#probably more like 99% in my case tbh
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Even after all this time and awareness, it feels like asexuality is still not treated like a proper sexuality. Recently had a girl tell me that she was at a place where she ‘felt so asexual’ because all the other girls were so beautiful and guys were ignoring her because of it. She didn’t know I was asexual and I didn’t take offence (I know she didn't meant it in a malicious way) but it does feel uncomfortable that people are using ‘asexual’ in lieu of ‘unattractive' or 'lacking sexual appeal.' It's really giving 90's/early 2000's slang of using 'gay' to mean 'lame.' Even shows like Brooklyn 99 which took immense pride in being progressive with their comedy, had an episode where one of the characters says "Oh, and I'm sorry if we implied you're both asexual nerds who can only be friends with service animals."
I have mentioned this before also, when I talked about how I feel like people are more comfortable erasing the identities of canonical aro/ace characters in media but act like it's unacceptable with other sexualities... but it does feel like asexuality (and aromanticism tbh) are still not considered 'real' sexualities. In the case of shipping fictional characters, I understand there is nuance to that issue and so don't want to get into it, but it does kinda add to my point.
Why is it that people treat asexuality like it's not a sexuality? Why is it that when I come out to people I'm met with insistence that I'm wrong about my sexuality, that I'm 'self diagnosing' (it's not a medical condition), that I'm probably 'just inexperienced' or haven't 'met the right person' or have a hormone issue? Why can't people just accept that it's a sexuality like any other??
#asexual#ace stuff#aroace tag#asexuality#ace#don't mind me just needed to vent#just tagging asexuality because it was that 'felt so asexual' comment that made me feel this#but I think it does extend to aromanticism as well#but who knows at least for me I can no longer tell where the ace ends and the aro begins
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About the AG doll, tbh i think whats giving everyone the same uncanny vibes is, like you said, it looks like a teenager. Like the entire AG line is built around these dolls looking very young, so this one in what feels like a current alt-teen-skater outfit + choker + lipstick + the hair. . . it just doesn't match the brand image, so it looks off on the doll.
Someone on Reddit called the company's downward spiral "the Barbiefication of American Girl," and I agree. Although in this case it's more the Bratz-ification of American Girl, in my opinion.
Like. The whole point of it, in the beginning, was that they weren't lady or baby dolls. They looked like actual children around age 8-11. And the company acknowledged in their modern line that little girls of that age could like fashion, too; they didn't try to blot out all things sparkly or pink or trendy in the name of being Not Barbie (which is probably why they succeeded where more condescending lines like Lammily have failed). But they adapted children's fashion, as children wore it. Not just slapping teen or adult style onto characters that were supposed to be 10 years old.
Some people have pointed out that this outfit from the winter/spring '99 issue of American Girl magazine is almost the same as Isabel's Meet outfit:
And yeah, it almost is. But...it's also Not. The real kid has braids, not flawless, glossy hair worn loose. She's wearing sneakers, not platform heels. Her top, skirt, and vest aren't all perfecty matching monochrome. And- this is a big one -she doesn't have on VISIBLE PROMINENT MAKEUP. She's styled the same basic look like a child, not Cher from Clueless.
AG used to be a brand that let kids be kids, and it's disturbing to watch that change.
#ask#anon#american girl#also her sweater vest and shirt aren't one single piece- nice job cheaping out there AG#you're charging how much for this doll again?
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i just finished binging the dead boy detectives show, and i need to get my thoughts out, warning for spoilers
no spoilers tldr: its rlly good please go watch it i need a season 2.
now, onto the review(??):
it is very VERY different from the comics. this isn't *necessarily* bad, in fact i have no problems with pretty much any changes the show made, i just get antsy about cbms/tv shows changing the source material, bcs that happens all the time (i love the blue beetle movie but i will never forgive it for victoria kord). so here are some changes i liked: i liked the explicit queerness, i liked niko, i liked the fact that there were people in the afterlife actually looking for them, i liked how they wrote tragic mick (i love him so much), and i liked the setting change; some i didn't mind but would hate in the comics: edwin's magic, the whole brains/brawn thing?? (istg if a single one of you decides to portray charles as stupid, i will kill you), crystals personality & dynamic with the boys (she was fine but so drastically different from her comic self i would've preferred her to be an oc tbh), the removal of squooshing, the fact that the dead boys don't take cases from the living, edwin's hell being so much more violent, and the fact that they actually call themselves the dead boy detectives (i could be wrong but i've read all of their solos and i don't think they've ever done this??). the only change i really outright dislike is charles' death. i loved the part where edwin took care of him and read to him, but him being killed by the same bullies who killed edwin in the same place is just so much better than the lake. also, once again, crystal was a fine character, but that is just *not* the crystal palace surname-von hoverkraft i know!! where is her obsession with video games? where is her tech savvy? where are her insane parents?? i hope that one day we get an accurate cartoon adaptation of the toby litt run.
now moving on to the show itself!! i really liked the plot, the fact that it was semi-episodic, the cast of characters and actors was incredible. i just really liked it lol. tbh the literal only part of the show i didn't like is the fact that edwin and charles didn't kiss by the end. like... not even once. i wouldn't mind this if this wasn't a netflix show that wasn't getting much buzz, because i'm 99% sure this show isn't going to be renewed. also it felt kind of... idk, queerbait-y?? like there's obviously queer characters and content, but it feels like i watched this *for* edwin and charles' relationship and then they never got together. i feel like shows do this a lot, where, yes, there's a queer character, but they just aren't allowed to be in a happy relationship and get with the person they love. like idk it just makes me kind of angry, especially since we're probably not getting a season 2. i liked literally everything other than that, but it's just such a big scar on my enjoyment of the show that i can't help but mention it.
i don't really have much else to say other than: i really liked it, go watch it.
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☆ how comfy i would be with asking the boxers to hold my drink - ranking ☆
this came to me after i read a "how comfy i would be asking the stardew valley characters for drugs" article and thought "heyy why shouldnt i do this??" anyways i might actually make that list, also dont think of the drink as alcohol neccessarily, you can ask piston hondo to hold your cup of milk or something idc
Starting with bottom of the list..
King Hippo!
He would be at bottom place because he would most likely drink it or just lose it, if he wouldnt have done those things my drink most likely would have been on the floor already, i dont trust this man with my drink, at all
My cup would probably be slippery because im 98% sure he would squeeze the fuck out of my cup to not drop it
next place is...
Glass Joe
He would actually hold my cup like a normal person but he'd still spill it, im 90% sure since hes bottom of the ring
Look at him and tell me he wouldnt fall to the floor & spill my drink the second someone pushes him to the side
So unless i felt like licking the floor i wouldnt give him my drink
next place is...
