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refuge-301 · 6 months

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5 REASONS WHY YOU MUST NOT KISS YOUR CHILDREN ON THEIR LIPS

I know you probably have only good intentions and for you this is a cute way to express affection, but since you don't know how your child will react and it is very risky it is better not to do it in our culture. Here is why:

1. Your child DOESN'T NEED OR DESIRE your kisses on their lips, at least not until you create this desire as a primary way to make them experience love from you. You are the one that want it or need. You can express love in many different ways, I can assure you your child won't miss not being kissed on their lips.

2. It CONFUSES ROLES AND AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. Lips kisses are primarily associated with romantic relationships, and since not all parents do this, children can make question and feel confused about the meaning of it. This habit can also negatively affects family roles, in fact the impact is also stronger when there is not a strong romantic relationships between the parents and when there are single parents. Therefore the child could perceive him/herself as a parents's romantic partner, so this habit can make the definition of family roles worse and in your relationships with them.

3. It can NEGATIVELY AFFECTS CHILDREN'S SELF PERCEPTION WITHOUT THEM OR YOU REALISING. Children always think that what happen to them is their fault and so they usually don't express what they think, so you don't know now if in years later this habit can result in feeling of self-disgust and shame, to feeling violeted. These negative sensations, maybe unconscious can stay also in teen years creating an unease feeling with the relationship you have with them until they realise or remeber and process what happened.

4. Kisses on the lips CREATE ADDICTION. Kisses on lips wake up the need of lips to kiss, I don't think it is ok for a child to experience this in such a young age. This can have consequences as starting very young to have a little boyfriend/girlfriend just for satisfy this need.

5. There are many STORIES OF PEOPLE WHO REMIND THIS PARENT'S HABIT WITH UNEASY FEELINGS. Children accept this habit because they love you and trust you and they are too young to know its impact. But there are many experiences of grown-up that, even if their parents were good parents, still remind this habit with uneasy feelings. Some forgot this experience since it created shame, felt violeted without knowing why during teen years and when adults they remember it and talked about it with their parents, got healed and the relationships with them got repaired.

Maybe kissing your child on the lips won't have consequences, but why to risk?

Are there also good reason why to do it?

No, since your child doesn't need your kisses on their lips.

There is no reasons to do it and many and many reasons not to do it or to stop.

What to do if you already started to kiss your child on their lips?

This post is not to make you feel bad about yourself but to be aware because even with all the good intentions we can still hurt without realising, and this can be totally avoidable with more knowledge.

So just stop kissing, it is better if you do it, gradually and by substituting it with other expression of love (so they won't experience a reject), without them asking later to stop maybe with shame.

What to do insted:

The impact of your acts on children surely depend also on the type of family you are and how much parents express affection on each other, so finding balance will look different in every families. For any cases, use all love languages, and for the physical contact, hugging and kissing them on their cheeks and head will satisfy their needs. Avoid also kissing their neck and using other typical romantic expression of love (romantic candlelight dinners only with your child, etc.), children are not completely unaware and one day they will process it and may feel bad for these things.

Normal cheeks and head kisses are absolutely perfect and children will feel loved receiving normal parent-children expression of love.

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hansoeii · 8 months

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when 2022 me thought it would be fun to draw stede with a beard and a silly little curled up mustache and start calling him steard for the fun of it

AND NOW IT'S REAL

THEY DID IT

MY CREATION.

IT IS REAL. HOLY FUCK

#HE EVEN HAS THE CURLED UP MOUSTACHE #Im gonna be so annoying about this I'm sorry I'm advance #But I've been waiting for this #I already gave up on ever seeing it #BUT THEY DID IT!!!#AMD HE LOOKS SO HOT #This might be my proudest fandom moment #I love you ofmd team who do I have to kiss on the lips for this #ofmd #our flag means death #my art #Ofmd 2 #Our flag means death 2

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guardian-of-soho · 9 months

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Still stuck on how Aziraphale ate that meat like he was starving. Like he’d been starved for millennia, and he hadn’t even known it, because he’d never once been fed. But we know they don’t have to eat (nor sleep, etc.), so what he’d been starved for is pleasure. Being present in his body, feeling the joys and longings it could feel. Understanding what taste buds were made for. He hadn’t known; he’d never learned to miss it.

