Ppl dont seem to realise that "only perceivably queer people should have access to queer spaces and support" and "nobody is obligated to out themselves to you and nobody needs to provide proof of their sexuality/identity" CANNOT coexist.

People are very quick to say "nobody should ever be forced out of the closet, there is no one way to be queer" but then throw a fit when someone who isnt visibly gay plays a gay character or when someone who isnt officially out acts in a ~queer way~.

Edit: Yes ofc its frustrating to see straight people get applauded for portraying queer characters and queer people should have more control about queer narratives that straight people do, but yall have to let go of the idea that "sexuality unknown" automatically means "straight by default". Thats literally heteronormativity.

Yes, harmful and stereotypical portrayals should be examined, but some of yall start frothing at the mouth over the possibility that the person delivering a perfectly harmless portrayal of a queer person might not be queer themselves.

Its also telling how yall will usually only go after the 'easier' targets. You bullied kit connor into outing himself bc he dared to play a bisexual boy while keeping his own identity private, but i have yet to see the same energy for cate blanchett, taika waititi, etc who have also played queer characters despite not being openly queer. Bc its not really about keeping the community safe, is it? Youre doing shit like this bc it makes you feel powerful and righteous.

If you care about all queer stories being "own voices" stories, thats your decision and a valid way to feel. But dont kid yourself into thinking youre making the lgbt community safer by forcing actors to out themselves.

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I think it’s terrible that people forced an actor to come out. No one should be forced to come out if they don’t want to or aren’t ready to. That is wrong on so many levels. I can’t believe these people.

Bisexual people don’t owe you ANYTHING. We don’t owe you proof or explanations, we don’t need to be more queer or less straight or any of that bullshit because we are exactly what we are: bi. We don’t need to be with a person of the same gender to fucking validate ourselves in your eyes. We don’t need to share our dating histories or personal information just cause you want to know. It’s none of your goddamn business, and nobody asks the same questions of straight people, and they rarely ask it of gay people too.

I know this is a community, and that we all have so many shared experiences, but I’m so goddamn sick of the rampant biphobia in the world and so many people don’t see it or think about it or they let it slide. It fucking sucks. I’m sick of defending myself to heteronormative assholes who don’t believe I exist, for whom I am not straight enough. And I’m sick of reading posts from queer people, the kind of people I usually feel safest around, that tell me I don’t belong in their spaces.

In all honesty, I’m an incredibly privileged person. I am. I’m white and grew up in an upper middle class family and I’m able bodied and intelligent and I went to good schools and had a mostly good family, and I didn’t get dealt a lot of difficult cards. All of this is to say that, much like everything else in my life, I don’t really give a shit about myself.

I got fucked up from some things that happened to me, but I never really did anything about it or felt angry until I saw it happen to people around me. I consider my own feelings far less often than I consider those of the people I care about. That’s how I feel about this. So if you want to be a biphobic asshole, direct it at me. I’ve taken it before, and I’ll survive it again. I can hear slurs and bible passages from family and priests and deal with people I considered friends telling me I would never really be a part of the queer community. Throw it at me if you’re a shithead who needs a target cause if I see you doing it to one more kid who’s going to internalize it the way I did, I’ll fucking lose my mind.

We don’t owe you anything, and we don’t deserve your hatred and constant invalidation. Stop erasing us. Stop berating us. And for the love of GOD, stop telling kids who they are or are not supposed to be, or placing labels on themselves that they’re not ready to hand you. WE DONT OWE YOU A LABEL. QUEER PEOPLE OF ALL KINDS DO NOT OWE YOU A COMING OUT. Heteronormative society demands one, because to them, we are outliers, we are strangers, we must announce ourselves. Fuck that bullshit. We owe you NOTHING. Celebrities??? They owe you NOTHING. Believe what you want to believe, but stop pressuring people to reveal their private lives to you. They owe you NOTHING. And especially if that person is young, you have no idea how much damage you’re doing. Stop commenting on everything about how “queer coded” something is. It’s a person’s LIFE. It’s not a code to be cracked. You want to talk about that? Text your friend, tell your roommate, say it to upset your dad. But don’t go yell across the internet void at an impressionable human being (something we are at every age) that you “know their secret.” You’re making it harder. You’re making it worse. I’ve felt this way before, too. Sure of something, sure of representation I so desperately craved. And I still think maybe I’m right. But it’s not my place to yell at celebrities and anybody else I know about coming out, because that’s a deeply personal decision.

