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Aries 8/27/22

My friend, there is someone in your life right now this very corrupt. They are a bad influence and you know it yet you hesitate to walk away from this person. I’m sensing that you feel very strongly for them, maybe you see the good in them. The only bad thing about seeing the good in a corrupt person is that it’ll only cause harm to your emotional intelligence in the long run. The longer you try to “change” this person, the longer it’ll take for you to walk away. You know that eventually it won’t work out between you guys whether this is a friend, s.o., family, or coworker. Do not hold back your own blessings trying to change someone that is unwilling to do so themselves. Do not waste your precious time and energy. It’s time to stop contemplating on what you should do next, because you already know.

For some of you, Aries, this person is posing as a supporter. They are not to be trusted at this time. Listen to your body!! If you fill up with ancxiety when you ar around this person, yet you feel the urge to tell them everything, they are sucking your precious creative energy.

Taurus

There may have been a very small setback recently and you’re dwelling on it. This setback was inconvenient, yes, although you should be focusing your energy more on the present and the things that actually have importance right now in the present. You need to make a decision to either continue dwelling on small inconvenient things from the past, or you can make the choice to move forward. If you do so happen to make the choice to move forward, you will recieve positive news. The energy shift can cause blessings to pour in, so choose wisely! Don’t make yourself miserable by thinking about things you fixed already!! Do not be blind to the good things that are right in front of you, and take yourself out of the cycle of only looking at the bad. Stop spiraling yoiur thoughts, giving more negative energy to your situation. Focus on the present and move forward! You have an abundance of things to actually be very proud of!! I know you’re stubborn, but don’t indulge in so much self-sabotage. Love more. Love yourself and your life. Soon you’ll realize how wonderful things are.

Gemini

WOW!!!! SO MUCH GOOD ENERGY BABES!!!

You have been the shoulder for many people to cry on for a very long time. You may have even been the support system for your entire family at some point in your life. Maybe you’ve been this support system for everyone your whole life. You are literally flying in abundance right now. If you do not see it yet, I want you to know that it is surrounding you and there are so many opportunities to travel. Don’t think of the “how” but keep embracing how you are one with the Universe and everything works out for you. You are an old soul, here on a mission to raise the earth’s vibrations. As you travel into the next journey of your life, don’t forget what you came here to do. The blessings that you’re being showered with are to propel you further forward in your mission. You are an important person to the entire WORLD! Your vibrations are so high that you can manifest your desires in the blink of an eye. You are writing your script in life and wow, rich girl/boy/them status!!! I’m seeing planes, a lot of traveling, a lot of animals approaching you, and lots of confidence!! Yes, you should be confident!! Your cup is so full that is overflowing with an abundance of your desire for the rest of your life. You are someone so wholeheartedly special, that you are being trusted to spread love and light every opportunity you get. Gratefulness is key to your abundance.

(having image issues)

Cancer

It seems as though you’ve been through a rough breakup lately and you are having a hard time moving on. Don’t worry! It’s only hard to move on for now because it’s fresh. You need to go through this healing process an realize how you need to be of better service to others. It seems as though you need to work on your intentions when working with other people. You may have really good intentions now, although you didn’t in the past and that is why you are experiencing this “downfall” of emotions from your breakup to finding it hard to move on. You are a very lusty, creative person and there is nothing wrong with that!! Just be sure to really protect yourself mentally, physically, and keep your head up. As long as your intentions are pure and you are taking care of yourself, you should be able to experience joy. It’s okay to feel your feelings because you are made of a lot of water and you are a water sign as well, but don’t be in your head for too long focusing on things that do not benefit you in this moment. You are a very strong person for realizing where you need to work on things and I’m proud of you!! Your parents are proud of you!! Keep your chin up and remember that even though others may not know your intentions, the Universe sure does.

