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pastel-nature · 1 year

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Hayati

Yandere!Damian Wayne x Reader

A/N: All characters in this fic have been properly aged up to 18+. Please forgive spelling or grammar mistakes, English is not my first language.

TW: abusive behavior, stalking, breach of privacy, implied noncon at the end

You were a classmate and good friend of Damian for years. At first, you were oblivious to his romantic interest, and only saw him as a friend. However, the constant stream of praises, romantic assurances, and mountains of gifts opens your eyes to his true intent.

You were happy at first, who wouldn't? His gifts were personal and sentimental at first.

Over time it grew more and more lavish, you had grown more and more uncomfortable upon receiving them.

The line was drawn when he gifted you a diamond studded necklace that must have been worth a fortune.

When you confront him about it, he broke down and admit that his gifts and lavish presents are a desperate attempt to win your affection and prove his devotion. After all you would never like him without it.

That's not true! You said fervently, you valued him as a treasured friend even without all these gifts.

And so that is how you agreed to become his girlfriend.

And you were happy, for a while. You are his beloved, his habibti, his hayati. It means my life, he said. You are my life.

Damian became increasingly jealous and possessive of you -his hayati, and he was willing to do whatever it took to keep her for himself. He was convinced that they were meant to be together, and he became increasingly controlling and manipulative in an effort to keep you to himself.

Needless to say, he was obsessive and possessive.

Extreme jealousy when it comes to anyone who tries to get close to you.

The tendency to become violent or aggressive when he feels his relationship is threatened.

Willingness to do whatever it takes to protect this relationship, even if it means hurting others.

Manipulation and control became his love language.

Healthy boundary, privacy, and autonomy are thrown out of the window.

But despite his best efforts, you eventually broke up with him, citing his controlling and manipulative behavior as the reason for the split. Damian was devastated by the breakup, and he became even more obsessed. After all you are his hayati, his life.

He turned to his mother, Talia al Ghul, for help. She was aware of his yandere tendencies and did not see anything wrong with them. As a member of the League of Assassins, she sees Damian's willingness to protect his loved ones as a positive trait. She might even encourage his behavior, seeing it as a natural extension of his training and upbringing.

Skilled in the arts of deception and subterfuge, Talia helped Damian to plan and execute your kidnapping, providing him with the resources and knowledge he needed to hold you captive.

He did not even need to hire private investigators or other professionals to track you. You are smart but you are no genius-billionaire-vigilante smart. Damien managed to find you with several clicks from the comfort of batcave.

Instead, he will use his wealth to manipulate people around you. Made them bendy to his will and influence his hayati back to him willingly.

To fund his training and equipment, allowing him to become an even more formidable opponent if anyone were to threaten his relationship (his father, brothers, and sisters came to mind).

To buy or rent a safe house or other secure nests where both of you could live together, away from the influence of the outside world.

Eventually, you were kidnapped and taken to a secure location, held against your will. Damian was convinced that if he could just keep you with him and prove his love and devotion, you would eventually come to see things his way and they could be together forever. But you were terrified of him and the lengths he was willing to go to in order to maintain their relationship.

Damian might keep you in a hidden location at first, such as a remote cabin or underground bunker, where you would be isolated from the outside world. This would allow him to keep you close to him at all times, without having to worry about anything else.

Over time, with good behaviors and promises to never leave his side. Damian might move you to a location that is familiar, such as your own home or that condo near your work place or university. This allows him to maintain a sense of normalcy, while still being able to keep you under his control.

In some cases, Damian might even take his hayati to public places, such as malls, cafes, or restaurants. Places that would allow him to keep an eye on you at all times, while still maintaining the appearance of a normal relationship.

Damian might not see marriage as a necessary step in this relationship. Especially if it might rock the tranquil -and docile, relationship he has you in right now.

After all, what good is a piece of paper when he has his mother's special brew in hand? It is only fitting that you -his hayati, bear a new life soon.

Damian Wayne - Al Ghul learned from the best.

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asteroidtroglodyte · 6 months

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“Oh no my Writing is too niche and weird and not relatable maybe I should dial it back a bit and play it safe-“

Grabs you by the shoulders

Look at me. Look! Look at this book.

Holds up copy of Snow Crash (Neil Stephenson, 1992)

This is a landmark work of fiction! If you like 21st century science fiction or anything Cyberpunk then you have read something that was inspired by this, I assure you.

Within these pages you will follow the adventures of Hiro Protagonist, a beautiful and talented computer programmer with a Cool Sword who Delivers Pizzas for The Mafia (the Cosa Nostra Pizza Co, to be precise), and Y.T. (short for “Yours Truly”) a Totally Radical Mail Kourier with an all-terrain skateboard, a magnetic harpoon gun, and a tendency to refer to herself in the third person.

Together, they must thwart the likes of Bob, (a megalomaniacal telecommunications executive and evangelical cult leader) as he attempts to take over the world by hacking people’s brains using a weaponized version of an ancient Sumerian script (the text of which is from before the fall of the Tower of Babel and which will grant him Administrative Privileges to the minds of those who witness it).

Along the way they will be variously helped and hindered by colorful side characters such as:

Uncle Enzo: Mafia Don, Delivery Pizza Mascot, and Family Man, Uncle Enzo is a bit like if Ronald McDonald wore a black suit and killed people.

Mr Lee: a handicapped robotics magnate who took the idea of weaponizing bodily autonomy to its logical extreme and built himself a Mobile Command Center / Tank armed with mechanical hounds, rockets, lasers, and Freon-powered air conditioning (He explicitly refers to the tank as his “body,” and Hiro muses that he might therefore be the only person in the world who is physically addicted to Freon)

and

Raven: a gigantic and practically unstoppable Aleutian Chief with long black hair, a pair of superlatively sharp obsidian glass knives, and a thermonuclear weapon tucked away in the sidecar of his motorcycle (for a special occasion) Desires nothing more in life than to nuke the USA. Succeeds.

So.

Get “relatability” out of your head as a metric. Tell the story you want to tell. Have fun with it.

I look forward to seeing what you come up with!

#troglodyte thoughts #free range sustainable shitpost #writing #snow crash #Neil Stephenson #unhinged fiction #cyberpunk #tell your story

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crystalsenergy · 1 year

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MOON Placements - achieving emotional self-satisfaction ✨🌱

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Moon in Aries - Emotional autonomy for you is something very important. Independence helps you emotionally, so always practice doing certain things independently, your emotional satisfaction will increase. Spend time alone to understand your inner issues. Don't try to dominate your emotions, let them flow, but deal with any emotional issue in a healthy way, don't let emotions dominate you, and don't dominate them either. No one needs to dominate anyone.

Moon in Taurus - Take care of yourself, pamper yourself, feel good when planning something for yourself. Tips: do something for yourself, like buying something, make inner pleasure possible, plan something that involves the idea of stability, even in the future.

Moon in Gemini - Emotional self-knowledge helps a lot. The "exit" for your emotions will be through the mind. Seek to understand what you feel on a mental level, practicing self-awareness, then verbalize what you feel. It can be difficult to organize your feelings on a mental level, but going through the knowledge path can help you not to over-intellect your emotions, validating them, and at the same time, understanding them mentally.

Moon in Cancer - Embrace your emotions and "stay" with them for a while. Feeling is extremely important to you, value your emotional and understand it. At the same time, take care of emotions, nourish yourself with caring gestures. What would you like to be done for you when you are down? Do it for yourself.

Moon in Leo - practice expressing your emotional side (where can people be positively influenced by you?), practice self-worth, start by valuing yourself in a healthy way. Use your creativity and willingness to change your emotional landscape.

Moon in Virgo - Practice emotional cleansing! What feelings no longer serve you? What patterns of feeling are no longer good for you? Clean your surroundings, especially a place of intimacy and inner contact (bedroom, for example), cleaning intimate places can bring emotional satisfaction. Beware of exterior mess, it can affect the interior life.

Moon in Libra - Be in harmony, seek something that brings you such harmony. Practice expression, externalize your emotions in something that involves the other (where people can listen you? remembering that it is important to look for others, but without cultivating dependence, ok?). Practice artistic expression (through body, for example). Reflect: What brings you the feeling that you are in balance?

Moon in Scorpio - Practice deeper inner contact, don't run away from your emotions, embrace them. Seek to understand the deepest reasons why you feel what you feel. Connect with your spirituality side. Understand how deep things work. Don't control your emotional, but know it. Don't let them control you, but get to know others. Seek the depth within you. Practice writing what you feel, look for ways to validate your feelings, recognizing that your depth is part of who you are, but always taking care not to fall into the extremes of feelings.

