#I hate being labeled incorrectly
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If you have OCPD and have been incorrectly labeled as npd by some of the people that have known you, you deserve financial compensation
#ryan.txt#OCPD#actually OCPD#I’m fucking TIIIIREDDDDDD#I hate being labeled incorrectly#not to mention my abusive ex with npd (KNOWING IM OCPD) would literally call me a narcissist#so it tweaks me out even more now#anyways😃#I’m irritated
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A/N: You're going to have to pry retired!avengers reader x Natasha au from my cold, dead hands. Anyway, I wanted to see if I could quickly churn out a little something before needing to focus my attention on this stupid MSJ memo.
From a drabble list: #34 - "The boxes are all labeled incorrectly."
Parings: Natasha x Reader
Warnings: time...and it's a little angsty ig but there's a happy ending.
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You slice through the tape with ease and toss the box cutter to the side.
"Huh, so that's where I packed my boxing gear," you lift your gloves out of the box and set them aside. Moving has been anything but a breeze. Natasha finally pried your last remaining stubborn fingers that had a death grip on your life as an Avenger. Your retirement party was too-perfect. Even Fury was there to send you off. You hated it. Natasha knew from the jump you wanted to die an Avenger, not some washed-up hero that spent retirement trying to find anything to fill the bottomless void left from no longer being needed by the world anymore.
But you love Natasha much, much more than you hate not being an Avenger.
She tried to make it up to you, even picking a house that has a home theater and game room for your poker nights with Tony and the boys. Someplace by the beach while being close enough to the S.H.I.E.L.D. training facility so you can sleep in as long as possible before having to train recruits.
Your new life scares you much more than any bullet, bomb, or power-hungry warlord ever could.
You hear the front door open and keys drop onto the new marble counter that Natasha spent weeks curating. The familiar clicking of heels draws nearer. You feel your wife's nails drag across your back before her fingers dig into the knots between your shoulders.
"There you are," Natasha's voice is so gentle, it has been since your retirement party. She always knew what she wanted with you, and you never gave her reason to doubt you would meet her halfway. Retirement was the last step she needed you to take into this new chapter of your lives. Most people would have rather opted to watch paint dry, but she would have waited forever for you if you needed it.
"How's the unpacking going?" Natasha rests her head on top of yours, letting her arms drape around your neck. You instinctively lean back into her and take a few breaths. Among the most chaotic scenes, Natasha has always been your safe place to land.
"We're making some progress," you trail off, both of your eyes scanning the room that's littered in torn, sliced, and otherwise unopened boxes. You feel Natasha heave a loud sigh against your back. Her arms come up to your shoulders to give you a sympathetic squeeze.
"Wait, why are my dishes in your underwear box?"
You chew on your bottom lip for a moment to buy yourself some time, "because...the boxes are labelled incorrectly."
"And who was in charge of labelling the boxes?"
"I was," you try not to sound so deflated, Natasha's laugh echoes through the mostly empty house.
"Should've hired the recruits to do our dirty work," she smirks and pulls out her phone, "I'll get us take out."
You watch her rattle off your favorite order as she walks down a barren hallway. Maybe retirement won't be so bad after all.
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Goddddd I'm transmasc, but I'm terrified of actually coming out because I actually like my "female figure", if that makes sense. It seems like I was fed so much transmed and terf-y ideals when I was younger that now I can't feel okay with identifying as trans without hating my body. I want to be perceived more masculine, but I also feel like what I'm comfortable with using (pronouns, even though I use mostly neutral ones, traditionally fem or masc clothes, etc) shifts overtime, and I don't want to be defending the labels that I use all the time, especially because I don't want to do top or bottom surgery, or start T (lots of people, mostly online, have told me to just call myself genderfluid, but I don't feel comfortable with that, and I'm scared of being called a trender or something)
I'm sorry for the ramble but I'm so sick of this, maybe this is silly or maybe I'm being completely unreasonable, I don't know anymore. Maybe I shouldn't be worried about how others perceive me like that, but idk. You can ignore this, but I'd also like to hear your two cents on this if you'd be comfortable with it
hey friend :) theres absolutely nothing wrong with how youre feeling or how you want to shape your body and identity. lots of trans people don't medically transition for all sorts of reasons, whether because of lack of access or because they dont want to. while I do think the community that is entrenched in colonialist ideas of transmedicalism are a minority (many are very baby trans people or have aged out of transmedicalist ideas), it is a very real threat in the sense that unfortunate movements have a way of ebbing and flowing into popularity.
that being said, there are SO many trans people open and willing and happy to accept you into the community. it is not your fault many people will incorrectly expect you to conform to certain expectations of gender. a large part of freeing yourself from these expectations is choosing a community that walks alongside you, not one that gawks at you. at the same time, we are forced to conform in certain contexts to maintain safety and access to resources. this forceful conformation is not your fault either. people will forever make assumptions about you, but it is your choice on whether or not you will continue choosing your freedom. this is not fucking easy of course when you exist under white supremacist systems.
youre also allowed to love parts of yourself others may not like about themselves. its not ur problem they feel those feelings. ive had strange comments thrown my way when I discuss how i experience connection and pleasure with my body, sometimes from other trans people. once you start realizing people are coming at you with their own baggage, it becomes a little easier to free yourself from their burdens. again, this isnt very easy when youre marginalized and expected a lot, some of those expectations being you people please.
only you have the clearest image of who you want to be. take baby steps, build your confidence, and find your people. you'd be surprised what a small yet understanding community can do for your confidence.
anyway, i wish u luck ^-^ feel free to message me again if you'd like more thoughts or want to vent. you're allowed to be sick of this, forever and always, but invest in yourself and your communities.
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THE MEDIA IS ABSOLUTELY AWFUL AND AT THIS POINT COMPLETELY TRANSPHOBIC.
Demi Lovato was interviewed for a magazine in which they were asked about their pronouns. In the article Demi says "It got exhausting explaining to people why I use they/them." The media has done what it has ALWAYS DONE to Demi has twisted their words to incorrectly say "Being nonbinary got exhausting." The new headline also implies Demi quit being nonbinary which isn't even remotely true. What is evem more sickening than LGBTQ+ people spewing hatred towards Demi for a literal clickbate lie of a title would be the people who are still throwing insults at Demi for their drug addiction and mental illness. Everyone is an ally of LGBTQ+, of mental health advocacy, and for drug addiction recovery until it comes to Demi Lovato. The reason people continue to hate Demi is because of the media purposely twisting their words.