(having image issues)

Leo

You could be feeling very lonely right, as though no one can truly understand you and what you are going through. Spirit urges you to have confidence in your choices and yourself!! Trust yourself, Leo!! There are lessons that you should have learned but you are avoiding the whole lesson altogether. Instead of looking at these cycles in your life as cycles that need to be broken, you are stuck with a lack of confidence and complacency. This is not where your higher self is aligned, you are still in the cycles of the old you and it’s time to understand why. It’s time you take the actions necessary to look at the cycles directly instead of thinking that this is how it’s supposed to be forever. It’s not!! You’re such a good person and it’s time you step into your power instead of taking the actions to work around the cycles in your life. I love you and you got this. Don’t feel alone, a lot of people are going through the same thing and have been for yours. Spirit really wants for you to start learning your lessons in 5D energy, but you must take the steps necessary to do so. Only you know what those steps are.

Virgo

It’s time you shed that big ego!! You can be feeling down due to your big ego being hurt, and it’s time you realize that an ego is realy just a way for you to kiss society’s ass. Just be yourself but be HUMBLE because everyone is equal. It’s okay to think highly of yourself, it is not okay to put others down in the process.

Libra

Times have been rough for you, Libra. You are healing from heartache of past bad decisions and know that the best option for you is to move forward. You are protected and in good health both mentally and physically. You know that things CAN get better and that opportunity lies ahead of you. Because of your optimism, you are feeling good about your progress and I just want to say, good job!! This thing that you are healing from has happened a while ago and it has set you back in some way. You know that the setback is a direct relation to your past actions, please forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness. The person you were back then is far from the person you are now, so congratulate yourself. You’ve dealt with being financially poor, you might still be. The energy exchange from sorrow to health and growth is really propelling you forward in life in general. Only YOU couldv’t taken those mental steps, so you should be SUPER proud of yourself for coming this far. Please understand that you need to forgive your past self first, because if forgiveness isn’t given from those you seek it from, you can at least say you did it and move forward. We know your intentions are pure, Libra.

Scorpio

Scorpio, you have been surrounded by careless people who lacked the emotional intelligence to properly support you. Some of these people could have been abusive in some way, verbal, mental, or physical. You’ve dealt with these people with pure intentions, but they took advantage of your kindness. They probably took your kindness for weakness. You know in your heart that your kindness was pure love for these people or this person, but the way they moved about you rubbed you the wrong way. They basically mistreated you until you finally ended a cycle with them or you’re going to. Because of your pure intentions towards these malicious people or person, you have good karma coming your way!! Remember that once you recieve your aundance of material wealth, it IS all yours. You do NOT have to share your abundance with ANYONE and it isn’t selfish, you earned it. It isn’t selfish because I know you’ll share it with those who treated you with kindness. You might be so kind that you are willing to share this abundance anyways, and that’s completely okay. Just remember that YOU earned it and you are NOT obligated to share it (although we both know you probably will lol :) …so kind)

Sagittarius

You are going through a hard time right now. You might be struggling a bit with anxiety and depression from previously being treated unfairly. The person you are talking to right now is safe. They were sent to aid you in healing and teach you new things. Open up your heart to them, as they have pure intentions and will help you heal. Do not worry or stress about being treated unfairly by this person, they are there for your aid. Let them be your prince charming, your knight in shining armour. They want to be of good help and assistance with what you are going through because they can see the pain you are feeling. Allow yourself to feel freely for this person, it is safe.

Capricorn

whatever creative, passionate idea you’ve been lingering on, TAKE ACTION!!! You have so much potential with all of this lovely creative that is held within you and you are fighting the urge to follow your passions. Whatever that is for you, you need to do it. I’m talking GET YO BUTT UP RIGHT NOW AND START WORKING ON IT, SWEETIE. That is the right path for YOU love!!! You will be so so successful following your creative, passionate desires. I’m already going to congratulate you on the financial success of your new business.

Aquarius

Aquarius, you’re so much in your head sweetheart. You are doing such a good job being a caretaker, and it’s time you get taken care of. You have been working so so hard, love, and you need to taek it easy on yourself. This restlessness and anxiety isn’t serving you. Relax and induglge in some self care for a bit. Relax your mind and ground yourself. Sometimes we need to take a step back to look at the bigger picture, and right now you are doing amazing.

