Just me.

We are made of chaos and destruction. One can only take so much pain before they accept the darkness & let the insanity take over. #waronwomen #shortquotes #quickquotes #browngirlswhoblog #browngirls #writingmotivation #igwrites #bookquotes #booktok https://www.instagram.com/p/CpmyKu3yOQx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Meira and I attended her first bday party yesterday and my baby had such a great time! From the walking tacos, to giant games and even a bounce house! Happy birthday Ahny!!! #babyparty #10monthsold #motherhood #colorparty #browngirlswhoblog #smiles https://www.instagram.com/p/CiXq9d4O2ND/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Curate Your Own Life

Curate means, “you organize and present it. Curate comes from the word cure, and a curate is supposed to cure that most important part of you - your soul. ”  Are you curating your own life? Or are you emulating another person’s life? Bringing “YOUR IDEAS” into existence will not allow you to copy what some else has because you have decided to open up your gifts to bring them to life. Your gifts and talents are to be expounded upon so you can be a blessing to others. Curating your own life doesn’t allow for you to copy another person, you will truly see that these are your unique blessings given just for you. But the problem we find ourselves in is trying to copy another person’s persona, the person you are trying to emulate has curated their own life which is designed just for them, not for you.

Then the question becomes, “Who Are You?” You need to know who you are to organize and present your life. When you stop trying to be like the people you see in the media, you will have a better handle and assessment on how you are to move with your life. Curating your life will have its ebbs and flows. I know that it’s easier said than done, especially with the way media advertising is all in your face, on your social media pages, even your emails but when you take your eyes off of the distractions, you will be able to oversee your life. Your curation is your evolution, you will not remain the same when understanding your purpose, your posture changes and so does your voice because you have decided to no longer look to your left or right trying to be like the people you see in the magazines, on the internet or videos (TikTok, IG Reels, FB, etc.,)

To curate, your life means, “Showing people who you are.”  It’s time for you to stop hiding and start shining. This is “Your Time” so let’s get to it.

Until My Next Post…It’s Time to Curate Your Life! Photo Credit:  LeeAnah

I absolutely love this picture of myself 🤎

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on today’s theme of self-forgiveness. it’s a process. it’s a balance! let your intuition guide you. we are our worst critics. if you’re doing the best you can, try not to judge your efforts.

Do you love an all-black outfit? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I think we can all agree that black, while simple, is versatile, classic and always chic. Depending on the black pieces you choose and how you style them, a head-to-toe black ensemble can make a bold statement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you need a few black pieces that are anything but boring, I’ve rounded up a few plus-size black options on my blog (link in bio). . . . . . #curvyconfidence #curvesarebeautiful #plussizelove #loveyourcurves #stylefilesplus #blackinfluencers #browngirlswhoblog #blackgirlbloggers #curvestyle #plussizebloggers #ilovemycurves #plussizeinfluencer #plussizelife #psblogger #psootd #nyfashionblogger #mystylediary #todayimwearingthis #darkskingram #plussizefashion #sizeinclusive #falloutfitideas #fallfashion2020 #curvygirlstyle #ootdblackgirls #respectmycurves #plussizestylewatch #mywhowhatwear #targetstyle https://www.instagram.com/p/CGVPA9kJROS/?igshid=iarof0kwc27v

New ♡ Gold Plated Africa necklace 😍 includes Sterling Silver chain. We heard you all loud and clear, more pendant necklaces are on the way! 💃🏽 . .. . . . #africanecklace #myblackisbeautiful #unapologetic #queening #blackcreatives #empress #African #browngirlswhoblog #teammelanin #melanated #blackwallstreet #afterpay #blackculture #AfricanAmerican #carefreeblackgirl #blackgirlmagic #hbcu #hbcupride #famu #melaninmagic #soulpick #afropunk #explorepage #blackculture #ilovejewerly #nameplatenecklace #womensaccessories #africanecklaces (at Atlanta, Georgia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVGMMBYLGxp/?utm_medium=tumblr