Other instances of Demis words being twisted include:
When Demi said the world shouldn't glorifiy Taylor's squad because they are skinny, this is when the media decided to tell the world Demi said Taylor was unnatural.
When Demi called out diet culture and said labeling food as "guilt free" eating encourages people to feel shame about eating food. This of course translated to "Demi hates frozen yogurt"
When Demi told a fan that the artwork they made of them was beautiful and they did a wonderful job but the body was too skinny. This of course translated to Demi Lovato attacks a fan. When btw the same artist said Demi Lovato was too fat to be a mermaid which people conveniently forget.
When are people going to actually grow a brain cell and 1) read more than just a headline and 2) realize that the media purposely targets certain celebrities and this is exactly the shit the ruined Britney Spears. You are all actively making the same mistakes.
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What is your absolute favorite thing about Roy?
Oooh, this is a tough question, I love everything about Roy. If I had to pick, I'd say his relationships with younger people.
Obviously, the biggest example of that's Lian. Being a single father's such a compelling character trait, especially in a superhero setting, and it adds so much depth to his character. Even when Lian's not actively on-panel, the way Roy reacts to the world around him is constantly influenced by her existence. Hands down some of my favourite Roy panels are the ones where Roy forces himself to keep fighting when everything seems hopeless because otherwise Lian would be alone, when he bases his decisions on making Lian proud, or when Lian's in any sort of danger*. Lian shapes who he is, both as a hero and a person, and erasing her was maybe the stupidest decision DC ever made.
However, his relationships with younger heroes are also so endearing! A post by @/mysterycitrus made an amazing point about the significance of having a recovered addict being seen as a support figure to younger people, so absolutely go check that post out. Grant's the most obvious example, (which, a little bit of shameless self promo, but I wrote a fic of him and the Harpers which four people said was good so apparently it's worth the read) and the way that he and Grant interact is so telling of the type of person Roy is. Roy specifically requests Grant be added to the Titans '99 roster because he sees potential in Grant, and because he thinks that Grant wants that chance to prove himself again. However, when he realises just how much Grant has on his mind, he sees that superheroics isn't helping him so he gives Grant the chance to walk away. His relationships with Rose and Bart are also good examples of this within the Titans, and Bart respecting Roy more than Wally is one of the funniest/sweetest things to come from that era. Also the fact that Mia is explicitly inspired to become Speedy because of Roy, not just because of his accomplishments as a hero but also because of his recovery, is so sweet and an absolutely amazing message about how Roy's recovery is much more telling of his character than his addiction.
*An aside, while I hate talking about Rise of Arsenal because A) it makes me cry and B) it kinda had the same tone as a villain origin story, I do think that him killing the Electrocutioner was in character, and a good comparison point between He Who Is Incorrectly Labelled As DC's Best Dad and DC's Actual Best Dad. The differences between UtRH and Green Arrow #1 are also great for that.
Thank you so much for the ask!! :)
#yes i DID choose a vague response so I could talk about Lian Grant and Mia#roy harper#arsenal#speedy#confusedhummingbird
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hello! first off, this ask is not at all meant to be antagonistic and i am genuinely coming from a place of wanting to understand. i've always been extremely for "people can be and identify as whatever they want, so long as they're not hurting anyone". what i'm struggling with is that last bit and the way that i am seeing some people using the aplatonic or loveless labels.
i am both aro- and ace spec myself, so i definitely understand not having emotions or attraction in the way that a lot of people feel that you should. and while i am pretty high empathy myself, i'm also friends with people who have low or no empathy and have no trouble understanding that that's just another way of existing and doesn't mean that you can't have compassion for people or treat people decently. my best friend has no empathy and is incredibly supportive and caring.
i also totally get when i see people iding as loveless because the way that our society (especially western society) uses the word "love" is so weird and definitely not universally relatable. completely understandable.
i've seen many people identify being aplatonic as meaning "idk i just don't really Connect with people in the way that i see most people talk about, if my friends all moved away, i wouldn't really be bothered" okay, cool. i don't Get it, but just seems to be a different experience.
where i'm really struggling is not to condemn or get angry at people who i straight up see saying "i'm loveless meaning i don't care about other human beings and if any number of people just died right in front of me i wouldn't care. if i saw someone in trouble needing my help i'd walk right past them. i hate humans". i haven't seen a TON of people express this, but i've seen enough to where i feel like they can't all be trolls, and i'm not sure how to respond.
i've also seen a lot, like definitely the vast majority of people i see pop up on my dash who id themselves as aplatonic, say that they feel horribly lonely and disconnected and just Can't make friends...therefore they must be aplatonic, and they should stop trying and be "naturally" isolated. a lot of these people also mention having past trauma, and a lot of them seem to be young teenagers.
now. i am of the opinion that identifying yourself "incorrectly"--eg, a young trans woman identifying as ace before she figures out she's trans because she has no interest in sex as someone who's seen as a man--isn't ever really harmful. not having sex with anyone isn't going to hurt you. briefly deciding you're a lesbian isn't going to hurt you if you're actually a trans man.
but these teenagers i see iding as aplatonic because they're unable to make connections with people but want to really worries me. if you don't have any close friends or even casual friends and are totally happy with that and id as aplatonic, that makes sense and seems perfectly fine to me. but i just can't make "i id this way because i'm miserable" mesh with my worldview, nor can i make "i id this way because i hate everyone" mesh either.
in the past when i've brought this up to people with the loveless able specifically, it's incited threats of violence, doxxing, and a lot of ableism, which tbh did the opposite of convincing me it was a harmless label.
do you have any thoughts on this?
(Little preface to say I consulted a server with a lot of apls and loveless folks in it to get a second opinion on how to respond to this. So, some of this is entirely my own thoughts and some is paraphrased from another loveless apl. This person did not want to be credited/named.)
I’m gonna start with my main thought on all these points, which is this: there are always going to be some people that identify with a label for the “wrong” reasons, and there are always going to be some assholes and some people you fundamentally don’t agree with in every label/community. None of these things ever make it okay to try and get rid of or police a label, to take it away from the people that genuinely find community, joy, and self acceptance in it.
