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[ID: A picrew of the headmate Helio from the Beehive Collective, a tanned, white, feminine presenting person. She has chin length purple hair, gray curled horns behind her hair, black eyebrows, pink reptilian eyes, and lips that are black from lipstick. There are light purple splotches around her right eye, on her lower left cheek, and on her left shoulder, meant to resemble scales. She has multiple black piercings, two on her eyebrows, a septum piercing, and a vertical lip piercing. She has earrings that look like green eyes. The right one is obscured by her hair. She is wearing silver hexagon glasses, a black choker with a white “O” ring, and a black, somewhat sheer looking, off the shoulder dress. Behind the person is a background consisting of a coral colored square that fills up the entire background, and black, illegible, ink splattered writing. End ID.]
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Starting off my blog with a lovely rendition of me, using this beautiful picrew that I have linked. Hello, and welcome!! Please read more to learn more about me, my system, and my blog!!
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Names: Helio (Pronounced Heel-EE-oh) - [You can also call me any version of my url!!]
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Species: Human-Dragon hybrid
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Gender: transfemmasc genderfluid boygirl
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Pronouns: he/him, she/her, it/its, ix/ixs/ixself, ve/vor/vors/vours/vourself, trance/trances/tranceself, wonder/wonders/wonderself, cele/celest/celests/celestials/celestialself
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Preferred Titles: Mx., The Dragon Witch
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Preferred Descriptors: masculine, feminine, nonhuman, neutral
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Age: None, Ageless, Adult - [Bodily 19]
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Favorite color: most shades of purple and pink
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“Main” System Blog: @the-octopus-consortium
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I have no DNI but I will block freely and without warning.
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Before You Follow + Important Information:
We are bodily white
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We are bodily 18
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We are physically disabled, mentally ill, and neurodivergent, which may affect how and when I post.
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I am part of a plural system, and I may talk about it.
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I may talk about my source [Sanders Sides]. If this is an upsetting topic for you I do not recommend following me.
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(this is open to be updated at any time)
#The Dragon Witch Speaks - Original posts of mine
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#The Dragon Witch’s Hoard - My identity hoard
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#Reblog - Reblogged posts
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#The Dragon Witch Answers - Answering asks and similar things
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#Roaring Into The Void - Me posting random and unimportant things because i want attention
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#Not The Dragon Witch - For any of my headmates that might post on here for whatever reason
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#Dragon Witch’s Shinies - Important things for this blog
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Source Talk - Talking about my source and source memories
(Let me know about any spelling or grammar mistakes, please!! And tell me if this format is inaccessible and I will do my best to fix it! /gen)
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Instagram: clementinemorrigan
“… the memory hurts, but does me no harm …”
Hozier, Abstract (Pyschopomp), Unreal Unearth, 2023
Understanding this distinction is the key to growth and maturity as a functional adult human being.
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#toxic parents#emotional abuse#trauma#aftermath#parental abuse#accountability#repentance#manipulation#dysfunctional family#boundaries#trust#trust issues#ptsd#relationship problems
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I don’t want to sound like I’m asking this in bad-faith but could you please explain why criticising certain kinks like cnc, ageplay and incest-play is specifically transmisogynistic? I keep seeing posts defending ‘taboo’ kinks like that with the claim that thinking it’s gross is such and I don’t really get it?
Many people I’ve been mutuals with who’ve criticised it in the past both as IRL kink-practice and as fanfic are trans (both TMA and TME) or queer in some other way but I’ve seen this argument quite a lot recently. It’s just the implication that trans women are more likely to be into those things that bothers me if you get me when most of the criticism surrounding them usually point to white daddy dom types instead. Apologies as I’m bad at phrasing things.
it's because trans women are disproportionately targeted in "callouts," which in turn can be linked back to the fact that trans women/TMA people are already culturally perceived as sexual predators/sexual degenerates/etc even by other queer + trans people. certain articulations of a kink are able to fly under the radar when articulated by demographics for whom a socially unacceptable sexual degeneration is not already presumed -- as many others have noted, the only difference between a cishet woman calling her boyfriend "daddy" and trans girls calling one another "sisters" sexually (or similar, ygwim) is that the latter are operating within a discourse that already casts them as sexually predatory, and all sexual expression thereafter merely functions as confirmation bias. the "callouts" which circulate on this website and the scale of vitriol that they attract (doxxing, sexual harassment, social murder) are almost always for trans women (i'm not going to name names but think back on some of the biggest ones!) and almost always rely on significant actual violation of consent and boundaries -- digging out and circulating screenshots of people's private nsfw sideblogs, for example, is unambiguously sexual harassment, but never gets regarded as such, and the people who make + spread the callouts are never called to account for their participation in said sexual harassment.