Super Macho Man
He'd just flat out refuse to hold my drink and i don't blame him tbh
Even if he did hold my drink he's most likely set it down and forget about it, he wouldnt even be sorry for it like the himbo he is
Hes the type of person to switch out your drink because "You have bad taste" (he forgor your drink and didnt feel like ordering the same one)
Next place is..
Bald Bull
Trust me, there are planets between him and macho man on this ranking, but hes still bad at it
He'd most likely get in a argument with someone and end up throwing it onto someone or have said person who argued with him spit or snatch that cup up
Other than that, he would probably guard it an ok amount
He'd ask someone else to hold your drink just in case he gets in a fight and it would turn into a game of "please give me my drink back"
Next place is...
Soda Popinski
He'd just chug it thanks to him mixing it up with his soda thanks to muscle memory 99%
Other than that, he would try to guard it but would end up spilling it probably
Drink stealer at worst, mediocre drink carrier at best
Next place is...
Great Tiger
Slightly above the average at protecting it, but would still forget it or spill it while teleporting for sure
Seems like the type to party too hard and make someone chug your drink because you cant refuse a triple dog dare
Next place is...
Aran Ryan
Believe me, he is in no way sane or normal but damn he can protect a drink
He'd spill it a little but thats way better than drinking it or throwing it onto the floor entirely
He'd probably hold it for a while and not lose it, he would lose you instead so you'd have to search for him and after some he would give up protecting your drink
Next place is...
Don Flamenco
He's the fine line between "i would have been better off shoving this cup up where the sun doesnt shine" to "i trust you with my life let alone this cup"
He seems like a party animal, that probably means he has experience holding cups
He'd protect your drink like his life depends on it
A little bit lower on the list since he also has the disadvantage of partying too hard
Next place is...
Disco Kid
Come on, you expected this, if he can fight while busting it down he can surely hold your drink
Hes probably a huge party animal so he has experience holding things for people
He would def buy a replacement for you if he were to somehow lose it or fuck it up somehow
Next place is...
Von Kaiser
You might be saying "how the fuck would he guard my drink he would get knocked down like Joe, moe you are so wrong and stinkyyy" but i present you this: covering the cup like a maniac and hiding in the corner
He looks like the type to fight anyone willing to come near your drink if you ask him to hold it and i will die on this hill
Next place is...
Piston Hondo
Same thing as kaiser except hes more likely to win the fight so hes higher on this list
Hes also more likely to hide away from the type of people who would snatch up that drink and chug it for a triple dog dare
Next place is...
Bear Hugger
Hes 100% the type to chug a drink for a triple dog dare, Just not yours
Since hes big & tall protecting your drink would be easy for him,if he has to do something he would probably find you and give it to you before he does it, ranked a bit lower because of that but still better than whatever the people below him have going on
And the top of the list is..
Mr Sandman!
Be honest, you expected this
He's less likely to get into a fight with anyone since no one will dare to piss off a visibly buff boxing champion and if you disagree with that i only have one thing to ask you: how does it feel to be wrong
Honorable Mentions...
Ms. Bear - You don't fight bears + people are not very likely to approach a bear on its 2 feet holding a drink and if you are the types to approach a bear on its 2 feet holding a cup im suprised youre still alive
Carmen - she's def the type of friend to hold your stuff as you go into the bathroom at a party, that explains enough about her
Bear Hugger's Squirrel - if he was included in this list, he'd be at the bottom because 1) this little bitch would leave it and 2) its a fucking squirrel and most importantly: this weak ass cannot lift a cup
#punch out#headcanon#punch out wii#punch out headcanons#don flamenco#bald bull#piston hondo#glass joe#aran ryan#great tiger#soda popinski#von kaiser#bear hugger#disco kid#carmen punch out
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The time has come
The blorbo posts are moving out of tellius, who knows how long it will be until they break even the fe containment
CRAB BLORBO NR. WHATEVER I FORGOT!
ANNA!!!!!
Back to the basics, list time!!!
She is in literally every game except fe2 and it's remake fe15
I adore her little finger chin touch that she does in every game
Every iteration of her is actually a different person and they're all a big family of sisters
^this also has the implication that Anna has interdimensional travel powers (and also time travel)(this is also hinted at in engages epilogue)
I believe there's two eras of Anna, pre and post-awakening. With pre-awakening being more down to earth and existing a lot more as the menu and secret shop person, with post-awakening being more high energy, and I don't want to say one-note, but more, let's say focused on a specific gimmick, which in Annas case is being a cuttthroat buisnesswoman, and this often comes along as borderline psychopathic (/pos imo), but I don't think this was the intention. I love both versions
Post-awakening she's actually a playable character in almost all the games, including Awakening (Very fun to use, trickster class which is staves and Swords, she does especially well with Levin sword and that's always fun), Fates (haven't used her, dlc), Three Houses (kinda sucks and has no supports, also dlc and one of the other dlc characters is just better in everyway gameplay wise) and Engage (also very fun to use, uses axes at base and bows on promotion which is very nice, she also has great magic and can be very good as a mage)
Sells you drugs
So Anna huh, the most reocurring fe character by far, and I love reocurring characters. She's a shrewd buisnesswoman and always have been, but she's a pretty chill gal pre-awakening and just hangs around and gives you tips. And sells you drugs, don't forget about that. Then in awakening she returns once again, but now with a more, high-energy personality. The reason I called her borderline psychopathic is that she here begins to make a lot of quips and jokes about killing people in ways that are some kind of money puns in a very lighthearted tone, "prices aren't the only things i slash" for exampel. I personally find this kind of endearing (this holds up with my other blorbo Henry also from awakening). Then in engage she shows up as a child who has been lost from her family (her anna sisters) Here in engage she has a wonderful childlike feel when doing all her merchant things, while still having that dash of psychosis. And I find this very endearing as well.
She also has a boyfriend who is also reocurring, just not as much has her. Meet Jake! His personality and looks vary a bit.
Then there was the final dlc to awakening, bringing one final challenge to all who played the game. Apotheosis, featuring the final final boss...
Anna the merchant
This is an insane boss, probably the single strongest boss in all of fire emblem, with insane stats like 99 hp, 60 str, 50 mag, 70 skl, 70 spd, 65 lck, 55 def and 55 res. So insanely much.
But that's not even the worst part, her skills are. Counter dealing all physical damage back, Vantage+ to always attack first, Aether which is usually only a main character skill, dragonskin (????????) which halfs all damage dealt and RIGHTFUL GOD
RIGHTFUL GOD????????
rightful god gives 30% extra proc chance to all proc skills
BUT EVEN THE FACT THAT SHE HAS A SKILL CALLED RIGHTFUL GOD IS SCARY ENOUGH AND HAS SOME WEIRD IMPLICATIONS
yeah, insane boss
But overall yeah I just like her, great vibe tbh.