A lot of what you’re saying here is quite frankly just classic aphobia, the same stuff a lot of people say/think about aros and aces just directed at apls and loveless people. There are plenty of aros that desperately wish they could like romance and have romantic relationships, and there are aphobes that think these aros are just mentally ill and that the aro label should be done away with to “save” them. There are some violently sex negative aces out there, and there are aphobes who think they speak for the whole community and that the ace label should be done away with because of it. There are people that mistakenly identify as ace and/or aro because they’re struggling with other things, and some of them isolate themselves because of it in ways that genuinely do harm them, and there are people that think ace and aro are inherently harmful labels because of this.
Whether they truly are aplatonic or just falling back on the aplatonic label because of other struggles, some aplatonic people genuinely wishing they could make/keep friends and feeling lonely doesn’t mean that the aplatonic label as a whole is a problem. Like I said, people misidentifying in ways that do actually harm them in some way is something that can happen with any label. Also, trying to make someone drop a label that doesn’t actually fit them and force them to face the problem that led them to it before they’re ready to is rarely helpful. A lot of people in this situation would at best feel disrespected and upset, and at worst double down on their misidentification or have a serious mental health spiral over being made to face a problem they aren't ready to face. People wrongly IDing as aplatonic might find understanding and resources in our community that help them heal, they might be miserable the whole time they ID as apl and eventually move on and get help afterward, or they might learn and heal in other ways or go on to struggle for a very long time. Either way, it’s not the job of outsiders to decide someone is identifying with a label for the wrong reasons and make them let it go.
(Also, a side note on this point. While aplatonic is currently primarily defined and used similarly to other aspec labels, there have been several other definitions that differ quite a lot. One of these definitions defines it as struggling to make or maintain friendships due to neurodivergence, or just generally struggling with friendship. Some people do still use this definition. Some of these people you’re talking about may be using this definition.)
Now on to lovelessness. Some of what you’re saying here gets into ableism, particularly towards people with personality disorders. Some people with personality disorders genuinely just aren’t capable of caring about strangers like that, or people in general. Some often aren’t capable of going out of their way to help people, or struggle a lot with it. That doesn’t make them bad. People can’t control how they feel. As long as they aren’t hurting anyone, people can feel or think whatever they want. Thought crime isn’t real.
Now, if someone is actually hurting people and using the loveless label as an excuse, that’s obviously not okay. The thing about that though is that taking the loveless label away from them won’t make them stop hurting people. They will just find another excuse, or stop bothering with having an excuse. An asshole is still going to be an asshole no matter what label or excuse they attach to it. On top of that, some people within an identity/community being bad people doesn't make it okay to vilify everyone that shares that label or get rid of that label/community.
I’m genuinely very sorry some people have been ableist and violent towards you, that is never okay. I do need you to know though that despite what may have been good intentions, this does come off as aplphobic, loveless antagonistic, and a bit ableist. That can rightfully inspire anger and defensiveness in people with these identities, especially since many of us are already used to having our identities antagonized, disrespected, and demonized. Since you’re aroace-spec, imagine how you would feel if someone came to you and expressed these exact same sentiments, but towards ace and aro identities instead. Imagine how you’d feel if some came to you doubting that ace and aro identities should be allowed to exist because they’d encountered some aces and aros that were mean or unhappy in their identify.
At the end of the day, not everyone is going to share your worldview, and that’s fine. You don’t have to understand them or like them, or even get along with them, but they have a right to exist as they are even if you don’t agree with them or like it. If they aren’t hurting you, simply move on and focus your time and energy on the people and communities you do like and understand.
#aplatonic#loveless#loveless aro#apl#aplphobia#loveless antagonism#arophobia mention#acephobia mention#ableism mention
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as someone lower on the aro spec (i can feel romantic attraction, and have been in genuine romantic relationships a couple of times, but am generally averse and dislike it) the worst part is having people say "you just need to find the right person"
because in my case, theyre kind of right in a literal sense. yeah, i am capable of loving someone romantically, they just have to be the right person, and enough time with them needs to pass for those feelings of trust and love to form. but even then, it can be really difficult/rare. i once spent a year living with someone who i truly believed i loved, but in retrospect, i did not. i was forcing my feelings. i didnt feel anything, i just WANTED to. i realized that when we parted ways and i got over it within a week. as opposed to an earlier breakup with someone i DID love, which i still struggle with sometimes even though it was years ago.
the message that is being implied when someone says "you just need to find the right person" is that you arent really aromantic, youre just incorrectly labelling yourself because you cant find a relationship.
but if i were to find a relationship, if i were to find "the right person", it would mean they were technically correct. in their mind, they have proven that im not really aromantic, that it was just a phase. and god, i just HATE that.
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I've been forcing myself to read a terrible book, with the help of a friend, because I spent to much on it not to read it. I've been reading it aloud to my friend and we've been discussing all of the things we hate about it, one of which is that the author named a group of people 'shamanfolk' and their magic users 'shaman' then made them violent extremist outsiders experiencing genocide. I need to share a conversation we just had about it. The conversation turned to Avatar the last Airbender because the book was advertised as "a fantasy book for people who like zuko/katara vibes, written in a brandonesque way"
Here is the Convo;
(me) I found good words for why the use of 'shaman' in this book upsets me, beyond the way it uses an existing word with cultural ties extremely inappropriately
(me) This part of a post is from Tumblr explains it; If you want to make a metaphor for racism, you have to remember that racism is literally based on nothing. Africans weren’t enslaved en masse because the Robo-Musa threatened to destroy the world, they were enslaved because it was economically rewarding and politically convenient. If at any point your allegory for racism includes “so <oppressed group> did this major catastrophe and” then you have not only missed the point but you are literally reinforcing the ideas that racism have let racism self-perpetuate (that e.g. black people are naturally dangerous and violent and must be contained or begrudgingly accepted by the Nice White People)
(Friend) But its not even used only as an insult Its literally the only word used for them
(me) I might have phrased poorly, I mean that I felt my issue with using shaman to label a group of people went beyond just the insensitivity of using a real word that isn't his and using it incorrectly. I've now realized that it made it hard for me to get distracted from the racist undertones through the book
(Friend) Ah yes I understand, Its the white "romanticism" of it
(me) Yeah exactly, leaning way to heavy on the perspective some people have of zuko being kataras oppressor
In my opinion
I don't think he has the skills to back up what he's planning, like having an engaging romance and working to improve the society
(Friend) Kataras "oppressors" is the entire watertribe as a whole. What do they mean its Zuko?
