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rocketturtle4 · 9 months

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To Sir With Love, a Reflection

What is Love and What is Duty?

MAJOR SPOILERS

ALSO TRIGGER WARNINGS FOR SUICIDE (briefly mentioned)

The way family love is framed in this show, sparked a lot of reflection and made me realise how un-nuanced some of my thoughts about love have been. (This also made me realise how engaging I find generational family trauma in stories like this so thanks @lurkingshan for answering all my questions).

(This post follows the journey of my thinking so it’s a bit choppy, skip to Duty vs Devotion Vs Love if you want the outcomes bit)

During my initial thoughts about this show I stumbled across @waitmyturtles big meta on: Pain, Suffering, and Narratives in Some Asian Dramas/BLs and it definitely impacted my thinking so go read that.

What struck me as particularly odd (on a personal level) was the idea that western parents are conditioned to love their children. Turtles uses these phrases as examples of a common Western Experience

“There is NO WAY your parents don’t love you.”

“There is NO WAY your parents will ever give up on you. Even if they treat you badly, they love you.”

“In the West, we ALWAYS end up loving our children. That’s what society demands of PARENTS. We’re CONDITIONED to be like that.”

And uh What? *checks own brain* that doesn’t seem right fitted to my experience? (I come back to this at the end, promise)

Now, the point that Turtles goes onto make about Asian family structures is deeply meaningful and poignant (Summarised very briefly, by her, as:

“The equation is: even if you suffer at the hands of your parents, even if you don’t receive unconditional love and empathy from your parents, you must sacrifice in order to respect and serve your parents”)

GO READ IT IT’S BEAUTIFULLY MOVING AND IMPORTANT

However, part of the reason I feel this is relevant is because I DID NOT assume that Tian’s parents (Or Yang’s parents for that matter) loved him going into this show.

I am not quite sure where my own frame of thinking, (of parental love is not an automatic assumption) comes from, now that I know this isn’t standard, I’ll be looking into it further, but I felt it was important to start with this frame because I’ll be talking about the way this drama reshaped my thoughts on love, especially familial love, thus my starting point seems important.

Prior to about episode 14/15 I would have argued that neither of Tian’s parents loved him, they only loved the idea of him. (A literally line I thought to myself as I watched)

Li’s (Tian's mum) arc was the most impactful so I just want to give a quick rundown of the stages I went through and then I will be talking to some of these stages, with reference to Li (Mum), Song (Dad), Yang (brother) Chan (Wife 2, Yang's Mum), and Bua (Wife 3):

Stage 1 (most of the series): She (Li) doesn’t love her son, her love died when she realised he was a homosexual and everything since then has been about his conformity and power for herself.

Stage 2 WHAT, Maybe she does love her son

Stage 3 OH she definitely loves her son (SO WHYYY?)

Stage 4 Maybe she loves his son despite him being gay, rather than accepting him as a whole?

Stage 5 No she doesn’t even seem that specifically hung up on the homosexual, just his safetly

WAIT

Stage 6 Was all this…protective did she actually love him the whole time??? WHAT THE FUCK

Thus reflection:

Stage 1 (some initial thoughts)

Turns out my view on love is (or was?) rather black and white: to love someone & to hurt that person knowingly and intentionally were two concepts I viewed as mutually exclusive: Li hurt her son both physically and mentally on a regular basis and so from my initial standpoint she could not love him. (very unnuanced) (for the record, I'm not saying love and hurt are mutually exclusive (lol) but that I thought love and ongoing intentional hurt were)

In some ways I believed (emphasis on past tense) Song's love for Tian was greater than Li’s but that his love was also false due to a lack of knowledge.

Yang is the bestest bro but we’ll get back to him

Question: Did I really believe that all the actions Li took to protect Tian’s secret were not born out of love while she actively murdered people? Yeah kind of.

I had ascribed her a very similar motivation I ascribed to Chan: She wished to remain as the first wife and retain power and thus needed her son as the next head, discovery of his secret would end this possibility, so it must be kept secret at all cost.

I did not even ascribe her fear for her son’s death as a possible motivation which retrospectively seems very odd. My bias towards Li as unloving is why I had the whole opening section of this post.

Stage 2-4

I think part of the change in my thinking began not with Li’s actions towards Tian, but with Li’s interactions with Song midway through the show.

Song knows of Tian’s secret (but not what it is) and implores Li to tell him (and implores Tian to tell him but that’s not discussed here even if it was at that moment, I decided I hated him) and it is very clear that Li, really WANTS to tell him,

She wants to preserve their marriage.