Moon in Sagittarius - As you have a great tendency to want satisfaction through expansion, perhaps seeking meaning in your emotions will help you, understanding why you feel what you feel within a larger context. Does that make sense? How can you use this "sense" for the greater good (yours or others)? In addition, certainly seek to go out, expand through fun, as long as it is healthy, it can help a lot.

Moon in Capricorn - To feel emotional satisfaction, plan for the future by thinking about an inner problem. Look at what can be done within your current moment, but aiming for the future. Can the current feeling of dissatisfaction be remedied by planning something? Plan to leave an environment to feel good, even in the future. And within this planning, think: "what should I do to reach this final objective?". Strive to change certain inner realities, which will certainly exist, through planning. Plan something to lessen a discomfort, pain, or simply to increase your inner satisfaction, your inner happiness.

Moon in Aquarius - Practice understanding your emotions through open reflection, without pruning the sentimental believing that it is something ugly or useless. Openly reflect on why you feel what you feel, for everything has a reason. Not denying feelings is ideal, and for inner satisfaction to arrive, you must reflect, use your mind to understand your emotional states. Criticize, reflect: "Does this feeling make sense?" "having or not having meaning, can I validate its existence?". Remembering that as a Moon in Aquarius, dealing with your emotions can be somewhat difficult for you, but it is not an impossible task. Your emotional is ruled by Uranus, which has everything to do with unpredictability, sudden changes, transformations that are unexpected, and it is also ruled by Saturn, which has everything to do with structure, stability, seriousness. You may have difficulty dealing with emotions as they will change as life flows, and at the same time that you want to transform, you want to structure. The issue is finding the balance.

Moon in Pisces - Practice transmuting your negative feelings through music, writing or art in general. Listen to something that resembles what you feel, connect with it. It is important to know how to get in touch with environments and people who vibrate in harmony with good things, with empathy. When you're feeling down, make use mainly of music to feel that you are understood by someone. Use your feelings as a way to gain knowledge about human emotions. Seek knowledge about human mind and emotions.

#moon #moon placements #moon in signs #self satisfied #moon in pisces #moon in aquarius #moon in capricorn #moon in sagittarius #moon in scorpio #moon in libra #moon in virgo #moon in leo #moon in cancer #moon in gemini #moon in taurus #moon in aries

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best-at-episode · 7 months

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Round 2 - Side C: Poll 4 of 4

The Cooler:

After a natural disaster hits the Fire Kingdom, Flame Princess is forced to team up with an unlikely ally.

Varmints:

Bubblegum turns to Marceline’s help when something threatens the citizens of her homestead.

propaganda under the cut

The Cooler:

one of the most underrated episodes of s6 and the whole show imho!! not only did it set up pb's character development for both the s6 finale and the first of half of s7, it also gave fp a much needed spotlight in figuring out where and how to take her own arc (even if cut short by how cn treated the show later lmao)…….. like, what if you are more than a thousand years old and leadership and sacrifice transformed you into something you don't quite recognize anymore and the person who brought this brutally honest mirror up to your face is someone you can see as a smaller, younger version of yourself as a leader…… what if you see a person with self-proclaimed authority undermining your autonomy and self-actualization again and not flinching away from it but STANDING UP not only for yourself and your people!!! c'mon!! tasty tasty narrative foils to each other in a way nobody could've seen coming… like c'mon!!! ALSO ALSO the insane mad scientist woman vs superpowered fire teenager fight? incredible. showstopping. the ending of the episode having pb giving away even a tiny bit of control she felt she had to have all over her life and other people's in order to not come crashing down, breaking off her survellaince system? breathtaking, even more so in the context of what later the show took her character; so in conclusion: the cooler is one of the best episodes of AT and to accomplish this much in only 11 minutes is insane

Varmints:

for obvious reasons. But also this is such a big episode for Bonnie. Coming to terms with the fact that she needs to rest and that her workaholism has hurt her and others… It’s good!!!

Divorced couple talk about why they didn't work out the ep. But On a Serious Note: it's such a satisfying ep both wrt Peebles' individual chara development and their relationship arc. Up to that point, PB had been really close-minded and self-assured to the point of arrogance. I love that we get to see her so vulnerable with that of being exiled, still struggling with her controlling tendencies, but finally willing to admit her faults humbly. Also, Bubbline. But it was Real satisfying to have such a nice bone thrown our way, with them finally talking about why things didn't work between them. THE GRAFITTI. Seeing how much both of them have grown to the point they can be more honest and intentional about giving each other another go. Jsut so many things.

#adventure time #atimers #fionna and cake #princess bubblegum #marceline abadeer #flame princess #tournament poll #round 2

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rouf-4 · 1 year

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Descendant ruler Aspects: Part 1

What kind of people you attract

Hello guys, I'm back and I'll be doing this serie where I'll be describing what kind of people you attract depending on your 7th house ruler aspects, for example: if you have leo in the cusp of the 7th house, your descendant ruler is the Sun, so depending of the aspects the sun has, you will prefer or attract certain people depending of where the sun is in the chart and what aspect it has.

Disclaimer: I want you to know that these are my personal observations, the placements I'll be describing doesn't necessarily have to work the same for everyone, depending of other aspects you may have in your chart the description of the following aspects may change. Also I'm not a professional astrologer, I just love astrology and got to learn it with my own means, so whatever I found out about certain placements may not be the same for everyone else.

Leo descendent (sun ruling the 7th house)

The sun is such an inspiring force to have on the 7th house, so if you have Leo here you want to identify strongly with the values of your partner and need an extra validation and appreciation of your natural shine (your sign's qualities) in the house where your natal Sun is. If your Sun is making hard aspects to your descendent (Aquarius, Taurus and Scorpio) you may feel like your relationship outshine or take away your autonomy, with the opposition (aquarius sun) you may feel your partner is way too demanding and need much more attention than you, but you have to remember that our descendent is actually as part of us as any other placement in our natal chart, so it's important to identify with your Leo descendent qualities to avoid arrogant and narcissist partners; with the square it's important to understand that material (Taurus) heart (Leo) and spirit (Scorpio) are all unreplaceable parts every human being has, so if you naturally feel more drawn to one of those you must still learn the other to complete your whole being, shadow work, some meditation with the body and positive affirmations should help you to integrate those parts of yourself.

If the sun is in positive aspects (Aries, Sagittarius, libra and Gemini) you feel reinforcement of your natural personality traits in the relationships you have, this could also means you feel way to attached in your relationships and may identify too much with your partner, with the conjunction you may feel you are more yourself when you're with some else, projecting sun-like qualities in your partner and enemies, Leo natural qualities and the sun being dominant could possibly make you really popular among your one-on-one interaction and you could also attract a great deal of jealousy among your enemies. If the sun is terribly afflicted you may use people to get recognition and achievements, also could be a tendency to only relate with people who can give you some gain.

*Sun aspects Moon: If the moon is aspecting the sun, it may be a emotional necessity to be worshipped and nourished or worship and nourish your partner, you may be extremely generous with your partner and expect the same energy from them, there could be intense feeling which turn sour if it's a hard aspect, and also some patterns from the parents' relationship that are replied in the native relationships. Emotional containment and openness could be hard to achieve due to the own unresolved emotional conflict, the native may project some paternal o maternal characteristics to their partner and could be hard to own their emotional weight and to acknowledge the patterns. With easy aspects and the conjunction could be a emotional understanding and an intuitive response to their partner's need, there could be some emocional or physical codependency and an overall feeling of safeness in the native relationships. Your partner could be emocional, moody, affectionate and shy, if afflicted you could attract emotional unbalanced partners.

*Sun aspects Mercury: there could be a need for mental stimulation in relationships duo to the native identification with their thoughts and their mental abilities, the native could be proud of their ideas and expect a partner to recognize and identify with them, communication could be harsh and prideful if mercury is combust, and depending of the sign could be a fixation with ideas that makes hard for the native to communicate properly in relationships, could try to be a mentor in relationships or be attracted to those who take that role (teacher, couches, motivational speaker, influencer, debaters etc.), If mercury is in a fire sign or house could be some intellectual arguments and the ego could be hurt easily if there's no a mutual agreement. Any hard feeling with siblings could be projected to partners (most if the sun or mercury are in the 3rd house), overprotectiveness and claimed to be protected can be a usual dynamic. Their partner could be a neighbor, a school crush, an intellectual or egocentric person, they may be witty, distant, obsessive, a lier, manipulative, messy, polite and functional.

*Sun aspects Venus: there could be some light hearted connection with people around the native, their networking is really favorable with this aspect even if hard aspected, Venus-like qualities can shine through their sense of identity and their relationships, most problems will come with a hypersensitivity to criticism and a huge hunger for praise and adoration, this native can be extremely jealous due to their insecurities, and can be superficial tendency to relate with beautiful and wealthy people only; if well aspected the native is able to bring their natural charm and loveliness to every interaction with people, their venusian qualities are respected and well like among their acquaintances, partners and even enemies. These natives can attract jealous, superficial, frivolous, bossy, charming, wealthy, beautiful, peaceful, respected and fun-loving partners.