(me) Do you mean fire nation? And the men in their society in general perpetuating misogyny but the ones actually killing them are zukos people. But not zuko himself!(unlike migo) the main pushback I see against zutara online is from people of color who feel that katara would never fall for a fire kingdom prince of she respects herself and that anyone who thinks she would has drank too much white savior koolaid
(Friend) Did you forget how sexist Soka was in the beginning? He didn't think Katara could do anything or be a good bender because she was a girl. And did you forget how when they went to the Northern Watertribe, she was completely barred from learning fighting?
(me) You're right that there are many forms of oppression throughout the show, from all sides really. I just meant to clarify that 'opressor' is referring to the fire nation specifically within the specific complaints people make against zutara.
(me) Also I'd say personally, I believe that word refers to the ruling class subjugating a people, not every ism within intersectional bias
(Friend) I honestly don't have the energy to debate over a kids show
That's where the conversation ended but I am still very frustrated by it the next day and if anyone has an opinion I'd love to hear it. I felt like my friend riled me up and then cut it off when I didn't agree with them and left me with so many questions
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Didn’t Like Me That Much
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pairing: ex!bradley ‘rooster’ bradshaw x reader
characters: bradley bradshaw, reader, billy avalone (fritz), natasha trace, the squad
warnings: angst, heartbreak, loss of feelings, unrequited love, forgiveness, i believe that’s all
word count: ~2.2k
a/n: this is inspired by a song and more specifcally this tiktok
also, most of this will be in a memory
post 2/3?
quick summary: you had fallen in love with bradley - who just didn’t like you that much
You looked in the mirror, adjusting your outfit for going to the beach with your boyfriend.
“Honey, are you sure you’re okay with going? He’s gonna be there,” Fritz asked, wiping down his sunglasses on his shirt. You nodded, “I’ll be okay, Billy. I promise.” He slipped his sunglasses on, “Okay, but if you get even the slightest bit uncomfortable, tell me and we’ll leave.” “Okay.”
Truth was, you would be just fine. You had come to terms with your break up with Bradley Bradshaw a long time ago. You no longer held ill feelings towards the man and were actually thankful for the breakup; it led you to the man in front of you that loved you with everything he had and didn’t have.
You gave Fritz a big smile and grabbed his hand, “Come on, I know you hate being late.”
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As Billy drove from your place to the Hard Deck, you couldn’t help but to think about your relationship with Bradley.
You hadn’t really spoken sense the break up, getting the occasional update from Natasha on how he was.
But now you were about to see him and you had no idea what to say.
****
You were Natasha's roommate for the longest time. You’ve been friends with her ever since middle school and you stayed best friends as you got older.
That’s how you met Bradley.
Phoenix had come home one holiday season with a stray attached to her hip.
“Y/N, this is Rooster, he’s the one I’ve been telling you about. Rooster, this is my roommate and best friend, Y/N.” He shook your hand, “Nice to meet you, Phoenix has told me a lot about you.” You smiled, “Same here, it’s nice to put a face to the name. Well, face to the call sign.”
He laughed at your little joke and you thought it may have been the prettiest laugh you had ever heard.
****
It hadn’t taken you long to fall for him, it was quite easy actually.
Bradley had done everything right, whether he did it consciously or not. You had fallen in love.
And Bradley thought he had as well. You were great; beautiful, funny, sensitive, and caring. He definitely had some feelings for you, but he incorrectly labeled them.
But he didn’t know. So, he acted on his feelings and asked you on a date – to which of course you said yes.
Things were great for the first few months, but then Bradley realized that he didn’t love you like he originally thought. But he wanted this to work, he really did, and you were so happy, he didn’t want to hurt you. So he kept up his act.
However, he fell into a routine.
And that routine lasted for months before you decided to stop denying it.
“Hey, Bradley, can we talk?” You asked over the phone, biting your nail as you leaned on the kitchen counter. Your heart was racing as you tried not to sound like you had been crying. “Yeah of course. I’ve been meaning to talk to you.”
Rooster had also reached his breaking point with his charade. He needed to come clean and break up with you before it eventually turned into fighting. Maybe you could try again later; you know ‘right person, wrong time’.
When Bradley got to yours and Natasha’s place, he went in and found you on the couch.
You were hugging a pillow and staring blankly at the coffee table.
He cautiously sat down beside you, “Hey, what’s up Sweetheart?” You rested your chin on top of the pillow. “Do you like me?” He blinked for a second, processing your question. “Of course I like you.”
That’s when you looked at him, “But do you love me?”
His throat dried up. Neither of you had said the three words yet, but you had other ways of saying it.
“Where is this coming from?” He reached out to tuck a strand of hair behind your ear but you dodged his hand. “Y/N…”
You sniffled, “Are you trying to hurt me? Was this whole relationship just a scheme to get off on making someone fall in love with you?” You didn’t yell the words, barely said them above a whisper – mainly because you were just speaking from a place of pain and insecurity and didn’t really believe them.
But you wanted him to see what his actions, no matter how they were intended, had done to you.
“No. God, no, Y/N. I would never want to hurt you-” “Well you did, Rooster.” This time you practically hissed out the call sign like it burnt your tongue. But you still didn’t raise your voice, and that’s what hit him the hardest.
You started to play with your nails, picking at the skin around them and not looking at the pilot anymore.
“We need to break up.”
Rooster nodded, even though you couldn’t see him. “I think that might be the best for now. But please know I didn’t intend to hurt you…”
You weren’t sure why you expected him to fight and want to stay together. He had checked out a while ago.
You looked up at him, a tear slipping past your eye that he wanted to wipe away. “Then why did you do it?” He opened his mouth, but his words had left him.
There was no reasoning of his actions that would change how you felt or what they did to you. He closed his mouth and frowned, disappointed in himself.
Nodding and tonguing your lip, you played with the throw pillow. “You should go. I don’t want Nat to see us like this.”
Rooster swallowed, but nodded, “Okay.” He slowly stood up, pausing as if he were about to say something. But instead he gently left a lingering kiss on your cheek, his mustache consequently catching the tear that fell. “I’m sorry.”
He walked to the door, opening it and pausing to look at you, “Goodbye, Y/N.” “Goodbye, Bradley.”
Bradley leaned against the door and ran his hand down his face.
He was relieved to not be acting anymore, but he felt horrible for how he hurt you. He pushed off the door and went to his Bronco.
****
When Phoenix came home she found you stirring tea while staring down at the table.
She sat her gym bag down, eyes skeptical as she walked up to you. She sat down across from you, gently lifting your chin. “Hey honey, what’s wrong?”