I think me liking her might also have something to do with that she reminds me a lot of an oc I made a loooong time ago with pie who has a special place in my heart.
Anyway finishing picture of all of anna
I find it extremely hilarious that Anna just. has time travel powers. The single constant of the fire emblem universe is the presence of silly capitalism gal
ALSO SHE’S A SUPERBOSS?????????? RIGHTFUL GOD?????????? WH?????????? WHY DOES THE FUNNY SECRET SHOP LADY HARBOR THE POWER OF THE HEAVENS
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your tags on the lady layton anime poll tell me you didn't exactly enjoy watching it
Personally, i can only agree and i have my reasons for it, but I'm still curious as to why you dislike it?
I don't like it mainly because it's so... obviously made for little kids. In every part of it.
No culprit is actually bad, but rather 99% of them were doing a bad thing for a good reason, which is fine once in a while, but this is the case in literally every single episode, and it gets old quickly. They made a detective/mystery anime with no actual crimes depicted. I mean come on.
On top of that, the episodes are so painfully formulaic. The mysteries themselves are interesting enough though, which is probably the only reason why i managed to suffer through it to the end.
I also just generally dislike Layton becoming a father. I don't doubt he'd be good at it, but he just doesn't seem like the kind of person who would just adopt a whole ass child. I'm also generally not a fan of "popular character becomes a parent, so their child can continue their legacy". I just hate that trope in general. Children are not their parents and it's unrealistic to expect them to be.
And I'm also not a big fan of the main characters. I could probably write more if i seriously thought about it, but as a whole i can say that i just find them grating.
Katrielle is supposedly an "english lady", but we rarely see her acting actually ladylike in the anime. Her interest in sweets is fine enough, but it's so overblown that it's just not believable anymore and instead turns into her only character trait, completely overshadowing her supposed interest in mysteries, which just seems like bad writing.
And while the main plot, so to speak, of the whole show is her finding the professor, the only times that even comes up is in the episodes that are exclusively about that. Katrielle isn't really shown to be missing him at all, not even in private, which makes it seem more like she's searching for him out of obligation rather than because she actually wants to.
The moments shown of Katrielle and Layton in the past are so few, it just seems like they wanted to do their own thing with the show, but had to slap the Layton brand name onto it for the brand recognition, and i wouldn't be surprised if that was the truth tbh.
Noah, or as the english subs called him, "Ernest" (for whatever reason), is probably my least favourite kind of character. I don't know, maybe it's his character design that makes me dislike him so much. I hate how he's such a huge scaredy cat and that being his one and only sole character trait. Seriously, what other character traits does he have? If you know any, please tell me, because i legit cannot think of any.
Well, he does have this one other character trait of having a huge crush on Katrielle, but is unable or unwilling to actually ever act on it, which is a trope that I'm just so tired of. Like, either grow some balls and make a move instead of being passive aggressive to every other potential partner that approaches her, or give up on your crush and grow a personality! I don't care about how "realistic" this kind of thing is supposed to be, it makes for a terrible character.
That coupled with his general demeanor just makes him boring as hell. If he was replaced by a lapdog that got carried around in a small purse, i doubt the anime would be much different.
His only backstory we get is his two-episode backstory thing, but the whole thing hinges on an initial misunderstanding, or rather, it hinges on everyone else deliberately keeping Noah in the dark. He shows character traits in those episodes that could actually lead to him becoming interesting, but as soon as those are over, he's back to his normal, boring self, which is a huge shame.
Sherl the dog is the classic (and literal, in this case) example of "all bark, no bite". It's never explained why only Katrielle and Noah can understand him, and this fact doesn't matter either, because it's rarely, if ever, called out by other characters. He doesn't have the sense of smell like a typical dog, effectively making him useless.
His role is the animal mascott of the agency and anime, the third character to make a trio, and to be the comic relief. That last one is a shame though, because he's not funny at all. Or maybe the whole "yelling at ridiculous character for being ridiculous" thing is just not my thing.
These are my main reasons. There are a few more things I don't like, but those are more nitpicks.
So I know why I don't the anime (and now so do you), but I'm curious as to why you don't like it. Same reasons as me? Completely different?
your reasons are really valid criticisms and i agree with most but mine are actually pretty different
my reasons are probably going to be more based on bias rather than the overall quality of the show bc to be completely honest with you i hate both mystery room & lady layton and think both attempts to “reboot” layton was lazy, uninspired and unnecessary
and if a lot of this makes me sound like an old ass man its bc i am when it comes to layton. my 7 year old ass was playing CV on its release week in the US. im an OG snob to the bone so honestly you should take my beef with LMDA with a grain of salt when it comes to presenting legit critique bc while i do hav legit critique, above all else i have “i just hate this shit”
hino ignored “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it” and for that i never intended to give either spin-off a chance and im not ashamed to admit that this point. i knew i wasnt going to like mystery room when it was announced, but it was so obviously a spin-off that it was very easy to ignore and safely assume it was just an AU type deal
but then shit got personal when i found out LMJ was going to be professor layton’s successor. back in the day when all that hoopla was occurring i always had to back up my complaints by emphasizing its not bc i don’t like the change, its bc of x and bc of y.
but the truth is there was nothing wrong with LMJ in regards to the game they were trying to make. LMJ and by extension LMDA is for kids, marketed towards kids. thats why the puzzles are piss easy. they’re not badly made, they’re for children. the plot isn’t sterile and corny and safe, its for kids.
