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wonderingwhereiam · 2 years

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Resources:

Mental health resources

International LGBTQIA+ resources

International list of LGBTQIA+ helplines

More international LGBTQIA+ resoruces

Map of informed consent gender clinics *US

Lesbian, sapphic and wlw:

Am I a lesbian?

What does sapphic mean?

Safe sex and health for wlw and wsw

The D-slur

Butch / Femme

His and herstory of butch and femme

In defense of nonbinary lesbianism

Gay men, mlm and men who have sex with men:

I think I might be gay

Gay men and masculinity

The F-slur

Trans men becoming attracted to men

STI info for men who have sex with men

Straight but in love with a man?

Straight men who have sex with men

Bi, pansexual and other multisexualities:

Bi 101

The bisexual manifesto

Difference between bisexual and pansexual

What does pansexual mean?

Pansexual? Omnisexual? Polysexual?

Gender identity, expression and transition:

How do I know I'm trans?

You don't need gender dysphoria to be trans

Nonbinary but not trans?

Not cis. Not trans. Genderqueer.

Information on hormone replacement therapy

Explaination of gender and trans terminology

A book on trans history

Queer and questioning:

About the term "queer"

The queer nation manifesto

Questioning

Questioning and other resources

Intersex:

What is intersex?

Asexuality:

What is asexuality?

Asexuals and sex

Labels:

The split attraction model

Sexuality beyond L, G, B and Q

Unlabeled people and pomosexuality

Labels or no labels?

Nonmonogamy and polyamory:

General polyamory resources

Nonmonogamy and polyamory

Safe sex with multiple partners

Red flags in polyamorous partners

Is polyamory part of the LGBT+?

Normativity:

Heteronormativity and cisnormativity

Allonormativity and amatonormativity

Compulsive heterosexuality

Current LGBTQIA+ issues:

Puberty blockers

Should minors be allowed to transition?

Trans people in sports

LGBTQ+ "panic" defense

Conversion therapy

Countries that criminalize LGBTQIA+

LGBTQIA+ rights and equality by state

Misc:

No police at pride

Being an LGBTQIA+ ally

How to support your transitioning partner

Is not wanting to have sex with trans people transphobic?

Falling in love with someone at odds with your sexuality

LGBTQIA+ and intersectionality

HISTORY AND OTHER RESOURCES

#lgbtqia+#lgbt #resources #flag edits #wondering #pride flags #trans #gay #lesbian #asexual #aromantic #bisexual #pansexual #nonbinary #queer #intersex

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black-hippie-moonchild · 5 years

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Words for each zodiac sign

Aries

A - Agressive

R - Risk Taker

I - Independent

E - Enthusiastic

S - Short Tempered

Taurus

T - Thorough

A - Appericative

U - Urgent

R - Resoruceful

U - Understanding

S - Sensual

Gemini

G - Gossipy

E - Energetic

M - Manipulative

I - Intelligent

N - Nervous

I - Inquisitive

Cancer

C - Clingy

A - Affectionate

N - Nuturing

C - Creative

E - Emotional

R - Reflective

Leo

L - Loyal

E - Egotistical

O - Optimistic

Virgo

V - Visionary

I - Insecure

R - Reliable

G - Grounded

O - Over Critical

Libra

L - Lazy

I - Idealistic

B - Balanced

R - Romantic

A - Artistic

Scorpio

S - Sexual

C - Cunning

O - Observant

R - Reserved

P - Powerful

I - Intuitive

O - Obsessive

Sagittarius

S - Straightforward

A - Aloof

G - Genuine

I - Intelligent

T - Talkative

T - Truth Seeker

A - Adventurous

R - Rambling

I - Idealistic

U - Upbeat

S - Spontaneous

Capricorn

C - Cold

A - Ambitious

P - Patient

R - Responsibke

I - Introverted

C - Careful

O - Observant

R - Resentful

N - Non Committed

Aquarius

A - Adventurous

Q - Quirky

U - Unpredictable

A - Artisitic

R - Rebellious

I - Inventive

U - Unconventional

S - Sarcastic

Pisces

P - Passive

I - Imaginative

S - Sensitive

C - Compassionate

E - Escapist

S - Spiritual

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dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram · 5 years