You sniffled and pulled back from her, “Rooster and I broke up.”
Her jaw dropped. She had thought you both were great together. “What happened? I thought you guys were in love?”
You pushed away from the table, standing up and throwing your arms out, “Well you thought wrong Nat!” She flinched a little, not expecting the outburst. You took a few deep, angry breaths in through your nose as you paced.
But they soon turned into short breaths that then turned into sobs as you slid down the wall and cried into your hands.
Nat was right by your side, “Oh Y/N, I’m so sorry.” She pulled you into her lap and your head fell onto her shoulder, “What did I do wrong?” Her fingers combed through your hair, “Nothing, you did nothing wrong.”
She sighed, “Maybe it was just a ‘right person, wrong time’ situation. Rooster’s never been great at expressing his emotions. Give him time.”
“Give him time…”
*****
You tried but you couldn’t do it.
Then you got a job offer and, despite it moving you states away for your best friend, you took it.
And that’s how you met the aviator that currently held your heart and had shown you just how much he loved you everyday.
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“Y/N? Sweetheart, we’re here,” Fritz pulled you out of your memory.
“Hm? Oh, okay,” you reached down to unbuckle your belt, but his hand stopped you. “Are you sure you’re okay?” You smiled and kissed his cheek, “I’m positive.” He smiled and kissed your lips.
You went through the Hard Deck to get to the beach, saying ‘hi’ to Jimmy as you passed the bar and grabbed a drink.
When you got to the beach, Fritz introduced you to everyone.
“Y/N! Oh my gosh! Is that you?” You wiped around at the sound of Phoenix’s voice. “Phoenix!” You ran up to her and embraced her, nearly falling into the sand.
You hadn’t seen her in so long, but when Billy told you she was on with this detachment you were ecstatic to see her.
“I can’t believe you’re here! What are you doing here?” She asked when you pulled away. “I’m here with my boyfriend.” “Boyfriend? Who?”
Fritz wrapped his arms around you, “That would be me, Nix.” “Fritz?! You’re with Fritz Avalone?” You nodded, smiling at him before looking at her, “The one and only.” Billy kissed your cheek before leaving to go set up the bonfire.
Phoenix smiled and squeezed your arm, “You look really happy.” You nodded, looking at where Billy was tossing sand at Harvard. “I am. He makes me so happy. I love him so much.”
Nat couldn’t help but the soaring of her heart. She loved to see you so happy. You’re her best friend and after what happened with Rooster, seeing you so in love, more in love than you had been with Rooster, made her happy for you.
Bradley was happy for you too.
He had made a snack run and when he came back, he saw Fritz tackling you into the sand.
When Phoenix had told him what happened after he left, he felt terrible. He tried to talk to you and reconcile, maybe become friends, but you ignored him. You’d cut him off completely.
And he couldn’t blame you. He’d hurt you; you had every right to not want to talk to him or see him.
He watched from afar, seeing you smile and laugh with Billy. He wanted to wait for you to approach him, let you set the pace.
And after a while you had caught his eye from across the beach as Fritz twirled you. But you didn’t come up to him.
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After Fritz danced with you in the sand and the sun got close to setting, Billy left to get the fire started.
You went over to the cooler and grabbed two beers.
“Hey, Y/N.” Rooster’s timid voice hit your ears from behind you.
You turned and smiled at him, “Hi, Bradley.” He glanced over to where Fritz was, “So, you and Avalone?” You nodded, smiling over your shoulder and Billy, “Yeah, me and Avalone.”
You met each other’s eyes again and he smiled at you, “You seem happy.” “I’m very happy.” He nodded, “That’s good. I’m glad.” “Thank you.”
It was silent for a moment.
“I’m sorry,” Rooster apologized, breaking the uncomfortable air.
You shook your head, “It’s okay.” “It’s not. You didn’t deserve what I did.” “I know, but I’m not upset. Not anymore. I came to terms with it.”
He was confused. “But I-” “I know, Brad. It took me a while, but I realized something when I was healing.” His eyes lit up with curiosity, but he didn’t ask.
“Phoenix had told me something that day, that maybe we were just a case of ‘right person, wrong time’ but that’s not what you were,” you sat down in a beach chair and he followed suit.
“I had made you out to be this villain after we broke up,” you chuckled sadly. “But you weren’t some evil mastermind, you didn’t try to hurt me on purpose.”
He cut in, “But I did-” You held a hand up, “Let me finish.”
You sighed, “I thought that you wanted to attempt and ruin my life, with the whole act you put up those last few months.” You grabbed his hands, “But, I know now, that it wasn’t deliberate. It wasn’t some big plan or grad scheme. You didn’t target me, you’d never do that. And I know that.” You sighed again, pulling your hands away to wipe them on your legs.
“But I am an idiot,” you chuckled again. “So it’s not your fault that I fell in love with someone who just didn’t like me that much.”
Rooster gave you a sad smile, “I truly am sorry for my actions. But I want to emphasize that my loss of feelings had nothing to do with you. They just-” “Roos, I get it. Things happen, feelings change. Maybe they weren’t there to begin with and it felt like it was too late to go back. But I’m not angry with you anymore.”
“So you forgive me?” You rested a hand on his arm, “I forgave you a long time ago.” You stood up and brought him with you. You gave him a hug.
You pulled back, “So forgive yourself, Rooster.” He nodded and ran a hand over his mouth. You gave him a smile before grabbing the two drinks and going over to Fritz.
“Here’s your drink.” Billy took it and smiled, “Thank you.” He kissed your forehead, “What did you and Bradshaw talk about?”
You smiled and glanced over at where Rooster was talking to Maverick. He looked at you and smiled back, giving you a nod and tipping his drink at you.
You let out a sigh of relief, this weight being lifted off your chest.
“I forgave him.”