if LMJ/LMDA were a spinoff i wouldnt have had such a problem with it. but it wasnt. it was supposed to be a successor to layton, but its not a successor, its a total replacement that fails its source material in every possible way
and thats my problem with it. professor layton didn’t need to be remade. it didn’t need to be remade for children. children could stomach the original perfectly fine. the unwound future trauma beat my 8 yr old ass and i came out just fine
there is nothing wrong with LMJ/LMDA if it stayed in its fucking lane. instead hino attempted to replace a franchise with it that was totally and utterly different in every aspect which totally alienated OG fans and completely failed to capture new ones
and i hate LMDA more strongly bc the relic stone arc is such a failure of a professor layton story. it steps all over hershel’s character and makes him such a prideful deadbeat who gladly sends himself and luke to their possible demise for NO fucking reason. if layton knew they were going to get captured by rufus aldebaran’s stupid cult then why the FUCK did he let luke come with him. jesus fucking christ. he would not let that boy walk to his death
..or maybe he would bc of what happened in azran legacy. fuck me. i swear to god everything thats wrong with LMDA i can trace back to azran legacys writing somehow
hershel aside it also shat on any of the impact that we would’ve gotten seeing luke’s growth. LMDA just throws a fucking eeeve stone at him and even then we learn almost fucking nothing about him or his wife or how they met. marina is the only character i found even a little bit interesting due to how fucking hardass it was that she indoctrinated herself into the cult that froze her man for 10 yrs JUST so she could one day save him. but ofc the fandom shat on her when LMDA was airing bc she wasnt luke’s husband (which she is btw. sorry some of u werent woke enough to see that)
hino obv knows by now that the reboot failed in nwos is any indication. and i don’t want to rip on hino bc at the end of the day after azran legacy blew fat stank ass in sales, he was just trying to bring bag back to professor layton. this just wasnt it and hopefully the hype around nwos has showed him the actual way forward for the franchise and if hes swagful enough he’ll just start giving LMJ the flora treatment
but yea this is such my brainshit of thoughts for why i personally hate LMJ/LMDA. hopefully it was even a little bit coherent and ty for giving me a chance to ramble and sharing your own thoughts 💖
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yesterday's comphet awards made me think about how i've known for like 10 years that i'm more into women than men, so this isn't the same but either case i clearly needed to write this down so:
i'm 31, almost 32 now, and i've never had a relationship or anything that comes with that. i'm queer, and i live in one of the safest countries for people like us. but i don't know how gay girls find each other. when i finally worked up the courage to try dating apps shortly before the pandemic hit i only had girls as an option because guys felt too scary. i've tried several times. but living in sweden clearly doesn't mean it's easy anyway, at least not when it's in the north because there are so few i keep swiping through everyone until there's no more available. and then you barely match with anyone, and when you do no one speaks first, and when you do talk she stops responding... and the few dates i have been on didn't lead anywhere, because of course it takes time to find the right one, and being on the ace spectrum is so confusing because i don't know if i just need to give it more time but i guess if we don't even bond as friends it's probably not going to change later either...
anyway, so frustration has twice made me add men on tinder as well. because maybe i just need to give them a chance too right? and there are sooo many, so many, jesus, with only girls i had like... "5 people liked you" and within minutes of having guys too there were 99+
so i swipe and i try I TRY ALRIGHT but. men. are so. so uninteresting. i feel nothing. but i don't feel super much about random women either, sure women are generally prettier, it's much easier for me to think a woman is hot than a man, but still, maybe it's the demi thing, maybe i would feel more with time, i have had feelings for guys before so??? (and some specific fictional men are so fine, so maybe, right??)
yeah so. this year (after several overwhelming chats with different guys and one awkward date with one i definitely didn't want to meet again) i ended up forcing myself to date a guy the entire summer. he was nice, and also inexperienced and slow, and he knew i was unsure but i still felt like such an asshole. because in truth i wanted to go home whenever we met. i cried before and after. but i didn't know if it was because i was scared in general because everything was new and i have shit self-esteem and being demi is so difficult when i want so much and i was so worried i'd end it too soon and lose the chance i had + depression and anxiety flared up so bad because of all this so like. everything was shit.
like, in hindsight it's so obvious it wasn't right. it made me spiral deeper into depression again. but i can't really regret it either because maybe i needed this to realize some things, and now at least i've done more than 2 dates with the same person, i've talked with someone about (lack of) experience and how we feel, i've had someone interested in me who wanted more if i'd wanted it too. i've felt excited at the possibility of being kissed, even asked for it finally just to know, and yeah it was just a small peck and it was boring and barely counts tbh but it was something and now i've done that. and i've also had the very weird experience of a guy sitting close with his arm around me and gently brushing his fingers over my arm, and asking if the closeness turned me on... and while it was okay and nice, like he wasn't creepy or anything, i still felt nothing. so while well aware that yeah he was definitely feeling things, i truthfully said "no". which was probably an important experience to have also, to have done that, and to have met a guy who didn't make me feel unsafe about or because of it. because that's another thing, thinking that maybe my hesitations about men was only a fear of ending up with a bad one. and maybe that still plays a part, but also.... god i'm so clearly more gay than bi.
and i think i really did know that already, yet i did all of this anyway, forced myself to try. because finding a girlfriend had proven so fucking difficult, maybe i simply did have to be less picky and more open about men also.
idk how to end this, i don't have a well-thought-out point to make, and i dunno if anyone will even read all this but i'll post it for myself anyway. and just in case someone who ends up reading it feels similar, maybe you're in your 20s or later and feel like everyone else gets to experience romance and sex while you're left behind... well. maybe it doesn't help, but you're not alone. and i'm not alone either, even though it feels like it. just wanted to say that <3
also next time i get tinder im back to only girls.
#the “i want a girlfriend but don't know how to find her so i guess i'll try liking men instead” experience#and#the “i'm gay and demi and dating strangers is horrible” experience#if anyone reads all this 😘#but feel free to ignore it too#it's very personal but maybe it could help someone else feel less alone#LMAO ACCIDENTALLY POSTED WITHOUT NOTICING oh well
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It's really hard to shake the feeling that I should drop people and cut off contact with them. It's so depressing to reach out to someone and be left on the back burner for them…
Some people aren't malicious but they're just… thoroughly useless at any kind of reciprocation or thinking about anyone else. I'm talking "receive a Christmas card from you and spend weeks failing to mention it to you until it's been long enough you finally ask, because you were worried it got lost in the mail" levels of useless. While verbally claiming to value your friendship and being close to you. Like ffs. It's not that I need heaps of praise but I do in fact also have better things to do than select and fill out and mail cards to friends for whom it is apparently such a non-occurrence that it's not even worth remarking on.
(Yes, I know in 99% of cases it's just forgetfulness, not malice. And again, I don't care because I, too, am forgetful and I would be more than glad to spend my limited Remembering Things energy on people who will appreciate it.)
I don't know why I bother
I will probably stop bothering tbh.
People say to mirror the energy you get in relationships and I never know how to do that. Like, when deciding whether to send a card or even a congratulations for a friend's birthday this year, should I base my decision on the fact that I want them to feel happy and want to give people a chance, or should I base it on the fact that they failed to reciprocate the birthday thing with me? Despite having as much opportunity for it as I did with them, if not more?
