just a friendly reminder that people with personality disorders or any other highly stigmatised disorder are just as worthy of love and care as someone who doesn't have said disorders. someone's medical record shouldn't be a factor when determining someone's worth

if you claim your blog is allegedly mentally health friendly and and you literally regularly tag all other common triggers. and you post something that will likely trigger people with psychosis or dissociation:

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I don’t think in any way that DPD is accepted. All about the disorder is stigmatised. The idea of being dependent is one that is demonised. People with DPD can be seen as toxic and pathetic because they need people to survive. They can’t make decisions for themselves, they cannot disagree with people easily because they do not want to lose anyone. People with this disorder cannot be left alone because they need people to be responsible for major parts of their life. This is unusual to many neurotypicals or generally just people without the disorder. Independence is seen as such an important part of life. When physical disabled people need people to help them, it is alright because you can physically see that they need to be dependent but people with mental disorders cannot show this through their appearance or physical attributes. This is why ableism is so normalised against them. People with AvPD also get demonised for the opposite reason. They are unwilling to participate in friendships or activities due to fear of criticism. They consider themselves socially unacceptable and therefore, get out of social situations. Being avoidant can be interpreted in so many ways but none of them are positive.

like OCD is just so chronically misunderstood, under-represented, and disregarded.

Why I hate how dandruff is presented

You've all seen the jokes- old man with dandruff, shaking his head and a cloud of snow falls down, dandruff just being there for a laugh... It's never treated as anything serious, ever. It's just a joke! And just a joke about old men at that.

I'm 17 years old. I've had dandruff since I was at least 11. I've been made fun of all that time for the white flakes that are a constant on my head.

I just saw dandruff as a joke, too.

At most, it was just my scalp being a bit dry, so it needed a moisturising shampoo.

Yeah.... Turns out I have scalp psoriasis. I'm in near constant pain, which gets worse whenever I'm ill or stressed, because psoriasis is an autoimmune disease. My immune system is attacking my own skin. It's gotten to the point where shampoo doesn't help. I'm just in pain, always. I'll have a doctor's appointment where we can discuss options soon hopefully.

It's painful enough that I end up with scabbing all over my scalp from scratching. I pull my hands away and my nails are bloody from repeatedly picking and itching the scabs.

So no, not just a funny joke.

When I mentioned how painful it was to my friend, (only referring to it as dandruff rather than psoriasis) he said "I didn't realise dandruff could be painful!". In fact, several conditions that can cause dandruff have the fact that they're itchy or sore in their their symptoms list- eczema, dermatitis, and of course psoriasis.

And yet people just see dandruff as a joke. Even now, I feel anxious writing this- I feel like someone's gonna read this and think 'why are they getting so serious about dandruff? Lighten up!'

Sure, for some people it's not painful. Just flaky. But even then, they can experience the same social issues I did- I still remember a pair of kids seeing my large white skin flakes on my dark hair and exclaiming that I had nits (lice for Americans), and running away shouting at me. I hate that it's treated as a joke, or stigmatised, and seen as just an old man thing.

It's an actually serious issue for so many people. Why isn't it treated as such?

Another day, another mental disorder I add to my list to get checked for though the symptoms overlap with others already on there which just makes it more complicated.

@faithfromanewperspective idk if we've talked about it before, but I'm adding a tentative BPD, which is also suspected to run in my family.

We need to end the ‘loud/obnoxious character getting headcanoned as adhd and the quiet/nervous one getting headcanoned as autistic’ industrial complex

if I had a nickel for every time c!tommy was demonised for showing blatant signs of psychosis and delusions of persecution i’d be the richest person alive. but people don’t even acknowledge that c!tommy has canonically had psychotic episodes (with delusions so frequent he genuinely couldn’t tell them from reality at times) except to say the actions of the people who hurt him must all be in his head. the ableism towards c!tommy in this fandom is sickening and it goes unnoticed because people reduce it down to his ptsd (which he has canonically had since at least the l’manberg war yet people push the date further back too) instead of including his psychotic episodes or severe self worth issues or severely disordered eating or addictive personality bc it gives them an excuse to pretend they’re in the right.