"criticising [x] kink" is a bit of a rhetorical sleight of hand here, because that's not really what's happening -- there's no "critique" of a kink actually taking place, only calls to action predicated on a presumed shared assumption that xyz kink is a) morally wrong and b) indicative of harm being committed. if you said "incest kinks are wrong because x, y, and z," irrespective of whether i agreed or disagreed with you, you would be making a fundamentally different statement to that of "x person has an incest kink, and i am sharing this information on the assumption that we all agree what should be done with it." i think this distinction is necessary because it's easy to let online sexual harassment fly under the radar under the guise of "criticising," being "critical," having "critical thinking," etc etc.
#ask#and i don't love the word 'gross' but i think you can be put off/uncomfortable with/etc a kink w/o then translating your+#+personal feelings into these calls for harassment. personal boundaries are fine but translating them into moral dictums is where+#+you ought to be calling yourself to account imo.
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#IT’S TRUE IT DOES TAKE LONGER#i wonder if house accounts for it#also there is something so… interesting… about a relationship that doesnt consider drugging as a hard boundary#for either party#… they were truly made for each other so that the damage they did being with others could be minmized#shioshpam
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it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that
#this is coming from someone who used to very genuinely be a misandrist#ironically it was only when i started actually analysing my own feminism that i got MORE confrontational with men#and started respecting my boundaries a lot better BECAUSE i started holding them accountable again#like when men treat me like shit nowadays i dont just write it off as 'what did you expect? he's a man' i get MAD about it#because i EXPECT BETTER FROM THEM even if it's just tiny shit women have to deal with daily#i hold them to just as high a standard as im held to and i make them take accountability when they dont meet that#and whether you realise it or not even on a subconscious level the MOMENT you black-and-white blanket statement all men as bad#you stop holding them accountable.#like it is literally just boys will be boys. do terfs seriously not realise they're sending feminism BACKWARDS#like if a girl came to me with her trauma and people - other girls no less - tried to comfort her with 'yeah all men are evil'#id be fucking furious. like no he did that because he was a piece of shit that had it normalised to him that women arent to be respected#dont you dare let him off the hook with something as simple and uncritical as 'he's a man'#i promise you men like that will MUCH prefer a blanket statement such as 'all men are as bad as each other'#than actually being point blank told they're an abuser or a rapist. because being lumped together is comfortable and even empowering#wheras isolating their behaviour with words that are Bad and Ugly (LIKE 'rapist') is not comfortable at all and has heavy connotations#idk i dont think radical feminism is always bad on its own it can be v liberating. just terfs and misandrists that i have a problem with#dropping this post in a piranha tank and closing tumblr knowing im gonna have some thirty year old karen yelling at me within 5 mins#i probably wont respond to any terf comments bc they literally mentally exhaust me with their stupidity#but that also depends on my mood and ability to keep my mouth shut LMFAO we shall see
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holding my breath and counting to ten i am dead, dead, dead fucking serious about blocking everybody who talks about my chest. reblogged that stench-core post about transmascs & how we get treated based on our chests and guess what notes i got. guess
transmascs who want to keep their breasts exist. several hundred of them post free on this very website. the ONLY reason i post lewds pre-op is to fundraise (most of my posts yield nothing) to be post-op. i am not responsible for your fantasies, i am not a trans body living for you, i am not going to “””hear you out””” because you want a titful fucktoy you’ll never even get to touch, let alone see beyond a screen.