She wants to give back the honesty he’s asking for,

BUT she never even considers actually doing so because to do so would condemn her son.

That she sacrifices her relationship with her husband to protect her son’s secret was the first rock to really put a dent in my un-nuanced take on her characters motivation.

A lot of things happen from here, but Li throwing herself in front of the police officers and begging them to take her instead was definitely the final straw that shattered my perceptions.

But hold on, I’m getting ahead of myself

Stage 5

The societal and familial homophobia woven through this story and most strongly represented by Song is also a key part of this reflection.

The fact that Song grieves his brothers death, grieves for the brother he was closest too, grieves for the breakdown of the five families that they’d built and STILL VIEWS SAID BROTHER AS LESS THAN A MAN FOR BEING A HOMOSEXUAL was feckin INSANE.

But it was also the reality of what I’d been imposing onto Li. This is the kind of (not)love I ascribed to her.

Song didn’t truly love his brother for who he was, only who he knew him to be. And if knowing something fundamental makes you view that person as less, then, in my opinion, you never really loved them in the first place. You don’t love them, you love your own perception of them. You don’t love them, you love the idea of them.

(Look at Song here, reinforcing my black and white thinking, no wonder this show got me all twisted around).

Now Li on the other hand arguably doesn’t believe that being a homosexual makes her son automatically less.

Does she believe that he needs to supress this part of himself to become head of the families? Yes,

BUT, I would argue that this is more to do with her knowledge that he’ll definitely be unable to inheret due to Songs views (and may be kicked out of the family/die) than any personal belief of his unsuitability.

She views him as competent DESPITE his homosexuality, this is something that is hidden for his safety, more than for making him less of a man.

(I am not saying this is okay, just unpacking the different motivations as I understood them, and given ep 1 she KIND OF HAS A REASON)

I'm also not saying she's not homophobic (There is also her view that he can ‘be fixed’ as seen in her repeated attempts to get him to sleep with a woman in case he realises he likes it. Which is messed up, but again NOT my primary point.)

Stage 6

Turns out she loves him a ton after all:

She throws herself in front of the police

She planned to commit suicide (yes to absolve herself of her wrongs for some religious adjacent nuance I didn’t fully understand as a western viewer but also to ensure that her wrongs didn’t negatively impact her son’s future)

She sacrifices her husbands trust in her (as mentioned earlier)

She would sacrifice who she is in her sons eyes (someone he does love) to secure his ideal future (as she see’s it).

She loves her son and this love comes out in what I have reframed for myself as Devotional love

Duty vs Devotion vs Love

Duty is, I think, what we often see framed as love or love adjacent in the families portrayed in Asian drama’s, at least to Western viewers.

Children are taught they have a duty to their parent’s ABOVE ALL ELSE

Above love

Above self-care

Above other relationships

This is what their parents expect from them.

This is what’s framing their parent’s investment in their lives.

Duty WITHOUT love is, in my opinion, what we see discussed in turtles post with the examples of “Non’s father in Dark Blue Kiss; or Korn’s father in Double Savage; or ESPECIALLY Uea’s mom in Bed Friend”

Do these children love their parents? I have no earthly clue

Do these parent’s love their children? I would say no, but that doesn’t change the fact that as their children they must be DUTIFUL.

Devotion is then the intersection of duty and love, it is love with expectations. My current thinking is that many child-parent relationships in Asian dramas, especially child to parent, fall firmly into this category. How much emphasis is placed on duty over love seems to link with how damaging that relationship can be.

Li’s love for her son falls into this category, her love is for her son but her duty is for his future position and safety and this is of highest value to her, higher than her love for who he is.

This is a thread I definitely notice in Asian dramas, she is not duty without love as mentioned above, she is not “rooted in judgement against her offspring” (again from turtles) to the exclusion of all love, but this does colour her raising of him in a way that is significantly traumatising.

I think it is possible that Dad in Khun Chai may have reached this level of judgement if he had discovered his son’s secret (in a less extreme situation) and Li knows this, and so must keep him safe.

Though in the end he sees this too:

Yang & Tian

Now, Devotional love is something I also want to talk about in the context of Yang and Tian because I feel that the kind of love Yang has for Tian is different to the kind of love Bua has for both boys and this is the only way I can articulate how.

It's also important to know that duty often forms a part of a relationship that involves commitment (family or otherwise) so I am not saying devotional love is bad.

