is it weird/cultural appropriation for an ethnic trans person of colour to pick a white sounding name? we've established that western queers shouldn't name themselves ethnic names if they don't have roots in that culture but what about the other way around?

i don't mean like from a still existing, unique culture that has mostly white people like irish or scandinavian. i mean like generic white people sounding names.

i am genuinely just asking as a queer pakistani/punjabi teenager who wants to change his name to prospero.

i don't think it is offensive because it's an ancient roman name and there's not really any ancient romans left to get offended. but i know there is a lot of discourse regarding trans people picking out names from different cultures.

just wanted to hear people's thoughts on the matter. and also if you have any thoughts on the name itself, feel free to share because all my pakistani friends fucking hate it

most of the people saying "lesbians kiss/fuck/date trans men all the time!!!" think that said lesbians are just playing 4D chess with their sexuality but in reality they're probably just transphobic and don't actually see trans men as men. Sorry.

People really think when you talk about lesbians being men or having relationships with men means you want them personally to go sleep with every man and not that you want every lesbian to have their own autonomy to decide what lesbianism means to them personally.

Like literally, the people who make large ass call out posts or posts that whine that there are people who are mspec lesbians or lesbian men or just that some lesbians have sex with men always make it so personal no matter if they are a lesbian or not. They seem to not be able to remove themselves from someone else's lesbianism and autonomy.

No one (seriously, no one besides actual lesbophobes) are claiming that you, a lesbian, has to have any relation to men. You do not have to date or have sex with lesbian men (or mspec lesbians), and guess what! We don't want to do those things with you either. No one is saying that because a small percentage of lesbians might have sex with men and/or be attracted to men, you as a lesbian have to. I don't know why you decided that you have to live in a world with communal absolutes. Not all lesbians are you, and you are not all lesbians (like really do you like the same women as every other lesbian? No, because you aren't other lesbians). Let lesbians have autonomy. Let lesbians live. Let queer people be!

Tldr: you don't have to do what other lesbians do. Just because a lesbian has any kind of relationship with men doesn't mean you have to. Other lesbians existing do not negate your lesbianism.

damn, I know shinigami eyes is pretty fucky but at least you can mark stuff personally

I'm not gonna trust an 'improved" version of it if it can be so easily co-opted by transmisogynists deluded by conspiracy theories and handled by one (1) person that's on their side, might as well make a competing extension at that point

ik i talk abt high control groups kinda often but i do encourage anyone involved in discourse in any capacity to watch folding ideas' "this is financial advice" video, because a lot of what he says about the gamestop apes being a self-organizing high control group imo also explains the more toxic discourse tendencies, and i feel like most discussion around high-control groups on here focuses on the tradtional kind that has one or a few distinct leaders which makes it harder to draw parallels between the signs. so i think its important to point out that these kinds of groups can still create that same energy as a unit even if there isn't one specific person calling the shots

I’m tired of seeing radfems/terfs in my notes!! YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE!!!!!

i will never understand the argument of ‘but it’s so hard to use different pronouns, these ones just come naturally/i’ve used them for so long for you/i don’t get it’.

i use ‘bestie’ daily, one of my friends doesn’t like it so i never call sun bestie.

i regularly use slurs because i reclaim them, it makes me comfortable and brings me joy. several of my friends aren’t comfortable being called a faggot or a tranny, several of them are. so i remember who’s on which side and i don’t call them slurs even if it’s natural to me. because they don’t like it.

i use ‘girl’ ‘girlie’ ‘dude’ constantly to refer to people, some of my trans friends don’t like them because it causes dysphoria so i don’t use it, i use what they’re comfortable with.

i use various terms of endearment all the time with my friends, some of them are uncomfortable with being called babe, baby etc. so i don’t use it.

using people’s names doesn’t come naturally to me, it always feels weird in my mouth to call people by name. but some people don’t use pronouns, some people just prefer hearing their name, so i make that effort at my own discomfort and i use their name in place of whatever i use normally.

some of my trans friends change their pronouns when the old ones don’t work, i make the change instantly and tell them to correct me as soon as i use the wrong ones and i listen and i do it right. it’s not that hard.

maybe it’s different for me because i’m surrounded by people under the trans umbrella. maybe it’s different for me because i have 18 names and 14 sets of pronouns, so remembering one change or remembering someone uses he/she/they with that preference isn’t that hard. but even if that’s true, it doesn’t make it any less true that when someone changes their pronouns or their name or finds new ones to add to their list it’s not that hard to remember the change and to do it. idk man. i just hate hearing that argument.

Why is there such an unnecessary legal process that comes with changing your own damn name? And the cost???

It's literally your name, you should be allowed to change it as often as your clothes.

imagine being so self centered that you tell a trans person who doesn't engage in discourse that they're actively oppressing themself by not engaging in online discourse.

What an absolute braindead fucking take.

i find it so annoying the idea that like to make good queer representation the characters gotta be like a good person and shit yknow? like what if i just wanna make a trans guy whos a fucked up freak who likes killing for sport and loves to eat shards of glass or like a trans woman who does fucked up unethical science experiments on other people for her own personal gain?

how do i remove the poll

dni : ppl who have 'transandrophobia thruthers dni' in their dni's

i know that last post is abt americanization so i didnt wanna ramble in the tags since tags are more visible now and it doesnt feel the same as talking to myself but i was thinking abt how sasha is a gender neutral name but not to the people i would meet. the name i originally picked is gender neutral in that half the world thinks its masculine and the other half thinks its feminine. guess which half i live in. it doesnt matter bc its wrong either way.

people make fun of enbies w object names a lot but likw. if you just browse gender neutral names lists its really easy to see WHY people gravitate towards object names. there is no gendered correlation for "socks". the average person would assume it's a funny nickname, but they won't ask me if it's short for "ariana".

Whoever keeps sending me asks about the anon post I deleted, it’s over.

are we really back to "oh you support (blank)? name ten people who (do/are) that right now or else youre lying for allyship points and everything you have to say should be disregarded". i thought we left that back in like. 2012 misogynist nerdbro culture

Why police other people's identities and cause infighting when you guys can just plan to murder Ron DeSantis like PRIORITIES PEOPLE

What is up with people in trans communities hating on other trans people who chose their name based off something like a character, like sure sometimes they're joking but honestly that's a dumb thing to joke about cause it's always with an air of superiority, like "you chose your name at 13 and i'm better because I didn't" is the general consensus i guess. Idk I saw someone make a joke like this, and instead of it seeming playful like most other videos on the topic it seemed much more harsh