Pisces

Pisces!!! You finally found your life’s calling. You found what it is that you are passionate about and Spirit encourages you to keep at it!! You’re in alignment with your higher self and things are falling into place accordingly. Continue to do what it is that makes you very happy, spreading love and light energy. Spirit is so happy with the work that you have been doing for everyone, including yourself. Has your car been having issues lately? I think it’s time the Universe gifts you with a new one. It’s a little help and support for doing all of this good work around your community. Continue to spread love and light and to inspire others to raise their vibrations with you. You are literally ROYALTY in the spirit world. Just remember that when you start to recieve material gifts in abundance from the Universe, you DESERVE it.

Thank you so much for coming to @astarseedmystic for your horoscope reading.

Love & Light

-A

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lloverz · 2 years

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I thank the Universe for all of the wonderful moments we shared together.

Laughing in the car high asf

Movie nights

Sleeping at parks because that’s the only way we could spend the night with each other

Concerts

New restaurants

You trying sushi for the first time

The arrival of our baby

Watching you become a dad

Cooking dinners together

Wake n bake

Our showers together

And so much more

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lloverz · 2 years

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You give me something extra to look forward to everyday.

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lloverz · 2 years

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A gentle reminder to drink your shakes

Wake up and take a few deep breaths. Don’t think about everything you need to do today. You’ll get there when you need to, but for now just breathe.

Take yo meds!!! They’re good for you!!!

I know mental health disorders are hard to talk about. This is a safe space for EVERYONE & I would love for my followers to interact w me. I have a few posts about “meds” so in order to make you feel more comfortable, I’ll tell you what I am currently going through.

Bipolar

Borderline Personality Disorder

PTSD

there’s something else but I forgot lol

There’s nothing to be ashamed about. In fact, I recently realized that it’s important to tell the people you love and care about. I realized that I was having irrational arguments and it effected the people I love the most. My family has never really been “picture perfect” so I ignored my symptoms for a long time. I’ve been off of my meds for over a year and today (rn actually) I’m going to the dr to get them refilled.

It’s not only important to tell your family, but your extended family and friends.

Recently I had a conversation with my ex’s cousin and she sadi that for the past 4 years, her entire family thought I didn’t like them. It was because the “smallest thing” would drastically change my mood, and they thought it was because of them. I felt so bad and immediately told her that I love them, and btw I have these mental health issues.

Right after I told her what I have, she immediately said “ohhhh okay, yeah I can see it” and it felt like years of distance disappeared just because I was open about my experience.

I used to be the type of person to be ashamed and hide this information, until I realized that it’s actually very common. A lot of people never do any self reflection, so they don’t think there’s a reason to go to the dr. There’s a couple people in my family that show even more intense signs of being bipolar than me, yet when the subject comes up they deflect. So if there’s already a few of those in MY family, I can imagine they are everywhere. There’s nothing to be ashamed of about getting proper help and knowing yourself!

signs of a bipolar person ( based off of what it’s like to be me lol )

extreme mood swings. for me, I will be manic for about 3 months then in my lower state for the next 3 months and so on. Mood swings also happen when a person becomes irritable, resulting in A LOT of intense anger. (shaking, yelling, aggressive actions for at least an hour)

when in a manic state, I am super creative. I’ll start a million businesses AND keep working on other creative things. I went from spending a lot of money I didn’t have to creating businesses with what I do have.

when in the lower state, it feels like there’s zero motivation. “everything is what it is and isn’t what it isn’t. everything is nothing and nothing is everything, what’s the point? life goes on” this is accompanied with feelings of depression, insecurity, A LOT of anxiety, etc.

when in a manic state, I feel like I want to solve ALL the WORLD’S problems. Sign me up for mayor, I’ll get shit done around here. this state of mind is accompanied with confidence, security, charisma, openess, hanging out a lot with friends and family, and being very active always doing something.