Despite Chan's best efforts, Yang grows up devoted to his older brother, we see this COUNTLESS times through the drama, and it was undoubtedly my favourite part.

Yang’s love for Tian is unconditional and certain, his realisation that Tian is gay leads to his desperate search for, and hug of his, brother, because he IMMEDIATELY recognises how hard that must be.

It does not alter how much he loves his brother

It does not make him think of his brother as different or less

If anything it increases his determination to keep his brother safe.

This Protectiveness leads his love further up the scale into Devotion

Yang’s love felt very devotional to me because he loves his brother and acts as if it’s his duty to protect him (despite being younger).

We see this in his taking of punishments for Tian

In how he searches for answers to the murder and then only tells Tian about it after talking to Pin as he initially believes protecting Tian is more important than anything else

(I have not got to talk about Pin, but I would argue Tian’s love becomes less devotional (less lead by duty in the form of protectiveness) as:

He shifts to being the caretaker of Pin as well

Jiu is introduced into Tians life

This combination (especially Pin) leads him to treating Tian with more autonomy.)

A key difference, even at the start of the show between Li and Yang’s devotional loves is the focus of their duty.

Li’s is to Tian’s future

Yang’s is to Tian

Yang's duty to his parents (especially his father) is much less (or at least shown as less important) than his duty to his brother.

Tian

I'm not going to talk about Tian's love

ITS ALL FRICKEN SACRIFICIAL @colourme-feral

Boy needs to care less about his duty.

(Sacrificial = Extreme Duty + Love)

Bua

Bua’s love and acceptance of Tian (and of Yang) felt different to Yang’s love and acceptance of Tian and this a key part of helping me frame the duty vs devotion vs love

To me, Bua is the best example we have of love without duty (or with minimal duty at least), her (literal) separation from the family due to infertility (she lives in a different building) leads to having less stakes in the whole game. She loves the boys, but she does not believe anything is more important that them being themselves. Duty is not part of her relationship with them, and arguably, duty is not part of their relationships with her.

In my opinion, Li tries to instil a sense of duty in Bua’s love when she encourages her adoption of Tian, but it doesn’t really have the desired effect.

Bua loves them, but she also clearly loves Song and we can see (for example in the way Yang never tells her Tian’s secret and she never pressures him), that her care for others does not come with a caveat of duty. (Song pressures her though)

Did she have a duty to Song? to anyone? Would her love have lead her to the belief that Song needed to know? Ugh, honestly I have so many questions about Bua.

Side Note

Obsessional love is something different again which didn’t really feature in this drama but which my current thinking frames as possessive devotional love, (with possessiveness causing corruption maybe? Not sure).

ALSO

I feel like the duty/love scale overlaps with a lot of what we see in the portrayals of marriage on screen where duty is often put first and foremost in a way that often breaks down over time or leads to resentment but I haven’t really thought about this in detail.

What was the point of all this?

I think as westerners a key difference in family culture is the way duty is framed in parent child relationships. Having written all this I can now return to this point:

“In the West, we ALWAYS end up loving our children. That’s what society demands of PARENTS. We’re CONDITIONED to be like that.”

And, while I’m still feeling rather uncertain about the phrasing of this, I do think that societally (in the west) parents have a duty to their child RATHER THAN children having a duty to their parents (in Asian cultures)

That’s what feels the most different to me, and I think often expectation of care (duty) is framed as love, you're expected to care for your children and thus you must love them.

But parents don't necessarily love their children even when they care for them. Doing your duty is not the same as loving,

its still causing me a bit of disconnect, so maybe it’s causing disconnect for other people as well.

I’m not sure how realistic my duty to love scale is, but I wanted to chronicle the ways this show shaped my thinking, in the hopes other shows will change my thinking in new ways.

I am very keen to view other shows on @lurkingshan’s generational trauma challenge and see how my thinking continues to grow.

Also I loved this show like crazy and gave it 94%, equal 10th out of 76 shows. Go watch it if you haven't.

