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Help Me Get New Mobility Aids!!!
Happy Disability Pride Month! I initially wasnt going to make a post to try to get new mobility aids/tools, but I really need them, so what the hell.
I am a multiply disabled Black lesbian and I have been without proper supportive mobility since the start of the pandemic. I had many of my things broken or thrown away during this time period, and I thought I could go without but its been so long and I really cant anymore.
I need smart/ergonomic forearm crutches because regular forearm crutches wreck my fragile hypermobile wrists, I need braces for both legs and ankles, a shower bench and detachable showerhead. All of this combined is a bit over $550.
I REALLY need this, esp the crutches! My mobility and bodily autonomy would be GREATLY increased If I was able to get these items. I
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TLDR?: Disabled Black Lesbian needs new mobility aids for increased mobility and autonomy.
#disability pride month#disabled poc#heds#ehlers danlos syndrome#chronic pain#black and disabled#disabled lesbian#This is really vital to my life right now bc i cant do things atm#crutches would make me doing things by myself again possible#i just want some more mobility and bodily autonomy
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i wanted to write a BIG essay on disability in House MD but the thing is that as it goes on the show plays and delves with the themes a bit differently - like in s1 they begin to introduce some addict stuff but not too much, and much less of the big grapples with house's own medical agency etc by his friends and coworkers
so i think i'm gonna do an essay series, set up some main themes around disability and autonomy in house
the first things will obviously be about the nature of house's own disability, firstly talking about his physical disability - yes, the lack of mobility from his leg and his reliance on his cane, and also the chronic pain that that comes with, but also specifically noting that house became disabled later in life and was previously extremely physically active
while the themes of house being an addict are extremely overstated because of the us' manufactured opioid crisis and its dehumanisation of addicts due to its racist and eugenicist "war on drugs", it's also noteworthy that he used to exercise all day every day on top of fucking and playing with substances on the side. no one minded this because his "addiction" to exercise was fun and sexy and healthy, bc he was making his own pain-killing substances rather than taking a pill
and then also talking about house's mental health issues - evidence of his autism and the way that people hate specifically his autistic traits, even when they're not actually causing them problems, and the way in which house masks and performs certain emotional responses, but more so like. his depression and his loss of identity as a disabled man, and his difficulties being OKAY with his disability when everyone around him hates disability
so apart from that evidence, the points of house grappling with this stuff will be:
house bonding with other disabled patients - in cases of chronic pain, lost physical mobility, and also mental illness and/or neurodivergence
and house specifically understanding disabled people's perspectives, or thinking about the PRACTICAL needs of the person they're treating or engaging with rather than what society cares about or what the hospital thinks is "appropriate" or "proper"
house bullying abled people for being Weird
times where house makes commentary about the injustice of the system (when he points out that the hospital is designed not to treat the poor, chronically sick, etc)
house being anxious and defensive of his own bodily autonomy (eg when ppl are trying to control his pain management or force him into systems that don't work, take over his medical autonomy, in general try to physically control his behaviours)
esp bc season 1 culminates in the stacy episode where we find that like... so much of house's trauma is not just being disabled
but the fact that stacy OVERRODE his desires, waiting for him to be put into a medically induced coma so that she could make "the best" decision for him and literally being the cause of his current disability. esp bc like...
she specifically went for the middle ground that he rejected, she was NOT a doctor
and in so doing she. invented his chronic pain. like there's a reason that in that same episode, we see the volleyball player who gets an amputation and is able to go back to sports - yes, house is a lot older than that volleyball player, but like
if he had either treated the infarction successfully or just got an amputation so that he could later work with a prostheses, house thinks he would have done much better
and so much of his TERROR around trusting others - not just stacy but wilson, cuddy, anybody else - is because of that. the one person he loved and trusted overrode his desires and created the hell he lives in where he's just in constant agony and he hates it, and the worst part is like
everyone tells him it's his fault. no one cares about what stacy did to him, that she manipulated him. every day they tell house how terrible it is that he does that to others, but when it's what happened to him and he lives in hell, it's on him because he's Mean and Too Autistic and he should just Stop Being In Pain etc
god it kills me.
BUT YEAH i think. season by season is gonna be a lot better to track the development of these themes and the way they shift and change from season to season - also idefk if i'll be able to stick with like. the last three seasons bc they just suck so ba dhfskjjgh
BUT WE'LL SEE
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I think, someday, people are going to understand the value of stories about disability. Not just stories about disabled people, which may or may not be about disability (both are 1000% useful and valid) but books that really interface with disability and ableism.
Because almost all of us are going to end up with some degree of disability sooner or later. And a LOT of us are walking around with disabilities without realizing it.
People think of disabilities as yet another all-or-nothing binary. That "real" disabled people are obvious and helpless and have nothing to give to others. That "nondisabled" people should be able to meet every expectation that the person next to them can meet, or they're "lazy" or "not trying".