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hey ralph! i was wondering if we could talk about charities. i totally agree with you that there's a lot of charities that revolve around helping individuals (or blaming them, in your words) while ignoring the structural problems that put them in that situation in the first place. so my honest question is: how is in your opinion the best way for a charity organization to approach those issues with social responsability? since they don't really have the power to actually fix everything. +++

(2) and do you have any examples of charities that have this philosophy vs charities that are harmful? also, what do you think we as individuals can do to help fixing some of this issues? both us middle class people or millionaires like the boys. because while i do agree with the things you said on the subject, i always thought that even if i unfortunately cant solve anything by donating at least i might make someone's life a little bit better or easier; i believe that's what the boys +++

(3) and especially harry view charities. (the obvious difference is they have way more power in that matter than i could ever have). sorry if this is long or doesn't make a lot of sense, i just think about it a lot because i know celebrities and rich people in general should be doing so much more, but i'm not really sure how, and i really like reading your opinions. also english is not my first language so forgive me if i may have used some inadequate words or expressions +++

(4) - i know you're very particular about that. thank you for always questioning everything; while i may disagree with a lot of things it's so important to have a voice like yours in this fandom and i hope you know that there are people who value that, even though your inbox doesn't always show it. have a great day

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Thanks for these asks anon - they’re really interesting. And thank you for your love. I don’t take ridiculous asks as indicative of much and I do take interesting one’s as a sign people are engaged with my blog.

I think I start from a slightly different premise from you. In general, I don’t think rich people should be doing more. Rich people tend to be rich because of the harm they are doing to the world and one of the functions of charitable work is to obscure this reality (this is why google camp has me talking about the guillotine).

In Harry’s case (and other 1D members and big touring musicians in general), a huge part of their wealth comes from the production of merch in wildly exploitative and damaging ways. The supply chain involved in producing merch involves huge environmental damage, horrific working conditions (including substantial levels of violence and sexual violence), poverty wages and direct attacks on union organising when people try and improve their wages and conditions. There’s no way Harry (or anyone else in his position) could undo the damage done in the production that makes him wealthy, by giving a fraction of that wealth away.

(I know there are people who will immediately widen out this specific point. My worldview is that the people who are responsible for the harm done by production are those who control it (even indirectly through subcontracting) and who collect the profit. Consumers, and other workers in the production process, do not control production or benefit from it and pretending that individuals who buy things are responsible for the damage caused in their production is an ideological project to hide who actually has power and wealth).

There’s another distinction I’d like to make - I think that some charities that present themselves as helping individuals also blame them for their position use rhetoric (or practices) that blame them for being in that situation, but not all do. One of the things that really struck me about the donations Harry chose to support on tour was that as soon as he hit America the rhetoric got much more right-wing and blaming individuals. Up till America a lot of the charities were like ‘people don’t have this thing - we provide it’. When you got to America the charities all described themselves as not just providing things for people, but improving them (for example rather than just giving people who are hungry food, they’ll talk about encourage people to make better choices. Even the LGBTQ charity he supported talked of pathways to independence). That idea that working-class people, poor people, people without resoruces, disenfranchised people, need to be changed - that’s what I object to and think is wildly reactionary and harmful.

To talk in slightly more positive terms - I actually think if you have resources and you’re figuring out how to help ‘Let’s make someone happy today’ is a good starting point. Give money to homeless people, pay into people’s gofundme accounts, buy sick and disabled kids playstations. If the problem is that people’s needs aren’t being met, then meet those needs, don’t suggest that people need to be changed so they can get their needs met. If you want to be a little bit systematic than giving coins to people you see on the street - then look for charities that are unconditional in what they do, rather than those that try and draw distinctions between the deserving and undeserving poor (Harry promoted some sort of running for the homeless charity that was the absolute opposite of this - to the extent that just thinkign about it’s existence makes me apoplectic with rage).