That depends. Like do you enjoy making/writing cards? Do most people you send them to respond well? Does the process involved in doing it bring you any joy by itself? Because if sending people cards is nothing but a thankless obligation which is only worthwhile once you get a card in return, then you definitely should find other ways to show your love. But I don't think caring is inherently pointless if it isn't a completely equal exchange
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Do you have any advice on making time for writing and avoiding burnout? I'm impressed by the amount of projects you have and how they're consistently high quality.
oh love. sunshine. you tiny fresh vanilla seed (precious & delightful // it is a luxury to interact with you). so first i’m gonna apologize because there’s a 99% chance this is not the advice you’re looking for and SURPRISE i wrote another novel. (so also jot this down… my being prolific is helped by the fact that i literally cannot shut the fuck up to save my life). anyway here are my rules for writing
1. don’t look at the man behind the curtain (in this case that’s me). I had 70% of window and probably 90% of sweatshirt girl drafted before i even started revising && posting individual chapters/ installments. it gives the illusion of me cranking out a new chapter every week but i do NOT do that. i just try to revise once a week. maybe write a half+ chapter of something new. it’s not an illusion i create on purpose. i just know i need TIME to rest my brain before I come back and revise or it’ll start all looking the same to me. so i def frontload my writing before i start posting.
i also do this because i need at least the ghost of an ending to keep writing
i also never originally intended to post window or sweatshirt girl - i was originally just writing for me. so they were mostly done before i even decided to post
i ALSO work at a school and while i do have hours over the summer, i am doing much less (imo) important things when there aren’t students around, sooooo i end up daydreaming and drafting a lot
my writing is also powered by depression (“write the world as i want it to be”) and frankly i don’t recommend that to anyone ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
so if i look like i’m producing a lot it’s just because of the way this year has unfolded, and once we get through the next few chapters of window i’m sure I’ll hit a lull because I’m still struggling to write those chapters (sorry in advance folksss)
2. i swear to god creativity (like everything in nature) happens in cycles. blah blah no flower blooms all year && no tree bears fruit every season. fallowness is IMPORTANT for growing gardens. if you are in a slow space - let yourself be slow. sink into the quiet season. speed&&quantity are SO overrated and if you overcultivate your soil there will be no nutrients left for your crops. let the snows come in && blanket you on occasion. they are their own kind of blank page (i swear to fuck sometimes i sound like some kind of ai generating bad proverbs but you knew what you were getting when you came to my asks i guess! i am unashamed)
tbh i have a modest art side-hustle and am working on painting a project that WILL take YEARS - and this whole summer, i have neglected that project in lieu of being a rocket fangirl because frankly my brain needed a break. guess what? my followers understand and it has not been a problem. because any fellow creative should know that the process takes time and is always in flux
(3) a lot of people will tell you - write a little every day. write even if it’s bad. you can always come back with fresh eyes later. I support these ideas in theory. i keep my writing && my sketchbooks where i can access them almost anytime, and even if it’s only for ten minutes, i do write something most days. but more than this - listen to your body and your brain and your heart. and for fanfiction especially - ONLY write when it’s fun. if you start writing from obligation instead of love, you will burn out faster, create less, and even resent this thing that should be an escape for you. (and your readers will feel it, even if they don’t know why). (also your readers - if they are good people - will understand this && support you) (and if they’re not good people, they don’t deserve your heart like that). if your body says take time off then TAKE TIME OFF. don’t let capitalism brainwash you into believing all your joys must entail consistent labor, that every good thing comes with a side of drudgery, or that you can’t stop something once you start it. they don’t. it doesn’t. you can. let yourself have a scrap of unfettered && unpressured happiness in this place. you deserve it, i fuckin swear that to you on my goddamn life.
(4) maybe im inadvertently repeating myself but please. be kind to yourself. let your community be kind to you too. we are supposed to take care of each other. give yourself grace && know we are on your side
okay wow i’m so sorry. fuck me that’s not what you were asking for but it is the best && most earnest && most true advice i can give you. “carve some time out every day” is nice and aspirational and maybe give it a try, but life is hard and don’t blame yourself if you can’t. let fanfiction be a force for joy in your days/nights, not a chore. nope im just saying the same shit over and over LOOK. i love you. you are good. life is short. have fun. that’s truly all & the most important things I have inside me, and I’m sorry for my limitations. for whatever that is worth
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TES Cat AU: Skyrim Thieves Guild
My self indulgent TES Cat art is done, at least my favorite Skyrim Thieves guild NPCs are, Probably gonna’ post the Companions next because I was drawing the Skyrim Dark Brotherhood and for the life of me I couldn’t get Cicero to look right lol, but I’ll take suggestions :3c
(I’m so down with doing the rest of the Skyrim Thieves Guild eventually)
Anyway, my art for Skyrim Cat AU Brynjolf, Karliah and Mercer Frey under the cut, with some design notes :3
I wanted Bryn to be an orange cat, not only because I like orange cats and their low intelligence but because it just made sense. I also wanted him to be one of those massive fluffy cats, the ones that weight like 20lbs/9kg and have more fur than they know what to do with, he’d be 99% fur, go to pet him and your hand is just swallowed by the fur. I made him a mackerel tabby cuz’ I like mackerel tabbies and because they are just super common cat patterns. For a long time I wanted to give Brynjolf Sectoral Heterochromia, which is basically when one eye is 80% one color and has a little dot of another, in this case I wanted brown, but I couldn’t really get it to look right so I ultimately scrapped it.
He also has a docked tail because I liked the idea of all the known Nightingales having something fucked up with their tails.
I also did a little sketch with the thieves guild armor, I think it’ll fit like a harness with a few little pockets and bags. I imagine they’d all have dexterous enough paws where they can make stuff like furniture, buildings, tools, weapons, armor, cook food etc, makes everything a lot easier to me
I imagine all the Nords I’ll draw have ear tufts, extra fluffy paws and long fluffy fur coats, they’d probably slide on ice a lot lol, Think Maine coons, Norwegian forest cats, Siberians. I referenced Maine coons, Lynx and bobcats the most with Bryn here, but he is just a domestic cat.
So, for Karliah (same with all elves tbh) I wanted big ol’ ears, I feel like I could have made them bigger but I decided against it because I didn’t want them to be in the way too much (might change that later though). She is also mostly back cat because I felt it was simple and cute (I have a black kitty and I love her). It’s also not shown here much but she’d have pretty short fur, and a thin and small build, think 10lbs/4.5kg.
Karliah’s tail is shortened and broken (a painless break, the kind that happened as a baby) as to go with ‘all Nightingales have fucked up tails’ deal.
did a more meme-y sketch in this one, I was in a goofy mood and thought it funny how quick both Brynjolf and the Last Dragonborn were to just accept selling their souls.
I imagine all Dunmer would have black or dark grey base coats and those that are tabbies to have them be lighter than the base, so for example a black cat with white stipes or grey with red stripes. They, and all elves will be mostly based on the Oriental Long/short hair cats because of their big ol’ ears and narrow faces but I’ll take creative liberties of course.
