My state has good news for women for a change!
A Connecticut Democrat successfully changed the wording of new legislation to add the phrase 'expectant mothers', after branding the original suggested language - 'pregnant persons' - an affront to women.
State Rep. Robyn Porter, a Democrat representing New Haven, proposed an amendment to House Bill 5454 to incorporate the term 'expectant mothers' during discussions on a bill regarding state funding on Thursday.
'My children call me mother, ma, mommy. It depends on the day,' Porter said Thursday. 'I don't answer to pregnant person or birthing person. That's not what I answer to.
A huge part of my identity is wrapped around being a mother and a grandmother. So I find it an affront that someone would try to tell me that what they're putting on paper for the purpose of policy covers me when I'm telling you that it doesn't,' she continued.
The bill was originally launched by the Human Services Committee before reaching appropriations to incorporate the phrase 'expectant mothers' to lines five and six.
The original lines of the bill read '… shall create a strategic plan to maximize federal and state resources for mental health services for children six years old and younger, their caregivers and pregnant persons.'
Lawmakers voted 32-16 to adopt the term 'mothers' following a 35-minute debate.
The unexpected decision was achieved through a coalition of Republicans and members of the legislature's black and Puerto Rican Caucus - with all 16 opposing votes coming from Democrats.
Porter stated, 'We want to talk about discrimination? Well, I'm here to tell you that black people in America know that very well.
'This is where I really get frustrated in this building because what we say is dismissed, disregarded, disrespected. … I'm always asked to compromise when I come to the table, and I'm expected to do so.
She added, 'We were mothers first. Yes, times are changing, and I'm fine with that because that's life... But you don't get to grow, and you don't get to talk about diversity, equity, and inclusion and exclude me and the other women like me who identify as mothers. You don't get to do that.'
She said some women 'want to be called mothers. What's wrong with that?'
The primary advocate for the original language of 'pregnant persons' in the bill was Rep. Jillian Gilchrest, a Democrat from West Hartford.
'Pregnant person is actually the inclusive term,' Gilchrest said. 'It is a gender neutral term, and it would encompass expectant mothers, pregnant women.
'As we talk about DEI, this is the direction we are hoping to move in in this state and ideally across the country.
'And so the term pregnant persons is the more inclusive term, and so I would ask my colleagues to oppose the amendment.'
Many legislators representing the state's major urban cities rallied in support of Porter's amendment.
State Rep. Geraldo Reyes, a Democrat from Waterbury and a prominent figure in the black and Puerto Rican Caucus, emphasized the cultural significance of motherhood.
'Culturally, as a Puerto Rican person, there is nothing more sacred than a mother... There is only one mother … Just as I opposed the word Latinx, I oppose the word expecting person,' he said.
Similarly, Rep. Minnie Gonzalez, a Democrat from Hartford backed Porter's amendment and emphasized his support for the LGBT community.
'It's nothing against the LGBT community. It's nothing about them,' he said. 'Nothing against them. We support them … We recognize that they have rights, but where are my rights? I have the right to defend my rights.'
Rep. Anthony Nolan, a New London Democrat was emphasized then importance of the word 'mother' in black communities.
'I'm just astonished by some of the things that are being said,' he said. 'In black culture, who really are ingrained with that word mother, for us to go home and call our mother something other than a mother, we would end up with a slap across the face.
'We're not removing anything. We're just asking to add something that is dear to those that are speaking in regards to it, especially in the black culture.'
Last year, the CDC was slammed for 'appalling' new health guidance in which it replaced the word 'women' with the gender-neutral term 'pregnant people.'
The erasure of the term women can be seen in recommendations for a host of respiratory virus vaccinations for pregnant women.
This includes material promoting shots for Covid, flu and RSV - a common respiratory condition that most affects older adults and young children.
Although usually mild, all three viruses can be deadly in pregnant women.
All gender-specific terms — including 'she,' 'her,' 'women' and 'mother' — were replaced with gender-neutral terms like 'pregnant people' and 'pregnant person.'
A doctors' organization said the CDC was 'cowering to political forces' at the expense of sound medical advice at the time.
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Film Relatability vs Inspiration
Relatability Is The Bigger Impact Here
The film Door to Door (2002) ends with a newspaper writing a piece on Bill Porter being a positive part of people’s lives and an inspiration.
Of course, Bill was against being highlighted. The context of why someone is inspirational matters to the disability community because it is not a given right to anyone.
Bill Porter’s story is not inspirational but relatable.
It’s relatable because he gets in his own way and advocates for himself. He knows how his disability impacts how people treat him. He does everything to prove he’s independent.
Partners, Parents And Disability
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The film also portrays his mother with Altimeters. That mental decline allows the film to show Bill as capable and independent. Taking care of his aging mother like any other adult would.
Another realistic element to the film is its hints at a client of Bill’s being romantically interested in him and Bill not recognizing the signs.
In their first meeting, she offers him spiked orange juice. She sees him as a romantic interest, which is often not addressed in the media, contributing to stereotypes of being asexual or simply undesirable partners.
The Upside (2019) also based on a true story addresses the same assumptions.
This salesman’s romantic storyline has a much smaller part in the film but subverts a stereotype unlike The Upside. Bill not reading the signs feels accurate from my own experience.
Assumptions
Given he has internalized ableism, he may assume the woman can’t be interested in him because of that stereotype of not being desirable.
He might think he has to prove he can have romantic feelings first. He hints at those feelings to Shelly, but she does not share them.
She does view him as part of the family. She cares for him not just as a job but as a friend.
Dating can be difficult under the pressure of disability-related assumptions. It is possible to have romantic relationships without these assumptions.
Some are more open-minded than others. Internalized ableism assumes those assumptions always apply and have to be disproven.
Internalized ableism affects everyday life, increasing struggles with universal human experiences.
In the case of Bill’s mother, his independence and empathy took care of her.
He was flawed in the case of his job and friends in his personal life.
However, internalized ableism stems from societal expectations and the need people in the disability community have to advocate for themselves. for basic inclusion
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