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People should stop being weird some about celebrities
They’re just kinda people too everybody
Treat your favorite celeb respectfully <3
That is my PSA for today
#sorry more serious post#but seeing people be invasive and really creepy with celebrities makes me upset#they’re just chilling just like you#(at least the good nice celebrities obv)#so please kindly remember that#take pics with them only when it’s appropriate#and try not to make them uncomfy with your actions#(stuff like sending love letters yknow)#remember they have boundaries too#thank you❤️#that is all#this is directed at the universe#no one in particular#celebrities#hollywood
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I think it's completely ethical for a child of influencers to sue their parents for non-consentually making them a child influencer
#youth liberation#actually i think it's completely justified and the ramifications of being Subjected to the Internet...#...far outweighs the desire to make a kid into a mini influencer#i'm an old zoomer and i remember when kidfluencers weren't a thing#(my problem isn't with kids making content necessarily. my problem is FORCING them to do that regardless of how they feel)#kids are people too#consent extends to children#and consent isn't JUST about asking for physical intimacy...#...consent is also asking to take somebody's picture. it is also asking what touch is okay. it is also respecting a kid's boundaries#if a kid says they don't want their picture taken they don't want their pucture taken...#...just an example. i HATED being forced to take pictures as a kid and i would have despised it less if i was respected enough to be asked#lmao i'm watching a video about this topic#all kids deserve parents. not all parents deserve kids.
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I agree Max's statement probably was written or overseen by his PR team, not in a "he'd never write that/he wouldn't defend his gf that way/it's Kelly who wanted him to comment there and made him do it way" but in a "If Max was allowed to say what he really wanted, it wouldn't be media friendly to say the least" way. Max isn't someone who reacts to the hate that he himself receives, but we've seen him time and time again go to the bat for his loved ones, particularly his mother, and his sister and her kids (y'all do remember Max's nephews - literal babies - got death threats in 2022?).
I personally don't like Kelly. So I don't interact with her tag, or her socials. I scroll past when she comes up in tags I do follow. I block when people are being weird about her. Has she done and said things that warrant criticism? Yes, absolutely and without question. But my question is: would you care about that if she wasn't dating Max? Because a lot of the comments come off as less "this action/behaviour is questionable/appalling/etc, it must be rightfully called out" and more "it should be me dating him". Also, perpetuating misogyny towards her and bodyshaming her, isn't criticism. Some of you jump that line often. Kelly has done a lot of problematic shit, I'm not denying that, but two wrongs don't make a right.
It's important to remember not just Kelly gets this type of hate, no "wag" or even the mother of a driver goes unscathed. Even Oscar's girlfriend, whose Instagram is private and who very quietly shows up to support him, gets hate. Let's not forget ferrari fans singing that Sophie Kumpen Max's mum was a whore, or all that's been said about Alex's mum over the years. We've enabled such a toxic environment for any woman who is in any way connected to f1. I remember what some of y'all had to say about Hannah Schmitz, who *check notes* had the audacity to do her job, do her job well and do it as a red bull employee. We talk about wanting to get women onto the grid, but we can't even allow the women currently involved in the sport, whether fans, crew & team members, drivers' family members and girlfriends, to simply exist. We're only talking about Kelly right now because she made a statement.
This is just two examples of some of the shit that's been been perpetuated:
In short, your fav driver isn't going to fuck you or the driver you ship them with.
#f1#formula 1#formula one#these are real people I'm begging y'all to remember that#i drabble with rpf but it's the f part the FICTION I'm under no delusion no matter how much i kid on here#parasocial relationships may feel real to you but its note#as much as you feel you know these people you don't#far too many boundaries have been crossed looking at you official admins#official admins stop using ship names i beg
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the average person doesn't expect you to be a perfect ethical consumer, that's not possible for the vast majority of us. but what youre saying is it's better to do nothing at all and choose the worst possible options (sweat shops, overseas shipping waste, idea/product theft, all wrapped up in SHEIN) than to put even the tiniest effort in where you can.
[they are referring to this post]
What I said was "some people are doing literally everything they can to survive and have no extra bandwidth to spend extra time and money on their purchases, and it is cruel and therefore un-punk to gatekeep punkness and add additional shame to these people's lives based on that fact."
I think it's still a good thing to try to ethically consume; I literally never said it wasn't. I had never even heard of SHEIN before. Rather, I am much more concerned about what I saw as arbitrary gatekeeping based on ability and income.
And frankly how dare you claim that I am supporting sweatshops and abuse by saying that this additional work you are demanding (in this case, presumably, vetting every clothing company you buy from) is not always possible for people. It is not a light accusation to accuse me of supporting abuse.