Last in this batch is Mercer Frey, I redesigned him at least 8 times, first he was solid grey+ Tuxedo pattern, then he was a dilute grey tabby, then a spotted tabby before I settled on a colorpoint because he was said to be “high born” and coming from a wealthy family, and I was like “hey, colorpoints are fancy cat coats and I can see a rich and powerful family wanting to breed that into their line” and thus Colorpoint Mercer was decided on. I knew 100% I wanted him to be grey because of the whole “grey fox” fan thing he has going on in the game
Seems like every time I would get near him in my playthough, any playthough of Skyrim actually, he’d look at me like I just spat in his drink so I tried to capture that here. Also the Knife cat meme because I thought it fit him.
he doesn’t have a tail because he doesn’t deserve one it’s with the ‘all Nightingales have fucked up tails’ bit.
I also wanted to share my ideas for weapons (still no clue how to do bows) but swords, great swords and daggers, would be little gauntlets made of the specific type of metal that go on the paws, and they would range in size and weight depending on the weapon its based on, so great swords would be huge metal claws while daggers would just be apart of a little leather glove that wraps around the paws. Lots of good ideas cooking up in my Autistic little mind lmao /pos.
I imagine all Bretons will just look like the average street cat, standard issue cats if you will, the common domestic short/long hair, probably have the most diversity in fur patterns and the like.
So that’s what I was able to get done in about about a few hours (with frequent breaks and work in between) A lot of the time was looking at both official art, fanart and the in-game models to get a good sense on the personality (both fandom and canon) and seeing what I can convert more easily to a non-humanoid design, a lot of shape language practice because I like shapes :3
I have a Solid design down for Ulfric but I wanted to do batches with like characters, so all Thieves guild girlies with each other and so all Civil War Girlies with each other, some might be drawn in pairs as well, like Hadvar + Ralof or Vilkas + Farkas.
#sorry if I rambled a lot I was very nervous to post this#i am cringe but i am free#I was a warrior cats kid can you tell?#I am also a furry if it wasn't obvious#If anyone makes this weird I'll kill you myself#my art uwu#TES Cat au#Skyrim#The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim#TES Skyrim#brynjolf#karliah#mercer frey#Elder Scrolls Skyrim#the elder scrolls skyrim#thieves guild#skyrim thieves guild#skyrim fanart#The Elder Scrolls#tes: skyrim#TESV#I want to learn to draw people but man do I also not want to
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Will thorugh the chapters up until 6
Like everything I do I'm gonna take a thon of creative liberty and roll with it XD
Chapter 1
Will just got in, clothes are oversized, probably borrowed from Crowley or a "lost and found" kinda deal, they do not maintain their apearence that well but still dueling on the why are they here, for they do remember someone calling for them...
Chapter 2
Appearance, at least the clothes, are more well maintain, they acknowledge that Overblots might not be as uncommon as Crowley said or there's something going on, still rather lost and confused tbh
Chapter 3
Found better fitting clothes in the dorm, starting to get stressed with the trio shenanigans and no news about getting home
Chapter 4
Got a haircut right after 3, starting to research overblots bc 3 times is too many not to get a pattern, getting intrigued by the world of twisted in itself
Chapter 5
Losing hope to ever get home, but most importantly if they ever want to get back... and if staying is even an option, mostly contemplating themself and what they want... even if it's nothing
Chapter 6
Finaly getting something in overblots, stress is at 99% , and I'll what more once I finish watching this chapter
Since the game and the manga have some differences in how some bits of the story goes bc of the protagonists and bc this is basicaly fanfic I can and will chose to bend the plot and story to fit my tastes better so-
In Will's case I imagined them knowing the great seven as the Disney villains but preferring to stay quiet, at chapter 2 catching on the "parallel" plots and staying more active , however they don't know every plot bit by bit since it's been quite a while since they watched the movies
(This is mostly bc I suspect Mickey is gonna be a God ex machine to help us at the end to get home. Something I don't plan on doing so I can scrap the "mirror dreams" in Wills story)
The boys flashbacks seems to be a thing only the player can see and no other character, but I wanna milk in the "unpaid therapist" joke, so Will can have this side effect of the overblots, when getting too close to them Will forms a little conection with the memories of the blot-host, wich causes them to see the memories that are the root of this pain the boy of the week is feeling
Something I don't use often, but was here from the start is Will's theory brain, literally trying to understand and speculate the overblots and what is going on in this schools. Depending on the end I'll just throw 737362headcanons and make my own lore about overblots and what is going on with Crowley, or ignore canon and do that anyway, or the rarer option to go with canon with minor alterations but who knows
Honestly that last reason is the biggest to why I'm not diving in Will's involvement with the plot yet, bc I realy wanna know if they are gonna explain what is going on with Crowley or at least how the overblots work. I don't have much hope that they would explain it, pr if they do it's gonna go pass the "magic" and "coincidence". I don't realy care much h for plot consistency with "aus" like this one but I still wanna see if they come up with something cool before saing and taking the chance to write something to this
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May or may not have been inspired to create the KNPS Toa in Hero Forge. Probably also gonna do the Turaga. I’m def curious as to your thoughts on everyone’s appearances, wanna see how what I have so far compares.
I am in TEARS please please please show me when you're done!!!
I've been kind of deliberately vague about their appearances in the fic itself because last time I wrote a big long human!Bionicle fic where I was more specific about their appearances I. wound up hating it later lol. I will say though that my Bionicle Sports Anime designs aren't necessarily what I have in mind when writing! (Those are mostly just for drawing Bionicle fanart without having to draw robots and possible eventual comic reasons.)
I do have some stuff in mind, though! I'm putting it under a readmore because it wound up getting fairly long lol
Tahu: redhead, toned and fairly beefy on account of the MMA but not like dehydrated about it, jeans, t-shirts, and button-downs with the sleeves rolled up kinda guy
Kopaka: my brother thinks he should be albino but I'm on the fence there, either way he does have blue eyes and light hair cut pretty short, glasses, tall and thin
Gali: petite, curly hair usually pulled back from her face, wears a lot of long, flowy clothes (cardigans, skirts, etc.)