#Khun Chai #To Sir With Love #Rocket4Reviews #rturts is wondering #ADGTC #long post #tw: suicide

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earhartsease · 5 months

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hey tumblr discworld enthusiasts, a question for you about your copy of Lords and Ladies

we first read it in our 1995 paperback reprint edition which we're just now reading once again, and we always assumed this was a terrible typo for "witch"

but we just checked in our ebook edition and

so our question to you is: does your edition say bitch too, because we now think either

a) it's not a typo in which case whyyy pterry or

b) whoever compiled the kindle version just blithely copied an edition like ours and didn't question the typo

help please

update: answered in the notes, an uncomfortable play on marlowe's "but that was in another country, and besides the wench is dead" which today we learned has sometimes been quoted as bitch instead of wench - anyway, earlier discworld is not immune to distasteful jokes (and pterry never fully shook off the fatphobia we feel)

further update: we feel we should make it clear that we are passionately devoted to the discworld novels, in spite of finding bits of them personally triggering - and as a brit who was in their 30s when we read this book in 95 we were shocked then at seeing the word "bitch" (perhaps because it was less in use colloquially back then than now and we were a bit sheltered) - so we're interested and happy to find out the background to this - and we're still a little shocked by it, and that's just us

and we never expect authors to be squeaky clean, it just seemed out of character but hey

#discworld #lords and ladies

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yanderes-galore · 2 years

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Hi Panther!

I was wondering if I could request a romantic yandere scenario with rise Leonardo? Maybe the darling recently gets in a relationship and they ask him to tone down the affection or when he asks to hang out with him they say they already have plans with their S/O?

I hope you have a great day and remember to take care of yourself!!

💌 anon

Man really felt you two were dating until you brought up a new S/O 💀 Aged up as usual!

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Yandere! ROTTMNT! Leonardo Scenario

Pairing: Romantic

Possible Trigger Warnings: Gender-Neutral Darling, Manipulation, Isolation, Jealousy, Petty behavior, Leonardo ruins your entire relationship because you said no cuddles, Possessive behavior, Clingy behavior, Stalking.

"What do you mean we can't do stuff like this anymore!?"

"I'm just asking if you could tone down the affection a bit, Leo!"

"Whyyy~!"

Leonardo doesn't let go of you, falling to his knees and pressing himself against you. He was always whiny when you refused to give him attention. You'd normally be okay with his long hugs... but you had a romantic partner now-

"It's just inappropiate now. I can't do it anymore."

"You usually always like my hugs! Why now? Don't lie to me!"

"I'm taken now, Leo." You didn't want to say it, knowing how he gets, yet Leonardo would just keep pushing it.

"You're WHAT?" Leo panics, standing up. "You didn't TELL me!?"

"It happened recently. You never gave me a chance to say it."

Leonardo gave you a blank look, you swore you saw tears prick his eyes. You were taken? He was right here and you went for some stranger?

"You..." He sniffs. "You can't be serious-"

"I am, Leo. You need to chill with the affection, alright?"

Leonardo felt his heart breaking but he puts up a facade for you.

"Alright... fine- I just... need a moment alone-"

It's then you two part ways. You felt bad for upsetting your friend but you needed to put up boundaries. You had a partner, you couldn't betray their trust....

Meanwhile, Leonardo didn't get over it. You had said something so simple, no hugs or long moments of affection. It was a request too much for him....

He loved you! He'd be lying if he said he didn't cry for hours over this. He wished you and your partner never met! He should've acted faster!

Days passed and you thought Leonardo understood what you asked of him. Leonardo had stopped crying, although it was replaced by something much more sinister....

Stalking. It started with stalking everything you and your partner did. He couldn't believe you'd spend more time with them than him. He was so much cooler than them....

Then it transitioned to manipulation.

"I heard your partner was with someone else lately.... I thought you two spent every waking moment with each other?"

"(Y/N) talks badly about you behind your back... isn't that upsetting?"

Leonardo was a pathological liar and manipulator. As revenge for being betrayed and replaced, he'd ruin everything. Leo was just that selfish and petty.

He didn't care if making you break up with your partner made you upset. He could always just comfort you later! You didn't need them....

You just needed him.

He could make you happy! You'd soon learn just what you were missing! He'll make sure you don't leave him again....

Any new partner you get, he'll just turn them away.

You'll only need him, only he can love you.

"It'll be okay! I'm right here.... Just lean into me and I'll make all your sadness go away!"

#yandere tmnt #yandere teenage mutant ninja turtles #yandere rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #yandere rottmnt leonardo #yandere leonardo

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redsoul-writing · 2 years

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Hello, hope you’re doing well!

May I request a Law breakup scenario? I think law would be the type to play it off as cool but he’s secretly dying inside. (Lol I just really want heartbroken Law)

Thank you!!!<33

Hi anon, I’m doing well, hope you are too! Aghhhh I’m gonna cry poor Law! But nonetheless I enjoyed writing this, ask and you shall receive! I wasn’t really sure what the reason would be so I just thought of a similar post I read a while back.

