Self-care is, fundamentally, about bringing balance back to a life that has grown imbalanced from too many commitments or responsibilities. Robyn L. Gobin

Time to bring balance back.

From Dr. Darling, to the Darlings. 🧨💥

Thinking about how powerful Earthspark!StarJack could be

We got Mr. “Was ready to sacrifice himself for a child he met 5 minutes ago because they validated his feelings”

And Mr. “Accepted that he is now a father because a child modeled after one of his inventions said so” (he hardly even protested he just accepted it and went straight into dad mode)

Idk I think they’re neat

i'm thinking about nynaeve's line to egwene in the testing vision about how egwene will be a better "servant of all" than nynaeve ever could be. i love that moment so much! because it plays into one of my very favorite Themes from the books: the difference between heroes who focus on the greater good, sometimes at the expense of individuals (egwene, rand, moiraine, elayne) and heroes who focus on individuals, sometimes at the expense of the greater good (nynaeve, perrin, mat). and neither is inherently better or worse than the other, it's just two different ways of looking at the world! for each character, we see moments where their outlook is a strength as well as moments where it's a weakness/flaw.

i saw someone say that nynaeve undersells herself in that line because throughout the show we've seen HER be a servant of all. and that's very true............IF we define "all" as "the two rivers." nynaeve would die & kill for Her People, and for any other individuals she comes across who need her help, but she doesn't care so much about broader causes or ideals. her arc is really unique because it's an inverse leadership arc, i.e. she starts off in a leadership position but then as the story progresses, she realizes that she is not suited to leadership on the huge scale that's needed for the last battle and steps aside to let people like egwene and rand, who ARE suited to it, take up that leadership.

(if you will allow me a bit of #gawynposting, gawyn actually has a very similar arc in this respect: he starts off expecting to become first prince of the sword, but then when he gets his first real taste of large-scale leadership as the leader of the younglings, he's miserable. he doesn't care about the younglings' cause, he just wants to protect his specific loved ones, elayne & egwene, because at heart he is an Individuals Guy, not a Big Picture Guy. and so in the end he rejects his role as first prince and dedicates himself to protecting one specific person, egwene, as her warder. but the tragedy of his character is that even after all this he still can't shake the My Duty Is To The Big Picture conditioning that's been drilled into him since childhood, and thus focusing exclusively on protecting one single person during the last battle makes him feel selfish & guilty about "wasting" his fighting abilities and he decides it's his duty to sacrifice himself for the greater good. sob!)

anyway, i love this line because it's not true and also it's true. nynaeve IS a selfless servant of all, but egwene will be a better servant of all-all than nynaeve could be. because egwene is more able to set aside her personal feelings to focus objectively on what's best for the greatest number of people, whereas nynaeve just can't stomach the ruthless calculus of war (which, again, is not a knock on either character, they're simply different kinds of people and BOTH kinds are needed to win the last battle). and that's why it could only ever be egwene who got the amyrlin arc, even though you might initially expect it to go to nynaeve due to the setup of her being the most powerful aes sedai of the age.

probably the last comic wip i will post before the next update :3

anyway, i want to squish his face so bad you dont even know, grumpy old man, absolut meow meow

“it’s no longer 1937 and we wrote a snow white that’s not gonna be saved by the prince”

SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP

Local wizard done with everybody's shit, more at 11

I honestly feel like something that doesn’t get addressed enough when talking about self improvement irt not being a shitty person is self monitoring. Like

Yes, yes your friends and loved ones should absolutely address it with you if something you’ve done has hurt them, you can’t fix a problem you don’t know exists. It’s good to have those things communicated to you!

But I think when you lean into the “if something is wrong someone else needs to tell me” too hard, it becomes a sort of like. Almost rejection of your responsibility to monitor your own actions. Like it’s important to communicate with your loved ones about this stuff but when you never analyze your own actions and take a pause to consider how your words will affect other people, it hits a point where you’re not putting in the effort to be better; you’re just expecting everyone to do the hard part for you.

And ofc disclaimer that I’m not saying you should over analyze every little thing you do and bend over backwards to make people comfortable around you, what I’m saying is you need to watch yourself for shitty behavior instead of expecting people to always bring an issue to you.

I rly don’t see how ppl be 20+ shipping kids anymore tbh… like, it’s so rampant and I don’t see the appeal to it anymore being as tho I’m in my late 20’s.

Killers' Love Languages HCs - Danny Johnson, Evan Macmillan

Hard to believe that even killers could have love languages... but weirder things have happened, right?

AN; would you look at that? two red flags, just in time for valentine's day <3 <3 <3 this was honestly fun to write so if you wanna see other killers lmk. anyways enjoy

Wordcount; 222 (whoa...)

TW; dbd typical violence, mentions of physical violence, suggestive themes, mentions of injury, mentions of stalking, ghostface and trapper are red flags but red is our favorite color

Danny Johnson

Physical Touch

He's clingy, ridiculously so. I mean, he's the Ghostface, he stalks people, and if that doesn't say clingy, I'm not sure what does! Besides, keeping a hand on your shoulder at all times just reinforces that he's yours and nobody else's--and vice versa.