Calling Black Women Writers!! Here's the link to submit to Midnight & Indigo! Read below for more details. https://midnightindigo.submittable.com/submit #Repost @blackwomenarescary ... Check out the open call of one of our featured publishers. Posted @withregram • @midnightandindigo *BLACK WOMEN WRITERS! CALL FOR SUBMISSIONS*⁠ DEADLINE: Sunday, July 11th at 11:59pm ET⁠ ⁠ Readers loved it so much, we're doing it again! midnight & indigo is currently accepting submissions of character-driven, speculative/horror short stories written by Black women writers for our second annual issue.⁠ ⁠ Speculative fiction is a broad genre encompassing fiction with certain elements that do not exist in the real world, often in the context of supernatural, futuristic, or other imaginative themes. This includes, but is not limited to, science fiction, fantasy, superhero fiction, horror, utopian and dystopian fiction, fairytale fantasy, and supernatural fiction.⁠ ⁠ Interested? Please visit the link in bio for info or midnightindigo.submittable.com/submit ⁠ Know a writer? Please help us spread the word. Thank you so much!⁠ ⁠ #callforsubmissions #supportblkwomenwriters #blackwomenwriters #midnightandindigo #bookstagram #blackbookstagram #blackwriters #blackauthors #melanin #shortstories #shortstory #blackwomenwriters #blackpublishingpower #blackgirlswrite #blackgirlswhoblog #browngirlswhoblog #diversebooks #blackgirlbloggers #blackgirlsrock #blackbooks #blackfemalewriters #melaninpoppin #blackwomanstoryteller #blackauthorsmatter #blackliterature #blackbookquotes #writersofig #blackgirlswhowrite #writingcommunity #blackpublisher https://www.instagram.com/p/CQOr1csrJo6/?utm_medium=tumblr

You know…just out here looking cute and whatnot with some OOTD inspo. Pics 1.-4. at WTR GRILL Dress: Primark from thredUP Shoes: H&M Purse: Target Accessories: H&M, vintage Ray-Ban and Avalon Exchange Tampa Pics: 5.-6. at OLIVIA Dress: Christopher John Rogers for Target Purse: Target Shoes: Nordstrom Rack Accessories: H&M, vintage Ray-Ban and Avalon Exchange Tampa Pics 7.-9. Dress: Target Purse: Brandon Blackwood NYC Shoes: Nike Accessories: SAINT LAURENT sunnies, Amazon Fashion butterfly clips . . . #blackinfluencers #blackgirlbloggers #blackgirlfashion #blackgirlstyle #blackwomenwithstyle #blackfashionbloggers #blkgirldaily #blackgirljoy #blackgirlmagic #christopherjohnrogersxtarget #targetstyle #blackwomenrock #melaninonfleek #browngirlblogger #browngirlbeauty #browngirlswhoblog #bloggersdiaries #bloggerlove #bloggerlifestyle #stylediary #fashioninfluencers #styleinfluencer #ootdinspo #stylelookbook #outfitdetails #ootdguide #dailyfashionideas #ootdmagazine #tampablogger #tampa via @preview.app (at Tampa, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CR7Vn8HgVDQ/?utm_medium=tumblr

3 month update. Microlocs!

You've castles in your bones,

Kingdoms in your heart.

If they threaten you with battle,

Bring war to their doorstep.

We've made it to 30 weeks and all I can say is thank you God! Lol This has been a humbling, thought provoking, informative and even fun journey so far. My one takeaway I'd my continual need for GRACE.💖 So many times in this pregnancy I have felt like a failure, a complainer, weak, lost and insecure and at the end of the day I have to remind myself that I am doing this for the first time and that there is no manual for pregnancy. Each one is different just like each person is different and I am just grateful for the strength if my village and the health of my daughter thus far. 💞 She is growing, thriving, and kicking my butt literally and figuratively! Lol Meira Amari your mom is trying her best and I am just so grateful you chose me! 💕 #mommyblogger #motherhoodthroughinstagram #contentcreatorsofinstagram #thirdtrimester #blackbloggersmatter #browngirlswhoblog #brownskingirls #girlmom #lifestyleblogger #fypage #pregnancyjourney #Liveintentionally #motherhoodcommunity #firstbaby #firsttimemommy #womenslife #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthwarrior #faithoverfear (at South Euclid, Ohio) https://www.instagram.com/p/CSzY7ftlak0/?utm_medium=tumblr