What? No… this isn’t happening. Wait, whats happening?

Law’s mind shut down as Y/n’s lips started moving, they were talking but he couldn’t hear them. His mind was still processing the words they’d said a moment ago. They’re still echoing in his ears.

‘I think we should break up.’ Oh. That’s what’s happening.

”Law? Are you listening?” Y/n asked

Law finally came back to reality.

“What?” He mumbled

“I said we should break up.” Y/n had a worried look in their eyes

“Oh…Why?” He asked, trying his best not to show any weakness.

“I love you Law but.. we’re just not meant for each other. We have to go separate ways to achieve our dreams.” They explained

Law knew this. Y/n was a Strawhat, and since the alliance has come to an end, there’s no need for them to work together. There’s no need for the Strawhats and the Heart pirates to keep seeing each other. This whole relationship started out as a crush anyways.

“…I see.” Is all he could muster up for a moment.

“If that’s what you want, alright. No problem.” He said, coldly

Y/n would’ve been fooled if they hadn’t known Law, trying to act cool and everything.

“I’m sorry for being so selfish..but can I hug you one last time?” Y/n frowned

…

He opened his arms, and Y/n went in for a tight hug, tears forming in their eyes. Law needed this too.

After a few seconds, they parted ways, saying their goodbyes. Bepo asked Law if something happened, Y/n looked sad. He assured the bear that it’s nothing to worry about and walked to the empty Polar Tang.

He looked around to see if anyone was still inside, nobody was there.

He slammed his fist on the table next to him. Angry for a second. Not at Y/n, but at himself. For getting into this relationship from the start—No. For even looking their way. He knew it would have to end at some point.

Then came denial.

“It’s fine. I don’t care anyway.” He told himself

“Yeah.. I don’t..” His voice got lower

“Care.” Tears formed in his eyes, and he shut them.

The tears that rolled down his cheek triggered Y/n’s words to echo in his brain once more. ‘We’re not meant for eachother.’

‘We should break up.’

‘I love you.’ The waterworks started, pouring down.

How could they say that to him? How could they ask for a hug in such a vulnerable moment?

Why did they have to leave? Why couldn’t they just join his crew instead?

Are they as hurt as he is?

“Why does everyone I love have to leave?” He sobbed

“Please don’t leave.” He heals his face in his palms. The same ones that held Y/n.

AN: I’M GONNA CRY NOOOOO WHYYY

#one piece headcanons #one piece x reader #trafalgar law #one piece #law x reader #trafalgar d law x reader

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missamyrisa2 · 10 months

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Now the milking needs to extend to you… a machine that pounds and fucks you while gathering your sweet juices while so many anonymous hands explore your most delicate ticklish areas.. your tush, ribs, breasts and armpits.. allll around and around while you push through the endless orgasms and treatment ❤️

Ahhhhhh whyyy is my askbox filling with theeese you're terribleee and amazing and gosssshh youuu sweeet tickly ❤️

Because as ~mmmh ~ smutty dreams gooo ~ being machine milked in front of a group is like top tier for mee~

I posted a video in that video archive that has this very scenario and it's like eeee sooo amazing ~ and here's how I'm thinking of it right now~

The more I struggle, the more the machine milks, and yet I can never resist it ~ my legs are kicking worthlessly like I'm trying to swim upward ~ the sleeve of silk twirls and dances on my throbbing royal tip, the tube appendage bounces up and down merrily. The chains of the pink sling rattle about as I fight once again ~ my onlookers, captors, teasers, torturers, snicker and chatter through their masks. Though I can't see their faces I can hear the grins and smirks in their voices ~ the glittery eye holes in each mask never fail to make my tummy tremble in gigglish fear ~

Gloved hands wiggle and dance once more, almost artful in how they swirl around the pumping noisy bustling machine, encouraging my body to thrust and buck upwards right into the tube as it merrily milks ~ I've lost my words now, only outputting a stream of squeaking giggling gasps and nonsense chirps ~ their fingers descend wiggling on my nipples and tummy, tracing my ribs and following my booty as it jumps up and down ~ their soft gloves and relentless technique are like insatiable tickle machines ~ maybe they are all bots, sent to destroy me into tickly madness~