*Sun aspects Mars: Determination and leadership qualities is something that come to mind when we think in Sun-Mars individuals, with such an assertive combo ruling the 7th house, we expect the native to need a really self-reliance partner who can keep their own projects as much as invest a great amount of effort to keep the relationship spicy, the danger with this combination if really afflicted can be a really turbulent, short-lived and even violent relationships with people around the native, the native is force to resolve their inner conflict between their ego and their assertiveness through acquaintances, partners and enemies; these native should try to not over project their own conflict in others if it's pretend to have some healthy and long-lasted relationships. If well aspected native can bring their natural fiery personality to every interaction they have with people around. These people can attract jealous, possessive, angry, loud, conflicted, combative, agressive, passionate, impulsive, pioneers, hard workers, competitive and competent partners.

*Sun aspects Jupiter: When the great zodiac's benefit is touching the magnanimous Sun things can get bright, really bright, Jupiter nature is expansive and being the Sun the king astro, this can give the native a extravagant, generous, optimistic, egotistical and extrovert touch in their relationships, if not terrible afflicted of course. Any way the native can have an enormous sense of self that can easily project onto partners and people around them; there's a innate sense of goodness and can have a habit of justify any action with their phylosophy but judge harshly those who commit the same actions. There's a tendency to believe that they can disrespect others' boundaries if it's according to them "for a greater cause", they can have a really hard time understanding people who don't tend to live their live fully and fearless, or they can't judge others for these behavior and call them too wild. Any way people with any aspects have to settle a well stablish phylosophy that can judge others as hard as they judge themselves, and of course should try to be as fair as possible, any way their generosity and expontanious nature always enchant those around them, our always optimistic jupitarians seems to have the luck by their side no matter what. These people can attract expontanious, generous, lucky, optimistic, exaggerated, obsessive, wasters, judgy, enigmatic, diplomatic, delusional, egotistical and invasive partner.

*Sun aspects Saturn: These really reliable people tend to focus their shine in well structured manners and a great sense of responsibility and competency that amused those around them, but if hard aspect this can be just a mask to cover really deep insecurities. Saturn influence tend to take the Sun super-star quality down to earth, restrictions and limitations in relationships is not unusual with this aspect, you are here to master yourself through the relationships you build every day. Depending of the aspect there could be a great strength to fullfil really satisfying and long-term relationships, or could be a emotional blockage that make the native keep their walls too high in order to avoid intimacy. Usually it really gets better if you have worked on yourself enough to fullfil your Saturn return proof, if not you could feel your partners or relations with others as a burden which limit yourself from expressing who you truly are; you must recognize your own auto impose limitations in order to not end up victimizing yourself and your situation, also could be a tendency to continue with relationship that are not evolving anymore because these bring the native security, but remember, Saturn test are going to become harder in order to you accept your reality and rebuild something better and if the relationships are not strong enough they'll crash. These people can attract some serious, reserve, timid, emocional blocked, high status, critic, realistic, supportive, understanding, mature, hard-working, smart, high skilled, affectionless, hard to understand, distant, methodic and obsessive partner.

*Sun aspects Uranus: the oppose energies of the planets working together definitely don't let anyone indifferent, Uranus bring a sense of community deeply tight to the sense of identity, people often find themselves loving and bounding with other ideals more than they actually value others' personality traits, actually they find some common emocional places annoying and tend to attached more to their highest ideals; something not unusual in this type is to almost avoid on purpose any kind of terrenal experience in relationships, usually can have traits that put a great distance between anyone they interact with, this could be an unorthodox vocabulary, or maybe some weird gesticulation; any way those who have the tensest aspects tend to either fall into really magalomaniac personality product of their self impose loneliness, or avoid any kind of weirdness within themselves to feel accepted in their relationships. These natives would enjoy freedom in every relationship, but problems arise when they understand freedom as a way to avoid every hard feeling or commitment, usually attract people who run away from them, or they end up scaping from other people if they don't feel mentally stimulated. They attract megalomaniac, egotistical, excentric, different, free-thinkers, idealistic, emotional contained, intellectual, reformer, leaders, charismatic, unique, positive partners.

*Sun aspects Neptune: the endless and deep emocional waters of Neptune clothes the tender glow of the Sun, maybe it's kind of hard for such a magnanimous force to shine it's brighter there, but Neptune lesson here is to develop our collective conscious through our individuality; as hard as this sound sun-neptune people have an amazing skill to integrate any feeling around them to the one-on-one relationships, this sensitive natives understand better than most people how to make others emotions theirs, the challenge with hard aspects and the conjunction is to identify where others emotions ends and where they own subconscious projections begin, with Neptune aspecting our king astro, we generally lack a strong sense of self, so we look for ourselves in our relationship with other. These natives tend to send unconscious projections to other people or people tend to project their fantasies onto them; these natives tend to play many different roles in their relationship, adapting themselves to the actions that give better response with their currently obsession. Daydreaming instead of actually act upon their feeling is something really common among these people. These natives can attract liars, delusional, shy, in their head, imaginative, creative, addictive, selective, secretive, spiritual, empathetic, understanding, emocional, distant, evasive and innocent partners.

*Sun aspects Pluto: as any aspect where Pluto is involved, transformation is there, so when these underground force are mixed with our identity and the way we relate with others, it's not uncommon to see these very attentive people to notice such transformations in others relationship since really young, if harshly aspected this could mean the many deaths of relationship the native had to watch while growing up, such an intense and some times traumatic experience make the native observe really well those around them, they could be really charismatic and magnetizing in their really close relationships and keeping a reserve and distant image for everyone else; such a traumatic experience most often create really deep thinker with paranoid tendencies and a strong intuition which are freacuently bad utilized, this make the native appear reserve, introvert, intense, intimidating, dangerous and sometimes a predator. These native under all those walls are waiting for someone who they can melt with, but, they spend their life repeating a pattern of letting their fear control them and losing who they really want because of this, or could be vise versa, any way it's hard for even the most positive of this native to actually trust others, because there's these many experience of death of relationship that let them wondering if there will be such a soul that can completely give themselves to the native, a usual problem is that people can not be together if they were not something different before so as this states, there's not a relationship if each one can't have their own individuality. If well aspected (and develop) you could trust that these natives make great lover and bring such and unbeatable passion and loyalty to every relationship. These people can attract dangerous, control-freaks, obsessive, calculative, intense, jealous, vindictive, radical, winner, hard-working, powerful, wealthy, introvert, passionate, loving, caring, overprotective, tradicional and intelligent partner.

#astrology #astrologypost #astro community #astro observations #7th house #descendant astrology #love #romance #zodic signs #horoscope

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ember-owlet · 1 year

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dynamic: cg! donna beneviento headcanons

a/c: our beloved dollmaker is one of my top comfort characters (i think about her 24/7), so this list is gonna be much longer than my usual ones. also, each item in the moodboard is going to correspond to these headcanons, though in no particular order. as a disclaimer most of these are based off of my own regression/daydreams so its very self indulgent in nature. there may be some things that won’t be based on canon but instead my own interpretation of the character (especially since what we know in canon of donna is very little unfortunately ( ╥ω╥ ))

i hope you enjoy!

warming up to people outside of her own family would be difficult for the introverted lord, however once she’s made up her mind about someone/considers them one of her own, there’s nothing she wouldn’t do for you

out of the four of them she was the fastest to understand what your regression is and its benefit to your mental health. i mean she is the village dollmaker, she’d understand more than anyone what its like to find joy in things meant for children.

and who’s to say that she isn’t a regressor herself? i believe wholeheartedly she’d be a flip, she may not have understood the terminology at first but her tendency to go non-verbal and have angie speak for her is my main evidence

the moment she comes to understand what she needs to do to help you, you’ll find her one of the sweetest caregivers ever

and she’s so. observant.

if she finds you taking a liking to anything in particular (whether it be a food, a show, or even a material of clothing) she’ll be taking notes of it to either get you more of it or as a reward for your good behavior (gotta make sure she’s raising a respectful little one, y’know?)

her leather bound book would have all of her observations: your schedule, your likes and dislikes, and her ideas for gifts months in advance

there’s absolutely no way that you’d be able to hide anything from her, there’s eyes everywhere in the beneviento house!