It messes people up! This insistence that unless you have one of a small number of acceptable disabilities you're "fine" and should be highly consistent and functional all the time. It makes people push away help that would benefit them, because they're afraid of being one of those useless burdensome disabled people, and because they're afraid of the censure of others.
Ableism hurts everyone.
And, frankly, health and ability are always temporary conditions.
I hate that when I say my books are about disability too many people think about cheesy after school specials where highly unrealistic children learn to accept a classmate in a wheelchair as being really just like them after all. That's not what it's about.
Disability stories are about consent, and bodily autonomy, and interdependence, and ambiguity, and change, and trauma, and shame, and pride and helplessness and strength and systems and families and individuals.
There have always been disabled people. There will always be disabled people. Disabled people can be in any genre, with a wide array of abilities.
Because disabled people are normal.
But we ignore so many types of disabilities because of that damn binary, and the shame, fear, and derision of ableism.
My books have/will have characters with: limb loss, chronic pain, chemical dependence, ADHD, autism, depression, PTSD, undiagnosed chronic health problems, deafness, intermittent mobility issues, traumatic brain injuries, dyslexia, eating disorders, reduced vision from age, a stoma, as well as more shit that I made up because my world-building demanded it. Sometimes the story is about the disability, sometimes it's not. But all of these characters relate to each other in a way influenced by their own experience of not being able to get their brain or body to do what they wanted or needed it to do.
Everyone's abilities and disabilities influence how they view the abilities and disabilities of others.
And that's good stories. Stories that are satisfying to read and full of themes worth exploring.
It wasn't that long ago they people got sniffy about stories about queerness. Now we understand why those stories are valuable and also just enjoyable to read. We need the same thing for stories about disability.
Anyways if you want, or make, stories of disability, lmk.
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The Social Model of Intersex
I recently wrote up an explanation of the social model of intersex and here I'm gonna take what I wrote the other day and expand on it.
Exposition: Some Disability 101
The social model of intersex is based on the social model of disability so first we need to know that terminology:
The medical model of disability views disability as something inherently disordered, requiring treatment/cure.
In contrast, the social model of disability sees that what is disabling about a disability is how society treats disabled people. There aren’t ramps and elevators for wheelchair users. There aren’t enough people who know signed languages or Braille. Videos don't come with quality captions and audio description. Etc.
(image from here)
The Medical and Social Models of Intersex
The medical model of intersex is analogous to the medical model of disability. Being intersex is seen as disorder that needs to be cured. The terms disorder and difference of sexual development (DSD) are sometimes used by people who think of intersex this way. This is the dominant model that most people in Western society use to think about intersex, and similar to how the disability rights movement is resistant to the medical model, intersex people as a community want our medical model to lose its dominance.
The social model of intersex is similarly analogous to the social model of disability. It sees intersex variations as natural bodily variations. What sucks about being intersex is the intersexism - the stigma, discrimination, isolation, and shame that surrounds being intersex; the fetishization of intersex bodies (usually ambiguous genitals); the medical violence/trauma that comes from being coerced into gender-conforming treatments; and so on.
Authority and Gatekeeping
The two models have different epistemic implications, i.e, whose knowledge is important and valid. The medical model places (perisex) doctors and biologists as the authorities on intersex. Being intersex is a result of medical diagnosis, and doctors are the gatekeepers.
The social model places actually intersex people as authoritative, and what emerges from intersex communities is less emphasis on diagnosis and more emphasis on how your bodily variations have affected your life experiences.
And once you get people talking about life experiences and failing to meet a perinormative standard, it becomes apparent that common diagnoses like PCOS and gynecomastia are frequently associated with the same sorts of life experiences that people with diagnoses that everybody agrees are intersex.
For intersex people, having intersex be a big tent is an advantage. We suffer from isolation so terribly. Having more people in the community helps break that isolation. And having more community means more ability to mobilize against harmful practices like IGM.
Edit to add: the social/experiential aspect of being intersex is one of many reasons why intersex people react negatively to non-binary people saying they want to "transition to intersex".
The Futures We Want
For social model folks like me, the ideal future is that intersex people are accepted, respected, given considerate medical care that respects bodily autonomy, and given access to safe and inclusive community.
In contrast, medicalists think the ideal future is that there are no intersex people, because we have all been “cured”.
This is part of why so few intersex people find out their diagnosis is an intersex variation from their doctor (if they're even lucky enough to get and be told their diagnosis). This contributes to why so many intersex people don't figure out we're intersex until adulthood. Giving patients a label to help find social support and organize politically for better conditions just isn’t something in the mental toolkit of somebody who is stuck in the medical model.
Where The TERFs Come In
The medical model encourages the intersex community to stay fractured into different diagnoses, and to view us as rare anomalies.