I shake my head seeing one of them holding the milker's remote. That wicked masked face nods yes yes yes and turns the dial, sending the bouncing tube into overdrive. For a moment. Then it levels back. I gasp out and slip something that sounds like "giggleeeclusterfuuuuuk!!" in protest. They toy with me, speeding up the milking for a moment making the apparatus suckle my princess part for a moment frantically before slowing. Then back up. Every time I arch and pull at the chains, and those fingers follow taunting my every move, tickling me as punishment for such dramatic reactions ~

The fingers gliding in my armpits become the worst, just like a line of taunts to my princess part. I can't hold on any more, I know I'm going to lose to this relentless machine again ~ I try to seal my lips, try to not give them more silly sounds ~ but they are merciless, the ticklers see my strategy and tsk, flicking fingers on my nipples and rubbing my hips earnestly. I gigglemoan and snickergasp, groaning out madly as my hips buck and stay bucked, the machine speeding up ~ and beeping in confirmation as yet another gigglecum is triggered ~

I'm breathless, soundless save for tiny high pitched giggles as I watch helplessly my giggledrops extracted and sucked away into the milking machine's tube. And before I can even drift into a fuzzy rest, the group snickers down at me, taunting with fleeting tickles on my sides and ribs and thighs ~ the one with the remote starting a new sequence as the machine's secondary module activates ~ revealing a glowing slightly curved pink extension which begins buzzing and thrusting softly ~ aligning as the chains are adjusted to make my legs lift and spread and prepare for the dreaded honeyspot tickles~

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moonjxsung · 5 months

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omg i heard we were trashing exes.

i'm gonna try to keep this short but i was with this piece of shit for almost four years so he did quite a lot of damage and trauma.

my first bf was in high school, i was vvvvv clueless about serious relationships and what was normal and what wasn't. anyway,

man said ily like two weeks in, told me we'd get married, bought me things as his way to get me to not be mad at him instead of actually apologizing for what he did. he had me convinced that id be nothing without him, that no one would love me the way he did and wouldn't love me after him cos of how much he fucked me up.

he had a serious god complex and really put himself on a pedestal, he was the smartest person and would not hesitate to bring others down for his own gain. even me his own damn gf. (keep in mind we dated in high school and now i'm 22 and he's still the same to this day.)

i grew up being called dumb and stupid by my peers so he used the fact i grew up believing i was a dumbass to his advantage to convince me that he's smart so he knows what's best. he looked down on me, talked down to me like i was a clueless child and he was simply leading the way.

even if he knew little to nothing about my friends and family cos he never tried to get to know them he would take the opportunity to shit on them whenever i'd rant about issues that came up. he tried to control which friends i was allowed to hang out with by making a good and bad friend list and showing that to my mother.

(at the time our relationship was rocky and she reached out to him cos she wanted to know i was okay. instead of telling her that she could trust me he makes a fucking list)

he ruined relationships with friends we shared, eventually isolating me from everyone. he became my support system and only friend.

bro had me feeling like anything and everything i did was wrong. looking back he never went out of his way to get to learn about what i liked, my hobbies and shit but was more than happy to give me every little detail about his interests when i'd ask him. he criticized everything i liked or did.

bro was the definition, the human fucking form of a manipulator, gaslighter and overall toxic human being. love really makes you stupid and blind to the fucked up shit that happens in a toxic relationship so it wasn't till i got out that i realized the shit he did to me wasn't normal (don't even get me started on the other shit that would literally need a big ass trigger warning)

my ex after him was 10x better but even if that ex did the bare fucking minimum of communication, respect and being a decent human i was like "omg this hasn't happened before" "omg is this normal?"

this ex was actually great but the fact i was in awe of the bare minimum means the toxic ex really had my bar on the floor

anyway ily star

~ 🌸

BESTIE :( I am so fucking sorry oh my god he sounds like absolute fucking SCUM :( the fact that all of us have a horror story about some ex is actually so alarming like WHAT is it with men that they just go around treating everyone like fucking garbage WHYYY are you even seeking out a relationship then???? And then people wonder why we love forms of escapism like fanfic or romance as a genre bc we love imagining healthy love and intimacy… as a form of escape from the complete opposite we’ve been dealt 🤕 I hope you’re far far away from him now & staying both safe and healthy!! None of those shitty ass fucking men deserved you anyway and I’m manifesting so hard that you find someone actually worth your time who gives you all the love n respect you deserve. Swear we could make a fucking emotional support group on here with how many of you guys have horror stories abt men 😭😭 sending you all my love annonie I hope you heal from all you’ve been dealt :( I love you always 🫂💓🫶🌙⭐️

#🌸 anon #ask

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