HOW HAVE I NOT POSTED THIS HERE OMG

Support the survivor.

Please.

Look at those like numbers! 😍

4/27/2023 UPDATE: 

This video breaks it all down perfectly, and it’s exactly what we need to hear in 2024. Being a barb after everything Nicki has said and done is just pure nonsense. I stand behind Megan thee Stallion and Jennifer Hough and fuck all the abuse apologists and cult-like stans who will say otherwise

Thoughts On The Depp vs Heard Case From A Survivor

So, to give a little backstory and apologies in advance for the essay, I am a survivor of SA and abuse. Now, I was never in a relationship and abused; my story is much different. I will briefly mention p*dophila, so if that might trigger you, I’d stop reading after this paragraph.

I was sexually abused from the ages of about 7-10. I was abused by a family member who was also emotionally and verbally abusive and one who had many issues with alcoholism. He never hit me, though he was physically abusive to my brother. I grew up afraid of my own shadow, and I have a large chunk of my life and childhood erased. I was diagnosed with PTSD sometime last year when memories of the events reappeared in full force. I have zero proof, and I am far past the statute of limitations. I can’t give them any actual details, and I can’t talk or think about it for very long without dissociating or relieving that awful time. There is no way to receive justice, and I’ve come to peace with that. It’s shitty, but that’s life. I think a big part of me would be too afraid to anyway. I’ve never been able to have a relationship, and I have trust issues and walls so thick a wrecking ball couldn’t even tap them.

To address Elaine’s frankly despicable interview, many survivors support Johnny. I can’t explain it to anyone, but we recognise our own. There’s something in the way we talk about the event(s); it’s harrowing. It sits on your shoulders and recounting it feels like choking. So many of us cut ourselves off from the event(s) and try desperately to distract others by making jokes to draw attention away from the conversation. You could see that with Johnny, not with Amber. The way Amber behaved caused the jury to rule against her; she showed her true self on that stand. She was aggressive, recalled “everything” with crystal clear clarity, and got caught in lies multiple times. A biased judge also oversaw the UK case that she kept referring towards; (quick correction here because I was given the wrong information) his son was an editor for The Sun, so he wouldn’t rule against them, let’s be honest. The judge should’ve recused himself, but chose not to. The same man who owns The Sun also has claims in The New York Post and Vogue, two companies vocally against Johnny. Wonder why…

I strongly dislike how Amber Heard painted herself as a martyr; she does not represent us. We have overcome so much, and to have a liar spit in our face by appropriating our daily struggles is so beyond wrong. To claim the verdict is the jury saying, “Oh, we don’t believe you if you don’t have evidence”, is highly inappropriate for a lawyer, especially one “chasing her fifteen minutes of fame”, as she likes to say. Also, accusing the jury, that was holed up in a hotel room with no phone or internet access, of bias is bloody ridiculous.

She continues with this whole, “Oh, it’s a step back for women”, but it’s not. It’s a step forward for male victims, men are finally feeling comfortable enough to speak out, and that’s beautiful. We know women have been used and abused since the beginning of time, but we never talk about men. Men aren’t just abused by their Boy Scout leaders, priest, or boyfriends. They are also abused by women, a fact they are told to be silent about. I remember explaining to my fifteen-year-old employee that his first sexual experience being with his friend’s mother was not ok. He couldn’t get my point, even when I showed him how the role reversal would seem. It had been trained into him by toxic culture and media that women could not be predatory, women couldn’t be abusive. Any sane person will know that’s false.

I’ve connected with many male survivors during this case, a topic I’ve been passionate about since my youth. My abuser was abused; it’s an unfortunate cycle. Men are not given coping tools, just told to “be a man about it”, especially by women who believe men can’t be abused. Yes, I was as shocked as you might be that there are women mad enough to think that only one gender can be abused. They defend Amber purely in the name of “feminism”, which is entirely fake. I can only hope this case lets men know they aren’t alone; they can be heard. Women can’t be allowed to get away with abuse purely based on gender. We also need to stop believing every word that comes out of people’s mouths without any questions. People can’t just accuse others of heinous crimes, especially public figures if they can’t be honest about what happened.

If you’ve made it to the end here, I commend you; I’m very well known for my speeches- blame debate class 😅. All in all, survivors are pissed significantly because so many believed Amber. Those who didn’t were told that they were just in love with Johnny, which is just plainly untrue. Every Amber stan reflects their idol; aggressive behaviour, insults, demeaning survivors, and calling us liars. It’s tiring, it’s upsetting, and we can’t escape from it. I mean, it’s everywhere; there isn’t anywhere this topic hasn’t touched. I’m constantly hit by flashbacks from trauma that keep getting dredged up, and being open about it gets more complicated when civil conversations turn into personal attacks. Elaine and her team were incredibly unprepared and were extremely unprofessional. Johnny scored a rockstar roster and deserved every inch of his win. The message that needs to get across is that no matter what gender, race, or sexuality you are, you aren’t alone. There are millions of us worldwide that are proud of you. Proud of you for pushing through, being brave enough to tell your story, and for being strong enough to fight for the truth. We are not alone, we are a strong community, and we need to support those who go unheard. Victims come in all shapes and sizes, with different coping mechanisms and different personalities. Of course, there's no “perfect victim”, but Amber Heard has proved herself to be nothing but a narcissistic abuser who thought Johnny would never speak up. He has, and we have heard him. None of us should live unheard; no human being should be shunned for speaking their truth.