Now imagine what a kiss has done to him.

#and a kiss from someone he loves as he loves Crowley #it’s like learning all at once what lips and souls were made for #good omens 2 #good omens #(I may know a few things about being a stranger to yourself and about late astounded discoveries of pleasure)#ineffable husbands

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theeroticlover · 22 days

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onlyhotgirls · 30 days

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#kiss kiss #lesbian kiss #girls kissing girls #kisses #kiss my lips #delicious curves #sexy breast #gorgeous #so fuckable #hot curves #lesbian kissing #girls like girls #sexy chick #curvy girls #massive breasts

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indra-sexygirl · 2 months

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Because I am a bitch…

#amazing body #beautiful ass #nice buns #perfect round butt #spank my bum #spank my ass #perfect back view #pefect body #perfect bum #lick my ass #kiss my ass #amazing beauty #beautiful body #beautiful lips #beautiful model #beauttiful girls #beautiful eyes #georgeous

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beybuniki · 2 months

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happy yaoi friday to 19yo bakugo for having his sexuality crisis & to deku for helping out

might add some more thoughts tmrw but this was fun i think young adult bakugo would have some things to sort out help

#the kiss doesnt rlly help him figure out his sexuality because deku isnt rlly a good metric #he needs to kiss someone hes neutral towards omg monoma what are you doing here!!!!!!!!!!#this was very fun to draw #bnha #deku #midoriya izuku #bakugo katsuki #bakudeku yaoi implied weve made it yall #congrats to the haters and lovers this is for everyone who thinks bakugo would sweat a lot during his first kiss with someone #bakugo is so weird about it but deku is so kind he doesnt judge and makes him feel better about his chapped lips awwwww #this is about deku being a good guy tbh he is soc ute

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to-magic · 2 years

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Do you ever remember an unfinished and abandoned fic from years ago which touched you so deeply that it still sometimes resurfaces and lingers in your mind?

And you're just like, dear unknown author, i hope you are doing well, wherever you are. It wasn't finished but i loved it, thank you for your words.

#fanfiction #fandom things #fanfic authors i am kissing you on the lips #(i wrote this about jonathan creek fanfic and there's nothing you can do about it)

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crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington · 4 months

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wintersberg princess peach and bowser

#ethan winters #karl heisenberg #wintersberg #resident evil #resident evil fanart #rebhfun #resident evil village #resident evil 8 #re8 #princess peach #bowser #based off a twitter reply i got #where it made me realize the way i characterize wintersberg is a lot like movie princess peach and bowser #hes literally on his knees #he tore up anything green he saw for a boquet #look ethan its green and leafy now kiss me on the lips

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blvcksuba · 21 days

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boy kiss

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canisalbus · 9 months

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There's a special pain that comes from not knowing how to make your long-snouted dog people kiss properly.

#no I still haven't figured it out #yes the research is ongoing #there's just too much snout #and teeth #and I absolutely refuse to give them any tiniest resemblance of lips to cushion their muzzles that's a hard limit #own art #own characters #CanisAlbus #Vasco #Machete #this far I've settled for one sided cheek/forehead/side of mouth kisses but it'd be nice to get the real deal damnit #there has to be a way

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moodybluesbabe · 2 months

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#kiss de fusaide bare naide #seal my lips with a kiss #monochrome #manga #mangacap #manga aesthetic #manga panel #manga cap #500 #1k #1.5k #2k

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onenicebugperday · 1 year

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Purple-gold jumping spider, Irura bidenticulata, Salticidae

Found in Southeast Asia

Photo 1 by bemcola, 2 by portioid, 3 by andrewhardacre, 4 by lawrencehylton, 5 by kitlaw, 6-7 by pauldickson, 8 by lawrencehylton, 9 by andrewhardacre, and 10 for scale by gohulee

#animals #curators on tumblr #bugs #arachnids #spider #jumping spider #purple gold jumping spider #one nice day #TINY #precious #lil babbies #i want to kiss them but my lips are too large and powerful

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mold-lover · 9 months

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