it’s mostly for your safety of course, she respects your autonomy and your privacy of things that you’d like to keep to yourself

though i can’t say the same for angie, she’s one of the biggest tattletales the village had ever known

donna would chuckle to herself if she were to find a “surprise gift” under your bed while cleaning, remarking to herself how good of a little one she has for thinking of her

as a creative soul herself she would absolutely encourage it, you would have a separate room right next to her office to let your creativity run wild (though supervised if she noticed you in a smaller mindset)

if you like sewing, she’d have an entire suitcase of child-safe needles and scissors for you. if you like to paint she’d always make sure that you have sufficient amounts of each mediums

she loves anything that involves the use of her skilled hands, one of her favorite pastimes being knitting. you could always find her humming near the fire, seamlessly switching the yarn in between each row

it would only take you to silently sit in front of her with your back turned for her to put everything down and begin brushing and braiding your hair, you were almost convinced it was a superpower in itself how perfectly even each of the braids would come out without fail

though she can get completely lost in her work she’d always make sure to set time aside for her little one, as though you two weren’t already attached at the hip. neither of you mind, silent company is something that you both greatly enjoy

if there is ever a need for her to not have you near her, angie is your assigned babysitter for any occasion, though she’d take the role of being your superior to heart, and voila you have a mischievous older sibling

though she wouldn’t admit it there isn’t anything that angie wouldn’t do for you either. of course she has moments of getting jealous that you take donna’s attention away from her, but if she notices even one wrong look from the other dolls towards you they’d be having a word with her or donna soon after

storytimes are an absolute must before bed, they were already something that donna would do for the other residents of the house when she felt like it, but now it had become routine. most of the genres would be the old folk tales and gothic literature that she was raised on

you can bet that she’d be using her powers of hallucination to let you see the world around you as the set of whichever story of your choosing

your desire to want to mimic her in everything she does is something that she finds so endearing about you. she’d be in the kitchen cooking a meal for the two of you and then look down to find you tugging on the bottom of her dress, ushering you instead to your play kitchen to “help”.

“perdonami, piccola ombra, the oven is too dangerous.” followed closely by angie tugging you away to a safer area of the house

piccola ombra= little shadow, a name given to you by donna when she found you following her around the house with a blanket over your body and a stuffy clutched close to your chest with a veil over their head to mimic her and angie

besides piccola ombra, she would have many petnames that she would shower you with throughout the day, though her favorite of all would be either tesoro (treasure) or bambolina (little doll), but especially coniglietta (bunny)

because of that you will find bunny items everywhere, from your plushies to your lotion to the items engraved around your room

the two other ways that she notices you copying her is gardening and baking. any of the produce that you both procure would be used in your meals and treats.

donna always thought it best to work for the things that you want rather than to depend on others. her status as lord always guaranteed she were given things on a silver platter, and for that she always found gardening to make her less reliant on help.

after finally clearing off the brush and snow, the two of you would find yourselves enjoying the afternoon picnicking outside with the other dolls with two different tea sets: one silverware and another wooden set to play with. you two would watch the sun set over the courtyard, and if you grew sleepy she’d be happy to carry you back to bed

you would never find a more loving, attentive, and dedicated caregiver than donna beneviento ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

#cg! donna #donna beneviento #agere #age regression #fandom agere #resident evil #resident evil agere #resident evil village #embers writings #she just means so much to me :')

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I’d love to hear your thoughts on the situation between Ben and Annie. My best friend thinks Ben’s attitude towards Annie is unwarranted but I completely see where he’s coming from. My mom is a lot like Annie, she had me when she was young, so she was the “fun mom”. Although my mom did the best she could and I love her, she acted more like a best friend to me rather than a mom. When I was a teenager, (though I didn’t want to) I held feelings of bitterness and resentment because she refused to get her shit together, and grow up. It’s honestly frustrating when you’re more mature than your parent so I can see where the anger in Ben is coming from. Though Annie is by no means a bad mom, her refusal to seek better for herself has no doubt impacted Ben in a negative way.

I agree with you, anon, I think Ben's attitude towards Annie is pretty much always warranted, especially when you take into account her tendency to either buy him off or guilt him when he's upset with her or when he tries to confront any of her behaviour.

Ben and Annie's relationship was actually one of my favourites on the show, and I loved that the writers and Mae and Isaiah always gave it room to get a little messy. One of the things that worked best about it was the fact that the love they had for each other was never in question, so it meant there was more room for conflict around parenthood and childhood and what happens when those lines blur as they often did with Annie and Ben. After all, she was a child herself when she had him, and as s3 and s4 further explored, she was really raised by a child herself in Beth.

There's this sort of fascinating thing with the parentification of children in that sense, but interestingly I think it's Beth and Ben who bore the brunt of that, and not Annie who was the only one of the three of them who actually became a parent as a child. It places her as a character who's really arrested in her own development, but in a lot of ways, becomes a catalyst for both her sister and her son having to grow up too quickly.

In a way, Beth and Ben can feel like these parallel characters who are coming into their own identities throughout the series, albeit in very different ways, and frequently Annie becomes like a narrative elastic for them. She's a character they pull away from and snap back to and who tests the constraints of their own growth, which makes sense! Children and siblings do test parts of themselves out on their parents and siblings! It's very often how we grow as people.

I think in Ben's case with Annie, him starting to really express himself and test his autonomy and independence is something that is coloured by the sort of resentment from feeling that he's had to look after her, and that their co-dependence for much of his childhood has been something that's forced him into that role of parentified child. He's the one who has to leave the post-it notes up to remind her to pay rent, he's the one who has to help her find a therapist, he's the one caught in the middle when she and his dad behave immaturely and cheat behind his step-mom's back.

It's not deliberate on Annie's part of course, but her own arrested development has forced those closest to her to step up into adulthood before they were necessarily ready, and the see-sawing as she did try to grow up caused understandable pain on both their parts because it was not only a shake-up their established dynamic, but because it was a shake-up to their established dynamic, they were both confronted with the reality that there was something in that that was maybe a little broken.

We saw that manifest in so many ways, but especially with Annie trying to keep the fact that she was trying to get her highschool diploma again after failing the first time, and with Ben being so hurt that Annie would try and do the adult thing and keep him out of parts of her adult life. The show slipped a bit on some of that towards the end, but overall, I do think Annie and Ben had one of the most satisfying and complicated narrative arcs on the show, and I so, so wish we'd gotten his reaction and the fallout to Annie's arrest.

#omg this has taken me fourteen years to get to anon i am SO sorry #it got swallowed up by my inbox but i really wanted to answer it #anyway yes!#i agree with you #i think he's allowed to feel everything he feels in the show #he goes through a lot!#and i love his relationship with annie but it's far from being a healthy one #annie + ben #annie + beth #annie marks #ben marks #beth boland #nbc good girls #gg meta #welcome to my ama

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ES(F) — Extraverted Sensation supported by Feeling

Imagine that your world is a body of water. There's all sorts of ways you can move through it. You can just wade in the water, experiencing it while never fully submerging yourself, you can float above the water and bouy yourself with your own weight. You can choose to move constantly or stay fairly static. You can alternate between all sorts of things, whatever makes your experience of the water most enjoyable. For the ES, it is like being submerged all the time, completely surrounded by the water and never needing to come up to breathe. You're constantly aware of how the water feels because it's constantly everywhere, always, in all your senses. Having all this water around you all the time obviously gives you a sense of ease within it, to the point where you find yourself confident in cutting through the water and moving yourself wherever you want to be. Your strength underwater also allows you to move others, whether to help them or help yourself. It's not that everyone else is poor at managing themselves per se, but that you're so accustomed to the water that's almost second instinct to control or assist where needed. You can hold complete autonomy over your choices in the water, because you know no one can do it like you can, but at the same time, your submergence can almost leave you feeling stuck if you aren't constantly moving, conquering new things. This type is a person of actions. "I am active, therefore I exist". "I do not need anyone to teach me, I know what I am supposed to do". Often this type will do things before thinking. Their hands move faster than their heads think: they are people of action who accept responsibility for the consequences. When retired, the type withers away, gets ill, he whines and feels miserable. They have to do something, anything. Most extraverted type, endowed with a great capacity for enjoying life and a zeal for experimentation, drinking, fighting, playing, bullying, doing, achieving. Able to absorb an immense number of facts, remembering everything; they are moved by their sense of realism. Always aware of all the details going around their situation, pays sharp attention to things. They merge with their own senses, the external stimuli is their purpose. If what they started to do is blocked, they do it another way. Deals with a situation as it arises, without any kind of plan or standard. People of this type are good at pulling conflicting factions together and making things run smoothly. Some manitestations of the type are over-competitive. some other manifestations, compulsive gamblers and beer enjovers, some manifestations are jus harmonizers with a deep and broad royal sense of appearance and beauty.