This is why TERFS and other transphobes love the medical model of intersex. They cannot handle the idea of intersex being common. They need it to be rare so they peddle their narrative that biological sex is simple.
Even though the biology is clear that sex is really complicated and there is no clear line between male and female, and a whole bunch of middle ground, the anti-trans lobby isn't willing to listen.
To them, there is no middle ground. There is instead two separate categories - male and female - and with each categories you have a tiny subset of "disordered males" and "disordered females".
This is why we see anti-trans posters trying to sow doubt about POCS as intersex. PCOS is common. It affects primarily women. And recognizing hyperandrogenism PCOS as intersex is a direct threat to their messaging about sex and gender.
Summary
The medical model contributes to so much of the intersexism that intersex people face, notably from the anti-trans lobby and from doctors. We suffer from seen as being broken/disordered, from coercive medical interventions, and from the isolation that comes from being told you're uniquely broken. The social model allows actually intersex people to be seen as the authorities on intersex; and for us to find community, healing, and political power.
#intersex#social model of intersex#social model of disability#medicalism#pcos#hyperandrogenism#biology of sex#transphobia
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Voyager 5x02 “Drone” is one of those episodes that would be very different if Trek wasn't so scared of aborting that thang. Not that I would ever want to see an 'issue' episode on abortion from 90s Trek, mind you, I think that would've been atrocious no matter what. But it's also weird to me that they didn't take the chance to write this episode around the idea that the Doctor might not want this drone to develop further, since it was using the mobile emitter for itself and the device wasn't available to the Doctor any longer. Bodily autonomy questions and such. It certainly would've been more interesting to have the Doctor wrestle with that dilemma both as medical practitioner and “parent” for whom the “birth” of this drone offspring would become a clear limitation on his freedom and would make his quality of life way worse, rather than yet another attempt at making Seven fit into a typically feminine role by giving her... an adult baby to look after.
This would also manage to frame the Doctor's repeated violation and dismissal of both B'Elanna and Seven's requests for privacy (which happen at the beginning of the ep and are basically just unsavory jokes as the episode stands) in a very different light. I think the Doctor actually goes through a lot of issues re: bodily autonomy and getting people to respect his right to exist on the ship that recall pretty obviously some of Seven and B'Elanna's storylines! Yet this similarity never seems to occur to the Doctor at all and he just holds whatever authority he has a medical practitioner over both of them. Which I suppose reflects real life, as well as bias in the writing room. Still I think it's a shame that there was never a 'wake-up call' moment for him, and I think the premise of “Drone” could have served that purpose really well. I also realize that the Doctor does not need more episodes focused on him (believe me, I know), but imho this at least would've been interesting.
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Welcome to AmIthe Asshole, tumblr edition
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Honestly, my ideal Penny is one who's mostly or entirely mechanical, loves being mostly or entirely mechanical, but is able to refuel using food somehow.
Just, getting rid of the mechanical body feels like taking away Blake's cat ears, an important part of the character's identity is just GONE all of a sudden.
Plus, Penny being entirely mechanical was the one thing stopping the Atlas Arc from being disgustingly ableist. (I'm just going to say there's a reason I put more focus on how Ironwood treats other people's bodies versus him exercising his own bodily autonomy when I want him to raise red flags in my fics.)
Heck, my ideal Winter is a paralytic who relies on mobility aids to get around. (Here's how Cyborg!Winter can still win!)
There's a reason I'm hoping that reviving Penny would cost Winter the Maiden Powers. We need more positive disabled rep in canon.
I see what you mean, but in that case they shouldn't have made her human at all then. I completely agree about the fact that her robotic functions and abilities are amazing and make her really strong and unique, like when she gave precise directions to go in the military base, or when she detected Cinder's warmth in Amity so she was able to tell the difference with all the clones. But what I think would be cruel is to make her human (and she was surprised/shocked, but not displeased by it), and put her back in a robotic body. What's the point of making her human and open so much doors and possibilities for her to explore every aspect of humanity, if it's for closing it right away and putting her back into a body we already know ? We had several volumes when she was there to discover her android abilities, and even if she's always full of surprises, I think making her human kinda makes it impossible (to me) for her to go back into a robotic body. It's like a step forward for her to really live her life, and it would feel weird for me if she was just in a metallic body once again. But I can understand why people would prefer a robot Penny, and I would be completely ok with it IF she didn't have that human body from Ambrosius at the end of Volume 8. But putting her back into a robotic body really feels like gaining the ability to smell, to touch, to feel the world in a empirical way, only to shut it down immediately and keep her to what she was before. Narratively it wouldn't really make sense to me :'] And even if robot Penny was incredible during V8, I think human Penny still has a lot to discover ! I mean there's this whole empirical aspect of course (what would I do to see her eat food or drink for the first time--). But she also doesn't have any Semblance, during the short time she was human she didn't get the time to discover it. Depending on what it is, it could be something really interesting to discover, just like Jaune unlocked his Semblance !
