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the-100-percent · 21 days

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Introduction post!

System info

Name: The 100%

Member count: 24

Type: Hydraconscious, paragenic

Host(s): Alastor, Lucifer

Co-host(s): Velvette

Extra: We're all fictives besides Goob who is a factive of a snail

Headmate info

Name: Yuuko

Role: Original

Pronouns: He/They/It/Clown

Identities: Non-binary, Clowngender, Lesbian, Polyamorous, Poly-therian, Fictionflicker

Sign-off: 🏳️‍🌈

Extra: Fictionkins: Yuuko (Nichijou), Theriotypes: Dog, Cat and Axis deer

Name: Basil

Role: Fictive (OMORI)

Pronouns: He/They

Identities: Demiboy, Therian

Sign-off: 🌻

Extra: Theriotype is Snowshoe hare

Name: Crybaby

Role: Fictive (K-12 the movie)

Pronouns: She/They/Pink

Identities: Pinkgender, Lesbian

Sign-off: 🍼

Extra: Only fronts when listening to Melanie Martinez, likes using "!!"

Name: Boy

Role: Fictive (INSIDE)

Pronouns: He/They

Identities: Male, AroAce

Sign-off: 🟥

Extra: Only speaks in emojis

Name: Tommy

Role: Fictive (DSMP)

Pronouns: He/Him

Identities: Male, Aro

Sign-off: 💿

Extra: Nothing

Name: Ranboo

Role: Fictive (Generation Loss)

Pronouns: They/Them

Identities: Non-binary, Gay

Sign-off: 📦

Extra: Nothing

Name: Angel Dust

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: He/Him

Identities: Male, Gay

Sign-off: 🩷

Extra: Uses "ta" instead of "to", "ya" instead of "you" and such, hates Plinking

Name: Alastor

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel), Host

Pronouns: He/Him

Identities: Male, Ace, Gay

Sign-off: 🎙️

Extra: Is dating the Lucifer in our system

Name: Pinkie

Role: Fictive (My Little Pony: Friendship is Witchcraft)

Pronouns: She/Her

Identities: Female, Lesbian

Sign-off: 🎈

Extra: Capitalizes the first letter in every word

Name: Lucifer

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel), Host

Pronouns: He/They

Identities: Bigender (Non-binary and male), Pansexual

Sign-off: 🐤

Extra: Is dating the Alastor in our system

Name: Vox

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: He/Xe

Identities: (Still questioning gender), Bi (Male-leaning)

Sign-off: 📺

Extra: Uses "-" a lot

Name: Rosie

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: She/They

Identities: Female, Lesbian

Sign-off: 🖐️

Extra: Nothing

Name: Adam

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: He/Hy

Identities: Male, Bi (Female-leaning)

Sign-off: 🎸

Extra: Uses "‼️⁉️💯💔" a lot

Name: Niffty

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: She/Any neos

Identities: Genderfluid, Lesbian

Sign-off: 🧹

Extra: Nothing

Name: Charlie

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: They/Them

Identities: Female, Lesbian

Sign-off: 🔑

Extra: Nothing

Name: Val

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: He/They (Sometimes She/Her)

Identities: Genderfluid, Pansexual

Sign-off: 🦋

Extra: Please do not bring up what I'm like in source

Name: Goob

Role: Factive (Random snail we found)

Pronouns: Glor/Glorp/Glirp

Identities: None

Sign-off: 🐌

Extra: Nothing

Name: Lute

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: She/Her

Identities: Bigender, Attracted to men (idk what its called)

Sign-off: 🎭

Extra: Nothing

Name: Emily

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: She/They

Identities: Questioning, Lesbian

Sign-off: 😇

Extra: Uses double spaces in between words

Name: Matsuro

Role: Fictive (Death Pallette)

Pronouns: She/Her

Identities: Female, Questioning

Sign-off: 🎨

Extra: Nothing

Name: Velvette

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel), Co-host

Pronouns: She/Vem

Identities: Female, Bisexual, Polyamorous

Sign-off: 🎀

Extra: Nothing

Name: Kirie Goshima

Role: Fictive (Uzumaki)

Pronouns: She/Her

Identities: Female, Questioning

Sign-off: 🌀

Extra: Nothing

Name: Husk

Role: Fictive (Hazbin Hotel)

Pronouns: Any

Identities: Male, Gay

Sign-off: 🃏

Extra: Nothing

Name: Fizzaroli/Fizz

Role: Fictive (Helluva Boss)

Pronouns: He/She/They

Identities: Pangender, Homoflexible

Sign-off: 🤡

Extra: Uses "{" at the beginning and "}" at the end of messages

Wow you made it to the bottom! Lol

Anyway I feel like the intro takes up a LOT of space, so if anyone knows anywhere we could put it, as like a link or something so you don't have to scroll so far down to see everyone's intro-

#plurality #plural system #plural #fictive heavy system #fictive system #fictive #fictives #endo safe #pro endo #endo friendly #endogenic #endogenic safe #endogenic system #system intro #intro post #introduction #blog intro #headmates

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silicon-tmblr · 9 months

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What are some Sexuality headcanons you have for danganronpa

Ohhhh I have so much to say you have no idea

I'll go with my DRV3 post-game headcanons because that's generally what I think about!

Shuichi: Disaster bi. I recently had the thought that he'd actually be awesome as nonbinary, but I feel like he's the type to realize that in his mid 30s or something

Kaito: Bigger disaster bi than Shuichi somehow. I like to think that, while he's iffy/confused about gay people, he accepts trans people without a thought (he's just like "oh you're actually a guy/girl! okay") and just demands that they "act like their gender" bahaha

Ryoma: I know this is a controversial thing to say but. Straight. cis/het. But he's like the biggest and nicest ally ever because well his entire friend group is very queer

Rantaro: I don't see this enough!!!! Aro/ace Rantaro!!! His love hotel is literally him being a tutor with no romantic or sexual undertones!!!! His character concept is probably "playboy with no interest in romance"!! But yeah aro/ace, romance and sex-repulsed

Gonta: Probably pan, but fairly heteronormative. I feel like he gets married in middle age because he's really not searching for a relationship for most of his life and more busy enjoying his hobbies!

Kokichi: Obviously very gay! I generally have him as a trans guy who, due to some shenanigans that happened in his childhood, thought he was a cis guy (until puberty hit and he had to figure out why he was freaking bleeding). Ironically, I like to call him "the cissest of cis guys" haha

Korekiyo: Ace! Not looking for a romantic relationship but I like to think he has a strong platonic partnership with Tenko

Keebo: Aro/ace, romance-positive and sex-neutral. He doesn't experience romantic or sexual attraction but is totally open to a romantic relationship. Intersex and he/him nonbinary, but he generally keeps it to himself and only tells people he trusts

Kirumi: Gay gay lesbian gay. She loves GL (Girl's love genre) but keeps it a secret

Himiko: Aromantic and bisexual! She tends more towards girls than guys

Maki: PSA Maki is gay and was straightwashed when they put her in Danganronpa 53. I mean, Tsumugi really said "I made you fall in love with a guy for plot!" I like to think Maki gets out of DRV3 and her first thought is "why was I straight" (for legal reasons this is a joke and bi Maki believers are based but. gay maki)

Tenko: Bi Tenko bi Tenko I KNOW people insist she's a lesbian (and you people are based) buuut I think even in Danganronpa Tenko is bi. People don't choose who they're attracted to, so her being raised to hate men doesn't mean she can't be attracted to them! Okay that's my ted talk about bi tenko

Tsumugi: Her orientation is none of your business (is what she will say, but I will expose her as the bisexual she is)

Angie: Pan! Kinda heteronormative but she learns not to be

Miu: Pan. I think she would meet someone on the internet that she clicks super well with and then they fly out to meet each other and get married

Kaede: Lesbian! So lesbian. I will insist forever that she isn't actually interested in Shuichi and is just super awkward around him because she doesn't want to lead him on when she's gay

That's it for V3! I don't have as many for the other games, mostly since I'm not as interested in or familiar with them (I like to joke that V3 has the gayest cast and everyone in DR2 is straight (obviously untrue, the irrefutable evidence: Nagito)), but here's a few I like:

Chiaki: Trans girl! She's also straight bahaha

Hiyoko: I used to think she'd be the type to act homophobic "as a joke" but then I realized she's super gay. She'd probably still act homophobic though

Nagito: Bi, for the sole reason of: I think he should date Chiaki

Akane: Seems ace!