Their entire energy and appearance involves having a massive volitional sphere of power and indulgence. This type can often times appear as strongly sexual (and feminine). They value material possessions and take the time to acquire, care for, and enjoy them. Greatly values good food, good music, good art, animals and hugs. Oriented to over-working, physical exercise. sports all day, running and running. Characterized by ungovernablity, desires, instincts, uncontrollable impulses. Striving to discharge the physical more than moral (spiritual) properties. Impulsive reactions, gives freedom to irritability, openly speaks of his demands and claims, comes to contention, becomes rude. Tendency for physical labor, changes places of work. Shortness of temper. Not few chronic alcoholics among them. Impulsive in the sexual sphere, promiscuous sexual relations, often instability in relations with a chosen partner, may enter into prostitution. In youth may impulsively run away from home. Distinguished by affection, cares for his children, often willing to provide any assistance. This type does not like talking about health issues and usually uses simple treatment, a quick fix like aspirin. Until he drops dead he works hard and often the reason of his death is an unexpected sickness, because of his carelessness the sickness was neglected. Doesn't like being passive - he hates being touched, he wants to touch and hug, not be touched or hugged - wants to affirm its own existence and in order to do that, they enforce their desires and volition, their will and their intentions On everything and everyone. This type consistently attracts the attention and affection of people around it, usually making a big scene. a whole drama. an entire explosion of upbeat adrenaline Prefers honesty over politeness. Inclined to insult and bully. mocking and plaving with specific people. Danger and surprise do not cause rear or anxiety. Irustration, instea. aanger and surprise gives enthusiasm and excitement. Troublesome personalitv: some manifestations of this tpe may cry in public like babies and accuse their partners. they are possessive. jealous. easily envious and furious. Too carefree: never thinks about the consequences of their actions. Some versions always acts and speaks on its whims, other versions may be sadistic, manipulative and two-faced. Seeks or expects praises or love aggressively and persistently, never gives up. Thinks very highly of themselves (and maybe of their partners too). At times, this type seems to be a walking encyclopedia, because they accumulate knowledge and remember it precisely. Their mind is like a library where every single data gets registered. Their cognition is that of an "obsessive photography taker". Can be very tolerant, easily accepts and forgives others' imperfections and mistakes. They'll like or dislike someone or something based off their appearance and skills.

Some manifestations of the type can be stereotypical tsunderes, some versions are sadodere, others just megadere, and it goes on. If you are late for work and your boss is someone of this type, they may reprimand you harshly, even rudely. But in five minutes they will come to you as a matter of factly to discuss business as if nothing had happened. He just vented his anger, no big deal. This type often uses words "shame", "disaster", "I hate it", "I like it", "fantastic", "great". In a dialogue he is able to easily find rapport and talk about the opponent's problems. but he never forgets about his own goals. He produces an illusionary impression that he really cares about other people's problems. This type is loved despite of his boldness, people trust him, they vote for him hoping he will change things for the better. He prefers to keep people at a distance, he does not make friends in the office (command, platoon, etc.); there is a distance, a uniform, a business talk within the framework of the rules of rank. They at times sincerely do not realize how tactless they are. He approaches a talking couple and as a matter of factly interrupts and addresses the person he needs to talk to; - the thing is, approaches them without second thought, says something, disrupting the space of the dialogue, takes care of his business, while the other partner takes off. Usually, this type lacks basic abilities of analysis and awareness of how to use and produce, organize and systematize efforts effectively. Though some versions of the type are knowledgeable enough to never have problems. Some manifestations of the type can be even really knowledgeable and intellectual, but they never focus on those aspects of the world, being generally described as something else. They charisma and pleasure-seeking, leadership personality, are what matters most. Dedicated, this type would do anything in his power to make what he wants become true. Protective and caretaking of those he loves. Some manifestations are prone to emotional stress, strict coldness or furious and self-righteous anger, having a demanding and dominating nature. Yet, this type can manifest as innocent and empathetic. Supportive vs Vindictive is truly a polarity common for this type. Can be inventive, resourceful and interested in innovation. respects obligations. I alwavs think of this toe as someone to over-work until they get their work done verfectlv: If someone of this toe ever receives a task. they will impulsively solve it. They do not administer time or processes. they do everything as it comes. They solve all their obligations first and then return to their goals. Generally, this tvpe knows how to change someone's emotions and can detect if someone dislikes them, considers them a threat, a friend, etc.

This type has to be in a positive mood to achieve results, if a boss of this type is in a good mood, he may sign the paper even without looking. Makes decisions easily, never being a perfectionist (he accepts all imperfections and mistakes in the world, most realistic type). but he has hard time changing his mood, a hard time thinking about the future, a hard time pondering about what he could have done better etc. This type's intuition is poorly differentiated. He has a hard time speaking about his premonitions and feelings, insights. He doesn't know what symbols might be there. He just has a 'gut feeling' about something and cannot explain anything. He doesn't talk in prophetic language, rather, communicates like things are a simple ghost story childish. Primitive, archaic. For someone of this type, circumstances that are completely known and clear do not give an opportunity to get excited, therefore he tries to create a bifurcation, a stress, a conflict, when it is necessary to make decision on which further succession of events depends, when there is nothing set and fixed and it is necessary to work in unknown circumstances. This type often acts intuitively, instinctively. The working principle is "create danger and conquer", "get used to danger, to new things". This type expects difference, he wants something new. something unusual. something he can't comprehend. He expects to receive new stimuli, new data. And this may be a vicious cycle. Addictions are common for this type, and I wonder if they tell ghost stories, random nightmares or dreams, love ilusions and similar things, when drunk. Something interesting to describe: This type can often hallucinate. The inferior intuition of this type can become so repressed and forgotten that it may get upset and invade the actual conscience; hallucinations are essentially intuitions, but those intuitions for some reason became transformed or merged with the sensations. This type's intuition may manifest as delusional stimuli and rose-colored glasses of love and fanatical seeking of new sensations. It can hallucinate and get pretty crazy. Of course, this is just a possible dynamic of the type's functions. I wouldn't really expect someone of this type to have schizophrenia. But considering the relations between functions and the cognition, it is possible.

#personality theory #personality types #typology #cognitive functions #jung #jungian typology #es #se #es(f)#esfp

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catboygirlboss · 1 year

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my OCs’ toxic traits

elsie tends to take things really personally. it's not intentional, but every time they hear someone laugh, they think they're laughing at them. whenever they see a post online vagueing someone, they worry it's about them. whenever someone criticizes something they say or do, they think it's out of hatred. they make it really hard to set boundaries without intending to

searra is kinda awful in a special sort of way. like she's all i love my sibling and if anyone hurt them id make them hurt ten times worse" and that's great but he doesn't notice the harm he's causing by trying to make decisions on their behalf. her intentions are pure i guess because she genuinely wants to help and make life easier for elsie, but in doing so he's taking away their autonomy, which is especially a big deal considering elsie is autistic (and a lot of allistics think autistics shouldn't have autonomy)

jessica is the kinda gal who's like,, i refuse to see the negativity of the situation and i also refuse to let anyone else see it. like she rejects negativity and is therefore really sensitive to criticism of any kind. her toxic trait is her optimism

aidan is so unwilling to change. he knows xe’s a shit person and can’t be bothered to improve. he mainly doesn’t think it would change anything, but on a subconscious level xe doesn’t think he’s worth the effort. also, on a more conscious level, he’s extremely pessimistic about the world and thinks that everyone is just as shitty as xem on some level

keith is very reactive, and tends to listen to twitter too much. he hears a trans person say " used to be a girl/boy" and goes "but the trans experience is more like 'ive always been a girl/boy but didn't know it?" and the trans person has to explain to him that not every trans person feels the same way about gender. and like keith will get mad mad when he hears a slur, even if the person can reclaim it (ie a gay man saying the f slur). i guess you could say he has a savior complex? he tries too hard to be a good ally and in so doing ends up hurting the people he's trying to stick up for

selene has a tendency to be emotionally manipulative without intending to be. in her mind, owning up to your flaws means insulting yourself. so when she messes up she says something like "sorry, im an idiot" and thinks she's owning up but really she's just unintentionally using self deprecation as a shield, making the other person feel like they need to reassure her even though she was the one in the wrong

#the element trials #elsie delmont #searra delmont #jessica kings #aidan bellcamp #keith manchester #selene moustafa

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'only tenet of TERFism is transmisogyny' EXCUSE ME NO ITS ALL TRANS PEOPLE. They don't want any trans person to exist. What the hell.

Some people just gotta center their own suffering always, even when they're hurting other people by doing so. I've seen this a lot in younger queer folx of all stripes, this need to be the one that hurts the most, you know?

There's a reason the phrase Oppression Olympics exists, and it's because it's a common behavior or phenomenon in oppressed communities. I see it in the disability community, too.

What I think is important to understand when we talk about how trans people suffer under transphobia is that different groups are targeted differently. I'm not the first person to say this, of course.

