that out.

Strike two.

At some point he says that the fanfiction communities exploded only after the books were finished. I was on HP fanfiction communities at 14 before the fifth book came out and it was the largest fandom at the time. I am talking about the hispanic fandom so the english one must have been huge too. How does he have the confidence of just saying such blatantly wrong information, I have no clue.

Like, he says "we were loving, kind, accepting people… that is why we had to defend J. Karen" like… he actually is making the argument that he is a good person at heart and he had no agency, no responsability, no autonomy at all and no bias anywhere when he decided to defend J. Karen and ignore criticism until it was too late. It's giving Shane Dawson pushing for his shitty "I am such an empath uwuw" whenever people would call him out on blackface or whatever shitty unfunny joke he made. "I am a good person, therefore, if I did anything wrong it was a mistake and that doesn't reflect my values or who I am", like fuck it does.

That phrase "I won't let her take that power away from me" appears before on the video refering to trans people having HP related tattooes to spite Rowling. So he took this sentiment from trans people and decided to apply it to himself… a white cis binary guy, and he thought he was doing fucking something.

I swear I almost lose my fucking mind when this piece of shit really bring out syrian refugees grabbing HP books with them and being all "is it really fair to ask them to give that up?". The same man who literally groaned and complained about how he can't guy a fucking lego set has no fucking business in hell comparing his need for scapism with these people. He had no fucking business to pretend like he has the same power of reclamation that trans people have. He had no fucking business doing this whole fucking charade of "I am not letting her take that power away from me uwu" when he never, EVER, was the most affected person on any of this and NEVER had any power taken away from him. While he was playing the smallest violin for himself from the inside of his ass, he barely even touched on the real life impact that J. Karen had on making the lives of trans people actively worse. He didn't say anything about how laws are inspired by her or how hateful and violent people she had little tea parties with. It's like he thinks all she did was some offensive tweets, a bad books, a manifesto and done. That no further impact and didn't harm anyone.

He wants to play the victim on all of this so fucking hard and it's embarassing. This is giving me Sarah Z bringing up the fucking Turner Diaries to talk about problematic fanfiction. It's the exact level of otherwordly lack of self awareness. No fucking wonder they are best buddies.

#james somerton sucks

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