Mahiru: I think she's straight, but she's a total lesbian magnet

Hajime: Bi (duh). Cursed to be maidenless

Chihiro: Nonbinary, he/they in conversation but always they/them in writing

Junko: This lady is very heterosexual and cisgender

Mukuro: Bi

Makoto: Bi

I also like to joke that all the girls in DR1 are straight and all the boys in DR1 are gay because everyone is in love with Makoto (obviously false because there are some very gay girls and not so gay dudes)

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okayto · 1 year

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Mini-Review: Romantic Killer

Living her best single life, romance is the last thing on Anzu’s mind — until a tiny match-making wizard suddenly turns her life into a clichéd romcom.

Came across a trailer for this and then said, "That's either going to be really good, or really bad." My companion agreed and suggested I test it out and let them know whether it was terrible or not.

Anzu Hoshino is a high schooler with no interest in romance, preferring to spend her free time playing games, eating chocolate, and enjoying the presence of her beloved cat, Momohiki. Unfortunately, when she tries a new game one day, it turns out to be crap, used by a magical creature named Riri as a way to introduce Anzu's new life: due to Japan's declining birthrate, the romantically-uninterested Anzu's life is going to be like a dating sim until she falls in love with someone! And if she doesn't? Say goodbye to Momohiki forever.

Anzu's reaction is understandable.

So, back to my initial hesitancy: "you have to fall in love! Heterosexual relationships are the goal" is obviously a really skeevy theme, and when you're a person who is always happy with aromantic and/or asexual representation in fiction (hi, it's me, I'm a person), it can make you leery. And Anzu can definitely be read as aro/ace, but what's interesting is that you don't have to, the setup is patently absurd and knows it's ridiculous regardless of her orientation.

Some mysterious wizard council decided that a 10th grader needed to be in a romantic relationship or risk losing things she loved. It's compulsory heterosexuality: this character could be aro, ace, aro/ace, gay, or even just a ~15-year-old straight girl who currently has no interest in dating or romance. All of those options are viable, completely normal, and drive home how fucked up the concept of "threaten a teenager so she'll eventually get pregnant" is. (To be clear, the show doesn't dwell on anything beyond "you need to be in a romantic relationship," but even there it's clear that the show recognizes this is a ridiculous proposition.)

Anzu is impossible not to like: she's a happy, healthy teen who really likes what she likes (gaming, chocolate, cats), doesn't care much about what others think but isn't a misanthrope, and her reaction to being told "treat your life like a dating sim or never see your cat again" is to swear revenge on the wizard and do everything in her power to avoid engaging with any of the concocted plots, even as they reach cheap-fiction levels of believability, much to her disgust.

Potential love interest has to move in with her because of Reasons? Time to be Unattractive!

And the thing is, because of Anzu's determination to never get anywhere close to a romantic scenario, the people she meets are able to understand she's a safe person to be around--the first guy she meets, for instance is always having girls ask him out or try to get close--and engage with her without having to worry about hidden motives.

Anzu's determination means she is committed to not putting on a facade, which lets her personality and character shine through. Add to that some Riri-concocted scenarios that force Anzu to spend time with other characters in improbable situations, and what you get is a really, really fun and often-humorous story.

The guys themselves also turn out to be good, fun characters. They get introduced to the plot as obvious love interests, but none of them were conjured out of magic and thus they all have their own reasons to continuing to be around Anzu (although the continual magic contrivances of Riri certainly help them keep their exposure up anyway).

The ironic thing is that Riri's terrible game definitely does enrich Anzu and Kazuki's (potential love interest #1) lives, without question: Anzu gains new friends she enjoys spending time with, Kazuki does too, in a way that he's not been able to enjoy with many people before. The other potential love interests' lives are similarly enriched...but it's never because of romance! Really, this show is a good look at the power of friendship and just community in general.

And while Anzu probably would've been fine if the whole thing had never happened--while she was kinda a loner after-school, there's no evidence that she was harming herself or setting up any future problems (which is, obviously, part of what makes the wizards' scenario so stupid)--Kazuki is a different matter. I don't want to say much because of spoilers, but it's clear early on that he's not just a loner because of his personality, but he's lived through some dark experiences that makes him want to stay away from any kind of relationship talk too.

It's great, and while the story wraps up nicely, I would watch so much more.

Please, I am begging the Powers That Be: give us a season 2 where Anzu and the gang go after the wizard council. Friend hijinks and cartoon violence, it's a match made in heaven. Please.

Verdict

English dub? Yes!

Visuals: Shiny and modern! Except for Riri's game, but that's intentionally bad. Anzu's many faces are very funny as well.

Worth watching? Yes. And I would watch another season, even though the story wrapped up fine. Give me more of this lovely friend group of weirdos who love each other.

Where to watch (USA, as of March 2023): Netflix (sub and dub)

Click my “reviews” tag below or search “mini review” on my blog to find more!

#Romantic Killer #anime #reviews #recommendation

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gyubby99 · 4 months

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@disneyanddisneyships haha

I think I'm calling it "The Four Suitors"

The summary is that a princess will come of age soon and has to pick a groom, and there were four princes from different countries coming fkr her hand in marriage.

The said princess is named "Lenora"

She would do anything for the sake pf her kingdom, including even marrying one of her four suitors except for one. Teeny. Tiny. Problem.

She's a lesbian. She cannot FATHOM consummating marriage with either of them.

Now, the four suitors look like they're competing for the princess' hand from the outside

But oh. Plot twist.

None of them were interested in her.

Not in an "I despise this person" way.. more of an "I AM NOT INLOVE WITH THEM!!" way

Start off with Lucas, who had been the first one to introduce himself to Lenora.

He's very nice, treats the princess with respect and everything, but he also has one Teeny. Tiny. Problem.

He is aro/ace.

Secondly, we have Elijah! Very sweet guy, a bit stiff.. but that's because of one Teeny. Tiny. Problem.

He's GAY.

Third! Nathaniel! Not very pleased to interact with Lenora, but finds her nice. A Teeny. Tiny. Problem, though..

He is inlove with a peasant woman, and is seeing her in secret.

Ah. Lastly. Rafael. The last one to be introduced. He was as okay as the others, but not pleased with the marriage.

Because he is not only, not inlove with her but he is being married off by an abusive mother and if he doesn't comply, she will make his death look like an accident. He wants to be a poet, he has dreams.. but a prince gotta do what a prince gotta do.

All of these people have secrets too dangerous to unveil.. walking on eggshells for the sake of duty. Even if it means destroying their hearts and following their minds.

Lenora, upon hearing everyone's reasoning when they all become friends, decides to help Rafael along with everyone else, to escape his mother. They all write each other letters and meet up as this one friend group just talking. On the way Lenora meets Lucas' sister who offered to help with Raf's situation. *cue careless whisper playing*----

But oh no.

Lenora's father caught ill and is dying

And it's about time for her to decide which one to marry between the four.

Trope: Found Family, forbidden love

#bro the angst #my ocs

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bengiyo · 1 year

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Me, My Husband & My Husband's Boyfriend Eps 1 -5 Stray Thoughts

This is an unusual release schedule, giving us five episodes now and five more later. Still, I'm curious what TV Tokyo does with this, since they also gave me What Did You Eat Yesterday?