"How dare you say we piss on the poor", Etc. 🙄 this isn't Twitter. You are determined to enforce moral purity, but you are failing to see the nuance.
Because when I say "no extra bandwidth," I mean no extra bandwidth. This is not the "car shows it's on E but actually secretly it has a lot of gas left" situation that abled people constantly assume disabled people mean when they say they are at their limit.
This is "the car has stopped moving, and to move it I'd have to break my body pushing it." This is "at a certain point, people will hit a wall in terms of money and time and energy, and any energy spent after that comes directly out of their life force."
So the argument "okay but just spend a little more time money and energy actually" is not a valid one.
And the argument "if you are not able to do this specific task, then it means you're not doing anything else to make the world a better place" doesn't exactly impress me either. You said yourself that it is impossible to be a perfectly ethical consumer for most people.
How do you know what else people are doing to resist oppression? How many hours per week until your standards are met?What if someone works 3 jobs? Does that mean it's harder to be a good person if you're poor?? Why do you get to decide what specific avenue of bettering the world is the most morally repugnant or acceptable? What kind of proof of goodness and effort would make you satisfied enough to lay off on the shame?? Who are you helping??
Clothing is a fundamental human need, and some of us have to buy cheap fucking clothes quickly. Billionaires are buying their seventh yacht this month. The people who own fast fashion companies are abusing their workers and putting local affordable clothing stores out of business - and this applies for basically every company with price points that low because governments are failing to regulate corporations to enforce basic human rights.
I have $300 to spend on a new wardrobe as my old clothes have fallen apart or become too small. Do you have a way for me to get a new winter coat, 3 flannels, 10 shirts, 3 dress shirts, new sandals, 10 pairs of pants, 5 bras, 12 pairs of socks, and 10 pairs of underwear within that budget and also definitely 100% ethically sourced, with free returns in case it doesn't fit? Or will I simply have to use the cheap stores?
I have about an hour to spend on this per week. Many mainstream stores doesn't make clothes in my size, and I am now in *year 5* of needing an electric wheelchair and being unable to get one; plus I live up a flight of stairs, so I can't even bring my walker out with me - so thrift shopping is not gonna cover this. Should I continue to wear small and tattered clothing until I have the time, money, and energy to meet your standards?
Did you know there are more empty homes in this country than homeless people? If I decide to splurge on only 100% ethically-produced products, and I can't make rent, and I become homeless, are YOU going to be there for me?? Or are you too busy litigating the endless tiny shames of poverty in your own community?
So I ask you again, are you SURE this is where you want to direct your punk energy?
Because there are a whole lot of rich people relying on people like us punching down and to the side instead of looking up to see where the money is going.
Because energy and time, as it turns out, are limited resources. And I would never expect you to secretly have more than you claim to have.
#original#punk#hopepunk#cripplepunk#i swear to god#reading comprehension website#how dare you say we piss on the poor#jfc 'what you're saying is we should do nothing' - what I'm saying is YOU are doing nothing by enforcing this boundary#you have to give people more credit than this. i believe you want a better world too. and it would be cool if you used your energy to#instead ask 'how do i fight for the people in my community to be clothed and have the time and income to shop ethically?'#or 'how do i support activism that pushes for regulation that could control these companies?'#monitoring how poor people spend money is a supremely Republican thing to do. as is demanding clear moral purity from every scenario.#you want a better world too. you want to demand your peers do better. - fine. good.#but you need to be asking if you have remembered and included everyone's needs when making statements like this.#capitalism is all for forgetting about poor and disabled people and refusing to believe their limits.#shame is a necessary weapon in fighting greed but it IS a weapon. be so careful where you point that shit. enough shame can kill a person#and a lot of us are already defending from it from all sides.#shaming a person who is already at their limit for not doing more is an act of cruelty. think very carefully about what that means please.#i literally don't even know what SHEIN is lol i just know classism when i see it#but I've had friends whose clothes were visibly falling apart with no income and so much so shame so deep in their hearts they were dying#and if they had seen that post it would have made them even sicker and gotten them no closer to the dignity of being properly clothed#shame is a weapon and /you need to be careful!!!!/
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oku and bree have a nice, normal picnic where nothing weird will happen ^^ (echidna dead to comply with bree's boundaries) (echidna alive to comply with oku's boundaries) (echidna looking cool to comply with echidna's boundaries)