As for Winter, I like how she was helped by some exoskeleton at the beginning of Volume 8, it was nice to see her struggling for a bit after what Cinder did to her at the end of V7. I like Winter as the Winter Maiden tho, it makes sense for her and she seems more confident in that position than Penny was, because Penny never wanted these powers and Winter finally learned to accept them and embrace them to help her do her best. I wouldn't be mad if the Maiden powers could just disappear too someday, I don't want Penny to be the Maiden back, it's either Winter stays the Maiden, or the powers finally disappear because idk, who knows what could happen at the end of RWBY, the two Brothers and the Blacksmith could definitely be involved. But yeah I thought that if Ozma and Salem finally stop their war and decide to rest, then the magic they gave to people (as Ozma gave magic to the Maidens) would disappear as well.
#rwby#rwby discussion#discussion#theory#rwby theory#penny#penny polendina#penny revival#penny 3.0#robot#android#human#maiden#winter maiden#winter#winter schnee#cinder#cinder fall
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What I Watched This Week – 12/3 – 12/9
Heavenly Delusion – I started watching this while it was airing, but put it on hold after the twist in episode three re-contextualized a scene from earlier in the show, and left me with the impression that the author was not going to handle the stuff I knew was coming later with the proper care. After pushing through to finish it, my feeling was absolutely proven true, and what a shame that was. The good stuff in this show is great. The post-apocalyptic setting is intriguing, it has a number of unique and fresh story ideas that shift back and forth between timelines, and the production is fantastic. Unfortunately, the author couldn’t stay in his lane, and the story includes several weighty topics that it treats with very little care. The unserious treatment of gender identity makes me wonder why the hell he even wanted to go there, and its attitude towards bodily autonomy was thoughtless at best, full-throated rape culture at worst. And don’t even get me started on the nonsense in episodes 12 and 13. Absolutely gratuitous, and the aftermath was just disrespectful. 5/10
Mobile Suit Gundam 0080: War in the Pocket – Someone on Twitter, or whatever we’re calling it these days, said that this series in the Universal Century timeline was a Christmas series, so I figured I’d put it on. I was a little nervous to see that our main character this time was a 10-year-old boy, as I was worried he was going to end up flying a mecha around and fighting. Thankfully, he remains an onlooker instead of a combatant, although he still gets himself plenty involved in a situation involving a Zeon special forces squad who has come to his colony to destroy a Gundam at the hidden Federation base there. It does a lot in just six episodes, with some remarkably good animation that looks fantastic remastered for HD, and the final episode in particular was some excellent tragedy writing that hit me where it hurt. 8/10
Reborn! Ep. 51-75 – I have some of the most mixed feelings on this series. The Varia arc wrapped up here, and I found myself enjoying the fights and the story towards the end of it, when Tsuna is forced to get serious and he and his friends start to work together. I still think the author could have cooled it a bit on the introducing more and more twists and complications as the sole way of adding tension, but it was satisfying to see Tsuna stand up for his guys. After that arc, there were several one-off episodes of daily life which still aren’t super funny for me, and then the next long arc begins. I’m interested to see how this arc plays out, as the ten-year time difference is intriguing, but I have to admit that I rolled my eyes a bit at the new weapon contraptions it introduced. We’ll see.
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Hello! I'm Quill.
[EDITED 12/5/2023]
Greetings! I made this blog to explore certain aspects of my identity and experience, primarily around disability and atypical dysphoria, and hopefully find community. I'll also engage with fandom and other interests. Asks are encouraged!
In this house we prioritize disability liberation, equity, and pride. I aim to respect and uplift comrades with diverse disabilities. Disability rights and dignity should be a priority for everyone, regardless of ability status.
I reserve the right to block people for any reason. Disagreement is fair game, but disrespect and hate are not. If your blog is blank, I will block you, as will most of Tumblr. Put something there.
TAGGING: I plan to tag stuff thoroughly and may update this post with key tags to search (ha) or block. This post is tagged for visibility.
MORE INFO BELOW! Content warning for self harm, medical talk, and ableism. If you spot a mistake, let me know!
I originally made this blog to learn more about BIID and "transabled" identity. The aim was, and still is, to engage in open, respectful discussion with people of both experiences. Everyone is welcome to learn. That said, I am not a radqueer and do not ID as transabled.
What is BIID?
BIID stands for Body Integrity Identity Disorder, also known as Body Integrity Dysphoria (BID). People with BIID experience distress, discomfort, and/or a feeling of wrongness—dysphoria—related to their lack of a certain disability. For example, many feel that a particular limb should be gone, or that they should be paralyzed, or that they should be blind.