Episode 1

Man, Japan just really knows how to start a show. You can feel the strained optimism of this poor woman in just 30 seconds.

This has barely started and I feel claustrophobic. Misaki's friends have no idea how unhappy she is, and what is this incredibly pained look she shared only with Maki?

Oh, they may have been in lesbians with each other. This is already fraught queer angst.

Ah, it feels like it might have been just Maki.

You know someone is up to something when they fake sleep when their partner comes into the room.

That's right, girl. Blog your problems.

I tell you, I hoped I would avoid teen pregnancy when I was a teacher. I was wrong.

Poor Masaki. She and Yuki are just not in alignment when it comes to intimacy. Now she only has one day a year to look forward to for marital sex??

Nice use of Dutch angles when Masaki sees the kiss.

Episode 2

My goodness, this was an intense opening scene in how Misaki immediately starts to try to suppress everything and bargain her way into an explanation that doesn't spell the end of her marriage. Yuki doesn't lie, but he's already hurt her deeply.

I hope that's not the product placement we're throwing away.

I'm so sad about this nice dinner going to waste.

I agree with Misaki that what happens next with their relationship should be her choice, considering he's been making lots of choices without her for a while.

The coworker seems kind. She can tell that Misaki is masking.

Yo this old dude shoulder checked the fuck out of her.

I was not expecting to see Honda Kyoya again so soon after Jack o' Frost, but I'm not going to complain. However, if Shyuuhei is an artist like Ritsu was, this offers up a fascinating lens into a potentially alternative story.

It is correct of Misaki to put distance between a student who expresses romantic interest in her.

This is a lot. I feel for Misaki. Not only does she need to reckon with the fact that her husband is gay and seeing someone else. She also has to contend with it being her former student who still wants to be with her, who knows that he's been hooking up with her husband.

The transitional shot after Misaki's hyperventilating looks like it might be in the same spot as the intro for Midnight Diner.

Through sheer confidence and will alone, Shyuuhei is going to get both of them.

Misaki leaving to probably go to Maki is valid, though I feel bad for Maki, too.

Episode 3

I already like Daichi and the house dynamic Maki and he share.

I was kinda excited about what changing homes might do for Misaki, but I appreciate her wanting to clear things with Yuki first.

I wonder if Yuki might be aro-ace spectrum. Seems like he wasn't aware of his potential attraction to men before he married Misaki?

Honda Kyoya is honestly so pretty.

Look at this, TV Tokyo has me watching a man and woman kiss and such in BL when I got none of this in What Did You Eat Yesterday? They're even open mouth kissing when the men haven't done so! I'm salty!

And here I was hoping that it really was just a pregnancy scare. Now Satou hasn't been coming to school.

I'm gonna need Masaki to go out with this veteran teacher.

What is the truth with Satou!

Shyuuhei is with Satou, too? And he went in her raw? She said he was only a year older, so is he 19? GODDAMN

Someone is always spying and taking goddamn pictures! You just gonna anonymously meddle? Own your actions!

Episode 4

Trigger warnings: Discussion and prevention of suicide in this episode.

This is so messy. Shyuuhei has such a hold over Yuki, who doesn't desire his wife physically at all.

Daichi's family's apples are enormous.

What is she to do with all these apples?

Oh, Yuki, I really just can't with the continued lies. Something has to give.

Is the spy the other teacher who wanted to get a beer?

Well, Shyuuhei is way out of line, but he's not wrong about Misaki's marriage.

Ah, the spy was the other teacher, whose name is Misumi. At least she's confronting him with her qualms.

Interposing the conversation with Misumi and the interview with a woman talking about her gay husband's death makes the point loud and clear.

I think Honda Kyoya is well-cast here. He has an ethereal quality that I think works really well for Shyuuhei.

Wanting to disappear is a question I get on mental health surveys, and Shyuuhei seems way too comfortable talking about suicide.

Episode 5

Trigger warnings: Discussion and prevention of suicide in this episode.

I'm really glad we saw Honda Kyoya in Jack o' Frost first. I find myself wanting to dig into this performance just as much as I want to understand the character. Polyamory is hard; I don't think I'm built for it. I like how sympathetic they're making Shyuuhei feel through his earnestness, even if he's giving me red flags in so many other areas.

This scene of the first meet between Yuki and Shyuuhei is making me sad, because I don't think we've seen Yuki be this intent on Misaki.

Okay, taking them to a place to disconnect briefly is much better than where I thought this was going.

Misaki suggesting they all live together was an excellent scene. The way the camera pans through her dialogue from her being alone, to her and Yuki, to her and Shyuuhei, to finally all three of them works so beautifully. Then having her be nervous and struggling to crack an egg perfectly underscores her uncertainty.

I love Misaki. I'm glad we're letting her uncomfortable feelings come through clearly. This isn't the life she thought she was getting, but she's trying to make the best of a difficult situation.

Furukawa Yuki is so good. I remember again why Restart After Coming Back Home sticks with me as we see the range he's shown this episode.

I like the ground rules Misaki established. They don't realistically expect Shyuuhei to help with expenses now, but she wants to make sure he's contributing to the maintenance tasks and is at least working in his field.

Hotta Akane is also doing a great job. She completely performed the complex nervousness, relief, and bemusement she felt at seeing Yuki clearly relaxed in the house again for the first time in a while, and also the strange sense of attraction she felt at Shyuuhei expressing his feelings to her again.

Final Thoughts at the Midpoint

I think it was an excellent call to release this show in two batches. It's covering some complex emotional places that I don't think the audience would be able to take in stride each week for two months. Giving us the chance to go through this at our own pace and trying to connect with the characters feels like the right call.

I'm looking forward to the back half of this, and I find myself hoping that however they all end up, they all find what they need for their own sense of fulfillment.

#me my husband and my husband's boyfriend #japanese bl #bl series #tw suicide #Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi #Ben watches

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thatturtleleon · 1 year

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Rottmnt sexuality headcanons

Because yes

Leo

he/him

gaygaygaygay

now listen, I'm not just saying this because of the way he talks, walks, etc. that would be stereotypical y'know?

the way he acted around Don Suave was just so gay coded there is no way this dude is straight

its basically canon at this point, the closet isn't even made of glass, its just not even there anymore

Mikey

any pronouns

genderfluid pansexual.

throughout different series Mikey seems to always be shown in a dress occasionally and he's always shown not really giving a shit about it

maybe I'm projecting a little bit here, but I feel like Mikey doesn't really care what gender he's perceived as. He just kinda vibes, some days are more fem, some days more masc, and some days are just whatever he feels like

I think Mikey's pan bc he seems like the type of guy to not care about someone else's gender either

like he sees people for their personality and really admires that

Raph

he/him mostly, but open to she/they prns as well

he's always given me dumb bi vibes

I can't really remember if he interacted with anyone in a romantic way in this series, but he usually gets with Mona

so maybe he's bi with a preference for girls?

idk all I know is none of them are straight

Donnie

he/they

BIIIIIIIII

bi bi bi

bi and on the aro/ace spectrum

him and april are the bi/lesbian duo

I know that it's a popular hc that he's just aro/ace, and I love that hc too since there isn't a lot of aro/ace representation in media

I think that, just bc he doesn't really show emotion as well as others, doesn't mean he can't still wanna be in a relationship y'know?

April

she/her

LESBIAN

ACE LESBIAN

I am an ace lesbian, therefore she is an ace lesbian

dating Sunita because yes

I love them I love her so much

#do yall remember the snow day episode where they put up all their masks on the flag pole and it made a rainbow #they said something like 'it represents all of us' LIKE YES I SEE WHAT YOURE DOING #thanking whoever animated that/came up with the idea #tmnt #rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rise raph #rise leo #rise donnie #rise mikey #rise april #rottmnt sexuality hcs

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karl-raccoon-in-a-teacup · 23 days

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kunikida, oda, mushitaro, and a fella of ur choosing :3

Kunikida!