Onua: short af, fat, muscular, hairy, I've made Gimli jokes before but I honestly do picture him looking like Senshi DungeonMeshi with less beard, almost exclusively wears black jeans, glasses are not prescription but to help with his light sensitivity
Pohatu: tall, runner's build (muscular legs, kind of average weight distribution tbh), thick brown hair that he's been growing out, tends towards muted colours and earth tones
Lewa: fucking beanpole, tall, thin, and gangly, hair is a bird's nest 99% of the time and he has given up trying, wears green almost to the complete exclusion of other colours, loves himself some good cargo pants
Vakama: glasses and tidy beard, greying hair, middling height, wears a lot of old man sweaters/cardigans
Nokama: taller than Matau but shorter than Vakama, hair is going grey but she dyes it, carries herself with grace and poise, it's. I do picture Lucretia Adventurezone a little bit while writing her ngl
Matau: short!!! absolute manlet and either mad about it or chill with it depending on which is funnier in context, wears loud shirts
Onewa: was not a cane user at the start of the story but is one now on account of his bad back, growing his beard out, worst case of resting bitch face you've ever seen, decently tall
Whenua: tallest Turaga, thick glasses, has worn a dress shirt and tie to work every day for the last 20+ years and isn't going to stop now even if his husband makes fun of him for it >:(
Nuju: average height, long fingers, went white by age 35 (claims it's from stress but it just runs in the family, Kualus was also fully white by 35 and Matoro probably will be too), dresses nicely but not a full shirt and tie like some people
Also you didn't mention them but bonus characters bc I've been thinking about them:
Takua: built like Lewa (tall and gangling), dyes his hair blue, fashion choices are "the colours gave me a headache so I bought it immediately"
Jaller: short king, blonde, probably the most athletic kid in the class
Hahli: shorter than Takua but still pretty tall, wears jeans and sturdy clothes, solidly built
Krahka: I mean sometimes she's a fox and sometimes she's got six arms and tits the size of her head, she can look however she wants
Again please please show me when you're done!!!! I would like to see it
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I found your blog when I was reaserching sufism since I’m leaning into it and the first thing I saw was your post about fated love which is so crazy because I’m pretty sure I’m on a “twin flame” journey!
Last year I saw a guy I met 7 years ago and that I hated at the time and I got triggered beyond measurement (I minimized it to the fact that I was jealous of his accomplishments) and my life has flipped upside down since then. I’ve healed so much of my trauma & went though a complete ego death and went out to find my callings.
The only thing is that he has been on my mind for a whole year in a fundamental way and I’ve even had crazy lucid dreams about him and i just feel so pathetic at times for spending so much thoughts on a stranger.
When i first prayed to god for answers is when I had my first dream of him the same night as some sort of answer but I’m still confused.
Sorry if this information overload but if you have my more knowledge and advice on the subject I would appreciate so much ❤️
finally a different kind of ask <3
i have been on a twin flame journey for several years now and this is probably going to be a controversial take because i havent heard anybody else express this sort of opinion in the twin flame community (99% of people in that community are absolutely delusional so i refrain from taking part in that sort of thing) i honestly think uniting on the physical plane is probably impossible for many twin flames and i also dont think theyre meant to?
a lot of people confused limerence with twin flame-ness. idk who needs to hear this but the random married person you're obsessed with isnt your twin flame.
in 2022 i met someone who i felt strangely pulled to. he reacted to seeing me like he was struck by lightning and i felt repulsed by him. in 2023, it became this cat and mouse, back and forth kind of thing where it seemed to build into mutual obsession but after interacting with him, i was completely put off by him and felt even disgusted by him but at the same time, i have changed so profoundly as a person from that first encounter and the second encounter that i really cant make sense of it. he instils a sense of desire in me and makes me want to change things and be better for myself yk? he's like the silent voice in my head ngl, everytime i think of doing anything, i have him in mind as my imaginary audience lol. its not in terms of whether or not he would approve but rather in terms of his presence?? feels comforting?? so its nice to have his energy in mind whenever im confronted by something new??
the trauma confrontation, ego death, finding your calling etc are all part of the journey
if you feel yourself slipping into obsessive thoughts, try to focus on prayer, or work or your hobbies because its unhealthy to dwell on such thoughts too much but some minuscule amount of feelings for that person (feelings that are very confusing because it cannot be easily defined) will always linger. i wish them well and hope for the best but right now all i can do is focus on what their energy is doing to me aka undoing my life and making me level up lol and each phase of this journey is unique like that.
in my case, i dont expect to ever unite with him physically. i just dont think its possible tbh but i have a very strong feeling that i will run into him again in a few years and that its part of the journey idk
my advice would be to focus on yourself and not on him but by focusing on yourself, you are healing yourself of what is keeping you in a state where you react negatively to them, ykwim?? dont expect to be with that person, the purpose of a twin flame is to teach you things and help your soul ascend to the next level. union cannot be orchestrated and sometimes god knows best that union is not meant to be in this lifetime. but that does not mean this experience isnt valuable. the experience is what it makes of you. and its vvv easyyy to romanticize a person you dont know very well, just trust that its for the best that youre not with them tbh
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Tbh I think a lot of lesbians on here have a kind of performative disgust for men. It makes sense seeing as this is radblr and everybody hates men here anyway. But the whole “ugh men are disgusting and hideous and seeing a shirtless man literally makes me want to puke” is… extreme to the point where I’d nearly say this is a result of trauma (not being a lesbian, but having this level of disgust for men).
Like, I’m a lesbian and I’m not disgusted by men at all. I just have absolutely zero sexual interest in them. I obviously wouldn’t want to interact with one sexually in any way but most of my friends are men and I see them shirtless at the beach regularly. My brothers as well. I don’t think any of them are disgusting. When pictures of the latest handsome male celeb come up on my timeline I just scroll by, I barely even notice them. I don’t go “ugh how dare anybody make me look at this hideous mess!”. I have gay male friends who aren’t disgusted by female bodies in the slightest, they just, again, don’t want sex with them. I don’t want to see men naked or whatever but I wouldn’t literally feel sick if I saw one, I’d just be like “lol”. I also can objectively see how somebody could find certain men handsome, cause I understand symmetry and fitness and what humans find attractive. Not cause I literally find them attractive myself.