Now I’ll let you know what it’s like to be borderline. this subject is a little harder because when I think about the times I displayed this behavior, I really look at it with disgust because why would I do that?? lol. But i know that’s something I need to work on in myself. I can’t control what I am not aware of at the moment so I can’t be too hard on myself. I just need to be more self aware to tackle these BPD character traits. Let’s not have shame about who we are.

taking on characteristics from others ( convincing yourself that you like/don’t like the same things as them )

having a sense of not really knowing yourself

having a hard time “fitting in”

I’m not really sure what other characteristics I display of BPD, that is something I need to pay more attention to. If you feel as though you have any of these symptoms, don’t hesitate to talk to a psychiatrist. I have insurance that pays for my medication and my therapy visits, you can sign up for benefits online. There’s nothing to be ashamed of and it’s best to get the care you need.

i love yall, take care!🫶✌️

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lloverz · 2 years

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Fuck it feels so good to let out a little bit of crazy

#150k #writerblr #love #quotes #writerscommunity #entrepreneur #aes #aesthetic #books and reading #deep poems #exloversblr #writing #this is crazy #crazy together #100k #50k #10k #5k #1k

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lloverz · 2 years

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A reminder that if your mental health disorder negatively impacts your loved ones, you need to take your medication.

Hurting others at the expense of YOUR problems is the best way to push away those that love you.

There’s nothing wrong with taking medication(s). If it helps in any way, it HELPS and that’s all that matters.

For those with an eating disorder, your meds require you to eat. It’s a 2 in 1 bundle of self care.

Your presence is important no matter what you’re going through. There are people that smile when they think about you, you aren’t a bad person.

I repeat, your mental health disorders (I don’t like to call them “illnesses”) DO NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. If you genuinely try your hardest to keep in control & you slip up, the fact that you tried your hardest is improvement. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, it is.

This is my original photo. Pic creds: meeee

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lloverz · 2 years

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Sometimes I wake up and have to remind myself: “There is nothing wrong with me. I have patterns to unlearn, new behaviours to embody and wounds to heal. But there is nothing wrong with me.”

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lloverz · 2 years

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Your smile is the only reason I need to be the best version of me

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lloverz · 2 years

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Everyone is afraid to love. Wait, let me rephrase that.

Everyone is afraid of getting hurt when they’re vulnerable.

it sucks doesn’t it? when you love someone so much just to find out they didn’t love you as much as you love them, because if they did then they wouldn’t have done those things that tore you apart so easily.

Let’s zoom out a bit, okay? Don’t get too emotional just yet.

If we take a serious, long look at what our pain has taught us from loving so hard, you will see that the abundant amount of lessons learned is worth going through. Personally, I’d rather take note of every single lesson I learn while young, because I don’t want to spend a lifetime ignoring them just to have to keep relearning them.

I just got out of a 4 year relationship. we were high school sweethearts and 3 years after dating, we had a baby. I was very gullible in the first few years of dating this boy. I’m very beautiful, popular, have a lot of people talking about me. I was so confident in myself. If I stood by another woman, I would’nt question my own beauty. The boy I dated, let’s call him “tf”, was a couple years older than me and had graduated a year before me. We live in a pretty small city, so there’s only 3 high schools to choose from. Here’s a list of a few things TF did while in a relationship with me BEFORE our baby:

-cheated multiple times and manipulated/lied/gaslit me by using violence and aggression ( when I was 18 )

-always had porn on his socials (instagram , twitter, etc) so I would state that it made me uncomfortable (the girls looked way bigger and curvier than me, I’m petite) but he would say things like “it’s just a big ass 😂”. I let him borrow my tablet one time and when I tried to get it back, he hid it from me and kept yelling in my face saying “YOU’RE FUCKIN INSECURE” *didn’t give back tablet EVER*

- after someone sent me screenshots of him trying to fuck in another city, he manipulated/gaslit/lied. I tried to break up with him and he broke my car window. There was blood and broken glass everywhere, so he immediately played victim and was begging for me to take him to the hospital. Blamed it on me. “you made me do it”

- even though I never showed any signs of cheating or talking to multiple people, he would constantly tell me about how I’m a “liar”. I didn’t have enough experience back then to know that is a clear sign of a cheater.

- He was always talking to multipple girls but when i said something about it, he would get aggressive and defensive. making up lies with such aggression to force me to just back down.

- by this time, I had started an eating disorder. I was depressed and didn’t want to eat.

so even though those things are pretty fucking horrible and traumatizing for an 18-19 yr old to go through, let’s talk about the things he did while I was pregnant.

- first week we found out I was pregnant we were living in a hotel. We both had jobs but rent weekly was super fuckin high just for a studio. There was a tiny kitchen with no oven and a bathroom next to it. a bed in the room and that’s it. The first week I found out I was pregnant, I suspected him of shit because he was super distant. I went through his phone and saw he was looking up his ex from 4 years ago.