Now, like, this is very rough sketchy stuff, and each person's individual experiences will vary, but in my general experience, the rough breakdown of the way in which transphobia lands on trans people kind of breaks down like this:

Binary trans women tend to suffer under a lens of hypervisibility. Everything they do is seen, analyzed, and torn apart. Their struggles are generally the ones centered in the arguments of allies, "allies," and transphobes. Even when trans women are the focus of helpful attention, that hypervisibility can cause exhaustion, because they need to perform perform perform, and be perfect, all the time. It's hard for trans women to just be without feeling like they're on camera, all the time. A lot of the time, they are on camera, because trans women's bodily autonomy and right to privacy are just never respected by transphobes (and often by supposed "allies" who feel free to ask the most invasive questions and get upset when trans women won't answer them), and even if they're not literally on camera, they're supposed to perform as the best examples of transfemininity, because if they don't, then they become the next 'look at this bad trans, all trans are this bad trans' example that TERFs point at and use as a broad brush to paint all trans women. If they're not perfect all the time and have a day where they snap at someone while someone is recording, or make a mistake, or anything, it has a horrible tendency to go viral. You can think of at least three instances right now off the top of your head, right? Right.

Binary trans men tend to suffer from hyperinvisibility. This comes from inside and outside the community -- a lot of trans men talk about being told they can't lead in community because they've 'got male privilege,' that their struggles are discarded, that they're talked over and unable to discuss the things they face, which means they don't get the support they need. Now, there are TERFs and transphobes who absolutely do focus their attention on trans men to the exclusion of or to the deprioritization of the oppression of trans women -- that's where we get Tavistock and Irreversible Damage and Fourth Wave Now and all the other bullshit which focuses on the idea that trans men are "transing the gay away," specifically "transing our butch lesbians" and "stealing butches." But again, generally speaking, trans men face harmful levels of invisibility where trans women face harmful levels of visibility. That's why transmascs in general have issues like lack of understanding even by supposedly trans-competent doctors as to how HRT affects our bodies, why trans men (and transmascs in general) report things like transphobes attacking them with transmisogynistic comments and assuming that every trans person online is a trans woman, etc.

Non-binary (here used as an umbrella term for all identities outside of binary man/woman, to include agender, genderfluid, non-binary, and infinite other identities) AFAB people tend to suffer from a different, very specific form of hypervisibility, unless they start to appear too masculine, and then they slip into hyperinvisibility. This is where we get things like "women and non-binary people" that codes all non-binary people as "AFAB people I can sort of squint and view as women," and people who fall into this category tend to get a lot of attention, a lot of derision from all sides of the spectrum. This is the "blue-haired tenderqueer" sneering that we get from both within and without the queer community, where there's an assumption that these people are just cosplaying an identity, that they're not really trans, etc. Having been in the visibility category and slipped into the invisibility category within the last, oh, year or so, and having two binary trans women in my family to compare notes with, the experiences are unnervingly similar. The difference between the experience that those women have had and the experience that I have had is that according to transphobes, I'm a traitor to my womanhood and performing femininity wrong and taking on a fake identity to escape female oppression because I'm not strong enough to bear up under it, but too cowardly to become a trans man, or... something, whereas they're taking on a fake identity to sneak into women's spaces because they're perverts.

Non-binary (umbrella identity etc) AMAB people tend to suffer from their own very specific form of hyperinvisibility, unless they start to present "too feminine", and then they slip into the hypervisibility which affects binary trans women, but with a little different fuckery in which everyone just assumes they're a trans woman, and therefore they get misgendered by everyone across the spectrum of queer/non-queer/etc. Non-binary AMAB people are generally treated like they don't exist, and when they are spoken about, are often discussed in the context of 'they should just admit they're trans women or gay men,' or if they present 'too feminine,' are subjected to the same sort of horrific attention that trans women get.

Again, a lot of this is very simplistic, and doesn't add in a lot of other complicating factors like race, disability, class, etc. Trans men of color, for example, can run into a different sort of hypervisibility because as they move further through their transition, they begin to be seen in the world as a man of color. It's not really mine to speak on beyond that, but I don't want to neglect saying 'this is really really simplistic and there's more to it than that' over and over.

I really hate breaking it down this simply because it feels like creating another binary (our society does like a binary!) for non-binary people, but like, I can't really talk about my shared experiences with other trans people without putting some framework around it. Someday, I'll be able to do that without categories. Wouldn't that be awesome?

I think we do our entire community a huge disservice when we talk about transphobia as if it's a single snake trying to take bites out of only one part of the community, and not a many-headed hydra, able to attack us from multiple different directions. I also think that focusing on one form of oppression keeps us from forming meaningful solidary and coalitions; the more divided we are, the easier it is for the people who literally want us all to stop existing to pick us off one by one. We see this all across the queer community and it's only ramping up as the attacks on our community escalate from without; people tend to turn on the ones closest to them when they get really scared, and to blame the person standing next to them for the pain they're suffering. It's the "close enough to hit" phenomenon, and it's why we see ridiculous things like "bi women make cis men think that lesbians can be won over," rather than acknowledging that bi women aren't the ones causing that: cis men are the ones causing that. The bi women in that case are close enough to hit. Transmascs are close enough to hit. Trans women are close enough to blame for the problems of transmascs, which makes it possible for TERFs to lure transmascs in and attempt to detransition them, subjecting them to gaslighting and manipulation and then using them as sock puppets.

TERFs do focus a lot on transmisogyny. They focus a lot on transmisandry, too. Debating which one is more prevalent and 'worse' not only misses the point, because transmascs and transfems face very different and totally rotten attention from cis society as a whole, including cis queers. We need to like, not do that anymore: we need to give each other the space to talk about our unique circumstances, but we also need to work harder on looking at each other through a lens of solidarity and trying to see that our struggles are different but not unrelated, and that if we keep downing on each other like this, we're not going to get anywhere except in a much more difficult situation as the people who don't want any of us to exist keep picking us off.

#transmisogyny #transphobia #transmisandry #queer issues #trans issues #long post

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Cautious

pairing: Rhea Ripley x Reader

summary: Rhea has a bit of a harsh reaction when someone bumps into you. The two of you talk about it later at home.

Your independence and autonomy were important to you, no matter what. Rhea understood that, and it was part of why the two of you worked so well together. The two of you did a lot of things together, but you also kept time to yourselves. Whenever the two of you found out that you were expecting, Rhea tried her hardest to keep things the same, but once you started showing things got a bit different. You appreciated the concern and care she took for you, but Rhea had a tendency to take things a bit too far.

"Crap, we need milk," you said as you looked at the contents of your shopping cart. Rhea didn't even wait for you to ask her to grab it, she just walked off. You waited near the checkout area for her to come back. Your nose was buried in your phone, scrolling through your Instagram feed to see what your friends and coworkers were up to.

"Sorry," a man muttered after accidentally knocking into you.

"'S okay," you accepted his apology. That should have been the end of it then and there, but it wasn't. Rhea had a very distinct stomp, especially whenever she was angry. Before the man could walk away, Rhea stepped in front of him. You wanted to stop the confrontation before it could begin, but Rhea was quicker than you were.

"Watch it mate," Rhea told him. It was to gauge his reaction more than anything else. The man looked past her at you, who was giving him an apologetic look, before returning his gaze to Rhea.

"I said I was sorry. It was an accident, calm down." At this, Rhea growled. You rolled your eyes and pulled her out of the situation before she did something to get you kicked out of the store. "Some people."

"Let go of me so I can kick his ass," Rhea grumbled. You tightened your grip on her because of that and tugged her along to the checkout line. She made a show of putting everything on the belt and putting the bags in the cart, a little huff of an exhale with each movement. She loaded up the car by herself while you sat in the passenger's seat waiting for Rhea.

"What was that back there?" You had waited to talk until the two of you were back home and the groceries were all put away. Rhea stabbed her spoon into a pint of ice cream, completely negating the casualty of her shrug. "Talk to me, please?"

"That guy could have hurt you and he didn't even care!" Rhea threw her arms in the air angrily. Behind the anger in her demeanor, you could see the fear in her eyes. Rhea had always been a bit protective of you, but now there was a little person growing inside of you that she also felt the need to protect. "What if your stomach had hit something or you fell, and something happened to the baby?"

"None of that did happen though. He bumped into me, both me and this baby are tougher than you think," you reminded Rhea. She took a deep breath and leaned against your back. Silently, she buried her face into your shoulder. You pretended not to feel the tears soaking through your shirt as she tried to calm herself down. Talking about things wasn't the easiest thing for the two of you, and you knew that before your conversation could end, Rhea needed to get this out of herself. It only took her a few minutes, your presence helping to ground her.

