Forgiving yourself for past mistakes is the ultimate act of self-love and growth. You see, we all make mistakes! But the key is to learn from them and use them as stepping stones to becoming a better version of yourself. Holding onto guilt and shame is like carrying a heavy weight on your shoulders, and baby, you don't need that kind of burden in your life. It's time to let go of the past, embrace your journey, and love yourself through it all. You are human, you are flawed, and you are also incredible. So, give yourself a break, and forgive yourself. You deserve it!
The first reaction when people offended you is to hold onto the grudge and think that you deserve to remain angry. This is because:
1. Pride. We always think that that person does not need forgiveness for what he did to you. Having a mindset of “what he did, does not equate to forgiveness”.
2. Fear of being offended again. Some people are just afraid that if they forgive someone, they will do it again.
But let us look at what the Bible says:
1. For our pride, remember that God does not keep a record of our sins as He always forgive us even though we, too, don’t deserve it.
Psalms 130:3-4 (NIV), “ If you, Lord, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you.
And this is because of His unfailing love.
Psalms 130:7 (NIV), “O, Israel, hope in the Lord; for with the Lord there is unfailing love. His redemption overflows.
So, if God forgives the undeserving (you), then we should too.
2. For fear of being offended again, remember that forgiveness results in repentance and creates holy fear.
Psalms 130:4 (NLT), “ But you offer forgiveness, that we might learn to fear you.”
Notice that if we ask forgiveness from Him, we repent and we develop the thing called holy fear—fear of offending God and grieving the Holy Spirit. So, forgive and let the Lord convict your offender. For sinning against people is sinning against God as He commanded us to love our neighbors. (Fear of the Lord or holy fear delivers us from offense and from offending someone).
But, if your offender is not convicted, then read the number one again.
Revenge solves nothing! Its like a Boomerang being sent out in anger/rage only to find itself whipping back to the sender! Instead consider the frisbee letting it go as it lightly floats in the air to be caught in the hand of a friend. Forgive and move on.
Forgiveness has been the biggest game changer in my life. It doesn’t always mean a relationship will be restored. Or that things will go back to what they used to be. But one thing forgiveness WILL always bring is more peace in your life. If this made you think of anyone, I hope you have the courage to forgive them.
[We should] make quiet but more honest inventories of our strengths, since, in this connection, most of us are dishonest bookkeepers and need confirming 'outside auditors.' He who was thrust down in the first estate delights to have us put ourselves down. Self-contempt is of Satan; there is none of it in heaven. We should, of course, learn from our mistakes, but without forever studying the instant replays as if these were the game of life itself.
(Neal A Maxwell, October 1976)
my dad sent me this quote today and i loved it. forgiveness is one of the virtues it seems we’ve really ceased to strive for in this world, and sadly that doesn’t just mean we’re not forgiving other people, we’re losing the ability to forgive ourselves. the two are inextricably connected
it’s comforting to be reminded that God, who is perfect in this as He is in everything else, forgives us no matter what and sees strengths and talents and worthiness in us that we don’t always see in ourselves. it’s also important to be reminded that striving to be more like Him means both making the effort to see good qualities in and forgiving others, and seeing those qualities in and forgiving ourselves
Not to be controversial but you don't have to forgive your abusive parents in-order to move on, you need to forgive and love the you that was abused, don't blame them(you) for carrying it all alone. Hating bad people is sexy actually