- He argued w me about it, told me he would “happily pay for an abortion”, so I had a breakdown in the bathroom saying “you did this to me, I don’t want to get rid of my baby” so after 10 mins he felt bad and without showing any emotion he just said it’s up to me but he’ll be present if i choose to keep it

- We argued a lot the first week. I had no friends since he pushed them all away from me. So I went to a mountain, sat on a big rock, and just cried for an hour. I was so scared because I didn’t know how to tell my family and based off of how he was acting, I knew I was most likley going to end up a single mom. for a 20 yr old, that was an extremely stressful situation.

- moving on, we finally saved enough to get an apartment. We moved in and I wanted to feel whole, but something just wasn’t right. I was working from home at the time, by then i was 3 months pregnant. He also had a job, but got fired. I could barely afford rent on my own. He would sit on his ass and play video games all day instead of going out looking for a job. I tried not to stress about it, tried to convince myself that he was just in a bad state of mind and needed a boost. I needed him to have a job, so I made his resume and applied to places for him. He got his “dream job” at a dispensary because of my help.

- he was very distant from the beginning so it wasn’t much of a difference. later i found out that he was “hanging out” and talking to females while I was working my pregnant ass off.

- eventually my inutition and dreams told on him, my body filled with anxiety around him. so I decided enough was enough and I needed to move out before the lease has to get renewed. I broke up with him, packed my things, and told him he had to leave too (duh, the apt was in MY name and he’s careless).

- he didn’t help me pack my shit or carry things downstairs into the car. By this time, the baby was born so his excuse was that he was watching the baby even though he could’ve had the baby on him while helping my postpartum ass.

- i forgot to mention that when I gave birth, they fucked up my epidural so I was in bed for the first week with an epidural migraine. I was in so much pain and worried because the dr said i was leaking spinal fluid into my head. The first week he invited his whole family over and told me it would only be 2 people. I was stressed because of COVID, my headache came back. I wen to the room and told him to tell them to leave, he did. when they left he argued with me and got mad at me saying “why are you acting like that??” as if he didn’t know what i was going through. i ended up apologizing just to keep the peace.

- I would only ever ask for help when i was extremely exhausted, and when i asked for help he would constantly ask me why i couldnt just do it myself.

after we broke up, he put on a very specular show crying about how he wanted his family back. he would tell me that we didn’t have a family because of me. he let his anger out on me by going through my phone when i would let him visit the baby and add my friends on his socials. he talked mad shit saying iw asn’t letting him see the baby. eventually no one wanted to be involved so all my friends left me to suffer with postpartum depression and a horrible partner. eventually he pushed me to a point where I felt like I was always going to struggle and be alone. He wouldn’t give me money to support the baby even though I was the only one taking care of him and he always had excuses. There were times when i had to beg him to see him for more than an hour a week. I was living with my nana at the time (my tata passed when i was pregnant and he still did all of this), and i had no money. my baby was teething and i cried because i couldn’t afford $3 teething medicine. My gas gauge was also fucked up so I couldn’t go anywhere without worrying about gas, especially with no money. eventually i just couldn’t handle my situation, and I took my son to the babysitter. I told her I was going to be gone for a while to take care of him. she agreed and understood. that night, i walked myself into the ER and told them i ahd suicidal thoughts. it was the darkest day of my life.

that night, i slept at the hospital. i got woken up at 2-3 in the morning to speak with a crisis counselor. she told me that due to the severity of my condition, the best option was to take me to a psych hospital to get treatment. i agreed. my parents had no idea this was happening, so i called them and told them where i was at and where i was going. my dad immediately came to the hospital to visit me. he was grieving as well from my tata (his dad) so there wasn’t much for us to talk about. we could just havea short convo about how we’ll get through it and everything is okay.

the next day i was taken to phoenix, az to a hospital in an ambulance. i was strapped down and the lady next to me was telling me about how i’m going to be okay and she was in the exact same position as me with postpartum depression when she had her kids. it made me feel a little better but i couldn’t get over the fact that i was strapped down.