Sexuality Headcanon: Bi, I'm not sure he knows about the being attracted to men part yet.

Gender Headcanon: Honestly your transmasc headcanon for him is slowly seeping into my own headcanons, so...

A ship I have with said character: I like most Kunikida ships I've seen, but soft spot for the specific flavor of Kunichuu that's popped up in my Agency Chuuya AU. By accident. Did you know they can be so domestic. And they have a dog.

A BROTP I have with said character: Kunikida and Katai's dynamic does indeed warm my heart, and thank god it's canon. But Kunikida and Atsushi are also so iconic...

A NOTP I have with said character: Nothing comes to mind? As I've said I like most Kunikida ships I've seen.

A random headcanon: I think delinquent Kunikida is a fairly popular headcanon, but I do adore it, whether full-on delinquent or just him being a lot more crass/rude in high school. I also think the scheduling is something he did not have when he first met Katai, developing that over the years and being in full force by the time he joined the Agency.

General Opinion over said character: A very solid character all around, and one of the ones I think is the most difficult to morally corrupt. I want to see more of him coming into his role as the Agency's future leader, and just... more of him, honestly.

Oda!

Sexuality Headcanon: He's never thought about it. Very possibly pan though.

Gender Headcanon: He's a guy and he's pretty chill with that, not all that complicated.

A ship I have with said character: Odango... the inherent tragedy of it compels me so...

A BROTP I have with said character: Buraiha Trio, and all the friendships he has in it, and I will never stop thinking about them until the day I do.

A NOTP I have with said character: Od.azai, onesided or otherwise, isn't my cup of tea.

A random headcanon: Unlike what the old accountant claimed, Oda would have been much happier in the information department than out on his usual missions. Maybe in other timelines, he would transfer to there, and live a much more peaceful life- even if he still wouldn't become a writer.

General Opinion over said character: Excellent narrator of the Dark Era and a very well-executed character.

Mushitaro!

Sexuality Headcanon: Gay.

Gender Headcanon: Pretty sure he's just a cis guy but check in later

A ship I have with said character: Mushiango would you like to hear about Mushiango-

A BROTP I have with said character: Off the topic of my head his dynamic with Kyouka is really funny. They should continue to have that goofy ass interactions in the future.

A NOTP I have with said character: Nothing I've seen has been a particular yuck.

A random headcanon: Thanks to this fic by @feralshadowdemon my beloved sibling, his highschool fantasy was to have his first kiss under a sakura tree with the petals falling down.

General Opinion over said character: My little meow meow of a man I love him so much.

Fella of my choosing: YOSANO! Because I miss her and want to talk about her!

Sexuality Headcanon: Aro-ace Yosano is a concept that compels me more and more as time goes on.

Gender Headcanon: She's a very big fan of being a woman.

A ship I have with said character: None, really?

A BROTP I have with said character: Ranpo and her are so... they have such a long history...

A NOTP I have with said character: I'm not a huge fan of Ko.usano, but considering the amount of female characters I understand why it's a thing, so you guys stand strong and have fun out there.

A random headcanon: One of the first things Ranpo and her bonded over all those years ago was their mutual love of sweets. Even now they both like nothing more than to have a good chat over sweets- and neither feel the need censor the gritty details of their cases or operations just because they're enjoying a nice treat.

General Opinion over said character: I love her so much and her character is so compelling and hey, have you ever thought about the parallels between her and Kyouka? Have you? Please?

#bsd kunikida #bsd oda #bsd mushitaro #bsd yosano #ask game #bungou stray dogs #bsd #thank you so much for all these characters bestie!!

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theonlypterydactyl · 11 months

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overthink

I've never really fallen for someone. My heart doesn't pound when I see them, butterflies don't flutter in my chest, and my cheeks don't grow warm. I'm the same around them. Maybe I smile when I see them or they run through my mind. But, it's nothing like what I've read or watched or listened to my friends as they described what they feel.

Sometimes I think it's unfair. They easily fall for people, and they are hopelessly infatuated with them. They talk about them as if they are their sun and they are Earth orbiting around them. I get jealous. How can they be hopelessly devoted to this person that they have talked to maybe once or twice.

In books authors describe the very real feelings and then I'm left to imagine it for myself. I can't. I don't know how it feels to fall for someone, the butterflies that flutter or the intense beating of a heart. None of it makes sense to me.

My "crushes" are short. They last a week before I stop feelings things all together. Sometimes I wonder if it's because I always bottled up my emotions, I hardly let them out.

Don't cry, don't cry. They can't see you crying.

Don't love. Don't love. They can't see your weakness.

Am I at fault for my lack of romantic feelings? It runs through my mind day and night.

When I was younger I never had any celebrity crushes or any real crushes. So, to feel normal I would pick someone and I would "like" them. I never felt anything for these guys. They were just nice guys who talked to me so I figured "hey, this isn't a bad idea".

I was born like this. Right? I didn't condition myself to push down any emotion, that I'm "normal" in a sense.

I discovered that I liked my friend. We dated for a month, and every time he would message me butterflies would flutter in my chest. About a month before, I found out he liked me. I started to feel something for another friend of mine, those feelings for him lasted a week. A few months prior I figured that he liked me, and then a few weeks prior he confirmed it with a friend of mine.

Do I only like people because they like me back?

My ex-friend is super touchy and flirty. I'm the exact opposite. I figured she liked me. Nope. I was wrong. Misread the signs.

Why is it so hard for me to figure out if I like people?

Maybe I'm more aro/ace than I thought. But, I crave a relationship like that. I want to wake up and see them drunk with sleep and I want to be there for their highest highs and their lowest lows. I want to be somebody to someone.

So why the fuck is this so confusing?

Am I broken?

Why do I crave a relationship when I can't feel?

Do I like you or am I telling myself that? No one gets that close in less than a year. No one talks to someone that much in less than a year. No one gets that codependent in less than a year. Maybe I'm reading too much into it. Girls are confusing and therefore any feelings need to be confirmed before we can proceed.

You can't just ask her!

How am I supposed to find out? Wait? Sit around for something to happen?! Nothing is going to fucking happen. No one wants you, you're horrible and selfish and boring and... and depressed, anxiety ridden, worrisome, clingy, a burden, and... a problem.

Yes. Wait. Question everything all of the time. Maybe she likes you. What if she doesn't? What if I break down and tell her that I feel these things, do I want to lose her?

No, she's amazing and great and kind and smart. I don't want to ruin her. I ruin people.

Take the quizzes, they told you that you were gay, maybe they'll tell you if you like her.

1: You like her.

Two: You really like her!

3: You are falling in love with her!

four: She likes you!

5: You like her

6: ...

No, they're wrong. I need someone to talk to. Who? I can't talk to her, she's not gay she wouldn't understand. He's gone we scared him away. She's not gay. She's friends with her. He's gone we made him go away.

Be quiet. Who the fuck cares.

Do I just want to be friends with her? Do I want something more? Does she want something more? Am I just making stuff up in my head? Why are feelings so confusing? Why are girls so confusing? Am I actually aro/ace instead of demi? I want to stop being confused. Why can't I figure this shit out already? Am I thinking about it too logically? Would she even want to be with someone like me?

SHUT UP. Shut the fuck up.

Stop overthinking.

Quiet

Please

#aroace #demisexual #gay #sapphic #overthinking #crush #feelings?#mind vs heart #pansexual

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winns-stuff · 1 year

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Color anon here - I think RS made Artemis purple simply because Zeus and Apollo are (cause Apollo is her twin) but yeah it doesn't make much sense considering the tgoem. feels like RS didnt really think the whole "purple = high libido". I think also someone asked if Artemis was ace (not in terms of actual myth because itd be a bit strange to 'headcanon' gods sexualities) but in terms of her as an lo character cause I think a lot of people saw her as aro/ace and I think this is also where RS had that ~spectacular~ answer of artemis is gay, (much in the same way Hestia and Athena are where they were ace but "turned' gay over time).