The distress and dysphoria can lead people to try to create the disability they feel they should have, either by finding a doctor who is willing to disable them or by harming themselves. This is deeply controversial. Some people feel that disabling oneself in this way is a form of self harm, which should be stopped; others feel that the right to bodily autonomy includes the right to modify one's body in non-normative ways, including disabling ways.
What is being "transabled"?
Some people with BIID call themselves transabled. More prominently, people ID as transabled because they...
identify as having a particular disability (without meeting the diagnostic criteria)
want a particular disability
feel that they should have a particular disability
have a particular disability, but want it to be/feel that it should be more or less severe
Some of these people may have BIID, with or without knowing it, while others do not. BIID is primarily associated with specific physical disabilities (missing limbs, paralysis, and sensory disabilities like blindness), whereas transabled people identify with a broader range, including mental illnesses, disabled neurotypes such as autism, and even just the need to use particular disability aids.
Transabled identity without BIID is highly controversial. Because disability is a lived experience with material realities for disabled people, many people find it offensive or flippant for abled people to claim disability identity or want to be disabled. Others suspect that transabled people are actually subconsciously perceiving disabilities that they really have, but misidentifying them or not realizing that their experiences are not universal.
What does predisabled mean? How about temporarily able-bodied?
Both terms acknowledge that a person can become disabled at any time in their lives.
Personally, I use them because they help to express that I am disabled while also being able-bodied. It is important to me to acknowledge both my disabled identity and my able-bodied privilege. Additionally, my family history suggests that I will probably gradually acquire a physical disability before I am elderly, so these terms help me to express that lack of a hard boundary between total able-bodiedness and clear physical disability.
Why are you, Quill, interested in this?
I have been fascinated by disability, medical topics, and mobility aids for as long as I can remember. At some point, I also developed atypical dysphoria that does not fit typical narratives of BIID. Some of this mess can be explained by my diagnosed disabilities, but some of it is a total mystery, and I'd like to find community.
I am also an adult with a degree and extensive experience with disability scholarship, so there's that.
Thank you for reading all of this! I hope you find what you're looking for here.
#tagging for visibility#biid#body integrity identity disorder#body integrity dysphoria#actually autistic#neurodivergent#quill speaks#atypical dysphoria
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Honestly, all cis men should be on board with advocating for and supporting funding that can go towards birth control specifically for them. And this is something that I really don’t think is talked about a lot in a serious and productive way in any social circles, especially among cis/het men.
Genuinely, I think it has less to do with the ignorant takes from radfems/TERFs and certain ‘progressive’ feminists who say out of pocket stuff like ‘sterilize all men’ (bruh…y’all need to unpack the eugenics and racism within that statement pls) and more to do with the fact that most cis/het men are raised with this idea that they have no responsibility or accountability in situations regarding pregnancy and STI prevention when it comes to having sex.
Like, I will always support the idea that the only person who should have the final say on whether or not they want an abortion is the person who’s pregnant. Full stop. They should be the only person to make that final decision, completely free of any coercion from doctors or relatives or the government.
However, I always think it’s silly and dangerous (as we’re currently seeing) to act as though cis/het men should be left out of the conversation regarding contraception and pregnancy, overall, because now a good portion of them really believe that the only way to avoid the possible consequences of sex is to just… ‘uwu not have it’ yet they’d be quite angry if any women around them wouldn’t offer it to them. Many of these men who say these things often have porn blogs and will treat any woman/feminine presenting person as a sex object yet the moment the reality of pregnancy or STIs hits them, they bend over backwards to frame these people as ‘irresponsible sl*ts who should have kept their legs closed’ with no self-awareness whatsoever about their own position in the matter.
Really, all I’m trying to say is that the genuine lack of accurate and inclusive sexual education, especially in regards to how and why our reproductives systems work the way that they do, conversations about consent, boundaries, and rejection, as well as the severe amount of Christian based morality that is imposed on us in regards to whatever genitals we’re born with has lead up to this point we’re seeing in America.
All of the accountability and victim blaming is being tossed at only those with uteruses while cis/het men either act performative about supporting reproductive rights for those sweet ‘male feminist’ validation points OR act with such vitriol towards reproductive rights, with a gaggle of tradwives touting ‘we have uteruses and we have opinions too uwu’ at their feet.
Never having open and honest conversations about the realities of puberty, sexual health and development, consent/boundaries/rejection, and pregnancy and STI prevention without defaulting to black-and-white Christianized morality is exactly what’s leading to this new wave of misogyny, even in the most ‘leftist’ of spaces (literally the whole D*pp vs H*add case is a textbook example of how cishet men can say the most outlandish things and still be looked at with sympathy, even when the evidence is clearly not in his favor).