(Incidentally, there is research to suggest that when people’s needs are met in an unconditional way it’s much easier to make changes they want to make in their own lives. That programmes that think that homeless people need to be transformed are nowhere near as transformative as programmes that give homeless people a house. But for me that’s incidental - the reasons I’ve discussed in the paragraphs above are more important.)

You mentioned thinking about Harry saw charity. I don’t think we can tell - particularly not in the terms that I’m talking about. He’s supported a range of charities, including those that operate on a hugely controlling model. I agree that he probably wants to help and I suspect his ideas about what that mean would seem incoherent and wrong to me. It’s notable that a programme that kept services from homeless people unless they went for a run didn’t set off any red flags for him.

To give a more personal answer - I tend to see money as a form of solidarity. I don’t tend to give to super large organisations, because the chances that they’ll do things I disagree with increases exponentially. There are organisations that combine meeting people’s needs with advocacy that I think are really worth supporting. For example in NZ welfare advocacy organisations help ensure people get their entitlements and help in really important ways. But they then learned a lot about what is wrong with the system and can use that knowledge to advocate for change. Organisations that meet refugee and migrants needs and advocate on their behalf were vital to exposing the Windrush scandal here in the UK. Finding these sorts of organisations

I also think it’s important to look beyond charities (charitable status can be very limiting) and giving money to those who need it to sustain their struggles. Give money to workers who are on strike. Contribute to the legal costs of people who are being targetted because they’re fighting for a better world. (There’s an important history of politically aware entertainers doing both these things - although of course the mass contributions of people with much less money have always been more important).

But the bigger question, the one I think you’re ultimately asking is how can I change the world? Your money (even if you’re comfortably middle class) is not the most important thing you can contribute. The most important thing you can do is join together with other people around you and collectively try and . Join a union if you’re an employee, get together with other renters if you’re a renting, fight to change a law that fucks you over. Widen your solidarity to people who are facing different struggles, but have similar enemies. We can have a better world - people have fought and won in the past and will in the future - and they’ve done it by working together.

#I'm sorry that you were worried about your langauge anon #I'm dont' want to have that effect on people #and I'm trying to find ways of answering anons that are more generous in this way #I thought you were perfectly clear #thanks for such interesting questions #as you can see I had a lot of thoughts #I hope that's useful #and I'm always happy to tlak more #Anonymous

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taylorwhitehurstt-blog · 4 years

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Concept Reflection 8

Drawing from Modern Romance and your notes on Marriage and Family, how are the ideas in these 2 articles related to patterns we see in marriage and family? What is the impact of technology and social media?

These two articles emphasize the idea that marriage is an embedded ideal that children (especially girls) are taught at a very young age. Princesses with fairytale weddings are idealized and shown to be the standard of what a successful wedding is. This basically monetizes love and takes away the actual value of it. The ideal of love kind of being overlooked in relationships was brought up in Modern Romance when the author discussed casual relationships. Family and marriage is not held to as high of a standard as it once was.

Based on what you have learned in class this semester, how might the experience of marriage, “amatonormativity,” or the wedding industrial complex differ for people of various race, class, gender or sexualities?

The idea of amatonormativity makes finding love and marriage is a goal to achieve happiness. Just as in monetary wealth, this may be difficult for people of different races or socioeconomic statuses to achieve due to lack of resoruces and other distractions that are associated with their status. Many times, poorer people are too busy trying to put food on the table than to find someone to be in a relationship. People of higher socioeconomic status have less economic worries allowing them more time to find and get into a relationship. Those who identify with different sexual orientations or gender identities may have harder times achieving this amatonormativity due to there being a smaller pool of those who match with their identities or ideals openly enough to have a relationship with them due to the ridicules of society.