thank you dearly to everyone who has respected this and supported me directly through gfm. you’re seriously the only reason i haven’t exploded
#increasingly the disparity is making me believe i am being followed for them by far more people than i previously expected#i genuinely don’t care if you can donate or not (free to view by choice) but take me fucking seriously.#i don’t care if we’re mutuals or whatever. don’t. ever. address them. you’re getting blocked.#the only way to “address them” is by addressing my top surgery fund#the amount of times i’ve wanted to wipe this whole account as best i can because of people disrespecting this boundary—one of my ONLY#boundaries on this website—is fucking absurd#blog mythos
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PSA ! Because apparently putting this at the top of all my recent posts isn't enough:
DO NOT LIKE OR REBLOG MY POSTS UNLESS YOUR AGE IS DISPLAYED IN YOUR BIO, OTHERWISE YOU WILL BE BLOCKED. READ MY PINNED POST BEFORE YOU SEND IN ANYTHING, OTHERWISE YOU WILL BE IGNORED. DO NOT CALL ME OFFENSIVE SLURS BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T LIKE HOW I ANSWERED A QUESTION, OTHERWISE YOU WILL BE REPORTED. BUT ABOVE ALL, MINORS: DO NOT INTERACT WITH ME OR MY COMMUNITY, OTHERWISE YOU WILL BE BLOCKED AND IGNORED AND BLACKLISTED.
Please learn some basic human decency and respect every Tumblr user's boundaries. They're put in place for a reason. And please understand that every blog is different: the very least you can do is scroll through a few posts to understand the general vibe and fandom etiquette before you jump in to send your questions.
Also!! Just because I allow certain things on my blog, it doesn't mean that you can do the same on somebody else's blog as well. Every community is different, and certain things might not be okay to say or do in others. Just because one creator lets you discuss darker content on their blog, doesn't mean you can do it here.
Be kind and give everyone the respect you deserve.
#The audacity to make an alt account just to rudely ask me to unblock you absurd#And so is getting pissy at me for explaining /why/ I blocked you in the first place#I have no tolerance for those who walk over somebody else's boundaries#💌 — answered.#🖤 — shut up sai.#💖 — 14 days with queue.#Gonna pause my queue for a bit so everyone can see this ^^;#We'll go back to regular shitposting hours soon!!
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Every so often I see anons in mutuals’ inboxes not understanding the deal against empty blogs even if there’s an age, or about blogs that don’t reblog and it just reminds me of how quickly we forget and how quickly we cycle through toxic phases in this community. It's partially because it’s ever-growing with people from Reddit and Twitter and Wattpad writers and everyone else not listed.
It comes and goes in fucking waves so it’s easy to miss if you aren’t here for it, but every handful of months there’s some mass post going around where a writer has been informed of or found their writing (and others') stolen and reposted on another site (9 times out of 10 it’s Wattpad) with the poster taking credit. So often that account and plagiarizer is traced back to an empty blog that’s following all the blogs it stole from. Sometimes they’ll even leave a like that serves as a bookmark so they can come back and steal those words for fake internet points.
Like. For people who have been subjected to that kind of theft, there’s anxiety and distrust that remains. For people who watched it happen (especially time and again because it’s multiple times a year), there’s that voice in the back of their mind when they see someone with a blog that has a header of “Kayleigh (19) Just Reading!!” and nothing else.
And so either these anons who don’t understand why they can’t “lurk in peace” genuinely do not know about the cycle that happens here or they do not care for the people writing the stories and HCs and drabbles they passively enjoy.
Regardless, it only contributes to that growing feeling of being yet another source of quick and convenient consumption and not an actual person sharing their passion with people who might like it.
#sorry I’m salty#idek if this is halfway coherent but yeah#It’s very frustrating watching history repeat itself especially on a site like this when history is easily forgotten and the cycle is much#much shorter#almost like it’s also tied to fiscal quarters#“it's my choice to have my name/age/reblogs on my account!” that is very much true. it is your choice. i respect your choice.#now it's your turn to respect the choice of the writer for which that is a boundary.#you expect us to respect your choices that are indicative of your humanity but you won't offer the same? get the fuck out of here
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#breaking the cycle#generational trauma#unhealthy relationships#it stops with me#hard life lessons#accountability#self care#healing#recovery#self respect#boundaries#codependency
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saw a post complaining about accounts not being comfortable with doubles ermmm let people live their life because not everyone is comfortable sharing their f/os and that’s totally okay and valid
#it was moreso targeted at bigger sship accounts but still?? let people set boundaries @ stuff that makes them uncomfortable???#idk if im gonna use the tags for this i just think its a weird thing to complain about like .. okay#like its only not good if the person not wanting to share is going around attacking people#but if somebody is just uncomfortable sharing and needs to say it then let them!!!! sometimes it needs to be reminded!!!