i arrived at the hospital how i came, strapped. they wheeled me into the psych area and everyone looked at the new girl. a female staff member looked at me when taking my picture and said “wow, you’re so pretty”. thank you beautiful black woman.

i spent a week there. i talked to psychiatrists and told them I had ppd. they diagnosed me with 4-5 mental health disorders and put me on antipsychotics. i tried a total of 6 meds in one week. they made me feel dizzy, weak, cloudy asf (zoning in and out), i saw lines on the bathroom floor that weren’t there, and i could barely walk to get breakfast in the morning. I didn’t have a choice but to take their meds because they wouldn’t release me until they made me “think right”, or not at all. i was getting visitations from my ex. my i showed him paperwork of symptoms ( i really do have mental disorders such as bipolar, etc and even though that’s not what i was there for, it helped to have a professional tell me im not crazy just bipolar and bpd). after that, i told him to leave because he was the reason i went to the ER that night ( recently found out he was fucking around w females before and after that week yet he wanted to say he really cared and was really concerned ).

when i was finally released, i took my meds for a month then stopped. they were making me too tired to do anything. a couple months later he messaged me about how he missed his family, so i took him back. i thought that after everything i went through and if he really wanted his family, we should be alright. everything i stated above that he did previously, he kept up. sending pics of my baby to other females from when we were broken up talking about how he missed them and wanted to move in w them. keep in mind, i NEVER cheated or even talked to another guy like that since high school, the very beginning.

just recently in March was a birthday party that i set up and decorated, invited everyone to but no one showed up. while opening presents, he was acting weird with his phone. I asked to take pictures on it and he tried hiding it from me. i looked at the notifications and he was messaging a girl right then and there asking her to go to the strip club with him, talking about “sharing” me! this happened 2 WEEKS AFTER I HAD AN ABORTION OF HIS BABY (baby #2). i was suffering the loss of my second child and from the pain i experienced having rods inside me, seeing a friend i made in the clinic cry her heart out, etc. after he got caught, he told me the messages were “old” and “she just so happened to reply that day”, “you thought i trusted you? lol”, “this is all your fault you dont have to be like this but you CHOOSE to and it’s your fault we don’t have a family”, etc. i can’t remember the rest because those words alone were the most hurtful words i’ve heard in my life.

moving on to recently, i broke up with him. he kept acting like it didnt happen even though i broke up w him due to domestic violence. i figured the only way i can get him to understand is by doing what he’s always done to me and what i didn’t want to do. i slept with someone else and allowed myself to get caught. more domestic violence heppened, and he kept calling me a cheater even though i kept telling him we broke up a while ago. now we are living in different households and so far we are coparenting well. this is current, 4 years after being together. I’m filled with peace and optimism. my confidence went up because i no longer have to deal w my partner looking at naked girls on social media while im in the same room.

im 21 currently and after this breakup i thought i couldn’t trust anyone anymore. these past few days i’ve been processing everything. I’m processing the abuse i survived for years. mental, phsyical, and verbal abuse is the reason why i couldn’t leave no matter how many times i tried. i forgive my old self because she didn’t have enough experience to know how to deal with those situations. she thought she was forever stuck. i’m proud of how much shes improved. it takes serious strength to go through all of that the past 4 years and to come out stronger, better, smarter.

I want to share my story with the girls out there stuck in repetitive cycles. I made a post previously of lessons I learned while being with him and I can continue that list in another post if you’d like. I’m sharing my story to let you know the real deal. the nitty-gritty of this situation. I left out a few things that I had to go through as well because it was outside of this relationship, but there isn’t a single thing I would take back or change if i could. I’d rather come out as a strong 21 yr old already knowing the things i know now than to be ignorant of my situation and waste years of my life being abused by someone i love so much. I still love him of course, but i know that to be with him is the same thing as self-sabotage and I’m not willing to put my health at risk again. btw, your health SHOULD NEVER be at risk when you’re in a relationship point blank PERIOD!! they should be there for you when you’re grieving instead of cheating & abusing your state of mind. that was a little too specific and obvious but you get the point.

so to all the young ladies out there, i have a few tips from my experiences. if you never want to experience something similar, please pay attention.