Protect Your Mental Health

Mental Health means, “a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being” Why in our communities (Black. Brown, and Indigenous) space is not held for us when it comes down to our mental health? Could it be because those spaces weren’t made for us while we were growing up and now, therefore, grapple with taking charge of it, meaning not allowing people to interrupt, disregard, disrespect, abuse, use and manipulate us? Why are we perpetrated to be strong and out of this world beings? This is coded language that we must recognize for what it is, this was said to our ancestors when they were enslaved, strong strapping animals (not even recognized as human beings) while white people were called fair, not meant for heavy labor, and must be protected at all times. This dangerous and demonic narrative is still glaringly alive today and it must be destroyed, torn down and burned, to never grow again.

We all witnessed how Tennis Sensation Naomi Osako withdrew from the French Open citing Mental Health reasons. Now if anyone has been paying attention to this young lady, you can tell that she struggles with these preposterous ineffective interviewing that they subject athletes to. In one interview that I saw, Naomi said, “I’m just really sad right now” it wasn’t because of the game, she was having a mental health crisis, and let me tell you I was so broken for her at that moment because it was so clear that they heard her but didn’t care. After all, in their demonic minds, they were saying, “What does she have to be sad about?” For many of us, these are the same questions posed by our family and friends. And here is the crux of the situation, most of us suffer from anxiety, depression, and mental illness, if you grew up in a religious family you were told to just pray it away. Don’t get me wrong prayer is phenomenal and it does work but God also prompts us to seek out therapists. Now He created them so why do we feel shame for even considering it and Lord knows the church makes it worse, (for many people the church is where their trauma stems from) but this is a topic for another day, coming real soon. So let me tell you why? It is because our families were never encouraged to do so for themselves, so how can they possibly encourage us to do it.

I have learned a lot of lessons during the pandemic and being in quarantine. One of my biggest lessons is taking care of my mental health at all costs and by any means necessary. I currently don’t have a therapist but I am looking for one because I am not ashamed to say I want one. When I look back on my adolescence, teen-aged years, and adulthood, I can see faces of people who I grew up with that I now recognize as battling with their mental health. Comments that the elders would make about people being disrespectful, hardheaded, they are going to die young, they are slow, and the remarks went on and on. I know these words were spoken because they heard the very same things when they were growing up, so it’s learned behavior, a vicious cycle, generational curses, and trauma. Healing wasn’t spoken to them, so how could they speak healing to us. So this is why each of us must get help, you can start here; https://therapyforblackgirls.com/ Do command the space for our peace of mind, protect our mental health, allow ourselves to heal, say no, show up as our authentic self, allow ourselves to be planted, pruned, watered, and bloom. Don’t do it for anybody else, “DO IT FOR YOURSELF” - BECAUSE FOR MANY OF US IT IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH.

Until My Next Post…We Are To Be Each Other’s Keeper!

Photo Credit:  Isha Gaines

Is it really a thing? Coming of age. Or, is it just something we tell ourselves we all go through. Do we all really feel the same way when we see the last sunset of a fleeting summer? Or, spend the first snow day of the year with our childhood best friends? Is there a defining moment of clarity in all of our lives? Is it when we meet who we will spend the rest of our lives with, or when we figure out what we will spend the rest of our lives doing. Or all we all just disillusioned into believing there is some uniformity to this cruel human experience.  Do we come age, or are we who’ve always been, chained to the fruit that spawns us. Is it just a lie, that we pass down through books and movies, only so our children will suffer looking for it too.

m.n // “Coming of Age.”

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