And with the whole tgeom plot... Feels rather ace and lesbophobic, what with RS saying Hestia and Athena (and perhaps Artemis) "turned" gay rather than deciding the previous label didnt work for them and the implication that I guess lesbians are only fit in LO society if their virgins forever / hide their relationships (which could be an interesting plot line if RS was competent as a writer except I'm pretty sure in ancient greece you didnt have to hide being gay in a herternormative society like you would now). And Persephone our resident straight character 'bravely' leaves the organization she claims she was "groomed" for with pictures of Hestia in the flashback. Lovely implications all around.

It’s insane that the group of supposed lesbians in the comic “groomed” Persephone to being one of them. It’s very very damaging and it’s genuinely disgusting that that’s the implications in the first place, lesbians have gone through too much shit especially with certain types of straight women being terrified of being “turned out” by them and it’s incredibly insensitive to keep this narrative going in the first place. Being a lesbian doesn’t mean that you’re just on the prowl for every woman you see just like being gay doesn’t mean you’re trying to force yourself onto men, it’s ridiculous that no one ever told her or even addressed it. She has editors and artists yet none of them realized how very weird and borderline homophobic this whole thing is? Being bi doesn’t just automatically mean you can’t ever be homophobic or transphobic and I really do feel like this should be addressed.

But I do agree with you on everything you said, the implications are all over the place and very very weird.

#lo critical #anti lore olympus #anti lo

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just-another-hhazbin · 3 years

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I have a question for you:

I'm aroace, and while I love Alastor and that he's ace and potentially aro (not sure if the aro part is definitely canon or not), apparently Viv has said in past streams that he's egocentric/doesn't love anyone but himself and I'm concerned that that's why she made him aroace. Especially if he's definitely aro, since if he were only ace it'd be less questionable imo. Granted, he does have friends so the "only loves himself" thing may not be 100% true, and these things could still change while the show's in development. I'm just kinda worried about Viv's reasoning. What do you think?

Hello, fellow aroace! I find it both amusing and suiting that I received this ask several hours after I queued the ADHD Alastor reblog, because to me, they are very similar subjects.

To the best of my knowledge, Alastor has been confirmed ace in canon by Vivziepop. However, only Faustisse, who i don’t believe is any longer a member of the Hazbin team and has never been in charge of such official decisions, openly declared him aromantic.

However, Vivz has hinted at this, but holds off at the last moment because she wants “people to ship whoever they like and to have fun” (paraphrased).

That’s... not great reasoning and vaguely problematic in and of itself, implying that aromantic people cause problems and etc., but whatever. It’s a smart marketing decision and helps prevent the fandom from turning into even more of a bloodbath than usual, so I understand why she decided that. Do I agree? No. Do I understand? Yes.

However, it is issues such as what you bring up that makes me somewhat thankful we haven’t seen him officially declared aro (yet).

If you’ve seen my aspd!Alastor or other aspd posts, then you probably know some of my thoughts on the subject. For those who haven’t, I’ll take it from the top.

I... am also concerned. I think in the end that how much depth Alastor’s characterization is given will determine whether or not the aro is a good move.

From what we’ve seen and what’s been given, Alastor is a manipulative, unhinged, sadistic, vaguely narcissistic asshole who cares nothing for anyone other than himself. On that description alone, I would very much recommend not labeling him as aromantic. Aro people have had enough of that stereotype, thank you very much. Also, people such as that can experience romantic attraction, it’s just that they tend to be douchebags about it.

That being said, the Alastor comic does give me hope.

(If you haven’t read the comic, go do so, because there be spoilers ahead. https://www.hazbinhotel.com/alastor-comic/page-1)

Yes, he’s a generally annoying pain in the ass dressed in bright red. However, he also wasn’t just going about his business killing everyone for the Hell of it. Sure, he might do that sometimes, but I’ll take “sometimes.” Furthermore, he wasn’t purposefully extra-dickish to customer service people (unless you count feeding the birds, which should be considered a crime but also, Radio Demon, could’ve been worse) and he tips street musicians while being kind to his fans.

He obviously does want social interactions, and was increasingly frustrated and upset when everyone fled from him and the rose wilted at his touch. He wants positive interactions! He wants joy and pretty things and obviously does care about what others think of him, despite statements to the contrary.

And of course, the culmination of him indeed committing a murder and going full cannibal on someone’s ass... after stepping in to stop that person from abusing a customer, giving him a second chance, and then intervening again to stop the asshole from assaulting someone else.

None of these actions had any benefit to him. He knows that this will only increase his reputation as do-not-fuck-with-or-speak-to at worst, and have no affect at all at best. But he does it anyway.

So. If this is the Alastor Vivz sees and if we get more of him, of an Alastor who yes is a bit of an unhinged serial killer cannibal but also seeks out positive interspersonal interactions and cares about strangers, then I would be much more settled with giving him an official aromantic designation. Because then it’s not just that he said “fuck people and relationships; I’m a narcissistic sadist,” but that he’s searching for personal connections that resonate with him, and romance just isn’t it.

So. Yeah. Right now a lot of shit has been said about Alastor official and otherwise, half of it contradicting itself, and while I am Definitely Concerned about him playing into the stereotypical tropes around bad aro rep, I do have some hope that maybe it could play out well.

Also, unrelated to Vivz and how she and her team handles things, there’s always the fact that Alastor’s brother from another mother is undoubtedly Hannibal, who is the most in-love cannibalistic sadistic narcississtic serial killing gay to ever gay (or kill), so that’s a nice little counter-argument to have if and when people decide to be shit about Al’s character + acearo rep.

#hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #vivziepop #alastor hazbin #alastor hazbin hotel #alastor headcanons #hazbin alastor headcanons #alastor headcanon #aromantic Alastor #aroace alastor #aro representation #asks anonymous #long post #text post #alastor comic #alastor comic spoilers

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As I can read in your bio, you are demisexual (I'm put myself in this spectrum too) I want to ask what do you think about that Snape is ace-/demisexsual? Personally, I think he's demi.

Hi there!

I do believe that –setting aside what we might argue was Rowling’s intentions à la Death of the Author– there is plenty of room in her canon to interpret Snape as being somewhere along the asexual spectrum. Importantly, the only canonical statement of Snape’s relationship to Lily is that of friendship. Whether we might choose to interpret that friendship as one similar to Harry and Hermione’s (i.e. strictly platonic but no less filled with love) or one closer to Hermione and Ron’s (i.e. a childhood friendship that develops into romantic feelings as Hermione and Ron mature) is entirely up to how we interpret the subtext of Rowling’s canon. Ultimately, Snape’s feelings for Lily and Lily’s feelings for Snape are never explicitly stated in the text beyond their platonic expressions of friendship and this vagueness leaves us with room for multiple interpretations of Snape and Lily, all of which can be supported by the text.

(It is at this point where someone who doesn’t care for Death of the Author might chime in to argue, “What about the interviews Rowling gave after the books that more clearly point to the fact she wanted Snape and Lily to have had some kind of romantic tension/interest?” to which I would respond by pointing to the inconsistency of Rowling’s answers about her characters in certain interviews over the years, her own recent issue with ret-conning some of her previous canon for her Fantastic Beasts franchise, and one very particular interview she gave where one could just easy easily conclude Snape “wanted Mulciber and Lily” to make the case for why Death of the Author exists and why interviews may serve as good supplementary or secondary supporting evidence but not as a firm or absolute validation of any single interpretation of canon).