#my art#<-???i think that's my art tag. i should check that#beastlife#had this in my mind since the boundaries post because i think it's funny to just throw echidna in#don't worry about the ufo in the sky it's fine <3#all of this done from memory and skinstealer. and also those drawings echidna did in outfits#however . oku died and i don't. remember what their moth skin looked like. so normal one it is#also the pineapple is there because it was in the stock photo reference and the idea of bringing an entire uncut pineapple that's clearly#too large for the picnic basket to a picnic is. really funny to me. why do you have that
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awesome. ive had Nightmares two nights in a row now
#my whole family was murdered except for my brother who managed to escape#i was dead. i was very much shot in the face and killed#i also nesrly escaped but one of the guys saw me and asked if i wanted it to be painless.#i said 'just do it from here please. please dont make me come to you.'#and then pov switched to following my brother.and i eventually realized it was me following him#i just remember thinking i have to watch over him. i have to make sure he stays alive. i have to make sure he doesnt kill himself.#then i remember my body being.. semi autopsied ? people after the murder were looking over my body. at my teeth and gums. my hands.#i was concious as this was happening. i was rhinking how i cant just 'wake up' right now#but i eventually did when they went to look at the rest of my family's bodies. and i guess i left to find my brother for Real#i met a kid at a seven eleven who was talking about raggedy ann dolls to me. i like. wasnt all bloody and Bullet Holed anymore#but i remember thinking'why isnt she scared of all the blood on me'#i kinda woke up after that#idk. its early 1 am now. that sucked. goodnight for real.#first one was just my dad being a dickhead and disrespecting 1 my time and 2 my physical boundaries Sitting too close to me and guilting me#over ‘making him feel bad’ over both those things#dream journal
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Diary entry/ vent update ♡
I got many peppermint mochas today and am wearing a big cozy sweater and watching reality tv. Thank you soooo much for all the anonnies and mooties give me comfort and reminding me to take care of myself 💐💐💐💐
#Felt horrible and had a huge cry#I thought I was super behind on my thesis too but I am only slightly behind and will get it done tomorrow#Turned in the keys for the old apartment <3 was saur triggering but it's done#I am really really trying to enforce my boundaries and not put myself in situations#I'm not going to her party tomorrow so I feel good about that even though I miss her I dont trust her rn#But my prettyboy dyke friend wants to hook up again and that was a really positive and healing experience and safe so I might do that#Just have to remember I am allowed to protect myself that no one else will be hurt by me protecting myself and that I deserve protection
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#i committed to working out again (as of like a week ago) which I do sincerely need to do#but even post recovery I like. see muscles move under my skin and I remember what they looked like when they were so developed#and I had zero body fat then lmao. like Back In The Day i would be so thin I could look at this#*those muscles when I was even getting up from a chair.#I could see the contour of their boundaries (?) and even my ligaments/tendons sometimes. thru my skin. bc I was so thin#and when I look at my legs and arms move forward sometimes that’s all I can#think about. ‘u used to be able to see that move under ur skin but u can’t now bc there’s too much fat in the way’#I should be talking about this with a therapist I guess but I hate all of them and I don’t have a billion dollars and a whole decade to spen#*spend finding The Right One who is a good fit and is trained in this stuff specifically and can actually help me#idk what I’m even saying here anymore whatever I’m just…. ugh fuck.
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Actually, scratch that, I’m cutting the break short. Good evening, everyone. 💙
#To keep things succinct; the man I was courting tragically found me too intense.#However we persevere nonetheless and refuse to wallow.#I do so wish for an apology from him but alas I fear his ego limits the chances.#Whatever. I went shopping today! And I got the most darling garnet jewellery set.#They look like scales! Snake scales… Dragon scales… just. scales.#And the colour; don’t even get me started on the colour.#Remember kids ! a man will; much like rest of humanity; wither and age and rot to nothing.#A durable; well taken care of and appropriately respected stone will not. <3#But to return to the topic; I was planning on deleting all social media but.#Self isolation won’t help; even if I have no social energy.#I don’t necessarily have to push myself out of my boundaries.#Social media can also exist solely to reblog 20 posts of your man and then disappear into the void for the next 43 hours.#I likely won’t be interacting much or going out of my way because I do not have the time or energy but. I am cheering everyone on. <3#✧.*🌹
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I just watched a video where a bodyguard pushed a KPOP fansite photographer and sent her flying. The comments are very divided on whether or not it was too aggressive. I feel like your own personal opinion on the matter is definitely shaped by how you grew up and what your current job is.
If you're ever done retail, healthcare or hospitality, you would've looked at the video like: man, I wish I had a body guard last time a Karen got in my face about [some trivial problem].