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so i've been a thunking
about NPD diagnosis
the changes in diagnostic criteria to include and even emphasize 'vulnerable narcissism' traits
and the publics fear and hatred of narcissists
and what really got me curious about it was
when i go onto pages about surviving narcissistic abuse
i find that the majority of victims of narcissistic abuse also meet the criteria and display warning signs of NPD themselves
which is a very hmmmmm... sort of moment for me. this requires further insight
and so i did look more into it and more red flags have appeared!! huzzah and also oh dear we've got another case of psychology being used to manipulate and control the masses and associate victims with disorders that are highly stigmatized
but i digress and shall return to my further looking into things
13% of black people meet the criteria for NPD, in comparison to just 5% of white people. white people have the lowest incidence on NPD. this to me is very sus and is setting off many alarm bells in my head. a disorder that is very much stigmatized and hated being most common in POC, particularly black folk?
it would be naive of me to assume this merely a coincidence. so i shall instead infer it as a purposeful and racially charged occurrence.
now... besides POC, whom else does the people in charge of our dear country hate? is it trans people? i think it is trans people.
and wouldn't you know it! 70% of trans women and 50% of trans men meet the criteria for NPD!
whoa! now we are really onto something! not only is NPD, the most hated mental disorder of the era, more common in black people and POC, it is also extremely more common in trans people!
and normally, when one thinks of a narcissist, at least when i have in the past... i would associate it with, y'know... rich white cishet male one percenters.
so the fact that NPD is now associated, clinically i might add, with the most notoriously low class and most oppressed groups of our era... well. it reeks. this stinks of something very nefarious. and it is not those with NPD who stink. it is how they got labeled, more than likely incorrectly, with such a stigmatized disorder, that is so very smelly.
i don't know why or how this development has occurred. but it does not bode well with me. it seems to me a similar event as to when during nixon era, schizophrenia was made into a dangerous and murderous disorder which was used to label black activists and liberals as evil and sinister, and basically take them out of the equation, politically speaking. because they were confined in insane asylums, which were still a thing back then.
history repeats itself. we must remember what occurred in the past in order to properly assess and prepare for what is to come in the future, and to see what is occurring right now around us presently.
to any and all peoples diagnosed with NPD who read this and take some offense, please note i don't judge you for your disorder nor inherently doubt it as being something you have. this is not about any particular person with a disorder, but instead about how the system in which we live seeks to oppress us and label us with undesirable things in order to say we are bad and undeserving.
if NPD is truly exactly how it is, then it is the stigmatization of the disorder that is the problem.
but if it is not NPD, but a mislabeling of say... C-PTSD on a mass scale, targeting particularly POC and trans people... that is something entirely different and deserving of attention equally so.
#npd#narcissistic personality disorder#cluster b#racism#transphobia#psychiatric abuse#anti psychiatry#cptsd#ptsd#anti blackness#trans misogyny#.txt
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Phrases I think [tumblr] needs to learn.
They are. Temporal context. Periphery demographic. Queerbaiting. Collateral damage. Three of which a lot of people use incorrectly to their advantage. And another that I’m 90% sure they’re ignorant about the actual meaning of. So for the purposes of this post I’ll be listing them along with the meanings and some examples. Like so:
Temporal context. Understanding that when a show, film or book is made and/or set more often than not influences its contents. For example. Stranger things. Friends. Harry Potter. Original star trek. Classic doctor who. You cannot and should not approach these with a 2022 mindset because things made and set twenty or a hundred or hell even five years ago are never going to match the current morality system you’ve cultivated through social media. Either continue being mad that a show set in Reagan’s America hasn’t said the words gay or lesbian to describe its two lgbt characters yet or acknowledge they’re doing a helluva lot more than an actual show from the eighties would’ve done, move on and enjoy what they’ve done so far. Trust me. You’ll be so much better off if you do
Periphery demographic. Why we aren’t getting actual canonical lgbt characters in mainstream Disney movies while the current old guard are still around. It’s all very well and good to go on about how “don’t they know what I would’ve done for representation as a kid?” But they don’t. Because they don’t care about the Tumblr demographic. They care about entertaining the five year olds and the parents with the money to spend on the film who might not want to take the kids to see it if there’s anything they might find objectionable in it. And sadly. Quite a few believe that lgbt content kids films is poisonous to their precious offspring. It’s a truly, truly, horribly shitty belief system. But still. It’s the ugly truth.
Queerbaiting. I’ve heard of it. I’ve never seen it. And all the pairings I’ve seen labelled as it. Ain’t it. Destiel. Supercorp. Swan queen. Byler. Johnlock. That’s not queerbaiting. That’s fans latching on to something that isn’t there and going ballistic and quite frankly terrifyingly entitled when it doesn’t happen. Just because you think a character that’s only ever been interested in the opposite gender is secretly gay and in love with your obsession doesn’t make them gay or make you right. No matter how much meta, fanfic or gifsets you make and consume. Clothes, eating habits, hair and way of speaking doesn’t make someone gay. Do you know what does? Actually being homosexual. Which Dean, Kara, Emma, Mike and John are not. Headcanons are fine. But if you have to change every single little thing about a character to enjoy the show. Then you shouldn’t be watching said show.
Collateral damage. Audrey Rose in descendants. Lindsey Lister in Gilmore Girls. Side characters (Lindsey) or antagonists (Audrey) that exist to be a background character in the main characters story. Unfortunately. Many fans latch onto these characters are bleat about how they deserved better. When they didn’t. Especially in Audrey’s case. Lindsey existed purely to show that Dean Forester, that poor poor mistreated boy, wasn’t over Rory. Audrey existed as the stereotypical bitch that the boy leaves for the better option. And when they tried to give her depth. Her still didn’t get wet. I hate Audrey. Always have. Always will. And I don’t care about Lindsey. But they served their purpose. And fans should leave it at that.
So there you go. Four phrases that [tumblr] should learn. If you do. Then you might wind up being ever so slightly calmer than you were before.
#temporal context#periphery demographic#collateral damage#supernatural#anti destiel#arrowverse#supergirl#anti supercorp#once upon a time#anti swan queen#stranger things#anti byler#sherlock bbc#anti johnlock
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Saw this post on Xiaohongshu a while back and it’s a really good example of 18th century erasure, so I think I’ll share this here (not calling out anybody or anything just sharing). OP posted a series of scanned images from a Republican era source (of unclear provenance) showing what people *thought* were historical fashions at the time, and the outfit for what they described as the “end of the Ming” is actually from the 18th century, the Qianlong era in the Qing Dynasty. The other images of the Qing all show stereotypical 19th century fashions. What’s fascinating about this is that it shows that 18th century erasure is by no means a recent phenomenon, it had existed since at least the 1920s/30s, when I assume this was made. Great for illustrating that people in the Republican era knew fuck all about Chinese fashion history (even something as recent as 120 years ago) and by extension a lot of other Chinese history.