I’m just holding out hope that we can really start to mobilize and reaffirm actual intersectional feminist thinking that doesn’t fall prey to capitalism like it has been for the past 20 years. There are some harsh realities that need to be talked about in regards to gender inequity and many other social issues that overlap with it that will never see the light of day if we keep giving into this idea that cis/het men ‘can’t handle’ and ‘need to be gently educated’ on basic human anatomy and bodily autonomy for EVERYONE, not just them. The reality is that many of them already know the consequences, they just don’t want to be held accountable for their part in it unless it’s a way of maintaining some sort of control over another person or their own image.
Once this truth is finally talked about in cis/het men’s spaces, that’s when the work to undo so much damage to our perceptions of human relationships can begin. But until that happens, I’m not about to let any of them off the hook for their responsibilities nor will I not hold any of them accountable for their own actions, just like many of them feel a little too comfortable doing to anyone else who isn’t a cis/het man.
#reproductive rights#education#ok to interact#if you clown on this post i’m blocking you with no damn regrets#pbscore#long post#tw sex mention
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Anonymous blog that started as a writing blog. Now it's a bit of a mishmash. Self expression, often unedited and done on mobile. Maybe discourse, maybe rambly posts, who really knows.
Quick rundown: Pro-ship, pro-endogenic systems, pro-kink, pro-sex work, pro being radically inclusive generally. Disabled (physically and mentally, though the distinction is not one we feel needs to be made), queer, tired. 25+ body. We block liberally but do try to be understanding and own up to mistakes.
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Info on us and what you may expect to find on this blog below the cut.
We are a plural system that prefers using headmate/fictive terms over parts/alters/introjects. Voices will not be given names, and are numbered in order of choosing to use this blog, not by how many are actually here.
Currently:
Voice 1 (They/It)
Voice 2 (She/Her)
Voice 3 (They/It)
Voice: undisclosed (could be anyone, or a mix! Not necessarily a voice given a number.)
Voice 4 (They/Them)
Voice 5 (He/Him, & any)
Topics you may find:
Queer themes
Neurodiverse themes (Autism, ADHD, plurality, trauma, & more)
Cripplepunk/Madpunk/Punk in general
The woes of chronic pain
Lots of identity stuff
Self harm/Suicide/Death
Religious trauma
Unreality/Things of an otherworldly nature as if literal and as if really had happened
Dealing with reality, usually with hopepunk, but like, yikes
Fandomish stuff, maybe. Headmates/fictives being vague probably.
& more!
Any identifying info is not happening. If you think you know us no you don't. NDA this shit. Redirect your brain cells away from suspicion. If you browse thats fine but leave no trace, nature trail visit this place. Coincidences are just that, not even correlation. Or else.
(We'd probably just be embarrassed about being Known(tm) and kinda upset about some stuff being seen thats private but pretend I have a gun for the meme)
Thanks for coming to our ted talk, except psych, bonus ted talk of thoughts will be randomly added below
Anti-psychiatry. Yes we have a psychologist headmate, yes we are in therapy with a therapist who knows about us. Tear down the medical field and rebuild it brick by fucking brick without any brick not being seen to by someone it impacts. No one should be forced to have medical choices and bodily autonomy stripped like that.
As such, obviously, pro self-dx, because dx labels are like. a horrible mess. Half of it is different brands of slightly varied symptoms lining stuff up to see which eye glass you see through best at the eye doctor. Whatever's comfy yall. It's like trauma all the way down anyway. Yes for like, almost everything. Even the biological stuff is exacerbated by trauma. Life in our society is inherently traumatizing for 99.9% of people.
So like. Drugs. Relatedly. Addiction is a societal problem. Free supervised substance use sites is a public health issue. Stop jailing people (disproportionately BIPOC who are often then exploited as prison labor) for drugs. Stop villainizing them. Addicts should be supported, and you know what? If someone wants to do drugs sometimes, let em. They aren't a crime that forever marrs your immortal soul or some shit.
Opiod crisis. Pain relief seeking behavior being classified as drug seeking is costing lives, just give them the prescription. Also on this topic free healthcare. Abortion is an inherent right to bodily autonomy. Let someone trans their gender as much as they please so long as consent is informed. Also palliative care over life-prolonging care any day if the person wishes. Also physician's assisted suicide.
For the love of the vast void or whatever you believe in stop letting cops kill people. Stop letting cops. That's it end of sentence. Redirect funds to better serve the community. Cheer when the station goes up in flames. Also just because you're European doesn't mean you're free of the racism of the US.
More to be added when we feel like it. Also posts may get made abt these separately
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I recently looked back over a discussion chain I had confronting some terfs a couple months ago, and in hindsight it should have been readily apparent to me that I wasn’t going to change anyone’s minds when I confronted them on their worldview. While they did bring up instances of personal trauma (whether true or not, I don’t know) regarding trans people, a lot more of their points came from typical hyperbolic terf propaganda with either little references or peer-reviewed in a terf echo chamber. Such talking points included having trans women compete in their own sports, being forced to have sex with “a man in a dress,” or not wanting children to be forced into hormone therapy and so on. While I can’t account for every instance they argued, their basis for their points was either so little explained to the point of assumed righteousness as to why their side was right, or they gave exhaustive, labored explanations that bordered on obsessive. Most insidiously, however, is what they didn’t say.