However, even an interpretation of Snape’s relationship with Lily that allows for the possibility of him maturing into romantic feelings for Lily does not discount any interpretations of Snape as asexual, as I have argued before. Particularly, as you say you headcanon Snape, as someone who is grey-ace/demisexual. It is not at all difficult to argue that, as an alternative to interpretations of Snape’s feelings for Lily being obsessive, one could interpret Snape’s seeming absence of any other significant romantic interest in his life as being a result of his asexuality and/or demisexuality. When you factor in the limitations that the role he assumed from his early twenties into his thirties as a spy would have inevitably placed on his ability to form the kind of intimate connections that a grey-ace/demisexual person, in particular, would require to be able to develop an attraction then it becomes less odd that someone like Snape could go so long without any other significant romantic interests or attractions.

Indeed, the longest relationship I ever sustained was with my high-school sweetheart (from roughly 15-17) and now into my 30s, I can wholly acknowledge I find dating and forming romantic connections difficult as a grey-ace/demisexual (I could not imagine how herculean an undertaking it would seem if I had to lead a double-life and factor that into any interactions I had with other people). So, I do tend to find it a tad troubling when people use Snape’s seeming absence of any other significant relationship with someone of the opposite sex as evidence of some kind of creepy obsession with Lily and I’ve even written a bit on how such a perspective could be a whole host of problematic things ranging from regressive and anti-feminist, reinforcing heteronormativity, exclusionary, etc. This is also notwithstanding the fact that none of Harry’s professors, with the exception of Remus Lupin, were ever written in such a way their romantic lives or histories were elaborated on. Indeed, for the most part, Snape was not an outlier in the fact that Harry’s perspective of him was as an entirely non-sexual authority figure which, I would argue, had the side-effect of making Rowling’s revelations about Snape’s friendship and love for Lily stand-out more starkly. Suddenly, Snape transitions from being just another “adult” authority figure (albeit a hated one that Harry regards as a foil and adversary) in Harry’s life, not unlike McGonagall or Dumbledore, to a fully real person with an entire life and complex set of feelings outside of his role of Potions Master. Such is the nature of youthful perceptions (and they make sense in a bildungsroman), we tend to view the adults in positions of authority in our lives on the basis of the roles they play in our lives rather than as fully-fledged human-beings with lives of their own.

However, I digress, the fact is that an absence of anyone in Snape’s life does not necessarily point to an unhealthy obsession (although it could point to survivor’s guilt) as we only have Harry’s limited perspective (i.e. body of knowledge and observations) of Snape to go by (and he pays very little thought or attention to the love lives of any of his professors at Hogwarts) and even if Lily was Snape’s most significant relationship that does not discount the fact that the love Snape had for Lily could have been purely platonic (especially for those who may interpret Snape as ace/aro, gay or bi, etc.), something transcendent to romantic love (this interpretation would be particularly appealing for those who interpret Snape as ace/aro, gay, bi, etc.) or Snape could have loved Lily as a friend and harbored romantic feelings for her as a grey-ace/demisexual that formed a close bond with someone as a child that evolved into a more complicated series of feelings for her and, following the end of their friendship and her subsequent death, he never had the opportunity to form such a close connection with anyone else to develop romantic feelings for another person. Alternatively, we could even interpret Snape as having an experience somewhat similar to my own. I came from a home-life similar to his own, in which my experiences with childhood abuse (also from my father, although it was never sexual rather than verbal and physical) made me question if my complete absence of sexual attraction wasn’t due to the fact that I was somehow too damaged to be able to connect to anyone. I feigned attraction to other people and tried to force attraction where I felt there should be an attraction (even with male friends of mine) because I didn’t want people to think I was abnormal or broken. Similarly, as Snape and Lily matured, he could have assumed the love he felt for Lily as his friend should have been more romantic because of heteronormative expectations about male/female relationships.

Ultimately, the very fact that canon never explicitly clarifies what Snape and Lily’s relationship was outside of friendship does provide us with room for expanded interpretations of Snape. We can choose to interpret Snape as ace/aro, gay, bi, trans, and all of these readings would be perfectly valid and could be supported by canon. That is what makes the character of Severus Snape so compelling for so many of his fans; he is complex enough for us to interpret him in many different ways and we can all find some bit of him we can relate to or that may represent us. We can go outside of his relationship with Lily to examine what relationships he may have had among the Death Eaters (e.g. Lucius Malfoy or Mulciber, for instance) that might have contributed to his decision to join them. We can examine the events of Spinners’ End in Harry Potter and The Half-Blood Prince and ask ourselves how Narcissa Malfoy came to be so familiar with where Snape lived. We can look at Snape in so many ways because there is so much of his canon that is subtle and open to interpretation. I personally love grey-ace/demisexual Snape and while I may explore multiple variations of Snape, as a grey-ace/demisexual myself, that is the interpretation of Snape that I most closely relate to and that is the interpretation of Snape that I most love. So, more power to you @season-of-mist you’re not alone in seeing Snape as a fellow grey-ace/demisexual.

Yours,

Raptured Night

#severus snape #pro snape #snape meta #snape community #snapedom #demisexuality #ace/aro #lgbtqa+

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arotechno · 5 years

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how did you know you were aro/figure it out? i'm pretty confused and could use some help :))

Hey anon! I thought that I made a post about this before and was going to link it, but I couldn’t find it, so I’ll try to keep this brief:

I suppose on some level I’ve always known that I didn’t get crushes, but I just thought that was “normal”. I always just figured it would happen eventually and justified my lack of attraction with “everyone I’ve grown up with is annoying”; there were a couple occasions where I tried to tell myself I had a crush on someone because I thought they were cool, but the more I came to understand what crushes actually were, the more uncomfortable it made me and the more I realized how much I was forcing it. Imagining myself with a husband some day always felt weird and wrong on some level, even as a kid, but I could never pinpoint why.

On Valentine’s Day during my freshman year of high school (so 2014), a guy from my class who I had been talking to a lot kept trying to commiserate with me about being single, but I guess I wasn’t biting; I kept trying to explain that it was the culture around it that bothered me, not the fact that I was single. (I found out years later that during this time he had been texting my best friend and her boyfriend at the time about what he should do because he had a crush on me, and they both encouraged him. My best friend later realized she’s actually gay, so it turns out we were both confused queer kids and now we laugh about it.) I was completely oblivious to this until my best friend mentioned to me that this guy had a crush on me, and I debated in my head what I would do if he asked me out. I even asked my mom about it (I think I wanted her to say no way in hell), but I eventually forgot about all of it again as he never said anything, and the situation came to a head that spring.

To keep a long and awkward story short, he texted me asking if I had a crush on anyone, saying he was asking everyone (signs I was aro: I answered this without even considering what he was implying). When I told him no, and in fact I never had, he basically told me I was wrong, and that Everyone Liked Someone (because it was human nature, right, and that’s what we were learning in class, right?), and maybe if I tried liking someone I would be happy. Instead of doing what he wanted, which was date him (and this would not be the last time a straight boy was too coward to admit he liked me to my face), I got upset and argued with him about it, internally unsure why I was so hurt, and we didn’t talk much after that.

While all of this was happening, our “future planning” class (which was the class we had together, ironically) had begun an AWFUL unit on “relationships” which basically boiled down to Amatonormativity 101 and was so bad that getting into why it fucked me up would take a whole other post. tl;dr realizing I was aro was like a baptism by fire. At some point before or during this whole saga, I had learned on tumblr what asexual meant, and aromantic by extension. (This was 2014; the aro community was practically unreachable.) I feel really lucky that I saw those words by chance right when I needed them. This is all a long-winded way of saying that I’m not sure exactly when I started identifying as aro or ace; I couldn’t even tell the difference, only that I felt none of it, whatever it was. It was another year before I felt comfortable admitting it; knowledge of my aroace identiy was received via osmosis by people in my life, including me, throughout a period of a couple years. It took a really long time to start using the words aromantic and asexual out loud! Being open about my identity is still really hard for me even after several years because of the shame I’ve internalized over time, but I’m finally seeing the light at the end of that tunnel, so to speak, and it feels really good.