There needs to be a shinigami eyes for websites and social medias that are like normal about people with personality disorders. Bc if I see one more website talk about narcissistic abuse like it’s a real thing, I’m going to lose it.

ohh the Guilt

I have bpd and hearing your comments and feelings on this topic feels so,,, refreshing and good. Like, genuinely, people don’t understand how bad it hurts to google search your disorder in hopes of finding some extra info, or something to send to a friend to have them understand a part of your disorder you’re explaining, etc, and every search result google gives you is “here’s the basics of harmful-emotional-manipulator disorder,” “what to do if you’re STUCK in a relationship with a bpd person,” “how to love someone with bpd even though it’s so hard” …. It just hurts so bad knowing that if I tell a loved one that I have borderline personality disorder, if they try to go learn about it, they’ll just be getting warning signals about me rather than helpful basic medical/emotional/psychiatric info. I appreciate you so much— I rarely feel that much empathy about my bpd. You are kind beyond words

I'm glad you find some comfort in my thoughts!! however it does break my heart that it seems so rare to hold a base level of understanding and compassion towards those with PDs, it really shouldn't be this way - i shouldn't appear particularly kind bc all of society should at least hold this amt of understanding yk?

scientific journals are infamous for talking about patients and participants in a dehumanising way, and yet relative to other articles online, theu are the most "compassionate" kind of source you can find. i cannot imagine being diagnosed w a PD and looking up ways to manage your symptoms and all you see is articles that don't just dehumanise, but actively demonise. i hope one day we grow as a society and realise the cruelty in treating a whole group of people - most of whom have suffered childhood traumas - as evil or something to escape not because of their actions but simply because of a diagnosis. i really hope things change.

As much as I love Renfield (2023), I have to say that the only thing I truly disliked about it was the whole demonisation of narcissism/NPD. Yes, self-centred people exist and abuse people willingly and knowingly. And yes, Dracula is definitely one of those. But narcissists are people who have NPD. And if someone with NPD is an abuser, then they are an abuser who happens to have NPD.

Anyway, all this to say that I really don't appreciate that the movie took this approach on abusive relationships. They could have very well left out the whole "narcissist" thing.

Those are my two cents on this whole thing. Other than that, I love the movie with all of my heart. <3

yeah you post really insightful, thought-provoking things about the gang's daddy issues/body image/repression/whatever the fuck else But are you normal about narcissists? are you normal about sociopaths or psychopaths?

Anyway I'm gonna log off already and who knows when I'll be back on here again but jesus christ some of you need to go outside and interact with people who don't spend all their time online.

Realise being nonverbal isn't typing out names of emojis longer than what you even WANT to say typed out.

Realising that supporting groups that actively want you to make your symptoms worse or more exaggerated just because they have one good idea or principle or belief that isn't even exclusively theirs isn't the big cool accepting flex you think it is.

Or that acting out on stigmatised parts of a disorder and hiding behind it as an excuse isn't acceptable, and that you're just hurting others and reinforcing a negative opinion they'll have of ANYONE with that disorder.

You're making your own lives harder, and other peoples. It's honestly miserable.

You people try so hard to not be ableist that you go full circle and are extremely ableist.

Me, seeing a good post: :)

Me, seeing the narcabuse tag: :|

I’m going on a rant. Read with these acknowledgments:

My mother is a bad mother. She’s not a bad mother because she is bipolar, she is not a bad mother because she is a drug addict. She is a bad mother because she is. Her mental illnesses and addictions are not what makes her a bad mother. She just is one. I get so annoyed when people believe that mothers are bad because of addiction or illness. People can be shitty and have mental illness. I hate it. She would be a bad mother if she was so mentally stable and without addiction. I truly believe that. Her bad mothering isn’t just that, it’s much more and people need to understand that.