"You're the rest of my life, both of you," Rhea told you. She stood behind you with her hand splayed over your stomach, covering what she assumed to be the entirety of the area where the baby was residing. "I'm gonna be a little cautious sometimes, especially when it comes to your safety. I am sorry if it's overbearing, but I'm not going to let an accident jeopardize what we've built for ourselves."

"Fine, but no more confrontations in the grocery store, I'd hate for us to get banned from there," you said lightheartedly. Rhea nodded in agreement before pressing a kiss to your cheek and taking her ice cream to the living room. You chased after her, knowing that if she could, she'd eat it before you got any.

#rhea ripley imagines #rhea ripley imagine #rhea ripley x reader #rhea ripley #wwe #wwe imagines #wwe imagine #wwe x reader

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They say "trauma bonding" relationships don't last long term SO do you have any ships that would get together through trauma bonding and drift apart when the war is over and things get peaceful?

yes. all of them (but some more than others)

allow me to explain. i generally disagree with the idea that trauma bonding relationships don't last, and the reason why is because most relationships can last if you put in the effort and make the changes to make it work. i do agree 100% that relationships born during trauma are going to face huge challenges once everything is more peaceful, they're not gonna have any idea what to do with themselves. and there's gonna be lots of challenges, but i think a lot of relationships could last if everyone in the relationship put in the effort and work.

but anyway going specifically to bnha ships, every single one of them has the potential to drift apart post-war. the exceptions here would be ships between the adults where they've been together for ages before the war happened. but between the kids? any of them have the potential to get together during the war and then drift apart when things get peaceful. but to get even more specific with like, which ships in particular would be the most susceptible to this, i think basically every single deku ship would be affected by this.

the war is guaranteed to affect deku the most. and since getting thrown headfirst into UA with a brand new quirk that got a crazy supervillain on his tail and basically forces him to be the next greatest hero of all time, he's had no time to reflect on or process any of the trauma he's been through. and he's been through a LOT of trauma. if deku got together with literally anyone during or right after the war, i could definitely see the relationship having a very hard time staying together considering all of the stuff deku's going to get piled onto him with the end of the war. his partner would have to watch him sort through all this trauma, years and years of baggage and he would just not have the capability to really do much in a relationship.

that being said, deku is an extremely dedicated person and especially in a relationship with someone like bakugou who is fiercely loyal especially to deku and always puts his all into everything and works extremely hard to be the best, these two could work it out and make a relationship work. they'd probably need to take some space to work out their trauma as friends first, and then work back up to being in a romantic relationship again. but this is the opposite of what you asked for, so i'll say that i think my answer to your original question which took me ages to get to is: izuocha would suffer from this.

like combined with deku going through all this trauma and then ochako's need to be there for everyone and be the hero for heroes, not to mention she definitely has mad people pleasing tendencies, she would constantly put herself on the line to be there for deku. he'd need to process all of this trauma and work on himself without a romantic partner, but uraraka would drop everything to be there for deku and help him through his pain, which takes away from her pain. so i could definitely see them drifting apart after getting together during a very trauma filled time. and who knows, maybe after working on themselves, ochako gains some more autonomy within herself and deku works through his baggage and goes to therapy and actually has a conversation with bakugou instead of avoiding it every damn time, maybe they'd reconnect romantically and get back together! i like to have hope for relationships. all these kids deserve happiness. anyway this turned long and rant-y, sorry anon. although it is me you asked about this so like a tangent was kind of obligatory

anyway. this just turned into incoherent bkdk/izuocha rambling but like these are fantastic angst fic premises. someone write this because it would break my heart too much to write it myself

#thanks for asking <3 #analysis/rant #havent used this tag in a bit #damn #anon response #anon ask #bkdk #bakudeku #izuocha #angst #angst ideas #ship analysis #kinda #bnha #bnha analysis #also kinda #sorry this got long #i hope u enjoy my ranting anyway anon #this is just how i am lol

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ok djdjdjdj on a more serious note if you’d like to talk about control and lack thereof as a theme in campervan I am All Ears, and adding even More Ears if you’d like to tie that back to how that plays with 13’s amnesia, and Even More Ears if you’d like to look at how that theme gets declined in the different AUs, and so many more ears if you decide to throw Kosch into the mix (pls don’t ask me where I got all those ears)

You take off your anon shades and reveal that you're actually 17 ears in a trenchcoat -

BUT YES oh my days so the idea of control (and lack thereof) is woven into a LOT of campervan au. A lot of the Doctor's issues (and Koschei's, actually) stem from a lack of control, and that feeling of needing to be in control. Like, for example, her attachment issues and how she has a tendency to push people away comes from (in part) the fact that she got moved around a lot from an early age thanks to the foster care system. So then that lack of control means that now, in her adult relationships, she's constantly bracing herself for people leaving her, and often she'll try and take back control by then being like Actually I'm Leaving Them (see: the scene at the end of campervan part 2 when she's awful to Graham - because she'd rather cut the strings herself than have the rug pulled out from underneath her). And it's genuinely so sad because she has so many good friends she's just incapable of really seeing it, and seeing that she can actually go back and talk to them even though they're not hanging out anymore, or they've drifted apart. For example - take Martha, or Amy and Rory, or Jack. She could go back and talk to them easily, and they would be so happy to hear from her. But she doesn't see that.

But then how it plays into her amnesia is also really interesting, because that's all about these instincts and fears that she can't shake but can't explain either. Her fear of hospitals is a great example - because she can't control it - she has these instincts she can't understand and can't fight, and she hates that. It really scares her, sometimes. And the not knowing is what makes it so hard - because maybe if she knew, she could rationalise it, understand why she's scared and do something to work around it. But she can't even do that. And immediately after the crash, that was particularly blatant, because she really needed to go to hospital, and she couldn't. It's even worse in anterograde (for many OTHER reasons besides) because she knows why she's scared, but she can't remember enough of what's happening around her to keep track of what's going on, and also she can't develop any trust with anyone (not that she would anyway hahah but when she only has 2-3mins to work with immediately after the injury, it's absolutely impossible). And so then what happens is she doesn't open up, she can't explain that there is a problem or what the problem is, and then they (understandably) try and take her to hospital, and she panics. And it means that when Grace just mentions that she's a nurse, or tries to offer to look at the head injury, the Doctor (in both verses) is immediately trying to prove that she's Perfectly Fine, Actually and that she doesn't need any help, because the idea that people will realise that she isn't ok (especially in anterograde) and then decide to make decisions for her, take away that control and take her to hospital, is absolutely terrifying to her.

And then in anterograde in general, the control thing really comes in, because there's a lot of exploration of disabled/vulnerable people being able to make their own decisions and have autonomy. Because, frankly, the Doctor loses a lot of her independence in that au just because of the nature of her injury, and a lot of times there are other people who end up making decisions for her, or not telling her things because 'she'll forget anyway', or intentionally not telling her things so they can take her out of a situation and into a new one, knowing that she'll forget, and then say oh yeah you've been with me this whole time, when she has not. And the Doctor realises all these things are happening, and then starts fighting very hard against it, because in this au in particular she is desperately trying to get that sense of control back in her life, because losing control of how she lives her life is probably her worst nightmare ahaha. Like, she says at least once, even if the decisions and choices she's making are bad, she still has that right to make those choices. She made bad choices all the time before her injury, and no one stopped her then - so why should they stop her now, just because she can't remember things?

And then, naturally, it plays into ziptie au in a more literal way, because the Doctor and Koschei end up captured, forced to do stuff against their will, and then ziptied together for a significant amount of time even once they've escaped, so they have very literally control over their situations. And then neither of them can go where they want because they have to stick together, whether they like it or not, until they can get those ties cut, which means they both end up arguing a LOT and both getting extremely stressed out and frustrated with each other, among other things (like pulling at each others wrists and yanking each other across car parks HAHA). But then it gets interesting because the whole thing also heightens their co-dependency, which means even when they do get the ties cut, they end up sticking together anyway - because even though they both can't stand each other in many ways, they can't stand the thought of separating from each other either. The Doctor, in particular, doesn't want Koschei to disappear from her life because he holds the key to her past, to all of her memories - and if he goes, she might never find out the answers she needs. As it happens, she ends up finding out in a really terrible and confusing way anyway which doesn't help her at all.

And then in redacted au the Doctor basically gets a lot of choices stripped away from them - but then they gets given the chance to start making choices, suddenly. And this au is a lot about them learning how to make their own choices again, and then the consequences of the choices they make.

#taka replies #taardisblue #campervan au #anterograde au #ziptie au #[redacted] au #i have a LOT of thoughts about this THANK YOU #it's definitely one of the key themes of all the aus #and it's so important to both the doctor and koschei's characterisation #so it's interesting to think about how it all manifests in different ways #long post

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According To The Stars

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According To The Stars

While working on Divination homework, James learns something new about Lily. Good thing Divination is a load of rubbish... or is it?