I kind of rambled, so this was in fact Not Brief, but what I want to say is that my aro journey was somehow so simple (compared to everything else that was going on during that spring) and so complicated, something that manages to get more complicated as the years go by. No aro journey is the same, and to anyone reading this who is confused about their identity (whether you end up identifying as aro for the rest of your life or decide you’re not aro at all and never were!), I see you, and I believe in you!

#ask the aro #anon #long post #i need a tag for personal aro stuff uhh #my aro journey #?#let's go with that for now #i'll forget in 5 minutes

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illgiveyouahint · 3 years

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It's 2AM where I am and I'm tired but I think I should write this to put an end of it all, and maybe see what you think or how you interpret it. When I was 12 I had a crush on two boys (fun fact they were best friends, than all through high school I didn't really crush on anyone (I think I must have been 16 when I got my first celebrity crush which was sexual - Jensen Ackles if you must know). Around 17 I developed a crush on a girl (emotionally), and someone who who became a friend of mine 1/?

was 21-22 I was overseas and I met this guy one night and he seemed quite handsome and into the things that I was into, so I kind of was attracted to him and my friend was like he's totally into you after we left, but before I could get to him he was gone! Then earlier this year I met a girl who I knew from school (different one) and I'm not sure but I think I am into her but we live in different cities so it'd be kind of hard, but what I'm saying is I think I kind of find tinder/bumble hard.

I've never have been attracted to random people e.g. there was this guy crazy girl at school (think Vilde but instead minus all the good things about her), and I remember one time she was trying to set me up with someone a few times and it was really annoying because I don't get why or how people can do that? As in be attracted to someone on a first basis. I mean there are people I see on the street and I think they're handsome or beautiful but idk I feel like I have to get a vibe first.

I'm not sure what it is, and sometimes I just wonder what it is. I like to say I like the wine and not the label as I think that fits me the best. (and also irl speaking I am very particular about the type of wine I like). I feel like I can't just hook up with someone based on how they look (or maybe I can, I just have very very high standards). Eitherway my identity in that regard has always been very ambigious, and it's never helped I guess that I've never been in a relationiship which I might add I have been shamed for twice now in my experience e.g. someone asking me if I lost my virginiity and than saying that I don't seem like someone who has their virginity (that was a guy btw) and then some girl who I thought was my friend saying I am 'pure'. I could go on a rant about that but that just seems off topic for now. All I am saying is that it's been 6 years since I've felt not straight but not gay, bi, queer or whatever and I'm okay wiith that but sometimes it'd label on it..I met someone who says their a certain sexuality, and all I can think is that good for them ❤️ .

Oh anon,

I feel for you. Sexuality (and gender) is so confusing sometimes. I didn't realise my sexuality until I was like 23. And now I'm the president of a queer association. who would have thought, huh?

I would tell you to take a deep breath and relax but I know from my experience that doesn't always work. Sometimes you really wanna have a clear answer and it's just so frustrating when you don't have it. And when you add asexuality/aromanticism to the mix it's just a whole mess. I am confident in my bi identity but I also sometimes wonder if I perhaps lie somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum. I also don't have much experience to sort of prove it one way or the other. what I've learned is to just try to let go of those ideas and labels and all of that pressure that other people put on you. Because these labels, these identities - they're created to help you. If none of them fit you, none of them feel right then they don't help you. You don't have to use them. I know plenty of people who I know fall somewhere in the rainbow family but they don't label it. They just know they're not allo/cis/het and leave it at that. I also know people who have pretty much tried every single letter in LGBTQIA+ alphabet. It's okay to not be sure. It's okay to try different labels to see if they feel right and it's also okay to not have labels. You can just say you're not straight and leave it at that. You also don't have to talk about it. Or do talk about it. It's entirely up to YOU and how you wanna approach it. Fuck everyone else you know. Also, virginity as a concept is such bullshit and I can't wait till we as a society decide to get rid of that.

Also you not wanting to bang a random person? wanting a connection first? Trust me that's actually quite common and normal (what is normal? normal doesn't exist. anyway). Don't think that what you see on tv is how it is in real life. There are countless people in their 20s who haven't had a relationship. There's countless who didn't have sex at any stage in life really. This emphasis on sex and relationships...as if that was the only way to have a meaningful life. It isn't.

So you know I'm very much a proponent of hey if it happens it happens (with any gender for you), if not the world doesn't end. Create meaningful relationships with people around you because despite what the media tells you the world doesn't circle around romantic relationships as much as you'd think.

Sorry idk if any of this is helpful and I might be projecting bit too much into you since my experience is quite similar to yours but I hope at least some of it helps and if not then forget I ever said anything 😅

#long post #Anonymous #ask #I love talking to people

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so-chaos-killed-the-dinosaurs · 7 years

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this is a dumb question, but what exactly is the "point" of the characters (particularly the Heathers, i'm assuming) that the new TV show is fucking up with their redesigns. i just wanna make sure i understand the issues here.

Ok the Heather’s are suppose to be the “popular girls”. They are the people who have the characteristics of what society considers to be beauty and they mock anyone who doesn’t met those standards.

Being skinny and making fun of people who aren’t. Caring more about their status standing than their grades, making fun of people for being geeks or nerd. Mocking people for not meeting what is considered the norm in society, aka being along the LGBT spectrum. (I mean damn JD and Veronica staged Ram and Kurt’s deaths as them dying because they where gay. And expecting them to be the mockery of the school. So making fun of people for being gay and the like.) Wearing clothes that are considered in at the time and that highlight their gender. Aka anything the Heathers wear which was all considered in at the time and stylish.

Heck the colors where a power symbol recognized by them. The queen of the school wore red. Both Chandler and Duke established this in the movie.

And then the first promo pics lacks the signature colors and shows them in weird clothes that would have gotten them weird looks and mocked at my school. The first promo pic is suppose to be thought over carefully. This is the first real image people are getting of your product. This is the hook that should help spark a person’s interest in your product. Get them thinking and hopefully interested in what you are making. And if the first image alone is already putting off a good portion of the fandom. Then you know you have an issue.

They only care (especially Chandler) about holding their social status. Veronica herself has said that she’s using her High IQ to pick out lip gloss and trying to figure out how many kegers she can hit before curfew.

Chandler gets pissed at Veronica for not holding up to the standard she expected for her at the party. (Sleeping with a guy she just met). Chandler certainty would never let herself be fat because it would go against her standards.

They are suppose to be a symbol of what society considers beautiful. And yes they are doing a modern version. But what sparks JD’s hatred for them. Is that he observes them (the Heathers, Kurt and Ram) mocking people for being different. He has seen this all before. Every school he goes to he sees it again and again. A never ending chain of bullying. He watched the Heathers make a mockery of Martha in the cafeteria. Making fun of the fat kid. (Now the show has a SKINNY Martha.) He watches Ram and Kurt chase down those nerdy boys and says stuff like “you piece of shit fag” and trying to get the kid to say “I like to suck big dicks”. Being gay wasn’t a good or popular thing. It lead to you getting bullied.

And yeah times now are a bit more accepting. But I went to a big school. I knew a lot of the LGBT kids because I was friends with a lot of them. I ran in circles that had a lot of them. (Anime Club, Art and Theater related things, Even Band.) I knew the spots where you could go after school and find a group of kids and a majority of them would fall into the LGBT spectrum. None of them where along the popular side at my school. Knowing my school they never would be.