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I think praising someone (Mongie) considering her incredibly racist comments and disrespectful behavior towards nonwhite fans, simply because she isn’t Rachel, is a bit gross
? I mean, yeah I agree with you, she's acted very immaturely and cruel towards her nonwhite fans. I'm assuming this has to do with my post talking about mongie's announcements at NYCC with her getting an anime? (if not please link me to the specific post for context). I don't really see any of that as 'praising her', more so just acknowledging the fact that she at least had the balls to step away from WT when she knew it wasn't working for her anymore, and the fact that she's managed to succeed separate from WT thus proving that it is, in fact, possible to succeed in this industry without relying on one single platform. The comparison to Rachel was more so just to prove a point that LO is in development hell lmao
I was more so just trying to praise the action in and of itself, not praising mongie for being a good person. I'm very aware of and have talked about her issues involving her racist opinions (the Vicky incident especially), I don't think her not being Rachel makes her a good person or good creator by default and that's not the point I was trying to get across. I'm not interested in continuing to read her work (like with LO I used to be a huge fan of Let's Play until it fell tf off in S3, then I found out about all the racism) but I can acknowledge the fact that she found a way to break out of the mould of Webtoons because I think that's something that should be talked about so that others can see it is possible to survive outside of Webtoons (not just for the aspiring creators, but also for the Originals creators who have spoken up about feeling 'stuck' with Webtoons because they don't feel like they can succeed without WT). It's just a shame it was, y'know, the person who has treated her fanbase like shit and acted out over very valid criticisms of her depictions of nonwhite characters. That's pretty much all I was trying to get across, it's not much more complicated than that lmao Weird analogy but it's like when you smell something cooking that smells really good and then you find out that it involves ingredients you can't stand LOL
But hey, you do raise a good point that highlighting the success of someone who's shitty towards their readers and how they write nonwhite characters is just giving them more press and recognition, so let's use this opportunity to highlight a not problematic creator who also found success in this industry while never once being an Originals creator - Alice Oseman! Heartstopper is wonderful and beautifully written especially in its characterizations and depictions of queer relationships and identities, the Netflix adaption is very warm and comforting to watch, and Alice herself seems like someone who I'd love to have coffee with if I ever had the chance. Go read/watch Heartstopper y'all , and remember to include non-Originals creators in your search for good comics to read <3 I'll probably make an actual post about Heartstopper sometime because I still need to watch the second season of the show and I'm sure I'll have plenty to gush about after I watch it just like I did with the first :' )
#honestly a lot of this goes for rachel too#like if she acknowledged how her series got preferential treatment from WT#or spoke up about how WT treats the creators that aren't her#or even took responsibility for how LO has affected the greek myth community#those are things i would respect out of her even if i still didn't like her afterwards#but she HASN'T taken that accountability and there isn't any sign that she ever will lmao#that said idk if i entirely believe mongie's reasoning for leaving WT#she claims it was due to unfair treatment but fr LP was second to LO in how much advertising it got#and she was REALLY pushing the boundaries of what she was allowed to get away with on the platform#i think it's great she's proving that success can be found outside of WT#but yeah it sucks that it's her specifically finding success considering how shitty she's been in the past#there are too many shitty people getting all the glory in these industries#lore olympus critica#webtoon critical#ama#ask me anything#anon ama#anon ask me anything
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#toxic parents#emotional abuse#aftermath#accountability#guilt tripping#manipulation#unhealthy relationships#toxic family#scapegoat#boundaries
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We all know hurt people hurt other people. But your trauma, your anxiety, your fear, your mental illness does not give you a pass on being hateful towards other people, especially when they have clearly communicated boundaries and stated how you are making them feel. What happened to you was unfair, but it won't heal unless you face it directly and learn to let go of all this rage, instead of lashing out on the wrong people. You don't get to abuse others because you were abused, you don't have the right to infringe on their boundaries, you don't have the right to be so hateful towards someone who never hurt you, even though you are struggling yourself. Everyone is struggling, and everyone has their own limitations.