Just… based on any gay ppl I know in real life I feel like this unbelievable performative level of disgust for the opposite sex is in some way a response to your sexuality being constantly questioned (which I understand) and feeling the need to affirm yourself and prove to everybody that you’re actually gay. Like if I saw a woman I wasn’t at all attracted to naked I wouldn’t be like “ew puke omg disgusting”, I’d be like “whatever”. The whole “men are NPCs” to me feels like it’s more a product of you being a radfem than being a lesbian. And I say this as a lesbian who is also a radfem.
to me seeing men irl that are shirtless doesn’t bother me bc i will just look away. i don’t want to look nor do i care to look, if i make myself look then ill probably eventually be grossed out by it bc im sitting there staring at a male body. no thanks. but if someone is asking me to look and im being treated like this is objectively attractive, i do feel immensely disgusted and will say ew to it. in the same way, when i see men on shows that are clearly being put there to evoke a “omg he’s so hot” reaction from women, i feel disgusted. if a man sends me pics of himself, ik he expects me to be into that somehow, im also automatically disgusted. but i don’t walk around shitting puking dying when there’s a shirtless man in my vicinity bc ill simply look away and ignore his presence. my disgust often comes when there’s this expectation of “you should think he’s hot” placed on me, or when im being forced to look at men for prolonged periods, bc then it highlights to me how he’s definitely not at all attractive to me and in fact interacting w him whatsoever would disgust me, so as a result im disgusted. in real life i simply do not even look at men for as long, so i don’t get disgusted, i feel purely neutral.
i can also understand (not often but from time to time i can see it) why some women find some men attractive. 99% of the time i don’t, but also ive paid attention to what is considered attractive and can then be like okay he does meet the attractive criteria i guess. most times tho i don’t even understand why women find random men attractive at all and it’s baffling to me 😭
also u can think im pretending if u want dhdhshs most times i don’t literally want to throw up, i don’t think i said i do, but i do often think they’re v ugly bc they are. men being NPCs to me has always been the case im afraid, nothing to do with radical feminism there. if something is very male-centric i simply get bored.
#i do get automatically disgusted by buff men tho. that might be bc of my trauma#but i think men of all body types are gross if im expected to properly look at them and find them attractive#it’s also why i sometimes get so angry when im watching a show and there’s a ‘hot’ male love interest 🤢 i get mad bc im like u rly put this#expecting the viewer (me in this case) to be attracted to this???? it highlights just how much i do NOT find them attractive
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I know you probably were thinking of people who have POTS and orthostatic hypotension when you said compression stockings aren't a mobility aid but on rare occasions it can be, because there are people with lymphedema and lipedema bad enough that they can't walk well unless they're wearing compression stockings (I would know, I have lymphedema though mine isn't severe enough to count as a visible disability). It's not in like. A mad way but I'm just sad everyone in the disability community forgets lymphedema or lipedema exist and just assume it's a fat person disease (which is part of the often fatphobic stigma caused by the only representation the disorders get being my 600 pound life lmao). Tbh I wish people remembered fat storage diseases (not sure what to call them but like. Diseases that cause your body to deposit abnormal amounts of fat in certain places) are visible disabilities (like lipomas, lipedema, adiposis dolorosum, epidural lipomatosis, and I'm sure there's plenty more because I'm 99 percent sure I have the "apple shaped" equivalent of lipedema with a huge painful fat deposit on my neck that burns when you touch it, as well as a huge fat deposit inside my spine that I've probably had since my teens. Yeah fat disorders are not fun) existed like I try to search lymphedema and epidural lipomatosis on Tumblr and it's like nobody has it but me and people who have since deactivated
i know what you're talking about because i'm pretty sure my ex's father had lymphedema in both of his legs which severely limited his mobility, although he used crutches to get around and not compression wear.
the thing is, i wasn't saying that compression stockings don't help people get around. they do even in the case of people who have POTS or orthostatic hypotension (or autonomic failure.) bug mobility aids are designed with the purpose of assisting in movement. it's not contextual usage. canes (including white canes and not including decorative ones for casual use, which aren't supposed to support weight anyways), crutches, various types of scooters, wheelchairs, rollators, walkers, leg prosthetics, and guide dogs are all examples of things designed for the purpose of assisting in movement. some mobility aids that have both "mobile" and not mobile forms are standing aids and transfer aids (such as sling lifts and lift chairs.) technically stair lifts, ramps, and bars to help you stand up in handicap stalls are also mobility aids, although the way most people use the term probably doesn't suggest that. what unites all of the above is that they're intentionally and explicitly designed for mobility assistance. certain types of orthoses/braces are arguably mobility aids, but not all of them.
basically, all mobility aids help people move around, but not everything that can help someone move around is considered a mobility aid. i think this is an important distinction to make because mobility aid usage comes with a certain stigma all on their own, including mobility aids that you don't carry around with you (although the stigma when it comes to things like stair lifts or hand bars or ramps usually present as exclusion of access when it's needed, or those things not even being present.) mobility aids aren't exclusively designed or used by physically disabled people because we all know able-bodied people with temporary injuries use them, but the stigma around their usage, of course, stems from physical disability.
something like compression wear isn't inherently subject to the same stigma, although it definitely could be stigmatized in relation to certain body types and forms of disability, as you mentioned here. pain medications that contextually help people physically get around are certainly stigmatized and that stigma may overlap in some superficial ways to, say, getting around with a cane or chair or whatever, but overall it's a different type of stigma. you can personally consider something in your disability situation as a mobility aid, but that doesn't mean it is socially or medically recognized as such, which makes general claims like "compression stockings are a mobility aid" untrue, while "compression stockings help me walk" certainly can be true if that's the case. it's the difference between something explicitly meant to assist mobility vs. something that sometimes can.
generally, certain things can be thought of as a "mobility aid" in certain circumstances if you use the term very literally, but in a broader sense of the term, they aren't. it's more a matter of the stigma around mobility aid usage than semantics though. i hope all of that makes sense. no one has to agree with me, but that's the logic behind my thoughts.
also, this makes me wish i mentioned lymphedema and similar conditions in my post about people who "move wrong" due to their disabilities 'cause i tried to go out of my way to include conditions that are seldom talked about. i'm sorry that you don't have anyone to share your experiences with on tumblr. it must be painfully isolating and no one deserves that.
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tbh i think it’s kind of funny that the dunes vip package is so expensive. like 99% of the people willing to drop $150 on it will be there exclusively for frank and also weird about him so if i were frank id try to get some money out of them too. and if they made it cheaper the crazy fans would still snap them up really fast before the more casual people could 🤷 like it’s absolutely overpriced for what it is but like. no one’s forcing anyone to buy it yknow
Hmmm yeah like I don’t exactly feel strongly about it one way or the other, but I will say my general opinion does differ from yours. I feel like the issue is more-so setting a standard and normalizing charging people for more intimate interactions. Not necessarily because it’s taking advantage of your audience (which I do think is also an issue here) but rather promoting the idea that your attention as a “celebrity” really is that valuable. It helps promote bad celebrity culture and leads to fans having an unhealthy relationship with the artist imo! Again Frank and ls dunes are far from the worst examples of this and this is relatively on a much smaller scale than other artists.
Edit: also in this specific case while on a smaller scale, as you said, people who are going to buy the tickets will probably be 95% Frank fans. It almost feels like taking advantage of a demographic that is very much emotionally compromised when it comes to decision making in these situations. I’m not shaming anyone who wants to go but ultimately i wish these types of interactions weren’t so valued as a society
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