- you don’t have to settle for anyone you don’t want to settle for and you don’t need a reason either. this is YOUR life and it’s important that you recognize that whatever you’re going through is a result of your choices.

- when someone lies for no reason, that;s enough of a reason to leave. they don’t care how their lies effect you and if they lie about small shit/for no reason how do you know your whole relationship/friendship isn’t a lie?? these are the type of people that’ll talk shit about you to your enemies, i learned from him.

- if someone undertsands how specific people have horribly affected you and they continue to speak with them on a daily basis, take that as they chose those people over you.

- if someone doesn’t respect your boundaries you need to leave bc that is also a form of abuse. they walk all over you and end up controlling you slowly but surely

- if they bring up traumatic experiences from your life in a malicious way, that’s abuse so leave

- if they constantly trigger you, that’s abuse so leave

- always choose other peoples sides over you even when others are wrong, theyd choose to backup anyone but you. that aint a real one thats a fake

- if it’s hard for them to understand how much pain they put you through, leave bc it’ll only get worse and they don’t care until it’s them

- if they know you love language but refuse to tend to it because its “pointless” to them, they dont actually love you

- pay attention to what they say when they’re mad. they’ll tell you how they really feel about you. anger doesn’t lie, liars do.

- if you have emntal health issues and they keep doing their own thing at the expense of your mental health, understand that they truly do NOT care about you.

- someone who doesn’t see the wrong or severity in THEIR actions but always sees the bad in everything YOU do is a narcissist (please do your research on this topic)

- if they spend more money on weed than necessities, they’ll lead a clear path of addiction for you

- if they are okay with putting their hands on you saying “you made me do it” or “i did it for a reason”, they don’t see anything wrong with physically abusing you

- a push eventually leads to headbutts and getting thrown on the floor. i left before headbutts turned into slaps and punches

- if they tell you someone else will end up beating you, they want to do it themselves and will eventually. it’s best to leave ASAP and never look back

- if they know you need money but refuse to give it to you, they’re making you dependent on them and it IS a form of abuse too

- if they know you need basic things like clothes but spend money on themselves instead (weed, etc), they do NOT care about you

I’m truly sorry for all of the women and young ladies, even kids who have to go through the tortures of a man. It seems as though men have been conditioned to be selfish for so long that it’s in their DNA. Personly I have had bad experiences with every single man in my life EXCEPT for my tata who passed in January of 2021. He was truly the most genuine man in my life, always took care of me and talked to me about the most important things in life. I would take naps when i was little and wake up to him waiting for me to wake up, smiling and adoring my little face. When he left, I lost the most important person in my lifeat the time. Now my main focus is teaching my son to be just like him, because I have never had such a lifetime of positive experiences with any other protective figure in my life. It’s important to understand that as a woman who’s fully capable of being independent, YOU are the catch because for someone to walk into YOUR life is a PRIVILEGE.

I love you all. domestic violence happens all too often. My sisters have been through it and i watched them fall apart, then rebuild their lives in their 30s. My aunt has died from domestic violence, my mom has experienced it, etc. we must stick together, defend each other, teach each other, and help each other. A long journey of helping your loved ones through these situations is better than losing them forever. protect these girls and women, stand together, recognize that you just as capable as a man, and you’re the boss in your life. hire and fire people accordingly. to be a woman is a beautiful thing. we can go through hell and come out stronger, prettier, more confident, and independent.

if you are currently going through a similar situation, i see you. i feel you. i WAS you. i know how hard it is to leave, and even though you want to, i know you have to strategically plan that shit out. dont worry, talk to the Universe, cry, and make the choices that right for YOU. you will survive, you will come out stronger, and you are loved, extremely loved. you’ll get out of it soon, just promise yourself to hang in there until your victory day comes.

affirmations for the survivor:

i am safe. i am divinely protected. i am loved. i am whole. i love myself. i am beautiful. i am sexy. i am captivating. i am confident. i trust myself.

affirmations for the person going through it rn:

i am who i say i am. i prove everything to myself, i dont need external validation. i am wonderful. i am loved. i am taken care of by the Universe. i am strong. i will get through anything i set my mind to.

stay safe, look out for each other 🫶✌️

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