By having the Heathers fall into the very groups they are suppose to mock. It goes against their characters. You can’t have an openly gender-fluid person or Lesbian mock other LGBT people. Yes not all LGBT people are nice. I’ve met plenty of assholes who are LGBT. But being LGBT and being the top dog at school and mocking other LGBT people at school. That doesn’t fit. A LGBT person couldn’t come up to me and make fun of me for being a girl who gets crushes on others girls. Because I’d just be like “so what you’re a guy that’s into guys. Or so what so are you. Etc.” It doesn’t have the same sting it does when coming from a non LGBT person.

A well known girl at my school was obese. But if she came up to me and made fun of my weight it wouldn’t work because she was heavier than me. Her insults could be fired right back at her. Now if a person in extremely good shape where to mock my size then that would hurt.

On top of that having all three of the Heathers fall into a minority but none of the other main characters. That also just seems wrong and like they are baiting people for brownie points.

Here are some changes to make the characters more diverse that would have worked.

•Making JD or Martha a race other than Caucasian. My favorite version of JD is Dan’s. Dan isn’t Caucasian. Yes I love Slater and Ryan. But image wise and art wise I love it when people base their JD around Dan. Also making them another race wouldn’t hurt their characters at all.

•Making Martha Bi or Pan. Martha’s crush is apart of the story and how she gets mocked so she still has to be into guys. But that doesn’t mean she couldn’t be Bi or Pan.

•Making JD along the Ace/Aro spectrum. I personally headcanon JD as Demisexual Hetroromantic. JD doesn’t seem like the type of character to honestly be that all into sex. Yes he had sex with Veronica. But I wouldn’t see it as interfering with the point of his character if he only had an interest in people after having a connection. I don’t think JD would just sleep with any girl. That he would have to have a general interest and connection with them. And yes typically Demisexual people (in my experience) need a longer time frame. But part of Heathers… well insane story is that it happens so fast.

•Making Veronica Bi. it wouldn’t mess with her character purpose and could give them that diverse cast they are looking for.

•Not making Martha skinny.

Now I wouldn’t want them to make all three of them minorities. As I feel likeIt might give the baiting feel it has with the Heathers. But if they did like 1 Heather & 2 of the others. Or 2 Heathers and 1 of the others. And making it seem like only minorities are mocked and non-minorities can’t be mocked doesn’t sit right with me. And I feel that’s how it would come off is all the bully’s werent minorities while the bullied kids were. As I know it isn’t true and I’ve watched people who fall into minorities categories make fun of people who don’t.

Idk three just feels like a good number.

And by 1 or two of the Heathers I mean their race. As I don’t think them not being Caucasian in a modern heathers would be much of a problem. In all productions of the musical I have seen at least one of the Heathers. (Usually Duke) isn’t caucasian. So having one of the Heathers a different race wouldn’t be an issue.

Oh and here is an idea. They go to a freaking school. You have cast characters you could use to get that diverse character cast you are looking for without messing with a character’s role. You want an LGBT character, I’ve said this before, but try having a girl have a thing for one of the Heathers. Like they did in the musical. Show her confessing to one of the Heathers. Then show how they treat her. Show them making fun of her or treating her poorly. Show me these asshole Heathers that are suppose to be an example of what is wrong with society. Show me Bi Veronica and them learning she is and Chandler pushing her to hide that side of her. That would be in character.

Show them making fun of a trans kid and that being part of that fuels JD to kill them. Because that would fit.

Show the negative consequences of what the Heathers do. Show how it effects people. When the show ends show Veronica trying to make things better. Show her approaching some of those kids and working with them.

Also for a racially diverse cast try having kids who aren’t just Chinese, Japanese or black. Try having Cuban characters or Native American or Polynesian or Puerto Rican, Indian, etc. Branch out to other races. Because while black and Asian may be two of the other top races after white in America, they aren’t the only ones.

I’m doing this on mobile. So sorry if it is long or runs together weird. I’m not always the best at wording this. @power-of-innocence tends to do a better job than me.

Edit: I would like to add that the reason the LGBT kids of my HS would never be popular wasn’t like due to my high school being really homophobic. (One of the most beloved seniors when I was a sophomore was an open lesbian.) But mostly due to the sheer size of my school. We had between 3,000 and 4,000 students each year. And 6 different lunch periods. (Technical 3 but for the 9th and 10th graders it was 6) It was impossible to fit the whole school in the cafeteria or gym. We didn’t really have popular kids. The closest you would get to it is kids whose names were well known. Like people really active with school related stuff. Like being apart of the student council or on the Cheerleading squad. (I actually knew many of those girls and they were all really nice.) Also having known those kids they weren’t the type of kids to ever be popular due to their personalities. They a lot where into unpopular subjects and/or also feel into the emo/goth categories. So a lot of them wouldn’t have been popular due to that. But even then the popular kids at my school weren’t mean. Most of them where popular because they where really nice and a lot of people just naturally liked them. Sorry just wanted to add that.Edit: At the time I made this every time I heard Martha mentioned people were saying that they were making her skinny, this maybe incorrect but I’m still not 100% sure. It’s still a horrible show regardless though. Just wanted to correct that.

#peathers #paramount heathers #heathers2018 #notmyheathers #sorry if any of this comes off weird #my brain process things really fast #so getting them down can be hard #because it's like ok brain slow down I can't type this fast #and my brain is just like nope!

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I might be aro/ace, but....

I like my not straight friends way better than my straight friends. So many straight people in the area are super judgemental of the LGBTQ+ community, and like I knew a guy for 4 years who I thought was cool but turned out to be a transphobic dick???? And I'm not trans, and I didn't even know any trans people that day when I first heard him say he wasn't going to use he/him pronouns for someone because "she's a woman" and it just killed me inside. I didn't know about trans people until two years ago, but I support them with all of my heart, and I think I just trust straight people less because of this experience. Which is kinda shitty. I hoped for most of a year that that transphobic comment was him trying to hide something; what a fool. I tried to talk to him about it and he decided he didn't want to; I pushed to have the conversation and instead of telling me what I actually fucking wanted to know, because I thought he was my friend, he just made me feel like shit. He said to come back to him when I became a good human being; I think if either of us is shit, it's him. It took me a bit to realize this because my emotions were freaking the fuck out. I had basically just lost what I considered my oldest friend; I think he's really a manipulative bastard. I was willing to still do stuff with him even if it was true, and now I'm glad he made me feel like shit because it revealed to me the scum he is. And he asked what I consider myself, and when I said "Well, I'm aro/ace so I am part of the community" he tried to go and say that that wasn't "necessarily true." I guess he was trying to disclude me from the community because we had been friends once. Thanks a lot, dick, for giving me the trust issues you apparently always had, even when we were just a couple of nerdy kids who loved playing heroes of the storm together. But then there's my gay friends. None of them have ever hurt me like that. I enjoy their company, they enjoy mine. I know they trust me more than he did, because they wouldn't have come out to me if they didn't. One of them likes to call me yoda because I say accidentally wise things. He also called me the hulk once when I got mad about injustice and starting waving my fists in the air. I love that. I'm not afraid to reach out and pat his shoulder if someone says something homophobic near us; I'm proud of our friendship. We make each other laugh, and I think he's one of the closest friends I've ever had. And my cool gothy lesbian friend was one of the first people I came out to irl. I didn't know for certain she was a lesbian then, and I generally try to avoid assuming people's sexuality? But she's always been great. I made a post on here about a dream I had; I dreamed about coming out for the entire world to see. She was the first person I told about that. The morning after that dream, I felt so amazing; I felt like I had to talk to someone about it, and the moment I walked into school I saw her. I had to remind her what aro/ace meant, since she had only heard about it from me before, which is understandable. We aren't the most common. I wish there were more of us wandering this earth. But I've never even had an unpleasant conversation with any of my gay friends. Occasionally awkward; but not unpleasant. They are wonderful, and no one will ever convince me otherwise.

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