let virgin godesses/eternal maidens be virgin godesses and eternal maidens !!!!

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

okay

NO NO NO WERE ARE NOT DOING THIS RIZ IS ARO ACE HE DOES NOT HAVE A CRUSH ON ANYONE

I WILL PUT YOU IN A ROOM WITH GREEN HEAVEN PLAYING ON REPEAT UNTIL YOU STOP WITH THE RIZ SHIPPING

tldr; i don't like how even within the aspec community we still associate validity/humanity with ability to feel love

i love being part of the aspec community for the most part . but one thing that always frustrates me is how we tend to throw each other under the bus when trying to claim that our lack of attraction is valid,,

like. a common sentiments i see are "aces are valid cause we still feel romantic love :D we aren't heartless!!" or "aros are valid cause we still feel platonic love :D we aren't heartless !!" and i understand where they come from but it frustrates the hell out of me! for 2 reasons:

1) why do we have to defend our humanity!! what the hell!! terfs aren't gonna see this and be like "oh yeah that makes sense i respect aspec people now !" they're gonna scroll past!! or worse, argue it!! who are you trying to convince!!!

2) why. do we tie our humanity to love..?? like. yayy positivity but why are we excluding ppl from our own damn community???? ive seen SO many posts that wholly exclude me & many others bc apparently love makes people human. like even if it's temporary & even if it's not, loveless / aplatonic people are valid!!

sorry for the rant & i understand that ppl just want to spread positivity but i don't think we should do it by excluding others ^_^

Hellooooooo! For your pride art requests, could we please see the daycare attendant with the aroace flag? I feel like Sun or Moon would look great with that palette.

I couldn't decide which one to draw, so I decided to draw them both(?)

(Requests are open :D)

i think interpreting dynamics that dont have any canon basis to be familial as familial is totally fine but a) you cannot act like this is canon fact and, in tandem with that, b) you cannot attack people for interpreting it differently. believe me i am all for killing people who sexualize ACTUAL familial/familial-coded dynamics with knives but you have got to understand that just bcuz these two characters are friends does not mean they are siblings and it does not mean you get to get mad at others when they inevitably ship them

Saw a post of a sex repulsed person being incredibly respectful about kink at pride and expressing how people say they don't belong at pride but then give no alternatives that help them find queer spaces that are safe for them, especially in rural places, and the replies just... Y'all REALLY hate repulsed ppl don't you? Like genuinely the queer community HATES us. The replies had ppl insinuating op was homophobic or sex negative all because they asked for a place where they could feel comfortable. At no point in their post did they say kink was bad or didn't belong at pride all they asked is that if they, a sex repulsed person, was not allowed at pride then where are they to go?

This is a question that never gets taken seriously by the queer community because they hate the idea that someone dislikes sex. They take our feelings as a personal attack on them and their sexuality. When all we want is a space for us. We are trying to find our own space like we are told but we get met with aggression when we try to do that. They hate the idea of a space that doesn't allow sex. They hate a space that doesn't allow them. It's all "Pride is for everyone" until it's repulsed people. Then it's " no where in the queer community is for you. You don't belong here"

i'm rly trying to grasp the perspective of aphobia from within our own community but it just isn't fathomable to me. like how can you oppress a group like this after being oppressed yourself? it makes us on the aro or ace spectrum feel unwanted in a place we're supposed to be safe and that fucking sucks. we just wanna live and be supported by the people around us and instead we're being told we don't belong in our own community. you can't take that away just because we don't fit the exact type of different you are. that's just as bigoted a line of thinking as the people who oppress you. i'm actually begging y'all to take a step back and actually think abt it because it shouldn't be this hard to accept people.

i am so apathetic to popular male transformers characters, but i have a simple trick to make me care abt them: i turn them into robot women then i suddenly start seeing their appeal

twt users insane … wdym mona isnt canonically aroace she told me herself source you can trust me

LITERALLY she is so aroace 2 me and moge Did point out she wont be gettinf a love interest soon (or probably ever for that matter) so huge win on that end too

Me not experiencing any attraction: damn it seems fun kind of wish I did... Lemme pick who I WOULD have a crush on... Trick(??) myself into (thinking I am??) having feelings towards them.

Me experiencing genuine attraction: UMMM what is this i don't know how to deal with this how do i turn it off?

anyway sometimes my partner and i will larp romance but mostly that's just closet cosplaying our ships and going on dates bc it's a fun thing to do, 10/10 recommend as an alternative to romantic relationships much less drama and feelings bs

Fictoromantic AceAro culture is having incredibly unique QueerPlatonic relationships with people you can comfortably live and communicate with and who understand and embrace your fictional partners as authentically as any other.

And still seeing strangers say that "ficto" is just something that people who "don't know how to interact with others" call themselves, and mock it as if being a jerk about someone's identity and experience is a totally normal and not really messed up thing to do.

:I

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just looked at the d20 ao3 tag for the first time since fhsy was coming out and i was curious so i sorted by kudos and. why is the first page of fics almost entirely riz/fabian. guys. huh.

i have a very peculiar life where i've often, due to chronic illness and the resulting reclusive tendencies from said illness, just plain not associated with people of my own age on a regular basis for months or years at a time. but when i do go out, i'm, like, not an unattractive or socially unsuccessful person. well i'm not necessarily socially successful but i'm not unattractive. and i'll look back on like a certain period sometimes and realize that i had a lot of people trying to pursue me romantically, and i'm like "hey what happened to that? its been such a long while since anybody asked me out........."

"oh yeah i dont leave the house"