If you thought it was too brutal and aggressive, you're a nice soft person. Congratulations on not letting the world make you bitter. But also, boundaries exist and mayhaps you need to acquaint yourself with the notion of "Fuck Around and Find Out".
#where's seungcheol when you need him#all this for a fcking photo#look at your life look at your choices#i still remember when jisung fell#i still remember when those fans mob rushed jungkook and pushed him#some of these kids are too young to remember how Princess Diana died#take your photos but don't mob rush them#it's so embarassing#like do people think this is cool#i've been harassed at every job i've had and i don't have time for people not respecting boundaries
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I’m really not vibing with the theme music and the more I think about it the more I think it’s for the same reasons people are having issues with the pacing.
The books are adventures - it’s kids being sent off on their own to complete quests and fight monsters and save their friends. They’re fun and upbeat and scary and exciting.
The theme music is whimsical and magical and completely opposite to the sense of adventure of the original stories, and I think that’s lost in the show as well. The complete lack of urgency and weird pacing makes the stakes seem really low and the encounters with monsters are over so quickly or interrupted by something that brings the tension of the scene crashing down.
#like this week with Grover chasing Augustus that felt urgent that felt necessary and like there were stakes for him to catch up to him. why#don’t we have the same level of intensity in any other encounter in this show?#okay I take it back I remember capture the flag and that had all the things I want in the other fights in this show! it had drama it had#stakes it had excitement and that was all within the boundaries of camp while they were still safe and as soon as they left things just seem#so toned down? idk man#and now that the deadlines passed there’s going to be even less urgency. like we’ve only got Percy’s will driving the quest now and I don’t#think that’s going to make them go any quicker seeing as a deadline before a war kicked off didn’t so idk. I don’t know what to expect from#the last two episodes but I don’t have high hopes …#idk I want to love it I really do but there’s just too many choices the show runners and writers and whoever else made that I can’t get behi#behind#percy jackson#pjo#percy jackon and the olympians
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#personal#ngl its still really alienating for me to see sooo much of stone sexuality on this site revolve around strap#dont get me wrong im all for enjoying what you like#and the t*rfy pushback against strap is stupid#its just alienating to me personally cause penetration rly scares me cause of trauma + vaginismus#its horrifying to me on a psychological AND physical level#so the number of sex acts im even comfortable thinking about are super limited lol#and i dont like the attitude that taking strap is what marks you as femme. tbh#again. not dissing what other people like in the slightest. just wish there was more room for me too lol#my sexuality is so limited that its easy to give up and decide that well sex just isnt for me! i am a more romance focused person anyway#but sigh………..#at the end of the day it doesnt matter what ppl on tumblr think what matters is anyone i might screw around with someday#baaaaasically got confirmation that the girl i got my eye on is a stone top so im 👀#cant wait to be like dwww babe i have super weird boundaries too#just remembered she PHYSICALLY cannot finger me because of disability. thank gd.
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Go play, ambassador, go play ambassador (Patreon)
#Doodles#SCII#KUP#NEJ#Captain Sterling#Mix of lads! Working on a little bit of all the SCII OCs lol#Ft. my first intentional doodle of KUP - trying to plan around ways to differentiate him from how I draw the rest of my fave VUX#I'm thinking he might just have a slightly longer face lol - slightly longer tendrils slightly longer trunk#Stretched lad lol#The return of NEJ! Love NEJ <3 His name is fun to write in VUK ZIX haha it's very angular#He's still got his little pouch :) Which is definitely a good way of differentiating him since I forgot his uniform differences until later#He doesn't have the little gold collar/cuff elements! Mistake! The last two of him are the most accurate even if he is missing his pouch lol#Also fun to draw his mask again :D He's totally gotta wear it from protection from things like water and fertilizer! Not just in avoidance!#I mean it Is probably a good idea that plant fertilizer doesn't get in his eye lol but it's more of a perk of the job#His curves are fun to draw too ♪ Gotta remember he's Extremely hour-glass shaped - somewhat wide shoulders and hips and tiny waist haha#And then a couple more of Sterling and KUP to round us off#Getting dangerously close to considering shipping those two...#Sterling's just friendly with everyone and has very few boundaries lol but KUP's feelings hmmm hmmmm#He's not a fool tho he likes playing chicken as well lol#KUP balks easily but keeps coming back hmm wonder what that's about lol ♪#He can just produce so much warm air all at once! It's not cooled by passing through a long narrow passage! It's interesting! That's all!#Totally ♫
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there's something so terrifying in not being able to trust your own memory. because it means you cannot trust yourself. you can try to plan things and write out reminders and build up all the rituals and habits you want, but something always slips past you. did i really do what i thought i did? or is it just what i expected myself to do? did i create a whole scenario in my head of what happened? i don't have any memory of something to contradict it. i don't have any memory of something to confirm it. i just don't have any memory at all.
should i trust what someone else tells me about myself? how do i know what their intentions are? is there bias? is their memory any better? i have no way to know if what they say is true. i have no way to know if what they say is false. i have no way to confirm it with the only person i should be able to always rely on. she isn't there. she wasn't there. she can’t tell me anything.