Please give examples that make your case from the television shows that you watched.

In 90 Day Fiancé, almost every situation is very similar. The Americans in the show are trying to achieve the ultimate goal of love and marriage. They look online, find someone in another country they “connect” with, and the goal then becomes to get them to the United States on a K1 visa so they can marry and live happily ever after. Most of the time, these Americans are pretty economically well to do. None of the participants are significantly economically struggling, especially because of how expensive the K1 visa process is. A lot of the people from the foreign countries are specifically looking for well to do Americans to fall in love with so they can be brought over to the US, get married, and live the American fairy tale. This is a new form of the idea of amatonormativity that is quickly emerging in today’s online culture.

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ourletterstogod · 5 years

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god I come to ask you a question because you are the god who created everything in our world and ask the first question to Adam and eve. why must I give my money to the church god, how come god. why cant we just pray for you so that you could keep our churches active thru out the globe. I look at the old testament god exodus where mosses lead the people out of Egypt to their promise land these people didn't have any money to buy food, drinks, clothes and medicine. the only resources that these people had was the power of prayer. Mosses and including the slave they pray for food, water and clothing. and then when you didn't gave them what they wanted god they started worshipping other god and idols.

okay lets go forward in time, do you believe that we your creation is worshipping the dollar bill currency. I do believe god and I'm also one of them to god. we can buy anything we want with the dollar bill currency. we can buy food , drinks, clothing, entertainment, we use money to buy love, we use money to buy property. but why cant we just pray for these things god. my church leader spend countless minutes talking about why we are so stingy and couldn't make it to 500 dollar for the walkathon but I felted this burn in my heart that I wanted to realize on him and told him why just pray why should we give money to the church but we should rather pray god to give us the resources to help us plant more churches around the globe.

Luke 16 verse 13 said that how can you worship two masters, one you would love and the other you would despise. you cant serve god or money. we are so blind that we have worship money as a idol. money give us everything that you cant god. it gives us the freedom to do what ever we want. we could sin all that we want and still receive that dollar each other week to help us with our craven god.

god I speak on the truth here and the truth its what comes from my mouth. the holy spirt speaks the truth I with all my heart god I hate money. money has taken away everything I had. it had taken away my mom so that she cant live a addict live it had taken away both of my two best friend because they couldn't live in nyc because they didn't have the money to pay for rent. money had ruin my grandma live because she depend on money to buy her beer every other day. when we dont have any money god what happen to us. we get evicted and live on the street. why cant we just relie on you god. why cant I pray and tell you god "hey my lord I dont work and have any money at this moment but cant you just give me a shelter, food, water, medicine and clothing so that I could live for a couple of years or so. but yet again when these particular things are not meet we worhip the dollar bill by working countless hours for it and sacrifing our time and need from you god.

god I pray that you help me passed this exam with atleast a 80 or 100 points and make sure that I will be able to pass every exam that every professor gives me in my hands. I also pray that our churches and your churches around the world have the enough resoruces to built more churches around the world so that we can spread the word of jesus Christ. god I also want to make a special prayer for a very special person. god I would really love that you would give this person protection from the evil one and keep her safe from sinning. and even if you allow this person to spend time with me god please surround us with a wall of fire so that we dont commit no sexual sin with our body. you may allow our lips to kiss and touch each other but let nothing pass that line. I pray that she kepts her job in so that she doesnt have to live on the street. but most importantly god add this young sister to your list and make her life better than it was years ago. touch her heart that she can feel your presence and have the holy spirit in her. god give me the strength and determination to spread my faith to her like wile fire. let me not only but with you your son and the holy spirit change her life around so that she can become a better person god. but all that I ask god is to make her contact me every other day and so that I could speak to her and share my faith with her one day.

amen

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