Your feelings are valid, your desires, your rage, but they are not facts, and they don't give you control over other people and excuses when you become toxic to others. Don't infantilize your own behavior as that of someone who cannot stop themselves to excuse the same behavior your abuser had towards you when boundaries were communicated, which you understood and infringed them anyway, lashed out anyway, and ended up repeating the cycle of abuse over and over.
Your rage over what happened to you is valid, but traumatizing other people because you are hurting yourself is just repeating the cycle. Sometimes, we are the ones in the wrong, and we need to take accountability on the fact that we can be toxic so we can face our own hurt, our own relationship problems, and start healing from all this pain instead of directing them to other people who had nothing to do with it in the first place.
Boundaries are boundaries, and you if you are aware of that and they were communicated directly to you, don't get the right to infringe upon them, to restrict someone's freedom, to restrict someone's agency over their body because you don't agree that they should have the choice, or because you feel like you lack control, or feel like your own needs are more important than of others because you are suffering. Everyone is suffering too, you are just acting with disregard towards them. Even when you are suffering, you don't get to infringe on someone's autonomy when they have clearly communicated over and over and you have understood it but did it regardless. It's disruptive to your personal relationships, and you don't get to pick and choose which boundaries you are going to respect, you don't get to be rude, to lash out or to abuse anyone else because you were abused yourself, or because you are struggling too.
You can't deny other people any respect just because you were denied of it by someone else, years ago. Your responsibility now to face this trauma, this illness, this fear, instead of lashing out at other people who have nothing to do with the your own hurt. No matter how hard it seems to you now, you can recover from all these intense feelings, but don't use them as an excuse for toxic behavior instead of taking responsibility for what you do. You don't get to infringe upon others' rights no matter how you feel, you don't get to hurt them because you are hurt yourself, you don't get to use it as an excuse instead of acknowledging that you might be prone to repeating the cycle of abuse (which is something very common in the first place).
Your hurt, your illness, your trauma, it doesn't put you above anyone else to the point you can completely disregard their autonomy and agency when you already clearly know they don't want you to keep disrespecting them because they have communicated it repeatedly. You are choosing to disrupt your relationships as long as you don't take accountability and deal with your own issues for what they are, instead of lashing them out in other people in hopes they will just deal with it.
#cw toxic relationship#cw abuse#cw trauma mention#self-acceptance#healing#recovery#interpersonal relationships#boundaries#cw cycle of abuse#accountability#original writing
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#daily positivity#morning quotes#daily wisdom#reparenting#self compassion#healing journey#self awareness#mindfulness#healthy boundaries#be you#release blocks#release old habits#relationships#accountability#self love#self care#shift your perspective#high vibes#positive vibes#positive thinking#healthy positivity#heal your inner child#hope#inner peace#zen#awakening#overcoming trauma#overcoming fear#inner child healing
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i think i'm gonna take a long break.
Srs, im kinda tired of this.
I KNOW i'm a minor, but i use My brain, i know the boundaries of others and don't Cross them, not like other minors, i don't steal or anything.
But im tired of posting, i need a break. So this is like a see You later ig.
I understand most people don't like minors interacting with them, i understand it, i respect it.
I feel terrible for the people who's art has been stolen, minors, if You hear me, stop. It's not funny or cute if You do that, is disgusting and disrespectful and no one is okay with this.
I get some minors have done Bad things, yes. I KNOW is their fault for not respecting you're boundaries and stealing your hardwork for their own desires, okay?
So yeah, see You later, don't get mad at me, i'm not trying to offend ya'll at all. I'm sorry but i need to rest, i have a life outside of here.
#bee#queen bee talks#sfw tickling community#sfw tickle community#sfw tickle blog#sfw interaction only#Queen bee takes a break#I'm respectful of all accounts in the community#i am uncomfortable with some#but at least i respect the boundaries.#sfw ler#queen bee post#Queenbeebumblebee
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