#😁👍 4:30am spiral.#roommate did something and i was too scared to confront him directly about it bc i fear i might come across as an asshole#because i might've said something to him a month ago telling him what he did was ok to do#but there is genuinely just a hole where that conversation should've been. did i specify that what he actually did was too much?#did i neglect to mention what my exact boundary was? did i even remember to have a conversation??#because the fact that i can't remember a conversation feels like it should mean i didn't have one#but i can't FUCKING remember!!! all evidence points to yes and my brain alone is saying no and i'm feeling. bad. :)#they speak!
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horrifying self recognition through the other aside this has been an actually not terrible start to The Family Gathering tbh
#my cousin who i havent really seen in a while came up to me and asked abt my pronouns because i came out to the fam a while ago#and he didnt really remember what id said (which. fair. its a big family w lots of things to remember)#and so he asked what my pronouns were and i told him and he promised that if he ever messed up i needed to make him#do like 5 or 10 pushups lmao#and ngl. its the sweetest thing anyone in this family has ever said to me abt that#everyone else has kinda just. moved on. and either forgotten that im not a girl or purposefully ignoring it.#and idk maybe i should stand up for myself a little more but ive been practically a doormat all my life#and idk. its hard using my voice and establishing boundaries when ive let ppl bulldoze over me for almost 20 years.#sigh. anyway.#im gonna be thinking about that all day tbh it was genuinely so sweet#and i am also being consumed by The Loneliness again <3#just. i want someone to just talk to about all this??? someone who isnt in my family because they all have stakes in it too?????#we're all grieving. i aint special.#i just want to talk to someone about it in person so they can hold my hand while i cry myself to sleep because ngl#thats what it looks like we're doing tonight#im just. tired of feeling alone in this enormous family where it seems like im the only odd man out#and also ykw the Not Having Any Irl Friends loneliness too. thats also pretty significant.#not saying my internet friends arent great i love yall so so so much but it has just been .#a really really long time since ive had a good cry n hug session w someone.#sigh. im tired i need to go to bed#winter speaks#personal
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eternal fight between wanting to correct a misconception abt cats but also knowing that it was just a silly joke and i shouldnt take it so seriously but also something being a joke doesnt mean you shouldnt still point things out but also i have no expertise beyond just "i have multiple cats and spend way too much time watching them and thinking about the way they interact w each other and what that means about how their brains work" which means i would just be talking out of my ass anyways because i have no way of telling if my interpretations are right or if im anthropomorphizing them
#origibberish#anyways. your cat isnt trying to steal your food#he doesnt understand 'your' food vs 'my' food he just understands 'food'#and sees you as another cat and when cats are eating and another cat wants some they just. walk up and partake#so if youre having issues with that you gotta start using cat language to tell them to back off#like growling/hissing at your cat is allowed they do it at each other all the time for a reason#actually slight correction they do understand 'my' food but only in terms of 'i caught this so it is my trophy'#food thats just Around is communal#so think like a cat and say no this is MY kill in cat words#i killed this sandwich and IM going to eat it#like theres a part of me thats like 'no you cant hiss at your cat thats mean!' but thats looking at it through human eyes#we see hissing as mean because its The Mad Sound and mad is Bad and Angry and Personal#but for cats mad is different#theres no values or anything behind it‚ mad just means 'stop what youre doing or ill hit you'#and like you know actually hitting your cat would be shitty and abusive and that threatening smth like that to a child would be equally#and abusive so in ur brain ur like 'i cant threaten him in cat speak'#but like its not a threat for them!! its just a warning so that they know the other cat Doesnt Like What Theyre Doing!!!#thats how they establish boundaries!!! so not only are you allowed to use it i would even say trying to actually bring yourself to your#cats level in terms of communication is probably like. better?#but i mean again. this is all based entirely off of half remembered cat facts books from childhood and spending way too long#watching the endless drama between my children#so. take literally all of that with a grain of salt#actually scratch that ive decided i am an expert now. universities i am willing to be a professor of cat psychology
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