My question is this then: what do you really want to happen to trans people? You say you want to limit their access to hormone therapy, limit their access to medical treatment, limit their access to public facilities such as restrooms and public places, limit their access to due treatment in the legal system, limit their access to bodily autonomy, limit their access to mobility, limit their access to representation, limit their access to marriage, limit their access to parenthood etc., all in the name of your personal comfort and for the sake of real women and children. Another straw person that threatens straw people.
It just sounds to me like you just don’t want trans people to exist at all.
#anti terf#fuck terfs#transphobia#trans women#trans men#we all go about our own walks of life#and those that choose to be assholes come from every creed#there is no one way to live one's life nor is there a pure or perfect way#puritanism will never be achieved and will only seek further destruction of the pursuit of happiness
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Thinking about the traumatic aspects of being made to turn into another being!
There will be spoilers later on in this post, and I will note when they start. You may read up until then, or if you are concerned, just skip the post! Forgive me, I am on mobile and cannot make a read more.
There’s a lot of talk about how the curse isn’t that bad and the really bad things about the curse is how characters are treated. This is true, the various members of the zodiac (and their loved ones by extension) suffer greatly from the actions of others! Probably more so than they do the actual act of transformation. But I would like to highlight how the curse in and of itself is traumatic, as well as look at how this is reflected in a few key characters (that’s where the spoilers come in)
I think it is inherently traumatic to be made to appear as something other than you really are, against your will. Think of all the various fairy tales where this occurs. Beauty and the Beast, Snow White and Rose Red, East of the Sun and West of the Moon, the Princess and the Frog, the Six Swans. The mere idea of werewolves. Turning into something other than what you are is a punishment. It is surely terrifying to be suddenly forced into a form you do not recognize as your own. Your bodily autonomy is taken away. You appear in a form that is no longer human, that’s seen as less-than, and unrecognizable to others. It may appear hideous to you. This! Is! Scary! I think we can all agree.
In addition, in the zodiac curse, this transformation is linked to a thing that is supposed to be good. Embracing another person should be something joyful, but for members of the zodiac it forces them into a form they do not recognize as themselves. What should have been happy becomes tainted. Not only does the curse take away their bodily autonomy, but it takes away one of the most basic forms of comfort—human contact (at least, with certain people).
Spoilers from this point forward!
So I want to think about two characters in particular—Kyo and Kureno.
Kyo is a special case because he has an extra, other form. Not only does he turn into an animal, but he also turns into this... strange... monster... thing. He is something alien, other, not right. His bodily autonomy is further violated by this being his “true” form. At default, Kyo is this other thing. It takes assistance—his juzu beads—to restore him to human form. Kyo’s experience is most like this various fairy tales because he is not just a human who is at times a beast. In a way, you (certainly some members of the zodiac do, like Akito) might see Kyo as a beast who is only at times a human. I would disagree, obv, but the argument is readily available. This might cause one to wonder—which one is really me?
In contrast, Kureno’s experience is honestly relatively pleasant. He’s unique among the zodiac in that his transformation gives him entire extra form of locomotion! He can fly in animal form, he gains freedom in being cursed! Kureno loves to be able to fly. In losing his connection to the rest of the zodiac, Kureno becomes tethered. He can no longer fly. He is now earth-bound. If for Kyo the curse is a prison (in another form, to one day be literally locked away) and having it broken is freedom, for Kureno the curse is freedom, and when it breaks he is imprisoned.
So what does this all mean? Well, I wanted to highlight how traumatic the curse it is without outside interference, and that this experience can be vastly different for different people. I think it is really emotionally compelling to consider how it would be to live life like this, and what a toll it must take on a person’s identity.
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hi! i’ve sent a couple asks already but recently my mom passive aggressively told me i’ll end up like her mother (a fat person who has to use a mobility device due to weight) if i don’t make some kind of change to my diet. i also have flat feet and she told me a couple times that losing weight would lessen the pain. i don’t know what to do and i’m trying my best to stay healthy without dieting. i’ve struggled in the past with food and dieting and just now recovered. what do i do or say?
“RUDE!”
[scream like a Velocirapotor every time she tries to say something fat phobic]
“Jeez mom, grandma deserves our respect and care. Don’t try to weaponize her body to serve your fat phobic agenda.”
[stare blankly at her without blinking then walk away]
“What a weird thing to say. Anyway, did you know I defeated Soul Master yesterday?”
“Ok. Say, did I tell you I defeated Dung Defender too?”
“Mom, I don’t want you to talk about my body any more. I have a human right to bodily autonomy and my size is none of your business.”