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James wasn't sure if he believed in Divination, or if it was just a load of rubbish. Honestly, one of the only reasons he was still taking the subject was the company — it was on Lily Evans' sixth-year timetable, and therefore his.

His friends had dropped the subject, and they made sure to take the mickey out of him when he signed back up.

"Divination, really James?"

"Why take that when you could have a free period?"

"Is it the subject matter that fascinates you, or is it a certain redhead?"

The questions were rhetorical, and his friends knew that. They were perfectly aware of James' motivation for sticking around in Divination, and they knew that he preferred they weren't there. Not many students continued beyond their O.W.L. year in the subject, and James was happy that Lily was the only other student he knew well. He could assure they would always be partnered up for projects, and he didn't have to worry about anyone swooping in and stealing her attention from him. Not Remus, Sirius, Peter, or worst of all, Snivellus.

James was procrastinating on his Divination essay in the Gryffindor common room when Lily approached him.

"Have you started?" she asked.

"Not yet, I was waiting for you. I was hoping you could help."

"You're smart, you'll figure it out," she said as she took a seat at the table beside him. "It's just a birth chart, anyway."

Just a birth chart. The problem wasn't that James thought birth charts were difficult to understand; it was that he hated the idea of them. The fact that the date, location, and time of his birth supposedly determined his fate really bothered him.

Earlier in class, they had mapped out their star signs, and their homework was to analyze them. He had been feeling a pit of dread all day, simply because he'd have to dive into all of the details of his future. He truly didn't want to know what the stars had to say about his life. In James' opinion, there was no point in knowing how or when he might die, who his future wife would be, how many kids he would have, or what he would do for an occupation. It sucked all of the excitement right out of life and stripped him of his autonomy. He wanted to believe that his choices mattered.

He knew he should take it all with a grain of salt because humans could never fully understand the truth of the stars. Predictions were wrong all the time, and there were always going to be flaws in human methods of telling the future.

But the mere idea that James' future was set in stone made him deeply uncomfortable. Like his friends, he could simply choose not to believe in any of it, but the problem was that he sort of did.

He looked over to see that Lily had already started her essay and was scribbling furiously on her parchment. Reluctantly, he turned back to his own star chart and began writing too.

My name is James Potter, and I was born at 5:45 pm on Sunday, March 27th, 1960, in London, England.

This makes my Sun Sign Aries, my Moon Sign Aries, and my Ascendant Libra.

Sun Sign: Aries

The sun determines our ego, identity, and 'role' in life. It's the core of who we are. On my birthdate — Sunday, March 27th, 1960 — my Sun was in Aries.

I am fundamentally assertive, persistent, and courageous. Naturally competitive and fiercely independent, I push things forward with energy and enthusiasm. I am determined, and I persevere through anything.

James thought back to his time on the Quidditch Pitch, where he would do anything for a victory. He was a risk-taker with a deep desire to win, and that had landed him in the Hospital Wing more times than he'd care to admit. He was definitely independent — although he played Chaser on the Gryffindor team, he much preferred the solitary aspect of Seeker; when playing Chaser, his fellow teammates often badgered him for being a "Quaffle-Hog".

I need to learn to understand other people as complex wholes.

The analysis felt spot-on for James. People were like puzzles, and he enjoyed figuring them out. All-day, James had been riddled with curiosity about Lily's birth chart. He was planning to ask her about it tonight and was excited to get to know her on a deeper level.

I feel the need to distinguish myself from others.

James felt exposed by that one. He was a prankster; he enjoyed his popularity, and he often engaged in what others — mainly professors — would call "attention-seeking behavior." Touche, birth chart, he thought, as he carried on writing.

Moon Sign: Aries

The moon rules our emotions, moods, and feelings, reflecting our personalities when we're alone and comfortable. On my birthdate — Sunday, March 27th, 1960 — my Moon was in Aries.

My emotional self is independent, energetic, and enthusiastic. I have a tendency to feel inadequate and overcompensate just because failure is a possibility.

That one hurt a bit. James immediately felt defensive as he wrote it, but deep down, he knew it was true. As the only son of a well-known and successful family, failure was not an option. He was no stranger to pressure, and sometimes he overcompensated. He was a smart kid, but he often relied on his charm to build connections and network. He knew his smooth-talking could drive some people — mostly Lily — insane, but it was nothing more than a defense mechanism because he truly was terrified of failure.

I find security and safety through close relationships and long-term partnerships.

James held his friends close, and had no idea what he would do without them. He believed they would all be there for him for the rest of his life, and he couldn't entertain the idea that they might not. He would risk his life to protect his friends, and they'd do the same for him. According to his analysis, whether or not his overwhelming trust in others was a strength or a weakness was open to interpretation, and James chose to see it as a good thing. What was the point of life without friends, anyway? He smiled warmly at the thought and continued.

Ascendant: Libra

Our Ascendant is the "mask" we present to people. It can be seen in our personal style and our first impressions. Some say its relevance fades as we age. Our Ascendant is determined by our time of birth — I was born at 5:45 pm, meaning my Ascendant is Libra.

I come across as compromising, courteous, and impartial, though sometimes passive-aggressive.

For most people, he was a compromising and courteous individual, at least for people he liked. Unfortunately, passive-aggressive was a no-brainer as well. Some folks — particularly Snivellus — might say he was a bully. In detention, he'd received lectures about how pranking and cursing others was not the proper way to alleviate interpersonal issues. McGonagall never hesitated to tell him that a calm and rational discussion would be much more effective than a Levicorpus Charm. Admittedly, his methods could be considered passive-aggressive.

I am inclined towards balance.

James was a well-rounded fellow, that was for sure. He was an academic, an athlete, and he maintained a social life quite effortlessly. Balance truly was important to him. There was just one part missing from his ideal balance — a relationship. More specifically, a relationship with Lily.

In fact, that missing piece was one of the first things he looked for when he began his birth chart analysis. On a separate piece of parchment, he had scribbled down a few signs — Aquarius, Sagittarius, Leo, and Gemini. According to the stars, his ideal life partner's Sun, Moon, and Ascendant signs should fall into these categories. Part of him didn't want to know what Lily's chart said, and the rest of him needed to. It could all be rubbish, but maybe it wasn't.

"What are your signs, Lily?"

"Why do you want to know?" she asked.

"Research," he said.

"You want to know my fate?"

"You could say that," he responded. It was partially true — he wanted to know what the stars said about her life, but specifically her compatibility with him.

Lily sighed. "My Sun Sign is Aquarius."

James' stomach fluttered with excitement. Aquarius was one of his most compatible signs, so that was a good start. "And your Moon Sign?"

"Pisces."

He tried not to let the disappointment show on his face. Nowhere on his chart did it say he should look for someone with a Pisces Moon Sign. "What about your Ascendant?"

James froze in anticipation, hoping for Lily to say one of the four options. Two of three compatible signs would make them a decent match.

"Virgo."

His stomach sank. One out of three matching signs wasn't ideal. Sure, it could work, but it meant that Lily wouldn't be his perfect partner. If he were to believe the stars, there was someone else out there that was better suited to him, and he wasn't sure if he wanted that to be true.

"Are you okay?" asked Lily.

James tried his best to smile and mask his fallen expression. He was okay; he just really wished Lily's astrological signs were fully compatible with his, but he didn't feel like he could tell her that. At least not straight-up.

"Do you believe in all of this?" he asked instead.

"Divination?"

"Yeah, but more specifically, this birth chart stuff. Do you believe that this should determine your future? Your personality, your jobs, and who you should be with?"

"Who I should be with?" she asked, her eyes moving to his parchment. She was squinting, and James wondered if she was trying to read his chart. "What are your signs?"

He hesitated before answering. What if she really did believe in all of it, and learning how lukewarm their compatibility was just turned her away? He knew he couldn't get away without telling her, so he took a deep breath and responded. "Aries, Aries, Libra."

Lily didn't say anything at first, and the pit grew in James' stomach the longer she was quiet.

"Lily?" he asked after she'd been silent for a few seconds too long for comfort. "What do you believe?"

"Honestly?" she said. "I believe it's a load of rubbish. At least I hope it is. What about you?"

He felt a wave of relief at her words. "Good. I think it's rubbish too, and I hope we're right."

She smiled at him, and he grinned back, the heat rising to his cheeks. They turned to their essays and began writing again. There was a little bounce in their quills, a mark of the excitement between two teenagers who just — sort of — admitted something big.

James felt better knowing that whatever his birth chart said about his future, his choices did matter. Sure, the stars might have a plan for him, but if they didn't involve the cute Aquarius beside him, he'd happily choose not to believe any of it.

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