Watching an 18 year old who is giving the world perhaps the best onscreen bisexual representation I’ve ever seen get harassed into coming out to get a mob of prying, insensitive fans off his back was something that fueled my anger today. And the people who caused the problem are standing by it, some even saying he’ll be “fully out” by next year. Fuck you. Fuck every biphobic bone in your body. Leave kit alone, leave young adults alone, leave adults alone, stop forcing people to fit into your boxes so you can judge them accordingly. QUEER PEOPLE OWE YOU NOTHING. At 18, I hadn’t come out to anyone except my closest friends, who were also queer. Not my parents, not my siblings, and now, years later, still not to many other family members, friends, or coworkers. We are constantly talking about not knowing what we’re doing through the early years of adulthood, and yet you’re demanding that 18 year old kids have it all figured out, and on top of it, be okay and comfortable enough with all of it to announce it to the world, despite living in a world that still sees us as a secondary group and tells us we’re going to hell. Or that we’re liars. Or both. That’s fucked. Leave people alone.

How many times does it have to be said before people get it? Stop forcing people to come out.

FUCK whoever thinks they have a say in celebrities sexual lives. its none of your fucking business.

get a life.

"...and I don't want to have to sneak around, pretending we're platonic BFFs"

i think im preaching to the choir with this one but i am. really fucking mad. anyone who's on here and sunnytwt i am BEGGING you to stop being fucking weird. you can in fact. not do the same shit that these idiots are doing. it's ok.

REAL PEOPLE CANT QUEERBAIT. YOU CANT HEADCANON THEM AND YOU CANT EXPECT THEM TO COME OUT FOR THE SAKE OF THEIR NARRATIVE ARC BECAUSE THEY DONT HAVE ONE. YALL PATHETIC BITCHES EXPECTING PEOPLE TO OWE THEIR WHOLE LIVES TO YOU I WILL CUT OFF YOUR DICK AND FEED IT TO YOU. FUCK. YOU.

when a conventionally attractive man shaves his head, perhaps i laugh a bit too loud and a bit too long, because why is everyone literally mourning

I don't want to make an assumption about Tobys sexuality, and I don't want my point here to get misinterpreted, but

Nobody cares about "authentic casting" when it's the ace/aro characters

Nobody gets harassed and bullied off twitter, nobody has to out themselves publicly before they're ready to prove they're asexual and/or aromantic

So somethings tells me, it has nothing to do with "authentic casting" or "queerbaiting"

I was looking for a photo of Ben on my Google photo album of him where Google just group photos by faces it recognizes.

And I went into the album to find:

The way that I'm laughing right now. I know I've been saying all week that Nick, Ben and Kit Connor are like a Funko pop base with different details but Google didn't need to call me out like this 🤣

its not “queerbaiting in real life” the word you’re looking for is “strongly-indicated-to-be-cishet celebrity getting praised for being just a smidge nonconforming without showing they understand the nuances of being queer while actual queer actors and artists don’t get the same recognition”. more importantly it’s “queerness is heavily commodified by mainstream media and makes it hard to distinguish a public figure not wanting to out themselves from a marketing ploy meant to get the cash of the community that isn’t being helped”. you can get pissed at harry styles’s failed met gala fashion sense being praised & people mislabelling taylor swift as a “gay icon” without harassing strangers with non-stop speculation about their personal life.

It’s always ily and never idwtbuikphhyayflibbowybinytktmliwbbimy

thinking about how nicks primary love language is obviously touch and how hard it must have been for him to be around charlie at school everyday but not be able to hold his hand, put his leg on charlie's, or maybe even play with his hair