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But in the end, if you want to have a positive relationship with your mom you will have to begin the long process of developing and enforcing boundaries! Check out my “boundaries” tag for more tips.
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( You know, given that I think Porky’s physical deterioration took place over the course of quite a long time, I’m sure he looked for many different solutions to his predicament. He used his original spider mecha as a makeshift bed-- what would eventually inspire the bed mech later on-- but he couldn’t stay in there forever, or at least he hadn’t resolved to at that point. I’ve imagined him trying a couple different things before he deteriorated too far to take care of himself.
Namely, he likely started with leg braces and crutches to try and haul his increasingly weakening body around, temporarily trying a wheelchair as well later on but finding he needed something else, something even more supportive than that. Hence, the bed mecha. It can be controlled without him ever moving a muscle, and that is what he needed, though unfortunately his muscles atrophy at an even more rapid pace than they already would be had he been attempting to take better care of his physical health.
However, the deterioration was inevitable. If he hadn’t reached the point he was at in M3 by taking better care of himself, Porky would eventually end up there either way; unable to move due to weak muscles, joints, and his immortal body beginning to fail to heal itself properly due to the acceleration of age from time travel. He was heading towards that, no matter what he does.
I’ve considered the possibility that Porky could have made himself a Chimera, showing as how it proved successful in the case of Claus, who, although not physically deteriorated, had much of his body destroyed by the Mecha Drago but was completely fixed by the process of making him a Chimera. I suppose it’s possible they could have just tried to transport his consciousness into a new, healthy body, but I have this feeling there could have been something to prevent that.
The best Porky would get would be removing his head and planting it on a robot body or something similar. I’m not sure if the head would take well to the new, mortal body, or what may come of adding an immortal head to such a thing, but had Porky had the wisdom or the forethought to try and preserve his own bodily autonomy, he may not have needed the bed mech or anything he may try to keep his pain or other issues at bay. But the issue is if he was attached to a mortal specimen, the body would die and leave the head remaining, and if he was a Chimera, his parts may fail to function properly.
Porky’s body is weird, to say the least. And honestly no one knows enough about how it works to do anything about it aside from trying to keep the symptoms of his deteriorating state at bay. Frankly, even if they seriously considered attempting to “fix” him by making him something of a Chimera, he probably still wouldn’t do it because I don’t suppose Porky trusts anyone enough not to fuck him over. So... no.
I did consider the possibility of people attempting physical therapy or something similar. I think, somehow, there could be a way to regain some limb strength lost, but it would be really involved and may need PSI healing to accomplish such a thing. Something only like the Dark Dragon could heal the kind of health problems Porky has, and even so, it’s not going to be perfect. He’d probably have to exchange his immortality for bodily function, which I doubt he’d be willing to do, lol.
Anyways this is exactly not where I was trying to go with this post so... back to the methods of getting around. With how big the bed mecha is, I also pictured Porky having a wheelchair to use??? The wheelchair is also mechanized. It looks and functions like a normal ass wheelchair, but he can also use spider legs to navigate if there’s no one to push him around-- since, y’know, it’s so he can get around on his own without assistance. It’s just a more portable version of that bed mech. It’s ginormous and it’s unwieldy, so I could see Porky needing something smaller for day to day use if he’s doing a bunch of things.
Otherwise, he’d use the bed if he doesn’t have a lot of stuff to do-- if there’s not much need for mobility, he’ll just use that mech since most of the buildings in New Pork are designed to account for his bed mech’s size anyways. But a wheelchair just seems like a much more practical way for Porky to get around-- though I think the reason he tends to default to the bed is because iut is BIG AS HELL and he’s a tiny man. He’s shy of five foot, plus if he’s in the wheelchair, he’s going to be shorter than everyone else even with the additional height from the spider legs and he don’t like that because he’s a baby and likes to be tall.
I imagined that, if Porky didn’t get into the Absolutely Safe Capsule at the end of M3 (which I often do because its UNWIELDY and I like the potential of him being free to roam-), he may permanently move to a wheelchair because whoever picked him up (I presume the M3 crew took him somewhere so they could... yknow, keep an eye on him-) probably couldn’t repair that bed mech even if anyone wanted to. But it’d just be a standard wheelchair. Porky would have to learn how to live with that given that it would limit his autonomy in some ways-- not that it wouldn’t already be limited because he’s a criminal that needs to be monitored closely. I doubt Porky would care a whole lot because he’s just so blase about life at this point, but he’d still be pissed.
It’s just something to think about, I guess. )
#♚ Fit for a King | HEADCANONS#( I have some headcanons about Porky being jailed or watched closely following M3 if he's not in the capsule but that's for another day )#( too off topic for this- )#( I've considered that 'what-if' quite a lot and I have some feelings abt it but I'll come back to it )
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