Textbook mid 18th century women’s fashion from the 燕寝怡情 painting series. (Ironically, the person who uploaded this image to Pinterest labeled it Ming Dynasty lol)
I always think that 18th century erasure is harmful to both Ming and Qing fashion because as is the case with this source, actual Ming Dynasty fashion makes no appearance and Qing Dynasty fashion is appropriated. What this is doing is more than just creating fashion history misconceptions though, it basically reconfigures the whole discourse on what is and isn’t Qing, and more importantly for that time period, what it means to be Chinese, what to embrace and what to reject. 18th century erasure discourse has immense power in stretching the limits of mental gymnastics, as it can make people mentally push the starting date of the Qing Dynasty to around 1800, one and a half century later than the 1644 of reality, and decide that things they do like about the Qing belong to the Ming instead. This is dishonest and annoying at best, and at worst I can make a case about how The Qing™️ in 18th century erasure discourse isn’t referring to the actual dynasty anymore, but functions more as an umbrella term for “everything we deem degenerate and don’t like”. Honestly why would anyone try to nudge 18th century fashion in the direction of the Ming if they didn’t think the Qing was bad in the first place.
The Qing has become a sort of all use hate object since the proliferation of Western colonialism in China, and it’s evident that this sentiment lingers on in the present day. If you scroll through the comments under this post you can find multiple people bashing the Qing for its apparent inferior taste and lamenting the loss of Chinese beauty, based on the incorrectly dated historical fashions. What they don’t know is that some of the supposed “pre-Qing” things they praise for their beauty and Chinese essence are, in fact, also from the Qing. I’m not even going to unpack how the whole thing about the Qing “degenerating” Chinese cultural evolution has close ties to eugenics and racial science popular around the time. Anyway, I’d just like to remind everyone that when you bash what you think to be Qing and contrarily praise what you think to be pre-Qing, both things could in actuality be from the Qing and you are creating a binary opposition out of nothing.
*On a side note, I think it’s fascinating that OP added a Chinese flag emoji to the image, probably because of a growing nationalist paranoia where people imagine they’re defending Chinese artworks from being “stolen” by Koreans. I’ve seen more Chinese people paranoid about supposed Korean stealings than actual Korean people using Chinese images inappropriately. Korean people as a hate object are also very much en vogue right now, for whatever reason. It’s almost established as a racist cliche in recent years that “Koreans like to steal”, and it’s so normalized people don’t even perceive it as offensive. Not saying that OP is intentionally being racist, but this emoji under this context triggers my fight or flight response.
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So if you suddenly become dictator of ao3, what specific rules are you putting in place?
Okay this will be fun.
CONTENT
Delete everything under the "Underage" "Raceplay" "Snuff" "Orientation Play" "Conversion" "Mind Break" and "Femicide" tags (I'm not making those up, they're all real) as well as all tags related to "Real Person Fiction" and "ABO" and then hire a moderation team and institute a reporting feature for exactly those things. These are the tags where 99.99% of the material is bigoted or exploitative fetish material that needs to just fucking go. There are a small amount of stories where these things are deconstructed, but frankly they aren't numerous enough to warrant the time looking for them. Unlike the next part:
I wouldn't touch the Racism, Homophobia, Transphobia or Misogyny tags because those are used for stories ABOUT those things as concepts, but there are outliers and that's what reporting is for. Make the reporting feature require a Chapter and a quote for CTRL-F searching to make it easier for moderators to find those things.
Child Pornography, Hate Speech, RPF and other associated content would be banned entirely, with accounts banned instantly for breaking that rule.
ORGANIZATION
I would change the rating system to match common age gates. So "Everyone, Teen, Mature and Explicit" becomes "Everyone, 13+, 18+ and X" because the current overlap "Mature" has with Teen and Explicit is currently messing with people. And so making it more clear "This one is for normal adult content, this one is for porn" would be more convenient for everyone.
I would also remove the option for creators to choose "Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings" and then make a rule against choosing "No Archive Warnings Apply" when Archive warnings do in fact apply. Creators tend to use the "Choose not to use" feature for the sake of spoiler culture and um... fuck that. Fics reported for this wouldn't be deleted, they'd just have the warning applied by a mod.
Fics can also be reported for tags that really should be in a fic but aren't at which point moderators would just add that tag, same requirements as above apply.
Some rules wouldn't warrant punishment, just correction. There wouldn't be a punishment for being incorrectly labeled, it would just be correctly labeled. The creator need not even be notified.
The "Gen" "Multi" and "Other" Categories would be removed and replaced with greatly expanded tags for this category. Tags like "Lesbian Character" and "Trans Character" and "Ace character" etc would be removed from "Other Tags" and given their own dedicated category in the tag list like Relationships are.
This kinda goes without saying, but massively overhaul the UI and visual organization so the whole site doesn't look like a shady-ass Web 1.0 message board.
CREATORS
Creators would be allowed to make previous versions of fics or chapters (pre-edits) available at their own discretion. They would do this by being asked if they want to save the previous version as a draft when editing a chapter.
AO3 has a feature where you can download fics as an E-Book. Creators would be allowed to decide if this feature is available on a fic by fic basis with the feature being off by default.
The ability to "Orphan" a work would remain, but creators can also simply choose to depublish or delete a work entirely. Creators can also decide whether to allow Web-Archive to crawl their works' pages. Creators can also report other users for reposting their deleted or depublished works.
Creators would be able to reject works pending as "Related Works" and remove them from the list entirely.
Creators would be able to create a blacklist of words from their comments section, where comments are automatically held for review if they contain these words.
Creators would be able to decide whether to allow their stories to be added to communities or collections, and whether or not to allow Kudos and Bookmarks just like how they can choose to allow comments.
INTERACTION
You could report people for harassment in comments.
Blocking would extend to IP Addresses.
SITE INTERFACE/BROWSING
The ability to blacklist tags without having to explicitly exclude them in every search would be added.
Sitewide filters would be added for quick and easy use. The presets would be:
Everything - No filters
Quality Control - Stories rated Everyone - 18+ under 2,000 words are filtered out. Stories rated X under 5,000 words are filtered out.
Safe For Work - Stories rated X are filtered out.
Safe For Work Quality Control - Stories Rated X are filtered out, and stories under 2,000 words are filtered out.
Horny - Only Stories rated X are shown
Horny Quality Control - Only Stories rated X that are over 5,000 words are shown.
When you get the warning about explicit content on the first X-Rated fic you access in a session, it will also play Canada's Alert-Ready alarm just in case you're at work, or you're a teenager on the Family Wifi, simply because I enjoy watching you suffer. If you're alone it might also startle the shit out of you, which is also fun for me.