Gift Giving

Danny's never been one for words. After all, isn't a picture worth a thousand of them? That's why his favorite thing to give you are the photos that he takes. Whether they're of him, of you, or of something else entirely, you'll be receiving plenty.

Evan Macmillan

Quality Time

Evan has always been a busy man. Quiet, peaceful moments are hard to come by, especially in the Entity's realm, and so, Evan finds himself leaning into any time he gets to spend with you. Doesn't matter if it's in or out of trial, he'll value being around you all the same.

Acts of Service

Where words fail, Evan's actions speak. If he catches sight of you in a trial, he turns the opposite direction. If you get caught in a bear trap, he stalks over and wrenches the metal teeth from your ankle without a second thought. But, like, if you ask him about it, don’t expect an answer.

Okay, here's the post I promised based on @ocean--grey 's poll! So if anyone randomly finds this and is confused, the poll was a question about who makes Lister feel the worst about himself: Low Lister, Sebastian Doyle, or the brain-in-a-jar from "Out of Time." I went tag crazy in my reblog, and this is just what didn't fit 🤣

So, Lister was ganged up on and victimized by all of the Lows in a scene that has to have been one of the most disturbing things that ever happened to him. But one small, probably unintentional detail that I'm going to emphasize is this: all of the Lows were working together, and reasonably well. They all teamed up against him, a solid team, 4 against 1.

And so, I find it FASCINATING that this episode directly follows "Terrorform" and "Quarantine," two episodes that heavily emphasize the everyone vs Rimmer dynamic.

Social patterns can be brutal. At the end of the day, there's very little that makes people feel more together than disliking the same person, especially if they can feel justified about it. And Rimmer is extremely easy to dislike, justifiably.

But unlike Cat and Kryten, who have fairly simple relationships with Rimmer (they know they need him there, and he has a couple redeeming qualities, but they genuinely dislike him), Lister actually sees Rimmer as a human being, with feelings that matter. He wouldn't have chosen to have this guy play a huge role in his life, but he does care about him.

And, sometimes, he treats Rimmer terribly.

It's usually not just him. It's him, the Cat, and Kryten playing off of each other, having Rimmer be the odd-man-out. And he gives as good as he gets, so it probably feels fine, mostly. You can't say that Rimmer doesn't deserve to have his own terrible actions thrown into his face, now and then.

Rimmer was exhibiting some horrid behavior in "Quarantine." His treatment of the rest of the crew before the virus set in was vindictive and petty in really destructive ways. But it was also a direct reaction to his peers talking about shutting him down. (Notably, this was right after an episode where they all pretended to like him, then threw it back in his face.) He probably saw that as a genuine threat to his life, and responded to it the way he's been conditioned to, since he was a kid: weaponize rules, use every scrap of power you have, no one else will help you.

Lister has come to understand Rimmer pretty well by this point in the show. He understands that "the wrong parents" doesn't just mean that Rimmer is ambitious and vain; he knows the guy survived some genuine, serious abuse. (Notably, he's the only character who looked disturbed at Rimmer's Uncle Frank story. Even Rimmer didn't recognize how messed up that was.) Everyone has seen Rimmer at his worst, but Lister has seen him at some of his best, like in "Marooned" when he waxes poetic about friendship and sacrifice, and wants to mirror what he saw as an act of selflessness. Lister knows how badly Rimmer craves acceptance and respect, and knows that he's actually capable of being decent under the right circumstances.

But he doesn't exactly keep that knowledge at the front of his mind. Very understandable, when your bunkmate, say, locks everyone in a room for weeks without entertainment or decent food. And it's especially easy to forget about when you're with two other people who can't stand the guy.

But I think sometimes, when the others aren't there, he remembers that Rimmer is a very miserable, lonely person, who faces almost constant antagonism from everybody in his life. He brings it on himself, but I don't think Lister wants to be a person who enjoys teaming up with his buddies to pick on the group misfit.

And yet, in series 4 and 5 especially, he kinda IS that person.

And I can't help but wonder if his treatment at the hands of the Low crew (ganged up on, having his autonomy taken away, being bombarded with everything he hates about himself) wasn't, in part, a reflection of the way he feels about all that subconsciously.

Let's have a happy, mindful new year!

Hearstopper 2x07: Sorry

Idk man but “lip licking and yawns” do not = working hard to me.

Note to my fellow nerds, befriend your local comic book shop guys cause then they’ll let you buy the first complete volume of the skybound comics a week ahead of release apparently?? Anyways Carly, Jazz, Cliffjumper I love you they finally did you right <33

I usually post general ridiculousness, but this is a good example of uncomfortable body language that lead to a warning growl (the last pic) at Charlie for getting too into her biz.

I let my dogs communicate as they want for the most part, which includes letting them warn each other off and correcting each other to a degree. If you shut down any “negative” communication, you just get unpredictable dogs.