I’m a survivor of sexual assault. I’ve survived being assaulted multiple times and at the hands of more than one person. 15 years ago today is the assault that changed me. I was done being a victim. Years after that I started speaking out. At some point I may stop posting on this milestone but I will never stop trying to help others find their voice or start their journey from victim to survivor. To whomever is still reading this and needs to hear it, you’re not alone 🫶

Lololololl I just found out some people think not having sex with your partner is abuse???!!! Me thinks not, you r*pey psychos.

In light of the recent revelations about Alex Kister, I've decided to go scorched earth on all my TMC posts; shitposts, art, theories, and all.

I have no regrets going forward.

Fuck Alex Kister (and all of his apologists).

"What did you get for Valentine's Day?"

The easy answer? Chocolates. I always smiled and put on my best "happy" face. If they pressed for more I'd always just make up some dinner plans or some activity I saw some other couple doing. It became normal and frankly easy to make up these lies. Deep down I wanted to cry and heck there were some days where it got really hard to lie. Specifically Valentine's day. It was hard seeing normal couples doing activities and just loving each other. All I wanted was to enjoy this day too. Sadly, more often than not, it went like this

"What did you get for Valentine's day?"

I got lots of relaxation "sleeping" right when I got home from work to avoid angering them. 4 free hours of my time spent pretending to sleep under my blanket, reading or on my phone. I got called wonderful, loving, names like "fat, stupid, cunt." Got to do a whole facial cleansing as I spent a fair bit of it locked in the bathroom trying to avoid getting hurt. I also had a delicious meal of pop tarts that I had in my room and I ate quietly under my covers.

Sadly I doubt the truth of the day ever would have gone over well with everyone, so the fabrication was important

💔 Heartbreaking Story of Wasiya: A Victim of Abuse and False Charges 💔

Share this post to spread awareness about Wasiya's story and join the movement to end domestic violence. Wasiya's life took a devastating turn after her marriage to her first cousin. Unaware of the future awaiting her, she faced unimaginable abuse, violence, and mistreatment behind closed doors. The trauma she endured affected her emotional and psychological well-being, leaving scars on her body and soul.

Her father-in-law, a public servant, misused his influence to make false charges against Wasiya and her family when they sought justice. This story sheds light on the cycle of abuse and the challenges victims face in seeking help.

Let us stand with Wasiya and raise awareness about domestic violence, gender discrimination, and the urgent need for change. Together, we can break the silence, support survivors, and create a safer future for all.

Together, we can make a difference and create a world where everyone feels safe and protected. 📷📷

Hey community, I'm currently fundraising to support a dream project of mine and could really use support.

I'm trying to transform the way we talk about and respond to sexual & relationship violence in our communities through art. The Dreamweavers is a project that I've been working on since July of last year. I have been interviewing queer & trans survivors about their healing journeys, and collaboratively transforming the stories they share into personalized tarot cards. The cards I make with these survivors will be compiled into an exhibition launching during Pride month this year, which will also mark the start of a series of peer support groups that I am going to facilitate.

Since the onset of the Covid-19 pandemic, a report from the Human Rights Campaign Foundation found that LGBTQ+ people are twice as likely to have experienced intimate partner violence (IPV) as their cis, straight peers. The American Journal of Emergency Medicine found that IPV cases increased 25-35% globally as a result of the pandemic. Now, more than ever, survivors' stories are being heard. However, the conversations often focus solely on cis, straight women's experiences. The Dreamweavers shares the stories of survivors whose experiences are overshadowed in a time of increased violence and can serve as an invitation for our community to deepen systems of care by using storytelling to connect across experience.

The funds I am raising for this project will cover the cost of my labor and materials, ensuring that every survivor involved in this project can take their art home free of charge at the end of the exhibition. Additional funds will help me continue this project and expand upon it by traveling to other communities.

If this sounds like something you can believe in, please check out my fundraiser here:

hey guys how SHITTY OF A RESPONSE do you have to make, for DreamWasTaken to make a better statement than you? x

i always thought of Wilbur as a fantastic writer and how the fuck did this guy MAKE SUCH A BAD STATEMENT that he got upstaged by DREAM??

This is one of the best things i've ever seen come from Dream. Words, actions, and intent, and to have someone who, for better or worse, has such a big platform support Shelby is just amazing to see.