Those are the things that would NEED to be done.
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The duality of Squad 3 as Gin is Mansplain, Izuru is Manipulate, Rose is Malewife yet they are all Manslaughter
I have to reorder these im sorry. Izuru is malewife. This man loves paperwork and tedium. Hes got that monotone "thats enough Spice Of Life for me thanks" autism and we love him for it.
Gin would be Manipulate. I Cite his plotlines with Rangiku, Izuru, and Rukia for this. Man throws his rancid vibes around with intent. He also doesnt know how to love anyone outside of "abuse them until they dont need me anymore"
Rose? Rose has a habit of of spoiling manga for people, and i choose to believe this overzealous infodumping would get him labelled a mansplainer, even if incorrectly. Rose is VERY fond of manslaughter though.
The one least likely to be manslaughter is Izuru and i cite his fight with abirama redder here. He doesnt like to fight. I have a theory that his zanpakuto is so dreary bc he was manipulated into leaving the squad he would have done best in, 4, to join 3 as lieutenant for gin. He hates killing and violence and he resents being pulled away from being a healer but feels he has no choice to continue the path hes on.
Gin kabobs people with shinso for fun tho
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a person who uses labels “incorrectly”: i hate it when people use labels incorrectly 😡😡😡 being lgbt is about conformity 🙄🙄🙄 everybody knows that 🤨🤨🤨
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I'm not happy Bob, Not. Happy.
TLDR; TFsource needs to get there shit sorted, or I am going to the better business bureau.
Pardon me while I set up, I generally don't like conflict but I was engaging in good faith for about a month until I realized that it was not being returned on the other end and I want to make clear exactly what happened.
My most recent irresponsible hobby is transformers model kits. I've been doing them for about two years now and its great fun putting them together. Sadly one of my favorites, IDW Drift, came out in 2019, before I got into the hobby, and is sold out everywhere. Occasionally I'll poke around for him but I've been unsuccessful. (I was able to get a interesting metal kit that you fold into shape but it was miserable to put together and the motherfucker fell off of its self once and stabbed me in the back with its sword.)
Until this January. I happened to see one in-stock on TFsource, perfect, mint-in-box, ready for assembly. I excitedly clicked the buy button and waited with bated breath. Its important at this moment I point out the collection of links at the bottom of the order received email I got. It's a surprise tool that will help us later.
I also think its notable that this is my first order I have ever made with TFsource. Spoilers: there will not be more after this.
I waited a few days. There is no 'your order has shipped' email in my inbox. I check the order. Everything seems fine, but weirdly its listed as a preorder? Did I buy the wrong model kit? I assumed this was a resale.
I double check.
Its the right model kit. It came out in 2019. This should not be a preorder. (Important to note at this point that there is no longer a clickable order or preorder button, despite this item now being falsely labeled as a preorder. Not to mention the estimated arrival is a price and not a date.) I check the forums for the average amount of time it takes them to ship. Its about a week. I shake off my misgivings and wait a week. I wait another. Still no shipping notification.
I hate sending in tickets or calling or generally being a nuisance in any way but its been two weeks on an item they had in-stock and the order has it listed incorrectly. Its time to talk to someone.
I send an email. I made my order on January 30th. My first email goes out February 16th.
I get a ticket received notification. It says I should get a response in a day or Monday to Tuesday if I sent it Friday.
I don't get a response until the next Wednesday, but whatever. That's still totally in the bounds of reasonable. But the response itself is very weird. Starting with the fact that I get two responses at the same time from the same person outside of their business hours.
This reeks of automated response, which, honestly fine, I expect the first round of a ticket to probably be a bot simply to weed out the people who didn't just check the QA page. BUT if its an automated system why did it take so long to answer me? And if its not a bot why did I receive two emails, each feeling like an automatic response to a keyword found in my email?
Okay whatever, they still aren't answering my question and are under the impression that this is a preorder, which again. Its not. I respond.
At this point I'm a little disappointed, I reaaaally wanted that kit, but I mostly just want answers. If someone else got it that's fine. I'll just cancel my order. But I want to be sure that I'm not missing out on my chance to snag this kit.
This time it does take a full, proper week for the response.
"Most Probably"?! Its your job to find out and I figure the second round of a ticket should be a human, but this still feels vaguely bottish. Why are you just regurgitating the order details at me? I would have at the least expected them to ask me directly if I wanted to cancel.
Okay so its time to be a big girl and call them, just to be absolutely sure I'm not missing out on the model before I cancel, but I want to have all my ducks in a row and make sure everything is in front of me for the call. This is where shit hits the fan for me because of several facts I had hither to been unaware of.
I checked my credit card. They had already charged me for the kit. The kit, that according to them they did not have in stock and according to their system, was a preorder. This is where I learn that unlike the other sites I have used, they charge you for a preorder before they ever even get it in stock. What the Fuck.
okay well, I want to make sure before I call I know how to cancel the order myself.
Okay, that's weird, no way to cancel. Maybe the view details?
Huh, that's fucking weird. You have literally no way to guarantee I get my product and you already took my $80, and there's no way to cancel the order. (I feel its important to note the other site I use does let you cancel preorders and does not charge you until they come in, you know, like a respectable fucking site.)
I am fucking livid at this point. How am I not able to cancel my order. You labeled this a preorder and your email tells me I can cancel those anytime.
Funny that. In fact, if you go to their front page, they have all those same little link badges...except for one very important one. Can you guess which one?
Something sure seems to be missing there sport. If you click the link in the email it takes to you a page that also says you can cancel preorders at anytime. However. I checked the QA page.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU CAN'T CANCEL A PREORDER. YOU SAID YOU COULD IN TWO SEPARATE PLACES.
I call. I call with the flames of Hell in my heart. I was so excited to get this model kit. If I had simply missed my chance I would have accepted it. But their system has blocked me from getting real answers. Lied to me about my options and stopped me from solving the problem myself.
I am answered by a robo voice cuts out every other word and I select the option that takes me to customer service. I am briefly put on hold and then told nobody is home would I like to leave a message. I wait a while and call back again in an hour. Its the same thing. I leave a message with my number.
I just wanted to spend my money on a silly little robot.
If they don't call back by Friday. I'm contacting my credit card company for a charge back and the better business bureau for their misleading preorder policy (WHICH SHOULD NOT EVEN APPLY SINCE THIS WAS NOT A PREORDER).
Eat my Shorts TFsource.
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